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248. Juliana Pasquarosa: The Bachelor fan favorite breaks down her career in finance, embracing the 9-to-5, navigating life post reality TV, and turning a family phrase into the Nice Girls Label
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Host
Foreigna Pascarosa. Welcome to Train Seekers. Thanks for coming on.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Thanks for having me.
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Host
How are you? It has been of. Of everyone that we're having on today. It has been an absolute whirlwind for you. A quick sprint into the mayhem of everything. How. How are you doing?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I'm doing good.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Everybody's been so awesome here. It's been so fun. Like, life has just taken on a ride of its own, and I'm just buckled in.
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Host
You're buckled in. You are buckled in. And not only are you buckled in, but the one and only Rachel Kirkconnell's buckled in. She's behind us there. We love it. Another cameo. All right, so talk to me about life before you went on the Bachelor. What did it look like for you, career wise and just all things.
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Juliana Pascarosa
It was actually funny. I had just left my job of five years when I got the initial call for the Bachelor.
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Host
And what was that job?
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Juliana Pascarosa
It was for a broker dealer.
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Host
Okay.
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Juliana Pascarosa
So still in the finance world. And I accepted my new job with the wealth management financial planning firm, and I'm still with them, but it's been. I don't know, I think I do a lot of the same things I did before. So it's just kind of like managing new things like this trip and meeting all these new people and trying to kind of just like, make time for that as well.
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Host
Before we get into that, tell me a little bit about what you do in wealth management.
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Juliana Pascarosa
I work with the financial advisor, who, of course, he does asset management, in a sense, and wealth management, but he also has, like, a network of individuals where he looks at, like, your whole financial picture and kind of, like, incorporates everything.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
So, you know, we work with some really cool people, people who are really invested in, like, their future and just, like, want to know more about, like, their financial life and how things kind of correlate.
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Host
Sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And, yeah, so I'm kind of like, I'm the point of contact for a lot of them. They'll call me to get to him, and I'm, like, in charge of his calendar and his life a little bit, which is cool. And he's awesome. And Winthrop wealth is amazing. So.
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Host
Yeah. How do you. How do you have a job like that and then go on a reality show? Like, what did that. How did you ask them off?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Oh, my gosh. Yeah, it was crazy. I kind of sprung it on them a little bit, and I was just like, listen, like, my sister signed me up. I just got the call. They want me to go. And it was A conversation for a little bit. You know, at first it was, if you go, like, this job's not going to be here for you.
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Host
Sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And then they took some time, and then they came back and they were like, okay, we'll give you, like, X amount of weeks, and if you're not back by then, we're going to fill your role. And then it was like, just go. We'll support you. We'll hold your position, blah, blah, blah. And they were so awesome that they even, like, helped throw a party for the first episode at my favorite restaurant with all my friends and family.
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Host
Wow. Yeah. All right. So they were supportive. They said, go. Did you have any reservations on going on the show?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Totally. Oh, my gosh. I mean, I am, like, a private person, which has been so hard for me to kind of, like, join this new space because I like my people, I like my life. But now I'm kind of opening up doors and possibilities, so I'm trying to navigate that. But I also was single for so long, and I don't know if I want to date somebody that's in the public eye mind. You get engaged in front of everybody if that happens. And it happened. And I said yes. And it's just. It's so crazy. I mean, it's all such a weird situation, I think.
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Host
I mean, just like the show, it's wild. The whole process is wild. It's a learning lesson. It puts your life in a different trajectory, changes things a lot for you. When you're on the show, what was the most surprising? Like, what was the most unexpected things that happened or that you're surprised by?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I think the biggest surprise for me was you think you put a group of 25 girls in a room. I thought there was going to be a lot more drama than there was. I think we all got along really well, and I actually left being like, wow, I have, like, a bunch of new friends, which I did not think was going to be the case.
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Host
Yeah, I think that's, like, one of the best parts about it is, like, the camaraderie with everyone.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
Did you know who the Bachelor was going to be before you went on or no?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
Okay. So you guys knew.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. I watched Jen's season to, like, judge them all, and then Grant was, like, number one on my list, and then they announced him, and me and my sister were like, what is happening? That's my man.
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Host
There is no way it happens. Did you at all think. I feel like in the beginning, it's, like, all fun and games and Then, like, as it starts getting down to, like, the final four, I felt like it gets serious quick and those, like, friendships, like, kind of dissipate a little bit. Did you feel that?
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Juliana Pascarosa
You know, it's so funny because I felt like I was getting some serious feelings, but I was also trying to protect myself and remember that, like, there are other people there.
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Rachel Kirkconnell
Sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And I also wanted to make sure everybody, like, felt comfortable. Cause it's such an uncomfortable situation.
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Host
Yeah. Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
So surprisingly, like, me and Zoe, I thought, at least from my perspective, got kind of closer towards the end. Even though you don't see each other. It's like at the rose ceremonies and stuff, we were hugging. You know, you say bye when they leave. And it was definitely weird. Litzy and I think had a good, like, relationship.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Even just, like, filming. And throughout the whole thing, I felt like. And we actually weirdly got kind of closer towards the end of it. But, yeah, I mean, it's just so uncomfortable. And especially leaving. When you're in my position and you're engaged, you're so focused on, like, fostering that relationship that you kind of, like, don't pay as much attention to your relationships with the other people.
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Host
Right. That makes perfect.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. And so, like, now I'm in this weird position where it's like, I don't. I'm not with Grant. And, like, not that I'm trying to have, like, new relationships with the girls, but I'm trying to just, like, you know, be a little bit more present in them.
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Host
Sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
You know.
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Host
Yeah. I think one of the hardest things, too, is you film, you finish filming, you get engaged, and then there's that period of time that you gotta be, like, undercover in a relationship while going back to work, while, like, living your life. But then you gotta, like, watch it all back. And I can't imagine watching it back. Being engaged to someone, like, watching them date other people. Was that hard on you?
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Juliana Pascarosa
There were times, like, in conversations that I watched when, like, he would say certain things, I would get more upset with him because I'm like, you know, do you understand the weight of what you just said to that person?
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Host
Sure, sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
You know, more as an accountability than being flustered. Because I knew that he was going to be doing that when I was filming. And, you know, I can't be upset with something that I agreed to do, you know, So I reminded myself of that a lot.
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Host
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Juliana Pascarosa
No.
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Host
No, this is the first.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yes.
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Host
Okay, so you put the application. How far, how long after the application did they reach back out to you?
