Lauren Grodstein, A DOG IN GEORGIA

Summary

Totally Booked with Zibby Owens

Guest: Lauren Grodstein
Episode: A DOG IN GEORGIA
Date: August 25, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this engaging episode of "Totally Booked," Zibby Owens sits down with acclaimed novelist Lauren Grodstein to discuss her latest novel, A Dog in Georgia. The conversation delves deep into the book’s unique blend of midlife reinvention, humor, geopolitical insight, and a love of animals—specifically, an American woman's impulsive journey to the country of Georgia to help rescue a missing dog. Beyond the plot, the episode explores themes of freedom, meaning, privilege, and the impact of global events on the personal. Zibby and Lauren’s lively, candid exchange offers behind-the-scenes glimpses of the writing process, the emotional realities of midlife, and the surprising ways animals can clarify our purpose.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. What A Dog in Georgia Is Really About

• Dual Narrative:

  • Part adventure (“middle-aged mom goes on a quest to save a dog in Georgia”)
  • Part introspection (“an American woman learns about her place in the world and the nature of freedom”)

• Lauren shares that the protagonist, Amy, channels her own habits, like doom-scrolling animal rescue videos to manage stress (“I just, like, really feel more at peace when I’m looking at animals and not, say, the New York Times” [05:07]).

• Lauren’s own experiences with animal rescue and volunteering directly influenced the story.

• Georgia as a Setting:

  • The country’s fraught history with Russia is woven into the narrative, drawing parallels between the fragility of freedom abroad and complacency at home in America.
  • Amy, unfamiliar with Georgia’s “partially-occupied” status and the daily risks locals face, finds herself transformed by the experience (“...when you lose the ability to make your own choices, you really lose your future. You lose your children’s future.” [07:00]).

2. Humor, Midlife, and the Messiness of Reinvention

• Zibby highlights the novel’s funny, sharp depiction of midlife angst, reading a witty scene about marriage, friendship, and self-worth (“Her body was a secret she liked to keep from herself...” [12:06]).

• Cursing in fiction and backlash from readers (and family!)—they joke about parental critiques of swearing in books ([13:47]).

• Midlife as Motif:

  • Both Lauren and Zibby reflect on the “stretch of time” after parenting and before grandparenting (“What happens between the kid’s schedule and, like, maybe the grandkids schedule? If I’m lucky” [19:34]).

3. Privilege, Meaning, and the Anxiety of Modern Life

• Lauren’s son inspires a thought experiment: “Do you think it’s better to be you today or Louis XIV in France?” (17:10)
• Despite unprecedented comfort and longevity in modern life, many today feel paralyzed by the existential question, “How do we make meaning?” (18:51)
• The clarity of helping animals: Lauren contrasts the tangible satisfaction of rescuing an animal (“the A to B of helping an animal is so clear”) with the murkier process of helping people ([20:58]).

4. The Writing Life, Literary Recognition, and What’s Next

• Lauren recounts the surreal joy and “sheer luck” of being a Read with Jenna Pick ([23:20]), including the thrill of bringing archival stories to wider audiences and connecting with other acclaimed authors.

• Jenna Bush Hager “really does read the books. She knew my book inside and out. It was very, very moving for me” ([25:33]).

• Upcoming Projects:

  • Lauren hints she’s working on another novel grappling with democratic instability, citizenship, and the responsibilities of Americans—still in early stages (“There’s not even really...a plot” [25:52]).
  • Writing as a way to “work out my anxiety.”

5. Advice for Aspiring Writers ([26:52])

• Read, especially good fiction.
• Keep a job: “It’s very hard to write if you’re worried about keeping the lights on.”
• Write daily: Make it a routine, even if only 20 minutes a day—“Try to cultivate the same icky feeling if you haven’t written as if you haven’t brushed your teeth.”

