Podcast
Unrelenting Pursuit
Hosted by Brad and Lisa Valencia · EN
Whether you're facing challenges, navigating a crisis, enjoying a strong marriage, or dreaming of one in the future—we invite you to join us. We’re all about keeping it raw, unfiltered, and real, with plenty of laughter along the way, all while keeping our focus on Jesus.
Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!
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200. Countless Lessons in 200 Episodes: God’s Faithfulness & Signs You’re Healing
May 601:02:28Tap to summarizeThis episode is really special to us… because it’s our 200th episode!And if we’re honest—this journey has stretched us in ways we didn’t expect.It’s grown us, exposed things in us, healed places we didn’t even realize were still hurting… and through all of it, God has been so faithful.In this episode, we’re taking time to reflect on what He’s done—not just in this podcast, but in us. The obedience it’s taken to keep showing up. The moments we didn’t feel ready. The ways God met us anyway.And in the second half, we’re continuing the conversation we started—walking through signs 13–19 that your marriage is healing… even when it doesn’t feel like it yet...because just like this journey… healing doesn’t always feel clear while you’re in it.But that doesn’t mean God isn’t moving.If you’ve been in a stretching season… if you’ve been doing the work but wondering where it’s leading… this episode is for you.God has been faithful in our story.And He hasn’t stopped being faithful in yours.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →199. You Might Be Healing More Than You Think: Learning to celebrate the small wins
Apr 2800:56:52Tap to summarizeSometimes healing doesn’t look the way we expected it to.In this episode, we set out to walk through 20 signs your marriage is healing… and honestly, we didn’t even get through all of them.But maybe that’s the point.Because healing isn’t a checklist you complete—it’s something you begin to notice in the small shifts… the quieter reactions… the moments where you choose differently, even when it’s hard.If you’ve been feeling like you’re putting in the work but not seeing the breakthrough… if you’re wondering, “Are we actually getting anywhere?”… this conversation is for you.We’re talking about the subtle, often overlooked signs that God is still moving in your marriage—even when it doesn’t feel like it yet.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →198. Motherhood Isn’t Less Than: Reclaiming the Honor of This Calling
Apr 2200:44:24Tap to summarizeWe are living in a time where women can do anything…and yet fewer are choosing marriage and motherhood.Why?In this episode, we unpack the cultural shift that’s separating what was once deeply connected—commitment, family, and children. We talk about the lies we’ve believed about success, the fear and pressure many women carry, and why motherhood has started to feel like “less than.”But what if it’s not?What if motherhood isn’t a limitation—but one of the most significant callings a woman can step into?This is a conversation about truth, perspective, and choosing what actually matters.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →197. Stop Calling It “Too Much,” : The weight you are meant to carry
Apr 1500:59:20Tap to summarizeWe live in a world that constantly tells us we’re overwhelmed, overbooked, and at capacity—but what if that’s not the full truth?In this episode, we talk about the difference between being overloaded and being misaligned. Because sometimes it’s not that we’re carrying too much… it’s that we’re carrying the wrong things.Learning to increase your capacity isn’t about doing more—it’s about becoming stronger. It’s about letting go of what doesn’t matter, picking up what does, and allowing God to stretch you in the process. You are meant to carry the weight of the roles God has entrusted to you, and that weight is heavy because it is valuable and worth carrying.If you’ve been feeling like life is “too much,” this episode will help you step back, reassess, and realign—so you can carry what you were actually created for.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →196. The Power of Solitude: Quieting the Noise to Hear God
Apr 800:55:18Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we’re talking about something that sounds simple… but is actually deeply challenging—solitude.What happens when God asks you to lay down not just sin, but your wants, your noise, and your need to stay busy? I share personally how difficult it has been to quiet my mind and sit still before Him—and what He’s been revealing in that space.If your mind feels constantly full and slowing down feels uncomfortable, you’re not alone. This is an invitation into something deeper.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →195. Fix the Weakest Link: The Truth About Stewarding Your Life
Apr 100:58:32Tap to summarizeYou can’t build a strong life on weak foundations.In this episode, we challenge the idea that doing “well overall” is enough. Because if one pillar is weak—your spiritual life, your health, your emotions, your relationships, your work, or your finances—it will eventually impact everything.We share where we’ve struggled personally and invite you to take a real, honest inventory of your own life.As Preston Morrison says, “When you give yourself what you want, you might get a little happier… but when you give yourself what you need, you will get a lot stronger.”This is your moment to stop avoiding—and start strengthening.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →194. Fix- It Focused: Can You Work on Your Marriage Too Much?
