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you're listening to the Travis Makes Money podcast presented by gohighlevel.com for a free 30 day trial of the best all in one digital marketing software tool on the planet, just go to gohighlevel.com Travis, how do you take care of yourself on this episode? We're talking about self care. Welcome back to the show. My name is Travis. I am your host for today's episode where it's just me, you and the mic talking about some of the lessons that I've learned in the past almost decade of being in the podcasting space. All the people that I've been blessed to interview now probably close to a thousand, maybe over a thousand. I don't know, it's quite a few, a couple hundred books that I've read, thousands of podcasts that I've, hours that I've listened to. This is basically, here's some things that I've learned. Hopefully it's helpful to you. In today's episode we're talking about self care because in previous episodes we've talked about how fixing your relationship with yourself is probably the best thing that you can do to avoid loneliness creeping into your life. And so one of those areas I think is self care. And something that I had a lot of trouble with, to be honest with you, because when you're, when you sort of have this high level of ambition or you're pursuing something greater than yourself, you tend to just downplay everything that you do and you tend to, you tend to prioritize basically everything else in your life other than yourself. And what I've found really is that the, that your ability to contribute to the world around you is largely dependent on how full your cup is. You cannot fill up other people's cups if your cup is empty. So you have to have some sort of practice of self care in your life. So this episode is dedicated to some of the things that I found that I was doing. Like these are not just like, this isn't just based off of like a bunch of research that I prepared. This is basically just me saying here's a bunch of stuff that I was doing to myself. Why I think that is unfair. And then things that I'm doing to try to get myself out of treating myself that way. So let's run into a couple of these for this episode. First off, stop comparing yourself to others. We, we are, we are in the golden age of, of comparing yourself to other people. Before the Internet existed and especially before social media existed, it was, you know, people have still, still compared themselves to others, of course, like this. Something that's, that is just part of human nature that's been happening for thousands and thousands of years. But it's never been easier to do that than it is today because of the world of social media. Because you have the ability to, at the click of a button, you know, by 25 people, you have the ability to look at them and go, you know, well, they're, they're jacked and have a six pack. So I must be fat, I must be completely out of shape, I must just not be committed enough, you know, or, or they drive a Lamborghini and live in the penthouse and I'm still sharing a room with my brother or whatever. You know, it's, it's so easy to see these examples because you can follow people from all over the planet. And probably the reason that you're following people is that they have some version of life that you aspire have, or they've entertained you to some degree. Like those typically are the two things. You're either following somebody because of the entertainment they provide or because of the value they provide. Ultimately it's just value because entertainment is just another form of value. But it, it, it shows itself. The comparing yourself to others piece shows itself more when you follow these people for the sake of they have something that I want because you just are constantly being shown all of the highlights of everybody's life. So it can be difficult to not compare yourself to other people in that context. But the thing that you have to real comparison is obviously, first of all, it's the thief of joy. That's the, the, you know, the trite expression that everybody uses. Comparison is the thief of joy. And that, and that is true in most regards, but the reason that it's true is that you have no context into any other piece of these people's lives other than the things that they are intentionally showing you because they have some reason to show you that thing because it increases their follower account, it gets them more brand deals, it helps them sell more products and services. So they only allow you to see this fraction of their total lives online, which you then perceive as their entire life. And then you only see all the bad things that you're doing. You compare that to all the awesome things that they're doing. So in some ways it can be good because obviously it allowed knowledge to be ubiquitous. This episode of the show is brought to you by Mars Men. So look guys, I don't know if everybody listening knows this, but a couple years ago I was diagnosed with cancer. And around that time I also noticed that my testosterone levels were dropping like crazy. And, and I know that some of it was due to the fact that my body was sort of in disarray. But then I also learned through this experience that most men start losing testosterone levels around the age of 30. And then it starts just getting worse and worse after that. About 1% every year after that. 