Joy Started It

Summary

Unsupervised with Syd & TP – "Joy Started It"

Released: November 27, 2025 | Host: Dear Media

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Episode Overview

This vibrant and freewheeling episode spotlights the unique friendship and unfiltered humor of hosts Syd Colson and Theresa Plaisance (TP). Best friends, former teammates, and seasoned storytellers, they dive into topics ranging from thrift shop altercations and Broadway adventures to heartfelt discussions on holiday giving, Friendsgiving traditions, and family dynamics. True to their reputation, the duo frequently veer off topic—peppering their conversation with playful games, personal confessions, unplanned tangents, and rich laughs—while circling back to themes of community, gratitude, and belonging.

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Major Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Not-So-Joyful Joy: Thrift Shop Saga

• TP’s Thrift Shop Drama:
  • TP recounts an altercation with a thrift store employee named Joy over the purchase of a shirt with no price tag. Store policy required her to come back the next morning when the "pricers" were in.
  • TP narrates her competitive drive to get the shirt, arriving early, only to fear someone else would snatch it up first. In the end, Joy provides the shirt (for $7.99, a steal), but not before some morning suspense and low-key suspicions that Joy wanted the shirt herself.
  • Notable Quote:
    • TP: "It's always the ones named Joy that, like, aren't joyful." (00:20)
    • TP (on her competitiveness): "I've never woken up to be at any store, much less a thrift store... my competitiveness is really coming out right now." (11:31)
• Names and Expectations:
  • The duo riff on the pressure of "namesake" personalities (e.g., people named Joy should act joyful).
  • Syd suggests maybe people rebel against namesake expectations:
    • Syd: "Maybe that's not inside of them... Maybe Joy decided, I'm about to start acting how I want to act, how I truly am. I'm not Joyful." (11:05)

2. Broadway Adventure in NYC

• Lion King, Aladdin & Rockettes:
  • Syd describes a family trip to New York planned around a "Home Alone" experience for her niece, Logan.
  • She marvels at the production and athleticism of Broadway shows, particularly "The Lion King," comparing it to sports in terms of preparation and performance.
  • Discusses the temptation (and anxiety) of trying to sneak photos during the show ("My heart is starting to race... I can’t get kicked out of my first Broadway show." 16:08–17:33).
• Theater as Athletic Performance:
  • Comparisons between athletes’ routines and stage performers’ demands.
  • Interjects a playful suggestion to unionize for Broadway performer benefits.
• Strength of Live Shows:
  • Syd’s regret at not having experienced more theater sooner; plans to catch up on her theater knowledge.

3. New York Nostalgia & Food Memories

• Hilarious Eating Out Stories:
  • The hosts reminisce about NYC, including outings to a comedy club where they were "held hostage by Dave Chappelle" and late-night ramen at Ichiran ("it's worth the line"—25:50).
  • Syd’s famously picky eating habits and TP’s pride in her culinary adventurousness.
• Friendsgiving Traditions & Red Flags:
  • Both share signature Friendsgiving dishes (TP: smothered green beans; Syd: sweet potato casserole with a pecan topping—37:03).
  • The perils and etiquette of Friendsgiving: food hygiene worries, who gets to eat first, and inheriting the "kids’ table" well into adulthood.

4. Holiday Values & Giving Back

• Angel Tree Projects:
  • TP introduces "Angel Trees," where people anonymously sponsor a family or child’s holiday wishlist at local stores.
  • Advocates for thoughtful, non-material ways to give, especially during tough times.
  • Encourages making kindness and community the center of the holiday season:
    • "If your gift is kindness... just make sure you’re giving this holiday season in any way you can. It’s what makes the world a better place and... builds community." (32:10)
• Social Media & Giving:
  • A nuanced discussion about publicizing charitable acts versus genuine giving.
  • Syd emphasizes the importance of intention and recipient dignity.

5. Games and Segment Highlights

• Family Roleplay – Stirring the Pot:
  • Skits on classic family holiday archetypes: the drunk uncle, the grandma who belittles your job, and more.
  • Memorable Moment:
    • "Your aunt left me."
      TP: "So you’re on the prowl. Single, my man!" (41:12)
    • "Are you still working on that little job?"
      Syd (deadpan): "It’s called the WNBA, Grandma. Stop calling it a little job." (43:43)
• This or That – Thanksgiving Edition:
  • Riff on holiday food preferences, seating politics (kids’ table vs. adult table), leftovers, hosting styles, and the optimal time to eat Thanksgiving dinner.
  • TP confesses her preference for eating at 3 PM: "It carries into the evening of conversation, a few adult beverages, and definite family games and trivia." (50:01)
• Cooking vs. Cleaning:
  • Syd: "I make my sweet potato casserole, then I help with other stuff, but I’m always the person, I’ll start washing dishes... whoever hosted needs to be off their feet." (50:40)
• How to Politely End a Party:
  • Playful mock-dialogues on hustling guests out ("Y’all heading anywhere after this?" 53:28).

6. Current Events: Week in Headlines

• Women in Art:
  • Frida Kahlo’s The Dream (The Bed) sells for $54.7M, setting a new record for a woman artist at auction.
  • Hosts joke about painting their own masterpieces for charity but insist, "If it doesn’t reach $54.7M, I’m not selling it." (47:44)
• NWSL Soccer on the Bay:
  • Congrats to Gotham FC for winning the NWSL Championship in a game played on a pitch beneath the Golden Gate Bridge.
• Celebrity News:
  • Cardi B makes a gold pendant from her baby's umbilical cord (“seemingly affordable for anyone—roughly $500” 49:10).

7. Listener Letters ("Down in the DM"): Surviving Failure

• Anonymous Jennifer’s Dilemma:
  • Freshman engineering student fears failing a class, struggles with perfectionism and how to tell her parents.
  • Warm, affirming advice:
    • TP: "School is about learning about yourself... Give yourself some grace." (57:12)
    • Syd: "F stands for 'figure it out.' You're just figuring it out, babes." (61:24)
  • Emphasis on framing failures as learning experiences and pacing one's own journey.

