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I'm your host Jason Tardick and I am so, so so excited for this episode. If you're, if you're new to Trading Secrets, just so you understand a little bit about what we do here. So think about the content you consume, maybe the authors, books you read, actors or actresses, movies you watch, comedians that you go see. The idea behind Trading Secrets is that all these people that have achieved a lot of success, that we respect, that we look up to, that we consume what they do. We can learn so much about them through their career navigation, through their financial moves and we can learn lessons that we just weren't taught at all in the school system. And that is the baseline of Trading Secrets. And what a better person to have on than the one, the only The Queen Amanda Batula. Today, there is so much she has learned in 14 seasons now of different reality TV shows. And you are going to be entertained for sure in the conversation, but I think, most importantly, empowered. The way that she handles her business and her life and all the moving parts with such grace and character in class. It's truly, truly special. Now, whatever you take away from this episode, of course it's educational but also entertaining. I want to know. So if you could give us five stars in the reviews and just let us know your biggest learning lesson from Amanda, I would greatly appreciate it. I know she would love to see that, too. And I also want to give perspective. This was filmed in late January, just so you and I have an idea of the conversation and where we're going with it and what's being teased and how it's being discussed. That perspective is also very helpful. But there are just so many points in this conversation I didn't expect to have and that we had. And I've learned so much about Amanda. And after this podcast, I feel like you're just going to be so excited for what is to come from her. I got to say, too, I think the biggest thing is she. She is hilarious. You know, in the first 10 minutes, you know, we're getting into the conversation, it's flowing. By the end of it, she's just ripping jokes left and right. You're going to hear about what career she dreamed of having as a child. That conversation's hilarious. But from start to finish, the episode's just amazing. And then, as always with Trading Secrets, we do a recap with a good friend of mine, called him the Curious Canadian because he's one of the most curious guys I've ever met. And he'll ask me all the moving parts of the interview, things he didn't understand, things he wants to know more of, things that happen behind the scenes that you couldn't bring up on a podcast. So make sure that you stay tuned for that. Now, this is a finance podcast, too, so just a quick little finance trading secret for you. Tax filing day. From what I'm recording, this is 38 days away, so make sure you're now getting prepared to file your taxes and you're taking advantage of all those deductions, like saving for your 401k and an HSA. An HSA is a triple tax advantage account, so make sure you're on top of that. The second thing I'd say, too, is in a time where expenses are just going up and wage growth is staying relatively steady. I would really, really recommend that you understand what your financial baseline is. So how much do you have to spend a month and are you spending a month? And one of the cool things about that is if you multiply your financial baseline, which really should be, you know, 70% max of your take home pay. Now, I know we're all living in different, different situations, but it's always good to have at least a benchmark of ideally where you want to be. But you take that monthly financial baseline pay, you multiply it times 12, that's how much you spend on an annual basis. They say if you want to retire, you need that amount times about 20 to 25. So that will give you a good indicator of what you need to retire and how close or how far you are and where you can make up. But enough of me giving you financial trading secrets. I cannot wait to ring in the bell with the one, the only Amanda Batula. Welcome back to another episode of Trading Secrets. Today we are joined by Amanda Batula, one of the most recognizable and enduring personalities on Bravo's Summer House. You first met Amanda in the early seasons of the show, but what's especially compelling is how much her story has evolved. Now, heading into season 10, she is reality TV royalty. Three seasons of Winterhouse. Now one of in the City. That is 414 seasons of TV. Amanda is navigating a new chapter now on camera and off with the debut season of in the City, we are going to see it all. She is redefining her identity beyond the dynamics that first was introduced to her audiences. This conversation is going to be about growth in real time, what it looks like to evolve publicly to protect your mental health while building a brand and to separate who you are from the roles people expect you to play. We talk about, about career reinvention, emotional resilience, and how to build a life and business that actually supports the person you're becoming. Perfect themes for you. Amanda, thank you so much for being back on Trading Secrets.
B
Happy to be here.
A
It's awesome. All right. I want to just say from the jump I've, I was in reality TV in 2018. I've had the pleasure. 2018.
B
Didn't watch. Don't know. I don't know what you're talking about.
A
I say that because, like, through that time, I've got to meet high hundreds and hundreds of people that were casting me. It's probably thousands at this point. And I just have to say you are one of the most real, humble, kind, authentic, genuine people in a space that's really, really hard and sometimes brings out the worst in people. So I know I could speak for majority of my listening audience. I say we're just, like, all rooting for your happiness.
B
I appreciate that.
A
You're the best. How are you doing? How are you doing?
B
I'm great. I'm good.
A
I love that.
B
I'm so good.
A
Okay. There's a lot going on in your life right now.
B
Yes.
A
When you say you're doing good, you're doing great. Talk to me through that a little bit. We see what's presented and, of course, what you share. But also, there's been so much behind the scenes of growing in all different ways.
B
I wouldn't share anything with anyone until I'm ready to. And I feel like that's sort of how I've always lived my life. You know, I protect my peace, and I don't show up unless I feel like I'm able to show up. Like, I'm not gonna show up somewhere crying. I'll fall off the face of the earth for three years before I show up somewhere crying, you know, so I'm able to step out and feel good, you know? Yeah. About everything.
A
So it's one of these things that you're able to process, grieve, whatever it is. Life in all different areas, behind the scenes. Once you've kind of gone through that, you then feel comfortable to speak. Cause that's something you've had to manage now for 14 seasons. Not only, obviously, the big announcement that we just talked about with you in cosplay, but, like, all things you've had to deal with this week. Yes.
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And there's a lot of it, obviously. There's a lot that I have to deal with in real time. I film a TV show where we're recorded 247 surveillance. There has been a lot of tears shed, a lot of anger, a lot of happiness, a lot of joy, a lot of emotions in general. But when I can control it, when I have control of it, I like to show up as my best version of myself. And then I never hide anything, but I want to be in a place where, like, I feel good talking about it, you know?
A
Makes perfect sense.
B
Yeah.
A
All right, so last time you're on Trading secrets, it was June 2025. So it was like, seven, eight months ago.
B
Feels a lot longer, but. Yeah.
A
I was just gonna ask you that. You filmed two TV shows in that
B
so much has happened and a lot's
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happened in your life. Does that feel like eight months ago?
B
No, it feels like two Years ago.
A
Okay.
B
Yeah, it feels like a while ago.
A
If you could. There was actually a clip recently that like, keeps popping up on my prenup. Yeah, I'll have to ask a little bit about that. But if you could talk to that Amanda. Imagine June 2025, Amanda was sitting right here and you could give her one piece of advice. Knowing what, you know eight months later, what's the biggest piece of you'd give her?
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Honestly, just. You're on the right path. Keep doing what you're doing.
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Keep going.
B
Yeah.
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Just don't stop.
B
Don't stop.
A
Would you tell her to do anything differently?
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I don't think so. I think all. And you know, people will see a lot of this, like, play out too. But I. I feel confident in all the decisions I've made, all the time that I've waited. Everything that's gone on. I don't. I wouldn't change anything.
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Nothing.
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Nothing. Nothing at all.
A
One of the things that we Talked about in June 2025 was the fact that Paige wouldn't be on this season. And you're like, I don't know how we're gonn but Sierra and I are going to have to do it. Now that, of course, you've filmed this season, looking back on it, in what instances do you wish Paige was there for you?
B
I mean, there are definitely the whole. The whole summer. It would have been nice to have her there.
A
You're like every day.
B
Every day. There are definitely, you know, fortunately, she's a phone call away and just a text message. A text message away. But Sierra and I did try to like, show up. There was plenty of time spent in bed. But we, you know, we. We're both on antidepressants now, so we really were like the best versions of ourselves and we were going out and doing things. But there was plenty of times where, you know, hard times this summer that, you know, Paige's words of advice and just comforting would have been amazing. But I do have Ciara. Two's always better than one. But Sierra really, really pulled through for me this summer.
A
Yeah. We were at Remi Bader's party, right? Sierra, no, she's the best. She is like unbelievable.
B
She's incredible.
A
I was inter with Jesse Solomon. I was like, she is truly just the fucking best.
B
And what did Jesse say?
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Yeah, oh, he was like, hell yeah. Yeah. I was gonna say, why? Something happened? I was like, oh, God, no. Oh, by the way, now that I brought up Jesse, have you seen that insane rumor? I feel like a lot today. We need to just clear the air on.