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It allows you to be able to cherry pick people that you listen to and people that you don't listen to. It gives you insight into how a bunch of other people can live, which I think is really cool because before it's like you didn't. People didn't even know that other versions of Life were available. You know what I mean? Like, the first version of this was like MTV Cribs, you know, like this was like the first version where people are like, people live like that. That's crazy. You know, and. And middle America was just like blown away by the fact like these people live their lives like this. Everybody has access to seeing that. So in. In a positive way, it can maybe offer some inspiration, maybe it can give you some motivation, maybe it can allow you to see what's possible with the world if you set your mind to doing it, doing whatever it is that you want to do. But then obviously the downside of it is that you're constantly comparing yourself to everybody's highlights in their life and not realizing that they have their own shit. Like the people that you're following that have these crazy physiques probably are on some sort of other substance that allows them to cheat the system to some degree. And I'm not necessarily vilify that. I'm just saying that that is the truth of the matter. Or you see that, you know, these, these manosphere guys are driving Lambos and have a bunch of models around them, but they're internally empty. Or their car got repoed for the third time because their crypto portfolio got decimated overnight. But they're not going to share any of that stuff with you because it won't allow them to sell more of their stuff to you. So they're going to continue trying to control the perception of what the audience has for them so they can continue to sell more shit. Just keep that in mind when you are scrolling social that there is always context to the other departments of their life. If you look at it that way and know that they have their own struggles and that the external results that they maybe have achieved does not have anything to do with the internal state that they may be feeling at any given time. So stop comparing yourself to others. Next, stop being so damn mean to yourself. Stop being so mean and cutting to yourself. It's wild to see this happen. And again, I'm saying this because this was me and a lot of ways still is me. If anybody in my life talked to me in the way that I allow myself to talk to me, I would cut them out of my life. You know what I mean? Like, it would be, I would be like, we'd be throwing down, like we'd be in an actual physical altercation if somebody said, said some of the things that I've thought to myself and allowed myself to accept as a truthful story. And it is so damaging. The, the, the words, the words that you use have meaning and you have to carefully choose those words. And you can't just go around thinking these really mean negative thoughts about whatever it is, your appearance, your work ethic, you know, you are not required to be mean and hateful to yourself in order to fix something about yourself that you don't like. That is requirement. You can change something without allowing yourself to be degrading, mean, rude, and the worst version of what a friend might look like. You gotta be a friend to yourself first, man. Like, you gotta allow yourself to be nice to yourself, to look at some of the things that you've done as, as a pat on the back and say, hey, good job, or hey, it doesn't mean that. It doesn't mean to not be realistic with yourself, right? Like if you, if you messed up, you gotta own up and realize, okay, I made a mistake there. What can I do now to fix that and solve it for the time where this situation gets presented to me? You can learn from your failures without hating yourself and without talking down to yourself, without being rude and cutting and mean all the time. And again, it's a great litmus test to just say these thoughts that I'm allowing in my mind, these words that I'm using to describe myself only to myself, would I allow anybody else in my life to speak to me in that manner. And if the answer is no, then you should not allow yourself to speak to yourself that way either. In Fact, you might, might even should have a higher standard for the way that you talk to yourself. So stop being so rude and mean and cutting and allow yourself a little bit of grace. Man, we're all just trying to figure out this life. Have a little bit of grace. Learn from your mistakes. Change the things that you, that you don't like, but don't do it in a way that makes you hate yourself. Because even if you fix it, it's not going to fix that problem. You're just going to keep finding. Like, if you tell yourself that you are lazy or you're a piece of shit or that you're terrible, then even when you do things that are counter to that narrative, it's not going to change that belief. You're just going to go find other things to confirm the fact that you think that you're terrible and lazy and a horrible person. Like, you're just, you're just going to go search for other evidence that those things are still true, even though you've put in the work that's required to make them not true. So it's a, it's a, it's a con. It's, it's a never. It is a battle that's never able to be won. And there's no prize for being rude and cutting to yourself or hateful of yourself. So stop being so damn mean to yourself. Next, stop letting others set the agenda for your life. This was very present in my mind, especially in my early 20s, just because I grew up the way that I grew up. I grew up in this sort of like fundamentalist, religious cult bubble, whatever you want to call it. And so my entire life was everybody setting the agenda for my life, telling me what I should believe, what I should do about what I believe, or what I should do about what they've told me I should believe. Everything came from, from other people. And even if you didn't grow