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What's up, moneymakers? Welcome back to the Travis Makes Money podcast. Today I'm giving you a sneak peek of this week's episode of my main show, Travis Makes Friends, a podcast all about the most valuable asset that we have in our lives, our relationships. So whether we're talking about your network, your marriage, your friendships, or even your relationship with yourself, these conversations are designed to help you grow, connect and level up in all areas. I've sat down in person with everyone from world class athletes and entertainers to bestselling authors, entrepreneurs, and even former presidents. And you're going to love the snippet from this week's episode. So take a listen and if you're feeling it, go check out the full conversation over on Travis Makes Friends. Let's get into it. Let's talk about framing a little bit more. This is something that, something I first heard, I think, from Oren Claf from Pitch Anything. He wrote a book called Pitch Anything, but he talked about the frame and something I've used a lot, even in like podcast interviews and things like that, where especially if you're, if you're on with somebody who is more of like a type A personality, they tend to take over every conversation that they're in. You know, sometimes you kind of have to just at the very beginning, like set them straight and just say, this is my show. We're going to follow this path rather than whatever path you feel like going down, you know, but it's always, it's always served me setting up the frame. Well, so, so can you tell me just a couple of. A couple of.
C (1:37)
Well, so. So Oren talks about framing. I, I like to take it a step further. I talk about identity, identity framing. So when I went to school, we, a person, we studied a lot was, was, well, Sigmund Freud, like the, the godfather of this. And you know, he has a saying. I'll abbreviate it. People do who they believe they are. People do who, who they believe they are. So what he taught is that people make decisions based on the identity of the person who they believe they are. So let's say that you have, you know, a person that when you get on there's a type. And, you know, they're probably gonna be kind of closed off, you know, gonna give you short answers, think they know everything. And I. And I. And I kind of figured that out in the first couple minutes. Let's say I'm in a sales conversation. So after a few connection questions, this would not be the first thing you would say. Cause it'd be awkward. But let's say you get into the conversation two or three, and I might notice that that's a trait that they're doing. I'm like, you know, it's interesting that it's really good connecting, because I was. I was on this call like maybe 30 minutes ago with this guy. I mean, you know the type. Like, one word answers, you know, closed off. Thought they knew everything there was to know. And we all know that comes from fear, right? I mean, we all know that people who can't open up about their problems, it's like, how can they ever get them solved? You know what I mean? So anyways, yeah, so what am I doing? I'm tr. I'm. What I'm doing. That's an identity frame to a negative where he doesn't want. He or she doesn't want to associate with that type of person who's closed off. One word answers, think they know everything. And so that by petition, causes them to be more open because they don't want to identify with that negative behavior. That's an example of an identity frame.
