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Richard Tate
Social media personality Dana Marie joins the we're out of Time podcast.
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Dana Marie
Pretty much, I always thought of, like, influencing and like TikTok as, like, my college, because I never went to college. It was something that I could use to get me to where I wanted to be. I think definitely a way to, like, feel pain. Like, when I was, like, actively feeling pain, I would get tattoos. You don't have. I have a full leg slate tattoo.
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Jason
Let me see it.
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Dana Marie
The girl that he was that he dated the whole time, he dated me. Like, our relationship was like a year long and theirs was like eight months long, and I brought her on. My podcast has to tell the whole story.
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Jason
Really? Do you think social media is slowly killing the mental health?
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Dana Marie
Yes.
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Jason
What's the secret about your mental health journey that you've never said online?
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Dana Marie
Oh.
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Jason
Feel ready to say now.
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Dana Marie
Okay. I hope I don't cry.
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Richard Tate
Thank you for listening to the we're out of Time podcast with Richard Tate. If you haven't already, please follow the podcast rate and review. And if you're getting value out of we're out of Time, share it with someone else. You know?
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Jason
Dana, how are you?
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Dana Marie
Good. So good.
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Jason
You've got the best energy.
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Dana Marie
Thank you. Thank. Thank you so much. Seriously.
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Jason
I just. You. And you're so impressive. Like, most people walk in and they're influencers and everything's cool, and that's their lane.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
You're doing other things. You're actually a creator and you manage, right?
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Dana Marie
100%.
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Jason
Tell me how you started that.
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Dana Marie
The company.
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Jason
Yeah, like. Like, you know, most people do the influencer thing.
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Dana Marie
100%.
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Jason
And then you went ahead and was like, you. You know, you started that way and then what clicked? When did you. When did you say to yourself, oh, great, I can have all these people and manage them?
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Dana Marie
Right. So actually, there's so many things I do. That's like one. One other thing that I do. But pretty much I always thought of, like, influencing and like, TikTok as, like, my college, because I never went to college. It was something that I could use to get me to where I wanted to be. You know what I mean? And so the whole magic.
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Jason
I need you to stop there.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
That in itself is a genius idea.
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Dana Marie
Really?
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Jason
Of course it is.
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Dana Marie
That's. I've always thought of it.
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Jason
No, no, but that's. But because you thought of it that way. You had clarity.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
And clarity is power. All right, let's jump right on into this. Yeah. Oh, you didn't answer me.
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Dana Marie
Oh, yeah, no, I'm like, I'm, like, a wreck. No, you're good about, like, the management and stuff. Yeah.
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Jason
How did you get. Listen, I want to know. Entrepreneurial. You're entrepreneur, right? Okay, we're going to get into all your things. Yeah, yeah, you're entrepreneurial. And how old are you?
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Dana Marie
I'm almost 25.
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Jason
Okay. I was on the corner of Crack and pipe street at 32.
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Dana Marie
No way.
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Jason
Yeah. I was homeless. So you're 25 and you're doing really well.
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Dana Marie
Thank you.
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Jason
Okay. When did you have that idea? How did it formulate? What was going on with that?
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Dana Marie
Right. So basically, my best friend, he's like that. My longest friend I ever had. He was, like, trying to figure out how to, like. Because I always was in the industry and he was always behind the scenes. He's like, oh, this is going viral. You can maximize this. You can do that. And then I was just like, okay, well, can I, like, pay you? Because he's like, my close friend. He's a genius. I was like, can I pay you to, like, help scale, like, my. All of my social media? Like, he just does posting. He does this time, brainstorms ideas. Ideas with me. He grew my YouTube channel because I just allowed him just do my YouTube first. He grew my YouTube channel from like, 100K to 1 million subscribers. And, like, four months. Like, it was something so insane.
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Jason
Yeah, hold on a second. I just want to beat the out of Dylan for a minute. Dude.
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Dana Marie
Hey, I'm not the YouTube guy. That's Jason. You have to be Jason.
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Jason
Up for that one, Jason. All right.
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Dana Marie
But, yeah, and then so the boy's name. His name is Edge.
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Jason
We should give him a name.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, Edge. Yes. Yeah, that's his name.
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Jason
That's a cool name.
