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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Welcome back to this week's episode of Unlocked. As you all know, I love going on these self help journeys. I love educating myself, meeting new people, and just kind of getting some help along the way. So I have Danny Morrell on. Thank you.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Thank you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Did I say your last name right?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You did.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Thank goodness.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Mushrooms.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Just like the mushrooms. So Danny actually has a book that has come out called Awaken your highest self. And I thought I would read just kind of what this book's about for you guys. So you know what we're gonna talk about? Is that good with you?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Let's do it.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
All right. Do you ever sense you're meant for something bigger? More success, love and fulfillment. But old fears, doubts and self sabotaging patterns keep pulling you back the moment a breakthrough nears. I feel like this book was written for me. Danny Morrell knows his feeling well. After building a $1 billion real estate business and experiencing external success, he suddenly lost his mother. An event that forced him to question everything he had created. Those questions led to a profound awakening that would later spark a global movement rooted in heart centered living truth and spiritual remembrance. Now and awaken your highest self. Danny guides you on a deeply personal journey to discover love, abundance and inner peace by introducing you to his signature framework, Awaken, heal and transform. With the same calming presence, piercing truth and fierce love that fuel his live events, Danny helps you break free of limiting beliefs and stories, heal generational wounds, and transform unconscious and energetic patterns so you you can finally step into the life you're destined to live. Drawing from relatable moments in his own journey and sharing the same tools, meditations, breathwork, practices and affirmations he's taught to millions, you'll learn to unlock unshakable conference confidence, inner peace, true abundance, real power, and deep love. So I am super excited about having you on. And one thing that we did, neither of us really researched each other. I don't like doing my podcast that way because I like having the authenticity of sitting across from someone and hearing their story from the first. For. For the first time and not being so planned. So I love that we went about it this way.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah, I love it too. I don't know anything about you either, so I think this is going to be a fun discovery.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
This is amazing. Like I said, I read the first few sentences and I was like self sabotaging. This was meant for me. Yeah. So can you give us a little background of just your life? Obviously, insanely successful, you made your money and then you. Even in the midst of that, you still kind of felt lost, is what I gather.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. You know, I think as you said that, you know, when you said insanely successful, what I thought to myself was insanely successful based off of what, how the world defines success. But if I can be honest, I was like miserable on the inside. You know, what happened to me starts when I was born, like it does for all of us in our human experience. I had a mother and father, a mother who never received love from her mother because she died at 13 days old, and a father who never received love from his father because his father disowned him from the day he was born. And so what we don't know happens is that when our parents don't receive the love that their heart is looking for, it creates a wound inside of them. In this case, like, my dad had a very deep masculine and feminine wound because he didn't receive love from his father or mother. And my mom had a very deep feminine wound. So here come I. And energetically, I absorbed all of those woundings, I absorbed all of those energies because I never received the love that I was looking for. And I think it's really important for people to understand, like your parents could provide for you, they could take care of you, they could provide a nice home for you, they could take you on vacations. And yet, like your little heart at the same time could be yearning for more. And when it's yearning for more, you start to create a story about yourself, about God and about life. And typically that story is I'm not enough.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And so then you start living life from the perspective of I'm not enough. And what I did was I thought that in order to be enough, I know what I'm going to do. I'm going to build a big business and I'm going to get married. Because the business was my masculine side trying to feel powerful and seen. And the marriage was my feminine side trying to find love. And the love I didn't receive from My mother. And so I did that. Right. I did what society said, like, go do this, and you'll be happy. And I got to the very top, Savannah. And I had a moment where I realized I was actually secretly miserable my whole life. And that didn't happen until my mom passed away. And typically, that's what happens when we have a spiritual awakening. Either we lose a partner, we lose a mother or father, a death in the family, you know, we lose our money, we lose what we cling, you know, so dearly to, and it causes us to go, wait a minute. And in that moment in our lives, we have one of two choices. Either we go into it or we avoid it.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And the more that we avoid it, the more it's going to keep showing up.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Now, you said it wasn't until your mother's death.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And do you think that's because we, as humans have this perception in our mind of, well, I was provided for. They showed up to everything. They. You try to convince yourself they may have been great parents, and you try to convince yourself they did everything right, but it's not until they're gone that you start seeing where you wish they would have done more.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