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Juliana Pascarosa
So my sister actually submitted an application for me. She didn't tell me, so I don't, I don't know. I just got a call and they asked me if I consider it. My sister submitted an application and I was like, I don't know, I think so. And I texted Dominique and I was like, did you sign me up for the Bachelor? And she called me freaking out. She's like, you gotta do it. This is crazy. Blah, blah, blah. And I was like, what the heck?
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Host
Unbelievable. I love it. All right, so then fast forward. You get engaged, you get off this show. Do you go back to work right away?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I gave myself a week, okay? I gave myself a week to even just like get reaccustomed, to like leaving my house and going outside and like being in the public and like driving my car and just, I don't know, I was like, so nervous to see people because they had already announced that I was like on the show while I was away. And I grew up in Newton and I live in Newton, so I'm like, everybody knows me. So it was like those conversations, I just needed a minute to be ready for them because I was still trying to figure out what the heck happened in my own head.
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Host
Sure.
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Juliana Pascarosa
You're like, so like, how do I verbalize that?
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
You're just like, what?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. And then I went back to work, I think like a week and a half later.
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Host
Okay. Did you think at all? So you go back to work and all this, you know, the show pops off, your social pops up, all these things. What did you think about the career aspect of this? Like, what was your take on it? Is it an area that you want to continue to explore? Just what was your overall sentiment on, like, social media can be a whole different profession.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. I mean, it is crazy. It's like it happens overnight. People are all of a sudden interested in, like, what you eat, what you do for your workouts, like, where you shop and all that stuff. And, you know, it's a learning curve for me, for sure. I do really love what I do, and I love, like, the people that I work with in the company. So I don't ever really necessarily think that I'll stop doing that. I think it's just a matter of trying to figure out how to, like, add in, like, new opportunities and things like this that align with what I like, how I want to live my life.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. I mean, like, I'm not gonna ever say never because I'm in my yes era, so, like, if things come my way, I'm just gonna, like, say yes and do it. But there's just. Right now, I feel like my 9 to 5 feels like security. It's like the one secure thing I have.
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Host
There's a lot of chaos, a lot of mayhem. But you got the nine to five. Do you, like, if you look at the earnings of social media, if you annualize it, are you making more off social media or in your career?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Oh, they're pretty close. But definitely social media, I think, is, like, the trajectory. Yeah.
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Host
Interesting. And so even when you think about that, you're still like, no, I want the 9 to 5, no matter how fast it grows.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Yeah. I feel like I. I don't know. I like going into my office, kind of like putting my phone down, I think, you know, there's so much positive that comes out of social media, but there's also just so much negativity if you put too much weight in it. And I don't ever want to get lost in that. So I weigh it out, you know?
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Host
Exactly. I mean, there's always noise. There's good, there's bad, there's people that chirp, like, what has been the hardest thing? And, like, so now this is a career for you. And now you go online, and especially now post breakup, there's like, a lot of. There's just a lot more noise.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
How have you handled it at all on the mental aspect?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
And then just even, like, the Fact that, like, this platform is also a professional aspect. So how do you manage the mental side and the professional side of it?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I am still working on that. I think, emotionally, I prepared myself, at least before I even went to film on, like, all the possibilities of, you know, people are gonna love you, hate you no matter what, and they're gonna have opinions on everything. So I was prepared for that. And I really, like, have such a good support system of my family and friends that those are the opinions I've just, like, paid attention to. And they've been so honest with me about, like, oh, yeah, like, you know, maybe that wasn't the best thing to say when I'm watching things back and I'm hard on myself. So I appreciate the honesty because it allows me to, like, kind of tone down the negativity in my own head.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
But I don't know. The outside noise got real loud after the breakup.
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Host
It got loud. But you know what I think is someone who's, like, in this space, business wise, personal side, too. It's like, you didn't step away. I feel like you stepped in. I feel like you. Like, if there's someone chirping your controversy, you'll throw it to. You'll say you're in there. You'll mix it up.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Yeah.
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Host
Don't mess with Juliana. Do you agree with that?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, I think so. Because, you know, I think you just have to hold accountability to certain things. Like, there are certain things I read, and I'm like, all right, whatever, you know? But some things, I'm like, oh, absolutely. You will not be saying that to me, you know, or about me. So there's a line that I draw, and I'll step on anybody that tries to cross it.
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Host
You'll jump. You'll jump in the mix. You'll throw the hands up. You will throw down.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And what's funny about that, too, is people are like, oh, you know, that doesn't go with, like, your nice girl, like, aesthetic, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, there is a clear difference between being nice and also having boundaries and respect for yourself. And, like, I. I think I do both, you know, and you don't have to pick one side. You can be. You can be nice and kind and generous and loving, but you can also stand your ground and have self worth and, you know, shut the haters down when you need to.
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Host
Yeah. Get in the mix. Do your thing and vocalize what you're feeling and how you're feeling. Right.
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Juliana Pascarosa
I'm Italian.
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Host
You're Italian. You're popping in there, you've had breakups in your life, but then you have a public breakup. What has been probably the hardest thing or most eye opening thing about the idea of like actually breaking up in public? Because now also you're still in the nine to five, right? So you got like your, your, your boss sees this. You have the people you work with see if the people that are clients see it. And you also deal with like, you know, this bachelor nation world and then just people that are fans of yours. Like, how, how is that?
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Juliana Pascarosa
My family and friends.
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Host
Your family friends. Like, what was the most probably eye opening thing about it?
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Juliana Pascarosa
It's so odd because I think I was having so much angst about the breakup being announced because I felt oddly like embarrassed on the sense that for my, on my family's end, like, you know, you take marriage very seriously. And I just before even filming, I had this goal, like, I just want to make my family proud of like, who I am when they watch it back. And so that was like really hard for me. And of course they didn't judge me and they didn't find, you know, it embarrassing. But that was what I struggled with the most. I really didn't care what anybody else thought. I was just like, I really hope my family's not upset with me.
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Host
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Juliana Pascarosa
Or, like, with the breakup?
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. I mean, hindsight's the best site. I think we did it good and did a good job in terms of like, just putting it on our story and, like, kind of just like separating at that point between Grant and I, but, you know, it. I think people wanted an explanation.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And I don't necessarily think that we owe anybody anything, but they did dedicate time to, like, watch it and fall in love with, like, us and our love story and all of that. I think it would have been nice to provide some clarity, but I also think that that would have been a really hard conversation for Grant and I to have on how do we verbalize it?
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Host
How do you verbalize it?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
Was it mutual or no? Can you not share that?
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Juliana Pascarosa
It was. You know, I think we. After. After the initial conversation, we had a lot of conversations that it made sense for the both of us.
