#3073 Wife Swap The Real Housewives Edition S1E4: Wendy City

Summary

Watch What Crappens – Episode #3073

“Wife Swap: The Real Housewives Edition S1E4: Wendy City”
Hosts: Ben Mandelker & Ronnie Karam
Release Date: November 12, 2025

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Episode Overview

Ben and Ronnie recap the Wife Swap: Real Housewives Edition season finale, focused on Wendy Osefo (from RHOP) swapping lives with Alethea (from Florida). The hosts praise, roast, and psychoanalyze the episode through their signature irreverent, loving Bravo superfan lens—breaking down parenting styles, Bravo’s scheduling woes, and moments of genuine emotional depth amidst the chaos.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Bravo Scheduling Fiasco

• The episode opens with frustration over Bravo’s scheduling, which pushed Wendy’s highly anticipated episode from the premiere to the finale (“…because of her arrest,” per Ronnie, 04:22) and packaged it oddly with Real Housewives of Potomac and Watch What Happens Live.
• Key quote, Ronnie (04:32):
  “Bravo. Stop. Just stop it … we’ll watch your shows, but stop trying to trick us, you bastard.”

2. Wendy’s Approach: Structure and “No Chips”

• Wendy’s Potomac household is all about schedules, achievement, and strict rules—5AM wake-ups, limited snacks, prayer at 8:45 (“There’s 15 full minutes for prayer. What the hell are you guys praying for?,” Ron, 10:32).
• Her husband Eddie and kids feel her rigid oversight, with Eddie joking about being “support staff” (10:10).
• Funny moment (10:48):
  Ben: “That’s really intense.”
  Ronnie: “Yeah. There needs to be a balance check … Your balance window’s closed. Okay, time for prayer.”

3. Alethea’s Approach: “Low Demand Parenting”

• In contrast, Alethea (Naples, FL) lives a “low demand” life—sleeping until noon, crocheting all day, and leaving household duties and parenting to her husband Craig and eldest daughter Haley (13:44, 28:26).
• Initially positioned as anti-helicopter, independent child-rearing, but quickly revealed as detached and possibly depressive.
• Notable quote, Ben (15:29):
  “Low demand parenting … did not strike me as I want my children to be stridently independent … I was like, okay, you just don’t want to deal with your kids, do you?”

4. The Swap: Culture Shock & Hidden Sadness

• Wendy is horrified by the lack of structure and animal chaos (many pets, little household organization). Conversely, Alethea is overwhelmed by Wendy’s tight ship.
• Early amusement at “Dr. Dolittle”-esque animal menagerie gives way to sympathy and real concern for Alethea’s well-being (07:52, 29:30):
  “She sort of sounds depressed. She, like, stays in bed all day. She just doesn’t really leave her room. … I felt it was darker around the edges than the show was trying to acknowledge.” — Ben (07:52)
• The parentification of eldest daughter Haley disturbs both hosts, who note her surrogate mother role as both loving and sadly necessary (37:59).

5. Family Contributions & Household Imbalance

• Ben and Ronnie dissect household contributions, highlighting that Craig and Haley keep the Shapiro home functioning, despite Alethea’s absence (28:28, 37:22).
• Susan, Wendy’s mom, is a standout—taking over the episode as she eviscerates Alethea’s lack of initiative:
  • “What kind of person are you?” — Susan (33:35)
• Ronnie observes: “Wendy very kindly read this woman for filth … she was extremely blunt but she wasn’t mean” (48:44).

6. Comedy Moments & Signature Riffs

• “This lady can’t even put Degree on as deodorant.” — Ben (33:13)
• The “paint spill” disaster: Alethea’s refusal to move crafts from the carpet leads to a red stain, to the hosts’ dismay/hilarity.
• Ben imagines Susan’s wrath: “Althea is lucky that Susan wasn’t there to see that stain, because Susan would have let her have it.” (47:20)

7. Emotional Resolution—But Are Lessons Learned?

• Both families reconvene for post-swap reflections. Wendy kindly but firmly feedbacks Alethea:
  “Try to meet your kids where they are, okay?” — Wendy (48:44)
• Alethea calls her husband a “martyr” in a final awkward twist:
  “You’re calling your husband a martyr? He’s raising your kids. He’s paying for everything. He’s doing all the laundry. You got a lot of nerve, lady.” — Ronnie (48:44)
• The hosts doubt either side will actually change (“Neither one of them are going to do these things. … Yeah, no one’s listening here.” — Ronnie, 51:44)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Wendy’s Righteous Structure:
  “If you don’t have a schedule, what are you doing in your life? We have three kids. Do you know how hard it is to schedule them? And also a fake robbery.” — Wendy (09:00)
• Ben on Ben’s Parenting Philosophy:
  “When she says low demand parenting … to me, that’s hands off parenting or whatever. Low demand parenting, I was like, okay, you just don’t want to deal with your kids, do you?” (15:29)
• Ronnie on Bravo Editing:
  “They want to freak clean people out with dirty poop people … unless you are rich and on Housewives, you are a dirty motherfucker. … Probably poop in a hole in the ground.” (12:04)
• Clash of Cultures:
  “She just gives it to the kids to play basketball in. That’s crazy.” — Ben, on Alethea’s empty living room (19:09)
• Susan, MVP:
  “And you just stay in bed. … What kind of person are you?” — Susan, grilling Alethea (33:35)
• Aftermath:
  “She surprised the family by cooking scrambled eggs one time. You know, she only cooked them one time if that’s the big deal they’re going to make of this.” — Ronnie (51:26)
• Summary Statement:
  “I think this is the first episode that it’s like, yeah, no one’s listening here. I don’t think either of these are going to listen.” — Ronnie (51:44)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment/Topic | | ----------- | -------------------------------------------------- | | 04:22 | Bravo’s Wife Swap scheduling drama | | 09:00 | Wendy’s rules and household schedule | | 13:44 | Introduction to Alethea’s “low demand” parenting | | 17:03 | Early signs Alethea is detached/possibly depressed | | 28:28 | Evidence of household parentification | | 32:28 | Susan arrives, grills Alethea | | 37:22 | Haley’s de facto mothering role | | 40:55 | Staining the carpet drama | | 48:44 | Emotional post-swap debrief | | 51:44 | Hosts’ final doubts about actual change |

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Final Thoughts (Hosts’ Tone & Takeaway)

Ben and Ronnie provide a classic Watch What Crappens recap—funny, warm, skeptical, and insightful. They identify recurring reality TV tropes (the “absent mom,” “parentified daughter,” “Bravo edit trickery”) while celebrating the episode’s fun and pathos. The overall conclusion: the show provides entertaining moments and food for thought, but the changes made are likely surface-deep.