I. I'll. I'll it any. It's. It's not just until they're gone. Because a lot of people we work with, you know, sometimes it's a divorce that sparks, you know, the awakening. Sometimes it's your business, you know, fell apart. I'm going to, like, flip it a little bit. This is so deep, you're not even conscious of it. So you're not. You're not walking around life thinking, like, yeah, I think they did enough. You literally don't know any other way to be. And so all of your life on the outside, literally the career you're in, the money that you make or don't make, the partners that you call in, even, like, the health that you're in, all of it is just a reflection of how you felt as a little boy or girl during those first seven years of your life. And. And here's the thing we, as humans don't realize is that, like, we think life is happening from the outside in. So, like, when I get a partner, then I'll be happy. When I become a millionaire, then I'll be happy. And what's actually happening is. Is life is happening from the inside out.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes. Wow. That's. It definitely causes you to think, because it is so true. I look at my own life and, well, if I just reach this point, then I'll be fine. If I just reach that point, then I'll be fine. And you realize that it doesn't, it doesn't happen that way. No, and I caught on. You said in the first seven years of your life, is there something with that time frame?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. Think about it this, but this way, think about if you're going away on vacation and you're gonna go visit a long lost relative and they happen to live in the, I don't know, wherever they live. And the moment you walk into that house, you feel, you feel a certain way.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You either feel safe or anxious. You either feel happy or sad. You feel, you know, protected or vigilant. Right. Well, that's what happens when you come to the planet. From the moment you're born, you're feeling. And especially during those first years in life where you can't talk, you can't run, you're defenseless. Like you're just absorbing and trying to learn as much as you can about this thing called life. Literally. The way your mother and father look at you, the way they look at each other, the way that they interact with money, the way that they interact with love, if they have sex or don't have sex, if they're just trying to stay married or if they actually feel connected, all of that, like your little heart is feeling. And then you get siblings. And if you were the first, for example, like I was right. All of a sudden, like that love gets split and your little heart doesn't understand that. And I've worked with some people. For example, I worked with this Hollywood actress and she was telling me like, I always get the B roles, I never get the A roles. And I was like, interesting, okay. And. And then later on she goes, and by the way, like, I want you to help me. I'm trying to like get past this, this, this guy that I'm dating. I'm actually like his mistress again. She's the second choice.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So then I go deep into. And I asked her this question. I say, let me ask you a question like, where did you discover or learn that love equals your second best? And she just starts crying.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
She goes, oh my God. When my sister was born. And I say, tell me a little bit more about that. She goes, well, my system was my sister was born with autism. And so immediately all of my parents attention and energy went to her because
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
she was the one that was struggling.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
She needed it.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That's. That's how I view my life. And I have an older half brother, and he was always in trouble and drugs and don't know if he's alive. Not alive. And it stole so much of our childhood because it was Dad's worried about, okay, where is he? Is he alive? Is he in this drug house? That drug house. And it was. It. And it's been this way my entire life. Even now in my adult life with all my other siblings, I hear my dad say it. It's like, you know, well, they really need me, you know, and so it's.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And what are you feeling when he says that?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That I'm on an island by myself because I'm doing things the right way and I'm, you know, working and doing all these different things, but because I'm not the one messing up, it's, well, you don't need me.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
You know, and that. That's something that's really difficult that I think has led. And it's not until now, sitting here with you, that I think that has led to a hyper independence for myself.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Can I explain why?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So this is, you know, what. What happened, you know, so. Yeah. So the man is the embodiment of the physical world. You know, think of cavemen.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Think of, like, hunting. Think of. Yeah. And the woman is the embodiment of the spiritual. This is why they always say, like, behind a good man is a great woman, because the woman is connected to her intuition. When she's online with her feminine. Her feminine is her feelings, her emotions, and her heart. Yeah. When she's connected to that, she's connected to God. She literally knows without, like, needing all the answers. She just knows.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. And what happens is when a woman as a little girl, didn't receive that love and was disconnected when. When it happened to me. It happens to all of us. When she was shown, for whatever reason, that her parents don't see her and are distracted to someone else, in this case, your brother. What happens is a story unconsciously gets created and puts an imprint in the nervous system where you create a story that literally says, my heart is not safe. And if my heart is not safe, where am I gonna go? I'm gonna go up to my mind. That's hyper independence.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Does that resonate?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Without a doubt.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Right. And so what happens is we go around living life, like, literally, like, I feel like I'm talking to myself because that's what I did. I went out and I created a stories. If love is not available to me, I'm gonna make them love me. I'm going to become famous. I'm going to become a business person. I'm going to become successful. I'm going to have. I had the nice car, the nice house, all of it. And I had all of that. And that's when I had this moment where I realized, like, holy, like I'm empty. I'm empty. Like none of this stuff outside of me is fulfilling me.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And it all ties down to what happened as kids.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And how do you rework that?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah, that's a great question. It's, it's a journey. It's definitely a process because it definitely
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
interferes with your romantic relationship. Right.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Let me flip it. It doesn't interfere with your romantic relationship. It calls in your romantic relationships. So literally you can only call in the partners that you call in that are an energetic match for the connection that you have with your heart and your emotions. The woundings that you have are literally the ones that are calling in the perfect partner to match that wounding.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And when you say that is that. For instance. I'll give you an example. Like the person that I'm with now.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
