Anger Danger: What You Don’t Know Is Hurting You // Triggered (Part 9) // Pastor Tim Ross

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Podcast Episode Summary

Podcast: Transformation Church
Episode: Anger Danger: What You Don’t Know Is Hurting You // Triggered (Part 9)
Speaker: Pastor Tim Ross
Date: November 16, 2025

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episode Overview

In this installment of the "Triggered" series, Pastor Tim Ross tackles the complex topic of anger. Framed as a vital but often misunderstood emotion, this sermon, titled "Anger Danger: What You Don’t Know Is Hurting You," explores how anger operates, what it signals, the consequences of unaddressed anger, and, importantly, how faith can guide us toward healthy expressions of anger. Pastor Tim employs humor, vulnerability, and biblical narratives to encourage self-examination and genuine healing, promising not a shouting message, but a transformative one that will require some honest soul-searching—"you will find many opportunities to ouch through this message." (03:09)

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Defining Anger: Permission and Boundaries

Timestamps: 03:30 – 10:50

• Pastor Tim opens by affirming, "My assignment today is very surgical...we have to deal with our anger."
• Main Idea: Anger is not inherently sinful—it is a God-given emotion, but we are called to steward our response.
  • Reference: Ephesians 4:26-27 ("Be angry, and do not sin...")
  • Quote: “Anger is not a sin. There’s so many people, especially in the body of Christ, that think the emotion of anger...I must be unchristlike. But anger is an emotion. It gives us information about things that have gone wrong.” (07:50)
• Anger becomes sin when:
  • Expressed destructively
  • Expressed dishonestly
  • Suppressed or repressed (not expressed at all)
• Quote: “God commands you to feel the emotion, but steward the response.” (09:35)

2. Understanding Anger: Trauma-Informed Framework

Timestamps: 10:50 – 16:55

• Anger is Information:
  • All emotions are signals; anger tells us when something is wrong—e.g., a violated boundary, ignored need, or reactivated wound.
  • Quote: “Anger is information. It signals that something feels wrong.” (11:38)
• Anger in the Body:
  • Physical symptoms signal anger: hot ears, clenched jaw, shaking, etc.
  • Suppressed anger manifests as resentment, distance, depression, or overreaction.
  • Quote: “Anger isn’t the problem. Suppression is.” (13:18)
• Anger distorting perception:
  • Can rewrite motives, meaning, memory, and even sense of self.
  • Quote: “When anger is unresolved, all your memories get revised.” (16:58)

3. Triggers and Dysregulation

Timestamps: 17:00 – 28:50

• Triggers as Signals:
  • “A trigger is not a sin, it’s a signal.”
  • “A trigger is the moment your body remembers what your mind forgot.” (17:50)
• Dysregulation:
  • Trauma causes our body to feel unsafe even when we are safe.
  • Quote: “Body dysregulation is: My body feels unsafe, even if I am safe.” (20:32)
  • Trauma responses: Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
• Christ Meets Us in Our Crash-Out
  • God isn’t waiting for us to calm down; He meets us in the intensity of our emotion.
  • Quote: “You don’t have to calm down to find Christ. Christ meets you in the moment you crash out.” (26:48)
  • “Your anger is revealing where your healing is calling.” (28:25)

4. Types of Anger: Exploders & Imploders

Timestamps: 28:58 – 43:40

• Exploders (Outward/Explosive Anger):
  • Case study: Moses (striking the rock in anger).
  • Suppressed anger eventually erupts, often disproportionate to the situation.
  • Quote: “Anger will disqualify you from the Promised Land.” (35:09)
  • Explosive anger is stored as pressure that, when released, damages relationships and opportunities.
• Imploders (Inward/Implosive Anger):
  • Case study: The older brother in the Prodigal Son story (Luke 15:25-30).
  • Anger is stored as resentment, leading to distance, pettiness, and relational sabotage.
  • Quote: "Silent anger eventually becomes relational sabotage." (42:05)
  • Imploders are often emotionally dishonest, masking true feelings with “I’m fine.”

5. Jesus’ Model: Righteous Anger

Timestamps: 43:41 – 50:55

• Jesus expressed anger firmly but cleanly—without ego, insecurity, or chaos.
• Anger used to protect the vulnerable and correct injustice, not punish the innocent.
• Quote: "Jesus’ anger was clean. It was not contaminated by insecurity or ego." (46:15)
• Memorable Line: “Jesus flipped tables, not people.” (47:11)

6. Practical Steps: How to Deal With Anger

Timestamps: 50:55 – 68:45

• Name It:
  • “You cannot heal what you refuse to identify.” (51:15)
  • Be honest with God and yourself about the real source of anger.
  • Personal testimony: Pastor Tim describes his own struggle with anger after his brother’s death (52:30).
• Express It Safely:
  • Anger must move—through conversation, therapy, or prayer—so it doesn’t erupt harmfully.
  • Quote: “Anger is energy. It must move.” (54:30)
• Bring It to God First:
  • God is not intimidated by your honesty.
  • “God is so gracious that He let me have my tantrum, because I was telling the truth about my pain. I was bitter losing my brother, and I took it to His presence, and He healed me.” (53:45)
• Communicate Before You Accumulate:
  • Avoid the years of suppressed “I’m fine” that lead to eventual eruption or breakdown.
  • Quote: "Your body is never going to let your mouth get away with the lies it's telling on it." (64:29)
• Redirect Anger:
  • Anger can become clarity, advocacy, compassion, purpose, and healing, if redirected properly.