Mar 2500:45:21Tap to summarizeThere is a point in marriage restoration where working on the relationship can quietly turn into overworking the relationship.Every conversation becomes serious.Every interaction becomes an evaluation.Every moment together feels like it has to produce progress.Without realizing it, you can slip into fix-it mode — where connection is replaced with pressure, safety is replaced with performance, and joy is replaced with constant analysis.In this episode, we talk about how real healing doesn’t come from forcing breakthrough conversations or trying to solve years of pain overnight. It comes from learning to take one step at a time.You’ll learn why laughter is not avoidance — it’s regulation.Why celebrating small wins builds emotional safety.Why balance is essential if you want your spouse to stay open instead of shut down.We’ll also unpack how creating moments of lightness, shared enjoyment, and genuine appreciation can rebuild the foundation that hard conversations actually stand on.Because the truth is — people talk when they feel connected, safe, seen.And marriages heal when pressure is replaced with steady, faith-filled progress.If you’ve been feeling exhausted from trying to “fix everything,” this episode will help you slow down, refocus, and move forward with wisdom, intention, and hope.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →193. Moving Toward Security: Attachment Styles Can Change
Mar 1801:03:17Tap to summarizeSecure attachment is not about being perfect -In this final episode of our attachment series, we talk about what it looks like to live and love from a place of emotional security. Secure individuals are able to communicate clearly, handle conflict without panic, and remain present even when relationships feel uncomfortable.We will explore how secure attachment shows up in marriage, parenting, and leadership — and why people who feel emotionally safe create environments where others can thrive.If you’ve ever wondered whether attachment style can change, the answer is yes. Through healing relationships, self-awareness, emotional regulation, and consistent corrective experiences, many people move toward what is called earned secure attachment.Attachment explains behavior — but it does not excuse it.Growth toward security looks like slower reactions, clearer communication, and the ability to stay connected even in discomfort.There is hope. Security can be learned and is ultimately anchored in Christ! As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →192. When You Want Love but Fear It: Understanding Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
Mar 1100:54:42Tap to summarizeHave you ever felt like part of you deeply wants connection… but another part of you doesn’t trust it?Fearful-avoidant attachment lives in that tension.In this episode, we talk about the push–pull cycle that happens when someone both craves closeness and fears it. This attachment style often forms in chaotic or traumatic environments, and it can create emotional swings, confusion about needs, and instability in relationships.We’ll look at how fearful-avoidant attachment shows up in marriage, parenting, and leadership, and why conflict can feel so overwhelming for someone wired this way.If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel both deeply desired and deeply threatening at the same time, this episode will help bring clarity—and hope for healing.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Transcribe →191. I’ll Handle It Myself: The Heart of Avoidant Attachment
Mar 400:48:50Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re diving into avoidant (dismissive) attachment — the style that often says, “I’ll handle this myself.”Avoidant attachment isn’t about not caring. It’s about learning early on that emotions felt unsafe or overwhelming — so independence became protection.We explore how this plays out in:Marriage — withdrawing during conflict, struggling to verbalize emotions, and appearing distant even when committed.Parenting — emphasizing independence, minimizing feelings, and offering solutions instead of empathy.Leadership — strong and decisive, yet sometimes intimidating or emotionally unavailable.If you’ve ever felt more comfortable being self-sufficient than emotionally open, or are married to someone who is, this episode is for you.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
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