Podcast
Undressed Conversations
Hosted by Mark & Tonya Olson · EN
Undressed Conversations, is a no-filter, no-performance deep dive into marriage where you and Tonya strip away the bullshit, tell the real stories behind the glossy moments, and show couples what authentic intimacy actually looks like. It’s raw, funny, a little dangerous, and packed with the kind of truth that makes people feel seen, turned on, and brave enough to repair their own relationship.
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E27 Your Sex Life Isn’t Broken… Your Timing Is
Apr 3000:38:26Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailEver tried to make a move on your spouse and realized you’re basically flirting with a sleep-deprived corpse? Yeah… welcome to the real problem most couples don’t talk about.In this episode of Undressed Conversations, we break down one of the most overlooked killers of intimacy: bad timing. Not lack of desire, not attraction, not love… just two people completely missing each other’s window.We get into the real story behind how opposite schedules, parenting, exhaustion, and unspoken expectations quietly wreck connection, and how we turned something stupid into years of frustration. Morning vs night, rejection vs exhaustion, pressure vs connection… it’s all in here.And the fix? It’s embarrassingly simple. But most couples never do it.If you’ve ever felt rejected, pressured, or just completely out of sync with your partner, this one’s going to hit.Because a lot of marriages don’t have a sex problem. They’ve got a timing problem… and nobody’s willing to admit it.⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E25 Why We Were So Wrong About Oral (And What Changed Everything)
Apr 2700:34:29Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailWe’re dropping the filters and talking honestly about something most couples avoid or fake their way through. In this episode, we unpack how our mindset around giving completely shifted, what used to feel awkward or misunderstood, and how that change made our connection stronger, more playful, and way more real. This isn’t about tips or tricks, it’s about what happens when you move from pressure and performance to genuine desire and connection. If you’ve ever felt unsure, disconnected, or just going through the motions, this conversation will hit. #UndressedConversations #RealMarriage #IntimacyRewired #ConnectionOverPerfection #LoveUnfiltered ⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E25 Walking Into an Adult Store for the First Time (Why It’s Way More Awkward Than You Think)
Apr 2300:27:06Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThere are a few moments in life that instantly take you back to being a teenager again, and walking into an adult store for the first time is definitely one of them. The awkward eye contact, the “don’t look too long” panic, the internal debate in the parking lot, it’s all real.In this episode, we break down our first experience, from being 18 and completely out of our depth to how those uncomfortable moments actually opened the door to better communication, curiosity, and a stronger connection in our marriage.What starts as a funny story turns into something deeper. It’s not really about the store, it’s about what happens when you stop avoiding the conversation and start being honest about what you want.If you’ve ever felt awkward talking about intimacy, this episode will hit home, and probably make you laugh more than once.Show Links: FTLOI (FOR THE LOVE OF IT:https://youtu.be/P-w0aJTZq5c?si=qfhoTy4qZ9yq6d_Dhttps://www.ftloi.net/⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E24 I Love You… But I’m Not Attracted to You Anymore | The Truth About Marriage & Desire
Apr 1600:50:11Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailNobody wants to say it out loud… but a lot of couples feel it.“I love you, but I’m not attracted to you anymore.”In this episode, we break down the truth most marriages avoid. Love might be unconditional, but attraction isn’t. It’s tied to effort, and over time, most couples slowly stop trying. Not all at once, just little by little until the connection fades.We talk about weight gain, complacency, resentment, and the uncomfortable conversations couples avoid for years. We also share our own story, what we went through, what almost broke us, and what actually brought the attraction back.If your marriage feels comfortable but not exciting, connected but not passionate, this is the conversation you probably need to hear.#UndressedConversations #MarriageTruth #RealMarriage #IntimacyMatters #Attraction ⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E23 We Followed the Rules… and It Made Us Worse!