B
Yeah, let's clear.
A
That's what happens with breakups, right? There's a lot of mislabeling that so much. What is, like, the most obscure thing you've seen so far?
B
Oh, my gosh. I mean, I've been trying not to see too much stuff. There's a lot of stuff about the business Lover boy that's been kind of crazy because I'm just like, I haven't worked for lover boy in a while. I feel like we've been very honest about that too. I think at one point I joked about how if we ever got a divorce, I'm taking half. Yeah, that's his baby. I'm not gonna steal something that he's put his heart and soul into and worked so hard on. So I'm not taking half of the
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business, for the record.
B
Yes. Yeah. No. There's also mixed opinions on whether or not me and Jesse should get together, which it's not gonna happen. I'm not touching any of my cast members.
A
That seems like a safe flair.
B
Yeah, no. Love them dearly, but I'm. I'm good. No, nothing crazy. Just a lot of, like, congratulations, which is a weird response to some breakup. A lot of congratulations.
A
You read congratulations. Like, how's it going?
B
People just congratulating me. It's a weird. It's a. It's weird response, but I'm not mad about it. I just don't think I was expecting, like, congratulations or a lot of, like, we saw this coming. My favorites are like, and the sky is Blue. And I'm like, guys, you know, I get it. Everyone's been rooting for this. You know, since the moment we got together, people have been placing bets against us and our demise. And so hopefully everyone can pay up now.
A
Kelshi's going off.
B
Pay your friends.
A
Kelsey's going off right now.
B
Yeah.
A
Do you think. Do you think that, like, that kind of pressure impacts the relationship and what ended up happening with it?
B
I. I'm sure it played a role, but I really believe in, like, not doing anything until I'm ready. I was on the phone with my friend, one of my best friends from college, and she's like, one thing I've always admired about you and respected is that, like, you do things on your own terms and your own timeline. She's like, you don't. I mean, I lean on my friends, but I don't, you know, necessarily, like, go to people for advice or complain about everything that's going on in my life or you know, I really try to, like, process things on my own and, and do things the way that I'm comfortable doing them.
A
I think that makes a lot of sense. And it's just. I know how that outside pressure, though, can get in your head. But it does feel like through your. I mean, we've seen so many seasons of yeah. On tv. We've seen you grow professionally and personally, and it feels like you've always been, I mean, glamour. Right. Called you one of the most normal people on reality tv. I reason I asked is I do feel you kind of put up a silo and you're like, I understand I'm in this space. Yeah, I didn't expect to be in this space, but now that I'm here, I'm going to do it my way and only my way. And those, those things aren't going to impact how I pursue my life.
B
Yeah, 100%. I think something that's been very important to me is staying authentic to who I am through, like, the good, the bad and the ugly and just embracing that. You know, I don't ever want to become someone different. I think the only thing that has changed is my level of confidence. Truly, I've been able to. I've got more confident. I feel more like secure in myself. Public speaking, doing podcasts, like interviews, all this stuff was something that was very nerve wracking to me in the beginning. But I think that's the only thing that I've really. That's changed about me is my confidence.
A
Maybe that's one of the. Congratulations. Right?
B
Yeah.
A
People are actually saying congratulations because you've grown in a way that, like, we see a different Amanda now and we're like. And you've talked openly about that, right? Some of the mental health hurdles that. Mental challenges you've overcome, the hurdles, the growth, the time and effort and work you've put in. You've talked about taking on different prescriptions and also balancing them correctly. Has that played into where you are today? And even the decision that you made to end things 100.
B
I think I noticed like a huge shift in my early 30s. So I'm 34 now. And again, I don't know if it was like my brain fully developed, the medication, you know, not feeling depressed anymore, being surrounded by really strong, powerful women. I think it was like a beautiful combination that I just, I felt a huge change in myself. Not that I didn't recognize myself, but I didn't recognize myself in a good way. I was like, I'm no longer that little girl. Like, I truly felt like I became a woman and just my outlook on everything was different, you know, what I wanted out of life, my priorities, how I should be treated, how other people should be treated, like what I'm willing to put up with and what I'm not willing to put up with it. Career wise, personally wise, like, friendship wise, everything. So there was a huge shift, and I think it was the combination of just growing up and. And antidepressants.
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I love that. And it feels like you're like. It feels like you're in this stage where you're like, I'm choosing me. Like, I'm choosing me. I'm choosing what I need out of life, and those things change. And I. And I think that's like such a. That's a celebration in itself, right? That, like, that's the point. That's the chapter you're hit on. You've gone through a lot, you've learned a lot. And it's not bashing someone else. It's just deciding to choose yourself. Small business life means hustling and figuring it all out all the times on your own. But you don't have to spend your evenings guessing at tax forms or tracking down onboarding docs. Gusto will handle all that so you can spend your time on the parts of the business you actually love. Gusto is an online payroll and benefits software built for small businesses. It's all in one remote, friendly, and incredibly easy to use, so you can pay, hire, onboard, and support your team from literally anywhere. Automatic payroll tax filing, simple direct deposits, health benefits, commuter benefits, workers comp, 401k, you name it. Gus. Gusto makes it simple and has options for nearly every single budget. It's a number one payroll software according to G2 for fall 2025. We use Gusto at one of our businesses. But I want you to give it a try today. Try gusto today@gusto.com TradingSecrets and get three months free when you run your first payroll. That's three months of free payroll@gusto.com Tradingsecrets one more time. Just go to Gusto Tradingsecrets and I'm
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someone that's terrified of change my whole life. I don't know if I've shared this story before, but when I was younger, like, ever since I was younger, I hated change. My parents had these cast iron railings. They were getting brand new, beautiful wooden ones. I cry, like, handcuffed myself and, like, cried because they were changing the railings in our home. Like, that's how much I hated change. We moved three times in the same town. I would cry every time we moved, even though my friends were all still close by, was going to the same schools, like nothing was changing. But the house I was in, hated change, couldn't handle it. And I feel like now that I'm older, I'm not afraid of change anymore. I think change is good. I look forward to, like, things being different and things changing.
A
I think, to me, I think, like, we should advocate for change because change is growth. Right. And I think, actually it's weird I said this on my Instagram today. It's like when we talk in, like, absolutes or we hold, like, say a friend told you I'll never do X, Y or Z. And then they do it. To me, it's like a congratulations. Like, yeah, you've looked within to find a different side of you that's open to doing something differently. And change is good. There's a lot of people that watch this, and they are currently where you used to be.
B
Yeah.
A
Right. They're in a place where those. Those changes terrify them.
B
Yeah.
A
They might be in a job where they feel stuck. They might be in a relationship where they feel stuck. What advice would you give them to get into a place where you can take on change and choose yourself?
B
Obviously, surrounding yourself and leaning on your friends and family is really important. And opening up, you know, I internalize a lot. So once you start talking about it, it kind of makes decisions easier. But truly, to follow your gut and do things at your own pace and your own timeline. Like, you might open up to friends and they'll be like, oh, my God, quit your job. Or, like, screw that guy. Or, you know, like, get out of there, whatever it is. But you have to do it when it's right for you. You can't make decisions that you feel like other people are pressuring you to do because you then you might have regrets.
A
Yeah.
B
It doesn't matter how long it takes or how quick it is, but if something doesn't feel right again at work, in a friendship, in a relationship, whatever it is, it's important to follow that instinct because you're probably right.
A
Well, you and I, good friends. And when I see some of this stuff you talk about, like, own timeline, when I see some of this stuff online, my blood starts to boil because I see the mislabeling and the nonsen sense. And if that's such. So part of the thing I want to do today is clearing those things up. One of the most outrageous ones. Let's laugh again. I saw this. They said that you. That you are pregnant with Jesse Solomon's kid.
B
What did you see?
A
We saw that together. We just started dying.
B
Oh, my God.
A
So that's the most outrageous one out there.
B
It's crazy.
A
Clear that up.
B
Yeah. Not pregnant and not what Jesse saw. Salman's trial.
A
That's a no. But this one, actually, I think could be a learning lesson. This. This clearing it up for other people too. The idea of protecting your piece. So there's all these articles, and they're trying to figure out your timeline, they're trying to back into it, and you've done a good job of protecting your piece, and it was a bravocon and doing interviews around then, and you're like, what's new? Kylan and I are going through a challenging time. At that time, were you protecting your piece to. To figure out the puzzles or was the puzzle solved and you just weren't ready to discuss it?