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Host
Okay, gotcha.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
All right. It made sense for the both of you.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
Last thing I got on that, like, are you guys in an amicable place? Like, where are you and him on that level?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I want to see him succeed, and I will always support him. I think he's a really great, genuine guy, and I can tell he's supporting me from afar.
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Host
I love it. Amicable, respectful, and wishing him the best, which is awesome. Now, when you think about what's best for you in this whole new light, you're already on reality tv, business wise, career wise. Do you think maybe you would go back into reality tv?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I don't know. Yeah, I don't know. I mean, like I said, I'm not saying hard nos to anything, but it would take a lot of convincing, I think. And especially just with the breakup. Like, I've seen kind of the emotional toll it took on me. I don't know that it would be worth it to potentially have to go through that again, but maybe if it's like, non dating related, I would go on Traitors.
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Host
Okay. I was gonna say, what would top three shows would be for you if.
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Juliana Pascarosa
You had a Traders.
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Host
Traders, yeah. Would you think you'd be a good trader?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I would be a great trader.
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Host
How come?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I'm like. I'm like sly. And I think I come off. People, like, underestimate me. They're like, oh, she's goofy, she's funny. You know, she's so kind, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, yeah, you Never know.
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Host
You never know. Okay, so, traders, what else?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I don't know. To be honest. I don't really watch a lot of reality tv, but I wouldn't. I would go on Bachelor in Paradise. Think, okay, like, I know that that's dating, but I think you.
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Host
I don't. I'm so bad with timelines. But were you. You were broken up before paradise started, right?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Before it aired.
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Host
Before it aired. So they obviously didn't ask you then to go on.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Correct.
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Host
Gotcha. Okay. But maybe next year, if they have paradise, you maybe touch those beaches.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, I think so. I think so. I know it's dating, but I just feel like it's a total different setting, you know?
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Host
What about, like, if you were presented or offered to do the Bachelorette? Is that something you'd consider?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I think so. I think so. But like I said, I would have to really, like, weigh it out, you know, and they would have to get some really good men.
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Host
Okay, gotcha. All right. There you go. Yeah, it sounds like you're saying they need to hit the reset button. Yeah. Okay. All right. I don't want to interpret anything, but there you go. All right, so maybe the Bachelorette, when you think about this world of. So obviously you're in finance. You're still in finance.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
So we talked about reality tv, but then there's this whole umbrella in this career of, like, energy, entertainment, right? Where some people. You've seen people do a million things. You could have your own podcast. You could write your own book. You could be a host. You could get into acting. You could get into, like, TV anchoring. I mean, the list is endless. What under this, like, entertainment media umbrella, from a career perspective, like, has your.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Has your eye, you know, I don't know. I think my main focus right now, and I don't know if it's necessarily entertainment, is creating a brand around nice girls label. My sister and I, like, our goal is to have this become, like, a brand that resonates where we're giving back to different foundations, we're participating in different things that, like, have a meaningful impact on just all different kinds of people. Yeah, I know that. Personally, I would really love to get into some schools and talk to kids about, like, whether somebody in their family is going through addiction and kind of just like, I don't want anybody to feel alone in that space. One of my really close family friends actually runs some. Some sober homes, and so I think I would love to, like, be a part of that and have nice girls be able to give back like monetarily to them and just like really bring some awareness to some things.
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Host
Tell people about your business that they don't know. If anyone doesn't know what Nice Girls label is, tell them about it.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Well, it started as just this dream. My grandmother's phrase is it's nice to be nice. So that is kind of like our thing. And. And so the name of the label is Nice Girls label. And right now we have two loungewear sets and T shirts for men that say nice guy on them.
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Host
Yeah.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And basically, you know, we've just been kind of right now showing up at different events and trying to donate some of our proceeds to different foundations.
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Host
Cool.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And so, yeah, I think that that is like. Well, I think we're gonna probably stick with just the loungewear sets for right now so we can focus more on like the movement behind it.
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Host
Sure. But yeah, so where can people get it and how much are they selling for?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Okay. Yeah, they're a little bit on the pricier side, but that's because, you know, we took a long time to find like the right manufacturer. They're 100% cotton. They're really comfortable. But the T shirt, I mean, the sweat tops, crew necks are 110 and the joggers are, I believe, 80.
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Host
Okay.
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Juliana Pascarosa
And you can get them on nicegirlslabel.com.
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Host
Sweet.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
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Host
And where's the manufacturer?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Is.
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Host
Is it in the U.S. california. Okay. Amazing. Gotcha. So you can go there. 110, 80 bucks. And like, obviously this has a positive connotation making impact too. So that, that is pretty cool when you think about the finance side of things. Did you fund it yourself? Did you guys get investors? Is it all owned by yourself?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Funded?
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Host
You and your sister self funded. Own the whole thing?
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Juliana Pascarosa
Yes.
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Host
Okay. And then where do you see two, three years from now? Where do you want it to be?
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Juliana Pascarosa
I want, we want it to be a household name.
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Host
Okay.
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Juliana Pascarosa
I think we really are going to try to push. We would love to be able to give back a lot like our community. That's like something my dad has like, honed in on our whole life. He's like super involved in Newton community and giving back. And so I think, you know, if we can make a difference in our community, that's one step closer to making a difference in the world.
- [21:44]
Host
I love it.
- [21:45]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [21:45]
Host
Tell you what, maybe you could be a public speaker too.
- [21:48]
Juliana Pascarosa
I love that.
- [21:49]
Host
Okay. I love it. What is something you do to feel secure with your finances and your money situation?
- [21:55]
Juliana Pascarosa
Checking up on myself once a week. I sit down and I look at everything, I make sure all my bills are paid, everything was deposited and correctly. And I just feel like if I visually see it, I feel good about it.
- [22:05]
Host
Okay. They say that 43% of couples, someone is cheating through finances. Have you ever had to deal with any type of security and relationships and money and stealing or anything like that?
- [22:18]
Juliana Pascarosa
No, but my first boyfriend was broke, so I, like, really funded that relationship. So I don't know. He was moocher.
- [22:23]
Host
Oh, he was a moocher, all right. You gotta watch out for those moochers. All right, so that is a whole different topic. Now we're hitting love and money, so I want your take on a few things.
- [22:32]
Juliana Pascarosa
Okay.
- [22:32]
Host
Now you're in the dating game, right? So dating and money. There's all these new studies on the way boomers process it. Ex Millennials and Gen Z. Everyone has a different perspective on their take on money, their relationship with money, what they're expecting from their dates, etc. So let's start with this first date. What's your expectation on who pays?