Notable Wisdom:

• “The inability to regulate the nervous system is at the root of all violence. If people learn to regulate their nervous systems, homicides, suicides, rape, political unrest, and wars would cease.” (66:15, via Pastor Tim’s God-sister)
• Personal Story: Pastor Tim’s breakthrough in addressing buried anger and trauma from childhood abuse (65:30). “In the almost 30 years that I’ve been a believer in Jesus Christ, I've been in therapy for 28.”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “You will find many opportunities to ouch through this message.” (03:09, Pastor Tim Ross)
• “Be angry, and do not sin.” (Ephesians 4:26, cited at 06:55)
• “Anger isn’t the problem. Suppression is.” (13:18)
• “The problem isn’t anger; it’s unprocessed anger.” (09:58)
• “Your anger is revealing where your healing is calling.” (28:25)
• “Jesus flipped tables, not people.” (47:11)
• “Communicate before you accumulate.” (61:00)
• “Your body is never going to let your mouth get away with the lies it’s telling on it.” (64:29)
• “You can live with it, just don’t let it live with you.” (68:11)

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Important Segment Timestamps

• Opening & Setting the Tone: 00:32 – 03:09
• Declaration & Introduction of Main Topic: 03:14 – 04:53
• Movement 1 – Biblical Foundation: 04:53 – 11:03
• Movement 2 – Understanding Anger: 11:03 – 16:58
• Movement 3 – Triggers & Body’s Response: 16:58 – 28:58
• Movement 4 – Exploders & Imploders: 28:58 – 43:41
• Movement 5 – Jesus’ Redemptive Model: 43:41 – 50:55
• Movement 6 – Practical Processing of Anger: 50:55 – 68:45
• Personal Testimonies & Closing Prayer: 51:15 – 68:45

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Conclusion

Pastor Tim Ross guides listeners through a deep, compassionate analysis of anger. He emphasizes that anger is not sinful but signals deeper wounds or needs. The key is not to suppress or deny anger but to process it honestly—before it explodes or implodes, damaging relationships and personal well-being. Integrating biblical wisdom, personal stories, and practical advice, the message leaves listeners with tangible tools and spiritual encouragement to confront their triggers, seek healing, and repurpose their anger for transformational good.

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For listeners seeking personal change and spiritual growth, this message offers reassurance: “You can live with it; just don’t let it live with you.” (68:11)

Transcript

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Welcome to Transformation Church podcast where we represent God to the lost and found for transformation in Christ. We're so glad you're here and wherever you're listening from, we believe God will transform your life through today's message. Hi, I love you. It's good to see you. So excited that I get the opportunity to be a part of this series and to further the dialogue around getting to the epicenter of our crash outs. This triggered series has hopefully brought some things to the surface for you. What you have to understand is that whatever doesn't come up and out of your body through words will come up and out of your body through actions. And so we're trying to give language to the things that trigger us. Because without language, your body and your brain cannot heal. So my assignment today is very surgical. You probably won't find many opportunities to shout through this message. You will find many opportunities to ouch through this message. But I think it's imperative that we deal with one of the main triggers specifically. And it's anger. We have to deal with our anger. And I'm in my Miles Monroe bag today. I'm in my Dr. Miles Monroe bag. I got slides for days. I think this message should be over around 3pm I got PowerPoints and slides and bullets. And we have QR code, all the notes. So all the note takers, just put your pen and your paper away and just click and just take pictures of everything we got on the screen. Cause there's too many notes for y'.

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Okay. I see you with your highlighter, sir. And your pen. Put it back. Because it's too much. Huh? You'll never pick your head up again. If you go down, it will never come back up. It's too many bullets and it's too many notes. Aight. You got a whole laptop out, sir. So go ahead. You are a court stenographer. Clickety clack it. I'm fine with it. So are y' all ready? Okay. I wanna do some declarations today. I like to. When we have something this labor intensive, I like to open up a decoration. So if you have your Bible, put it in the air. If you got your phone, put it in the air. If you don't have either one of those, just put your hand in the air and repeat after me. All right? Today. No, louder. Today, the Holy Spirit is about to speak to me about my anger. After today, I will know and fully understand that my anger is God given. It is not something that is bad. It's actually good. But it can become bad if I don't know what to do with it. But after today though, like, for real. After today, though, I'mma be good in my anger. Let's go. Let's go. Let's go. See? Had to. That's how you open up. That's how you build an expectation for what God's about to do. If you're taking notes on this message, please write this down. The title of this message is Anger, Danger. If you're taking notes, the title of the message is Anger, Danger. What you don't know is hurting you. Anger, Danger. What you don't know about your anger is hurting you. Bow your heads. Let's pray over the word, shall we? Holy Spirit, help us with our anger. Amen. Y' all know I pray quick. I'm the one you won over for Thanksgiving dinner. We'll eat all the food while it's hot. We'll pray for the nations after. That really got you over there, didn't it? I'm doing this message in six movements. Everybody say movements. I'm doing this message in six movements. And I've purposely used the word movements because our anger actually needs to move. When anger doesn't move, that's when it starts to erode. Hurt us, kill us on the inside. So this is six movements. Movement one. What I want to talk to you about is our anchor scripture, the biblical permission and boundary. I want to talk to you about the biblical permission and boundary of anger. First, let me say that God created us in his image. So all of the emotions that we have, God has. We do not possess an emotion that God doesn't already have. He gave us the emotions we have because he created us in his image. Here is the scripture. I could take you to several, but I want to use this one as our case study. Ephesians, chapter number four, verses 26 and 27 says this. Be angry. It says be angry. And then there's a comma. Commas mean you pause. So those two words Be angry is not a suggestion, it's a command. Be angry because there are going to be some things in your life to be angry about. And when those things come, be angry. Do not sin. You can be angry, yet do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your anger. So not only is it saying, yes, you can be angry, but no, you cannot sin. Don't hold it too long, don't wake up like this, go to sleep like this, then wake back up like this. Whatever anger you find in your body, we're going to have to quickly put some words to it because we don't want to get through the entire day into the night. Go to sleep and, and wake back up with it. Because anger that starts to brood and fester overnight and over days, take roots and those roots are going to produce fruit that we don't want in our lives. Verse 27 says, and do not give the devil a foothold. Somebody ever tried to close your door in your face and you'd be like, don't give him that, because if he gets that, he gets in. Chop that foot off. Write all of this down or take pictures of it. Anger is not a sin. There's so many people, especially in the body of Christ, that think the emotion of anger. If I even feel anger, then I must be unchristlike. I must be ungodly. I must need to kill more of my flesh. No, anger is an emotion. It gives us information about things that have gone wrong. Anger is a God designed emotion. Anger becomes sin when it becomes expressed destructively, dishonestly or repressively. So my anger is not bad. It only becomes bad when I'm not honest about. Only becomes bad when I act on it out of context. God commands you to feel the emotion, but steward the response. I can feel all the anger, but I have to steward the response. Yes, you made me mad, but I didn't have to cuss you out. The anger I feel about what you did is valid. But I didn't have to punch you in the throat though. I mean, no, what you did really did offend me. But I didn't have to slash your tires. I was angry with your content online, but I didn't have to make that nasty video about you. I was just angry. The problem isn't anger, it's unprocessed anger. Very good, very good. It's the anger that you never take time, thank you, Holy Spirit, to bring before God, let alone anybody else. We won't even be honest with God about our anger. Which brings us to Movement 2. Say Movement 2. Trauma Informed Framework. What anger actually is. Let's talk about what anger actually is. Anger is information. Before I go any further, give this tech team a hand because they. When I tell you, these are the best notes I ever seen on an LED screen in my entire life.