“Wife Swap” was a pleasant surprise, but four episodes were enough—we’re ready for more Bravo drama!”

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To see upcoming recaps, bonus eps, and live show info, visit the hosts’ Patreon or listen to next week’s “Crappy Hour.”

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

Hello and welcome to Watch what Crappens. I'm Ronnie and that's Ben over there. Hello, Ben.

[Ben]

Hi, Ronnie. How's it going? Good.

[Ronnie]

What's going on with you?

[Ben]

Not much, just, you know, we're here in the, in the middle of the week. Bravocon is upon us. We're headed off to Bravocon. Can't wait.

[Ronnie]

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

Yeah, Beer Park. So thanks Beer park, for having us. We're super excited to have this party and we will see you guys over there also when we come back. Monday will be crappy hour. I'm sure we'll be talking about some Bravo Con stuff. What we did this week's bonus is Real Housewives of Beverly Hills trailer. You find that over on Patreon. That's also where you find our videos on Crappin's on Demand. So thanks for being here, everybody. Today we are doing the season finale of Wife A Swappa with Wendy's big Wendy's big Wife swap episode that they were going to air first and then they put off until the very end because of her arrest. Now this episode was pretty good, but Bravo really does a number on their programming sometimes. They decided to put this with Real Housewives of Potomac so that everybody would have to watch it. But then it didn't record with Real Housewives of Potomac. So if you recorded this, then it did not record Wife Swap. It only got the first hour, which was Potomac, which meant that you had to get this at 1:30 in the morning when they re aired the Wives. Bravo. Stop. Just stop it. And then they also packaged watch what happens live into this two and a half hour block to try and get the ratings for everything off of Potomac. Moment, guys. We'll watch your shows, but stop trying to trick us, you bastard. I know. Well.

[Ben]

It'S interesting. This was supposed to be the season premiere of Wife Swap and it wound up being the season finale. I actually think it worked out for the best because I think the Angie K episode was the best of the season. I think that was their strongest episode and that was the best one to lead off the entire franchise. So I think it actually was really good that Angie started the show. And this episode was. It was a weird one, I thought, because I think we all expected Wendy to just like lay into this lady on the show. And she didn't. She sort of politely did, but she didn't. It was a very nice.

[Ronnie]

I was gonna say, how did she not lay into the lady?

[Ben]

She did, but like, I thought she was gonna.

[Ronnie]

But in a very restrained way.

[Ben]

She was. She was like. And it was a nice episode. All the episodes have been surprisingly very nice and lovely. But I felt like. I felt like this episode, the woman may. That the wife may have learned from Wendy. But there's not a chance in hell that Wendy took anything, not a single ounce, shred, smidgen or molecule from the woman she swapped with. She's like, get this trash out of my house right now. My way is still the best way.

[Ronnie]

Yes, it was pretty interesting to watch. There was definitely a layer of nervousness through this because, I mean, the reason we expected Wendy to lay into the woman was because of the previews and how they showed Wendy reacting to this and the stain on the carpet and stuff like that. But then when we actually watch the episode, I mean, I thought it was pretty interesting with what a loser the other mom kind of came off as. And how I think the whole audience was like, fuck her. And she was a very nice lady and probably has some severe depression issues. That's what I was going on there. But there's something going on there. But, you know, this was. This was. Yikes. I mean, the other lady did not come off looking great. And she's been all over Reddit like, oh, my God, you guys are not listening our episode and TV Guide, so be sure you watch it. I was so excited to do it. And she's posting all these threads and everyone's like, hey, girl, that's so exciting. You're on. You know, you're on Wife Swap. And I was like, oh, my God. I don't think she realized what it was. What a trash box. She ended up looking like.

[Ben]

Well, I was just like, is she. I really was concerned for her. I was like, she sort of sounds depressed. She, like, stays in bed all day. She just doesn't really leave her room. Everyone has to do everything else. And I'm not saying that in a judgy way. I'm just like. I was like, should we do a wellness check on her? Like something? And she was like, I'm really burnt out. And I was like, there's something going on with this lady that's deeper than what this show is expressing. They're like, oh, my God. Well, I used to live this, like, type A personality. I moved to Florida. I'm just like, ugh. Now I'm just gonna relax. I was like, I feel like we should maybe just like, have a check in. Let's, as a group, we can all come together, check in on this lady, make sure everything really is okay. But yeah, I was a little. I felt like it was like, it was darker around the edges than the show was trying to acknowledge. I felt.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, I thought it was a great episode, actually. I think it was one of the best ones. I mean, there were four, but yeah, I thought it was good. And, you know, all of them tried to bring in a housewife to support the other housewife, you know, like a guest star appearance. And this one didn't. They brought Wendy's mother instead. And I thought that was an extremely wise decision. That was.

[Ben]

That was amazing. Yeah, that was amazing. But anyway, let's start up. Let's start it up. We're in Potomac and we see Wendy and Eddie talking. And Wendy is saying, without a schedule, all things fail. If you don't have a schedule, what are you doing in your life? We have three kids. Do you know how hot it is to schedule them? And also a fake robbery. You have to make sure you have a timetable.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So she introduces her kids, Carter, Cruz and Cameron. And then she reminds us that in Nigerian culture, education is the main focal point. So they will have multiple dees and lots of debt that they can hopefully one day learn to insurance fraud to pay off.

[Ben]

And you can't have charges without degrees. Okay?

[Ronnie]

That's right.

[Ben]

Paraphrase Karen Huger. You got to have charge. You got to have degrees to have charges.

[Ronnie]

So the producer is like, is your mom strict? And he's like, I don't like my mom. Carter's like, I don't like my mom's rules, but we have to obey them. And Wendy's like, yeah, they don't get chips. We don't do sugary drinks. Wait, I hear a noise. Is that one of my kids? What are you eating? It's like chips. It's like. You see, you see, it's like, you do do chips. I mean, you've got chips in the house.