B
Protecting our piece there, we didn't have answers. We, like. It's hard to talk about something that you don't have the answers to. It's still hard to talk about it because it's still. You know, even my family asked me questions and friends, and it's like, we don't have all the answers. And especially then had no idea what was going on. And it was really hurtful that someone that was, like, a close source, the couple, leaked information that was based off of partial fact but, like, was also inaccurate. And it's like, who that's close to us is sharing information about us that we haven't even processed, shared, or discussed together. And then it's like, out in the press and people are asking us to comment on it, and it's like, we don't even know what's going on yet. Like, how. How do you have this information?
A
What were some of those inaccuracies?
B
Originally, the article was going to say that we were getting a divorce.
A
Okay.
B
And that was never the case. And this is the one that came out right before Bravo Con. But, yeah, just that, like, I don't even remember what the article said, that we were, like, going through a hard time or whatever it was. But, yeah, it just. It's, like, hurtful that these days, it's. People feel like it's a prize to be the first one to, like, leak something.
A
It's gross.
B
You know, even, like, some of the Instagram accounts being like, you know, so and so broke it first. It's like, that's not a prize. Yeah, that's not like, you don't win an award for. For, like, get. Having a source that is sharing something that's personal and private that we haven't even been able to talk to people about or figure out ourselves. Like, that's rude.
A
It's rude. And it's also, like, where. Like, what's the incentive? Yeah, suppose, like, whoever this couple is or whatever.
B
Yeah.
A
Like, what's the. Why, like, why would you actually.
B
Like, it's to be, like, I'm the one that, you know, submitted that. Like, that's how it feels. And it's. We share so much. We share everything. We have shared 10 years of our relationship. We have shared the highs again. The good, the bad, the ugly, the highs, the lows. Give us a break. Like, you're gonna find out, and we're gonna share it, and we're gonna be raw and real. But why does it have to be this thing where it's like, you know, oh, we leaked it. Like, oh, we got it out there first. Like, we're on reality tv. You're gonna find out, right?
A
It's coming. It's coming one way or another.
B
It's coming one way or another. It's not like we're saying secret celebrities and, you know, this stuff. Like, this is the only way you'd find out if it leaked. Like, everything comes out.
A
Yeah.
B
You know, and again, we. We're not asking for privacy, but it's just, like, give us some time.
A
That's hard. And then, well, you. You obviously run in your mind, like, what could it be? What could it be? What could it be? And then if you do decide to go move out to figure things out, you're in New York City, and then you got all these eyeballs, and then you might be in a private building, someone sees you, and does that lead to paranoia at all?
B
No. I will say, good for you.
A
I love that. An. I'm in.
B
Yeah. No, I. I mean, I have to live my life normally. Like, I can't live in hiding. I am a normal person. You know, I'm not Kim Kardashian walking down the street. Like, I'm. You know, there's no paparazzi outside my building. But I will say props to everyone in my building that does live there. No one was, like, taking pictures of me or sharing anything. I think, like, maybe they would confirm that they've seen me in the building, but there weren't any, like, photo leaks of me in my new building. And I think that that was really nice that people were respecting that. Much. And there's a lot of people that do know where I live and no one was sharing that.
A
It's beautiful.
B
Yeah.
A
Did you feel. Because there was someone who leaked it, then you had to get a statement out sooner than later? Or did that pressure not.
B
No, I was just denying.
A
No, this is. I'll do it on my time.
B
Literally. It was like, you'll find out when I'm ready to tell you. I mean, even when there was like a leak about me moving out and I posted like a silly Instagram story about it.
A
Yeah.
B
And I confidently confirmed it, but I joked that I moved into a cardboard box. So I didn't deny it. But I like played into it a little bit because I was like, we're not ready to talk about this again. Like, half of our families don't know. Our friends don't know. It's so upsetting for anyone to find this out from like a gossip site or whatever. So I'm just, you know, I. I try to make like I deal with a lot of traumatic things with humor. So I was just like, you know what? This is my new house and it's cardboard. And the brand who sent it loved it. So I love it. Yeah.
A
There are also a lot of people out there trying to make their own narratives that, like, there's this crazy contentious event that happened or something they gotta dive into and they'll look at the fingernail being chipped and come up with something. So I wanted to give a space. Like, it feels like it's relatively amicable and on the same page.
B
Yeah, I think, you know, it's. I feel everyone that saw it coming probably did see it coming. It, you know, it's something that we poured, we both poured our whole hearts and whatever we had to give into this relationship. And I think we both just realized that, like, we both deserve happiness and we weren't making each other happy in this moment.
A
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I mean, trust me, I've had plenty of explosive moments where in hindsight maybe I should have walked away. You know, so there wasn't anything like worse than what's already happened to me that happened. I think it's just like growth and, you know, maturing and realizing, you know, what we both wanted and needed out of life.
A
Obviously you're in a position now where you're looking forward. When you do look in the rear view mirror. Do you ever wish this had happened sooner?
B
No.
A
I love that answer. I was really hoping you would say no.
B
I think everything happens the way that it's supposed to. You can't live life with regrets at all. You did what you did in the moment because you wanted to. So then it's like doubting your own decision making.
A
I'm so happy you said because that like all those decisions because I know a lot of people, oh, we saw it, we should have or whatever. They'll make their opinion. Those moments are what defined you to be in the place that you're in today. To look forward in direction where you want to see your life and without those moments, they don't have.
B
Exactly. And a lot of them are learning lessons too, you know. You know, you need to learn from your experiences. You need to learn from your mistakes. You can't have regrets about those things. And again, in the moment, that's what you wanted. So if you find, see it as regret. It's like you don't trust yourself.
A
As I'm talking to you, I self reflect. I remember when we were sitting in a bar, at a bar stool and you were like giving me advice. I'm on a stool, mopey Jason, you're like, pick your head up, let's go get your shit together. But, but I think like even in times, moments of reaction or, like, moments of sadness or whatever it is, or the person was really mean to you. I think about my own stuff, and I'm just like, I. Even with all that, I still have so much appreciation for every single person. Even though I have a lot of, like, frustration, even today, there's still some things that, like, maybe weren't tied with a bow that I hold. Anger.
C
Sure.
B
Everything's not perfect.
A
No. But, like, thank God, like, and I'm so appreciative of those people in those times.
B
No, for sure. I think if I did have any regrets, it might be maybe the way I acted or reacted in certain moments, but not decisions that I made. You know, like, maybe I could have said that a little kinder, or, like, maybe I didn't have to scream that, but, you know, maybe it could have been a little more polite. So maybe I can have regrets in that sense. But, yeah, no regrets in terms of decisions.
A
You do. You queen. You scream when you guys. I feel like it's got to take a lot for Amanda Petula to scream.
B
So very hot when I start yelling, too. And I'm always cold.
A
Yeah. One thing we're obviously talking a lot about is, like, looking at yourself and seeing where you are today, how and why. One of the clips I saw on TikTok, I don't know. It gave me goose. Goosebumps was when Paige said to you, I wish you saw yourself the way I see you in my head, and I don't want you to have any regret ever. And she was actually talking a lot about, like, your business decisions and, like, living in your own self. When you hear that, do you feel like you have those glasses that Paige had that you see that vision?
B
100%. I feel like there was a shift. I mean, I was also, you know, struggling with depression at that time, too, and I. There's been a huge shift, and I now I do see what I'm capable of. I do see, you know, what the person I can become and, like, am becoming and am involving into. I see the vision now. You know, before, it was very much so, like, thank you. That sounds so nice. I hear where you're coming from, but, like, I don't get it. And now I'm like, no, you're so right. And I like so much more to give now.
A
I think a lot of people that love and support you also are curious. You see that vision. What does it look like? You put those glasses on, you look in the future. What do you think it looks like? What does the future look like?
B
I Just want more creative opportunities. Like, I went to school for design. That's. You know, I've always been a creative person. I've always been an artistic person. That's what I want to dive into. Just more creative opportunities. I'm not the business person.
A
Yep.
B
But now I can call you if I need.
A
I got you. You have a blank canvas. What are some things you want to do?