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Dana Marie
And so then me and my best friend started a podcast, and then he came on as the main editor, podcast clipping, and started working with the podcast brand behind the scenes. And then I started funneling. Then all of a sudden, all these people were like, oh, how are you doing this? How are you posting so much? Are you growing? How do you come up with the ideas? And I'm like, like, yes. It's like, a lot of me, but at the same time, I have to give a lot of my credit to my best friend Edge, because he's all in behind the scenes doing so much for me. Then they're just like, can I talk to him? Can I do this? And all of a sudden, I'm just organically funneling influencers to him. And now he's. They're Paying him to do their content. Their stuff is blowing up insanely. And then he's like, what' like, this is cool. And then I was like, maybe we should start something, like, together.
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Jason
Hold on one second. Yeah, he. Does he have people now working for him?
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Dana Marie
Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Jason
So now I can't use them. Right. Because he's just going to funnel it to something.
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Dana Marie
No, he's still the main source. He is just two interns. Like, nothing. Like, so crazy. Like, just two interns that are like funneling brands. But he's mainly all hands on himself and it's just me and him and I pretty much am the face of it. And then he's like the closer of everything and like the behind the scenes and. Yeah. So then we started expanding to, like, working with brands and like, he works now full time with an AI app that he just, like scales their company. Now it's just him. And then we started working with atmosphere. Atmosphere. But then they kind of just wanted a month trial thing. But yeah, now we're expanding into brands and that's kind of like where that is now. It's brand new. It's kind of. We just started just very organically, accidentally. Yeah.
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Jason
You know what you should do? But you should hire a CEO that does this and let him run your show and not think about it.
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Dana Marie
Right, Exactly.
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Jason
Because are you monetizing it?
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Dana Marie
The brand itself, the. Or just everything?
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Jason
The whole management thing?
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Dana Marie
Oh, like, no, we just split, like, revenue that we just do with the creators and the brands.
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Jason
But, you know, it's funny. What's funny is if you had. If I had what you have.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
And in your head and put it into mine. Or my head and put it into yours.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
We'd be really better off.
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Dana Marie
Really?
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Jason
Oh, my God, we'd be so good off.
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Dana Marie
No way.
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Jason
Yeah. Well, it's just. It's just living.
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Dana Marie
No 100%.
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Jason
But you're beyond impressive. This is like, ridiculous. God, I was such a horrible kid. God. I mean, seriously, this girl's got it all together. She's got. She's got a God in her life. She's got a beautiful man. Right. It's like. It's like an embarrassment of riches. All right, I'm going to ask you a couple questions.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
Okay. What's the secret about your mental health journey that you've never said online? Oh. Feel ready to say now?
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Dana Marie
Okay. I hope I don't cry. So I'm not gonna go through the whole thing, but it's crazy because soon I'm about to Tell this on social media, because this is, like. I know I'm gonna cry, so I'm sorry, but this is, like, a whole thing. And it's definitely, like, my testimony with God for sure. But I'll give, like, the main thing. So I'm very against drugs. Like, I've had six of my closest friends overdose on drugs, and one, I was in the house for it and had to find his body. So. And for me, I've never done a drug in my life. And so that's something that I'm very huge on whenever I meet anybody about. Just, like, the stories that I have to tell about drugs and what I've witnessed through my closest friends, my roommates, like, everything to, like, help people now. But the biggest kicker is, like, I said, I've never done a drug. I was dating this guy, and I didn't know at the time that he was a drug dealer. And he was very secretive about it. There would be multiple people that would, like, come to his house with, like, guns and, like, all these things, and I kind of just thought, like, he was a hothead. So I thought he was just getting in fights and stuff like that and was just dealing with this and the world, but I never thought ended up in drugs. And like I said, I'm the type person that really just cherishes, like, intimacy. And with that, I wasn't really doing it with him that much because it was not out of love. It was more out of, like, his pleasure. And, like, there was a lot of cheating going on, and I didn't. I didn't want that. And so we went to this event, this party, and he actually drugged me at this party. I. Last I remember was I was, like, taking a drink with my friend, and next thing I know, I'm in our hotel room with. I'm bleeding everywhere, blood all over the floor. I'm completely naked. There's cops standing over me. The whole hotel room is completely smashed and, like, demolished. And all that the cops were saying to me was, you're. You're. You said that he hit you, he hurt you, he did all these things. I'm literally bleeding. I literally couldn't tell you what happened. To this day, nobody happened. My best friend was luckily down the hall in, like, a separate hotel room. She heard the whole thing. She was one that ran in, put clothes on me, like, helped me get up. And, like, I remember just being so, like, out of it. I'm looking around, like, everything in this room is smashed. Like, it was, like, a sweet hotel, and everything is smashed in this room and he's just silent, he's not saying anything. And like I said, to this day, I don't know what happened. The next day we're in. This was in Vegas. The next day we're driving back. And I always thought that, like, depression