[Ben]

So it's coming from inside the house. So Wendy says, like, I wake up at 5am the kids are dressed by 7. They eat breakfast and are ready by 7. Fifteen dinners between 5:30 and 6. Seven is bath time. 8:45 is prayer. Nine is bedtime. Eddie's like, yeah, Wendy's rules for me are follow Wendy's rules. I'm pretty much her supporting staff. Is there any surprise that I got into weed?

[Ronnie]

There's 15 full minutes for prayer. What the hell are you guys praying for? This is how you pray. God, thanks for everything. Love you. Mean it. Bye. Amen. That's it. That's like the only break they get. I hope they don't have to do a 15 minute prayer because that's hideous.

[Ben]

That's really intense.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So then Wendy is like, you know, my love of structure comes from having no structure because I was a latchkey kid and my mom worked too much. So I wanted to make sure that when I had kids, I was more present with the clock. And Eddie's like, yeah, there needs to be a balance check. You balance. He's like, okay, he's on one foot. I'll do whatever you say. Okay, whatever you say.

[Ben]

Your balance window's closed. Okay, time for prayer.

[Ronnie]

But that's.

[Ben]

It's not even 8:45. It's. It's post balance prayer. Sorry.

[Ronnie]

And she's like, yeah, there was no question. Eddie's like, yeah, you know, if I were to give you advice, I'd say, balance your schedule. And she's like, yeah, no one asked you to question. There was no for advice. Yeah, no, no one asked you advice.

[Ben]

So now we go to Naples, Florida, to the Shapiro's. So we meet Alethea, and she's like, I'd like for you to meet Breck. Ferrets are just amazing pets. The only bad thing is they're a little stinky. I'm Alethea Ferret mom. And I'm a stay at home mom. My husband Craig, we are college sweethearts. We have four children and of course a ferret and many other animals because apparently that's the only people you can cast on this show. People with tons of animals.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, we want to freak clean people out with dirty poop people. Okay. That's. That's what we're going for. Poor people are dirty. Okay. I hope that America has understood that unless you are rich and on Housewives, you are a dirty motherfucker. That's it. That's really probably poop in a hole in the ground. And you live with disgusting animals. And that. That's what.

[Ben]

Bravo. And you don't have enough cross and you don't have enough time together at the family, at the table. That's the other running thing. If you're poor, that means people are eating at different times. Although I guess that was Emily's family. Well, that still tracks.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. Yeah. Well, comparatively.

[Ben]

Yeah, she was the poor one on that. On that. On that episode, she was the poor one.

[Ronnie]

So only in Orange county does it.

[Ben]

Reverse because the other people had the giant mansion with the farm and Emily just had the tiny house where she's. The woman's like, oh, what a nice, small little house. We don't get together as a family. Classic poor person.

[Ronnie]

Wasn't this lady's name Althea? Alethea doesn't.

[Ben]

Right.

[Ronnie]

I think it would have stuck out to me if it was Alethea, because that's like how I say Alicia, you know, because I'm gay. I have gay tongue, so I'm like Alicia. And that's why I don't like people named Alicia, because it's hard for me to say it.

[Ben]

I think you actually are right. I think like, maybe her name is spelled like Alicia. But I'm going to have trouble because I just got through an entire Potomac episode earlier this week, really struggling to call Jazzy Jazzy instead of Jassy. And now we have Althea. What is Brava doing to me? I'm a very phonetic person. I'm a very. I'm a phonetic literalist. I can't deal with this.

[Ronnie]

So Althea is telling us that she has a lot of animals, but they're stinky. And she's a stay at home mom and her husband is Craig, and they were college sweethearts and she's got four kids and two girls and two boys, and she's created a life of her dreams. Where she is just surrounded by hobbies. All she does all day is everything she wants. And she has embraced this lifestyle of low demand parently, which basically means empowering your children to be independent. Now, when she said this and she explained it, I loved her. I was like, this is amazing. She's like, why do I have to pack my kids lunches? They have hands. They can pack their lunches. They know what they want. They should do it. I hate helicopter parents. So, so far, I'm like, this sounds great. You know, I believe that children should have jobs, which is why I support, you know, terrible companies that deliver things to me in two seconds. Like, give me a temu any day, give me an iPhone. Some 5 year old made it. You know what I mean?

[Ben]

Like an American tail. Like Fievel. He was actually. I was. I didn't feel bad for him. I felt like he was actually growing as a. As a mouse, as a little mouse. His character was growing. But I think labor.

[Ronnie]

I know your forms. Personality.

[Ben]

Okay, I know, I know what you're saying, because. But the thing is this, though, is that when she says low demand parenting, that to me did not strike me as I want my children to be stridently independent. Where, like, to me, that's kind of like hands off parenting or whatever. Low demand parenting. I was like, okay, you just don't want to deal with your kids, do you? That's what it is. And she's trying to assign all this, all these lofty ambitions, like they're going to become really independent. I was like, I don't know about that.

[Ronnie]

But I.

[Ben]

But at this point, I know you're saying, the jury's still out. We're gonna see if she actually.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, we didn't know yet what she meant, but at this point I thought, love it. She's great. But there was some signs. There were some signs about this lady being crazy, which we'll get to in a minute. So Dylan's like, yeah, our mom does her own thing. She's always crocheting or playing with the animals. One of these kids has that stupid hair. It's like a new version of the mushroom hair where they comb it all forward. But this one, he comes forward and he doesn't curl it anymore. Now it's just flat. It's like an awning at a restaurant that comes out. Yeah.

[Ben]

I feel like it looks like a flying saucer that landed on his head.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. Poor thing. So he's got that and he's like, yeah, she just wants to crochet. She doesn't give us haircuts or anything. Like really, that we don't wash our hair. Please wash my hair.

[Ben]

Yeah. And she is like, you know, a few years ago we lived in New York. We lived, we lived such an over scheduled life. Everything had to be perfect. They were booked fun playdates eight days a week in advance. It was just so suffocating. Ugh. They had the worst friends. And then ultimately that led to burnout. And when we moved to Florida, I found another way to parent, which is just to hole up in the room and do crocheting all day and then see if their kids are alive at the end of the day. It's just more stressful for you. You know, it's way more stressful for you. But like you don't have to be scheduled. And I want to share it with another family.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. And Dylan says, yeah, mom's always crocheting. And one of the kids goes, yeah, I wish my mom cooked dinner more often. And the other kid goes, yeah. And also a mom that's not lazy. Oof. Ouch. I mean, the first second that the cameras come in, your kids are begging for a new mom. That's not good.

