Loading summary
Indigo
Acast powers the world's best podcasts. Here's a show that we recommend.
Kaz
Look.
Ryan Joe
Love it or hate it, the advertising and marketing industry is the ultimate broker of power and influence in the world today. And now you can look behind the curtain. I'm Ryan Joe, editor in chief of Adweek and host of our new weekly podcast, adspeak. Adspeak brings stories from our top reporters to life and and delves into the people and companies that shape the products we buy, the entertainment we enjoy, and how we view the world. We're bringing the drama of the newsroom directly to you and revealing the untold stories behind the headlines. Adspeak by Adweek is your new essential weekly podcast. Subscribe and follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.
Indigo
ACAST helps creators launch, grow and monetize their podcasts everywhere. Acast.com.
Narrator
This podcast contains content that may be upsetting to some listeners. Before continuing, please prioritise your own wellbeing and mental health. Please check the show notes for more detailed descriptions of the episodes in the year 2000, as the Olympic Games put Australia in the global spotlight, a different but equally meaningful story was unfolding in Melbourne's northern suburbs. Helen Ioannidis and her daughters, having escaped from the turmoil of Libya, were starting anew in Australia, away from the excitement and fanfare of the world's greatest sporting event in Sydney. This was their chance for a fresh start. Down under. Episode 3 Australian Soil Helen would eventually secure a modest townhouse through social housing located within a small community of five units on Seston Street. Two other young mothers had also recently moved into the rare townhouses next door with their children.
Kaz
The two front units were standing by themselves, just single, single units, the three at the back so I was in the middle so ours were joined so her wall was my wall and then I had my carport and then it was Helen's. We were all still very close so we always said if something was to happen, you know, fire or an emergency because we were in townhouses, the kids to climb out on the roof and go to the and get down safely because we didn't want the kids to jump or if they couldn't come downstairs because they weren't really fire safe kind of proof units.
Narrator
Although there was an adjustment period, getting used to the freedoms Australia now offered, Helen found solace in the place she was turning into her own and the friendship she was building with her closest neighbour, Kaz.
Kaz
Being half Greek myself and she was Greek and two daughters and you know I Had the kids myself, just clicked straight away. Loved gardening and cooking and she was a wonderful mum. And she told me a bit about her story, I told her a bit about my life and unfortunately that sort of brought us a bit closer together.
Narrator
Louisa would have only been around 14 years old during her first year at Seston street, although the other kids living there were much younger. Together, the mothers made their little corner of the Melbourne northern suburbs their own. It wasn't much, but it was theirs.
Kaz
She had really bad asthma. She wanted the whole house to be really fresh, ready for when they moved in. She put a lot of effort in, you know, she had the house painted and new carpet.
Narrator
As she continued to settle into a routine, Helen took up work as a cleaner. As a chronic asthmatic, the work was detrimental to her health, but she was determined not to let this restrict her from making an income and provide for her family. Her son Tass worried about her, but he knew there was nothing he could do.
Tass
Whenever she came home from a hard day's work, she would get on the ventilator. Most of the times when I visited her, you'd see her on it. Wherever she went, the machine went.
Nurse Helen
Zzz.
Tass
I remember it was just a loud machine.
Kaz
So I think just her ambition was, let's just take every opportunity. Don't fall into these habits that might not get you anywhere in life.
Narrator
Juggling her work and raising two young daughters was already a challenge, compounded by the lingering horrors of their recent experiences in Libya. For Tess, though, he was just overjoyed to have his mother back home safe.
Tass
Whenever she would visit me, she would just come and we'd have a laugh. And in the period that she'd come and visit me, there'd be about four or five phone calls, especially from the little ones, you know, Ma, Murray. Ma, Ma. They wouldn't leave her alone. My God, you know, they were just on top of her, just crazy, you know, she just couldn't do anything. They couldn't do anything for themselves either. And then she's like, you see what I have to deal with? How do you expect me to do my own thing, to come and live with you or do something? Because, you know, she would come and she would obviously complain and have a bit of a. You know, she would vent of the hardships with the girls, that they were just out of control and they just wouldn't listen and all that kind of stuff. So there was many times that I would get involved in trying to be the father figure that they didn't have. But the girls were so damaged psychologically that they needed help too.