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Trying to focus this way, but it's too cute over here. I like what they've done. Anger is information. It signals that something feels wrong. All of our emotions are information. I'm happy. Why am I happy? Because I got a raise. I'm sad. Why am I sad? Because I got demoted. But when it comes to anger, a lot of times we don't have words for it. I'm angry. Why? Oh, no. It signals that something is wrong. It can be information that a boundary was violated, a need was ignored, an injustice was perceived, a wound was touched, or an old memory got activated. Oh, that hit. Y' all got some old memories that get activated. You forgot about it until they reminded you of it, and then you like, why am I so mad today? What did they say? What did they do? Anger lives in the body first. You know you're angry based on what shows up in your body. It don't hit your head first. It hits your body first. Anybody's ears get hot when they get angry. Bro is clapping. He is like, my ears are hot right now. Feel you. Tight chest, jaw clenched. That temple. Pulsating heat rising, shallow breathing, racing throats, Tunnel vision. Anybody shake when they're angry? Anybody ever made you so mad? You like, you know what? Everything you done to me, the anointing is all over her. No, it's not. That's not the anointing. That's a different shaky hand right there. You got one more time. Anger isn't the problem. Suppression is unprocessed. Anger becomes resentment. Unspoken. Anger becomes distance stored. Anger becomes depression. Ignored. Anger becomes overreaction. Anybody ever overreacted to a situation? Cause you was angry, but you never actually articulated it. And then it just all spilled out, and everybody in the room was like, I don't think I just asked you what flavor ice cream you wanted. I did not know that the ice cream was gone. But you still mad about something seven years ago you never addressed. And so now you have a tally of offenses in your ledger that you never brought up. And then one day, you don't bring that up. You bring it all up. Anger becomes dangerous when it becomes your interpreter. Ooh, help me with this, Holy Ghost. When anger becomes the filter by which you read your relationships, Anger begins to rewrite motives. Because you're looking through the lens of your anger now. You're rewriting everyone's motives according to the anger that you have unresolved on the inside of your body. Anger begins rewriting meaning. Now this is when people start getting cynical. Somebody blesses you. You were like, for what? Do you know? We live in such a cynical, bitter, angry society that if you bless somebody, they're like, what's the catch? And you like, it's a Starbucks coffee, sir. Stop. There's no catch. It's just a latte. Receive it. Hey, pay for the car behind me. The car pulls up. Hey, that person in front of you paid for your food. For what? It's just waffle fries, sir. Just. Anger begins to rewrite memory.