[Ben]

Yeah. It's one thing to be like, to encourage your kids to be independent and that when they are like complaining thing and saying things like, mom, make me this. You say, no, you have to make it yourself because that's, that is parenting still. Because right. You're still, you're still saying, I'm teaching you a lesson that you have to be independent. But sometimes it'll just be like you're just not present. And then you start to say, I think you're just trying to make a. You're creating a narrative for what's going on in your life right now that's trying to sound like you're doing more than you are.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So we, we find Wendy is finding out where she's gonna go. They get it on the phone and so all the family gathers around and it's Naples, Florida. And she screams and Eddie's like, you know how that has crocodiles, right? And she's like, oh my God, crocodile. It's the swamp people.

[Ben]

Carter's like, I'm gonna pray for you at 8:45, right? Yes, mother. So then.

[Ronnie]

And also being sent to Florida. I mean, Wendy is a political commentator and she's an extremely liberal commentator. And you know, I think we all had the same thought. Like when you're going to Florida, it's like, oh shit, what part of Florida is this? How Bad is this. What am I in store for? Is this going to be political fighting?

[Ben]

Am I Naples again? Is Naples on the east coast or the west coast of Florida somewhere?

[Ronnie]

Oh, no, no.

[Ben]

Where the alligators are. So Althea gets a thing that says, welcome to Potomac, Maryland. She's like, oh, okay. All right. Interesting. And so Wendy arrives, and she's like, honey, I'm home.

[Ronnie]

Althea finds out, and she doesn't have any idea. She does not watch his show. You can tell because she was so excited to be on a Bravo show. And then she's like, potomac. Google the cast, honey.

[Ben]

I was like, oh, by the way, Naples is on the. Is on the. The west coast. And it's, I guess, south of Fort Myers. So Wendy's like, wait a second. Where's the furniture? There's no furniture in here. Because, like, the foyer, the living room, there's no furniture. There's just, like, many different plastic basketball hoops that are hanging. Just like.

[Ronnie]

It's weird. There's no couches, nothing. It's a big blank room except for basketball hoops and a TV hanging on the wall. But there's nothing to sit on and watch the tv. It's bizarre. She just gives it to the kids to play basketball in. That's crazy.

[Ben]

It's like a janky Dave and Bus. Well, she's not j. I meant it's like one of those Airbnbs you go into. You're like, what? And she calls it a makeshift Dave and Busters. Here's what I don't understand. This is, as far as we can tell, like a kind of a Florida. It's not necessarily. Maybe a McMansion, but it's like a nice sized home. Were they not able to convert any other room into, like, the playroom? Could they turn the garage into the basketball zone? It just seems so strange. They just have no interest in even using that space for any sort of seating or Lux. Not luxury, just comfort.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So Althea loves Wendy's house. And as we see her driving through Wendy's neighborhood and just looking at all these homes, and she's like, oh, my God. Wow. Because they're. These are big, you know, east coast mansions, basically. And she's like, wow. So then we see Wendy's. She loves it. She's like, oh, it's a nice brick colonial house. Dorothy's not in Kansas anymore. She's in Maryland. Wow. So she walks in, and this is the first sign that she's crazy, because she's wearing a jumpsuit, and it has peace Signs and yin and yang signs all over it. And we know what that means. Crazy person. Just barely, you know, white knuckling it through life, trying to keep it together.

[Ben]

Yeah. She's like you. She's like trying to be super positive. And it's like, lady, no. So then Wendy is walking around and she's like, oh, wow, four kids. Okay, all right, let's see. And then she walks around the corner. She's like, oh, my God, what's that? And it's like a cat. The cat's just staring at her. Like, oh, God.

[Ronnie]

She starts screaming at the cat. She's ridiculous. She's like, oh, my God.

[Ben]

Oh, my God.

[Ronnie]

It's a cat. It's a cat. You've never seen a cat before? Like, I know.

[Ben]

I felt like I thought it was gonna be some exotic. I thought it'd be like a snake or some other pet, but it's just a cat. I mean, Wendy had to deal with a full on pig last week. Not Wendy. Emily. Yeah.

[Ronnie]

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

Only because I want to beat the traffic.

[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

And pro games all in one place.

[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

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[Ben]

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[Ronnie]

So she screams at the top of her lungs when she sees the cat and she's like, Dr. Dolittle. What is this? Dr. Dolittle? And Althea walks to her house and goes, oh, cute kids. Wow. This house doesn't really look ball friendly. No, ma'. Am.

[Ben]

That's also the running theme with the Real Housewives. Houses that they are sterile and cold.

[Ronnie]

That's also me in general. Don't throw a ball. Don't throw a ball at me. We all know, do not throw it at me. I'll just scream and start yelling and run away. So now it's time for the house rules and hers. This lady, Althea, because she's wacky, she's handwritten the rules on different colors of paper. So each page is a different color. And Wendy's like, oh, okay. So she doesn't want to use the computer. Okay, well, I use Canva for her rules. So.

[Ben]

Wendy is so disgusted by this handwritten, like, construction paper rule set. She's like, really? You don't even have any. You don't have, like, Microsoft Word or Pages? Claris works Anything. Come on. So Wendy's like, dear mom, she's reading the rules. Dear mom, animals are a big part of our family, so please treat them like your fur babies. Oh, Jesus, no. And in this house, we don't wear. We don't sweat, sweat, sweat the small stuff. And then, like, a dog walks up to her. And Wendy's like, ah. I'm like, wendy, it's a little dog. This is. You can't use up all your screams. There's still a chinchilla to meet.

[Ronnie]

She's ridiculous. And she has dogs. What is she so afraid? It's like this little furry dog, like, you've got the same size dogs. She's like, ah, dog. So this was where I was kind of worried that Wendy was just going to be an asshole through this episode. Same make, like, every single thing seem disgusting. But by the end, I was completely on her side. I was like, wow, Wendy's nicer than would have been in this situation when he was great. I would have called social services. Honestly, not with the dogs.