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• On Summing Up the Book:

  • “You can either say, like, middle-aged mom goes on an adventure to save a dog, or you can say, American woman learns about her place in the world. And...it takes a long time to explain how they could both fit in one book.”
    —Lauren Grodstein [09:28]

• The Paradox of Modern Privilege:

  • “There has never been a better time to be alive for many of us...But when all of that existential stuff is taken away, we're left with our big brains with lots of stuff to think about...What is the meaning we should be making?"
    —Lauren Grodstein [17:28]

• On Animal Rescue:

  • “The A to B of helping an animal is so clear, whereas the A to B to helping another human being is less clear. But, like, if you help an animal, an animal is happy right?”
    —Lauren Grodstein [20:58]

• On Literary Recognition:

  • “She reads the books. She’s like an Energizer bunny. She doesn’t stop. And she reads the books. She knew my book inside and out. It was very, very moving for me.”
    —Lauren Grodstein [25:33]

• Advice for Writers:

  • “Get a job, read, and write. Those are, I guess, my three pieces of advice.”
    —Lauren Grodstein [28:45]

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Notable Segments & Timestamps

• Lauren on the Book’s Dual Meaning: [04:52]
• Animal Rescue and Personal Motivation: [05:45]
• Georgia’s Political Reality & Parallels to the U.S.: [06:35–09:00]
• Humor, Marriage, and Midlife in Fiction (Read-Aloud): [12:06]
• Making Meaning in Modern Life: [17:10–20:00]
• Lauren’s Research & Travel in Georgia: [21:42]
• Read with Jenna Experience: [23:20–25:36]
• Advice to Aspiring Writers: [26:52]

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Tone and Flow

The episode is warm, witty, thoughtful, and conversational. Lauren’s dry humor and candid self-reflection mix with Zibby’s enthusiasm and curiosity, resulting in a discussion that is as entertaining as it is thought-provoking. The conversation ranges easily from the personal to the political, and from practical craft wisdom to existential musings, all grounded by the relatability of messy, midlife reality.

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Summary

If you’re curious about how a funny, moving novel can intertwine the search for a lost dog, the struggle for democracy, and the search for personal meaning—all with sharp wit and emotional honesty—this episode is for you. Lauren Grodstein’s A Dog in Georgia is both a page-turner and a mirror for our collective anxieties, and this conversation with Zibby Owens brings its rich themes to life for readers and writers alike.

Transcript

[Zibby Owens]

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[Lauren Grodstein]

Thank you.

[Zibby Owens]

So we were just chit chatting about your coming for the Summer Reads party, and when we did that, everybody went around and talked about what their book was about and I was surprised to hear your description in that context versus reading the book. So tell me how you pitch it versus what it is, because maybe I missed the underlying big message, the metaphor of what the book was, and took it at face value. I don't know. You tell me.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, I mean, so the book is really two things at once. It's about a woman who, you know, is approximately my age and approximately my place. Her kids are a little older than mine but like, you know, spent her life doing a lot of different things and her husband's much crappier than mine. Let let that be known. But after, you know, yet Another infidelity and yet another kind of just. Just grueling disappointment. She escapes into what she's been escaping to forever, which are animal videos, which is what I do. Like. Like, I scroll through all of those, you know, like. Like, rescue cow finds best friend in Kurd of goats or something, and I just. I find my blood pressure goes down, and I just, like, really feel more at peace when I'm looking at animals and not, say, the New York Times. I mean, I've also always been a big animal lover, and I volunteer at our local shelter, and I live with a lot of animals.

[Zibby Owens]

So wait, how many animals do you live with? How many are you dog?

[Lauren Grodstein]

I have. Oh, this is my dogs that are made this picture. These are my two dogs, and I have a rescue cat. All three are other people were originally. We ended up adopting all of them from either neighbors who couldn't keep them or shelters. So I love animals. And so part of this story was just a woman who decides, spur of the moment, to go somewhere, a place she's never been before, to do something that, to her is radical, which is help a community find a beloved lost dog. And the fact that this community happens to be in the country of Georgia, a place she's barely ever heard of, is sort of secondary to the fact that she's been watching them on YouTube and she knows that she can help them, and so she just sort of spontaneously books a flight and goes. And that's one part of the story. But the other part of the story is what she finds when she gets to Georgia, which is a country that is. It's very small, it's very beautiful, it's very close to Russia, and it has been very, very dominated by Russia for as long as Russia's been around. Georgia's older than Russia, but, you know, it's been invaded and taken over and absorbed. And right now, in Georgia, two parts of the country have been totally occupied since 2008. So let's say you want to visit your grandfather in South Ossetia. You have to leave your part of Georgia, go into Russia, get a visa, and go visit your grandfather. In 2008, Soviet troops surrounded the capital for six days. They could have run the whole place over much more easily than they've run Ukraine over. But this is something that our heroine knows nothing about. She just thinks she's there to find a dog and be a heroine and do something adventurous and go back to her life. But what she finds instead is a. Is a family of people who are really torn up because they know their country is leaning towards Russia, and all they want is freedom. And they understand, because they've been there before, that when you lose freedom, when you lose not just democracy, but. But when you lose the ability to make your own choices, you really lose your future. You lose your children's future. You lose an ability to live the life that, like, you deserve as a human being, which is to make choices and to make mistakes and to stay free right out of jail and able to voice your own opinions. And so when she's in Georgia, this, by the way, is a terrible elevator pitch. It's going on way too long.