All of those internal wounds that I have, the, you know, not trusting people, hyper independence. Now with him, it's very easy for me to not be hyper independent because. And he knows I have these things, but he continues to show up and soften those things about me.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's beautiful. Yeah. At one point in time in the relationship, you're going to get to. I don't say have to. You're going to get to choose. Yeah, you're gonna get to choose. And, and, and this is, you know. Do you have any kids?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
No.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Are you thinking about having kids?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So this, this is the beauty of motherhood. For a woman, motherhood is like a rite of passage. Because the only thing that she can actually do when giving birth to the child is to surrender. The more that she's in her fear, the more that she's in that independence, the more that that change she's in that survival instinct, the more friction and rigidity will be caused in the body and the more that she will experience pain. This is why so many women are actually afraid to give birth.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because they're in their mind, they're not in their heart, they're not in their body. The feminine is the heart. The feminine is the body.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Well, I will say I had custody of my brother and sister for Two and a half years when both my parents were away. And I saw that change me so much because I have always said if I don't do anything right in my life, I know God meant for me to be a mother.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Beautiful.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And so having them and the responsibility of two children, it completely changed how I operated. And I feel like it softened my heart a lot.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
While also just being so grateful for the gift of being able to guide to human beings through life.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. Yeah. Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And it's kind of. How long have you known the current partner? Oh,
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
we've been dating since July.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And. And what was the. Yeah, and what was the. Watch this. And what was the relationship and connection between when you met him and when that happened with your brother and sister?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Oh, I. I love how you're laughing. That's Aaron. I guess it was. We met in the midst of all of that, but didn't pursue anything till much, much later.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You couldn't.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because here's what happens. You were in the process of softening to allow. To allow him and his energy to come in. Yeah. And this is what I try to tell people is that, like, everything that is happening in our life is not happening to us. It's happening for us.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
I am wholeheartedly and aligned with that because I say it's. You look at, like, for me personally, I look at trauma I endured as a child, and in that moment, you're like, all right, God, why are you allowing this to happen? And now, 10 years later, I saw why God allowed that to happen, because it gave me the strength that I needed.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Endure what I've endured.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. It's been. It's all been a perfect part of your life's path. And the only thing that keeps us from seeing that is resistance. And this is what dark energy wants from us. It wants us to resist the past. It wants us to resist our parents. It wants us to be in a constant state of unforgiveness because for as long as we're in that state, we can never be in love. And if we're not in love, we can't be in our essence. And if we're not in our essence, we can't be connected to God. And if we're not connected to ourselves, how can we ever connect to our partners?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes. I say, especially as a woman and being so hyper independent and, you know, it's fine, I'll do it. I'll. You know, just having that mentality and being so strong that when you meet someone and you soften and you feel safe and you don't feel like you have to be like that. I am woman. Hear me roar. It changes your outlook on everything. And I think it's. But it took a lot for me to get to that soft space.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And there would have been no way for any relationship to really.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
I.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Look, I was engaged at 21 and I was a hard ass.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Tell me about him.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
He. He was awesome. He was. But it was. We clashed a lot because I was successful. He was successful in his own right, but there was always a sense of, don't want you to be more successful than me. And you know what? He ended up passing away in a motorcycle accident. And I still. Most heartbreaking thing probably I've ever endured. But throughout that, you know, that was one of those relationships, I was like, God knew I needed that at that time.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
But it. It did. It. It taught me a lot. And it also taught me that part of the downfall was me being so hard. You know, being so hard and in competition. And that was a downfall. I would have never been able to say that, you know, five years ago.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And. And then. So look, you. You go from a place of like, never been able to say that to it was a downfall to it was perfect.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You know, the, the turning point for me was my relationship. Because if I'm. I was married for 13 years and, and if, and if I'm like, brutally honest with myself, I was a massive people pleaser. I always put others in front of myself.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And what I later discovered was I did that because I didn't feel seen or heard as a little boy. And so as I saw my parents constantly arguing and fighting amongst each other, all I was trying to do is, like, hold the peace and make them happy. Well, that energy carried into the relationship. So when you're a people pleaser, guess what? You'll attract someone that needs to be pleased. So I attracted the perfect woman.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That is when you just said that, I'm like, immediately like, holy cow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That's what it is.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Right. And so what A what? A man that is a people pleaser will never be in. Is in his masculine. And if he's not in his masculine, the woman will never feel safe. Because the only way, and I want to define masculine in a second. The only way that a woman can ever feel safe with a man is. See, it is if he is in his essence and in his truth. But he can't be in his truth if he's worried about pleasing you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. And the people pleaser and me, what happened was I attracted a woman that no matter what I did, could not be pleased. No matter what I did, it was wrong. No matter what I did, it would start an argument. No matter what I did, it would start a fight. And think about how perfect it is. The fact that I couldn't please her or, you know, we call it, like, save her or like, or like, help her, kept me in a perpetual state of trying to please her.