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Foreign.
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Welcome to the Them Before Us podcast. I'm your host, Jen Friesen, and today we are joined by a a friend of our organization, Glenn T. Stanton. Glenn is the director of Global Family Formation Studies at Focus on the Family. He debates and lectures extensively on issues of gender, sexuality, marriage and parenting at universities and churches around the world. He's a prolific writer. I think you have over nine books, it says. He is a contributor, senior contributor at the Federalist and is our big connection to folks on the family really supporting us and helping us get the big projects we're doing off the ground. So, Glenn, thanks so much for joining us.
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Good to be with you, Jen. You and I get to hang out every once in a while doing work and stuff like that, but this is the first time in this setting, so.
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I know, yeah, this is super fun. And I already cleared with Glenn that we can have him on more regularly because, you know, you really do even just in hanging out with, you have such great insights and knowledge into these topics. I'm newer to this because I just started this work, you know, five or so years ago. And you've been doing research and writing and considering these topics for a little bit longer than that. So.
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Long time.
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Yeah. Okay, so let's start off with more, kind of a broad overview. But I thought this was really interesting. One of your articles, you, you've written and talked about marriage and family structure for a long time, but you've written that marriage is still important even to younger people or young adults, where a lot of us would probably think, eh, marriage is kind of, it's passe now. Nobody really cares about it anymore. People aren't really getting married. But you say it is still important. Can you start us off there? Why is marriage still important, I guess, generally, but why is it still important to young people?
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Well, that's a great, great question. And I'll start with this. It's. I make a bold statement and it's backed up by data. It's actually becoming more important. Scholars are finding out. But what we have to do is like, go back and understand what marriage is. Marriage is a fundamental human institution. We like to think, oh, marriage is about, you know, the nuclear family of the 50s. But actually, like Aristotle is the one that coined the term the nuclear family. He said, when we think about civilization, we have to think about the most fundamental microcosm that makes up society. And he says, that is man, woman and child. He goes, that's the nucleus of civilization. And marriage is the one that marriage is the relationship that clarifies that relationship. And the first book that I wrote in 1997 was called why Marriage Matters. And it was a collection of research on how marriage improves human well being in every single measure of human well being for men, for women, for children, and society as a whole. And like, I would dare say pick out any measure of human well being. And if you look at that measure of well being by marital status, either children growing up with married parents or young adults being married or living together or just dating, people who are married are consistently going to track better and more consistently with any measure of well being that being physical or mental health, doing well at work, being employed, staying employed. I mean, this was interesting. They even did a study, I remember this a number of years ago. They even did a study of medical students in their rotations. You know, heavy duty level of life, you're studying, you're staying up 24 hours at a time, you know, going on rounds. You've got to know what you've got to know. And they studied medical students on their rounds in their residency. Did married students do better or less well than non married students? You would think non married students, because they have the freedom, they don't have responsibility. But they found that married students did better in that very stressful period of life than anybody else. They didn't freak out, they didn't drop out of school, they weren't doing poorly. And what they also found out was that people who married in the middle of their residency, they tended to become better students. And a lot of that is because you've got another person coming alongside you to have your back, to connect with you, and you also have a greater purpose. You know what? I got to make it through this program because I've got somebody that I want to succeed for. Marriage is a clarifying relationship. I did Another book in 2012 called the Ring Makes all the Difference. And it explains why cohabitation is not a good idea. And one of the biggest reasons why marriage is so beneficial and cohabitation is so harmful is marriage clarifies the relationship, right? Cohabitation is, one scholar said, it's suffused with ambiguity. The guy thinks it's one thing, the woman thinks it's another thing, and the family around them don't know what it is, you know, so that clarifying aspect of marriage is really in the commitment and the clarification is really what makes marriage such a powerful social institution. And really, to be quite honest with you, you cannot have a civilization without marriage. And that's how powerful marriage is.