[Zibby Owens]

No, I love it. You can just talk the whole time. I'm gonna just relax and hang out in this, my favorite podcast.

[Lauren Grodstein]

When she's in Georgia, you know, she starts to understand, not just like, her. Her marriage and her place in the world, but also, like, brought more broadly, like, who she is as an American, what the world expects of Americans, what she can possibly offer these people, besides the drone that she thought would help find the dog and that gets confiscated immediately, and what she can learn. And the book is taking place in spring of 2023. So I know this is not a political podcast. I'm sure you have guests that represent a wide spectrum. But to me, that the Trump presidency, especially the second one, is a real tragedy and also a warning sign for where we could be. But in 2023, it was sort of a joke, kind of like everyone thought Trump was a little sad. He had this low energy, I'm going to be president again thing. And I was like, no, you're not. And our heroine, Amy, didn't take it particularly seriously. But then when she's in Georgia and she sees what the risks of autocracy really are and how people are willing to put their lives on the line to stop it, she starts to think about why she never has, why she wouldn't, how comfortable her life has always been, and how she assumes it always will be. So the book is really more than I think. Anything I've ever written is about me and my own kind of, you know, obsessions and interests and worries. And there's a lot of food in it because I like to eat a lot. And there's a little bit of sex in it, which is the first time I've done that. Dad can't read it. That's too. And, yeah, I mean, that's what the book is about. And I think the reason that there are two different pitches is because I just spoke for, like, three minutes about it. And really, you can either say, like, you know, middle aged mom goes on an adventure to save a dog, or you can say, american woman learns about her place in the world. And those two ideas, you know what I mean? It takes a long time to explain how they could both fit in one book.

[Zibby Owens]

Totally.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah.

[Zibby Owens]

By the way, I need to have you. I should have done a joint podcast with you and Nina Stibby. Do you know her? She wrote Went to London, took the Dog about her journey with her dog to London in middle age after, like, debating whether or not to leave her husband. Except it's like the British version.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I have to read this book.

[Zibby Owens]

You have to, like, swap books. Anyway, I should have. I'll connect you separately, but anyway. But I love this. This notion of, like, first of where our dogs take us. Right. And the conversations that they get us into and our love for them and love for what we're passionate about in general. Right. Like, I love when you're not you. When the character is, like, scrolling and the. The fundraising person calls and she's like. She's like, oh, you've already given $300. And you're like, oh, did I already give? I just keep giving. I just, like, I have to keep giving and doing this, which is so funny. And then she literally just goes to this woman's house, books a ticket. I mean, it's so outrageous, and yet it's almost like, where are the place that we are all driven to for various reasons and for independent reasons for everybody is so out there. This is just the expression of that.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Totally, totally. It's funny, originally that line, she'd already given $1,500 because it was like, calm down. Like, 1500 is way too much. I was like, is it? Oh, which is not. I do not want to suggest that I just have fifteen hundred dollars randomly sitting around to give away to animal rescues. But I have been known to perhaps overdo it if my heartstrings are pulled on by, like, the right, you know, video. Like, I just. I can't help it. You know, I see an animal suffering, and even if it's, you know, a thousand miles away, I just suddenly start opening my Google wallet.

[Zibby Owens]

Oh, my gosh. Well, next time I'll start forwarding those videos to you when I see them. Can I read, like, this really funny page in the book? Do you mind?

[Lauren Grodstein]

Sure. Oh, my gosh. I love it.

