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Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools
Hosted by by Kelly DuPée · EN
Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools Podcast provides practical and easy to learn tools and tips so you can have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Each episode offers suggestions that address the various challenges all marriages face. If your marriage is struggling, if you're engaged, or newly married, this podcast will help you learn how to be married and avoid making the mistakes a lot of couples make. If you've been married for a while, it also will help you grow closer to each other and address issues that could be causing you problems.
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Dating Tips for Christians
3w ago00:28:17Tap to summarize10 Practical Christian Dating Tips to Avoid Heartbreak and Find God’s BestPastor and marriage coach Kelly DuPee shares practical, faith-based dating guidance for Christian singles who want marriage without anxiety and confusion. He urges viewers to first surrender daily to God and ask whether marriage is God’s will and whether the person they’re dating is God’s choice, emphasizing that singleness can also be a high calling. He explains dating’s purpose as learning what’s true over time—character, responsibility, conflict and stress responses, shared values, and authentic faith—then offers tips: build friendships in group settings, grow spiritually/emotionally/financially and learn contentment, pray before starting to date, be clear and intentional about dating, commit to sexual purity and boundaries, let relationships grow slowly, avoid future questions too soon, keep praying for ongoing direction and confirmation, and choose a long courtship with a short engagement, noting breakups are less painful than divorce.00:00 Dating Anxiety Question01:45 Purpose of Dating03:32 Tip 1 Surrender Daily05:47 Tip 2 Group Friendships08:04 Tip 3 Personal Growth11:41 Tip 4 Ask God First13:26 Tip 5 Date Intentionally15:27 Tip 6 Purity Boundaries17:29 Tip 7 Go Slow Wisely19:57 Tip 8 Future Questions21:48 Tip 9 Pray Confirmations24:49 Tip 10 Courtship Engagement27:17 Final Challenge ResourcesHere's the link to download his free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideHe's also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of his book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here're the links to my videos on dating:1. Receiving God's best: https://youtu.be/t39EaJBgr8s2. Escape the Dating Minefield: https://youtu.be/QOIlpME99Nk3. Dating with Peace: https://youtu.be/lKlz0mKl7vE4. Ask God before Asking Her Out: https://youtu.be/k1iCQIzXjCM5. Stop Asking the Wrong Questions About Your Relationship: https://youtu.be/8vAQXX1yM-k
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4w ago00:16:36Tap to summarizeStop worrying about where your relationship is going. Learn how to manage dating anxiety and find peace while dating as a Christian.Many people struggle with the constant pressure of defining a relationship too early. If you are a follower of Jesus navigating the modern dating scene, you likely face internal stress when things feel uncertain. This video explores why asking where is this going often creates unnecessary tension and how to shift your mindset toward internal resets instead of relying on frantic action.We discuss the importance of patience in romantic pursuits, drawing on lessons from a personal story about how I dated and later proposed to my wife. By prioritizing your own emotional health, you can approach dating with purpose rather than fear. This guide is for anyone seeking to maintain their faith while building a connection, helping you move away from the need to control outcomes.00:00 Where Is This Going01:26 Series Recap02:42 Hearing God Clearly04:00 First Dates and Purity05:30 The Pressure Question06:46 Ask the Better Question08:16 Step by Step to Proposal10:46 Practical Steps for Dating11:40 Clarity Over Chemistry13:04 Next Obedient Step14:37 Apply This in Marriage15:42 Closing and Next VideoHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here're the links to my videos on dating:1. Receiving God's best: https://youtu.be/t39EaJBgr8s2. Escape the Dating Minefield: https://youtu.be/QOIlpME99Nk3. Dating with Peace: https://youtu.be/lKlz0mKl7vE4. Ask God before Asking Her Out: https://youtu.be/k1iCQIzXjCM
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Jul 800:19:30Tap to summarizeWait on God or Take Action? 5 Spirit-Led Steps Toward Marriage (Without Forcing It)Join me as I share how I learned to move forward in dating with peace—without striving, panic, or settling—by taking Spirit-led action. In this 4th video of my dating series, I tell the story of how God led me toward my wife, Carrie, including what I sensed the Lord speak to me in Italy, how I began thanking God in advance for “the best wife,” and what happened when I got ahead of myself before I had clarity. Then I walk you through five practical ways to take Spirit-led action: determine to be led by the Spirit, surrender your desires and get neutral, wait until you hear clearly, take obedient action, and look for confirmation. I also explain how these same principles apply inside marriage, not just dating.00:00 Wait or Take Action00:55 Series Setup and Intro02:12 Spirit Led Action03:35 Italy to Amsterdam Story06:46 Lessons and Right Order07:46 Step 1 Be Spirit Led09:41 Step 2 Get Neutral11:19 Step 3 Wait Clearly12:58 Step 4 Obey and Act13:56 Step 5 Seek Confirmation15:27 Gideon Fleece Example17:23 Apply This in Marriage18:16 Wrap Up and Next VideoHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my videos on dating:1. Receiving God's best: https://youtu.be/t39EaJBgr8s2. Escape the Dating Minefield: https://youtu.be/QOIlpME99Nk3. Dating with Peace: https://youtu.be/lKlz0mKl7vE