up that way, there probably still is a lot of this stuff present in your life. Because every, everybody has different parents who have different beliefs. Everybody has different culture, different contexts, different teachers, different schools, different administrations, different political ideologies or religious beliefs. Everybody sort of has this, this package of, of the person that you should become. This is the, the version of the person that you should become. And this is what's presented to you. Therefore, that is what you adopt as the ultimate of success. And then you find yourself in your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, pursuing everything about life that you never really actually personally wanted or intended to pursue, just because that's the version of success that was packaged and handed to you at a young age that said, like, this is what you should do. So you should be willing to question that programming to a certain extent and ask yourself, is this what I really want? Or is this what my parents want for me? Is this what I really want? Or is this just what this person in my life, this mentor or teacher or professor or coach, is? Is this what this person would respect? And I want to earn their respect, Therefore I'm going to do this thing in order to gain that person's respect. It's like, well, what about the thing that you're going to respect you for? What about doing that because you are the only person that will spend every waking second of the rest of your life with you. Nobody else on this planet's going to do that. So stop fashioning everything in your life around the agenda and expectations of all the other people in your life. Even if people love you. That's the tough part, is because it's not always from this position of, these are people who don't want me to succeed and they're, they're rooting against me. It could be a lot of people like your parents who love you, love you, arguably more than anybody else on this planet could even comprehend could love you. Your parents are the ones who maybe love you the most out of all the people in the world. And they want you to be successful and they want you to be happy, and they want you to be fulfilled. But in their mind, because of things that they've learned, they're presenting this version of life to you to say that, like, this is the version that will give you all of those things. And maybe they're right, but maybe they're wrong. And if you don't ask yourself the questions, you're not willing to interrogate what that version of life looks like and ask yourself if it's what you actually want, then you could be living a life that is just for the purpose of pleasing everybody else around you, which is a denial of your inner self, which will inevitably force you into this feeling of subjective loneliness. Because you're not even willing to be honest with yourself about who you are or what you believe or what you want to achieve in this world. So even if you've achieved success in this other world and you have friends and you have family, you have people who love you, you feel this feeling of aloneness or this feeling of loneliness inside internally, because you don't. You've never even allowed yourself to get to know you you've never allowed yourself to set your own agenda for your own life. So the sooner that you can pursue whatever version of that agenda is that you've actually given to yourself, the more purpose you're going to find behind that, the more tied to the mission you're going to be, and the more likely you will be to stick in that thing long term and actually be happy pursuing that path, even if it brings you less mater than another path that was presented to you by somebody else in your life. So stop letting others just set the agenda for your life. And then lastly, stop neglecting your health. We're talking about self care here. I did this pretty early on where I was like, oh, none of that matters. I'm just gonna go try to make money as a sales guy and then 50 pounds later in like Disney wants to know Are you ready? Yes For Marvel Studio Studios Thunderbolts the New Avengers now streaming on Disney+ let's do this. One of the best Marvel movies of all time is now streaming on Disney.
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Like a year, it started affecting everything in my life. I was less confident. I didn't like the way that I looked. I felt, I felt bad just like my internal state was. Just to be fair, I didn't realize I felt that way because it happened so slowly and so incrementally over time. But then when I got healthy again, I started realizing like, oh, I have a little bit more energy to attack the day. I have a little bit more confidence in the way that I show up in the world. Don't neglect the health aspect of your self care. And by the way, my formula for this is fairly simple. I am not suggesting that you should go be a bodybuilder. I don't want to be a bodybuilder either. That's not my goal. I'm not trying to go compete in a fitness competition. I just want to be healthy. I want to be able to play with my kids without losing my breath. I want to be able to run up the stairs and grab my phone that I left without feeling like I'm about to pass out. I want to be able to put my shoes on without having to sit down, bend over and hold my breath while my belly spills over my belt. Like I, I just, I. My, the quality, the overall quality of my life has increased because I started taking my health seriously, which is a big version of self care and, and, and, and a big source of self respect by the, that you're making decisions that you don't want to make in the immediate term because you know that it's gonna benefit