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Do you see how it works? Yeah. And until one day I had an affair. And, and I want to. I want to qualify this by saying that, like, I was the guy that was so into, like, people pleasing that I built the perfect life. So much so like that, you know, in our friends groups, all of the wives only let the guys go on the guy strip if I was going because they knew I was so good and I would never do anything wrong that I would keep them in check. Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So think about this. I had built, like, this perfect Persona. Persona, which was complete bs, quite frankly. It was literally from my need to get you to accept me, to like me, and to validate me.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And then in one moment, all of that crashed and I did the one thing that I told myself I would never do. I had an affair.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow. And in that moment, what. How long between, like, the affair and your marriage ending? And what? Because I think in all of that, you still had your crash out moment. Right. Because I guess in that moment, you still were people pleasing here and having this whole Persona. And then behind the scenes, it was totally different.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. You know, the. The best way that I can describe it is I was not living in my truth.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And, you know, and people ask me all the time, you know, you know, like, do you regret it? No. Because it's the thing that I needed to, like, unlock me and let me free from the cage that I was living in. And it did cause pain. And yet, like, we're afraid of pain because we make pain bad. And sometimes pain can be our greatest teacher.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So I look back at it and, like, the pain that I felt and the pain that I caused actually allowed us to liberate ourselves.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
It unlocked you both.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It really did. Because if we're honest, like, we weren't in love. We were in need.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And there's a big difference.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Between those two things.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, you know, you look at most couples nowadays who are married for like, 10, 15, 20 years. 30 years, which now it's getting rarer and rarer.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And yet they don't talk to each other.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
They don't share their truths with each other. They're not honest with each other. And so what happens is you end up holding on to a relationship because of whatever, you know, religious beliefs or societal beliefs. But that's not, like, your truth, you know, and now I'm in a relationship where, with my wife, I can tell her absolutely anything. There's nothing off the table. And as a matter of fact, the more of my truth that I share with her, the more connected that we are.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes. That is something that I think a lot of people get wrong. A lot of people are fearful of the truth when in reality, the truth sets you free. And knowing your partner at such an intimate level, whether it's good or bad,
- [30:42]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
whether it hurts or feel, whatever it is, you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
You know what you're dealing with.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. And that's the only way that a woman can ever actually feel safe with a Man is for her to know what she's dealing with. That might cause a process in her. That might cause her to yell and kick and scream. But think about it. That's like the weather, right? The man is like the sky. A man in his real essence. His job is to hold, just like the sky holds. And the woman, she's here to feel. Right. Just like the weather. Sometimes it's sunny, sometimes it's gloomy, sometimes it's whatever. That's the polarity between the masculine and the feminine. And when the man is in his masculine, his truth, his essence, he actually doesn't even need to say that much. Just his mere presence causes her to feel safe.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes. So what would. What were the steps that you took? Like I said, you built this insane company. Yeah. You then just revealed that you had an affair and all of these. So what were the steps that brought you to a healing point?
- [31:46]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, everything you've ever wanted in life is on the other side of fear. Everything. And your greatest life's transformation comes when you're able to look at your deepest, darkest fears, face them, go into them, instead of avoiding them, and transcend them. If you think about it, that's what Covet was, for example.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Covid was the collective fear consciousness that lives inside of each and every one of us, manifesting into something that showed us and reflected back to us the fear that lives or doesn't live within us. And I want to be sensitive to this, like, what I'm about to say. I'm not making anything right or wrong. It just was like. For example, I can remember when Covid happened, I was living in California, and the governor had just said, you cannot go out for a run. You cannot go out and be nature. And the next morning, you know what I did? You can actually scroll down on my Instagram. I was like, hi, I was running. My name is Danny Morell, and I choose to not participate in Covid. I just didn't participate. I was just. That was my sovereign ability to choose. Right. But think about this. Remember what I said. Like, all transformation normally comes at the root of pain. A death, a loss of an income, a loss of relationship, or your health. That's what Covet was. Covet was literally something that brought you face to face with your deepest fears and then asked you the question, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to. Or are you going to lean on your own sovereignty? Wow. Yeah. I'm not making that right or wrong, but I am going to pose a question like, you're a businesswoman. If you had a business that created $84 billion in profit, would you run it back? No, I probably would. $84 billion in profit.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Rephrase your question.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
If you're a business and you did a business, you created a business that made $84 billion in profit.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Oh, yeah, I'd redo it all over
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