8. Notes of Gratitude

• Hosts’ Reflections:
  • Both express deep thankfulness for family, friends-turned-family, and—perhaps most tenderly—pets:
    • "I’m most grateful for three little years ago, Yams stumbled into my life on Thanksgiving, which is why her name is Yams." (62:26)
  • Closing challenge to listeners:
    • “Cherish the people that are your blood, family, or friends who became family and just let the people that are in your life, let them know you love them, you care, you appreciate them.” (62:59)

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Names:
  • TP: "If your namesake is Joy, bring that. If your name is Blessing, be a blessing." (10:59)
• On Broadway’s Physicality:
  • Syd: "What kind of core engagement you gotta have? ...How are they this synchronized?" (14:35–22:21)
• On failing a class:
  • TP: "Frame it properly... I had a learning experience. I failed a class, and I learned I feel uncomfortable failing. I never want to do that again." (58:54)
• This or That—food edition:
  • Syd: "Sweet potato pie." (52:10)

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Key Timestamps for Major Segments

• Thrift Shop/Joy Story: 00:06 – 10:59
• Broadway Adventure & NYC Trip: 12:12 – 22:56
• Friendsgiving Dishes & Red Flags: 36:47 – 38:13
• Angel Tree & Holiday Giving: 30:52 – 34:23
• Family Roleplay Skits ("Stirring the Pot"): 40:14 – 44:40
• Week in Headlines: 44:40 – 49:12
• Thanksgiving "This or That": 49:36 – 55:51
• Listener DM – "Anonymous Jennifer": 56:19 – 62:16
• Closing Gratitude: 62:26 – 63:27

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Summary Takeaway

This episode is classic Syd and TP—hilarious, chaotic, heartfelt, and always delivering nuggets of wisdom between playful jabs. They cover everything from petty thrift shop rivalries and deeply nostalgic NYC trips to the challenges of adulting and the profound rewards of giving. The laughter is infectious; the life advice is practical and sincere. And above all, they celebrate the holiday season as a chance to lean into community, kindness, and connection—encouraging listeners to "throw kindness around like confetti." (63:27)

For anyone needing a dose of joy (or a reminder of what that really means), "Unsupervised" continues to deliver.

Transcript

[A]

What up, babysitters? Sid, do you have any kind words for the babysitters today?

[B]

Hey, babysitters.

[A]

You know what, Babysitters? I'm gonna hit you with a little love. We appreciate you, we care about you. We hope that you have a beautiful week, hopefully some time off and where you can just kick back, relax, enjoy friends and family, and just spread love. So that's gonna bring me to my next point. I had an altercation at a thrift shop with this woman named Joy. And it's always the named Joy that, like, aren't joyful. That just aren't joyful.

[B]

So I wasn't expecting this.

[A]

Yeah, you know, we're gonna get into that in a second, but. But I do have one joke for you, Sid.

[B]

Okay, let me hear it.

[A]

How do you keep a dummy in suspense? I'll tell you later. Hit the theme song. Shout out to my dad for that one.

[B]

He did that specifically for me.

[A]

No, he used to hit me with that one. I was the dummy in my dad's life.

[B]

Yeah. Yes, yes, yes.

[A]

We say what we want and yeah.

[B]

We say what we feel Sitting tmp.

[A]

Of the and they be keeping it real on brand, off topic, out of pocket anything you need, they got it.

[B]

Watch you shop when you know they going to block it? When it's game time and you know I'm going to block it. We cover everything like who harder than.

[A]

Us and yeah, we looking down on.

[B]

Haters cause they smaller than us and yeah, my flow is so damn sick I be coughing it up.

[A]

You said that we going flat. Well then I'm calling your blood. So I just want to start off by saying that from my head to my ankles clean, hey. From my head to my ankles clean, hey from my head to my ankles clean I'm wearing fully thrifted items outside of my undergarments. For everyone that was thinking that weirdos don't think about that. And for everybody else, everything that I have on is thrifted. This shirt, I don't know if you can see it, but it's straight out of boy meets world. I'm pretty sure Corey had this on at some point. I got this, my full outfit for under $14 at the thrift shop. And when I tell you that these are vintage Levi's, you can tell by the. The thickness of the jean. Like it's made with quality. It feels like. It feels like the 90s, you know.

[B]

This shirt was just heavier.

[A]

Heavier has great wear to it. This shirt, obviously straight out of boy meets world, but when I got It. There was a. A fresh tag on it from the store that it was purchased from, which was Stein Mart. Raise your hand if you remember Stein Mart. So, yeah, Stein Mart. Thank you for this sponsor us. And yeah. But as you can see, it looks good. I have some clothes on. This shirt has nothing to do with Joy.

[B]

What color are your jeans? I don't know if you can. I don't know if you can. All right, they're blue.

[A]

A little light wash. A little light action going there. So which really likes Joy. Okay, so Joy, goodness gracious. Joy works at the thrift shop. And there's a rule at the thrift shop that if something does not have the tag on it, that apparently it's store policy. You have to come back the next day. Okay. They're acting like it's their clothes. These were all donated items to the thrift shop, which is why they came about them in the first place. But whenever I found this badass shirt, okay, I'm gonna have to wear it a different day. And when I got the shirt was so happy. I get to the checkout counter, they're like, hey, this is cash only. And I'm like, you know what? I'm in such a good mood that that's not even a problem right now because I got a little cash on me. I never have cash on me, so don't rob me because I don't have anything on my person. Why choose a sleep number? Smart bed. Can I make my site softer? Can I make my site firmer? Can we sleep cooler? Sleep number does that cools up to eight times faster and lets you choose your ideal comfort on either side. Your sleep setting. Enjoy personalized comfort for better sleep night after night. It's the final days of our Black Friday sale. Recharge this season with a bundle of cozy, soothing comfort. Now only $17.99 for our C2 mattress and base plus free premium delivery price is higher in Alaska and Hawaii. Check it out at asleepnumberstore or sleepnumber.com today. The wait is over. Dive into Audible's most anticipated collection, the best of 2025. Featuring top audiobooks, podcasts, and originals across all genres, our editors have carefully curated this year's must listens. From brilliant hidden gems to the buzziest new releases, every title in this collection has earned its spot. This is your go to for the absolute best in 2025 audio entertainment. Whether you love thrillers, romance, or nonfiction, your next favorite listen awaits. Discover why there's more to imagine when you [e-mail] BestOfTheYear.

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[A]

Went to the cash the register. Joy is giving me the hardest time about this shirt. And she was like, yeah, no, we can't sell this to you because there's no tag on it. Everything has to have a tag on it. If you're checking out and the, the, the ticketers or the pricers just left, they get off at 3. It was 3:04. Literally it was 3:04. I'm looking around like, is there any that had like a good conversation, were lingering around that could help price out this really awesome piece?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

She was like, no, they're all gone. And I'm like, that's weird. This is such a healthy work environment. I wouldn't see why people would want to linger around, stay, talk a little with their friends. Joy was like, if you come back Tomorrow morning at 9am the shirt will be here. And I'm like, looking at Joy. I'm like, you, Joy, you see that I want this shirt so bad. I'm like, joy, do you want the shirt? Is there a second agenda here? I'm not trusting the situation now because I'm like, I can see that the shirt was so cool. Well, just tell me the shirt. I'm looking at Amy. Amy's the cashier. Amy was beyond stressed. And I'm having like a passive aggressive conversation. Like it wasn't heated by any means, but I was like, hey, Amy, what if I slipped you a 20? And I like winked at Amy? And she said, there's cameras. As she said there's cameras. She looks right above her head. There's a camera, like literally right here. It's a casualing place, so there's cameras everywhere. Amy wasn't having it. I couldn't pay Amy under the table, which, fine, maybe I tried to bribe her a little bit. I didn't get the shirt. I said, joy, what time do you guys open in the morning. She said 9am I said, bet, Joy, see you tomorrow morning. So I Woke up at 7:30. I woke up, I'm in a great mood. I'm like, I'm gonna go get a coffee. I'm gonna make a day out of this. I go the thrift shop. I'm there at like 8:43. I'm like 17 minutes early. I'm sitting in the car.