was like, fake in my head. Like, I always thought, like, oh, you can, like, like, oh, it's just like you're just dealing with something, that's why you're depressed. Like, you can get over it, there's ways to fix it. But in that moment, like, that drug, like, chemically, like, wired my brain into like a full, like, depressive state where that, that ride back was the most heavy I've ever felt. And I've been sad from multiple things. Like I said, I saw my friend literally get carried out in a body bag. Like, and so, like, I was sad, but I wasn't like, depressed, if that makes sense. They're two completely different things. Like, being so, so sad, where you feel depressed and being depressed are completely different things. And in that moment, like, that was the heaviest I've ever felt. And for the next eight months straight, I was going through these waves of depression where it would just fall on top of me and I would feel like I was like, so good and so happy and I would just fall on top of me and I would like, tell my roommate I'm like, please don't talk to me because this is like, I'm going through it really badly right now. And for those eight months straight, I remember just being on like my hands and knees, like, scream, crying, like, praying to God, like, please get me out of this. Like, this is so hard. And then I was like, journaling really hardcore and like, just writing everything out. Like, I have like two huge journals just filled with like, where my mind was every single night. Because I didn't really know how to talk to anybody about it. I didn't want to burden anybody else with it because it was just like, I can even understand it. So how could someone else, you know, it's like, why am I sad? You know? And finally, like around that eight month mark, like, I woke up just one day, like, I was like, I'm done with this. I used to hit nicotine really badly. I was like, I'm done with nicotine. And when I quit that and that morning, like, it was definitely like God answering my prayers all at one time. That morning, like, the depression was gone, like from that day, like, completely wiped out. Nicotine was out of my life and there was so Much that even through those eight months that I've helped with was like, like that I help now with people, like with that depression. I would write down all these journal prompts, do all this stuff. It's like there's so many things that's like music really, like, mentally does so much for you. Like, I changed all my music that day. I changed all my friends during that time. I changed. I was journaling just so much. And there's so much in just doing all of those things that can help, like with depression. But. But like, I definitely have to give my main credits to God, obviously, because.
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Jason
All right, but yeah, so let me. So let me tell you what I heard.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
First of all, did anybody tell you to journal or did you just do it?
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Dana Marie
I just started it.
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Jason
So intuitively you are correct. Like, that was genius. That was the ultimate in self care without knowing it 100%. But what I really want to. Oh, and I love the fact that you got rid of everyone in your life that did not serve you right 100%. Anybody tell you to do that?
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Dana Marie
No.
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Jason
Excellent. Then again, that was the healthiest part of you speaking out and saying enough's enough.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Okay. The music I never heard of.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, that was. That's a big one that I tell so many people is music influences the way that you think. So if you're thinking, if you're listening to a bad. A sad song, you're automatically going to be sad. So now to this day, every single song in my playlist is very upbeat and happy because it just like, if you, if you feel some type of way happy.
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Jason
What do you have happy in your playlist, dude?
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Dana Marie
Like, what do you mean happy? Like the song happy?
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Jason
Yeah.
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Dana Marie
No, I don't. But that's funny. But it's like whenever I'm feeling just like a little bit sad, I'll turn on just my playlist and all of a sudden, like my whole mood just like kind of shifts up. And so I was doing. I did that with music, like, really changed my whole playlist and everything.
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Jason
She just did with the mental health guy, Dylan.
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Dana Marie
I don't know. What did she do?
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Jason
What'd she do? Okay, she just told me why I'm always sad. Said the guy with the third rated mental health podcast in the United States. Right. I listened to this saddest, literally. Oh, my God, the Saturday. What's that one that John Mayer sings?
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Dana Marie
Oh, I. I'm pretty sure. I know.
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Jason
Daughters, be good to your daughters.
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Dana Marie
Yes, yes, yes.
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Jason
Oh, God, I gotta pull over.
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Dana Marie
I mean, even Just like, just this generation too, with people, like, music is, like, such easily influenced. Like, if there's certain guys that are listening to, like, you know, crazy rap music, they tend to, like, be crazier. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So influence or music is so heavy and, like, mental. And the way that you think and how you act, it's like craz because no one ever, like, really sits on that and thinks about that.
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Jason
That was a fantastic. That was real. Practical things that you can do to change your state. And that was magnificent on your part. Now I'm going to ask you.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
The important question.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
You are asking God for help to leave him. Leave him? Why couldn't you leave him? The.
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Dana Marie
The boyfriend at the time.
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Jason
Yeah.
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Dana Marie
Honestly, were you afraid? Honestly, during that time? I wasn't God heavy until after.