Narrator
The adjustment was undeniably challenging. But the then teenage Louisa seemed to take it all in her stride. As a family friend puts it, when.
Nurse Helen
They came back, the girls. When Helen brought the girls back, Louisa adapted really well and very quick. But the younger girl didn't adapt. There was always complications, there was always complexities.
Narrator
But while safe in Australia, Helen couldn't shake off the trauma of nearly losing her children in Libya. This experience profoundly influenced her parenting style, resulting in a strict upbringing for Louisa and her sister.
Indigo
Me and my other friend, we could go to each other's houses as much as we wanted and sit in each other's rooms as much as we wanted and do all of that kind of stuff, like be friends. But with her she wasn't. She'd have like a strict time limit. I can come for an hour and a half and that's it. Like her mum would drop her off and that was it and pick her up.
Narrator
This is Louise's school friend who we will refer to by the alias Indigo. They met in year nine, around 2002, when they were both 15 years old. Their friendship blossomed quickly and they became like sisters, spending most afternoons together at each other's homes.
Indigo
There weren't a lot of European girls in our year level and then there weren't a lot of girls that smoked. And then the conversation kind of started with, where do you smoke? You smoke on the oval, you smoke in the toilets. And naturally, you know, she would kind of gravitate to where we were smoking and then we would talk. We had a lot of commonality with the European background. My mother was Turkish, her father was Libyan, so it was kind of mixed race type of household and stuff like that. And then yeah, we just kind of clicked and hung out every day. She was new to the school and that was it. Just from there we just always hung around.
Narrator
Louisa often sought refuge from her strict home life by spending time at Indigo's house. They would gossip, sing along to pop songs and talk about boys.
Louisa
Louisa, how are you darling? I'm alright. Tired huh?
Indigo
Good. Fuck. First thing in the freaking morning. I know.
Narrator
While we speak, Indigo starts playing treasured old videos she's kept of Louisa. They are a collection of different times they were together at her house, sometimes hanging out in the lounge or sitting in Indigo's bedroom chatting away like any other 15 year old.
Indigo
One thing about her, she had a big personality, like she was very loud and proud and she spoke like back then, it's so shameful. But we Used to speak like real Marias as they call them, real Europeans and call each other bro and stuff like that. Like I wouldn't even if my daughter spoke like that, I'd probably be like cringing. But it is, it's cringe when I hear it now. Like even some of the videos I have of us when we're talking, it's just cringe. But yeah, she was very loud but very happy and very fun. Very, very fun.
Narrator
In this piece of old footage you'll hear an example of 15 year old Indigo and Louisa speaking, as Indigo puts it, like Maria's now saying that heaps.
Louisa
Of guys start shit about her. I know I do nothing and they talk shit. Seriously, I'm fed up with this bullshit. They've got nothing else to say so they make up my lucky ass, my lucky ears. Yeah, exactly what they say, bro. First mo, I don't know what the fuck he said, but I said that I fly and kissed him and he just pecked me on the fucking lips. Well, I haven't. You don't even know what he said, bro.
Kaz
He could have. Exactly.
Louisa
I don't even know what he said.
Indigo
That could have just been shit staring.
Narrator
What is striking in these videos is that while Indigo and another girlfriend are seen wearing what you would expect while loungin at home, track pants and no makeup, Louisa is impeccably dressed, wearing large decorative earrings, perfect makeup and her long hair styled without a strand out of place.
Indigo
This is the 10 o' clock wake up call. We used to always hang out with them. She's always so glamorous. She is, yeah, she's beautiful. But if you look at the photos of her now, that's when she was younger, like she was always very voluptuous. But then when you saw her years later, she was like thin, rake thin.
Narrator
Despite her mother's attempts to keep her sheltered, Louisa had already experienced more than most Australians twice her age. She was street wise, fluent in three languages and mature beyond her years. And yet, for all her worldly experience, Louisa could be surprisingly naive at times, a trait that would continue to catch up with her.
Indigo
I think that that's where all the trouble kind of started with her and her mum, that Louisa was really strong willed and Louisa thought, no, I'm old enough, I can go. And she would, she would like leave school a bit early and go to the shops and then that would cause trouble because her mum wouldn't know where to find her essentially. And then she'd come home and then she'd get in trouble as she got older.