[B]

If you say like, usually you give a time, that's like an estimate. It sounds like no.

[A]

The last time I looked at my car, like when I parked, I looked up and I saw the clock, it said 8:43. So that was an exact.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Sorry to be confusing. I'm looking at the line to get into. It's piling up. There's at least four people in line waiting. So in my head I'm like, if one of these four gets the shirt before I do, like, me and Joy are gonna have some real issues here.

[B]

Joy calls somebody for you also, I.

[A]

Don'T know if Joy is going to be working this day. So I'm like, okay, Joy. I'm like, I'm hoping to see Joy, cuz I'm like, I got beef with Joy a little bit.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So then I see more people piling up at the door and I'm like, I need to get out. Like, this is gonna be like a Jordan drop. Like, I need to get in there. So I'm like the fifth or sixth person in line at this point. And I'm eight minutes early. I'm waiting. I pull out my phone. I'm playing my little phone game, killing time, thinking about the shirt. I'm like, I can't wait to lay my hands on that shirt again. And guess who opens up the door? It's Joy.

[B]

Joy.

[A]

So I'm like, I make it seem like to everybody else that was in line waiting for this drop that, like, I've been here before. And me and Joy are like very familiar with one another. I said, hey, Joy, remember me from yesterday? Where can I get that shirt, girl? She was like, oh yeah, go look on the racks. I scour the racks. Nothing's on the racks. I'm like, okay. I go find Joy in the front of the store. I'm like, hey, girl, you remember that shirt that you promised me that was gonna be here today? So now I'm thinking like, did Joy take the shirt?

[B]

Right?

[A]

Joy's like, oh, I'm gonna go check in the back. She comes back out, she's like, oh, it hasn't been priced yet. I was like, then what are the pricers doing?

[B]

Right? Because I thought I was supposed to come back this morning. First thing in the morning, Y' all.

[A]

Swore to me it would be available. So I waited 15 to 20 minutes. Joy comes out with the shirt on the hanger, priced 7.99, which was a steal, because, you know, I looked that up on ebay. It was a $50 shirt on eBay. And I said, thank you so much, Joy. I took my cash. I went to the cashier. I also found another item. I bought trivia from the 1980s, which a lot of the facts aren't true anymore. But it's not about that. It's about the nostalgia and the color of the box. That's why I bought it.

[B]

It was cute. All right.

[A]

And it was four bucks. What a steal. To have pointless trivia.

[B]

You're gonna become a hoarder of just, like, old board games.

[A]

You have to open it up to the public. Like, I got too much stuff. These were all steals, though. Yeah. So that was just, like, my encounter with Joy again, Like, if your name's like Joy, like, bring a little bit of that. Like, my name's Teresa. I'm bringing a little bit of Teresa every day.

[B]

What does that mean?

[A]

It's synonymous with Joy. So I need. If you. If your namesake is Joy, bring that.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

If your name is Blessing, be a blessing.

[B]

Well, maybe they felt that pressure, though, since birth to be that thing. And maybe that's not inside of them. So it's overwhelming. Maybe Joy decided, I'm about to start acting how I want to act, how I truly am. I'm not Joyful, so it won't be so that.

[A]

This really begs the question. Sid.

[B]

What?

[A]

Do people ever lose their competitive spirit? Because the way that I was adamant about getting that shirt, I've never woken up to be at any store much left, much less a thrift store. I've never tried to, like, beat the line. And now I'm like, man, my competitiveness is really coming out right now. I can't wait to bring you to my. My favorite thrift shop. I hope you two get to meet Joy one day.

[B]

Oh, yeah. Effort.

[A]

Yeah. We were like, yeah, we gotta give her a hard time. I saw this thing where we need to bring back insults, like hag or haggard.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I want to start, like, using that in my insults in the near future.

[B]

I support you in that. I'm pretty sure you're aware. Cause I've been talking about it for months. I know and you've been around when my sister talks about it, but I'm in New York. Babysitters should have watched me more closely. I literally packed a bag, left out the door, and got on a flight and flew to another state. So obviously, my parents are gonna fire you. You have no idea where I went.

[A]

I feel like that's Home Alone, too, right? Where they go to another state.

[B]

But we're here. Cause Simone booked this home alone experience for Logan, for my niece Logan, for those of you who don't know. So she's 10 years old, and she recently saw Home Alone. So, like, last year, Simone booked the trip and had been talking about it for a while and was like, oh, y' all should come. And we're like, okay, we'll go and surprise Logan. So we show up here. She's so excited. We actually missed the first flight to get here earlier in the day. But look, when I'm going on vacation, I'm in. I just don't like being in a rush.

[A]

You don't like being in a rush generally outside of vacation.

[B]

Listen, we're gonna have to talk about. What is it called? Time blindness. Blindness.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And, like, it's a real thing. For me, it is. My concept of time is very bad. But we got here finally, and the day that we were staying home alone was, like, two days later. So we had a lot of time. We were like, we need to go see a show on Broadway. And I've never seen anything on Broadway. So we heard Lion King was good. Wicked came out this weekend, so we were considering going to see that. I was like, no, let's do Lion King. Like, it's gonna be obviously super nostalgic. That show was so incredible. I'm talking about. I'm in awe. From the opening scene, like, you got the people walking out as the animals. So somebody's like, whatever. They're lying. All the. They got birds coming out that they're flying. But then there's this guy on stilts being a giraffe. And initially I couldn't tell he was on stilts. But then I'm, like, looking closer because they were in the back. I'm like, you know, what kind of core engagement you gotta have? And everything else. Like, it was just incredible to see, like, real people doing this in real time. Not a movie that can be edited. You could reshoot it a bunch of times.

[A]

Like, they gotta nail multiple shots.

[B]

Yeah. They gotta nail everything in that moment. It was so captivating. The acting was so good. This. The singing was phenomenal. And I'm like, how have I not been watching Broadway as much as I like movies and shows? I'm like, why am I so late to this? And I just. I was feeling super regretful. So we went to another Broadway. I was like, I gotta catch up on all this time. I've not been watching Broadway in other place. So we went to see Aladdin as well. But look, while we were in Lion King, I was. That had signs like, you know, no cell phones, no pictures, texting, anything. Like, don't be on your phone. So I was trying to sneak mad at one point. You know when you try to take a picture in the dark and the flash goes off? No, no, I did it towards the floor to make sure that wasn't gonna happen. But I'm like, once I got it right, I'm, like, sliding up my shirt to try to take it. Marty's like, don't do that. I heard they laser people and they bring somebody to, like, kick you out. So I had already taken a couple, but then I noticed one of the ladies by the door was kind of looking in our direction. I didn't know if she was looking at me or There was also somebody lower than us down to the left who was on their phone. So, like, my heart is starting to race. Cause I'm like, no, I can't get kicked out of my first Broadway show. I won't. Like, I'm already picturing that I'm gonna have to be fighting this lady. And so I slowly, like, slide my shirt back down to the seat, slide my phone back down to the seat. And I'm like, okay, but what if they walk up and they make me show them my recently or, like, show them my photo album? So I'm like, okay, we'll try to delete it. So I'm like, well, I'm looking at the lady like this, and I'm kind of getting a headache because when I look out the side of my eye like this for too long, I start seeing, like, little quadruple. So I'm like, I don't know if she's moving toward me. And then I give a break to see where my hand was. This took me back to when I used to cheat in high school. No way.