again three times and four times and five times, right?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So what we showed them is that they can get away with it, without a doubt, 100%. You understand what I'm saying? And it, that only changes when you learn to face the fear within you, the face of losing your money, the face of losing your life, the face of losing everything. And in spite of all of that, you said, no, no one is going to control me. So this is going to get a little sensitive because that brings me to, like, religion. I, part of being the good boy was, I was like the evangelical, like, seminary reading, Bible thumping, like, this is right. You're wrong. That was me, like, a very large part of my life. And when we were dealing with our divorce, I remember we went and sat in front of the pastor, and, you know, I, I, I, I can remember, like, you know, when I would read the Bible and I would read these verses, like, these verses would, like, like bring me so much conviction.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And, and I would, like, literally live my life by them. But here was something that was feeling a little bit differently. This is something that was like my affair, my relationship, divorce. This was, like, in my heart. So I was so confused. I literally thought I had the devil in me. So I remember going to the preacher and I was like, listen, please help me. Like, my heart feels like, I don't think this is supposed to work. And I don't think I can actually love her the way that she deserves to be loved. Like, that was my truth. And back then, it was literally like, Satan is in me or something's wrong
- [35:27]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
with me because I'm reading these things. Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And I'm supposed to love her, right. So the, the, the, the, the, the pastor, you know, starts reading verses and he says, you, you can't get divorced because of this. And I go, okay, I understand that, but, like, what about my heart? And you can't get divorced because of this, and you can't get divorced. And he kept going and going. And finally there was a moment, this moment changed my life forever. He closed the Bible, he put it down, he looked me dead in the eye, and he says, son, let me ask you a question. He says, you know, all that Favor that you have, like, all the money you make and all the friends you have, and you know. You know, all the favor you have with the community, you. You know, all of that favor that God has, like, bestowed on you. And I was like, yeah. He says. I'll tell you what he says. If you make the decision to get a divorce, you will lose all of God's favor on your life. And that's what he told me. Wow. That's. That's my truth. And in that moment, I cannot explain to you what happened, but I literally had a spiritual moment where I was like, I don't know what love is, but that doesn't feel like love.
- [36:37]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
No, that does not.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That feels like guilt, manipulation, whatever. That is the moment that I called in. We all call in different moments in life to make us choose what are we going to live in? In fear or in love. And for me, I remember saying to myself, I don't care if I have to live on a cardboard box begging for food. That addressed my money. Yeah. Single and alone. That address the relationship and starve to death. That address my health. I would rather do that than live another day of my life not knowing what love actually is. Because I've been looking for love in marriage. I've been looking for love in business. I've been looking for love and fame, and I ain't finding it out there. So maybe, just maybe, it's in here.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's the moment that changed everything. And being that I was so religious, I used to think ayahuasca and plant medicine was the devil. Like, I would literally be like, you're Satan.
- [37:37]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
You're Satan.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And guess what I did. The very next day, I booked a trip to Costa Rica.
- [37:41]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Really?
- [37:42]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. Because I was like, okay, look, I know what I've been told to believe. It's time for me to discover it for myself. I want to know it for myself. And that's what, like, opened everything up and that.
- [37:54]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
I mean, I know for myself, like, I've done MDMA therapy. Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
What was that like?
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
It was. It brought me more healing.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Than I had had in the entire existence of being alive. Going through it. There was so much trauma that I had blocked out.
- [38:13]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And I feel like it's so easy to get to a place of. When you endure something so traumatic, everything in you shuts off. And then the longer you get from that event, you. Then you start questioning yourself, well, did it really happen this way or that? Whatever it may be. And I felt like I needed it in this moment. To just sec. Like set the record straight. And going in this, like, I had some photos, I had some things I wanted to let go of, whatever it may be. And in the midst of put pieces of the puzzle together.
- [38:52]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
- [38:52]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
That I had forgotten.
- [38:53]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That validated how I had. How I feel, and that validated what had happened. And. And then it was so crazy. In the midst of it, I would like, self regulate. And when I would talk about someone or something and I would start to get heated, I would stop and then go back to talking about something that brought me happiness and to see how my body under a circumstance to where I'm really not in control. Right. Because. And that was the craziest thing was going into it. I was so fearful and afraid.
- [39:31]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Right.
- [39:31]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Because I didn't have the control.
- [39:34]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because you've been avoiding feeling what you've been avoiding feeling and what the medicine does for you. And this is what we're actually afraid of, right. We use words like it's evil or it's drugs or whatever. What we're actually afraid of is feeling what we've been resisting. And that's where your life changes forever. And you know that. You can't explain that.
- [39:59]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
You can't explain it. Like, I put my phone on airplane mode and audio recorded the entire thing. Because the therapist I was with, she was like, I want you to be able to slowly go back and listen through this.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. And.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
But what was so crazy about it was like halfway through. And my body metabolizes things so quickly. I don't know if it's because of trauma or whatever, but halfway through, she, like, gave me a booster. And the moment I got to talking about my little brother and sister, Chloe and Grayson, she said she has never seen this. And the 20 years she's been doing it, she was like, but it's like your body just snapped out of it. Because I knew I needed to protect them and I couldn't do it in the state that I was in. It was. It was just the craziest, most healing experience experience I've ever done, which has led me to want to do ayahuasca because that's even greater than what I did.