[Ben]

But throughout the episode, I just, you know, don't. Don't tell Gina that. She'll get very upset. So Althea's reading her rules, and they say there's a clear schedule in the house and the schedule must be adhered to. That means you. You, my dear friend, must be awake no later than 5:30am and then back to Wendy reading rules. In this house, we don't have a lot of rules and routines or our routines are hard for us to stick to. So bedtime, chores, and homework. She's like, wait, they don't have a schedule. Oh, God. First, no. First no computer, then no schedule. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. And then of course, Wendy's schedules. Like, get the kids out of bed by 7:15. House has to be vacuum vacuumed and organized by 10. Begin dinner prep by 1. Dinner served no later than 6. Bath time at 7. Prayer time is 8:45. Everyone at bed by 9.

[Ben]

Yikes.

[Ronnie]

So then Wendy reads hers. And so we moved to Florida from New York to embrace a no stress lifestyle. Good luck. No schedule, no rules. And Wendy's like, what, am I weeding?

[Ben]

Yeah. So then Wendy goes into the laundry room and surprise, there's a guy in there. She's like, oh, you've been here. You've been hearing me screaming around the house. You know, that's probably what she was thinking. Like, I've just been doing these big screams for the animals and there's been a guy here listening the entire time. And of course this guy hears screaming in the house and doesn't come out of his little hobby hole.

[Ronnie]

He's used to it.

[Ben]

Yeah.

[Ronnie]

I thought my wife was back rubbing lipstick all over her face, turning in circles in the living room, you know, crying softly.

[Ben]

So he's like, yeah, hi, I do. I do some trading and some financial consulting back here. And she's usually in her room crocheting or playing with the animals. And I think you met some of the cats outside. She's like, how many cats are there? I think there's five. I don't know. I haven't left this room in about six years. So I don't really know what's out there anymore.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, five cats, two ferrets, a chinchilla, then we got some ducks. She's like, love that, love that, love that for you guys. And he's like, yeah, we put my laundry. We put my office in the laundry room. So, you know, I get the full dual purpose. I can do my full time job and I. The laundry. But it works for me. It works for me, you know.

[Ben]

Does.

[Ronnie]

Not work for you.

[Ben]

Like literally doing laundry and day trading at the same time. So then Althea meets the kids and Dylan, who's I, that's Wendy's daughter, is like, I wasn't sure what to expect. High heels and makeup in here and everything. I was kind of taken aback. But I was also informed that I only have a five minute slot on my schedule to be taken aback. And then I have to go forward with prayer.

[Ronnie]

So Althea is asking Eddie, does. Does your wife really get up at 5:30pm and by the way, the rule said no later than 5:30pm so she's like, she gets up at 5:30am Is that crazy? And he's like, oh, yeah? Well, what time do you get up? She goes, oh no, I don't even set my alarm. He's like, so six. She's like, now, Now, Now? No, sir. That's my favorite.

[Ben]

I have to say, one of my favorite things is when I talk to people who have families. And like, if I say, oh, I had to wake up at 8 this morning or. Or if I. I mean, I usually wake up around 8ish anyway. But if I say something like, I have to wake up at 7:30, they just look at me like, off. Seriously.

[Ronnie]

I know that's true. I get up at 6:30. Well, I wake up at 6:30, but I do not get up at 6:30. I wake up at 6:30. I do my morning routine for my children, which is give the dog food and then let him go outside. And then I go back to bed until. Until I have to do this.

[Ben]

Yeah, I. It's just. It's. It's just so funny. Like, I. I love, love parents. It's like, you get to sleep later than 6am What?

[Ronnie]

How does.

[Ben]

What's that like?

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So then back at the other house, Wendy is learning that the husband does all the morning duties and takes care of the kids and all that. And she's like, okay, well, what time does mommy duty start? And the kids are like 12. Like 12. And she. They're like, yeah, she sleeps in. And Wendy's like, she sleeps till noon every day. And they're like, yeah. And then we switch. Then. Now I'm starting to worry because Althea at first seemed like fun, but now we're seeing that Althea's version of no pressure parenting means no pressure on her. The husband has to do everything. And then we learn she has a daughter that does everything else, that she's parentified, which is fucking terrible. And so her daughter is raising her children. And then it's getting sad because it's like this selfish woman sleeps till 12 and then crochets all day while her family does all the work. It's not cool. I think when she had that breakdown in New York, she was like, I can't do this anymore. And her husband was like, please don't leave us. We'll live a life where you can just do whatever you want. I'll do everything. Just don't leave.

[Ben]

Yeah, that might be true. I mean, that's What I'm saying, like, there's some. There's darkness on the edges of this. Of this episode with this lady, where it's like, there's something. There's something deeper going on. I. I firmly believe, because this is not a situation of, like, reiterating what I said earlier of, like, no, kids. You can't rely on me. You need to do this independently. And, you know, I'm going to be doing this for the. I'm doing this right now for the household or for my job or for whatever I need to do. And you need to do this. You need to take care of yourself. This sort of feels like she's absent. It's like absent parenting. Not so much. Just low demand parenting.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. She's just a roommate in a house with someone with kids or something. And it's interesting that we have this theme two weeks in a row, because last week, Emily was in bed all day, and she didn't want to come out and hang out with her kids. Like, she had to actually learn to spend time with her kids. And. And Emily's complaint about her mother is that her mother was always depressed and would never take care of her. So it's. It's weird that it keeps coming back.

[Ben]

Well, it's also why I'm grateful that the season was only four episodes, because already within, like, two or three episodes, there were a lot of, like, recurring themes. It was, like, animals, dirtiness, attentiveness to family time. And so the novelty is already actually kind of, like, wearing pretty thin for me. Like, I feel like four, and I'm like, set. I'm done. I really think this is actually a very charming show. And, like. But I've. It's like, it's done all that I need to do. It's not every episode is, like, Is covering decreasingly new ground. Is that the. Is that even a grammatically correct way to say something? But it is fascinating the overlap that we do see. We do. It's interesting. Or at least what they are presenting and. And that this is. We have this overlap two weeks in a row.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. Wendy is dressed to the nine. She's wearing these gold really high, high heels and this really fancy outfit. And they're like, okay, well, you're gonna be like your mom today. You're gonna be like our mom today, so you need to change. And she's like, oh, God. Well, I got to wear a maxi dress. Very comfortable. But she comes out in, like, a little jogging outfit or whatever, which is cute. Yeah. And Althea has to Dress fancy. Which is hilarious because what are you, Paula Poundstone? Is this like a Paula Poundstone karaoke? What are you doing?

[Ben]

She clear. I mean, obviously she got heads up that she had to dress this way because she packed some sort of ill fitting business suit from, like 1989. Like, there definitely needed to be a brick wall behind her and a microphone so she could, like, tell stories about being caught in traffic. But I was like, what business suit is this?