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Is unresolved, all your memories get revised. Thank you, Holy Ghost. Ooh, I'm gonna say that again. When anger is unresolved, all your memories get revised. So the whole marriage has been bad. It ain't ever been good. But you looked very happy at Disney World. I wasn't even happy then. It was a fake smile. But you redeemed your vows on your 10 year anniversary. And you were weeping. I was mad. But you told him you loved him. I didn't mean it. I've gone through this. Has all been in my therapy sessions, my counseling sessions. I've heard it all. Anger begins rewriting identity. Not only do you not see others the same, you can't see yourself the same because, let's not get it twisted. Not everybody in here is mad at somebody out There Some of us are mad at who we are in here. Which brings us to movement three. Everybody say movement three. Triggers and dysregulation. We have to find Christ in the crash out. And since most of our triggers center around anger, we have to figure this part out. First thing I want you to know about this is that a trigger is not a sin, it's a signal. Anytime we're triggered, it's not sinful to be triggered. This entire series is not to get you never to be triggered again. You gon be triggered. But when you're triggered, what do you do with trigger? The trigger. So it's not a trigger, it's not a sin to be triggered. That is a signal. Okay, Something's going wrong. A trigger is the moment your body remembers what your mind forgot. The body is what keeps the score. Mentally, you can forget a lot of stuff. Your body will not forget a thing. There's a story told of a little baby who's parents ran the water that they were going to bathe their baby in a little too hot. And so when they got ready to sit the baby down, it scald them. And they immediately picked up their legs and started crying. Now this baby I'm talking is months old when it was getting this bath. The next time that the water is drawn and they got ready to lower that baby in, that baby put them legs all the way up to the end its ears. It did yoga mid descent because the body kept the score. We are in the same environment where there is water running. And I remember the last time I got burned. I don't even have language or words to articulate the pain that I felt the last time you tried to submerge me in this water. But my body knows that if I'm in this situation again, legs up. You not about to get me again. Put your hand on your chest. Repeat after me. I will be kinder to my body's reminders. Say it again. I will be kinder to my body's reminders. Your body is not betraying you, it's informing you. We've been through this before. I'm not really trying to spaz out, but this seems familiar. Ooh, it is so much. Okay, okay. Dysregulation equals my body feels unsafe. Get this. Even if I am safe, I gotta say that again. Body dysregulation is My body feels unsafe. Even if I am safe. Anybody beside me have environmental trauma. Environmental trauma means that you grew up in a home or a neighborhood or in conditions that were very dangerous or they were very unsafe. I grew up in the hood. I grew up where gunshots just. Those weren't fireworks. They was shooting, okay? Helicopters. Called them the ghetto birds. Everybody from LA understands them. Ghetto birds flying flashing lights in the backyard. To this day, if I go to a restaurant, because of my environmental trauma, I will never sit with my back to a door. If I get to a restaurant late and somebody's already in the chair I need to be in, I'm like, hey, man, you good? And they're like, yeah, I'm good. I'm like, hey, are you against me having that seat? And they're like, I mean, why? I'm like, do you have a gun? And they're like, no. I'm like, I do. Get up. I need to sit there. You gonna want me in this seat. If somebody in the 1 in 300,000 chance wants to come in this Cheesecake Factory and set it off, you gonna want me to get off too quick. You want me here? Sir, you don't want to be there if I. Because then I gotta turn around and then the alignment. Okay, let me. Tim, who's coming after you in Cheesecake Factory? Nobody. But my body says, don't have your back to the door. So even when I'm safe, the dysregulation is, I feel unsafe even if I am safe. When triggered, the nervous system shifts into fight, flight, freeze or fawn where my fighter's at. When somebody audibly, Whoop, whoop. When you're giving a police signal, you're telling us you have priors, your testimony, service is valid, ma'. Am. Where are my fighters? Whoop, whoop. All right. Those are my flight. Those are my fighters. Where are my people that take flight? You run. You like, Bye. Right? You're like, danger, dysregulation by. Hang up the phone, leave the presents, leave the house. I'm out, right? I don't have time for it. I'm leaving. Okay, good. Where are the people that freeze you? Just like. Your body gets dysregulated and you're like. You just turn into a possum. You're like, maybe if I stand real still, they won't stand see me anymore. How many of us. Fawn. Fawn is when you're just like. You just try to make the situation better. You're just like, oh, no, I love you. No, don't be mad. I made your sandwich. Your sandwich is. Do you want cereal? I'll give you cereal. Will you. Can you not. I'm just. It's real stuff and I appreciate a church that's honest enough. And I hope all of us that are watching live in TCNation be honest enough to identify where you are, identify who you are, identify how your body shows up in these instances. This is where anger often shows up. You don't have to calm down to find Christ. Christ meets you in the moment that you crash out. He's not. He's not like, when you're finished crashing out, come find me said another way. I hope we get to the point where that. That we can go straight to God in the crash out like we've identified it in our body and we're like God right now. I am so angry. I'm ready to spin the block. 11 people know. Please don't spin the block. Christ is present in the spike, not after it. He's present in the shutdown. He is present in the overwhelm. Thank you, Holy Spirit. The disciples crashed out on the boat when Christ was asleep. He didn't come out and go, calm down. Do you understand what all the shock and awe is about? It's just some wind and rain.

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Me. Oh, I am. He's present in the eruption. He's present in the eternal collapse, the internal collapse. He's right there. He wants to be right there. And we have to stop running from Him. Thank you, Holy Spirit. We have to stop being believers that. That try to go into his presence like we got it all together. When he knows your ways and your thoughts way before, he already knows how you feel and we'll still come to him and not even be truthful. Your anger is revealing where your healing is calling. Your anger is revealing where your healing is calling. Find if you can point to your anger, I can point to where you need to heal. If you can point to where it hurts, I can give you what you need to heal. Which brings me to movement.