B
I mean, I have my swim line that I'm working on. We're coming out with more drops for that, which I'm so excited about in the fashion realm, is something I would really love to do or just get my hands on anything that needs, like, a little refresh.
A
You're an artist at heart.
B
Yeah. You're an artist at heart. No, for sure. And I have a vision. I just people to do it for me.
A
I like it. I think I got some people behind the scenes.
B
No, that's my favorite thing to be like, this is what I want. Now go do it.
A
We talk, obviously, finances on this podcast. Right. You've said on the podcast before, lie in creativity and art and maybe not the financial element of it. How does that look? Moving forward to you?
B
Yeah. I mean, Kyle's been incredible still to this day, helping me with my finances and investing and moving money and getting the right credit cards and getting the right bank accounts. And, you know, we still, you know, him and I, we're. We're friends. We love each other dearly. So, like, we just had a call the other week about, you know, like, my taxes and finances, but my dad's also very involved and is always like, if you have questions, you need help, you can call me. I definitely need a financial advisor. Kyle's been literally incredible in helping me, like, setting me up for success in that sense.
A
So one of the things I really appreciate and love is the fact that. But I think the outside noise for the storyline to continue, they want to see.
B
Oh, yeah.
A
An absolute train wreck.
B
People are going to be so disappointed when they see us, like, laughing together.
A
You're just like, listen, I love him. And it just. We grew away from each other. And I think that's such an important message to share. There are moments that aren't great. Right. But that doesn't define your love for so much.
B
No. There's an immense amount of love between the two of us, which is why we've been together for 10 years. Like, there's still so much love there. But I will say, like, when we put out the statement, we were on the phone together.
A
Wow.
B
I was like, do the countdown. He was like, three, two, one. And I sent it. And we were like, oh, man. Like it wasn't like an exciting thing to share. But no, there's. There's so much love. And I feel like putting that out there lifted a weight off both of our shoulders where we can, like, go back to being friends and because our relationship was built off of. Of friendship, that's. That's what remains there. And I think that's really beautiful.
A
It's beyond beautiful. I gotta ask you about this.
B
Yes.
A
Because it was all over my stupid feet yesterday. Okay.
B
Oh, God. What is it now?
A
Well, it's all the prenup talk, right? You talked about the prenup. I loved the analogy you gave. You're like, it's like health insurance. You don't expect to get really sick, but you might. And that's when you use it. And you're kind of saying, I should have had one.
B
Yeah.
A
Still don't looking back on it, you know, how do you expect to navigate those waters? And any advice you'd have for someone that is listening.
B
Yeah. I think I'm hoping that I'm going to be very fortunate in this. We both are. I mean, as I've said, our finances were separate. Everything in our life was separate. So anything that happens going forward should be a really easy, you know, split. Not like 50, 50, but it's like, this is mine, this is yours. Like, we're good. Yeah. But that's not the same for everyone. So some separations can be awful and messy and you do need to protect yourself beforehand because you don't know what could happen. Don't be like me and be naive and be like, prenups mean divorce. Like, get it. Because you don't know what's gonna happen. Get the postnup. Get whatever you need. We also were supposed to do a postnup. That never happened. We're also supposed to get my ring insured. That never happened. But yeah, no, I think we.
A
You didn't lose your ring, did you?
B
You, no. But something that you also should do.
A
Just more advice. You just drop you master class in life.
B
But that one was on Kyle. He dropped the ball on that. But yeah, no, you need to protect yourself because you don't know what's going to happen. It's good to be a unit. It's good to love each other. It's good to be a team. But like, at the end of the day, you are an individual and you need to protect yourself no matter what because anything could happen.
A
You've learned some lessons, but it feels like, like, based on conversations you've had, it should all work out the way that you would expect it to. Let's just split things and.
B
Yeah, what's yours is yours, what's mine is mine, and.
A
Great.
B
Yeah.
A
Okay. That's great.
B
Yeah.
A
Everyone wants to know, when it comes to, like, future living, do you think New York is going to continue? New York, New Jersey, like, 10 years from now? What do you think? What's it look like?
B
I'm not a fortune teller, and I've given up on timelines. Once I turned 30, I was like, I don't even know what age I am, so I don't know what I
A
want to think by. You don't need a timeline.
B
No. You can't manifest all you want, but I'm not giving myself, like, this has to be done by this date and, like, I want to be here by them because obviously none of that worked out for me. But it's okay to ask because I get asked all the time. But I love living in New York. I've always loved it. You know, this is where there's so many opportunities. There's so much work here. It's so convenient. If I'm hungry, I can just walk to any fast food restaurant. I can order from the. If I don't like sushi from the place across the street, I can order from five other sushi spots. You know, I don't have, like, one sushi restaurant in my town, so, I mean, I enjoy the city a lot, but ultimately I know that I want to raise a family in the suburbs, so I will probably stay in the city until I reach that phase in my life.
A
No timelines.
B
No, we're. I mean, we're still married.
A
Okay. Yeah, I'm still married. That's true. For the record, no more mislabeling.
B
And we're not divorced. We're not. We are. We're separated right now. We're just, you know, really trying to take time to, like, heal and focus on ourselves and see what happens.
A
And see a lot of articles out there say that there is, so that's like such a good. Yeah, let's go back to work. When you look at the future above reality tv, is reality TV in your future beyond the two season that we're gonna see? Do you want to keep pursuing it? What's your thought?
B
Listen, I love filming reality tv. Like, don't love when it airs. I love filming it. I really, like, I have such an appreciation for obviously, like, the Mike, my Housemates and cast are incredible, but the crews that we work with, you grow such great bonds and relationships with these people and it's just so much fun. There's like so much fourth wall stuff that like you don't get to experience anywhere else. So if I can keep doing it, you know, I would love to. Maybe not drinking and partying in the Hamptons for the rest of my life, but you know, I enjoy sharing my life with people and I appreciate that people connect with it and you know, resonate with things that I go through. And if I can keep sharing, you know, my struggles and my issues and you know, my wins and my losses and that helps people, I want to continue doing that.
A
I think that people that watch everything you do and are fans of yours want to see it all. Yeah, I think now more than ever. They're like, give it, give me all the mana batula. No, I can possibly.
B
If you put a camera in my apartment, you just be live streaming me in bed all day. Wait, actually though, well that's all I have right now is a bed. So. Yeah.
A
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B
Nothing too competitive. That's nothing special. Nothing physically competitive? Oh my God. No.
A
Okay. What about like Dancing with the Stars?
B
I. I don't know. I don't know. I'd have to be really talked into it.
A
What about you think if you get a traders.
B
As long as I don't have to do anything where I can get hurt. I'm notorious. Notorious for getting injured on my show. I have gotten like, like hit in the face with a football, dropped on my head, like hit in the crotch with a kickball, smacked in the face with a dodgeball. There's just Been a lot of injuries. We went sledding. I busted my knee. Like, I can't do anything that's active. If there's a camera involved, I will get hurt.
A
Okay.
B
I don't get hurt any other time, but I always get injured somehow, and it's always me. And now it's a running joke.
A
All right, so nothing physical. We're not getting injured. None of that. But would you. A lot of people in reality tv, like, actually, Gabby Wimby just went into traditional, so she's gonna be an actress now. Like, she's going to be in an actual Netflix show. And then you see some reality TV castmates go into, like, hosting. Do you have interest in either one of those areas?
B
I mean, I. When you're like a kid, you know, you always. I've always dreamed of being an actress.
A
Yeah.
B
I don't know if I had the memory to memorize lines, but you give me a teleprompter and I'm great. I've done a few commercials and I've nailed them.
A
Wow.
B
So, all right, maybe you're looking at
A
your next few actress.
B
Strictly commercials. 30 second spots. Can't remember anything longer than that.
A
Sky's the limit now, right? Yeah, sky's the limit. All right. Well, I mean, so much is going on in your life. I think everyone is just so. I think the congratulations isn't about a split. It's about how far they've seen you've come and everything that's going on in your life and where you continue to go. And I think you're just like. Every day that ticks is. You're inspiring so many people.
B
Yeah.
A
To, like, think through change and continue to grow and face any type of mental hurdles that you're overcoming and how to find the right doctors and prescriptions. Like, you just keep. You keep doing it and I don't stop. Just keep spreading your wings. You know what?
B
I'm trying.