[A]

I need to pause the story just so I could say real quick that my mom was like, hey, I saw that Sid plagiarized in college. Man, she must have really learned her lesson. Like, she's such a beautiful human being. She's like, really? Like, my mom spun plagiarism for Sid in a way that, like, you would have thought that she took, like, a life journey and, like, just had these experiences where it's like, she's, like, wholesome and new again, Mom. She plagiarized, and now she's admitting to cheating in high school. I need to get better friends, Mom.

[B]

And there I was. I tried to convince Imadi and via. I'm like, yeah, but who didn't plagiarize to some degree? And they looked at each other. They were like, yeah, actually, no, I did my work. I cited the sources. I'm like.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

But, yeah, so then I'm trying to, like, delete it out of the pictures. And then once I feel like she is moving, I have to stop. And I like my phone. And I'm sitting there and I'm missing some of the show because I'm like, okay, but what if she takes my phone and makes me go to recently delete it, and they have proof that I did it, and then they're dragging me out, and it's a whole scene. I'm crying. I'm like, this is my first Broadway show. Please. I'm, like, pleading, but they don't let me come back in. So all that was going on. I missed a little bit of the show once I logged back in because she didn't come over. I was like, okay, I'm not gonna take another picture until the end of the show. But that show is just so phenomenal. I just couldn't believe what I was seeing. Have you seen a Broadway show before?

[A]

So I've seen a few. Broadway. I also have a confession.

[B]

I like that this show is just turning into us.

[A]

It's like pg. That was an HBO show. That's the only reason I referenced that. Because we know you loved your HBO shows. So fine. When I was in high school, like, I do love a wide variety of music. I love all music pretty much. And I did go through a musical phase where I was, like, obsessed with musical songs. So I've never seen, like, Wicked before until literally 2024. I saw the play, but I used to know, like, all the songs, and I would, like, sing all the songs without any real knowledge of what the movie was about or the show was about. Yeah, same with Hairspray. Shit. There, I said it.

[B]

I've never seen that, obviously.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I'm about to be on my theater, like, because, honestly, like, my theater.

[A]

Stuff, like, whenever you think about what people are doing, so they put on a performance every night, and let's just make, like, Draw. Let's draw this back to athletes. Let's just say, yeah, like, we practice every day. So you have to assume that they're practicing to perform, like their game time. We're going to call the performance game time. So they practice, they have their games.

[B]

They got rehearsals.

[A]

Rehearsals. But I'm like, do they get treatment on their bodies? You're talking about this man, the giraffes, core strength.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I'm like, does he get massages after the games? Do they get, like, certain perks to medical, perks to being. Because I'm like, you're on your feet often.

[B]

Like, they're. Because they're actually. They're dancing, they're jumping around, they're singing. So you need something for recovery. But I don't know. I don't know what they get. But it sounds like, are we about to start a union?

[A]

I'm like, do they need help? We've. We haven't started a union before, but we've been a part of one. So we could know some things here and there. But I think the Lion King actually came to New Orleans when I was a kid to the Sanger Theater here. And I don't. I like, vaguely remember it. The only thing I remember is I got a lunchbox from the situation. I saw the Lion King here when I was a child and got a lunchbox. And I remember rocking that lunchbox to school. And it came with, like, the soup canister. You remember the soup canister used to have, like, the little cup that used to stick on the top, too?

[B]

Yeah, Yeah, I used to love it. Yeah, I had one. It was.

[A]

Those were the days.

[B]

Purple.

[A]

Those were cool at the top. Those were so cool.

[B]

Those are so cool.

[A]

Okay, so what other. What other Broadway shows have you seen?

[B]

So we also went to see the Rockettes, and we went to see Aladdin, I told you, and the Rockettes. That was. It was really cool. We went at a 10pm showing, though, and I was like, I should have taken a nap. I think I saw maybe 10% of the show.

[A]

That doesn't surprise you?

[B]

Body said I was mouth open. At parts of the show. And at one point there was like a spotlight going into the crowd, and I was underneath one of the lights, and she, like, hit me so that I would come to. And I'm like, look it up. Wiping my mouth. But it was so good when I was awake. I'm like, this is really cool. Like, how are they this synchronized? But as you know, when I'm tired.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

So I have to see The Rockets again, I guess.

[A]

Yeah, you do have to see the Rockettes again. Maybe at.

[B]

I'm about to just watch it online. You.

[A]

You struggle staying awake. Like, whenever you get comfortable, it's, like, almost a done deal. Which brings me back to a different time that we were in New York. So I want to take you back. I want to reminisce. We got to go on the Tamarind hall show. Shout out to Tamarind Hall. Love you, girl. And then after, we were just hanging out, and we got invited to a comedy club, and we're like, yeah, this sounds awesome. A New York comedy club. What a night. I invite my cousin Lauren. Shout out to Lauren. We invite my cousin Lauren. We're like, yeah, no, we're gonna go to this comedy club we've never been before. So they start taking our phones at the door, and we're like, oh, like, I've never been to a comedy club where they take your phones. This is interesting. So we hand over our phones. The three people that were supposed to have and have their act or their show went on. They did their show really good. And then all of a sudden, they were like, all right, up next, we're gonna bring out Dave Chappelle. Like, oh, my God. We're seeing Dave Chappelle live. This is crazy. It started off like that, so we were seeing Dave Chappelle. It's also getting, like, later and later into the night. There's only so much comedy you can do before you just get tired. You get laughed out. But Dave Chappelle started off with some things that he, I guess, wanted to try out. And then he just started drunkenly calling all of his friends, and his friends are very cool.

[B]

Yeah, he was calling, like, other celebrities. Yeah, like one of the Waynes brothers.

[A]

Yeah, the Wayne's brothers, who was, like, on the throne at the time. Like, it was just very. He called his son, like, all these things. We were held hostage by David Chappell. Which brings me back to the initial point of the story. Sidney was knocked out. Like, I don't know if Sidney knows how long we were held hostage by Dave Chappelle, but it was a very long time. And let me tell you, you're like, oh, you probably left when the show was over. No, we had to lie. This was December. We had to tell the security guard that we play in the wnba. We have training camp tomorrow in December, which is a blatant lie. And he was like, oh, yeah, no problem. Get your rest. So we got our phones that were confiscated at the Door. And we left Dave Chappelle early, which.