- [40:59]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, so. So when you are led to, like, want to do it, it's because it's calling you. So I. I'll explain. Ayahuasca is the feminine. Ayahuasca is literally the feminine energy of God. And so what it does for you, for a man or a woman, is it grabs you from here to here. Right. Which. These are your lower chakras. Right. And it opens you completely. Because think about it. Mother Earth is the feminine. So from here down is our connection to the earth. From here up is our connection to the sky, to the heavens, to God above. Yeah. And so ayahuasca is literally the most beautiful thing that a human being could ever experience.
- [41:48]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
And what was that experience like for you?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, which one? I've done in, like, 20.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Really?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Oh, yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Okay. And what. I guess that first experience.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Okay, so the first experience.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Because people, you hear all kinds of crazy stuff about ayahuasca.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. And so I want to caution that. I want to caution that because, again, the answer is not outside of you. It's inside of you. Right. And so sometimes if we're looking for reasons to not do something, we're going to find reasons to not do something. And if we're looking for reasons to do something, we're going to find. So I would say, like, one of the things that I work on at our events and with the book is helping people to understand the answer is not in me. Me. It's not even in the book. It's. It's. It's. It's. It's not in anything outside of you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
The book is just a tool to help you, just like the MDMA did for you, help you feel what you've been avoiding feeling. I wrote it so that the book is actually like a medicine journey without being on the medicine is how I actually wrote it. And so I lost track of thought.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
But you're just the process of the ayahuasca.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Oh, so that first time. Yeah, that first ceremony. Well, I was a control freak my whole life. And so what did I try to do during the ceremony?
- [43:12]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Control.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Control the outcome. And what is the feminine? The feminine is the opposite of control. Fear controls, and love allows.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Fear controls. Love allows.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Love. That.
- [43:26]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. So I was resisting allowing. I was resisting. I was using control to resist feeling what I hadn't allowed myself to feel since I was a little boy. And by the way, that's where illness comes from. All of our cancers and all of our illnesses. They're just the body showing you. Hey, wake up.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You haven't processed all these emotions that you've been feeling since you were a little boy and girl.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And that's what the medicine does, is it? Basically, you know, this. It takes you from a space where your mind can control till you have no choice but to lay there and
- [44:03]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
surrender and how long does this journey last?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It's. It's different. But ayahuasca is typically. Ayahuasca is typically four to six hours.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Okay.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Which seems like a lot. But remember, time doesn't exist. Time is an illusion. Like, think back to moment. Like, we're locked in, me and you, right now. Like, I feel you, you feel me. Right. I bet you. Like, you haven't thought of time.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
No.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because we're here.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Time is a construction that keeps us out of the present moment. And so you could be in ayahuasca, and it could be four hours, and it could feel like four days.
- [44:37]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
- [44:38]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. Time is gone. You're just in it. And it's so beautiful, to be honest with you.
- [44:43]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
And what would you say you discovered in those moments?
- [44:47]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Oh, my God. I discovered my heart. I discovered my love. I discovered who I am. I discovered my purpose, my voice, my truth.
- [45:01]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Did you find in moments? Because I've heard stories from people of reliving painful moments in your life.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You. It's a must.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because the. The only way you can clear it is to go into it. So I'll give you one example. In one ceremony, I didn't. You know, when my mom passed away, I was used to being like, I have it all figured out, and I can keep it all together.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So even at the funeral, I remember wearing sunglasses. I didn't want anybody to see me. And I remember, like, you know, tears were coming, but I was. I never allowed myself to process her. Her death and to, like, really grieve it. So one ceremony, I'm in Mexico, and I, you know, drank the medicine. I'm laying there, and I'm, you know, shaking. My body shakes a lot when I'm in the medicine space. And next thing you know, I just hear, open your eyes, and I'm like this. Like a little boy. Right. And I open my eyes, and I see feet. And I look up, and it's this older woman that's there. And I go, what are you doing here? She goes, the medicine told me to come to you. And she sits down, and I put my head on her lap. And it was my mother. What? It was my mother. I got to feel my mother again. And I got to. I. I cried and cried from. From. From in here.
- [46:32]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And I just released so much. Yeah. The best way I can tell you is that because I was the oldest and because my parents split up, we didn't talk about this, is I stopped being a kid at 13. I had to be the strong one.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And I had to hold it all together. You know that. Yeah. Yeah. And so as a result, I never allowed myself to, like, really feel cared for. Yeah. I had to care for others. And so this was a beautiful moment where someone was caring for me, where the medicine literally directed her. There were 30 people in the room, told her to come specifically to me. It was just so beautiful. It's the most beautiful moments that a human being can experience. That's all I'll say.
- [47:19]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
That is amazing. And so now, with your life where you're at now.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. When
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
what moment would you say you reached where you were, like, I'm good. Like, I've. I've conquered a lot of these things. I've.
