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I love that. I love that, like you said, like, spend time with yourself as well, because it doesn't feel comfortable for a lot of people to go spend time with yourself. But it's also like a muscle that you haven't practiced with. Like, you have to build that. You have to build that muscle up. You have to build that tolerance of feeling uncomfortable and then finally get into a space where it feels comfortable and natural and normal. And then once you get there, you're gonna see, like, you're gonna look back in your rearview mirror being like, wow, like, look how much growth I have just in this one avenue. And you, like, being okay with yourself and being comfortable by yourself during doing certain things is going to help you out a lot. And also, there's a lot of, like, societal pressures. Like, everyone makes you feel like you're going to find your person in college and like, you're going to find who you are in college. That's not necessarily true. Like, it is true for a lot of people, but I'm one of those ones. I don't believe in a marriage. If, like, if two young people are getting married, I'm like, I don't know if you actually truly live. There's some young people where I'm like, I see them together. I'm like, I can't see you guys with other people. And I fully believe in that. And there's other people that I'm like, yeah, this isn't gonna work out. Just because you guys have been together since your junior year of high school and you're not graduating college together, I don't see it working out. You guys have had a lot of differences this far, and you really haven't even hit your stride in life yet. And social media puts these norms on people that's like, all these people want to post their couples and all these things, and then they're mad that you're in their business whenever you guys break up. And it's like, then don't put us in your business. But if you post it on social media and you're, like, asking for me to double tap so you can get one. Like, and like, and also that's multiplied by all of your followers, then you want me in your business, right? But you can't pick and choose when you want public business to be public business. Because, yeah, with one comes the other. So, like, my best advice is, I guess, to, like, be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Like, also take note on things that, like, make you happy. Take note on things that, like, are your hard nose. Because there's sometimes you can get in a situation where you're thinking that everything's right and there's certain red flags that pop up, but you, like, say, oh, no, but this person is just like, they're. They're good with their family, and you're like, you wave off something or like, this person is a great cook. And you're like, okay, I can overlook other things. Like some things, there's going to come a point in time where that's going to come to a head and that's going to be an actual issue. So being able to communicate and understand communication and feelings is like a big step. Emotional intelligence. And also, like, for me, something that is important to me is like a discussion. If there. If you have growth and if you have doubt, which again, this doesn't just relate to relationships, it just relates to life. Ask questions. If you don't know, that's okay. Ask, inform yourself. Because if you're not doing it, nobody else is going to do it for you. And you might have to learn the hard way in the wrong moment.