[B]

Who walks out early while we were there.

[A]

What's that?

[B]

It was cool. While we were there.

[A]

It was very cool. I enjoyed my time. I would go back to the comedy. The comedy place we went. Another thing that I would do.

[B]

Is.

[A]

There'S this amazing ramen spot. So do you remember the name of the ramen spot?

[B]

Yeah. Ichiran.

[A]

Ichiran, y'. All. If y' all haven't been to Itchy Run, it's worth the line. There's a minimum of like 45 minute wait to this place called Ichiran. It is about the food, but it's also about the experience. You sit in your own, like, individual cubby and the food in your cubby, like the kitchen is on the back side of all the cubbies lined up in like a row. And on the back side of the cubby, they're cooking your food. They open up your little roll in garage door seemingly, and they put your food out there.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And Sydney here is a very picky eater. I like, want to actually, I want to give you kudos, Sid, because you have done way better in, in recent times. You've really got quite adventurous with your palette and I'm very proud of you.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So we're at the sushi. This sushi. I'm sorry. Whoa. That was bad look, Sid.

[B]

Not a good look at all. I was gonna let it go, though.

[A]

Yikes. So we are at this ramen spot and there's. You order ahead of time. So you walk up to the cashier, you can order two things. You can order pork ramen or you can order vegan ramen. That's it. Those are your only two options. There's other sides. You can get like a matcha, like little dessert. You can get a matcha beer. There's like side drinks. Like, you can order a drink, but like, really, when it comes to the entree, you get extra noodles or seaweed. Sid. We waited 45 minutes to get to the cashier. At the cashier, we spent another 30 to 45 minutes there.

[B]

We didn't asking dramatic. We were there like 15 minutes, which is still a lot.

[A]

It is a lot. So I'm gonna bump that up to 25. We were up there for about 25 minutes talking about how cooked the soft boiled egg is. Is it cooked? Can we cook it a little bit more? Can we get a hard boil? What kind? What's bamboo shoots? Do you need the bamboo shoots? How cooked is the pork? How many noodles come in each Noodle pack. Can you get an extra noodle? I don't know the questions asked, but all I know is, is that we spent more time ordering one of two things at the cashier than I've ever wanted to spend ordering any meal ever in my life. But the meal was to die for. It was.

[B]

It was so good. The point of all this, I realized I got sidetracked. We're here for the home alone experience. We did that with Logan. They stayed at the park at the Plaza Hotel. We did the limo ride with the pizza. That's so cool. We didn't get the ice cream, now that I thought about it. But we stopped at the NFL shorts, whatever. We stood in line, did that whole thing, took pictures by radio, Radio City Music Hall.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

It was really cool. But we were here, you know, for the holidays, for Logan, to have, like, a cool experience that had been planned and that this. This entire trip was, like. It was fun because I was seeing New York, like, in a different way. Like, every other time I've been here, it's been for basketball. You know, like, we can't do a ton, not usually here on vacation or anything. So it's been cool to just be around as a regular person doing stuff. And I was like, they do so much in this city for the holidays. Now. Right now I'm in a period of, like, I only spent this during the holidays because I wanted to come here and have this experience with Logan and Simone, you know, like we were talking about before, like, I'll pay for experiences. I'm not big on things, but it was such a fun trip. But you and I were talking about the holidays and, you know, people not having the means to do some things, not wanting to do some things. Maybe if you're boycotting stores, brands, whatever it may be. But I feel like the most important thing people should, like, remember and value in the holidays is being with people you care about. And that could be blood, family, that could be friends who became family. But, like, let's make that be the overarching theme of the holidays, because everybody doesn't have something. This is a tough time in the year for a lot of people. And I know you and I, you briefly were telling me about. Tell me about the angel. Okay, angel tree.

[A]

Not long ago, if you. If you are in a position where you can do a little bit more, there's these really cool things called angel trees where a lot of stores are doing them. I know the Walmart in New Orleans is doing it, where you go up to a tree and there's just like different Christmas lists of people that are in need and sometimes they're family, sometimes they're kids, sometimes you can find a senior in there, but you just go shopping for them and you just check off some of the things on their Christmas list this, this year. And you know, sometimes it's necessity. Some people are asking for socks and clothes and sometimes you can get them pajama sets and like toys and just to make their, their holiday season just a little bit more bright and to feel like somebody is thinking about them when they don't have. And they're called angel trees. So everyone just keep an eye out for those. If you participate. This is so awesome. I'm personally going on tomorrow and we're going to participate in the angel tree and we're just really excited. But like we said in previous episodes though, everything is a gift. If your gift is kindness, if your gift is gift is singing, if your gift is creativity and art, just make sure that you're given this, this holiday season in any way that you can. And it's what, it's what makes the world a better place and it's what builds community. And right now we really need that. So it's a, it's a really good point, Sid. And if you have any way to, to participate, please do. I'm personally really looking forward to being able to do that, but.

[B]

Yeah, because I know it can be like a, it's like a frown upon thing to give and always be like recording if people want to do it for social media. Like some things people don't want to be recorded, you know, in their, like, lowest time maybe, but you want to do it to show the gesture. But I think there's a fine line between, you know, wanting to bring attention to what you're doing for a genuine reason and then what some people tend to do just for the looks of things. But the most important thing is the people who are receiving it, honestly. So if this feels right in your life right now to try to, you know, see what giving does for you, like to give. I feel so much more when I give something to somebody, especially something that they need, versus if I receive it. And it can be a feeling that you keep wanting to replicate, which to me should be the point of all of this. We're all on this earth trying to figure it out. So when you have things that other people can use and it's access to you, you don't really need it. You know, lend a helping hand, give when you are able we were talking about, like, things during the holidays. You can create joy in a multitude of ways. You can create traditions with your family. You can, you know, like, scrapbook, you know, or give somebody that as a gift. Like, there are so many things that could be done. We could cook together like we talked about last episode.

[A]

You can write a thoughtful note. You can put a picture collage together. There's, like, a lot of ways to be thoughtful in your giving. And I think my mom says it best, we were raised hearing from her that it isn't giving that you truly receive. And I think that this is, you know, the time of the year where, you know, you really need to tap into to your giving self and whatever that looks like for me. What I want from all my family members this year, I hope you guys are listening, is I want to. I would love a note from you guys. Just a note. And, you know, I have something up my sleeve for my Christmas presents this year. So. Sid. Hey, Sid. Do you want to take this as an opportunity to do a Christmas challenge?

[B]

What's yo. What's the Christmas show?

[A]

Let's make. Let's make a price point, and let's make a Christmas box where we can give each other a Christmas present on air, and we can do a little something.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

All right.

[B]

20. 25.