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Say movement forward. There are two types of anger. There's only two types. Exploders and imploders. There are people that are Explosive in their anger. And you have people that are implosive in their anger. There is an anger that acts outwardly, and there's an anger that acts inwardly. I want to give you my two biblical case studies for explosive anger and implosive anger. The explosive anger. I want to use Moses as the example. We know that Moses has explosive anger because his narrative, after this miraculous saving of his life with his mother, putting him into a basket and floating him down the Nile river, and he is drawn out of the water by Pharaoh's daughter. He is raised in Pharaoh's house. There is an internal fight that he has had for years and years and years, understanding that his identity is Hebrew, but that his upbringing has been Egyptian. And holding. The tension of those two finally overflows to him. Seeing an Egyptian harming and hurting one of his Hebrew brothers by descent. And he rises up and kills the Egyptian, like, on sight, like no light. Hey, man, what are you doing over there? The explosive anger just comes out, and he kills bro. So here is what years and years of unaddressed anger does to Moses. Adonai spoke to Moses, saying, take the staff and gather the assembly. You and your brother Aaron speak to the rock before their eyes, and it will give out its water. Let me stop there. They had already had, in a previous situation, a moment where they were at this same rock, and they needed water to come out of the rock. And the instruction given to Moses was to take his staff and hit the rock. When he hit the rock, water gushed out enough for everyone in the nation of Israel's thirst to be quenched. They now come back to the same rock, and God tells Moses, this time, do not hit that rock. You don't need to. Just speak to it. Okay? Now, this is okay. I'm gonna take my time. You will bring out water from the rock and give the community something to drink. So Moses took the staff from Adonai's. What? What? He took the staff from Adonai's presence as he had commanded him. Moses and Aaron gathered the assembly in front of the rock. He said to them, listen now, you rebels. Shall we bring you water from this rock? Okay, can we just stop real quick? All right. He's in the presence of the Lord Adonai. What would you like me to do? I want you to take this staff, gather the assembly. You and your brother Aaron speak to the rock before their eyes, and it will give out its water. You will bring out water from the rock and give to the community something to drink. He's like, hallelujah, thank you, Jesus. Well, not Jesus, but thank you, Adonai. Amen. And in between God's presence and the people's presence. Bro, crashed out that quick? Can we just be honest about our humanity? You can be in your prayer room for three hours and come out of that holy moment where the glory of God saturated the atmosphere. You listen to you sustain four times in a row and come out in two minutes. And your kids made you forget all that glory came out of the presence of God. You sustained. You sustained. What in the. What are y' all doing? Didn't I tell you? Come out. Come. Come. Why is there water on this carpet? Why is there water on this carpet? Why is there a juice in the tv? How do you get juice in the tv? Song still playing in the background. You sustain. You sustain. Listen now, you rebels. His anger not only erupted towards the people, it made him forget his identity. What you talking about? Shall we bring you water of this rock? Moses, you ain't bringing nobody no water. Why did you think it was y' all all of a sudden? This is God. Then Moses lifted up his hand and struck the rock twice with his staff. Let me tell you how gracious God is. He did not penalize the people. For Moses, anger. Water came out in abundance. Because the man of God's anger does not mean that the people need to be penalized. And the community and their livestock drank. But Adonai said to Moses and Aaron, because you did not trust me, you will not bring this assembly into the promised Land. Please write this down. I know I said you can't write down everything, but you better write this down. Anger will disqualify you from the Promised land. Anger will sure enough disqualify you from the Promised Land. God watched what Moses did. And Moses, literally, by definition, used God's name in vain. Because it has more to do with what you than what you say. It has more to do with what you do. When you use God's name in vain, it has nothing to do with what you say. Most times, it's what you do. And what he did was misrepresent God to the people. And in that one move, he lost the Promised Land. God said, you can't even. I. No. Now, from God's presence to the people's presence, this wasn't one moment of anger. This was 40 years of unprocessed anger. Moses didn't just get mad. He had been mad. And to come out and be like, you want water? Since y' all want so much water, take it. Can you imagine the people. Moses is angry. Moses wasn't triggered by that moment. He was triggered by years of moments. His explosion at the rock was the overflow of decades of unspoken frustration. Exploders store anger as pressure. I can't even go past that point yet. Exploders store anger as pressure. You never know when the volcano is going to erupt. People around you stop trusting you because they don't know which you they gonna get. We don't know if you're going to be Bruce Banner or the Hulk because we don't know when that pressure valve is gonna break. You just pop off and we don't. We don't know when it's gonna happen. We don't know if it's gonna be good morning, hey, good morning, or good morning, good morning. If you that mad at 8am the sun went down on your anger and that's how you rose up with it because you went to sleep on it. It ain't going away because you slept it off. It's going to actually gain more pressure when it bursts. The reaction is disproportionate to the event. I talked about this earlier. When you see people that have explosive anger, when they do pop off, it don't even match what we doing right now. It's like, hey, man, are we gonna go play golf or are we not gonna play? I mean, if y' all gonna play golf, just say it. I'm tired of all this back and forth and it's like, you, you know what? This. I don't even think you're mad at me. I don't know. I think you're mad your dad left and this pressure that you've never processed. So now we talking about golf. And golf is your dad that never played with you. Moses obeyed God with his feet, but disobeyed God with his heart. I can't tell you how many angry preachers there are. I had this visual earlier when I was just in the back and just praying about this because I see everything in pictures. I saw. I just had a picture of the preachers that be slamming on the Bible as they're preaching. And the Holy Spirit just said, that's what it's like to strike the rock in 20, 25. Water is ready to come out, but they so mad about whoever they mad at, they had a counseling session Wednesday and they got to preach a sermon Sunday. But 30 minutes of the 45 minute message is actually about the person they counseled Wednesday, pressure. So now let me give you, how many exploders do we have in the room. Thank you. Be honest, you explode. Thank you. I just. The honesty is so refreshing. Good. Okay. Because again, if you don't know who you are, you're gonna continue to repeat the same behavior until you can at least admit, this is who I am. So let me give you the implosive anger. How many imploders do we have in the room? I'm an imploder. Okay. My dad, my older brother, and my younger brother, who's in heaven now. And my daddy's in heaven now, too. Wow. So they were exploders. I grew up in a family with explosive men. And the Ross temper was a dis. Ease within the family that we kind of carried with some pride. Oh, he got that Ross temper. I didn't want the Roth temper. And so I wound up the imploder. I wasn't explosive with my anger. I was the imploder. I kept it in. My anger went in. So let me tell you who else was an imploder in scripture. The older brother of the father that had the two sons. So Luke chapter number 15, 25 through 30, here's what it says. Now, the older son was in the field. As he came near the house, he heard music and dancing. He called one of the servants and asked what was going on. The servant told him, your brother has come. This was the prodigal son that went out and spent all his money, took his daddy's inheritance, tricked it off, did all kind of foolishness with it, and then came back home broke, busted, disgusted, but still a son. Amen. So the older son never left. He asked what was going on. Verse number 27. The servant told him, your brother has come and your father has killed the fatted calf because he got him back safe and sound. But the older son became angry and was unwilling to go in because implosive anger does not act out, it turns inward. We withdraw. We get petty. Right? We never gonna pop off at you and get loud with you, but we will punish you with our silence. We will turn our silence into violence. Cause we can't confront you. We can't articulate our anger like we want to. So we just. I ain't going in there. Oh, they over here. I'm not going in there. Oh, they gonna be at the family reunion. You know what? I have something to do that day. Who's preaching today? I don't like him because the last sermon wasn't that good, so. But the older son became angry and was unwilling to go in. So his father came outside and pleaded with him, but. But he Answered his father. And this is what happens with implosive anger. When you push it in a corner, it comes out like this. Look, any imploders in the room can relate. They push you, push you, push you. And you finally, like. Look, let me tell you something. Turned into a Dominican. Let me tell you something. What you not gonna do? What you not gonna do? That's a Dominican. Italian. Tim, calm down. I didn't get either one of them right. I just mashed them together. Look, so many years I've slaved for you, and you never neglected a command of yours. And I never neglected a command of yours. Yet you never gave me a young goat. Revisionist history. He was waiting for a goat he already got. This boy could have had goat anytime he wanted. He never left the house. And also, he's the oldest son. Everything that was. That was in his father's house was going to go directly to him. It wasn't going to go to his brother. But anger will give you revisionist history about the way you see yourself in the family unit. You never gave me a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. But when this son of yours. Anger will make you distant. It will make you reframe the relationship. That ain't my mama. That's your mama. Your child is tripping, huh? But when this son of yours came, the one who squandered your property with prostitutes. See how petty that is? You bringing up the past. This man has been restored. He's been fulfilled. Oh, oh, oh, you brought the one that been with all them hoes. You got him over. Oh, you killed a goat for him, the whoremonger. Oh, you let the alcoholic come over. Oh, you had a party for the alcoholic. Oh, you got the crackhead here. They get to come to the Thanksgiving. Oh, so the crackhead gets to sit at the. Okay, they get to have ham too. Petty much. The one who squandered your property with prostitutes. Then you kill that fatted calf for him. Exclamation. Mark him. The older brother held anger quietly for years. He never exploded. He simmered. Imploders store anger as resentment. They don't burst outward, they collapse inward. Silent anger eventually becomes relational sabotage. He followed all the rules, but none of the rules healed. His heart imploders. Think if I do the right thing, then I'll get the right stuff. But if your heart's not right, you can do all the right things and still not have. Okay. Thank you. Okay, you'll have all. You'll do all the right things, but you can't enjoy none of the stuff. This boy has never left the house. He has all his father's blessings, but he can't enjoy it because he mad at somebody else. Instead of praying for his brother, joining his father in prayer for his brother, he. He mad at his brother and then mad at his daddy for caring for his brother. Ooh, how many believers are like that? You mad at one of God's kids and then mad at God for blessing his kid when that's your brother, but that's no longer your brother when they're not doing what you want them to do. So that's them over there. Which brings us to movement five. Say movement five. Jesus and anger. The redemptive model. Cause a lot of people like to justify their anger with the fact that Jesus got angry. And when Jesus got angry, he braided a belt and he flipped over tables, and that's me. I'm Jesus. No, you're not. No, you're not. He can be in you, but you're not him. Thank God I'm not him. Thank God you're not him. We're not him. So this is Matthew, chapter number 21, verses 12 and 13. Then Yeshua entered the temple and drove out all those selling and buying in the temple. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the seats of those selling doves. And he said to them, it is written, my house shall be called a house of prayer, but you are making it a den of thieves. We read this and we're like, yeah, I'm Jesus. I'll flip the tables. Don't cross me. You better try Jesus. Don't try me because I throw these hands. It's a dope song, but it's not like our biblical posture. We should not be throwing hands. We should be praying for those that despitefully use us. We should be loving our enemies. We should be treating our neighbor like ourselves. So Jesus expressed his anger with clarity, not chaos. His anger was clean. It was not contaminated by insecurity or ego. I got to say that part again. His anger was clean. It was not contaminated by insecurity or ego. His anger produced alignment, not alienation. His anger protected the vulnerable, not punished the innocent. Jesus shows us anger can be holy when it is honest and directed. Well, let me say it this way. Jesus flipped tables, not people. He only got rid of what was not supposed to be in his Father's house. We should not be selling in the Father's house. I'm breaking this table. I'm not breaking you. You can be restored, but but you. What you can't do is pervert this atmosphere. I'll never forget when I was thinking about this moment, I was thinking about the one time we. We. We couldn't listen to explicit content when we were growing up in our house. I had a hole in this house. My mom and daddy was the. The Pentecostal Huxt. I want you to think Cliff and Claire, but speaking in tongues. And that was Charles and Maxine Ross. And so they told us, we don't want you listening to secular music in the house. And we don't want you especially listening to explicit content music. Well, we had a stash of tapes. Cause I'm 50. We had a stash of tapes and my mom found them and she broke them all. And then she took a little pencil and pulled the tape out and just started doing this. In the name of. I told you not to bring it in here. She broke the tape. She didn't break us. She took out of our room what we didn't take out of our hearts. That's a righteous anger. Again, anger is information. Who am I actually mad at? Movement six. Say movement six, last movement. And we done how to deal with anger before it deals with you. How do we deal with our anger before it deals with us? Point number one, you have to name it. Who or what am I actually angry at? You cannot heal what you refuse to identify. We have to stop lying to ourselves and telling ourselves that we're not mad at anything. I got mad at God in a nuclear way when my brother got killed in a car accident September 17th of 2020 of 2004. He was killed in an auto accident. A double tractor trailer put out in front of him. He struck it. Blunt force trauma. Died instantly. I was angry with God for four months. I told him, I'm never gonna preach for you again. I don't like you. And the language was way more colorful than that. If you've ever watched my podcast, it was Podcast Timmy. It was not Preacher Timmy. Okay? So I went smooth offs, okay? And there's. I know he's a holy God and he's sovereign and you can't. You gotta approach him a certain way. He's a dad. He is holy, he is sovereign and he's a dad. Everybody in here, most everybody in here. Unless you were just in a crazy situation in a parental dynamic. You had that one moment. Anybody ever had that one moment where you popped off at your parent and look at you. You still here, huh? You know, you should be dead down in your grave. Your bed should be your cooling board. You think about it later. You're like, oh, my. How did I. I should be dead. I was not in my right mind. My anger was valid. The way that I expressed it was not. God is so gracious that he let me have my tantrum because I was telling the truth about my pain. I was bitter losing my brother, and I took it to his presence, and he healed me. Not instantly, but he healed me. Express it safely. Anger is energy. It must move. That's why we went through these movements, because I want you to understand what it means to move. Anger is energy. It must move. Moses problem wasn't feeling anger. It was avoiding expression until eruption. We were doing counseling one time, my wife and I, and she was like, timmy and I, you know, we don't argue, like, we have conversations, and we don't raise our voice. And I'm like, thank God for Grace, because when we first got married, I'm just a naturally loud person and demonstrative and passionate, and that would shut her down. And so I had to get a new voice. I had to get an FM DJ voice. Quiet storm. Hey, babe. I'm angry with you right now, but always and forever, this moment with you is just like a dream to me, has somehow came true. Oh, but I'm mad, though. But come and talk to me. I really want to know your name. It worked. It worked. But then she was like, and we don't call each other out of, you know, we never call each other out of our names. And I kind of chuckled like. And she was like, what? You've never called me out of my name. And I was like, not to your face, but I got it out of my body in a safe place that didn't permanently damage her perspective of me. So whether that's in therapy or I get on the phone with one of my friends, and I'm like, you know what? This. Oh, let's go. Ah, I can't stand her. But she's so pretty, though. If she wasn't pretty, I'd leave her now. I would leave her right now. But she's so fine. But. Oh, and walk in the house like, hey, babe, you good? What are you eating today? Don't be, Moses. Moses should have been. While he was still in God's presence, he should have been like, I can't stand them people out there. All they do is complain. They get on my nerves. I went up to get your commandments and came down. They was naked. They was naked. Everybody was naked, having a whole orgy. I Was gone for like, seven hours. How? How? We had just split the Red Sea. And I came back down. They was butt booty naked. How is this possible? And my brother got the nerve to say he don't know what happened. It was a golden calf. You don't just. Gold don't just come out of calf. Brother's a liar dog. Then he should have just came out. Hey, rock water. That's what should have happened. It didn't happen. Bring it to God first. I just talked about this. God is not intimidated by honesty. I just. If you don't get nothing else from today, I promise you, he does not care. You can talk as reckless as you want, and when you get done with it, you're like, okay, okay. Thank you, my God. Thank you so much for being a blessed savior. For being. I mean, think about it. Like, Peter looked Yeshua dead in the eye and said, I'll never leave you, then denied him three times. You know what the Lord's response was? Breakfast. That's what I'm saying. We can't be Jesus. I'm not coming back for bro. I blessed your fishing business. You and your daddy's fishing business popped off because of me. You saw all the miracles. I blessed you with power to do the same stuff. I did. And then when I get locked up, you deny me three times in front of a little girl. And then I'm gonna make you my main preeminent preacher. No, I'm not. Where John at? I mean, Petey, I ain't gonna kick you off the set. But what I am gonna say is, you're not the capo no more. He's not intimidated. Communicate before you accumulate. That's spicy. Communicate before you accumulate. The older brother's silence was decades of emotional dishonesty. Let me tell you what. Let me tell you how imploders. Let me tell you how we rock. How you doing today? Fine. Hey, man. You good? Yep. You seem a little distant. No, I'm good. I'm good. Are you sure? Oh, for sure. For years. I'm good, I'm good. I'm good. Years and years and years go by. I'm good, I'm good. And then one day. Look, you said you was good. Let Christ redirect it. Anger can become clarity. Anger can become advocacy. Anger can become compassionate. Anger can become purpose. Anger can become healing. My sister. My God sister. I was talking to her last night, and she sent me this. And I just thought it was profound. The inability to regulate the nervous system is at the root of all violence. If people learn to regulate their nervous systems, homicides, suicides, rape, political unrest and wars would cease. Couples, families, congregations, communities and nations would heal. If we can recognize our triggers in the moment, dysregulate and re regulate. Ain't nobody going to prison. Ain't nobody being abused. Ain't nobody catching the case. Nobody's breaking a relationship, nobody's self sabotaging their career, their marriage, because we can actually own it, identify it, and then allow God to heal it. The anger that we refuse to deal with will become the crash out we never saw coming. I cannot tell you how many people in ministry and out crash out and go, I don't know how I got here. It never came out of your mouth, so it came out of actions. Your body, thank you, Holy Spirit. Your body is never going to let your mouth get away with the lies it's telling on it. Hear me. Your body is your. Your body is never going to let your mouth get away with the lies you're telling on it. You are not fine. Stop saying it. I'm saying this out of experience, not out of theory. I got sexually abused when I was eight years old. I. By a neighbor that lived across the street from me. When I came home, my mom said, how was your day? I said, fine. Eight years old. I knew I was lying. I knew in this moment I felt like I could not tell the truth about the experience that I was having because I was going to blow my whole family up. My daddy was going to kill him. My brother was going to bury him. I knew it. I just knew it. And I'm 8 years old. I can't. No. Because then. And then mama we going to be by herself and then we. We probably gonna have to move back to like the hood hood. Cause we just like, we got out of. You know how you get out the hood hood and you at you like in a better part of a steel hood. Like this hood got a swimming pool. Like you just okay. It's a little upgrade. I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine. I lived with that Fritz. 11 years of silence between 8 and 19 years old. Until my mom caught me watching pornography. And I could no longer say, I'm fine. And that night I told her the truth about why I was medicating with pornography and masturbation. And my whole life changed. My life has not been the same since that day. There was a progression of freedom and a progression of healing that had to take place. But in the almost 30 years that I've been a believer in Jesus Christ. I've been in therapy for 28. And all I do now is sit on the couch and try to help people open up and tell the truth about what their body has experienced. Because if you can do that, then you can truly live in freedom. So message is over. Anybody whose anger has a hold on you more than you have a hold on it, this is your altar call. Come now. Don't clap. So proud of y'. All. Like, super proud of y'. All. You can live with it. Don't let it live with you. You can live with it. Just don't let it live with you. We've lost too many relationships over it. It's not cute no more. Maybe when we were little. Oh, man, he got a temper, bro. That's bro. And knock you out. Don't cross him. That's cool at, like, 15, it's not cool. At 25, you look dumb. At 35, you're alone. At 45, nobody wants to hang with you no more. I'm told my dad had a violent temper. God did such a miraculous work in his life. I still don't believe him when he would tell me, man, I. I had such a temper. My mom would tell him, oh, daddy had a temper. He'd break everything, punch holes in walls. It's like when you. When you look at. When you come back to yourself and the lamp is broken. It's like you need light, though. When there's a hole in the wall, you gotta patch it. You break the relationship. You gotta mend it. And at some point, it's just like, okay, the anger. The anger is a signal. What is it really telling me? It really ain't got nothing to do with you. I keep taking it out on you. You ain't got nothing to do with it. I'm mad because I've been alone since I was a child. I'm mad because I had to teach myself how to be a man. I'm mad cause my mom actually thought I was competing with her for the attention of my dad, who happened to be her husband. I'm just mad. Altar call, like, this is just meant for you to just tell your body, like, to finally confess.

