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You're listening to the Travis Makes Money podcast presented by GoHighLevel.com for a free 30 day trial of the best all in one digital marketing software tool on the planet, just go to gohighlevel.com travis hey everybody, welcome back to the show. Today is just me, you and the mic. It is our solo show for the day and we're wrapping up our top 25 questions to change your life. Little, I guess series, I guess you could call it miniseries, I suppose that we've gone over the last few episodes and today we're, we're wrapping that up. So if you have missed those episodes, then be sure to go back to questions to ask yourself numbers one through four because this is number five. And so we're going to jump right into where we left off last time. And then we'll just really quickly review these, these questions as sort of a wrap up to the series and then we'll move along. Next question on the list. What am I pretend not to know? What am I pretending not to know? A lot of times we find that we actually do know the things that we should be doing. But for whatever reason we are deluding ourselves into believing that we don't know what we should be doing. So one of the ways to figure this out is what would I counsel somebody else in my position to do? What? Knowing everything I know about this situation, what would I tell somebody else to do? Because a lot of times it's just easier to tell somebody else to do something. It seems more obvious, right? Other potential frame for this is sort of imagine your life is a movie. And what would the audience be screaming at the TV because they're so frustrated they the character, the main character is not seeing the next step forward. What would the audience be screaming at the TV like, man, you, you know, it's so obvious you should be doing this thing or you should be letting go of this toxic relationship or you should be entering into this new career here what would you be yelling? What would people be yelling at the screen if your life was a movie? And it's sort of like the. What am I pretending not to know? Like, what are the things that, you know, what, what, what am I, what am I pushing deep down? You know what I mean? Like, what are the bad habits that I have that I'm just kind of pretending to not care about or not know about? Like, you know, or if you're over consuming alcohol or something like that. It's like you can pretend to not know if you're, if you're smoking cigarettes. It's like, we know these things are bad, but you sort of pretend to not know along the way or you've convinced yourself that some version of it is okay. So what am I pretending not to know right now? Because that's probably an indicator of the thing that deserves a good amount of your attention to change. Next question. Am I building a life I actually want or the life that someone else will applaud? The life that somebody else wants for you? Are you climbing the right mountain? You know, are this something I realized pretty early on now I recognize my situation was a little bit different because I grew up in this sort of like fundamentalist cult background. And so I, I was almost like forced to figure it out early on because I was about to dedicate my entire life to doing something that I wasn't 100% bought into making sure that I was going to do. So I had to sort of throw everything up in the air at the beginning of my career when I was in my early 20s, and ask myself this question. Am I going to, Am I taking the first step to building the life that I actually want? Or am I only, am I only doing this because I know this is what everybody in my life really wants me to do and has wanted me to do for the past Dec. Since I committed to it when I was 12, you know, so the answer to that question for me was no, I was not building the life that I actually wanted. And then you enter even potentially scarier territory, which is not knowing what life you want. That is, I think that's one big reason that people just climb whatever mountain they've been given to climb. You know, they, they, they build the life that somebody else wants for them. Because, frankly, it's a little bit easier sometimes. Sometimes actually achieving the thing that you want is actually more difficult than knowing what it is that you want to begin with. So I think some people just go, well, I don't know exactly what I'D be doing otherwise. So I'm just going to attack this thing and they don't ever do the work to figure out if it's something they actually want. And then you look back in 10 years, 15 years, 20, 25 years, and you realize that you've put all the effort and energy and work into climbing a mountain that you didn't care to climb to begin with. So am I building a life that I actually want, or a life that somebody else will applaud? If you've never asked yourself this question, then odds are you're probably living a version of life that somebody else handed to you. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean that it's the wrong version, right? I want to be clear about that. That doesn't mean that just because somebody else instilled this value in you or convinced you that this path was important, that does not mean that it's not worthy of your time and attention. And that does not mean that it's not the path that you should be going down. But it does mean that you should at least be willing to ask the question. And if you're not willing to ask the question, then that could be an indicator that you're really, really only doing this because you literally don't know what else to do. And it feels safer to pursue a path of certainty than it does to pursue a path of uncertainty. So am I building the life that I actually want, or the life that somebody else wanted for me? By the way, I think that you will always feel more fulfillment chasing the life that you want, even if you end up with a different version of it than you will in the achievement of the life that somebody else wanted for you. So it's really important to ask yourself that question from time to time. Next, which version of me am I rewarding with today's choices? My highest self or my laziest self? This is sort of along the same lines of the question that we asked ourselves a couple episodes ago, which is if every day were like today, what would this year look like?