[A]

$25. Okay. Shake on it. Today is also a really awesome day for me. I don't cook. I'm not the best cooker. I'm the recipient of a lot of really great meals. But the. The entrees that I do put on the table, I'm confident, and I know I do a really good job, but I just don't have variety. I stick to the things that I know. Okay. So today I'm participating in a friendsgiving, and I'm, like, a little nervous. I think we're all a little nervous when, you know, the people that are in the group that, like, you're close with and you know what their capabilities are. And then when you have, like, friends that you're not as close to, but you're familiar with, you're like, I definitely don't know how good they are. Do they wash their hands in the kitchen? Like, how is this meal being prepared? Right? So I'm going to a friendsgiving, and I'm making smothered green beans. It's like something my dad used to make when we were kids. I don't even have a recipe for it. It's like, one of those things that you just know how to do right? And my Question to you and to all the babysitters is, what's your friends giving dish?

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

And what are some friends giving? Red flags. So let's start with your dishes. What are you bringing to a Friendsgiving?

[B]

To a Friendsgiving? I'm probably taking sweet potato casserole.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Potato casserole is fire.

[A]

Do you put marshmallows on it?

[B]

No. I think we discussed this before.

[A]

Oh, did we?

[B]

You kept trying to put marshmallows on my. I don't put it on there. I don't put marshmallows on it.

[A]

My mom does brown sugar.

[B]

It's like this pecan topping. Oh, it's so fire.

[A]

Well, I. I guess I'm not gonna believe it until I try it.

[B]

Sydney, you get you can cook. Yo, what about me gives that I can't cook?

[A]

Cuz you're funny.

[B]

You just so, like, goofy. So I don't eat. You think? Or how does that work if you're funny? You don't stand in the kitchen or you don't grocery shop.

[A]

Well.

[B]

I don't get the correlation, I guess.

[A]

Yeah, I don't get it either, because, you know, I'm not like, no, I'm being a victim.

[B]

I do get it. I do get it.

[A]

No, I don't get it. Because I'm like, don't judge a book by the by. By its cover. People look at my meal. I. I got this really good collard greens recipe. You know, everyone's like, oh, no, they're good.

[B]

For real. I gotta taste your cooking. If I had to guess tp, I would think, I'm not about to. Look, you're cooking like you're cooking.

[A]

Okay, well, I think you'd be dead.

[B]

Wrong, but I think I'm gonna like some stuff. But we'll see. And then you try some of my stuff and we can see.

[A]

All right, well, I'm looking at you thinking that I would like your cooking.

[B]

So.

[A]

Yeah, maybe you should ask yourself, why do you have the internal judgment towards people that you don't feel like? Because I'm tall. So tall people don't even cook.

[B]

You're tall and goofy.

[A]

Okay, so it's the goofy.

[B]

So I'm like, you're being silly and having to reach down far for stuff. I just don't.

[A]

I'm like, spatula. Honestly, if people are like, oh, you're an athlete, which is another thing I need to bring up about my family. Okay? And I've been arguing this for years. So we do this thing that, like, after we. We say grace The. The older people get to go. They get to go. They do their line through the. Through the food. They get first choice of food. And then the adults go, like, the aunts and uncles. I'm 33 years old now. I still sit at the kids table. It, like, raise your hand if you're still at the kids table. Me, but the kids go less. And I'm like. I was in my growing years for years. Like, I'm six, five. It took me a while to get here, and I was always. I was like, I needed to be one of the first ones. I was asking Mama Judy. I'm like, girl, seek me that. See me that turkey neck in there, because there's only one. So I would have to, like, bargain with my grandparents who were at the front of the line to get, like, the good stuff, because, like, if it wasn't there by the time the kids had their turn, then you just weren't. You just weren't gonna get what you wanted. But it's fine. Me and my mama had a pretty good system throughout the years. I did get first dibs at, like, my slice of ham and stuff like that.

[B]

But I'm sorry, you're at the kitty table.

[A]

Still no longer growing.

[B]

Glad you got that off your chest, though.

[A]

No time like the president to bring up a seasonal. A seasonal category we like to call stir in the pot. We give some family issues. Some of them. Most of them are made up, actually, and we diagnose the situation and we say who was wrong and what we would do about it this holiday season.

[B]

So I'm gonna give you the uncle who drinks too much and falls asleep mid sentence.

[A]

Oh, man. So I'm like, if I'm having a conversation with you, let me be him.

[B]

Let me be him, and you'll be you.

[A]

All right? All right. What up, Unk? How we doing? Haven't seen you since last Thanksgiving. How you been, man? It's great to see you.

[B]

I've been good. Teresa, how you been?

[A]

What you been up to? What's new? What's new, huh?

[B]

Your aunt left me.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

We're separated right now.

[A]

Okay, so you're on the prowl. Single, my man. Single.

[B]

Single. Yeah.

[A]

Oh, any. What else is. What else is new? Any good news happening in your life? Oh, she.

[B]

Damn. She.

[A]

Oh, you're talking about the woman that left you.

[B]

She. Y', all, that's crazy. It was just a lot of irreconcilable d differences. I did something I regret. She also. She slept with our neighbor, too. Though, and so I didn't think that it was.

[A]

Oh, jeez. Did you have to move out? Sleeping with the neighbor seems intense. Like, did you move. Did you give her the. Yo, uncle, I'm going need you to wake up for this. I got questions. Yeah. So did you have to move out? Or, like, what's the deal with the neighbor? Like, are y' all still good?

[B]

Like, that's. I came here today. I was hoping I could stay with you for a little bit.

[A]

Oh, you know, the guest. The guest room is looking kind of. Ah. It's got so much stuff in it.

[B]

And I really need this right now.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Whoa.

[B]

I'm back drinking.

[A]

Oh. Oh. So this is the point in the conversation where I just, like, slip away.

[B]

That's good. I would have used one of those moments.

[A]

Yeah, you just have to get out of there. When he nodded off again, that's where I would dart out of that room.

[B]

Him trying to stay with you.

[A]

I'm like, whoa. The neighbor is kind of crazy. Okay, Sid, your situation is the grandma who keeps asking you if you're still working on that little job.

[B]

Okay. You started it. Okay.

[A]

Oh. So good to see you, baby.

[B]

How we doing? I'm good. How's everything? You still working on that little job.

[A]

You'Ve been working on for?

[B]

Oh. Oh, my God. It's called the wnba, grandma. Stop calling it a little job.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Yeah. Women can play basketball now. They do.

[A]

Cause back when I was, we couldn't even vote.

[B]

I know.

[A]

We couldn't even drive. You can't even think about.

[B]

I know. But we're doing all of that now.

[A]

Oh, bless you, baby.

[B]

We're wearing pants.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

I know.

[A]

Wow. Cover up those legs. Cover up those legs. All those young men are gonna come after you.

[B]

My grandma always used to want me to wear, like, more barrettes in my hair. And she'd be like, stop all that whistling. Little girls don't whistle. I'm like, nana. Barrettes and whistling are the least of yalls concerns. When you find out what I got going on, I promise.