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So then, let's see here. So Susan is like, okay, well, what's the typical dinner? You for your family? And I'll. Oh, wait. Oh, this is Wendy's mom, Susan. Okay, so Wendy's mom comes over and she just looks at this lady like, already. She's like, what is this suit?

[Susan]

Who.

[Ronnie]

Who is this person? So she's like, we're gonna make okra soup for the family. So they sit down and they're. Okra's not easy. Like, okra takes a lot of prep and work. And all the family sits around and does it together. So they're doing that. And Susan's like, okay, so what's the typical dinner you cook for your family? And she's like, yeah, I didn't inherit that trait, so what do you want me to do? She goes, wash the okra. So she just runs water over it. And she goes, am I doing it right? She goes, no, God, what am I gonna do with you? She's like, this lady's an idiot. And she does not pretend that this lady is not an idiot.

[Ben]

Susan is so disgusted by this lady's lack of initiative and, like, world experience. She's like, I raised my daughter to get four degrees and it's still not enough. She needs to get three more.

[Ronnie]

This lady can't even put degree on as deodorant. Like, where did you find this loser?

[Ben]

So then Cruz goes. Cruz says to Althea, she's like, you don't even know what you're doing. And Susan goes, okay, 1, 2, 3, slice. You have to get it together. I mean, you have to treat it with respect. I mean, do you need help cooking with your kids? Like, what's wrong with you?

[Ronnie]

She's like, well, my mom comes over and teaches my daughters how to cook and my sons. And Susan goes, and you just stay in bed. And she goes, yep. She goes, what kind of person are you?

[Ben]

Because, well, it makes me very happy that she's passing on the skills. Oh, my goodness. I can't get you. You are the bystander.

[Ronnie]

God help me. So then we go oh, no. So then she's like, the best reflection of my parenting style is that I always get glowing reviews about my children. I mean, they do well in school even without me enforcing homework and shows. Goes, you're against homework? She goes, yeah. She goes, oh, my God. And you're taking credit for your kids coming out, right? You know what? They have no choice but to work hard because you're kind of lazy.

[Ben]

She's like.

[Ronnie]

She just looks at the camera and she's like, damn slate is eating me alive.

[Ben]

Yeah. She does not care. She's like. She's like, I don't care if the mandate of the show is to be uplifting and show how we can grow from our differences. She's like, you are failing.

[Ronnie]

You're a fucking loser. Love, Wendy's mom. She's like, you suck, bro. So then we go over to the other house and Wendy is like, so, Craig, you do everything? You walk the dog, you do the laundry? And the kid's like, yeah, he does everything. She goes, do you take the kids to the sports? She goes, yep. And one of the kids is like, unlike mom, she just leaves me there. And he goes, but she comes to your games? Yeah, but she doesn't even watch them. And the dad's like, that's not true. He's like, aha. She's just on her phone the whole time.

[Ben]

Shoes. I don't track. So I'm, you know, so. So whatever she does, I'll do it. So then it's now it's nine o', clock and. And basically the kids, the Shapiros, are playing basketball. The Sepos are going, like, praying and going to bed. And now it's like, it's after midnight and the kids are still playing basketball. They're making so much noise. And Wendy's like, losing her mind. So now it's day two. And Wendy's like, okay, Wendy's rule. I'm sorry, this is Wendy's rule in the void. My voice is going to you, Althea. Wake up at 5:30. Wake up the kids by 6:30. So she wakes up at 6:39, which is significantly later. And she's the only. I feel like she's the only wife we've seen who like, blatantly disrespects the rules of anyone else. And that goes for all housewives and wives or whatever. So she's just like, whatever. I'm sleeping until 6:30. And she basically wakes the kids up at 7:09.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So they're late, you know, they're running late. And Eddie's like, okay, we're gonna take them to school. You're coming, right? She goes, I mean, I guess. Does she wear pajamas? And she's like, no. So then over at the other house, Wendy is just lying in bed and she's like, I don't know what to do. Just lying there in bed like a dead person. Like, what in the hell am I supposed to do? So the kids. Haley comes in and she says, well, we could do the animal morning routine. I'll hold him back and you can get the poop. You're gonna do great. She goes, great.

[Ben]

So then bas. She's like, this is. She hates it. So then she basically. We then go to. She. Wendy essentially picks up the poop. And then three hours later, it's like three hours until the rules change and Althea has to vacuum the whole house. So she starts vacuuming and she's like, being a real housewife is a lot harder than expected. I mean, Wendy's rules just leave no room for error and no room to relax. I can't wait to change the rules of the house. So Wendy is like, yeah. There was also Wendy's. When Wendy cleaned up the poop, she was like, wait, this is your mom's. The only thing she does all day is she just cleans up this poop. That took like three seconds.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. Lady doesn't have to do anything. And also the daughter Haley, who is helping her clean the poop or showing her is the daughter that's parentified. So there's an older kid who comes over and she's got a boyfriend, I think. Did she bring her boyfriend or was it just her later? They're kind of like the parents to the kids. And she hugs each of the kids and she makes sure they're okay. And when they come home from school, she hugs each of them and is like, welcome home from school. How was school? And Wendy's like, okay, so Haley's the mom, you know, and Haley is a hands on mom. So that's why these kids are doing okay because they have someone raising them. They have the dad and this daughter.

[Ben]

Mom.

[Ronnie]

Mom.

[Ben]

Yeah. And actually the two daughters seem at the Shapiro seem like very bright young women. I mean, the kids seem. I mean, the kids are like. The two boys are young. Yeah, they're all sweet. Like the two like daughters seem like they're really like very, very sharp. And they're like ready to kind of like break free of this. This chaos. So Wendy is like, okay, everyone, welcome to Wendy's world. First order of business. Gotta protect your home from robbers. You never know when they may strike. Okay, we cover all of our cameras. I know that sounds counterproductive, but trust me, it's what you do. When the robbers come.