- [22:52]
Juliana Pascarosa
I think it's proper for the man to pay, but if they wanted to split it, I mean, I'm not, like, opposed.
- [22:57]
Host
Yeah, yeah. Okay. But that would give you, like, that would be like, red flag. Yeah, okay, There you go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think I agree with you. I 100% agree with you. Okay. What is your take on the idea of prenups?
- [23:11]
Juliana Pascarosa
Honestly, teach their own. I. I don't think that I would be necessarily offended if they had, you know, a set amount of assets that they were trying to protect. I think you just got to protect yourself and your family and your legacy in that sense, for sure.
- [23:23]
Host
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- [24:40]
Juliana Pascarosa
You know, I know relationships kind of go at different paces, but I think before you were really going to, like, move in with each other or thinking about buying a house, like, those conversations should have already been had.
- [24:54]
Host
Okay.
- [24:54]
Juliana Pascarosa
So I don't know. I think once you get to the comfortability level with each other, where you really just want to get to know if, like, it could be a lifelong engagement, if you will. Like, you should have those conversations. Maybe, like, after a couple months.
- [25:06]
Host
After a couple months. Okay, and are you gonna, like. Are you gonna bring it up first, or do you expect him to bring it up?
- [25:12]
Juliana Pascarosa
I have no problem bringing it up.
- [25:14]
Host
Okay, there you go.
- [25:15]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, if he doesn't bring it up, I'll bring it up.
- [25:17]
Host
Couple months, you're gonna bring it up? Yeah, we'll see what happens with that. Okay. Question on dating. Are you on any dating apps right now?
- [25:24]
Juliana Pascarosa
My co worker just got me on Raya.
- [25:25]
Host
Okay.
- [25:26]
Juliana Pascarosa
Like, not really fun.
- [25:27]
Host
I was gonna say, how's the Raya game?
- [25:28]
Juliana Pascarosa
It's like, nothing.
- [25:29]
Host
Why? Why is it not fun?
- [25:31]
Juliana Pascarosa
I don't know. It's showing me people from all over the world, and I'm like. I just kind of.
- [25:34]
Host
Oh, so it does. It's not location specific. That seems stupid.
- [25:37]
Juliana Pascarosa
I know. So I'm, like, matching with people from, like, you know, like, Italy, and I'm like, great, I'll see you next year, next September.
- [25:44]
Host
Hey, you never know. Like, maybe someone's in Italy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There you go. We'll talk finances real quick here. You're gonna buy my flight and my Italian dinner there. All right. So you're on dating apps. There are, like, certain rumors out there that you might be dating. I think it's Gen Transx. Is that what. Can you squash those rumors? Like, push? Like, is that a thing?
- [26:06]
Juliana Pascarosa
I went to high school with Matt Rossi.
- [26:08]
Host
So you guys are just. But buddies.
- [26:09]
Juliana Pascarosa
Totally.
- [26:10]
Host
Oh, so it's not like a. That's an actual. Just a complete fugazi.
- [26:13]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Okay. I didn't know. We actually put up a video the other day, just kind of like, teasing that we were kissing?
- [26:18]
Host
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- [26:18]
Juliana Pascarosa
But no, it's just fun.
- [26:20]
Host
But it's just fun. It's like, whatever. Okay. All right. So, Raya, you're just having fun, and you might meet with someone in Italy, and God knows what happens.
- [26:28]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, I like to. I like to think I'm a referral.
- [26:31]
Host
Like, a referral?
- [26:32]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Like, if.
- [26:33]
Host
So you're not going on, like, a blind date.
- [26:35]
Juliana Pascarosa
I would go on a blind date.
- [26:36]
Host
But that's not being a referral, bitch.
- [26:38]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Like, if you knew somebody that you thought and you know me, and you're like, oh, you know what you would be great for Giuliani.
- [26:44]
Host
This is the most finance thing you ever said. Because, like, in wealth management, it's all about referrals. Warm leads is what they call them. So you're like, I'll take a warm lead. I'm not taking a blind date.
- [26:54]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yes.
- [26:54]
Host
Okay, fair. All right. But you would go on a blind date, then?
- [26:59]
Juliana Pascarosa
I guess I would, yeah. Because, like, I mean, I would go on a blind.
- [27:01]
Host
I don't think I would really. I wouldn't go on a block because it's like. It's just like, the dating is so much time and so much energy, and it's like, I don't know. I need to, like, I need to have the person, like, vetted, I feel like. Do you know what I'm saying?
- [27:16]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [27:17]
Host
And by vetted, I mean, like, I agree with you. Like, if someone knows it and they can vouch for it and I trust their opinion, but just to go blind, that terrifies me.
- [27:23]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. I mean, I think what's like, the opposite end of that is, like, on the dating apps, you know, match with somebody, and it's like you have all these conversations before you even meet them. And I'm like, that, to me, is a waste of time for sure. I'd rather just get out on a date with them and be like, I either like you or I don't like you.
- [27:38]
Host
Okay, there you go. You heard it there. We're talking loving money. Now let's go back to money. What's one thing that you overspend on? You know, you overspend on it and you're not going to change. What's that thing?
- [27:46]
Juliana Pascarosa
Coffee cough.
- [27:47]
Host
That's it. Huh?
- [27:48]
Juliana Pascarosa
Coffee.
- [27:48]
Host
How much you spend on coffee?
- [27:50]
Juliana Pascarosa
I have, like, two coffees a day sometimes.
- [27:52]
Host
And where are you going sometimes?
- [27:55]
Juliana Pascarosa
Starbucks and Greystone. Greystone and Southend.
- [27:58]
Host
Okay, so that's like. That's a Boston spot.
- [28:00]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah. Shout out to their dirty.
- [28:01]
Host
Shout out to Greystone. Okay. All right, there's that. What about when you think about, like, your earnings on social media? Do you have a goal that you're trying to earn annually? Do you think, like, this is the goal I'm trying to earn off social media? And what is that?
- [28:15]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, I don't want to say a specific number, but I definitely have, like, a goal in mind that would make me consider leaving my. My nine to five.
- [28:23]
Host
And is. Is it over six figures?
- [28:25]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yes.
- [28:25]
Host
Okay. All right, so we can at least get that. We got Tyler Cameron here in the back.
- [28:30]
Juliana Pascarosa
Did you.
- [28:31]
Host
This is Juliana. How funny is that?
- [28:33]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [28:34]
Host
How about Tyler Cameron? Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Really? I'll tell you, I just found out she's on Raya, matching with guys in Italy, you know? Yeah.