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Jul 100:13:19Tap to summarizeDating With Peace: Hearing God’s Voice and Receiving His Best by Faith (4 Takeaways)Join me as I continue my dating series by teaching how faith changes the way you wait, listen, and move forward. God speaks through impressions, thoughts, and scripture, and doubt often blocks hearing God’s voice. During a one-year fast from dating, I asked God if it was His plan for me to marry and sensed God affirm it, urging me to receive God’s best wife by faith through praise and thanksgiving. I share four takeaways for those who want to be married: surrender your desires and discern God’s will, ask specifically, expect God to speak and lead you, and receive God’s good gifts by faith by thanking Him in advance, while remaining open to singleness if it is God’s best.00:00 Dating Pressure and Peace00:33 Series Intro and Story01:20 Faith and Hearing God03:13 Italy Moment and Marriage Call05:59 Four Takeaways Overview06:10 Surrender and Discern07:54 Ask Specifically08:58 Expect God to Lead10:27 Receive by Faith12:33 Closing and Next Steps Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my videos on dating:1. Receiving God's best: https://youtu.be/t39EaJBgr8s2. Escape the Dating Minefield: https://youtu.be/QOIlpME99Nk
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Jun 2400:15:20Tap to summarizeDating Feels Like a Minefield? How to Trust God’s Best and Find Peace Before MarriageChristian marriage coach Kelly DuPee explains why he’s teaching on dating: who you marry strongly affects the health of your marriage, so dating requires wisdom and discernment to trust God’s best. He shares how a painful breakup and a friend’s question—“Was she God’s best for you?”—led another friend to challenge him to fast from dating for a year so God could heal his heart. During that season he surrendered fear and pressure, built friendships and community, learned contentment in singleness (Luke 9:23; Philippians 4:11–13), and gained confidence rooted in trusting God rather than relationships. He offers four steps: ask God to heal your heart, surrender your timeline, build friendships through church and small groups, and practice contentment. He also briefly addresses married couples, offering practical advice, a free communication guide, and coaching, and previews the next episode.00:00 Dating Minefield Intro00:36 Why Dating Matters01:58 My Breakup Filter02:35 One Year Dating Fast05:22 Fear And Pressure07:02 Community And Contentment09:14 Four Practical Steps12:18 Word For Married Couples14:12 Final Encouragement Next VideoHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on Receiving God's Best when Dating: https://youtu.be/t39EaJBgr8s
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Jun 1400:14:56Tap to summarizeDating & Marriage: How I Discerned God’s Best (4 Steps to Trust God While Dating)I share how a friend’s question after a breakup—“Was she God’s best for you?”—completely changed the way I think about dating and discernment. As a Christian marriage coach and pastor who’s been married nearly 39 years, I explain that the purpose of dating isn’t just falling in love, but evaluating whether this is the person you could faithfully marry for life, because problems in dating often follow you into marriage. I teach that asking “Is this God’s best?” should come from faith, surrender, and listening to the Holy Spirit, peace (or a lack of peace), and confirmation from wise believers. I give four practical steps: slow down momentum, surrender before you ask, ask God directly and expect Him to speak, and look for spiritual fruit while inviting wisdom early. If you’re married, I show how to apply this question to how you treat and communicate with your spouse.00:00 Heartbreak And One Question00:40 Dating With God’s Best01:59 Purpose Of Dating03:20 Faith Not Fear04:33 My Dating Pattern05:49 Slow Down Momentum06:54 Surrender Before Asking08:12 Expect God To Speak09:27 Look For Fruit12:08 If You’re Married13:06 Recap And Next Steps13:43 Coaching Offer And OutroHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on 10 Questions to Ask Before you get Married: https://youtu.be/aqJqQ2JSVAc
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Jun 900:10:33Tap to summarizeVacation Planning Tips for Couples: How to Have a Great Trip With Your SpouseJoin me as I share practical vacation planning tips to help couples enjoy a successful getaway and avoid the stress that can create conflict in marriage. I emphasize planning logistics and details together, talking through what each spouse wants, and preventing predictable frustrations by making reservations, researching directions, and buying tickets in advance. I encourage setting realistic expectations, keeping the trip light and fun instead of trying to solve major relationship issues, and addressing deeper problems after returning home, including using my free couples communication guide. I also discuss talking about money ahead of time, budgeting and saving to avoid penny-pinching, viewing the trip as an investment in your spouse, and building in rest and downtime. I close by encouraging prayer, gratitude, and booking a free strategy call if help is needed.00:00 Vacation Fail Setup00:47 Plan to Succeed01:19 Align Expectations Together02:45 Prevent Predictable Stress04:02 Keep It Light05:58 Budget Without Tension08:29 Rest and Reconnect09:30 Pray and Get Support10:25 Final BlessingHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75