Narrator
Louise's teenage years continued to be a constant battle between her desire for independence and her mother's protective instincts.
Indigo
She knew a lot of things that even I didn't know myself. For her age, she was quite mature in that sense. She wanted to do her own thing. She was strong willed. Like, she thought, no, I can go out and I can do this. And I think that her and her mum clashed a lot over that. But in saying that, sometimes Louisa made like really stupid choices. She knew she was going to get caught doing something but she'd still do it because at the time she wanted to do it. So that was one thing about Louisa. When she did get caught doing something, we'd say, well, why did you do that if you knew you were going to get caught? And she'd say, I don't know, I don't know. Like she was very.
Narrator
Do you think it was a sense of freedom from rebellion against her Libyan Day?
Indigo
Yeah, I do, I do.
Narrator
Indigo still cherishes memories of sitting in Louise's bedroom singing along to popular artists of that time. They were particularly drawn to music that celebrated strong, independent women.
Indigo
We listened to R and B a lot.
Louisa
Pop.
Indigo
Yeah, Back then, you know, Anastasia, Britney Spears. We weren't really into the dance, dance music or anything, but I think R and B was kind of the flavour when we were in year nine, year 10.
Narrator
I'm a big Britney fan.
Indigo
Yes, yes. Britney came out a lot. Yep, definitely. And like a lot of music that was about women empowerment, I think was our biggest one. Yeah, you'll Get over him and Boy Song She'll Never Be Me and stuff like that. So we were like right into that kind of stuff.
Narrator
At the age of 16, Louisa and her friends started discussing a new topic, her crush on a particular boy.
Indigo
She had met Joe and she really liked him. She was like infatuated with him. But he was like the type of guy. He was older, I think. Yeah, it was pretty. He was older. He was driving actually. Yeah, he was older. He would go out with Louisa and then he would. Back then, you know, to have a mobile and credit to ring someone, he wouldn't like answer his phone or his phone would be off for weeks and then he would ring her and then they'd catch up. So it wasn't a frequent thing. It was kind of like a fly in with Jo. He wasn't around often but she just really, really liked him from what I knew. Like we would go out and guys used to just fall on her. Like she was so pretty and Like Gu used to love her and she had a personality where she could really get along with anyone. And there were so many good looking guys with nice cars that liked her. But for some reason she would be talking to one of them. Jo would come back on the scene, she'd disappear.
Narrator
We will be back after a short break. You're going to hear a bit about Joe in this podcast. And while this is the name everyone knows him by, it's not his birth name. As Indigo and I kept chatting, she kept showing me clips from her collection of old videos. In one video, Louisa is discussing a compliment given to her by another boy she'd been talking with. This moment in time may have seemed insignificant then looking back, it's clear how easily she caught the attention of guys her age.
Louisa
Do you know how I was bringing her to the top? Still got that at home, so I still bring it for her. It's just like, cue your sister, Cuba and Scott, number 19. He goes to me, you should be not number 19, you should be number one. Oh, I'm gonna be bad for about two seconds.
Indigo
Alright.
Louisa
By the way, let's go make us coffee. Yeah, we got coffee.
Narrator
What we also learned from these home videos is that at this time, Jo was very much in Louisa's life. Even though they didn't talk all that often, it was obvious Louisa would light up whenever she heard from him.
Louisa
Hi, everyone, how are you doing? Why are you happy, Louie? Well, because today I found out the best news left.
Indigo
Jo's alive, Joe's alive. Yay.
Louisa
Yeah, he was sitting around on the phone. I go, hey, where are you? He goes, oh, I'm at work, I'm kind of busy with customers. I'm like, all right, can you give me a call later? And he's like, yeah, I'll call you tonight.
Indigo
Oh, yay.
Narrator
And with each call from Jo, Louise's desire to see him intensified. As much as she loved her mother and everything that she had done for her, she also couldn't escape the desire to make her own choices. As a way to be with Jo and to avoid concerns from her mother, Louisa started skipping school to spend time with him instead. At first she was able to get away with this, but eventually her mother discovered the truth. During this period, even her brother Tess struggled to speak with Louisa.