A
I feel like you're just absolutely killing it in every single direction.
B
I appreciate that.
A
And you feel that, too, I hope. Yeah. Yeah, it's.
B
It's. Yeah, it's weird, but. Yeah.
A
What's. What's the weirdest part about that?
B
I don't know. I just feel like such a normal person. Like, the way I spend my days and, you know, just the people in my life, it just. I don't know. None of it's real.
A
Seasons is like.
B
That's sickening.
A
Yeah.
B
It doesn't feel like that. Like, it feels when I talk to people and I meet people for the first time who don't know that I'm on a show. And a lot of people don't. Because if you're not in the Bravo universe, you probably have never heard of me, which is totally fine. Even if you are in the Bravo universe, if you don't watch Summer House, you have no idea.
A
Right.
B
But then they'll ask, like, oh, how long have you been on the show for? And I'll be like, 10 years. And they're like, what? Like, yeah, it sounds like such a long time, and it doesn't feel like it's been 10 years.
A
10 years. All right, we know you can only say so much, but let's first go with Summer House Season 10. Give me the. The full tease pitch that you can give without giving too much away.
B
There's makeouts and makeups. It's not all about me and Kyle. There's plenty that goes on that has nothing to do with either of us.
A
Wow.
B
Yeah. So if you don't like me and Kyle, you can still tune in. This is not going to be all about us.
A
You can still tune in.
B
Yeah. No, it's definitely not all about us. There was so much going on this summer.
A
There will be some other big highlights that people are talking about. Oh, yeah, Okay.
B
I yell at another man, that's not my husband. That's crazy. Yeah.
A
Who is it?
B
I can't tell you.
A
Oh, my God. I want to know.
B
I can't tell you.
A
That was a good tease. Because I want to know. All right. When did you find out about in the city?
B
I have no idea.
A
Was it while you were filming or before?
B
No, before.
A
So you knew going into the summer that you would be filming this sequel?
B
I had an idea. I think. Honestly, I don't remember anything. And there's so many con. I'm just like, tell me where to be and when. Give me the contract and I'll sign it. Yeah. You want me. You don't want me. I don't care. I wasn't really paying much attention. I mean, I was. Had so much work going on that spring, and then when we're filming, I'm not thinking about anything else.
A
You did a great job teasing Summer House season 10. You gotta tease it for us. In the city.
B
In the city. I think it's gonna be great. It's gonna be a whole different concept where it's more about couples and that next phase in life. Right. So you're seeing different couples at different phases in their relationships, too. Some people are married, engaged, dating, you know, getting serious they're single parents. It's. It's not the partying in the Hamptons that you're used to. It's, you know, a lot more relationship based, which is you were only getting mine and Kyle's relationship for a very long time on Summer House, and now you're getting a ton of relationships.
A
One of the things in this city I think you see a lot of couples deal with is this, this balance of work life. Balance.
B
Yeah.
A
In New York City, everyone's just work, work, work, work, work. And I, I think it feels like you'll see that in this show with other couples too.
B
Yeah.
A
But with, with you and Kyle, do you think work endeavors or professional goals had anything to do with distancing from like the kind of the connection within the relationship?
B
I mean, we definitely have different work ethics. So I think when we started working together, that was, that was a big problem.
A
I think it's. Are you okay if I correct you? Yeah. And tell me if I'm wrong. I don't think it's worth ethic. I think it's work styles.
B
Maybe you work your ass off, but I like to work smarter, not harder.
A
Yeah. Which is a work style.
B
Okay.
A
But when you work like, you work hard, when you're focusing on dial, there's like, it's so you can do what someone could do in 10 hours, in two hours, because of your focus. So I don't think that's not working.
B
Okay.
A
I think it's a work style.
B
I'll take it.
A
Okay.
B
But, yeah, but I. Kyle lives to work. Like, you know, there was always conversations about, you know, one day he would sell lover boy and everything would be great, blah, blah, blah. But I always felt that if that happened, he would, he would need something else to fill his time with. That man's always going to be working. He's always going to be hustling. He's still like, he's just always at his computer. I'll FaceTime him at like 10pm and he's at his laptop and I'm like, what are you doing? Like, what are you doing all day? Like, why are you still sitting there? Or literally like one.
A
Like, I could have done that in an hour. Yeah.
B
Like, he just lives. He just needs to fill his time doing things. And I want nothing to do with that. I could not be more different. And I think it drove him nuts.
A
Fair. Okay. On a personal level, when you fill your time, maybe you'll have some more of it. Like, what are some things you do outside of work and just for fun.
B
Well, obviously I love TV shows.
A
What's your favorite show?
B
Right. I was just talking to you about this right now. It's My Strange addiction. Just came back out.
A
Yeah.
B
And I. I think it's so weird and I love it.
A
Oh, yeah. The one TLC she's just telling me about this girl who everything she consumes has to go through her nose.
B
Yeah. She blends it all up and sucks it through her nose. But she also has, like, very high standards for herself and anyone that thinks it's weird, she's like, cutting you out of my life, and I want to live by that.
A
Wait, what is it that, like, why do you. This is an interesting show that you're attached to.
B
Because it's weird. And it's like one guy was eating plastic bags. Like, that's crazy. One chick, like, eats her mattress. People eat chalk. Like, there's so many weird. One girl chews on diapers that she pees in.
A
What?
B
Yes. Like, they're just the most bizarre things. And it's like, I love whatever's wrong with you. Like, I love that. And I just. I don't know. But this woman that sucks up food through her nose in a straw, she really like anyone that thinks it's weird. She's like, I don't need you in my life. If you can't accept me for who I am, you're out cutting you out. And I think we should all live by that standard.
A
I love it. Do you think what I feel like in one lifetime you were a therapist.
B
Was I?
A
Yeah. Like, you, like, want to connect with people's understanding. Oh, I love, understand.
B
I love trying to understand people and like, relate to them and try to figure them out.
A
When you grew up, what was your dream job?
B
Being a cashier. Dead serious. What do you mean, dead serious? I wanted to push buttons and, and scan things and jingle cash and. Yeah.
A
Did you ever accomplish that?
B
Was never a cashier. Probably one of the easiest jobs I could have gotten. Never. I was never a cashier. But that I don't know why. You can ask my mother.
A
I love that.
B
When I was younger, I wanted to be a cashier. The buttons on, like the cash register, just like the way that they sound and feel. I think it's my neuro spicy side.
A
Yeah. I do a piece of content or something where you accomplish. Like you go. You start ringing stuff up in the grocery store.
B
When they came out with self checkout,
A
you were like, depressed.
B
That was the best day of my life.
A
Oh. Cause you got to do it I
B
got to do it. I got to scan things at the grocery store. When I get to, like, input the code on the fruit, I'm like, this is the best day ever.
A
Okay, at what age did that aspiration change?
B
You're like, well, I have no idea. At some point, I wanted to become a teacher.
A
Okay, gotcha.
B
So I went. Cause I like to draw on the chalkboard, which I wanted.
A
Like an art teacher?
B
No, like a teacher.
A
Okay.
B
But I hate chalk. Yeah. I liked the whiteboard markers. The two things I had when I was younger were at a cash register.
A
Yeah.
B
And then I, like, played pretend with, like, teacher, so I had all, like, the stickers and the books. I didn't want to teach people. I just liked the idea of, like, looking like I was working, like, going through books and tossling papers and writing notes and correcting, you know, tests and. Yeah. No, I was a strange child.
A
A lot of action.
B
What was your dream job?
A
Oh, it was kind of weird. It was. I wanted to be a pro poker player.
B
Okay. But at least you can, you know. You know, maybe make some money off of that.
A
I can kind of. Yeah. Or lose it all. Or become an absolute degenerate and lose every single penny. So I went into a little bit of a different direction.
B
But, yeah, you know, same.
A
You gotta. You know, I want you to be a cashier one day. One day you will.
B
Supermarket sweepstakes.
A
I love it. All right, well, Amanda, before we wrap with your trading secret, I want you to do this one secret you could have given yourself a year ago today. And then we're gonna get a different trading secret from you.
B
One secret that I could have given myself a year.
A
You could whisper into Amanda's ear one
B
year ago, I probably would have been. Get on antidepressants sooner.
A
When did you get, like.
B
I've been like, you're depressed.