[Zibby Owens]

Your sense of humor is, like, so awesome. And it doesn't even really matter what you're writing about. Like, you're just so Funny. With this, like, dry wit type of thing. Okay, so this is sort of just a scene of midlife ness, if you will. And now what to say about who she was now, how she felt now. The crazy mood swings, the faltering marriage, the trip to Georgia, which was insane and she was almost certainly perimenopausal, which was something she would never talk about or even think about. Her body was a secret she liked to keep from herself. Did you ever cheat on Judd? Never, amy said. I didn't think so, lynn said. Would you ever? I doubt it. It's hard to imagine a man who would make me want to, even after all these years. She finished the dregs of her martini. Isn't that crazy? The problem is, Amy, if I may? Lynn said, you may not. The problem is that you still think Judd is some kind of star. Judd is the husband. You're still a star. I'm not going to curse. You're still a star, Effer. Lynn, cut it out. You still feel like you owe him something for marrying you, when frankly, it's the other way around. He owes you. You've stood by him all these years, despite all his missteps. Amy lifted her finger for another martini. That's not exactly how it's been. You don't owe him anything. I'm telling you. Men who are married live an average of eight years longer than unmarried men. They owe their wives everything. They owe us their lives. I'm not a star.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Ever.

[Zibby Owens]

Do you make his doctor's appointments? His dentist appointments? Did he raise his son? Still raising him. I mean, I know you love that kid, but you took on an awful lot of work for somebody else's. Someone else's baby. Come on, amy said, feeling her neck prickle. Don't say that. Lynn was a mean drunk, which Amy often forgot until it was too late, but she took it down a notch. All I'm saying is, you should make that bitch pay. So fun.

[Lauren Grodstein]

This is also the first book I have. This is like a cursy book.

[Zibby Owens]

It is.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I don't know about you, Ziddy, but, like, you know, like, do you find, like, after your first book when, like, did you get, like, mean reviews on Goodreads from people who do not like cursing at all?

[Zibby Owens]

I get mean reviews from my mom. So I show her the. I show her the draft and she always is like, there's too much cursing. So then I always go back and take a lot of it out.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Zibby Owens]

I don't know. I mean, I could just curse, but I don't know. I feel like I shouldn't somehow.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I feel like a little bit of decorum. Right. Let's pretend like we still live in a world that. Where, like, manners matter. Let's. Yeah.

[Zibby Owens]

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[Lauren Grodstein]

I know, and we're so lucky. Like, in the span of the universe, my son and I. My son, we were walking around, and my son likes to sort of drop philosophical questions, and he was like, do you think it's better to be you today? Or like, Louis xiv, Right. In Louis XIV times in France. And I was like, well, on the one hand, Louis XIV did have a lot of power, and that's good. And a really dope house, and that's also good. But I have antibiotics and toilets that flush and, like, good water pressure and coffee. You know what I mean? Like, there has never been a better time to be alive for many of us. Not for everyone. I understand the incredible privilege of being able to say that. But for many, many, many people, you'd rather be you than the king of France. Right. 16 in the 1600s. Because you have all sorts of things. You will live to be 90. That guy won't. Right. If things work out, and you will do so smelling good and flushing a toilet. And then the question becomes, if all of these existential worries are taken away from us, where is our meal gonna come from? Will our babies survive until they turn five? Will we. You know what I mean? Like, will we be able to keep our houses warm and safe and keep the marauders out? And when all of that existential stuff is taken away, we're left with our big brains with lots of stuff to think about. And one of them is the me is meaning. Right. How do we make meaning? What is the meaning we should be making? How do we make the most of the incredibly precious gift of life that we've been given for however long we've been given it? And I think while those are incredibly powerful questions and questions that we should ask ourselves, they're also just. They're paralyzing, right?

[Zibby Owens]

Yep.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I mean, I think one of the reasons it's hard when your kids leave is that you're suddenly confronted with these questions. What's next? How do I continue to make meaning for so long? I made meaning through raising, in my case, these two little people who I adore and whose happiness makes me happy. But they're go. They're you know, they're shuffling off. And now I'm confronted with myself and the next half.

[Zibby Owens]

Yep.