Tass
There were times in the early days that our relationship wasn't great because I had to step in and then try and be the father figure and try and give him some guidance. There was only so much that they.
Narrator
Could tolerate as tension between mother and Daughter reached a breaking point. A decision was made for Louisa to move in with Indigo for a period of time.
Indigo
And the reason that she lived with me was because she was having a lot of trouble with her mum and she kept on taking off and coming back and then she ended up coming to my house and she didn't want to go home. So my mum ended up speaking to her mum and saying, look, she's here. Because Louise was saying, I'm just going to get such and such to pick me up. And my mum said, hold your horses. And she said, she's here, this is what's going on. And Helen had expressed, she's just going to go anyway. And then my mother said, well, if I can get her to stay here, what are your thoughts? And she said, if you can get her to go to school and you can get her to stay there, let her stay there. And it kind of was. That's how it kind of started. So she stayed with me for, I want to say, near three months, maybe a little bit longer. Yeah, but she did, she went to school and we were always together. She didn't really go. Like, obviously the friends kind of changed because she was hanging around the people we were hanging around. She saw us more frequently. But then towards the end of the three and a half months, she wanted to go out with certain people that my mum didn't want her to go out with. And it was starting to get like my mum was trying to stop, couldn't pushing rules or enforcing rules that she said, oh, I'm just going to go back home, because she was getting away with more. So then she went back home. You can't stop her from going home.
Narrator
With Louisa back home and entering year 11, she made a concerted effort to focus on her studies and be less distracted by her social life. There were positive signs she was back on track as her relationship with Jo ended and the bond with her mother began to appear. Being fluent in three languages, there was even a career path Louisa had shown interest in.
Louisa
I just want Iran to be a free country.
Narrator
Kez even recalls discussing career options with Louisa.
Kaz
I said, oh, that's really good to be an interpreter. I said, that's a good job, very professional. And I always said, I can see you walking in with your business power suit and helping people. Cause, you know, she had that look.
Narrator
As the routine of school life continued, it wasn't long before Louisa once again felt a growing desire to explore the wider world and experiment with gateway substances such as alcohol.
Louisa
REALITY TV this is Louisa on the.
Indigo
Couch passed out and I think she.
Louisa
Woke up and look at her.
Indigo
This is not throwing out. All right, have a great time. Bye bye.
Narrator
During this adolescent exploration stage, many school friends, including her best friend Indigo, lost touch with Louisa. But Helen never gave up on her daughter and did whatever she could to try and engage with her. This included seeking out advice from her contacts within the Greek community. Nurse Helen is a friend of the family. In her role, she would often be interviewed by journalists on the radio about a variety of health related topics including substance abuse and the signs parents should look out for in their children.
Nurse Helen
When I first met Helen she approached me and she was quite. She just didn't know what to do because Louisa would be running away, she wouldn't be going to school, she'll be displaying really odd behaviours, outbursts because she was withdrawing or she didn't have substances. And the school had contacted Helen and explained to her that things aren't right with Louisa. She's missing days off. That's when she heard something on the Greek radio and she contacted me. She contacted the radio and then I got in contact with her and then she told me her story. She told me exactly what had happened with the girls, how they were kidnapped and it was just awful and she goes, and I just don't know what to do.
Narrator
Grateful for the initial advice nurse Helen provided, Helen took note of her contact information and made sure to save it for future reference. Rather than completing her final school year, Louisa chose to leave and enter the workforce. She picked up odd jobs along the way, but nothing really lasted. Leaving school opened up a new world of experiences for her including nightclubbing, dating other boys and an introduction to party drugs. She moved out of home and into a share home near Chapel Street South Yarra, a location at the epicentre of the party scene. Other friends also fondly recall Louise's wild streak during this time.
Indigo
Sometimes she was probably the naughtiest. She smoked or she'd push us a little bit more to do stuff. She always wanted to go out to clubs and hang out with guys and probably spearheaded me having my first kiss or you know, stuff like that, like they were really into it. I can't remember. I feel like we used to go to a club called Gamma Bar which was like a Greek bar.
