TheUPside Podcast
Episode: 7 Truths to Rebuild Your Confidence
Host: Theresa Flood
Date: November 4, 2025
Overview
In this solo episode, Theresa Flood dives deep into the universal issue of shaken confidence—why it happens, how it feels, and, most importantly, how to intentionally rebuild it. Drawing from personal stories, expert principles, and actionable strategies, Theresa outlines “7 Truths” designed to help listeners boost their confidence, reconnect with their self-worth, and move purposefully out of discouragement, one step at a time.
The episode is filled with heartfelt encouragement and practical tips, making it a valuable resource for anyone feeling vulnerable, insecure, or simply in need of a confidence tune-up.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Confidence is Built, Not Born
(00:22–02:30)
- Theresa acknowledges that every person—even the seemingly most confident—experiences shaken confidence at times.
- She normalizes setbacks: “You’re not experiencing the loss of confidence because you’re a failure. You’re experiencing the loss of confidence because you’re a human being.” [Theresa Flood, 02:10]
- Crisis moments (job loss, health scare, parenting struggles, imposter syndrome, etc.) can jolt our self-esteem, but they are a universal part of life.
2. The 7 Truths to Rebuild Your Confidence
(02:50–19:30)
Truth 1: Keep the Promises You Make to Yourself
(03:00)
- Referencing Stephen Covey’s principle of self-integrity:
- Following through on commitments to oneself is foundational to trust and confidence.
- “Most of us do a pretty good job of keeping the promises that we make to other people... Many of us are not keeping the promises that we make to ourselves.” [Theresa Flood, 04:35]
- Small acts of self-discipline, like getting up with your alarm, build self-trust over time.
Truth 2: Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses
(06:05)
- Focus energy on honing your strengths rather than fixating on weaknesses.
- Accept that no one excels at everything, and that’s “A. OK.”
- “Remind yourself of the things that you are great at. Know your strengths, know your weaknesses, and remember you’re not gonna be good at everything.” [Theresa Flood, 07:00]
Truth 3: Don’t Compare Your Insides to Everyone Else’s Outsides
(08:10)
- Social comparison is a major cause of low confidence.
- What’s visible on the outside is often a highlight reel, not the full story.
- “If any of you listening want to be miserable in life, then I would suggest you just compare yourself to everybody else.” [Theresa Flood, 09:02]
Truth 4: Do Hard Things On Purpose
(10:15)
- Growth and confidence come from intentionally pushing outside your comfort zone.
- Choose challenging experiences rather than waiting for life to force them on you.
- She shares a personal story about her daughter overcoming nerves through affirmations: “I can do hard things.”
- “Go do something hard on purpose… and watch your confidence increase.” [Theresa Flood, 12:33]
Truth 5: Courage Often Looks Like Confidence
(13:20)
- Courage is often mistaken for confidence; most “confident” people are simply acting with courage, pushing through their fears.
- “Maybe it doesn’t look like confidence for you. Maybe it looks like courage. Behind the scenes, though, to everybody else it’s going to look like confidence.” [Theresa Flood, 14:18]
- Repetition builds true confidence.
Truth 6: Borrow Someone Else’s Confidence
(15:15)
- Sometimes we lack belief in ourselves; in those moments, lean on the belief of others.
- She credits her parents and her husband, Tommy, as lifelong encouragers. Tommy “thinks I can do anything that I set my mind to.” [Theresa Flood, 16:18]
- Theresa offers her belief to listeners: “If you’re sitting here saying, ‘I don’t know if I have anybody in my life that believes in me,’ you can borrow my confidence right now. I believe in you.” [Theresa Flood, 17:02]
Truth 7: Remember Your Worth is Not Tied to Your Confidence
(17:40)
- Self-worth is based on who you are, not on what you do or how successful you appear.
- For high achievers, it’s easy to attach worth to outcomes; Theresa emphasizes faith and inherent value.
- “Regardless of any of that, you are worth it. You are loved, and you are worthy.” [Theresa Flood, 19:00]
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- “Anything you want to see change in your life will always happen inside to outside.” (00:05)
- “Confidence is built. You were not born confident.” (02:37)
- “You’re going to put your head on the pillow at night and know that you are somebody that you can trust and depend on.” (05:49)
- “If you want to be happy… quit comparing yourself to other people, and quit comparing your insides to everybody else’s outsides.” (09:10)
- “The confidence comes not by being new at something. The confidence comes from the repetition, from the doing it over and over again.” (14:25)
- “Borrow that confidence and move forward.” (17:16)
- “There’s no magic pill. There’s no instant remedy for it. Maybe you need to keep promises that you’re making to yourself… Regardless, I believe in you.” (19:24)
Timestamps for Key Segments
- 00:22–02:30 — Introduction to confidence struggles, normalization
- 03:00–06:00 — Truth 1: Keep your promises to yourself
- 06:05–08:05 — Truth 2: Know your strengths and weaknesses
- 08:10–10:10 — Truth 3: Don’t compare your insides to everyone else’s outsides
- 10:15–13:15 — Truth 4: Do hard things on purpose (includes personal anecdote)
- 13:20–15:10 — Truth 5: Courage as confidence; role of repetition
- 15:15–17:35 — Truth 6: Borrow confidence from others; encouragement to listeners
- 17:40–19:30 — Truth 7: Self-worth and confidence are not the same
Closing Thoughts
Theresa encourages listeners to pick the truth that resonates most, journal about it, and commit to building their confidence step by step. Reminders of support, both from her and from resources offered on her website, reinforce the episode’s empowering tone.
Final Note:
“I believe in you. Let’s go out, win the day, walk in confidence.” [Theresa Flood, 19:24]
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