A
Were you. Were you reluctant to get on?
B
I think when you're stuck in that deep of a hole, it's. It's hard to even, like, admit it to yourself that you're struggling.
A
Yeah.
B
And then once you admit it to yourself, it's hard to, like, admit it to other people. But I would have probably told myself to, like, talk about it sooner and figure it out sooner, because I think it was really, like, three years of my life that I think I was really struggling and didn't recognize it with
A
the fear of telling people. Once you did tell them, was that fear still in existence, or were people still pretty accepting now?
B
People are. We're very accepting. But then I felt like, everyone was worried about me. And I hated that feeling.
A
Yeah.
B
Because then I wouldn't answer, and I'm like, no, I just am not answering because I don't want to talk to you. It's not because anything's wrong. Like, I just. That's who I am. So. Yeah. Then it just became a lot of people worrying about me, and I hate when people worry about me. Yeah, I hate it.
A
Well, the good news.
B
I don't like being a burden on people.
A
The good news is we started this podcast and everyone's congratulating you, child.
B
Thank. No one worry about me.
A
And I think so many people are inspired by you. And I just feel like people can't wait to see more. And I love that. Like, the message you. You, like, just shared with us is that, like, you're choosing yourself, and you don't have to point fingers at the other direction to choose yourself. You can still be friendly with someone and recognize that you've moved in different directions 100%. And that's.
B
That's.
A
It's okay if you. If you fall out of love. That doesn't mean that someone has to go to prison.
B
No, it doesn't. It. There doesn't have to be a scandal moment. There doesn't have to be a blind siding. There doesn't. Like, again, there's no villain in this story.
A
It's beautiful. Your messaging is beautiful. And just keep spreading.
B
Thank you.
A
Happiness all around. If the last question. I got one word, one theme. What's Amanda's word in 2026?
B
Happiness.
A
And how do you define happiness?
B
Happiness. Being happy. No, for me, happiness. Yeah. Being a cashier, pushing buttons. Love typing on a keyboard.
A
Did you ever get the keyboard that's got, like, the. Do you know those ones that are asmr.
B
Yes. And I bought, but I didn't get the keyboard. I got, like, the little keychain thing from the TikTok shop that you can, like, make the clicky noise.
A
Do you click it all the time?
B
I just threw it out when I was moving. But, like, my God, I would sit there. Kyle would, like, be like, what are you doing? Happiness. I mean, happiness is prioritizing myself, putting myself first, not worrying about what other people think about me. You know, if I want to lay in bed all day, get high and cuddle my dog and not communicate with anyone for 24 hours. And if that. That's what makes me happy, I'm going to do it. And you can't judge me for it.
A
I love it.
B
And maybe the next day, I'LL text you back. Maybe three days. It might be four. Yeah.
A
Sorry, guys. All right, let's wrap with this. I prom us we're rep with this. I've said it seven times, but I want you to give a trading secret. But here's what I want the theme to be. There's a lot of people that are listening to this that are going through breakups with their family members. It could be their siblings, it could be their work, or it could be a loved one. And so just a. Obviously this podcast called Trading Secrets, but just like a piece of advice for someone that is going through that, that might be doubting it, struggling, grieving. What can you give a. I would
B
say, like, I'm still going through it, so I'm in their shoes. But from what I've seen on TikTok and the videos that I get tagged in and people talking to me like, it gets better. You will come out on the other side of it. You might be in it right now, and it might be very difficult and very hard, and you feel very lost and confused, but follow your gut instincts and it will get better. Change is not scary. Change is good. Change is necessary.
A
I love it. And the one thing I think about is just. Even if it's a millimeter.
B
Yeah.
A
Just like, get one millimeter ahead.
B
Yeah. Everything is on your timeline, on your time. Don't let anyone else rush you.
A
Yeah.
B
You gotta do things the way you want to as you're ready to do them, and just take everything day by day.
A
Yeah. And it might feel like you're, like, truly crawling through quicksand, but just. Just keep crawling.
B
Yeah.
A
Because the light is there.
B
Yeah.
A
And it will get better, and it will be beautiful. And just keep growing and changing for the best.
B
And look at you now.
A
Yeah, I know. I know. I'm happy.
B
Yeah.
A
It's happiness.
B
I know.
A
Happiness. You know what I mean? Which is. It's. It's life. Just keep doing it. And everything you represent is beautiful. So keep. Keep going. I can't wait to have you back in, like, another year or two to reflect, collect, see where we're at. You might be a cashier, you might be a host, you might be on your local shop.
B
Right.
A
Who knows what's going on, but I feel like it's going to be good. Amanda, where can everyone find everything you
B
have going on on the Internet?
A
Just Amanda.
B
Yeah. One of one.
A
Yep. All right. 101. Follow. And maybe a business is coming soon.
B
Maybe we'll see.
A
Amanda, thank you for treating all the secrets are the best, best. Ding, ding, ding. We are closing in the bell to the Amanda Batula episode lot going on Summer House Season 10, one that everyone was waiting for. David, I know one that you were really, really excited to listen to. So what you think?
C
I thought it was great. I think I've said this too many times lately, but it's just true. I thought it was one of our best episodes that we've heard recently. We've heard a long time, maybe all time, because we have a guest we feel like we know so deeply and we learned so much more about them and how they process decisions and how they've grown through their learning lessons. And I think of all. It was so relatable and such. I want to say in a weird way, like a stabilizing episode for a listener who may be going through some of those things or have gone through some of those things to be heard, to be seen, to know that someone else is going through them. I thought she probably connected with the audience incredibly, and she did with me as well.
A
I mean, the vulnerability and saying, it took until my mid-30s for me to see the little girl in me become a woman and really start to understand what I want and choose me. You know what? One, that's a hard thing to do, especially on a public forum. And two, there are people that go their entire life, not just their 30s, their 40s, or 50s, or 60s or 70s, not growing into that person that she's so confident and. And happy to be in. And what a testament.
C
Well, how many people do you see in today's day and age play victim? They play victim. Like, yeah, you think? But she had every opportunity to play victim at some point through this whole thing, and she was like, no, not a victim. I didn't. I did things on my terms. I made my decision. She had a couple things. She said a couple things that as I try and give advice or try and help people through situations, or I try and reflect on my own life and things, how I got to where I got to in certain areas. I just love how she said she doesn't wish that things would have gone differently because in those moments, I made the decisions, which is the decisions I wanted to make. So to look back on them and try and change them, it doesn't make sense. That's just really like lying to yourself. And I. I thought that she had such ownership of this and such vulnerability to admit that things weren't perfect, but she didn't run away from them. I thought that was really, really unique.
A
And how about Just how many breakups do you see where it just gets so ugly and it doesn't have to and it's just shots after shots after shots after L. Or mislabeling. I mean, I could just bore you and keep going, right? The maturity, the class, the character. To be like, I changed and we. We fell out of love and I still love him as a person. And were we perfect? We were far from it. And did we have bad moments? Sure we did. But I love the guy and I will love him and he will always be a friend. And it's so refreshing. So, I mean, talk about just taking the high road in a situation that it's, especially from what you get to see on TV see, it feels like it's. It's almost impossible to do that. And both of them, you know, have done it. So I mean, hats off, done it for now.
C
We all know that some of these times, some of these times they end amicably. You heard her say that they were on the phone when they, when they hit send. At the same time. We can feel good about that until someone has a moment, decides to do a tell all, decides to spill some beans that maybe they promised to each other they wouldn't spill. Maybe someone does try and play the victim and kind of, you know, try and turn the tables in the favor because they personally need it for their own feelings, their own self, with nothing to do with the other person. We will find out, Jay. We will find out. But I'm hoping because we've had Kyle on the, on the pot of multiple times. We've had Amanda on the pod multiple times. They're friends of yours personally. I know they're friends of the show. I'm hoping it doesn't come to that because right now a lot of respect for, you know, how they didn't quit on each other. They. They were in a relationship that, as she said, a lot of betters were betting on their demise, but they stuck through it till, you know, they KN was right for them to go their separate Raes. And I know that. I have a lot of respect for that.