- [47:40]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. It's interesting, the word that you use so conquer is masculine. And you. What I will say is you get to a place where there's nothing to conquer. There's nowhere to go, there's nowhere to be, there's nothing to do, there's nothing to aspire to. You just are.
- [47:57]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And, like, the most beautiful thing Savannah, like. And I. I think one of my giftings is I help bridge, like, the spiritual with, like, the physical.
- [48:07]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So we. We live in a world nowadays where, especially with social media, we, like, we look up to people that are, like, successful and make a lot of money and whatever the case may be. And I would venture to say that most of the people that we're actually looking up to are actually really wounded little boys and little girls, without a doubt that they are looking for validation and success in their success and in their money. And that's not who we. And we. That's not how we as human beings are meant to operate.
- [48:37]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Money is the reflection of who we are. It's not what makes us who we are. And so the greatest thing that I can tell you about my life, about the lives of the people that I work with, and about what's available to all human beings that decide to go on this journey, is you will eventually get to a point where your life requires no effort. You're no longer trying. You're no longer trying to get to anywhere else. You're no longer. There's no more goals.
- [49:13]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And the relationship is simply an outward expression of the love that you have inside. And the money and your work is simply an outward expression of the love that you have inside. This is what I mean. Life is actually happening from the inside, the inside out.
- [49:32]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
And what would you say? What did you leave behind from your old life? Like, how different is your life now? Than your old life with business and things and. What?
- [49:43]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
I think I'm a much simpler person.
- [49:46]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Okay.
- [49:47]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
I think where I used to, I remember I used to obsess over followers, for example. Obsess. I was always looking, always tracking. I was posting. That's a problem. I was always looking, always posting. I would be posting two or three times. I would like pay accounts to post my stuff. Anything, anything. I no longer need that validation. Like the validation that I need is within myself.
- [50:11]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
- [50:12]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And then as a result of that, it just shows up. See the difference there?
- [50:17]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes. Because you're not trying to control.
- [50:19]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You're not.
- [50:20]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
And that's an exhausting life to live.
- [50:22]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It's the life most of us are living.
- [50:24]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
- [50:25]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It's why I, I made the book,
- [50:27]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
you know, that's amazing. And so what would you say the main purpose of this book is?
- [50:34]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
The main purpose of the book is to help you go into the places that you unconsciously have been avoiding and that have actually been creating your life. The life that you actually don't want. Because it doesn't bring you peace, fulfillment, happiness or joy. Wow. And it's going to bring you face to face with those moments, just like you experienced with the MDMA in a really beautiful way. And I actually included in the book a meditation to help people reclaim and, and heal from whatever energy they had with their mother and father, which is very powerful. And also breath work which will give you, you know, that transcendental spiritual experience. So the, the, the, the book is it, it, it's going to change lives.
- [51:27]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
I love that. I know even for me, like where I'm at in my life right now, I can genuinely say I'm happier than I've ever been.
- [51:36]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Beautiful.
- [51:36]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
But I do see, for instance, there's, there's a struggle within myself of which I think it's people pleasing of trying to break old patterns in relationships, whether it be with my mother, my father, my siblings, and not. It's so hard at times to stand firm in what you believe in in fear of upsetting someone else.
- [52:03]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
- [52:04]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Right. Because it's like I love you too much to upset you. But you do realize what you've done to me is effed up or.
- [52:13]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well,
- [52:15]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
and I think that may be a fear of losing someone as well.
- [52:19]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right. And, and, and let me present it to you this way. Someone who actually loves you, allows you to share, do, become, whatever you need to share, do and become.
- [52:35]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
- [52:36]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Because love doesn't control love, allows love,
- [52:40]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
does not control love.
- [52:42]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Allows always remember. I know that one resonated with me.