- [28:45]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Pokemon game.
- [28:46]
Host
Gotta catch them all. Gotta catch.
- [28:49]
Juliana Pascarosa
See, that's what I'm saying.
- [28:50]
Host
Were you on Ryan?
- [28:51]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Yeah, but I would just match people. Like, have a quick conversation and then never do anything.
- [28:56]
Host
Wait, come here, come here, come here. You've been on the Bachelor franchise. You've been on reality tv. She just got off. Just got out of engagement. What is one piece of advice you could give her on the career aspect of this wild world? Because she's new to it, and she wants to. She wants to start killing it. And keep killing it.
- [29:09]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Keep going. Don't get discouraged. I think it's, like, you get thrown in such a crazy mess in the Bachelor world. Like, the fan base is the best fan base ever, but they're also, like, very, like, heavily, like, scrutinize the. Out of you.
- [29:22]
Host
Right.
- [29:23]
Rachel Kirkconnell
You know, so it's like, yeah, get thick skin, but fickle. But they're the best. They're the best.
- [29:29]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [29:29]
Rachel Kirkconnell
And, like, I am so grateful, but, like, you're gonna. You're gonna do. You're gonna mess up. We're all human, you know? But keep going. Like, keep putting yourself out there. Keep doing it. Learn from your mistakes. Yeah, and then. And then go. And, like, go, get back on tv. Go do another show.
- [29:44]
Host
Go.
- [29:45]
Rachel Kirkconnell
You know, like, don't get discouraged from dating shows or reality tv. Keep going. There's a reason why people love you, so keep doing it.
- [29:51]
Host
All right, now you get one celeb question. You can ask her any finance, personal or professional question.
- [29:56]
Juliana Pascarosa
Her.
- [29:57]
Host
Yeah.
- [29:57]
Rachel Kirkconnell
All right.
- [29:58]
Juliana Pascarosa
Oh, God.
- [29:59]
Rachel Kirkconnell
I heard you have a finance background. What is your advice for somebody coming out of college to do with their money or a young professional? What should. How should they be taking care of their money?
- [30:13]
Juliana Pascarosa
I think saving. Saving as much as you can, but.
- [30:17]
Rachel Kirkconnell
I feel like when you save, you just sits there. And when it just sits there, you spend it.
- [30:22]
Juliana Pascarosa
Well, you gotta have some self. Boundaries.
- [30:25]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Yeah, but none of us are good at that. Let's be honest. Okay, well, then you get. When I get a paycheck coming in, I'm like, I'm rich. I'm going shopping. But. But, like, what about investing? What's the smart way for them to invest? Or how do I think? It's, like, scary. I don't even know how to make a account. I just call my advisor, but I'm always like, I want to try and invest myself, but I don't even know how to start.
- [30:44]
Juliana Pascarosa
I mean, I think if you have resources available to kind of, like, figure that out, I think making phone calls and educating yourself, I think a financial advisor makes sense for everybody. No matter what you have, you know.
- [30:58]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Monetarily, I think, because you can get one on any. Any level.
- [31:01]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah, yeah, there's levels.
- [31:02]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Like, your bankers will take you and help you out.
- [31:04]
Juliana Pascarosa
Totally. Yeah.
- [31:05]
Rachel Kirkconnell
I mean, it's pretty much so automated.
- [31:07]
Juliana Pascarosa
Like, you know.
- [31:07]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Yeah, it's pretty much so automated, too, now.
- [31:10]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [31:10]
Rachel Kirkconnell
My second question for you. What's the greatest investment you ever made?
- [31:13]
Juliana Pascarosa
My greatest investment in myself every day.
- [31:17]
Rachel Kirkconnell
Love it.
- [31:17]
Host
Wow.
- [31:18]
Rachel Kirkconnell
I saw a Landry and all them doing this.
- [31:20]
Host
Clark, what is that?
- [31:21]
Juliana Pascarosa
What is that?
- [31:22]
Rachel Kirkconnell
It's like the claps.
- [31:23]
Host
Like, that's the clap. That's like the soft clap. Where'd you see them do that? Are you drinking already? Party has started for Tyler Cameron over there. All right, Juliana. I don't know where else we can go with this. I think where I'm gonna go with this is five years from now. Talk to me. Give me the dream you talked about manifesting. You talked about your five affirmations in the morning. You want to make more on social. You want to break that six figure mark. You're still working. You're in Boston. You explored the dating route. You'd go on Bachelor of Paradise. You would go be the bachelorette, like, five years from now. What do you think it looks like in all realms. Financial, personal, professional.
- [32:01]
Juliana Pascarosa
I think financially, I am in a spot where I can really give back to my mom and dad. They've just, like, given me so much in my life. I really want to put them at ease. Maybe just, like, help them, you know, pay off their mortgage, buy their cars, buy, like, a nice jeep for my mom because she loves Jeeps. And my sister, too, but she's like a boss, so she doesn't need my help. She's done so much for me. And I would love to own a house.
- [32:27]
Host
Whereabouts?
- [32:28]
Juliana Pascarosa
I think in Florida.
- [32:29]
Host
Okay, where in Florida?
- [32:30]
Juliana Pascarosa
Maybe Fort Lauderdale.
- [32:31]
Host
Do you have a move coming soon?
- [32:33]
Juliana Pascarosa
Maybe.
- [32:33]
Host
What? Tell us. Can you break it here?
- [32:36]
Juliana Pascarosa
I haven't decided for sure, but my lease is up at the end of August.
- [32:39]
Host
Okay, and you're considering Fort Lauderdale?
- [32:41]
Juliana Pascarosa
Yeah.
- [32:41]
Host
Why Fort Lauderdale?
- [32:42]
Juliana Pascarosa
I have some family down there, so being around family. Family is just always important to me. But I love Fort Lauderdale because I love sun and beaches, and I don't think I can do another Boston winter.
- [32:52]
Host
All right, Fort Lauderdale. A move is on the horizon. Maybe more reality tv. All the things. All right. You gotta leave us with one trading secret. It's specific to you. You can't learn from a professor, a textbook, or a TikTok tutorial. Only through your experience. What can you leave us with?
- [33:09]
Juliana Pascarosa
I think that. But it's a good reminder to. This kind of sounds weird, but the people that deserve to be loved the least need to be loved the most. So be kind when people are maybe not so kind to you because it could change their whole life.
- [33:24]
Host
Yeah, that's very emotionally in tune and intentional and smart.
- [33:29]
Juliana Pascarosa
God forbid I'm a sensitive gangster.