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Jun 300:23:32Tap to summarize7 Habits Husbands Wish Their Wives Had In this video I share what I’ve learned from 1,000+ hours of coaching conversations with couples (plus 38 years of marriage) about the habits many husbands quietly wish their wives would develop—without guilt, condemnation, or turning it into a weapon. I explain why small, consistent habits shape the atmosphere and security of a marriage, then walk through seven practical habits with Scripture: extend grace and forgiveness without keeping score, let your husband help and carry burdens, initiate intimacy or suggest an alternative time, affirm/honor/appreciate him and be his friend, communicate clearly instead of expecting mind-reading (and avoid controlling), give him space to recharge without guilt, and choose trust unless there’s a real reason not to. I also invite couples to a free 30-minute strategy call and offer a communication guide.00:00 habits husbands wished04:46 Habit #1: Grace & Forgiveness07:17 Habit #2: Let Me Help You09:40 Habit #3: Initiate Intimacy12:10 Habit #4: Affirm & Appreciate Him13:55 Habit #5: Tell Me What You Want16:58 Habit #6: Give Him Space to Recharge19:12 Habit #7: Trust MeHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on 7 Habits Wives Wished their Husbands Had: https://youtu.be/ZCEd3ckaXh8and the 5 R's of an Effective Apology: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9c
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May 2600:16:17Tap to summarize7 Habits Wives Wish Their Husbands Had Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPée shares seven practical habits he says wives most often wish their husbands practiced, drawn from over 1,000 hours of coaching and 38 years of marriage, emphasizing this is not about guilt but growth. The habits are: care about your wife by truly listening and supporting her; don’t get defensive when she raises concerns and offer a real apology using his “five R” method; always tell the truth to protect trust; make her feel special by prioritizing her with thoughtful attention; do what you say you’ll do to build reliability; strengthen connection by asking about closeness, planning time together, and speaking her love language; and be her partner through emotional openness, shared problem-solving, and spiritual growth. He encourages husbands to self-evaluate, ask their wives for feedback, start with one habit, and offers a free 30-minute strategy call and a free communication guide.00:00 What Wives Wish You Knew00:54 What You'll Learn Today01:20 Meet Your Coach01:57 Free Resources And Calls02:40 No Guilt Just Growth03:52 Habit 1 Care About Her05:34 Habit 2 Drop Defensiveness07:37 Habit 3 Tell The Truth08:36 Habit 4 Make Her Special09:51 Habit 5 Keep Your Word11:01 Habit 6 Build Connection12:55 Habit 7 Be True Partners14:31 Put One Habit Into Action15:31 Get Help And Next StepsHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on the Five R's of an Apology - https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cHere's the link to my video on How to Make your Wife Feel Special- https://youtu.be/H7rg83yCt8U
Transcribe →Boundaries that Work
May 1200:10:46Tap to summarize7 Steps to Set Boundaries That Actually Work (Christian Marriage Help)In this episode, I explain how to move from simply saying no to setting clear, Godly boundaries in marriage when a spouse ignores your “no” and disrespect, pressure, or irresponsibility keep creating resentment. I share a progression I teach—suggestion, wish, request, then boundary—and clarify that a request depends on your partner’s behavior while a boundary depends on your behavior, including a consequence that stops enabling. Using biblical principles of grace and truth, I walk through seven practical steps: identify the specific behavior, consider your leverage (often distance for protection), write an I-statement and if-then script, get input from a trusted friend or coach, rehearse, share the boundary calmly and clearly, and follow through consistently. 00:00 When No Gets Ignored00:28 Series Setup and Resources01:36 Why Boundaries Matter02:11 Requests vs Boundaries03:03 Stop Enabling Consequences04:04 Grace and Truth Framework05:08 Step 1 Define Behavior05:35 Step 2 Find Leverage06:23 Step 3 Write Script07:05 Steps 4-5 Get Input Practice08:19 Steps 6-7 Share Follow Through09:25 Boundaries Heal Connection09:47 Coaching Invite and WrapHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my videos on Saying No: Make it okay to say no - https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoASaying no with kindness - https://youtu.be/65I2YmSk86cHow to hear "No" - https://youtu.be/alS20C5DjugWhy it's so hard to say no - https://youtu.be/Vl_DbMNWzxoSaying No Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcg7Dc5FP4LOI0OmqgkCXm-
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