Apr 1000:29:48Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis episode is a real story about what actually happens when you grow up with strict rules around dating, sex, and “doing the right thing.”We were the good kids. Door open. Following the rules. Respectful.At least… that’s what everyone thought.What nobody tells you is that rules don’t stop behavior. They just change how it happens. And sometimes, they make it more intense, more secretive, and more wired into your brain than it would’ve been otherwise.In this episode, we break down:How “open door policies” really worked (or didn’t)Why environment changes behavior more than rulesHow secrecy and fear of getting caught became part of the excitementThe long-term impact that followed us into adulthoodWhat parents and couples need to understand about human natureThis isn’t about blaming parents. It’s about understanding how behavior is shaped, often in ways no one intended.If you’ve ever wondered why “good kids” don’t always turn out the way people expect, this will probably hit closer to home than you think.⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours:HTTPS://vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E22 The Fantasies Married People Are Too Afraid to Admit
Apr 200:52:04Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailMost marriages don’t lose love, they lose honesty in the one place that matters most. In this episode, we break down why fantasies aren’t the problem, silence is. From purity culture and early conditioning to the real difference between fantasy, kink, and fetish, we walk through the stages couples go through and where they get stuck. We also share how not talking about desires slowly turns connection into routine, and how small, honest conversations can completely change your relationship. This isn’t about doing everything, it’s about knowing each other fully. #UndressedConversations #MarriageIntimacy #RelationshipTruth #LoveUnfiltered ⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours:HTTPS://vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E21 Is Sex Really Better After 40? The Truth No One Talks About
Mar 2700:46:28Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailSex is supposed to get worse as you get older… right?That’s what most couples believe. Passion fades. Desire disappears. And eventually, marriage turns into roommates sharing a life.But what if that’s completely wrong?In this episode of Undressed Conversations, we break down what actually happens to sex in your 40s and beyond, and why so many couples say their best sex didn’t start until later in life.We talk about: • Why sex struggles more in your 20s and 30s than people admit • How kids, stress, and performance pressure quietly kill intimacy • What changes in your 40s that reignites desire • The role of trust, communication, and emotional safety • How couples experience a real sexual reawakening later in lifeThis is not theory, it’s real experience, real conversations, and the truth most people aren’t saying out loud.If you’ve ever wondered whether your best years are behind you… this episode might change everything.#UndressedConversations #ModernMarriage #RelationshipTruth #IntimacyRewired #LoveUnfiltered⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours:HTTPS://vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E20 Who We Are… And Why This Might Offend You
Mar 2500:12:13Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis is who we really are.After 32 years of marriage, we’re finally saying the things most couples avoid, about intimacy, religion, connection, and what actually brings a relationship back to life.This isn’t expert advice. This is lived experience, battle scars, and the truth most people keep to themselves.If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or curious about what more could look like in your relationship, this is where it starts. #UndressedConversations #MarriageTruth #RealRelationships #IntimacyMatters #LoveUnfiltered ⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E19 Why So Many Couples Struggle With Sex In Purity Culture
Mar 1900:49:00Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailWe were taught that sex was sacred, powerful, and something to protect, but what happens when that message suddenly flips after marriage and you’re expected to just know what to do? In this episode, we share our real experience with how early messaging shaped our confidence, desire, and connection in ways we didn’t even realize at the time. This is not about attacking beliefs, it’s about understanding how conditioning follows people into marriage and how couples can rebuild intimacy, communication, and desire in a healthier way together. #UndressedConversations #MarriageTruth #IntimacyMatters #RealRelationships #ConnectionOverPerfection ⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
Transcribe →E18 My Wife Didn’t Orgasm for 25 Years of Our Marriage
Mar 1300:39:38Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailFor the first twenty five years of our marriage, Tonya had never experienced an orgasm during sex. She thought her body was broken. She believed some women could and some women simply could not.The truth is far more common and far more complicated.Research shows about 95% of men orgasm during sex while only around 65% of women do. Roughly one in three women struggle to orgasm regularly and only about 18% orgasm reliably from penetration alone.In this episode of Undressed Conversations we talk openly about the silence phase, the conditioning phase, the discovery phase, the breakthrough, and what actually changed everything for us. We discuss body insecurity, religious messaging around sexuality, communication in long term relationships, nervous system safety, and why orgasm is often more psychological than mechanical.If you have ever wondered why sex can feel effortless for some couples and frustrating for others, this conversation might change how you think about intimacy.⭐ About Undressed ConversationsWe’re Mark and Tonya, high school sweethearts married for 30 years. After decades of trying to fit into roles that weren't ours, we finally dropped the masks and started telling the truth about marriage, intimacy, shame, healing, and what it actually takes to stay connected for life. Our goal is simple, to help couples build relationships that feel alive again.🔥 Listen to the Podcasthttps://undressedconversation.buzzsprout.com/📺 Watch More EpisodesFull Episode Playlist: https://bit.ly/undressedyt💌 Connect With UsAfter Hours Vault: https://bit.ly/UCVaultYouTube: https://bit.ly/undressedytInstagram: https://bit.ly/undressedinstaTikTok: https://bit.ly/undressedttFacebook: https://bit.ly/undressedfbTwitter/X: https://bit.ly/undressedxWebsite: https://undressedconvesation.comEmail Us: stories@undressedconversation.com🔒 Join the After Hours VaultWelcome to the deeper, unfiltered side of Undressed Conversations.Our private membership includes extended episodes, intimate conversations, behind-the-scenes moments, and the stories we can’t share publicly.The Vault opens soon. 🛍️ Our Favorite ThingsWe share only items we genuinely use and love.🎥 Work With UsFor collaborations, interviews, event appearances, or media inquiries:stories@undressedconversation.com⚠️ DisclaimerWe share personal experiences and opinions. This content is not professional medical, psychological, legal, or therapeutic advice. Viewer discretion is advised for mature topics.Support the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.comSupport the showWant more? Watch clips, follow us everywhere, and join After Hours: vault.UndressedConversation.com
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