- [33:30]
Host
Wow, you are a sensitive gangster. You are a gangster, too. You definitely got gangster in you. I love it. All right, where can everyone find everything? Juliana, where can they find you?
- [33:39]
Juliana Pascarosa
Instagram.
- [33:40]
Host
Okay, what's your name?
- [33:41]
Juliana Pascarosa
Juliana Pascarosa.
- [33:42]
Host
And your company?
- [33:45]
Juliana Pascarosa
Oh, and nice girls label.
- [33:46]
Host
Nice girls label.
- [33:47]
Juliana Pascarosa
And. Yeah. Jules. Rosa. Jules Pascarosa on TikTok. I think. I'm not really that funny, but.
- [33:52]
Host
Jules, Juliana, maybe we'll see you back on reality tv. Maybe this business will continue to blow up. Maybe we'll talk more about your move next time or your Italian boyfriend more to come. But thank you for being on this episode of Trade Secrets.
- [34:04]
Juliana Pascarosa
Thanks for having me.
- [34:04]
Host
Ding, ding, ding. We are closing in the bell to the Julia Anna episode. Okay, back to Bachelor. We have a Bachelorette. Bachelor Nation. Back on the podcast, we went with Juliet Porter last week. Next week, for everyone that is waiting, we have Olandria coming on the podcast. That one's going to be epic. But David. Juliana, what are we thinking? How you feeling?
- [34:28]
David
Yeah, Juliana on the ones and twos. You know, we had Rachel Carnell on three weeks ago. Now you have Juliana. So you kind of have. With a little gap in there, you have back to back Bachelor winners, which is kind of unique. I don't think we've ever had that before. And I, you know, I was. People who keep receipts know that I was off of grand season. I chose not to watch. I was in protest. I was on strike. So I didn't really know much about Juliana until listening to her on this episode.
- [34:59]
Host
Can you remind me again why we.
- [35:00]
David
Had strike just the over, you know, overall direction. I. I didn't like the. I didn't love. Grant is the. As the lead pick. I thought the season coming off of season he was coming off of was a little dry, and I wanted them to spice it up. And I had just. I honestly think, as I've said a lot on the show, there were other reality shows, dating shows in particular, that were starting to take my. My minutes. And we only have so many amount of minutes so we can sit down and consume dating, reality tv. And the Bachelor was just getting left in the dust. So that's. That's where I was.
- [35:35]
Host
This was when you started to feel like the franchise in general was slipping away. And then you're just like, I'm just not interested. That was one of the interesting things with Grant that we didn't get a lot of his storyline. We didn't get a lot of his backstory from the previous season as a result of it. It was almost like when Clayton was picked, we didn't get much of Clayton's story. Is the Bachelor before probably similar? You know, I think you can make the argument for Zach. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Zach Shawcross as well. So you were just like, I've seen this script play out. I'm. I'm kind of done with it. I do. It'll be interesting to see, you know, just like what happens here with. Towards the end with Paradise. Like, we now know that there's a cash element towards Paradise. Will paradise pick up in ratings or not? I know this season, we've talked about it on this. This podcast specifically, but it is struggling this summer. We are seeing the impacts of Love island, which is just off the charts still, even with the reunion, I would say, just like Countrywide, man, it's just still buzzing in every single direction. So I get what you're saying about deciding to tune in or tune out, but yes, Giuliana was from Grant Season was the finalist. They did get engaged. And as you heard on this episode, their. Their engagement didn't work out. Their engagement didn't work out. And you could even feel that a little bit, right, David? Like, you could feel, you know, just like that it was that. It's relatively like you could tell she's fresh out of that.
- [37:02]
David
Fresh out of it. And anyone who takes the time to Come on our pods, we're, we're big fans of. So it definitely felt like she was fresh out of it. I don't want to say that she's lost. I don't think she's lost by any means. But I think that she's still in the process of establishing exactly what it looks like. She's dabbling in this, in the social media game. She's back in her 9 to 5, which she said, she says she does love for the comfort of it all. And at a fairly new company that she's with, she's talking about wanting to go back on reality tv. So I think she's at peace with the breakup. I don't think that necessarily she didn't come across like she's heartbroken and oh, oh my, how am I gonna ever move on? I just think now that she went through the process, she, you know, talked about being embarrassed because she holds the, you know, the sanctity of marriage in such a high regard that it didn't work out and she's obviously picking herself back up and you know, I am curious and kind of to see what direction she takes next. And what I will say, Jay, is an observation. You know, you alluded to some of the, the previous bachelors and, and the leads. I couldn't as I was as, as I always do with guests that we have on. I go on the social media to try and get a little bit of, of a gauge. And I was just shocked to see 165,000 followers for her on Instagram. Just how low that really is from what we were, had become accustomed to in the franchise. And now as we talk and we talk about this, not for clout, for business incentive at all. And we've talked about how going on these shows is a business opportunity and the avenue can open, but 165,000, I mean you can go on Love island and sneeze for five seconds on one episode and you'll get more than 165,000 followers. So that, that in is to me is just, it's just going with the trends that we've seen. And, and I think for her is as you know, 165, 000 followers. Can you have a career if she did want to go full fledged into social media with that. So I think it's all a balancing act that she's dealing with right now.
- [39:02]
Host
Yeah. And I mean I think what's, what's interesting is like you're talking obviously about her followers and you're, you're, you're not saying it in any other way other than you've been a fan of the show for a decade. You follow, I think more than anybody I know. Maybe the only other person that follows more closely is Bachelor Data. You follow people's followers off the show and off all shows. That's like David's thing. He's done day one. And so what you're saying is like the sh. When. When you have someone like this who is a catch and kind and smart and. And all the things and she wins the season and gets engaged, it sound. It sounds like it's somewhat of an outlier to have 100,000 IS followers, especially when you comment. You can sneeze on Love island and get 100,000 followers. It's just crazy. But you know what's funny is like, I did just bring up Bachelor Data and I reached out to her the other day because I was just like, hey, I just said I just want to make sure everything's okay. And you're doing well because she hasn't posted since July 7, and it doesn't look like she's even covering this season on Bachelor. Dater of Bachelor in Paradise. You know, that's what seems. How lackluster it is right now. We don't even have the fan accounts that, you know, analyze this stuff. Still analyzing it because the time spent there might not make sense. So I don't know. You know, I certainly can't speak for Susanna and Master Data, but just an observation and a good friend of the show, but yeah, it's. I mean, that does connect to the business side of it. And that's what we do talk about on this podcast, 100%.