[Ronnie]

Hide this book. And with the chinchilla rule number two. So she's like, okay, 7:00pm is dinner. No devices. We gotta come together, and we're gonna spend time doing what each of you wanna do. So she hangs out with Haley, and she's crocheting, and she's like, yeah, my mom taught me to crochet. And she goes, yeah, well, you know, baby Skylar was talking about football, and he was talking about how your mom doesn't go to his games. And she goes, well, you know, maybe she's aloof and a little bit in her own world, but, you know, when I was growing up, she was a PTA mom, and me and Dylan were in theater, and she was, like, making the costumes. She was there at every single meeting. And so we find out that. That mom. These other kids don't get that moment mom, you know? And she was very Type A, but now she moved to Florida and had a nervous breakdown. That's me just guessing. And she's like. It's like two different people. And she goes, well, you know, I see the way you're embracing the kids, and you're like, the mother. Do you feel like you and your mom switched roles and she's like, the child and you're the mom?

[Ben]

It's like, well, I kind of parent the kids how I want my parent, how I want to parent my kids when I'm older, like, with more structure, more regimen and, like. Like, I don't know if that makes me sound crazy, like a military person. She's like, no, I don't think that, like, making breakfast for your brothers and sisters, crazy, you know? So Haley's basically like, I'm just glad that my mom isn't stressed out, like, as she used to be. But, like, sometimes I wish she could be more present in my life, you know, Kind of like how I had it when my, you know, my sister and I were growing up. Which is also interesting that there's, like, this divide around, like, the two daughters and then the two sons. Like, was it. I don't know, Like, I want to, like, know more. Did she, like. Like, did something change when she had, like, her third child? Was she, like, planning just to stop after 2? I just keep on, like, creating these stories in my head about what. What changed for this lady.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, like, I'll Give you two more if you don't make me do anything or something. Yeah, I don't know, but I can't do this.

[Ben]

I already got two. I already got two up and running, and now there's a third one. I don't know if I could do this anymore for the rest of my life.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So then back at the other house, Althea is teaching the kids to crochet. And they love it, they're having fun, and then they want to paint stuff. And Eddie's like, this is gonna be messy. Is this water soluble? And she goes, we'll find out.

[Ben]

And so they put up this big protective blanket over the carpet. And they're all doing this in the living room. But why not? The foyer is right there. And why are you doing it here on the carpet? Unless Wendy and Eddie already had a plan to dig up that carpet and they knew they were gonna be renovating, so who cares? But it just seemed like such a strange place to do these arts and crafts. Like, you may not have any rules, but don't you have some logic? Do you, like, why not say, let's do it in the kitchen on the counter? Or like, why there?

[Ronnie]

Yeah, she doesn't care. Like that. He's. That he asks, is the water. Is it water soluble? And she's like, I don't care. Let's go do it on the white carpet. You know, she's an asshole. Like, this lady's just an asshole. She doesn't care about anybody else. And she hides it with a smile, you know? But she's just. Yes, at the end of the day, an asshole is an asshole.

[Ben]

Here comes one right now.

[Susan]

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[Ronnie]

Plus, the crew spills the paint, of course, immediately. Red, bright red paint all over the carpet. And they're like, oh, my God. Oh, my. Eddie's like, I'm gonna get in so much trouble. He's freaking out. And camera's just like, I'm gonna show mama my crochet work. So then in the other house, Wendy goes to the beach with Shane. She plays the piano with Dylan. She goes and watches football with Skyler. And she's like, that's my baby. That's my baby. He does really well. It was cute.

[Ben]

Did I earlier say that Dylan was Wendy's child? I don't know how I. Where that came from. I was like. When I said that, I was like, that's strange that she had one child that doesn't have a K. Dylan is not Wendy's child. So they. Yeah, Wendy's, like, covering a lot of ground. She's like, out and about doing a million things down in Florida. But the other family. But over the Sappho's, they're just in the living room painting, doing crochet. So Eddie's asked. Eddie's like, so, are you guys. You guys. You guys about to do this? You know, play some basketball? Because they're putting up the basketball hoop in the kitchen. And they're like, yeah. And then they're. And then Althea's gonna order dinner in. She's like, no dishes. It's great. That means more fun time.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So now that Wendy. Wendy's people. No devices at family meal. So then Althea's parents come and join, and one of the kids is like, I'm bored. And she's like, come talk to me. So she's like, nope, you're not doing anything. It's the thick of dinner. You're going to sit right here and you're going to enjoy it. And the kid's like, my mom would let me go outside and play in the clubhouse. And she's like, I'm not your mother. Sit down.

[Ben]

Yeah. And he's like, lying on the table because he's having a tantrum because he's bored. It's like, okay, kids, this is why you need to have some sort of rules for your children. Because they become monsters.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. And so no one knows how to sit at the table. They're like, we haven't done this. And Craig says, we haven't done this since we lived in New York. And she's like, wow. You know, well, I've enjoyed you guys. I've learned so much from you today, and you've exceeded my expectation. You're my own. Like, you're my own now. I went to a football game and played piano. You are my children now. So Wendy gets really into it, which is surprising. It was a nice turn to see Wendy, like, get so soft and sweet.

[Ben]

And Haley is like, you really listen. And I appreciate the. Appreciate you. I appreciate that. Like, you. You hear me? We see each other and Grandma's like, that's very nice. So Haley loves Wendy. I think it's because, like, Haley seems like a little brainiac, and she probably. And like, Wendy sees that and probably, like, takes her under her wing, which is very cute.

[Ronnie]

Well, and also they had the conversation where Wendy's like, so you're basically the parent here. And, you know, the kid's like, trying to excuse the mom. Like, well, she doesn. Doesn't mean it. Wendy's like, yeah, you're the mom.

[Ben]

So.

[Ronnie]

And it's like, finally someone acknowledging what this kid does for the family, you know, which is nice and terribly sad as well.

[Ben]

So then it's over at the Sappho's house. It's. You know, it's normally would be time for bedtime and praying, but Althea's like, okay, well, you know, no more bedtime. Have fun. Eddie, what do you think? And he's like, I'm tired. But now the kids just get to play. And they're like. They're playing with that basketball hoop like crazy. And they're pretty much up till like 1am yeah.

[Ronnie]

And now we get a spontaneous life adventure because that's another rule. So they go see alpacas. Althea takes him to go see alpacas at an alpaca farm. And Cameron's so funny. She has one, and it's kind of following her around. And she's like, why are you following me? Are you. Am I your favorite lover?

[Ben]

Yeah. What was the name of that one? Alpaca. Forgot what it was like, Devonte. And he's like, devonte. The lady's like, yeah, his name is Devonte.

