Podcast Summary: Two Jersey Js: Scary Island No More

Episode Title: Two Jersey Js: Scary Island No More
Release Date: April 24, 2025
Hosts: Jen Fessler and Kelly Bensimon
Produced by: iHeartPodcasts

Introduction

In this lively episode of Two Jersey Js, hosts Jen Fessler and Kelly Bensimon dive deep into their experiences on reality TV, particularly focusing on their time on "The Real Housewives of New Jersey." Filmed live from the picturesque Napa Valley, the duo shares candid stories, reflections, and humorous anecdotes that provide listeners with an insider's perspective on the glamorous yet tumultuous world of reality television.

Reunion and Current Ventures

Jen begins the conversation by introducing Kelly, highlighting their friendship forged through mutual appearances at events like the iHeartRadio red carpet and movie premieres. They reminisce about their encounters, emphasizing the authentic connection they've developed outside the scripted reality TV environment.

Jen Fessler (01:32):
"Kelly Bensmoan, I'm sure, to most of you, but to me is iconic. So Kelly goes back on New York Housewives..."

Kelly Bensimon (05:01):
"Housewives is a really, really fun dynamic."

Reflections on Reality TV Dynamics

Kelly opens up about the challenges of filming reality TV, especially the lack of control over personal narratives. She recounts her experience with producers manipulating interviews to create specific storylines, leading to misunderstandings and tensions between cast members.

Kelly Bensimon (04:25):
"What happened was much fun. As Housewives. No, Housewives is a really, really fun dynamic."

Jen Fessler (07:06):
"Kelly, hold on. No, no. Kelly, hold on."

The hosts discuss the behind-the-scenes reality of maintaining genuine relationships amidst the pressures of constant filming and scripted drama, contrasting it with their more relaxed interactions at events.

Authenticity vs. Branding in Reality TV

A significant portion of the discussion centers on the evolution of reality TV, particularly the shift from authenticity to branding influenced by social media. Kelly criticizes the newer seasons of "The Real Housewives of New York," arguing that the focus on personal brands detracts from genuine interactions and creates an uncomfortable viewing experience for fans.

Kelly Bensimon (12:52):
"I think one of the reasons that the reboot does not resonated is because women are so focused on their brands..."

Jen Fessler (18:19):
"There's a rawness and a realness that is not there. And do you think that's because of the social media of it all?"

They lament that the newer casts prioritize marketable personas over authentic personalities, leading to a loss of the show's original charm and relatability.

The Impact of Modeling on Reality TV Participation

Jen brings up the unique challenges faced by models like Kelly when participating in reality TV. The conversation delves into how Kelly's modeling background both helps and hinders her interactions on the show, with issues of intimidation and competition arising from differing professional experiences.

Jen Fessler (36:07):
"I think about the other franchises and just about how... Especially when someone new enters who is even. Maybe..."

Kelly Bensimon (37:04):
"It did. And I think that they thought that because I was a model, I was going to have this thick skin..."

Kelly shares her struggles with being perceived solely through her physical appearance, emphasizing that true strength lies in personal resilience rather than external validation.

Ultimate Girls Trip and Personal Growth

Transitioning to lighter topics, Jen and Kelly discuss their experiences on "Ultimate Girls Trip," highlighting memorable moments like the "water therapy" session. Kelly humorously recounts her discomfort with bikinis, revealing her personal boundaries and reactions during the show's therapeutic exercises.

Kelly Bensimon (30:25):
"And I get out of the water. And first of all, the guy that was moving me around was just like a smoke show..."

This segment underscores the blend of professionalism and personal vulnerability required when participating in reality-based therapy sessions on television.

Navigating Personal Relationships within Reality TV

The hosts delve into the complexities of maintaining genuine relationships while being part of a reality TV cast. Kelly reflects on the difficulties of fostering authentic connections, citing her strained interactions with fellow cast member Bethany and the challenges of public perception.

Kelly Bensimon (35:54):
"But, I mean, I was also conditioned from my modeling years coupled with being housewives. I mean, just constantly having that reminder really affected me."

This highlights the emotional toll and personal growth required to navigate the often superficial relationships cultivated on reality TV.

The Future of Reality TV and Personal Endeavors

Towards the end of the episode, Jen and Kelly discuss their aspirations and the potential directions for "The Real Housewives" franchises. They express a desire for a balance between old authenticity and new branding strategies, advocating for a return to the show's roots of genuine camaraderie and real-life drama.

Kelly Bensimon (26:08):
"I suggest definitely a mix between old and new."

They also contemplate the possibility of returning to the franchise, weighing the benefits of continuing their presence on television against the personal challenges it entails.

Conclusion

Jen and Kelly wrap up the episode by reaffirming their bond and shared experiences, both on and off-camera. They express gratitude for their friendship and the platform that allowed them to share their stories, leaving listeners with a sense of camaraderie and anticipation for future episodes.

Jen Fessler (47:15):
"Love you. See you next time. Bye, guys."

Notable Quotes

• Jen Fessler (05:58):
  "But Kelly and I, just for the listeners... we have become friends."

• Kelly Bensimon (12:22):
  "No. It was just like they were so caught up in what they thought they should. Should look like."

• Jen Fessler (21:02):
  "Yeah. What? But I think that that's what worked with New York, too."

• Kelly Bensimon (37:44):
  "It does. And I think that they thought that because I was a model, I was going to have this thick skin."

• Jen Fessler (42:08):
  "We have completely fucking crazy and we're just going to go with it."

Final Thoughts

This episode of Two Jersey Js offers an insightful and unfiltered look into the lives of reality TV participants, exploring themes of authenticity, personal growth, and the evolving landscape of television fame. Through their engaging dialogue, Jen and Kelly provide listeners with a nuanced understanding of the pressures and rewards that come with being on reality TV, making it a must-listen for fans and newcomers alike.

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