- [40:39]
David
And I think for the business, like we've talked about the show in today's generation of people who want to go on these experiences and leverage the opportunity of being reality tv. If the opportunity doesn't match the sacrifice, as we've talked about the cost of going on these shows, how it affects your. Your current job situation and stability in your life. Will it get to a point where they can't even. I, I can't imagine where they can't feel the cast. But the, the supply and demand of going on that show for people has gotta. It's gotta be what used to be the. I mean, we're talking the. You had an opportunity, you kind of dropped everything to go on now, I would say, is it in the top three, top five top ten opportunities on reality tv? I don't know. So just again, it's always going to Be fascinating. It's always going to be at the root of this podcast, given the proximity of your journey, what you've been through, the guests that we had on, and the dollars and cents of it all, really, it just is fascinating to see kind of the trends and. And to see how that franchise is trying to keep up with Bachelor of Paradise and the Goldens and things like that. It's like. I don't know. I don't know, Jay. It's just something we're always gonna. Exactly.
- [41:49]
Host
We will see what happens. But one thing I find interesting is, like, you know, refreshing. I'll use the word refreshing. That the three guests we've had from the Bachelor franchise recently all have experienced breakups, and either recent breakups or very publicized breakups or breakups that were literally just on tv, like Justin and Susie, Rachel Kirkconnell. Now Juliana and all were so, in my opinion, protective of that other individual and respectful, and I thought that was very refreshing. And Teddy is in the studio. He just says, hello, everybody. But, you know, that's. That's a common theme. We've seen the last three. Three guests that we've had on, which I think is a nice little change of pace. That's refreshing.
- [42:38]
David
It is refreshing.
- [42:39]
Host
And.
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David
And I think the beauty of Juliana is that she's not. Nothing that she has ever done has been in my. From my experience in consuming her. Some of her content and seeing things is she doesn't seem like she's saying things to catch a headline or to be in the spotlight. Like, I love how she did talk about, you know, when the outside noise got real loud during the breakup. Like, she did find moments to still defend herself. Right? Like, if people want to say something, that's one thing, but if people are saying something against what she. What she believes in her foundation, like, she's holding people accountable for what they said. And she said, you know, I can be really nice and kind, while also establishing boundaries, is a quote that she said, which I think is something that we can all take away from this. It's like, you don't have to just sit there and be silent, right? There's. There's boundaries that need to be, you know, protected, whether it be in a relationship or out of a relationship or as an exiting of relationship, and making sure people have their voice while still being able to be themselves is. Is great. So you can just tell, like, you know, it sounds like she comes from a really, like, great, pure family. And, you know, this is something that she held sacred, and it didn't go her way. And she was just able to kind of keep, you know, her foundational, you know, beliefs and what makes her her, you know, through this whole process, which is a testament to her because, as you know, Mr. Public Breakup in the last couple, it's not always easy to do. And I. Something that I know I would, I don't think I could ever, ever deal with.
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Host
So if I had one critic in my circle that was more critical to me than anybody about how I handled breakups publicly, it was without certain. David Ardowit, the curious Canadian, you know what? Here's the deal. Here's where I'm going to back you up and then let you take care of David saw it all A to Z. He was very involved, literally had the inside look at it all and knows the reality of it all. And I think as a protective friend, you could not believe things you were seeing, the things that you were hearing, the rumors that were being spread. And as a result of that, you were like, you have to get out there. You have to speak to it. You have to defend yourself. Something I have never been good at and something I certainly haven't really done in any capacity, especially, you know, with. With a lot of these asinine, like, truly asinine, out of context, just misinformation, mislabeling things spread. So I would say you, of all people, probably my biggest critic with that.
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David
Well, I will say. I will say critic is not the right word. I think that I also admire how you've dealt with it. You've really taken the stance. You've taken the ultimate high road. You have, you know, kind of let, you know, your exes really spread their word and what they want, and you've had your truth and you've just chose kind of the. The peaceful route. I don't think that that's something that I am capable of doing in those situations. And I think part of, you know, hearing all these things is like, Jay, I know what is being said about you or the reason that you guys are breaking up is impacting you, because I know it's not true. You have to have an opportunity in whatever platform you want to just clear your name because you'll be able to sleep better that night, right? But what's the trickle effect? What kind of worms is it open when you've let someone speak for so long and then you interject, how are they going to take that? Right. Not something that they're comfortable with. Regardless, you've come out of it of great. Everyone kind of grieves and. And processes these things in different. In different ways. Obviously loved and respected the opportunity that you would want me involved in some of these things in your life, because I'm just there to help. And I think through it all, you know, you've learned a lot. We've grown closer because of it, and you seem to be in a great place. But breakups suck, man. And that's why I think, going back to the Juliana episode, the fact that she found a good way in the public eye to kind of set her boundaries and get things off her chest, but not everything off her chest right when she needed to. You know, it's just one of those things where I think as long as there's a public eye and there's a following, when people break up, it's always going to be the most People will want to be eyeballs on a breakup story more than a love story, because I think it's. It's so relatable. Everyone's had a really bad breakup that completely, you know, I would say, fucks them up. And everyone's had the breakup where that low of the breakup is. Is a stronger emotion than the high of the love. And, you know, that's the thing that people wanna. They wanna dive into, because that everything's. When you're in love is rainbows of butterfly. But the breakups are when people want to hear the real reason. So it's not something that I'd, you know, I envy from situations you've been in, but those are in the past, and you've moved forward, and it's. It's. It's fantastic to see.
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Host
Yeah. No, I appreciate it. That's. That's. Well said. You're the man. Thank you for always standing by my side, my back through all the craziness of it, but we are on the other side. And. Yeah, just wish. Wish just Juliana well. Of course we wish Grant well and just everyone that goes through a breakup. Yeah, breakups happen. And you break up with everybody until you don't. And hopefully that's your person.
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David
And we. You know, and I know you would say this too, like your exes too. Like, we wish. Like everyone wishes everybody well at the end of the day.
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Host
Yes.
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David
You know what I mean? You've been. You've been adamant about saying that from the start, so. And that's, I think, why the route that you've taken has. Has been great. So. And look, now you're in. Now you're in New York City. You're doing Amazon lives with your boy Rob Gronkowski. I mean, you're still freaking just crushing it no matter where you are, which is so many places I can't even keep track. Which maybe didn't Instagram just do this new thing where you can find your friends? I know it's very controversial. Maybe I need to start using that to see where you are all the time.
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Host
Yeah. I might have to share my location with you.
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David
Yeah.
