Savannah Chrisley (0:00)

I don't know if I'm prepared for the full send I'm about to do, honestly. Welcome back to this week's episode of Unlocked. I'm doing a solo because I feel like there's elephants in the room that clearly need to be addressed. I have allowed you guys in on my life, and that comes with all the highs and all the lows. I've been figuring out how to navigate this stage of my life because it sucks. It hurts. It's been about a month and a half since Robert and I broke up. So there it is. Robert and I broke up on March 6th. Not that I'm keeping track of dates or anything, but I have taken a lot of time to process things and truly grieve the loss of the relationship that I thought was gonna be where I was for the rest of my life. And I think what sucks that people really don't prepare you for, too, is when kids are involved, not only are you grieving the loss of the person you were in relationship with, but you're also grieving the loss of that relationship that you have with those children. All the times that you've shown up for them and birthdays and holidays and all the phone calls you got when they were sick and wanted you to show up and just all of those things. It really sucks. Fortunately, the conversations with the kids haven't stopped, which is such a weird place to be in. But when I got into a relationship with Robert, I also got into a relationship with his kids. And I vowed to always show up. Always, always be there. And I was not going to be another disappointment for them because they've had a lot. And I'm going to keep that promise. When they call, I'm going to answer. If they need me to show up, I will be there. Because regardless of me and Robert's relationship, I still love them. And I love them more than I dislike where Robert and I are at. I'm trying to navigate this in the best adult way possible. And that's why I'm starting out slow, because I'm trying to bite my tongue. And you all know that I am not a master at that. Over the past year and a half, I have gotten to sit and watch Robert truly show up. I saw him be one heck of a dad and show up for these children and show up for people in his life. Life, despite everything that was going on with him and his ex. I would love to say I don't want to give her the notoriety that she has so badly been seeking, but I feel like that's the only way to go. I will never. I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has put Robert and the boys through. I don't believe that Robert and I would be where we were at today if she wouldn't have caused so much mass destruction. And it's really caused me to sit back and I feel like men always get the bad rap in relationships. It's always men do this, that whatever. Well, we as women can also cause a lot of destruction along the way. Way. It's just the truth of the matter. And that's what she did. She caused a lot of destruction and she absolutely destroyed a great man when it comes to his heart and his life, just all of it. She destroyed him. And he should have done a lot of work on himself before he and I met. He deserved to get to work through all of that pain and trauma so that he could move on with his life in a healthy manner. But unfortunately, I feel like, I don't know, we all serve our purpose in each other's lives, whether that's for a time, a season, a reason, whatever it may be. And I think I came along at a time in Robert's life to where he needed a little bit of hope. He needed some excitement, a sense of renewal, and he needed to be reminded that there can be love after chaos and after heartbreak and after destruction. And I believe that I showed that. I think I showed him that not only can there be love, but there can also be consistency, stability, and someone who's going to be by your side through it all. Because I was. I was by his side through every single thing. He and I had our little things here or there, but for the majority of our relationship, honestly, it. It was great. It was perfect. We were best friends. We had the best time. We laughed, we. We trusted each other, we loved each other. We. I'm. I try to sit here and pinpoint where it all went wrong. And in the midst of his ex's legal battle, there would be, you know, she had to stay in the Bahamas for a while. And so while she was there, life was great. It was. We were in our routines with not only Robert and I, but also the kids. And there was no drama. It was a drama free zone. And then when she would come back to the U.S. not only did she come back, but the chaos came back with her. And it's like she wanted to destroy everything in his path, her path, everyone. There was never any sense of care for another individual other than herself. And I say that because throughout a year and a half, I did everything in my power to protect those boys and to love on them and shield them. I never one time spoke poorly about her, ever, ever. I always sang her praises, and I always had hoped that she would do the work so that she could show up as the mother that those boys deserved. That was always my prayer for her. But I wouldn't say my prayer. My prayer never changed in that aspect because I always wanted them to have the love of their mother in a healthy way. I will. I still want that for them to this day. But I think a lot of. Like I said, I stay quiet. But if you guys remember, there was a Daily Mail article that caught all of us getting off of a plane in Key west for the kids spring break. And I knew I've been in this game for far too long. I knew where that had to have come from. The boys had just visited their mother. They, the youngest, told her what we were doing for spring break, which is fine. No kid should ever have to be held to saying something or not saying something. All that should ever be told is the truth. And so the little one let her know where we were going. And then the Daily Mail just happened to show up. And now she has admitted to being the one behind the Daily Mail article and them showing up on our vacation. And that is not protective, your children. That is once again causing chaos. And she didn't want me in the picture. There was a time to where she tried to get the courts to say I wasn't allowed around the children. There's just. I. I will never understand being the victim in circumstances that you created. So it sucks. It really, really sucks. Because when she was in the Bahamas, life was good. It was. And then when she came back to the U.S. it was turmoil. And I think with all the chaos that she brought her way or she brought our way, it was too much for Robert to handle. I know it was too much for him to handle. And so she got what she wanted. 