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All right?

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You were right. That is me. It keeps coming up, and I can't keep blaming it on other stuff. It's. That's me. So I just want to pray with you. For some of you, you might have, like, a miraculous moment where you walk away from this and you ain't ever mad again. And for others of us, it's just going to be some work. We're going to be triggered, and then we're going to have to make the. I can't do that. I can't do that. I can't meet with them because I'm gonna say something crazy. But, God, give me a week. I know I have to meet him, but let me get this out in a safe place and so I can meet with this person and engage them in a godly way. I went through this earlier this year. I had a situation in a business relationship, and I was all the way back in Inglewood. It. I was like, I'mma get this dude. And the Lord was like, you going to get him? Vengeance is the Lord's. He will repay. If there's a reason why he's so possessive with the word, vengeance is mine. He can't keep us from the emotion, but he keeps us from the action. Because on our best day. Day, we cannot exact righteous judgment. On our best day is still going to be wicked. So let's pray, shall we? God, I thank you for my brothers and sisters. For your sons and daughters, I thank you that right now you give us grace in our anger. God, I pray that whatever roots have grown down because of. Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit. I just want you. The Holy Spirit is just telling me to tell you this. Your anger is valid. I just want to acknowledge and affirm that your anger is valid. What you've been mad about is actually valid. The way you've been trying to handle it is not. They did hurt you. They did wrong you. They did betray you. They did abuse you. They did lie to you. They did betray you. You're not wrong for feeling the anger. But we cannot allow our reaction to be a mismatch to God's. So, Holy Spirit, I pray that you would take our anger. We just put it before you right now. We lay it on the altar and we say, holy Spirit, help us to deal with this the way you want us to deal with it. Help us to process it the way you want us to process it. Help us to heal the way you want us to heal. Help us to see ourselves again the way you see us. Help us to see the other person, whoever offended us the way you see them. God, heal our hearts from the inside out. We uproot the roots that keep bringing poison fruit. We uproot the roots that keep producing poison fruit. Fruit and God, we allow the seeds of forgiveness and love and purity and kindness to grow down new roots so that we can produce New fruit in Jesus name. Amen.