[A]

All right, babysitters, we're about to hit you with our segment this week in headlines. So this week in headlines is sponsored. Sponsored by women. Thank you, women. Okay, first headline. The most expensive piece of art sold at auction by a woman this week. The Dream. The Bed by Frida Kahlo, painted in 1940, sold for 54.7 million this week. And it set the record for the highest price auction ever. So ever done by a woman artist. The last one being Georgia O', Keefe, she previously held the title. But $54.7 million for a piece of art is not crazy. Like, how big is it?

[B]

How big is the painting?

[A]

Yeah, because I'm like, price per pound. I'm like. That sounds also like. Like a lot.

[B]

Up next, I've never seen the picture before, but that's.

[A]

Wait, have you? Have you? Yeah, I've never seen the picture before either. Her work is crazy cool.

[B]

The picture is cool, but the description is like it says, unlike in many other countries in the world, in Mexico, death is. Death isn't something to be mourned, but it's something to be celebrated with the dead. With the Day of the Dead festival. Sounds weird for people, but in Mexican culture, death and life are intricately tied together. So in this painting, Frida expressed her feeling and interception of death. Frida and the skeleton are lying on the bed on their sides with their heads on two pillows.

[A]

Honestly, like, when I look at it, like, I feel something. I'm like, wow, this is deep. This is a 54.7 million dollar feeling that I'm like taking in right now. And this isn't even like the real piece of art, but I'm looking right here. We can get it on Wayfair for $167, which seems like a bargain, or on Etsy for 26, but.

[B]

Yeah. Or we can make our own.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

Because we got some. We got some paint sent to us by Liquitex and we need to see what we can create. Only from what we got. You can't add anything extra. And we gotta come with a painting. Like, let's give it like two weeks.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Cause I gotta be back home.

[A]

Painting challenge.

[B]

Mm. Painting challenge.

[A]

Let's do it.

[B]

Oh, maybe we paint each other something for our Christmas gift.

[A]

Okay. And then we can donate it.

[B]

Bet. No. Put it up for auction and then donate the money.

[A]

And if it doesn't reach 54.7, then I'm not selling it. Like, now that I know what women's paintings are going for. Next up we have the nwsl. Had a pitch underneath the Golden Gate Bridge. Shout out to Gotham. They won the NWSL championship this weekend. And in. In the bay, they had a. A pitch, a full pitch underneath the bridge. Like on the pitch. Like a field. Like a full field.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[A]

On the water, which is really cool.

[B]

That's crazy. How about that? Look. Fire.

[A]

So shout out to them. Congratulations to Gotham on another championship. And then our final headline of the day is a good one, Cardi B turns. Umbilical, cord into a necklace. After giving birth to her fourth child first with partner Stefan Diggs, she used the service mommy made encapsulation to create a heart shaved pendant from the baby's umbilical cord. It was shaped into a heart and dipped in gold. Honestly, seemingly affordable for anyone who's looking for this. It's roughly $500.

[B]

I'm gonna give you that instead.

[A]

But with an add on cord and extra prints bringing the total close to $1,000. So for any of the new mothers really cool experience, just ask Cardi.

[B]

That's insane.

[A]

So that was our week in headlines sponsored by women. Thank you, women.

[B]

All right, so now it's time for a little game called this or that. We played it before, so act like you remember it. It's a Thanksgiving edition tp. I give you two things, and obviously you're gonna choose which one. Okay. But also tell me why eat at noon or wait till 5pm so I'm.

[A]

Gonna pull Sydney here and I'm gonna say eat at three, because that's what time Thanksgiving is starting for my family. Noon's a little early for us. We are supposed to start at 2, but everyone shows up late. So 3 is, like the optimal eating time for us, which is really nice. It carries into the evening of conversation, a few adult beverages, and definite family games and trivia.

[B]

Mm, love that.

[A]

I want to know your answer actually too.

[B]

That's a good time. I think that's three. Like three or four.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

That's normal.

[A]

Sid. Cooking or cleaning?

[B]

What I end up doing more of is cleaning. I make my sweet potato casserole, and then I, like, help out with the other stuff. But I'm always the person. I'm like, I'll start washing dishes for. If we're doing it at my mom's house or my sister's, then I'm like, I'll help. Because I know preparation for the holidays is a lot. So people, whoever hosted and did a lot of the work, they need to be off their feet. Everybody else should help clean.

[A]

And also, if you're not doing anything in the kitchen while people are cooking, the best way that you can help is just to get out of people's way. So just coming in after and cleaning up and helping in that way. Because there can be too many chefs in the kitchen. I know that's a saying, but I can't emphasize enough that there can be.

[B]

Okay, next one for you. Okay, well, I know this one. Adult table or kids table?

[A]

Kids table all day. I really wish my family Would like, upgrade the size of the table. My knees are a little too long to still be, like, squeezing in under, like, you know, those, like, kids picnic tables. But imagine, like, I'm 6 5. My brother's 6 10. We have, like, a few 6 footers. We also have a little cousin. Her name is Margie. She's 4 11. So we got mainly tall people in. Margie.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So, yeah. But the kids table is a good time. Love it. Pumpkin pie or pecan pie?

[B]

Sweet potato pie.

[A]

That was okay. Love that.

[B]

Sid, leftovers, cold or reheated?

[A]

Oh, I like to reheat it. Like, I like when you get the baked macaroni and you put that back in the microwave. There's a little sizzle with the cheese on top when you take that out.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

When you get that sizzle, it's almost better than when you ate it the first time. The first time.

[B]

You're not wrong. When all the food has a chance to marinate. Sit together.

[A]

Yeah. And they touch each other a little bit. There's a good mitt. Oh, my God. Yeah. Agree. Warm that thing up. Okay, so having guests or being the guests?

[B]

Having guests. Yeah. I like having people come over. So I'll probably be, like. Not like a huge decorator, but when I host, like, I'll enjoy people coming. Cause I'll also tastefully let you know when it's time to leave. Some people struggle with that.

[A]

How do you go about that? Can you give us an example of how to tastefully.

[B]

How I would do it?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay. Well, y' all heading anywhere after this, or y' all kind of leave it open? I mean, answer how you would answer.

[A]

I guess be like, oh, no. I just thought, like, this next game's about to start on tv. It was conversation starting to get good.

[B]

Well, we about to start winding down. But it was fun having y' all here. Like, love seeing y'. All. We gotta do this again. Let's not wait until the holidays to get together again. We need to do this. I love y' all so much.

[A]

Let's just after hours.

[B]

I'm like, where'd you even put your purse? I don't even see your bag.

[A]

Did you already walk it out to the car?

[B]

Oh, look, it's in your car. The car. I, like, put it in trucking on the.

[A]

Why don't you look at that? Like, okay. Everyone's talking about you after you leave, though. They're like, yeah, what a great event. Until. I don't know what got into Sid all of a sudden at 5:00'. Clock. It's just like things changed.

[B]

Especially five o' clock now. It's so dark at five. I'm like, yeah, y' all gotta go.