you long term. So here's just like some basic health guidelines that I think that should be in people's minds. First off, protein. Consume more protein. There's several reasons for this. First of all, huge indicator of longevity in life is muscle mass. And protein is what allows you to build more muscle. But also so if you are trying to maintain weight or, or you have trouble with weight management, you find yourself gaining weight all the time. The more meals that are full of protein that you have on a daily basis, the less likely you are to be hungry. It's the, the satiety that you get from eating protein dense meals will prohibit you from being snacky later on and want to go eat a bunch of other stuff that you shouldn't be eating. So get your fill of protein first, like make that the number one priority Prioritize, prioritize protein in your diet and then let the kind of fall where they may. Okay? And obviously again, take this advice with a grain of salt. Do your own research. But this is what I found to be really helpful for me. Protein over consume protein. Make pro protein your priority in your diet. Next thing is sleep. I don't even have time to go into all of the data and all of the research that that shows that sleep is one of the primary indicators of overall health and longevity and happiness and fulfillment. Like the, your overall, your, the way that you feel, the, your mood, your productiv. All of these things depend heavily on the, on the volume and quality of the sleep that you get in your life. So get better sleep. Next thing is water hydration. I'm not, you'll notice I'm not giving any secrets here, right. I'm not, I'm not talking about this new peptide and this new mineral or this new supplement that you can take that's going to solve all your problems because it's not a magic pill. It's just do the, do the 20% of things that's going to give you the 80% of the result and you're probably going to end up okay. So prioritizing protein, getting better sleep, making sure that you're properly hydrated, that you have, have actual, that you're drinking actual water or electrolytes throughout the day. Try to prioritize those types of things and you're going to find that you're going to feel a lot better. Next thing is exercise. Weight weight training in particular I think is really underrated and very important just strength training overall. Again, I don't have time to go into all the data and the research that I've read on these types of things, but weight training at least two days a week could be very, very helpful for again overall happiness, clarity, energy levels, obviously increased muscle mass, which is helpful for your ability to have longevity because the older you get, the more difficult it is to maintain that mass. So especially when you're younger, do as best as you can to do some weight training, eat some protein, gain some muscle so that as your muscle gets, you know, starts degrading over time that the, the place that you started at from where it starts degrading is much higher than the place that you would have been if you just neglected to ever do any weight training at all. So I think exercise is really important, especially strength training in, in general. And then lastly, most underrated activity I think is walking. There is a great study on this That I again, don't have time to go into and, but it was talking about how the average person gets like 4,500 steps a day or something, but that for every additional thousand steps that you get in a day, there was this crazy graph that. And you can google this or look it up or ask AI about it after you're done listening to this episode. If you want to see what I'm talking about, the graph just rises exponentially with every additional thousand steps that you get in a day. In terms of living a long and healthy life, your, your ability to have longevity in life is largely dependent on the steps that you put in on a daily basis. So just go for some walks. Like this does not. People get the idea that like, okay, I'm gonna commit to my health, that means I have to go train for a marathon. And it's like, well, that's a daunting thing. And there's a lot of people who have don't. Who don't have that as a goal of theirs at all. And they don't. That's not something that they're striving for. So when they hear these stories of, you know, the David Go of the world running 240 miles on the Moab, 240 or whatever, they're just like, oh, well, good for him. But I'm just not a runner. I'm never going to do that. It's like, you don't got to do that. If you just want to live a healthy, happy life, you don't have to be a professional athlete. Just go for more walks. Just make a habit of wake up first thing in the morning, grab a coffee, go for a mile walk, and then after dinner go for another mile walk. Just get in the habit of putting more steps in the day. These are the things that I've done that have been extremely helpful for me in my life, especially on the outside. So stop comparing yourself to others. Stop being so damn mean and cutting to yourself. Stop letting others set the agenda for your life and stop neglecting yourself or stop, stop neglecting your health rather. So those are some four steps to self care. Some things that I've found to be really helpful in my life. Hopefully they'll help you help you in yours as well. That's it for this episode of the show. Shoot me. Dm. Dm Travis Chappell over on Instagram or email me at travis travis chappell.com and any questions that you have, be happy to tackle those in a future episode of the show. Thanks me for joining tuning in. We'll catch you guys on the next one. Peace.
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