A
Yeah, it's. Yeah, it's always this one's always. It's always a tough position for me to be in. You know, as far as I'm friends with Kyle and I'm friends with the band. They made the position so easy because Amanda's, you know, comes into the seat, does this interview and just handles. Handles herself with such class. But yeah, I mean, I don't know. I'm just, I'm Just there's. There's. There's clearly many good things in both of them. And it's, you know, you. We obviously heard today the path of growth Amanda's on. It feels like Kyle's kind of still in that, and he's still in it, and he's gonna get there. And I. I have, you know, a feeling that both of them will be on better paths to happiness for whatever happiness is defined by them. So I'm excited to see that. But it's. I don't know, man. It's just a tough position to be in, and she handled it so well.
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What.
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What was the most interesting? Because there was a lot of interesting things. There were funny moments. The cashier moment, the teacher moment. I was. Half the time I'm laughing. Other times I wanted to cry. I mean, what were some moments that stuck out to you?
C
Well, I loved how you navigated it because you clearly got what the listeners wanted. At the end of the day, people are going to tune in for Amanda, but they're going to tune in. Tune in to hopefully hear Amanda talk about this point in her life. I mean, that you did a really good job of showing your guys's friendship, your connection through, you know, know, professional experiences together, but also tying it back to how her. How she's navigating this point as it relates to that and this. So I thought you did a good job. One thing that I do have to talk about, and I know that in. In your breakups, I've, you know, tried to be there for you and help you through a lot of those moments. I remember us always talking about how you felt like you wanted to do something or say something, but maybe PR Is telling you not to or that it's not the best idea to do this or, you know, it's better to just. I loved how she said she was doing it through her playbook. Playbook. Doing everything on her time. Even when people started leaking things like, she didn't run away from it. She would acknowledge a lot of those things in a situation like this and your experience from that. And how big of a role does PR Play in handling breakups? And how hard is it when you have the urge of that? You want to say something, you want to scream something. You see this things are being said about you and PR Saying you had to sit there and put duct tape over your mouth. How hard is that? And what role does PR Play at your. In a public break up?
A
Okay, PR we're gonna get back to the question, because it's a really good one. One thing I want to make sure I give perspective to is when this podcast was actually filmed. I love the recap because we could talk about behind the scenes stuff. We had a trip down to Florida that was already planned. Amanda was in Florida for an Amazon event while we were down there. And we had scheduled to podcast with Amanda end of shoot. When was it? I think it was end the of. Of January. I would have to look at the timetable, but maybe end of January. Ish. And it was already booked and it was two. And we had. It was on the book. She was going to be there. Everything's locked up. Two days before. We had it on the books for weeks. Two days before that, they announced their breakup. So when you talk about navigating this interview, this was a really tough one because within 48 hours of them posting it, we had this episode. And this episode I clearly had an outline of what I was going to do before our podcast. And within 48 hours, flying, traveling, had some brand thing, whatever. I had to shift into this discussion, which is not really easy to do. And it's not easy for her to still show up and do when it's that fresh. And with that, I also had to call Kyle after and say an NBC after and say, guys, we had this booked for three weeks. You know, this was not the intent. I, we, we. The conversation came up. I think we were very respectful of everyone here. The show, show, the relationship, the love. We didn't really get into the weeds. So, you know, it was definitely like when you talk about navigating the conversation, I think for all of us included, it was like, oh, wow, this is not what we were intending to do. And two days later it happens. So I think it's always interesting for the recaps for people to get some of that stuff behind the scenes now with pr. So, you know, I know for, for Amanda, you know, Amanda doesn't. Amanda will start using PR as her, you know, her brand is becoming larger and larger by the second. So, you know, that's her business to share, not mine, when and if she does. But in this and everything she's handling, she's handling it. She might have, you know, some people to go to and ask questions and bounce things off of or go to NBC internal PR and ask them, hey, what do you think? But this is every way in which she's speaking and how she's handling. This is not, not media training. This is not PR training. This is Amanda being Amanda. When I go back to, you know, you Asked a little bit about PR and with my breakups and stuff, the. The only thing I would say as far as you always got to stick to your authentic self, but you always, too, have to consider what someone who's not emotionally attached to a situation, who's a professional in space is going to advise you. You can't ignore it. And I think the only thing that still irks me about. About times when I always just kind of kept my mouth quiet and just kept moving forward is. And this is something I go to therapy for, is caring too much about what people think. And sometimes the only thing that still creates anger in me, which you heard we talked even a little bit on this episode, is the idea that there are still so many people out there that might think something that's not at all true at all, but what those people think, I guess, really doesn't matter. So the best thing to do in these situations is have. Have class, have respect for what was, and focus on what is. And, yeah, I think she did that beautifully.
C
She did. And it is the. The. Definitely the number one thing that I took away from this episode was just that of her and. And how relatable and how honest and how genuine and just how she play, you know, plays by her own playbook and, you know, from, you know, you sharing that as well. Everyone at some point wants to be, you know, looked at as some sort of fame. Half fame, half celebrity, half status. I can. Public breakup has got to be the worst thing in the entire world. It's probably the lowest low that everyone on this planet has experienced at least one time. And to do it with anybody saying anything negative about you, your life, your relationship and. Or things that aren't even relative, it must be. It's not something that I would ever wish on my worst enemy because it's just. It's your lowest of lows. People are misrepresenting you. So I know how hard it was on you. I was.
A
I think a good comparison is. I don't know if you remember in middle school or high school when you had a girlfriend, right. And you broke up in middle school or high school, and, you know, it might be two days later, it's in gym class, and Mike comes over to you. Mike's like, you're not gonna believe what Don said about you. I just heard from Don's sister's cousin. She said this, and you're like, wait, what?
C
She says, she says that you.
A
Wait, yeah.
C
She says you have smelly breath. It's like, I don't have I don't have smelly breath. What is she talking about? Actually, she has smelly breath. I didn't want to say it, but she does. It's like now you're. All of a sudden, you're. You're furious.
A
And the whole. Even, like, smelly breath is whatever. It's controllable. I'm talking about you. I remember the days in high school and there's a breakup, and you hear one little thing through telephone three days later from one person. That's just. It's just absolutely not true. It's just her, you know, speaking in a different direction of friends. Right. Or that happened to friends. You see it now. The thing about the public eyes, when you're dealing with that breakup, it's not dawn that tells Mike's cousin's sister's brother who tells you in the locker room with one person four days later. Later. It's. It's hundreds of thousands and millions of people that you can have that impact on.
C
It's the world nuts. Think about your.
A
Like, now we're kind of zoning out of this. This podcast, and we're getting into the whole idea of the world we live in. And even your kill. You think about Carter, like, the world. He's like, dude, it's. It's okay. We'll go back to a man in a second. But I. I can't. The other day, I said something to Catherine, and I said to her, I'm 37 years old. You and I are deciding to go out for drinks, and we're meeting two friends. We're going out, like, bars, right? Haven't done it a minute. This is the first time in my entire life ever, that I was looking for the pepper spray to put in my pocket. She's like, why? I said, I don't know. But I felt like, I need pepper. I'm going to the bars. I don't know. And I was like, you know what? I'll tell you why. Do you know how often on my algorithm, randomly, there's, like, bar fights? Like, guys are fight. Bar fights everywhere and all this stuff.
C
Stuff.
A
And then what happens when there's bar fights now? You know, back in the day, if you and I got in a bar fight or people at I. Yeah, you run in, you break it up.
C
Yeah.
A
Now, no. No phones out.
C
Pepper spray.
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Oh, yeah.
A
No phone's out. Everyone's got their phone out. Everything's documented everywhere you go. Everyone's a creator now. And so I feel for the next generation, everything that happens at school, when someone gets In a fight or detention or to. Everything's going to be documented. And then you think about breakups and then public breakups and, and the noise that comes with that. It's just, it's such a whole different world today more than ever because everyone's got a phone and everyone knows isn't tapped in the social media game. Everyone.
C
Yeah, it's terrifying. I don't really want to think about that for my kids as they grow up. And I will be honest, I'm a. Ashley and I are big American Idol watchers. And you know the last audition on every episode of American Idol is instant tear jerker. Like you want to feel something. Just watch audition on every episode of American Idol. You're instantly going to ball your eyes out. It's overly emotional. And the first two they did were about suicides, teen suicides, about cyberbullying and peer pressures and things of that nature. And when you think about the documentation of it all and you think of how heightened it is when things get to the Internet and we were talking about public breakups with Amanda and you know how you've experienced them and how much different it is on that stage than it is the middle school or it is the high school or is the locker room or it is the classroom or it is the workplace place when it's out there for tens and thousands and hundreds of thousands of millions of people to see. It's scary. It's just scary.