[Lauren Grodstein]

There's a reason, right, that all this midlife stuff is a trope. There's a reason that people keep writing books about it. It's like this huge question mark that hangs over those of us who are lucky enough to get here. And I don't really know what the answer is. I spent a lot of time on dog websites. I think, for that reason.

[Zibby Owens]

I get it. I feel like the stretch of time feels like once I got out of school, it was all a question mark. Right? Like, summer break and, you know, where's the structure of life? But then you have the kid's structure to rely on. But then that structure also gets ripped apart. And I'm like, what happens between the kid's schedule and, like, maybe the grandkids schedule? If I'm lucky.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I know, I know. We should be so lucky.

[Zibby Owens]

We should be so lucky. I know. If they even want me around. And, you know, yeah.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Oh, yeah. No, I'm gonna bribe like crazy. You're. Because, you know, I've told my kids many times I'm really. I am in this for the grandkids. So, like. But I just. I don't want to waste the luck I've been given, right? Like, I don't want it to have been for nothing. And since I'm not religious in that way, I don't believe in heaven or hell. I believe that my purpose on life will take place during my life. So what do I do to make my time on this earth matter? And I've told myself it's writing books, but now I'm not so sure because I don't know. After seven books, it's easy to discount. How much does it matter anyway? I find that teaching is really helpful and raising another generation of writers is really helpful. I find that just learning more. It's not a way of directly impacting anything, but at least it makes me a little bit smarter about the world I live in. And I think one of the reasons I've retreated into animals is because the A to B of helping an animal is so clear, whereas the A to B to helping another human being is less clear. But, like, if you help an animal, an animal is happy, right? Like, you just. You feed an animal, you rescue an animal, you help get an animal adopted. It's less murky, in a way. And I really respond to just, like, clear incentive. Like, I have done something good. I feel good, and that's very much like my character in this novel.

[Zibby Owens]

Totally. I get it. Well, I feel like the character brings up all the things that we're all thinking of all the time. And it's just. It was just a way for you to showcase all of that.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, that's what it. That's. Honestly, that's. You can't say that as an elevator pitch. Like, well, this is really a book about me working out my stuff, but, like, in a way, it kind of is. Plus, I work at Rutgers, and I was so lucky. They gave me two generous grants to travel.

[Zibby Owens]

Oh, wow.

[Lauren Grodstein]

And so I was able to go to Georgia. So the first time I went, I brought my son and we volunteered with dogs, and it was incredible. And I thought, like, there's probably. There's a novel here, for sure. It was right around when all these protests started. I mean, protests are happening all the time. There are a lot of protests. And then I got another grant later, and when I went back, it was even more so. And I, you know, I mean, I just got to go to this part of the world that's just. It's so beautiful. It's so similar to us, and yet they have so many obvious. They're clear differences, too, and that the ability to just be on the other side of the planet and learn about them was. Was great. So, yeah, people have asked me, like, why Georgia? And I don't have any really excellent response, except that, like, I had their food once and really liked it, and ever since then, I've wanted to go try it in person.

[Zibby Owens]

I can see a friend walking down the street with you and, like, you going into, I don't know, some cuisine, some restaurant being like, no, no, no, you can't travel there. Like, don't even try this food.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly.

[Zibby Owens]

Don't get tempted. You're not allowed to. You're not allowed to taste it. I saw on Instagram that you were, you know, you're a read with Jenna pick for your last book and all of that. What has that been like? And how have all these reunions been and going back on the show and everything? Tell me about that.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I mean, it's such a lucky thing, right? And I can't discount the sheer luck of it. It was incredibly exciting. I found out about it in February and the book came out in November. So that's like nine months, which is human gestation time. So I keep it for nine months. As you can tell, I like to talk. That was not easy, but I did it. And then the book, you know, and Then what was so great about it is that that book was about this. This, I think, under known archival project that took place in the Warsaw ghetto. And for a year and a half, Zibby, I traveled for a year and a half, I was all over the US And Canada talking about this archive. And. And because the archive was this real thing, and people, you know, buried it underground and then often died, having no idea if anyone would ever find out what they did. And then through a weird series of events, I got to this archive and read it and then wrote this book about it. And then Jenna picked it and she gave me this megaphone to not only go on the Today show, but to go all around the country telling people about this archive that people died, not knowing if anyone would ever know about it. It was incredible. That was incredible. And then, you know, she really develops a sort of coterie of writers. I've gotten to meet some writers that I just adore books. I adore who I adore as people. And every so often, she calls us up and is like, hey, we're gonna do something. You wanna do it? Or, hey, you know, we're gonna reunite in Nashville, or, we're gonna do, can you come? And if I can, I do. And I mean, first of all, it's a hoot for me. I will never not think it's wild to be on the Today show and get a call from, like, some great niece, great cousin or something is like, what? That's always fun. But also. And of course, I'm so grateful, right? But, like, as the connecting point to all these really interesting writers, it's been fun. It's been really fun. And it's not a one and done. Like, once you're part of it, you sort of stay part of it. So. Yeah. And to answer the question that so many people have asked me, she reads the books. That girl reads the books. She reads. I don't know how she reads all these books. She reads the books. She's like an Energizer bunny. She doesn't stop and she reads the books. She knew my book inside and out. It was very, very moving for me.

