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“I don’t know” is, more often than not, a complete lie. A kind one. A polite one. But a lie.

In this episode, Leah Pitzenberger owns up to a habit she suspects you share — reaching for “I’m not sure” when she is, in fact, completely sure — and why we do it: because certainty is a position, and a position can be wrong out loud. Then she shares the thing she heard about how the military, in actual war zones, learned to find out what was really going on: they stopped asking the men and started asking the women, because the women always knew. Every time.

You see the whole board. You always have. This one is about the quiet difference between not knowing and not wanting to be on the record.

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