Trigger Warning: This episode contains references to grief and the loss of a child.

What alcohol was really costing me was my peace, my presence, and a life that felt true and authentic. That's the realization both Michelle and Susan come to with the help of Coaches Hayley and Cole. Michelle just hit 30 days and is only now connecting the dots between what alcohol was really costing her and the fear, impatience, and disconnection she'd written off as just life. Susan is alcohol-free and sitting with a grief so deep she wonders if she deserves to feel better at all. This one is real, raw, and worth every minute.

In Michelle’s session:

Why wine still felt tempting even when she knew it was no longer serving her

The link between drinking, marriage, routine, and end-of-day shutdown

Creating new patterns, from different seats on the couch to different drinks at dinner

Noticing how alcohol affects patience, sleep, stress, and health data

Questioning the fear that changing her drinking could change her marriage

Seeing what alcohol was really costing me in calm, clarity, and connection

Letting go of future-tripping and staying present

And more topics…

In Susan’s session:

Processing grief, guilt, and the heartbreak of losing her son

Why self-compassion feels so hard after loss

Looking back at drinking through a new lens

Exploring whether guilt feels like a way to stay connected

Realizing she was not 100% responsible for everything that happened

Using writing and reflection to hold grief without picking up a drink

And more…

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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