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He offered to say a prayer for Nick and his family and I was like, this is the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Savannah says her boyfriend, 39, has stuff to work through before marriage. In fact, Robert's estranged wife is currently awaiting trial for allegedly plotting his murder. For now, Savannah and Robert are focused on their kids and get to be a good escape for each other, she says. A true gift. Robert told me after a few weeks, you weren't my first love and I wasn't yours, but we can be each other's last. So it definitely again this came out March 3rd and I got broken up with three days later, March 6th. So that was great ironic timing. And then so that was really hard for me because I'm going through this breakup. This is all over newsstands. Articles are being written online about me and Robert's plans for marriage and I mean he and I were full force in it, like seeing fertility doctors and talking about the future, our plans, all of these things. And he just realized, I think that there was a lot that he needed to work on. And he stated that he felt so much guilt for pulling me along throughout all of his chaos because he wasn't sure when it was going to end. And for anyone that's in his life to have to deal with his ex for the rest of their life is going to be a lot. So he says he did it because he loves me. I, I do know and believe that he loves me. It's just a hard pill to swallow. So this article came out. I got broken up with three days later. Then all the online articles are coming out and it was really hard for me. It was also hard for me to not just yell and be like hey, we're broken up now. This isn't true. Well, everything I said in the article is true, but we're just not together at this point in time, so that sucked. And I will never forget driving away from Robert's house, just sobbing hysterically in tears. I cried the whole way home. Seven, eight hours home. I just cried. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to say. None of it makes sense. Like, how can you say you love someone, you're in love with someone, but you can't be with them? Just all of was heartbreaking for me. And then I got home, I immediately text my therapist and was like, hey, I need to get in. I need to be in on the regular, please. And I start going to therapy. And I also. I think it was on the tail end of my ride home. I was on the phone with. Because I talked to Aaron at the very beginning. And then towards the end, I talked to Brittany Aldean. And because she had kind of. It's so funny how things happen, but she kind of been a part of our relationship from like the very beginning when we first started dating. And I told her what happened, she was like, savannah, you gotta change your number or block him, whatever. There can be no contact whatsoever. He has to realize how life is without you. And I have failed at that massively. Only because the middle one's birthday just came up and I do these big, like, balloons extravaganzas for their birthdays and Abidam. I was not going to let a birthday pass to her. I did not do it for him. I had just done it for the first two. So I'm gonna do it for him too. And I did it. I did his birthday celebration like I always would have. Chances are I'll probably do Easter celebrations too. Against everyone's advice to me, therapist, friends, whatever, just because I love them. And it's so hard for me to fathom not showing up for them. So, yeah, Brittany told me to cut all ties. Haven't done a great job at that. Robert and I, I mean, we've gone a while without speaking, but something will pop up and we'll check in or some odd reason. But we're not talking every day. We're not doing all of that. I think the hard part was him telling the boys that we broke up. It was honestly heartbreaking when it comes to the boys. Like the oldest. When he found out Robert and I broke up, oh my gosh, it was like heartbreaking to me. When I received messages that he Sent. And I'm like, oh, my God. Like, my anger immediately kicked in at being pissed off at Robert, because I'm like, how could you take them away from me? Me away from them? Like, it was just so hard to try to navigate. And like I said, they've gone through so much. I didn't want them to think I was just one more person walking away in their life, One more person disappointing them. I, over the past two and a half years, have suffered so much abandonment. I have two kids who have suffered so much abandonment. This was also another loss. So this was just, like, icing on the cake. Another person. Now we're at four. How many more do we have to go? And it was really, really tough. And I'm still trying to figure out how to navigate it. And I wrote Robert a bunch of letters, and I was gonna write them for longer than I actually did. And then something clicked in me. Something clicked. And part of me realized that I don't know if he ever had the mental or emotional capacity to truly worry about how certain things in his life were affecting me. And we're all. We're only capable of so much as human beings. So I don't fault him for that. But something clicked in me one day, and it was like, you know what? I want my feelings to matter. I want to be a priority. I want to be a thought. And I'm going to need to end these letters right here where I'm at. And I wrote one final goodbye letter. And I. Yeah, when I wrote it, I felt like, all right, this is my closure. Do I. I don't know what the future holds. Honestly, it's a tough one to swallow because it's not like either of us did anything wrong. It's outward influences that have affected our relationship so poorly. And then, of course, once we break up, I get noticed we'd been broken up for, I guess, a month. And then I get notified that there's going to be another People magazine article come out. This time, it's a cover all about her and this fiasco. But. And I don't even know why I'm doing this to try to protect her, but, you know, but of course. Who's on the COVID Me. Me and Robert. All about our relationship and inside Robert's new life with girlfriend, Savannah Chrisley. And I will never forget. I was coming back from D.C. when I get the call from my publicist that was like, savannah, there's gonna be a People magazine cover coming out. You're gonna be on it. It's going into all of her mess. But. But they're also mentioning you. And I was like, you have got to be kidding me. And when that happened, I reached out to Robert. Cause he and I had not been talking, and I was like, a little heads up would have been great. I don't think he actually knew it was happening at that point in time. And so this has been really hard for me just seeing that, all right, people are still thinking we're together. They're still, you know, writing stories as if we are and we're not. We're not together. We barely speak.