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Like you don't want to have your entire life preoccupied by a man or the desire for man. But I think especially with where we're Currently going, it can feel like, oh, liking a man is embarrassing. And I think it's. It's very interesting and I think very fitting for the topic of discussion that we're literally about to have. It's okay to want a man, sis. You know, men are, they're cute, you know, they can be nice sometimes. And you know, God sees the desires of our hearts. He put it there. But as you mentioned, I think it's important for us to not hyper fixate on the desire to have a man so much that it governs everything that we do. And I think as women that we are definitely not at the end of our journeys, but have worked through so much of our life. We can tell you there's a lot of life. There is a lot of life to be had. You are still, and I don't mean this in a patronizing or condescending way, but there is so much to life right now, especially where you're currently at. This is a prime time to develop relationships with other people as well. Your friends, obviously. This is a sisterhood. So where's your friendships right now? Are you really like putting in the work and you're really investing in those friendships? There are a whole bunch of people that we've known since 1920 and even before that that we were putting in the work at your current age and stage. So think about that as well. What are the other relationships and the other things in your life that you might actually want to put some energy towards as well? Thinking about your family relationships as well. Where are the areas that you can start to start sowing seeds, Start watering the can there as well. I think in terms of not coming across as a bag, like Courtney said, don't be begging, girl. Don't be outside. Don't be outside wearing certain items. Don't be following these social media trends on like, look smack scene or like trying to be that girl because you want a man. Oftentimes we attract people or the right kinds of people for us once we are actually our true and authentic self. So really it should be about you and how you are becoming the best version of yourself for yourself. Right? Like really thinking about, okay, what are some of the goals that I have? What are some of the things that I should be doing with my life right now? What are the things that I can actually, you know, experiment with? Where are some of my interests and passions like actually developing as an individual? And that is a very helpful safeguard against hyper fixating on boys, like actually having a personality, actually being a human. No, because for real. The issue with a lot of people that make finding men and boys their whole personalities, they don't have one outside of that. So in order to safeguard against that, girl, develop your passions, your hobbies, like do things that bring you joy, you know, spend time with people that you care about. And all of these things will help to create a full and fulfilling life such that when you do, you know, the right guy comes along, he will slot into a full and fulfilling life. It won't be something that you need, but very much something that is a great addition to a very, very full and lived out life. So really try and focus on some of those different things. You're still very young, so it's, it's a great time to explore. Girl. Hey, travel, Omar, start thinking about, you will never get these years back. And it's so, so important that you live. Don't be out, don't be outside and doing all sorts of jellies. But if you do, hey, you know, you can come back from it, but really explore, experiment. This is the time for you to really, like, think about the kind of person that you want to be in the next five, 10 years and take the risks now. And I think in terms of like not begging but also putting yourself out there, I think sometimes we can also fall into the trap of I'm just going to be indoors until Mr. Right comes along. You don't want to be waiting. You don't want to put your life on hold because you are waiting. Or that in of itself is still a form of pick me ism. You're just trying to be waiting inside for somebody to come and pick you up and then you know, you're ready for marriage and all that kind of stuff. Go outside, go. And again, pursue your interests, pursue your hobbies, do things that bring you joy. And the right one was slotting. So yeah, that's what I would say, sis. But I would love to hear what some of the sisters of the sisterhood would have to say, sisters of all ages as well, because I think it can be very easy for us to obviously share from our perspective. I would love to hear sisters that are younger. What is your experience of, you know, trying not to be boy crazy or boy centered? What's happening in dating streets right now? Sisters that are our age, sisters that are older. We love to hear your thoughts on how do we live a fulfilling and exciting life that is not beggy for the Bandem, but still full and fulfilling. And if you've got some tips for our good sis, please Drop it like it's hot in the comment section below. You can comment on Spotify, you can comment on YouTube, wherever makes you feel comfortable. But let's help a sister out together as a community.