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So bowed every eyes still closed. Want to take a moment. If you're in this room or you're watching online, and you've never accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you've never fully given your life to him, not just in an ethereal way, not just in a small way, but you've never laid your life down and said, said, I cannot drive anymore. I do not want control. I want to give everybody watching online and in this room an opportunity to accept Jesus. Some of you, the reason you're so frustrated and you've been fighting is because you feel like you had nobody to fight for you. But I'm telling you, Jesus is the one you have been looking for, and he is the only person that can help you with this. So here's what I'm going to do. If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you want a fresh start with God, you want a new beginning, I am going to count to three. On the count of three, you're going to raise your hand in this room and online. And what happens when you raise your hand is you're saying, I give up control of my life. I do not want it my way. I ultimately want something bigger, better, and stronger than me, to live on the inside of me and to help me actually do and become who I say I want to do and who I want to become. I'm going to count to three, and you're going to raise your hand boldly in this room and online. You want to accept Jesus.

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1.

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He loves you. 2. Today is the day of salvation. 3. Lift your hand all over this room and online.

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Come on.

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You want to accept Jesus? I see you over here.

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I got you, dog. A whole family over here.

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I see both of you. I'm so proud of you. I got you, sister.

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Oh, come on, y'. All.

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We got people. I got you right here, my man. Right here on the front. So proud of you. I see you, sister. I got you. Hey, as a family, as a community, can everybody pray this prayer out loud? Repeat after me. Say, dear God, I admit I'm a sinner. I need a savior.

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Change me.

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Transform me, make me new. I lay it all down. I am yours. In Jesus name I pray. Amen. Can we celebrate? People who choose just made the decision to follow Jesus. And listen, if you just made that choice today, it is the best decision you could ever make in your life. Your life is forever different. And here's the big thing I want you to know. 1. I want you to tell somebody. Tell somebody around you to text your mama, tell a friend, tell somebody you made the decision. It's the best decision you could ever make. And we'd also, as a church, love to know about it. If you tell text the word saved to 828282. We're here to help you now, to follow out and live this life that Jesus has called us to live. And we're so proud you made that decision.