A
Yeah, it's nuts. On a lighter note, going back to Amanda, one, yeah, I think we can't overlook is how cheeky her cheeky humor like she is.
C
Like she's got it.
A
I can't think like every podcast I've ever been on and then they're like, you know, Jason, tell me where people could find you. Like, I don't know, jason@tardic.com it's like, I don't know, the Internet just, it doesn't stop the Internet, the teacher thing, the quick one liners, the. She's just always, she's just herself in competition. I'm just always hurt. She's funny as.
C
She's just confident and she's not trying to ever impress anybody. She's just so authentic to herself and because when people are like that, that's how they become funny because they're not trying. I think that, that she, that's why I said I saw a different side of her. She's been on the TV for 10 seasons of, of Summer House and, and Winterhouse and all these shows. But I, I felt like. And it wasn't just to do with the breakup. She's kind of freed herself and really finding who. Who she is and. And she's really happy she said it at the end. Her 2026 word is happiness.
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Happiness.
C
So good for her. And she's vulnerable and talking about it and again, that'll hit and relate to someone. And she's just doing great, man. She's just doing great. And it was really. It was really great to see and. And to have her on. And I, I had no clue about the behind the scenes of how quickly she was on after that, given when you guys had booked her. So for her to still come on and speak openly and honestly and respectfully towards Kyle. And the last thing I'll say for you is like, no one likes the breakup where they got to take sides. You're friends with both of them, but you do business with both of them. To not have to take sides or feel like you have to take sides and doing it respectfully by calling Kyle. It's just good to know that in 2026 those things can still happen, you know.
A
You know me, I'm loyal. Those people that are loyal to me, I'm loyal to you. And it's just how I roll to. I've always rolled. Yeah, but I mean, mean, Amanda's going places, man.
C
Oh.
A
When you talk about that vulnerability and just not carrying the confidence, she is so set in herself. There's not a bone in her. I mean, dude, that rant about, I want to get high, sit at home, sit in my bed, not answer text matches, that's my happy place. I don't give a. Like she is so 10 toes down into who she is. That's one of the biggest inspirations in this.
C
Why I think she's going places too, is as much as she came up on Summer House and her whole celebrity has been around relationship with style as kind of the main characters on that show. You heard her say it, even though it felt kind of weird for her, how many people are saying congratulations, people are excited for her. People are now going to be twice and three times and 10 times as invested in her journey. I think she has, you know, people who come up in, you know, relationship fame, especially coming off the Bachelor, Bachelorette, etc, that's kind of what they're tied to in terms of their success or their interest, where I think she's going to find this independent woman, single era and people are just going to triple down on it. And I, I think this is just the tip of the iceberg for her.
A
Tip of the iceberg. Yeah, a lot of action here. Any other big lines or takeaways? I mean, we know the prenup was really interesting. That clip went viral from the first time when she talked about the health insurance. Yeah, like, that was great.
C
We've talked about prenup on 50 plus episodes and she's like, yeah, I just kind of look at it like health insurance. I don't hope I ever get sick, but I have insurance. I don't hope to ever divorce, but I have a prenup. It makes perfect sense when you kind of lay it out like that. So I know never, you know, again. Relatable, funny, witty, but also that actually kind of makes sense in a very Amanda way. She nailed it right there.
A
She nailed it.
C
All right.
A
Anything else before we wrap?
C
We are recording JTA tomorrow. So this is, let's say, just say the. The appetizer. Just getting the vocal cords ready, getting the lungs ready, getting the questions dialed in. I went over the money mafia questions. Definitely a couple trending topics. Let's just say a couple trending topics that will be touched on in the gta. So I'm looking forward to to it. I. I have an idea. I have a feeling the theme of this JTA is going to be a little different than years past.
A
Team's going to be a little different. Well, we just had Amanda on. We got the JTA coming up. We have Katherine coming on. We have John Buard coming on. The list is endless. Evan's working on some big names next week in New York. Excited for that. What a great episode. Learned a lot, I mean, in so many ways. And Amanda and everyone that listens to this episode without a doubt is cheering for you, rooting for you, and is happy for you. And that 2026 word of happiness, I think just in the month since we recorded it, you could see it in your face and your glow. So we're all excited for you, David. Anything else?
C
Congratulations. Just everybody else is saying to her right now, great episode and I will see you tomorrow.
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Host: Jason Tartick
Date: March 9, 2026
In this deeply personal and empowering episode, host Jason Tartick sits down with Amanda Batula, star of Bravo’s Summer House, to discuss her recent breakup, reinventing herself after a decade on reality TV, embracing change, and prioritizing her mental health and happiness. Jason guides Amanda through both vulnerable reflections and humorous asides, balancing the reality of public breakups, media rumors, and healing with career transitions and the secrets to building a life of fulfillment. This conversation offers both practical trading secrets and heartfelt advice, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating big life changes.
"I protect my peace, and I don't show up unless I feel like I'm able to show up." — Amanda ([08:10])
"I'm not touching any of my cast members. Love them dearly, but I'm...I'm good." — Amanda ([12:26])
"People have been placing bets against us and our demise...hopefully everyone can pay up now." — Amanda ([13:19])
"I truly felt like I became a woman and just my outlook on everything was different...a huge shift, and I think it was a combination of just growing up and antidepressants..." — Amanda ([15:36])
"I'm choosing me. I'm choosing what I need out of life, and those things change." — Amanda ([16:35])
"You can't make decisions that you feel like other people are pressuring you to do because you then you might have regrets." — Amanda ([19:33])
"You can't live life with regrets at all. You did what you did in the moment because you wanted to." — Amanda ([28:20])
"Why does it have to be this thing where it's like, you know, oh, we leaked it?... We're on reality TV. You're gonna find out, right?" — Amanda ([23:39])
"I just want more creative opportunities...I have my swim line that I'm working on...in the fashion realm is something I would really love to do..." — Amanda ([31:18])
"There’s an immense amount of love between the two of us, which is why we've been together for 10 years. Like, there's still so much love there." — Amanda ([33:16])
"Prenups mean divorce...Get it because you don't know what's gonna happen. Get the postnup. Get whatever you need." — Amanda ([34:13])
"Happiness is prioritizing myself, putting myself first, not worrying about what other people think about me...If that's what makes me happy, I'm going to do it. And you can't judge me for it." — Amanda ([52:02])
"Change is not scary. Change is good. Change is necessary." — Amanda ([53:54])
"You will come out on the other side of it. You might be in it right now, and it might be very difficult and very hard, and you feel very lost and confused, but follow your gut instincts and it will get better." — Amanda ([53:25])
[12:36] Amanda on breakup rumors:
“There’s also mixed opinions on whether or not me and Jesse should get together, which it’s not gonna happen. I’m not touching any of my cast members.”
[15:36] Amanda on confidence shift: “I noticed like a huge shift in my early 30s. So I’m 34 now...I truly felt like I became a woman...what I wanted out of life, my priorities, how I should be treated, how other people should be treated, what I’m willing to put up with...”
[28:18] Amanda on regrets: “You can’t live life with regrets at all. You did what you did in the moment because you wanted to.”
[33:28] On the breakup statement: “When we put out the statement, we were on the phone together. I was like, do the countdown. He was like, three, two, one. And I sent it.”
[34:13] On prenups:
“Don’t be like me and be naive and be like, prenups mean divorce. Like, get it because you don’t know what’s gonna happen. Get the postnup. Get whatever you need.”
[41:59] Amanda’s word for 2026:
“Happiness.”
[53:25] Advice for listeners post-breakup:
“Change is not scary. Change is good. Change is necessary.”
[46:20] Favorite show confession:
“Right now it’s My Strange Addiction. Just came back out. And I think it’s so weird and I love it.”
[47:43] Childhood dream job:
“Being a cashier. Dead serious. I wanted to push buttons and, and scan things and jingle cash...”
The episode balances empathy, humor, and real talk. Amanda’s candid reflections, witty one-liners, and deep honesty shine. Jason’s supportive, insightful questions create an authentic atmosphere of growth, resilience, and encouragement. For fans (and newcomers), it’s equal parts entertaining and empowering.