[Ronnie]

Oh. So then at the other house, Althea is getting ready to go. The kids are like, when do you leave? Please make it soon. But no, they said that they had fun with her. And Carter's like, yeah, you guys never let us have fun.

[Ben]

Yeah. So Wendy. Wendy says her goodbyes to Shapiro's.

[Ronnie]

And.

[Ben]

And she's. She. She enters, she comes back home and like, oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Ronnie]

Hi.

[Ben]

And like, Eddie's like, wendy Delphia. I'll give me Wendy. They're like, hi, nice to meet you. They hug. It's nice and everything. And right away, camera goes, mom, look at her carpet. And he looks. She's like. I'm like, you. Althea is lucky that Susan wasn't there to see that stain, because Susan would have let her have it.

[Ronnie]

Susan would have killed her. So Wendy's like, okay, let's have a seat. Well, I can have a better view of the spot you left on my carpet.

[Ben]

Altio's, like, trembling. She's like, oh, my God, I'm nervous. She's, like, laughing, like, nervously when he goes, well, I'd really love to know your honest opinion. Just kidding. I'm not really gonna listen. Well, do you really wake up at 5:30am No, I wake up at 5am I'm up at no later than 5:30am you didn't really read that very carefully.

[Ronnie]

Is.

[Ben]

Does printer type look scary to you? Is that why you can believe all my directions?

[Ronnie]

And she's like, wow, I was a morning person. That's the only thing she takes out of it, is that she had to get up early. This woman is a mess. And Wendy's like, well, I wasn't a morning person. I made myself a morning person because of my kids. And she goes, well, I mean, I just did that for so many years. Yeah, and you still have kids.

[Ben]

Yeah. Wendy's like, okay, I got that. You do your own thing and you take up space in the house and everyone. And everyone revolves around you. And then it really struck me because that daughter of yours, Haley, who is so amazing, she gives. She gives to your other children the type of mothering that she wishes that she had. And she said, you see me. And I feel that means that she feels that she has been unseen. So from one mother to another, from a very type A organized and successful mom to someone who is a disaster sitting here in front of the Red Saint she put on my carpet. Try to meet your kids where they are, okay?

[Ronnie]

And your kids and your husband does everything. And I know, you know, he's doing, you know, he does what he does in the house for you. And, you know, I want to impart on you maybe one day or two during the week, maybe you could help him because I foresee happening, like, you guys are going to exchange burnout. And she's like, oh, yeah. Well, he's also kind of a martyr, so let's not forget that about old Craigy boy. Wendy just looks at her like, are you fucking kidding me? Like, you are after first of All. Wendy very kindly read this woman for filth. I mean, she literally called out every single issue. Very well, but she wasn't totally mean about it. She was extremely blunt, but she wasn't mean. And then this lady's like, oh, yeah, my husband's a martyr. You're calling your husband a martyr? He's raising your kids. He's paying for everything. He's doing all the laundry. You got a lot of nerve, lady.

[Ben]

Yeah, that was shocking when she did that. She threw him under the bus when. Yeah, well, give it to me, okay? Because I give it right to you. She's okay. I know you did. She's like, yeah, well, welcome to Housewives 101. Okay, well, I think she's so nervous to tell Wendy what's wrong with, like, her life. She's like, I think my biggest takeaway is that the kids feel like they're too scheduled and there's not enough fun. And I. I want you to build in some more flexible free time so that way they can find their passion, they're happy, so they can find joy, and maybe you can find joy.

[Ronnie]

I don't know. Please don't hate me.

[Ben]

Please don't hate me.

[Ronnie]

And Wendy's like, flexibility, fun, and free time. I love that. For other people. We'll see. So Althea's like, are you gonna keep the basketball hoop? No. You're lucky she's not, like, shoving it over your head and strangling you with it.

[Ben]

Frankly, that's the first thing that I'm taking down when you lose. But there's nothing breakable. She goes, yeah, you can take that with you. Why? What's the worst case scenario? I don't know. Maybe coming home to a red carpet. Althea, I don't know. But this time it's blood.

[Ronnie]

So Althea says that Wendy reminded her to empower her kids, and they still need a mom, and they want their mommy. So she's got work to do, guys. And she'll be a better team player with her martyr ass husband and maybe even do some more housework. And Wendy learned to give her kids more latitude. Neither one of them are going to do these things. And we know. I think this is the first episode that it's like, yeah, no one's listening here. I don't think either of these are going to listen. So we see Althea came home and made her family a priority. She even visited Haley at her internship in Washington. She surprised the family by cooking scrambled eggs one time. You know, she only cooked them one time. If that's the big deal they're going to make of this.

[Ben]

On paper plates. Scrambled eggs. One of the easiest things you could ever make. Literally so easy.

[Ronnie]

Wendy replaced her, her carpet and took the kids to the beach or something stupid. But.

[Ben]

And she like let the basketball hoop stay up for like three extra days before it was thrown in the trash. Yeah, they did not.

[Ronnie]

Yeah, I think Althea is probably not going to stay with this family. I think she's going to be out something, something's gonna happen. But I don't know. I got bad vibes from that one. And I feel bad for her because I do see her posting on Reddit and stuff and she does seem really sweet and I haven't read any comments or anything about this episode because like, who's gonna go read a wife swap thread? You know what I mean? Even I'm not that sad, but I feel like she's probably gonna get eaten alive in there.

[Ben]

Yeah, I, I think it's. Yeah, I think White Wife swap was a very pleasant surprise. I thought it was gonna be, be awful. I thought it's gonna be awful and super produced and scripted and planned and that's definitely, it definitely is produced and everything. But it was a much better show than I thought. I really enjoyed watching it. But I, I did feel like four, four episodes is perfect. If this was like an eight episode season, I would be like, okay, let's wrap this up. So nice. Four episode, kind of like like afternoon snack of a show. And now we just move on to. Well, we've got more shows coming up on the schedule. We got Southern Charms coming back. Beverly Hills is coming back. Vanderpump Rules is back in December also. So like the roster is filling up all over again.

[Ronnie]

Yeah. So here we go. Everybody buckle up. So until next time, we will see you over on Patreon with bonus episodes and crappings on demand with videos. Monday is crappy hour at 5:30 Pacific Time. And this weekend in Vegas, Saturday night 10:00pm at Beer park in the Paris Hotel is our party. So come join us and have some fun with us in Vegas and we'll talk to you guys soon.

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