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Host
At this point. But it's been busy. And I think, I think you wrapped that, that like, little, little dialogue we just had up perfectly. I will say that anyone that I can't think of, truly anyone in my life that's come into my life and then out of my life at this point that I wouldn't wish. Well, like, people grow, people change. And I, you know, I want the happiness for people that I once cared about and nothing but that. So perfectly said and literally couldn't have said it better. And I agree with that. But, yeah, it's been a busy week, man. A lot of action this week. I've been here for now. Yeah, full, Full week at this point. We did. It's cool. We did an SMT with Chime David. So you sit in a studio and you go from good morning show to good morning show across the country. We hit 35 good morning shows and the questions were all about finance. But then, of course, you integrate chime into the dialogue. So that was five hours, man. You're just sitting there, copy, paste, copy, paste. It was a lot, but it was fun. And then did the Amazon live with Rob G. Which was just absolutely electric. That guy is just so much fun. He's the best. Had such a blast with him. We had this. The winner of Survivor on. I mean, man, just imagine this dude. You go out for 26 days, you compete, and on day 27, a million dollars is then in your bank account. Straight up. A million bucks more to come from that podcast. And then, you know, doing a progressive insurance deal here with Tommy DeVito and working through that, and that's a great episode. You guys will love it. And the integration with the brand has been so much fun. And then, you know, yesterday went on Fox and Friends, which I, you know, I'd like to actually talk about this for a second. This is a great platform to do it. We. I got to talk about the impact of cost of housing in this country and things that we can do given the cost of. Of. Of. Of housing supply is extremely low right now. Since 2021, the median House price in the United States is up over 60%. But our median household income is only up 1 point. It's like 1.3%. And in general, it's just become so hard to own a home, especially for first time home buyers. This one blew me away. Your median age for first time home buyer right now is 38. Yeah, back in 1991 it was 28. So anyway, we got to talk about that and then also of socializing and the cost that's having with dating and friendships and things like that. What I want to say in this podcast is when I speak about anything as it connects to finances and transparency, I speak in a way that is based on education and hopefully a way we can all consume and understand. I will never or haven't yet as far as the topics that I ever speak about, connect politics to financial transparency or the financial business acumen of the things that I think that we need to be taught or need to know that just we weren't taught. And so whether you're. Regardless of the platform, whether it's MSNBC or CNN or this was Fox and Friends. Before I go on, I make it very clear, if you're providing me your platform, I'm very grateful for it. But I also want to let you know that in return, I don't want any politics in any way, shape or form coming off up in our opportunity to speak. I want it to be strictly and only financial education. And so majority of platforms that will have me, when they agree to that, I will take them on. Because in my opinion, we so desperately need to know these things that we aren't taught and that we aren't aren't the tools and tips that we aren't provided. So anyway, that's my little thing. But I did go on Facts and Friends too, talk about all those things, which was great. And then today we did this and you know, I think tomorrow we got some work with Garnier and l'. Oreal. And then Tuesday we got the US Open. Evan's in the room here. Evan, who are we going to the US Open with Vital Proteins on Tuesday? We got a fun crew in there, right? Yeah, I'm looking forward to that. And then back back home Wednesday. My man.
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David
That's awesome. That is awesome. Well, I appreciate all the insight for our listeners. It's. It's always good to get a little bit of the details, a little behind the scenes. Whatever you're doing, whatever your approach is, you know, it definitely is working. You know, you don't get 4.9 stars, over 6,000 reviews on the pod on almost 250 episodes without, in this culture, doing something right. And so it's been good. It's been fun, man. It's been.
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Host
Oh, yeah, I gotta stop you there.
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David
Okay.
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Host
You talked about reviews.
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David
Yeah.
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Host
Blanket on her name. But I was outside Equinox.
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David
Okay.
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Host
And we had a Trading Secrets listener come over.
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David
Unreal.
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Host
And she was so sweet and so kind. She gave so many compliments to the Rachel episode. But then, David, she was like, your recaps at the end, I absolutely love. Let's go the. The way to recap an episode. No other podcasts do that, so a shout out to her and David. Just another little testament. People are loving the recaps.
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David
There we go. There we go. Well, last recap, I talked about Perfect Match a little bit. I'm a little deeper in the Perfect Match game. Like, I said I would update. So I know a little bit more about Julia Porter from last episode. I got to see the Clayton and Rachel think play out through all the episodes. This show is the. It's. It's one of the better seasons of the Perfect Match that I've seen so far. But, yeah, no, I mean, I love recapping it. If we could ever just do a strict recap of reality TV shows, that would be electric, too, and just really let the gloves off. But, no, it's fun. I mean, we get to keep doing this thing together. It's always the best.
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Host
I love it. David, before we wrap anything else, though, with Juliana, anything else, you want to make sure that we. We bring to the forefront that you took away from the episode?
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David
No. I mean, anybody who can get up and every morning write five things that she likes about herself down before she does. And she was like. You're like, wait, you really do that? She's like, yeah, yeah. It takes two seconds. And she's like, it makes me feel great. I'm like, okay. That would be an unbelievable thing to incorporate if you could really do it, because that's just the ultimate positivity of, like, huh. Maybe my sleep wasn't so bad. Maybe my job doesn't suck as much. Maybe my relationship is a lot better than, you know, I went to bed the night before. And you could just be so much more grateful and have a great approach and then crush the day. So I.
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Host
Listen, Juliana, if you're still with us, I am doing this right here, right now. David. We are actually doing it.
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David
Okay.
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Host
Starting right now, I am opening up the notes app.
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David
Okay.
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Host
I am sharing the notes app with you.
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David
Okay.
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Host
Every day, starting tomorrow, we have to write one thing that we like about ourselves individually, one thing we like about one another. And then next week on the recap, we are going to read it off.
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David
Okay.
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Host
We, we're going to take her training seeker and apply it to us. We say we're going to do this off and we don't do it. We're going to do it. And I'm starting to note right now to do it.
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David
Love it. Do it up. And then we got a Landry Alandria next week. Can't wait. I'm gonna have a lot of. A lot of questions and a lot. I can't wait for that one. So.
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Host
Oh, Landria is on next week. I can't wait for it. She is an absolute star. The Bama Barbie, beautiful and brilliant. I am so excited for that episode that is coming out next week. And Dave, you got anything else?
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David
Nope. So let's wrap it up.
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Host
Let's wrap it up. Please give us five stars. We literally watch, read every single one of those reviews. All the feedback is really appreciated. But Remember to hit 5 stars and thank you for tuning into another episode of Trading Secrets. One.
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Juliana Pascarosa
Money on me Making that money, living that dream.