- [52:44]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And so if you think about it like we're afraid. How about how someone might feel? Go back to the experience that's actually your masculine. Remember what I said at the beginning and you were like, yes. The only way that a woman can feel safe in a man's presence is if he is in his truth.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Like, just give it to me, I think is what you said.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Well, that's the same way for you. When you are afraid to share with the people that you love about your experience or how they made you feel by the way you want to share it, like with love and compassion and kindness, their reaction, they get to own. That's not yours to carry, that's theirs to carry. And I'm going to venture to say that when I work with people, most of the time when you share, eventually it actually brings liberation and healing to you both.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
I can, I can see that. What are some tips that you would give women who are. Who maybe are more in their masculine. Yeah, because I think that is a place that we're at in the world right now is there are so many women that are in that masculine. And coming from someone who has been that way, it's exhausting.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah, absolutely. Well, I, I would say start small, start really small. Like, there's so many small ways that a woman can give herself the space and the time to feel feminine without anyone else. Bubble baths, sitting in nature, lighting candles. I mean, even just breathing. Yeah, like even just breathing and just being present with yourself. Always remember that the feminine is not about doing.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
It's about feeling.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It's about feeling and being.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So the more that you can allow yourself those beautiful little moments. Go walk in nature. Go take off your shoes. Go breathe. Go connect with the sun. Turn off the phone. Is a big one. That is, you know, go, go make yourself a beautiful bubble bath, Cook yourself a nice meal. All of that, like, make yourself feel like the queen that you are. The more that that starts to happen, the more that you connect to that energy and the more, like when it comes to a man coming in, you're like, you don't want that disrupted at all.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
No.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You want to enhance that.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Enhance it. Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Obviously we spoke about, you know, love is, is not control. Yeah, correct.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
But there are circumstances in life to where key members, whether it's your spouse, boyfriend, mother, father, to where that is the only way that they know love is control.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's right.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
And so when you're in a situation like that what do you do? Because, you know, it shouldn't be control, but that's the only way. Maybe the person on the other side that hasn't done healing views, love.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
So Ram Dass used to have this quote, and it's so profound. He says, the best thing that you can do for someone else is to work on yourself. And the best thing that you can do for the best thing that you can do for someone else is to work on yourself. And the best thing that they can do for you is to work on themselves. And so what happens is when we share our truth with someone and they are used to controlling us.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You have to understand that the only way that a human being can be controlled or be controlling is if there's the energy of control within both of them. Them. And that energy is what keeps the relationship together.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Yeah. In other words, this is where you have, like, I work with, like, divorced couples, etc, where, like, the partner is literally still controlling the other person. Right. And when you share your truth, not from anger, not from rage or anything, but from a place of love and understanding and awareness, like, this is just no longer how I want to live my life. And you stand firm in that. That's you and your masculine. And then that gets to do. Whatever it does when we are afraid of it is because, in essence, we're trying to control the outcome.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
But remember, only fear controls. So if you're my sister or whatever, and I come to you and I say, you know, know, sister Savannah, like, you know, the way that you are with me, like, I. I'm just coming to realize that I know we've been like that our whole lives, but I don't really like that. And I think that, like, from now on, I'd like to maybe have a little bit of space. But, you know, from now on, when you're that way with me, I just want to let you know that, like, I. I just don't want to allow that. And I'm not saying that from a mean place. I'm saying it from a place of. Of I want to heal myself. But I also, like, maybe want to help you to see, like, whatever you need to see that needs to control me. And then you let. What happens happens.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
That's no longer your responsibility because you didn't say anything to. You just shared your truth.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Your truth.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Right. And then what happens typically is that person will react. Well, what do you mean? What the f. Yeah, because. Because what they're used to doing, they can't do anymore. There' there's no longer the space to do what they've been doing. And then that's the medicine. That's the medicine. Because it causes them to look inside of themselves. And one of two things can happen.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
You either grow closer or.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And you get to be okay with that because they get to choose the same way that you chose to share your truth. Truth is the same way that they get to resist or allow. You can't control what anybody else does.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
No.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
You can't control their reaction when they actually love you. At some point in time, they will see the truth. Your words will work in them the same way that the medicine worked in you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
It's what will happen. Or they'll resist. And if they resist, here's the beautiful thing. Thing. You get to a place in your life where you love yourself so much that whoever it is that has been controlling you or has been negative or has been, you know, manipulative with you, you'll just no longer accept that.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And, and, and even if it's your parents, by the way, because I can guarantee you that if your parents are that way with you, you're going to attract a partner that is that way with you. And the only way that you can no longer attract. Attract partners like that is if you sever that energy with your parents.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yes.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And normally what happens is when you do that, their love for you, at some. It may not be in a day or a week or a month. It will normally. Because guess what? The only reason they were that way with you is because their parents were that way with them. Yes. So you become the one that heals everything.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
That's amazing.
- [60:10]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
The truth is always what sets everyone free. And the truth is the only way that love can actually exist. Most human beings don't actually know what love is. They know control, they know manipulation. They know need, they know attachment. They don't know what love is. Love is actually the opposite of all of that.
- [60:33]
Savannah (Podcast Host)
Wow. I love this. Well, now I'm so excited to go and read your book because I feel like I need this.
- [60:39]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Where can I.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Can people find your book anywhere?
- [60:42]
Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
On Amazon, Audible. The Audible. It's, it's, it's in pre order right now. It comes out March 17th.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Okay, March 17th.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
And they just go to awakenbook.com awakenbook.com yeah.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Awesome. And where can they follow you on social media?
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Danny Morell.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Perfect. Guys, this. I am so excited. I also feel lucky. Like I got. This is even.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
I don't even know how you got it like that's.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
Yeah. That's amazing. That's really cool. That's amazing. Well, awaken your highest self, Danny Morell. Thank you so much.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Thanks for having me.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
You are amazing.
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Danny Morrell (Guest, Author and Speaker)
Thank you. So are you. Thank you.
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Savannah (Podcast Host)
We will link all of Danny's socials as well as where you can purchase or listen to his book.
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