[A]

I'm like, It's 8:00pm I walked out. I was like yawning and stretching. Like, I need to go to bed. It was 5:20. Like, no way.

[B]

Ah, okay. Well, I love that. This or that is always fun. Way to have one more travel or stay home.

[A]

Man, Sid, you know, we've traveled so long and basketball is such a bad sport when it comes to missing holidays because you miss all the really good ones. Like we were always gone for Thanksgiving, Christmas for me, Mardi Gras. And like you when that went to spring break for some schools, like, we would just, we roughed it, you know, basketball, women's basketball especially, we don't get enough credit because the time that we put in for the holidays. So now that I do have the opportunity to stay home every chance I get. Yeah, I love being home, spending time. The best part about my childhood was like hanging out with all my cousins and like, I look for that now that we're all like older and we're all about over 21, where you can just like have fun together and like, yeah, just chill. Staying home for sure.

[B]

Okay, I love that. Well, happy Thanksgiving, everybody. Happy Thanksgiving. Hope you all enjoy it. That was a fun little this or that Thanksgiving edition. And now we're gonna take it to down in the dm. Oh, what am I doing? You gotta do that.

[A]

It goes down in the dm. It go down. It go down in the dm. It go down. It go down.

[B]

Alright, so this week it says, hi, Sid and TP. I'm DMing from a fake account to make sure I stay as an Anonymous Jennifer. But I love your advice on my current dilemma. I'm studying engineering and I'm 99% sure I failed one of my classes. I'm a freshman and I don't know how to tell my parents. I haven't gotten my grades back yet, but when I do get them back, we're going to be on family vacation. A lot of my friends seem to be passing easily and as someone who never struggled academically in high school, I'm really struggling mentally with this degree and don't know what to do. Love you guys and thank you for speaking up on important topics.

[A]

Well, thank you for reaching out. Anonymous Jennifer.

[B]

Yeah, thank you. We saw this and immediately wanted to talk about it.

[A]

So yes.

[B]

Yeah, go.

[A]

Go with what you got, cp Anonymous Jennifer. The fact that you are studying engineering. You got to give yourself some grace, because kudos to you. That is an extremely difficult degree, just generally. And I will also say that as long as you're not plagiarizing and cheating, you're doing really well. School is all about learning about yourself. And you're a freshman, so you're young. It's all about, like, finding out who you are. You might find out in your sophomore year that you might not even like engineering anymore. You might find out a lot about yourself, that this might not be your interest anymore. So you need to take every learn, every experience as a learning experience. Whether it's a success or a failure, you can look at it as something learned. So obviously the class is very difficult. I am going to be straight up and say, when I was in school, we always feared economics and accounting. Like, those were two classes that, like, all the athletes were like, yeah, good luck in there. And I had to drop them a few times because it was a very hard class. So what. What I need you to do, Anonymous Jennifer, is give yourself some grace. Also, don't tell your parents until you get in the car and you're heading back to school. Be like, oh, by the way, mom and Dad, I had a learning experience. The way that you're gonna phrase it is this. I had a learning experience. I failed a class, and I learned that I don't. I feel uncomfortable failing, and I never want to do that again.

[B]

Oh, cp, that's really good.

[A]

So, Anonymous Jennifer, just, like, frame it. The way. The way that I'm gonna talk to you is I. I just need you to frame it properly and also wait until the family vacation's over. You don't want to cause family drama.

[B]

Okay, so lie, not lie.

[A]

Just like, oh, plagiarize. Oh.

[B]

Cool.

[A]

What would you.

[B]

Not me. Like, standing up for plagiarism.

[A]

Plagiarism is misunderstood.

[B]

I'm plagiarism's pr.

[A]

Your big plagiarism.

[B]

Very big. But I immediately was like, what do your parents do? Because that's what I'm gonna come at them with. Yeah, I failed engineering, but what do y' all do for work? So let's all, like, have a little bit of a reality check here. We're all doing our best, aren't we? Maybe this wasn't my complete best, but I'm young, I'm learning. I didn't grow up learning engineering because once again, y' all are engineers. Couldn't teach me shit about it. So here I am trying on my own. Yeah, I failed at first go, but now I understand it better. Next year, I'll be fine.

[A]

Okay, so.

[B]

So you thought to my parents as respectfully as possible.

[A]

So you just decided to gaslight your parents?

[B]

Oh, oops. I did it again.

[A]

So, anonymous. Jennifer, there's a million ways to skin a cat. Clearly you have quite a few options. Some seem a little bit more, you know, passive aggressive and, like, mentally healthy than others, but again, it's whatever your preference is, we try on unsupervised, we try to give you a spectrum of options, and you just gotta select which one's best for you. Which is another life lesson. Run your own race. You're not running your mom and dad's race. They don't know what it's like to be in college these days. They probably don't even know what Scantron is.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

Scantron used to give us hell.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So be confident.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

Even though you maybe took that F you know what you're capable of.

[B]

F stands for figure it out. You're just figuring it out, babes. I said keep going. You got this.

[A]

You got this.

[B]

Unless you fail again, then we'll be like, all right, you might need to just switch majors.

[A]

Right in again. Right in again. And, you know, we hope to see you next semester doing way better. And the next time you take this class. Every time I dropped accounting and econ, when I went back in, I went with a fresh mentality. I also knew what to expect. So going back in that class, you stepped foot with your head held high. You wear your best outfit on day one, being like, yeah, I'm here.

[B]

Well, yeah, when you're 29 in econ one with, you're like, 46.

[A]

Like, day one, baby.

[B]

All right, good luck. Anonymous. Jennifer, thank you for writing in. So before we go, what's. What's something that you're grateful for this holiday season?

[A]

I'm grateful for the opportunity to be here with my family so we can laugh and spread joy and have a really great time. And I'm most grateful for three little years ago, Yams stumbled into my life on Thanksgiving, which is why her name is Yams. So I want to say, happy adoption day, Yams. Mama loves you, girl.

[B]

Oh, that's so sweet, actually.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

All right, well, I'm also most grateful for family. That's why I'm on this trip. And I'll be going back to Houston in a couple days to see more of my family. So y' all cherish the people that are your blood, family, or friends who became family and just let the people that are in your life, let them know you love them, you care, you appreciate them. And we appreciate y' all babysitters, we.

[A]

Do appreciate y' all all the love in the world and don't forget to throw kindness around like confetti.

[B]

Throw it deep breath throw, throw.

[A]

I love the word matching. TMP in the mix and they be keeping it real on brand, off topic.

[B]

Out of pocket anything you need they.

[A]

Got it why don't you shop when.

[B]

You know they gonna block it when it's game time and you know I'm gonna block them and we cover everything.

[A]

Like whoa who harder than us? And yeah we looking down on haters.

[B]

Cause they smaller it us and yeah my flow is so damn sick I.

[A]

Be coughing it up you said that we going flat well then I'm calling.

[B]

Your blood call unsupervised Unsupervised Unsupervised Unsuperv. Sa.