So I grew up in church. I've been a Christian since I was like 7, I went to Bible college for 3 years, so I've heard a lot of teachings about the bible over my short life. I certainly am no where close to knowing everything but I've certainly learned a few things. I'm starting a series where I talk about topics in the bible that I think are widely misunderstood or misinterpreted by either christians or non christians.

Let's start with a fun one.

So growing up in the church I heard all the time that God hates divorce and that you should never get divorced….. Except if someone has an extra marital affair.

Also, by no means at all am I trying to judge or condemn you if you're divorced. I come from a divorced household and I've experienced firsthand how painful it is and I don't wish it on anyone and I would not be so cruel as to throw that in your face. That being said, my heart here is simply to shine some light on how the bible talks about divorce.

Seems right. I think anyone who has gone through a divorce would tell you, they don't recommend it. But specifically, most of the church, at least that I've seen, only condones divorce in the case of sexual immorality but they really just mean in the case of an affair. And you know, Having an affair is terrible and painful situation. So when I heard this I just accepted this for a long time.and the message just got driven into my head, don't get divorced, unless there's an affair in which case you should get a divorce.

But the older I got, and especially after I got into a serious relationship, the more this didn't make sense to me.

So does that mean all other sin in marriage is meant to be tolerated? What if your spouse abuses you? Your children? Is lazy is arrogant, all that flies but sexual immorality doesn't? Since there are so many things that seemed to be equally terrible why was just this one thing listed? That's not something that would be overlooked. So to me, it seemed like you should either, with gods blessing, be able to get divorced under an entire list of things or over not really anything at all.

So let's get into the scriptures.