[Zibby Owens]

Oh, that's amazing.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah.

[Zibby Owens]

Well, congrats. I love it. And I love just seeing all of the joy and all of you guys together. And it's very fun to watch. Very fun to watch. Okay, so what is your next project? Do you have one? Finding the Meaning of Life. Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and all of that.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, now that I figured that out, so whenever I find like that the world gets too topsy turvy, I like to hide in my attic office and work. So I've just been sort of. I would love to describe something I can't really. Don't really know, but I've been just sort of working out the potential for a novel, you know, about again, like trying to live a life in a democracy that feels wavering. That's not a word, but like, sort of a little unsteady. And what we owe each other as citizens and what we owe each other as Americans. There's no plot. There's not even really. There are a couple of characters who could change completely. But I have found that a great way for me to work out my anxiety is to write. And so I've been doing a lot of that.

[Zibby Owens]

Amazing. And do you have any advice for aspiring authors?

[Lauren Grodstein]

Always, yeah. Which is three things, you know, which are like the most basic. But I think that they are easy to ignore. So the first one, read, read, read, read, read, read good books, read fiction. I meet young writers all the time and I ask them what they read. Not all the time. And like, either they're not really reading fiction at all, or they're getting a lot of their inspiration from, like, movies and tv. I have nothing against movies and tv, but, like, learn from the people who do it well. Learn from really good writers who've written really good books. So that's thing one. Thing two is if unless you are quite, you know, lucky or something, like, it's good to have a job you have not failed. If you are not living off your writing, have a job. Why? Because as a teacher of mine once said, it is very hard to write if you're worried about keeping the lights on. Have a job. Build writing time into that job. And then one day, if you're lucky to not even need that job anymore, you will still have the habits you learned when you were balancing a job and everything else and making time to write right. Keep the lights on. That'll make it easier to write. And the third is to develop whatever practice works for you, but do it every day. Some very annoying person once told me that if I really wanted to work out more, I would. I'm like, oh, okay. I do feel that way about writing. Like, make it part of your routine. You know, that icky feeling you have if you haven't brushed your teeth. Try to cultivate the same icky feeling if you haven't written. And it doesn't have to be all day, doesn't even have to be an hour. But every day find the 20 minutes in your life where you can write. If you don't do that pretty soon, a long stretch of time could go on and it turns out you're not writing at all anymore. And that's too bad. So like, you know, get a job, read and write. Those are, I guess, my three pieces of advice.

[Zibby Owens]

Amazing. Well, if you solve the question of what we are supposed to do.

[Lauren Grodstein]

Yeah, yeah, I'll let you know. I will give you a call.

[Zibby Owens]

Keep me posted. And I can internalize that as well. And in the meantime, thank you for the sense of humor and exploration and also the transformation, transportation, really to a place I've never been and will never probably go to. So that was also super interesting. Yeah, really enjoyable and thought provoking. So thank you.

[Lauren Grodstein]

I'm so glad. Thank you Zibby for having me on again. Pleasure.

[Zibby Owens]

Okay, thanks Lauren. Okay, thank you for listening to Totally Booked with Zibby formerly Moms don't have Time to Read Books. If you loved the show, tell a friend, leave a review, Follow me on Instagram Iby Owens and Spread the Word. Thanks so much. Oh and buy the books.

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