Narrator
Helen was overwhelmed, uncertain about her daughter's whereabouts, companions and activities. The situation took a severe turn when she received a call from the police station asking her to pick up Louisa, who had been arrested for a late night altercation with another woman. Having remembered Nurse Helen's name from many years ago. Louisa's mother reached out to her again in a panic.
Nurse Helen
She contacted me again via the Greek radio and said, I'm having problems with my oldest daughter. I think she's using substances. Could you please either come and meet me or talk to my daughter? And I did meet with them at Northlands and by seeing Louisa straight away, she was definitely using substances. I could tell, and she didn't deny it to me, but she told me that her mother just carries on and et cetera, et cetera. And I clearly said to her, I remember this clearly. I said, look, I understand, your mum doesn't understand, but at the end of the day what you're doing is only going to turn into a disaster. I know what I'm doing. I said, but at the moment, I said, can you see your behaviour's not normal? No, but I'm okay. It relaxes me.
Narrator
So she admitted to drinking?
Nurse Helen
Yeah, yeah. She admitted at that time she was using cannabis and amphetamines, she was using speed because at that time she said, speed helps you lose weight. And then when she couldn't get speed, she will go to a doctor and get duramine.
Narrator
The combined efforts of a criminal charge for assault and an intervention led by her mother seemed to have a positive effect. Following her court ordered volunteer work at a Greek welfare centre, Louisa received a glowing reference and even moved back home. But what goes up must eventually come down. And after a period of staying on track, Louisa once again reunited with Jo, much to the disappointment of her mother. By now, Helen knew Jo's reappearance would likely lead her daughter astray. And once again she witnessed Louisa spending more nights away from home. With her concerns deepening, even Kaz remembers Helen sharing her dismay about Jo to her.
Kaz
Helen came to me one day and she's like, oh, he's just met this boy, but he's more like a man. I said, oh, love, what's going on? She goes, he's just, I can tell he's no good. He's rotten and he's no good. I said, what do you mean? She goes, I just, just my guts. I said, okay, well if he comes, we're all here, I'm pulling my hair out here. She goes, what am I meant to do? Either I let him come so I can still be a bit in control of the situation. And I said, I understand that reasoning. You don't want Louisa leaving with him all the time, but if it's causing you stress. She goes, I don't want him in My house, but I don't want to lose my daughter. I said, I totally get it. Like, worst nightmare.
Narrator
In a dramatic step, Helen went so far as to invite Jo to live in her home, recognising that it might be the only way to closely monitor her daughter and address her deteriorating behaviour. However, as Louisa transitioned from adolescence to young adulthood, Helen found herself with limited options to guide her daughter back on the right path. Despite her best efforts to prevent it, Louisa eventually moved out of the family home and moved in with Jo. As we heard, Louisa had already confessed to Nurse Helen that she'd been using both speed and juramine. This revelation provided an explanation for Indigo's shock upon noticing Louisa's significant weight loss. When they reunited after a period of separation.
Indigo
Louisa kind of disappeared for like a year. And then one day I was sitting at my house and this Capri, maybe it was a red Capri, it was a convertible looking car pulled up at my house and it was her and Jo and I didn't even recognise her. She was unrecognisable. She had lost copious amounts of weight. She looked. She looked happy, I'll give her that.
Narrator
Although Louisa didn't enter Indigo's house that day, this brief encounter reignited their friendship and led to regular communication once more. By the end of 2008, Louisa's relationship with her mother had also improved and there were hopeful signs that the life in Australia Helen had fought so hard to create for her family was finally taking shape. They even started working as cleaners together, with Louisa roping in her brother Tas to help drop off pamphlets advertising their business.
Tass
I'd do the run around the area and drop off pamphlets and sure enough they got a couple of jobs from there. You know, we were like a team. We were trying to make something, you know, together, good something together. And yeah, for a period of time they used to work together. Louisa, Aunt and my mum.
Narrator
Yes, Nurse Helen would also pop in on occasion to check in on the family. During the warmer months, she would visit Louisa and her sister, taking them to different places, including the swimming pool.
Nurse Helen
She was a very good swimmer. Louisa was a very, very good swimmer.
Narrator
Have you seen her swimming pool?
Nurse Helen
Yeah, yeah, many times when we went, we'd gone to the beach, we'd gone to the pools and she was a very, very good swimmer.
Narrator
So was she just sunbathing or was she actually in the water?
Nurse Helen
No, no, in the water, in the water.
Narrator
And was she swimming laps or dogs?
Nurse Helen
Yeah, yeah, no, no, swimming laps. Especially at the pools, the Northcote Pools. She would be swimming laps and then some baking, of course, but swimming laps at the Northcote Pools. A very, very popular girl. Everyone knew her.
Narrator
Did you ever go down to the creek with her?
Nurse Helen
No.
Narrator
So, as the Ioannidis family seemed to be experiencing a turn for the better, no one could have foreseen the tragedy that would unfold on New Year's Day 2009, followed only two years later by Louise's mysterious death in Darebin Creek.
Louisa
Do you see this face? Does this face look happy?
Indigo
No, it does not look happy.
Narrator
Still to come on Troubled Waters, some.
Nurse Helen
Girls you can't control, and some things you can't control.
Indigo
When we talk about coercive control, the.
Nurse Helen
Broadest definition is really looking at how constricted someone's life has become. It's not Helen's fault that they got into drugs. It's not Helen's fault that she found Jo and Louisa would not listen.
Narrator
Casefile Presents Troubled Waters is written and produced by Julia Robson and Claire McGrath audio production by Mike Megus Audio editing by Anthony Telfer.
Indigo
ACAST powers the world's best podcasts. Here's a show that we recommend. Add a little curiosity into your routine with TED Talks Daily, the podcast that brings you a new TED Talk every weekday. In less than 15 minutes a day, you'll go beyond the headlines and learn about the big ideas shaping your your future. Coming up, how AI will change the way we communicate, how to be a better leader and more. Listen to TED Talks Daily wherever you get your podcasts. ACAST helps creators launch, grow and monetize their podcasts everywhere. Acast.com.
Podcast: Troubled Waters (Casefile Presents)
Date: June 16, 2024
Summary by: Podcast Summarizer
Episode 3 of Troubled Waters shifts focus from the aftermath of Louisa Ioannidis’s mysterious death to the formative Australian years that shaped her and her family. It traces their traumatic escape from Libya, the challenges of assimilating into life in northern Melbourne, and Louisa’s journey through adolescence—a period marked by rebellion, substance misuse, family turmoil, and struggles for independence. Through intimate interviews and old recordings, the episode paints a fuller portrait of Louisa and the environment that led up to the events preceding her untimely death.
Setting the Scene:
Adapting and Surviving:
Mother-Daughter Tensions:
Louisa’s Personality and Peer Relationships:
Rebellion & Risk:
Peer Influence & First Loves:
Substance Misuse:
Cycle of Attempted Intervention:
Parental Strategy and Powerlessness:
Unexplained Weight Loss:
Cascade of Events:
"[Helen] told me a bit about her story, I told her a bit about my life and unfortunately that sort of brought us a bit closer together." — Kaz (03:12)
“Whenever she came home from a hard day's work, she would get on the ventilator. Most of the times when I visited her, you'd see her on it.” — Tass (04:17)
“She was very loud but very happy and very fun. Very, very fun.” — Indigo (08:14)
“When she did get caught doing something, we'd say, well, why did you do that if you knew you were going to get caught? And she'd say, I don't know, I don't know. Like she was very...” — Indigo (10:57)
“Some girls you can't control, and some things you can't control.” — Nurse Helen (26:50)
“It's not Helen's fault that they got into drugs. It's not Helen's fault that she found Jo and Louisa would not listen.” — Nurse Helen (26:55)
The episode is heartfelt, candid, and sometimes raw, full of nostalgia and regret. Family and friends remember Louisa as vibrant, willful, sometimes reckless, determined to break free, but frequently making choices with damaging consequences. Helen’s efforts reflect both love and desperation in the face of an unyielding situation, while friends speak with warmth laced with sadness for what was to come.
This episode deepens understanding of Louisa’s world and the intertwined threads—maternal anxiety, adolescent rebellion, peer dynamics, and system failures—that frame the many mysteries yet to be resolved in her tragic story.