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Jason
No, I get it.
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Dana Marie
Okay.
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Jason
I get that you weren't God heavy.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
Forget. Forget God for a minute.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Jason
Forgive me.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
All right. For a minute. Why did you believe you couldn't leave him? Why was it so hard to leave someone who. When you wake up with him, you're covered in blood?
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
I mean, you. You know what happened there, right?
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Yeah.
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Jason
Tell me what happened.
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Dana Marie
Oh, I don't even. I can't fully process that.
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Jason
You're a big girl. This is important because what you're doing right now is you're helping every single person.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Okay. Not stick with a guy.
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Dana Marie
100.
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Jason
That is harming them.
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Dana Marie
No, fully.
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Jason
What did he. How did you get bloody. What did you finally figure out?
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Dana Marie
Like, daddy definitely, like, abused me. For sure.
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Jason
He hit you.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, 1,000%.
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Jason
And you were bleeding all over the room.
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Do you know what it means? What?
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Jason
He didn't hit you. He beat the out of you. No.
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Dana Marie
100.
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Jason
And then on the way home, you were with him on the way home?
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Yeah. 1,000%.
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Jason
How long were you with this guy after this incident?
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Dana Marie
Like, six months.
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Jason
Jesus.
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Dana Marie
I know.
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Jason
No, no, no. Why? Have you figured out why yet?
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Dana Marie
So I always talk to my friends now to this day, I'm just like that whole. Our whole relationship. Like, I almost can't even remember it. It's almost like trauma blocked that out.
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Jason
Well, wait a minute. You weren't high?
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Dana Marie
No.
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Jason
Were you drunk?
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Dana Marie
No. Like, not like a crazy amount, but I. That was the most I've ever drank.
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Jason
For sure. For sure.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
Okay. That. I know. So. But why can you not remember, right. What was so bad, literally. Okay. To where you couldn't say to yourself, you know what? This doesn't feel like love to me.
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Because it's. I don't know. Because even during that time, like, I just even think back to that mindset and I'll even watch videos back now in the mindset that I'm in and notice that he was so visibly on drugs every single day. But when I was with him during that time, I never noticed that. And I even can.
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Jason
I don't put yourself up for that.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
You're. You're completely normal.
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Yeah.
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Jason
Okay. You should have no reason to know that.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Okay. And drug addicts and alcoholics. Okay. Like me. Okay. We hide that.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Okay. So don't ever think that that's a problem. What I want to know, though, simply. Okay. Do you know why it took you so long to leave?
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Dana Marie
I almost don't know why?
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Jason
Because how old were you?
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Dana Marie
This was when I was 21, 22.
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Jason
How is your relationship with your father?
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Dana Marie
Really good.
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Jason
Okay. So.
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Dana Marie
So good.
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Jason
So this is. And. And he loves you, right?
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Dana Marie
Yes.
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Jason
Do you feel the love?
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Dana Marie
Yes.
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Jason
Okay. This is the rule. You should know what love feels like because you have love of a father. Okay. So you know what love feels. So when that other guy was with you, did it feel like that? Did it feel like love to you?
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Dana Marie
This one is so, like, a blur to me. It's like I can barely even remember our time together or, like, kissing him or, like, anything at all.
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Jason
Protecting you.
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Dana Marie
Yeah. Literally.
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Jason
Yeah.
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Dana Marie
So it's so hard to, like. But in that moment, like, I, I, I knew that he was, like, a weirdo, a bum. We talk about it all the time. I just think it was more so, like, just, like, being comfortable in that sense, because at the time, me and my best friend were living in his house because we were in between houses and, like, do you know what I'm saying?
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Jason
So the truth of the matter is you don't know.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, I really don't.
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Jason
And so I'm flummoxed. I don't have an answer.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
For how you ended up with such a good man after that nightmare.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Because this man is probably loving you.
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Dana Marie
Oh, yeah.
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Jason
The way your father.
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Dana Marie
Oh, yeah. 100.
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Jason
Okay. So my. So what I'm trying to convey to everybody.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
Is okay, like, I love my daughter.
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Dana Marie
Yeah.
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Jason
Okay. She ain't gonna be with somebody like that.
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Dana Marie
Oh, 100%.
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Jason
Okay. Because she's gonna say to herself, well, I know what love feels like, and this ain't it. So I'm gone.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
You got there.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Without referencing your dad, and if you did reference Was subconscious. That's why you left and then. Or one of the reasons you left. But it's also one of the reasons why the healthiest part of you found this man, right? Magnificent man. Should we give him a name?
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Dana Marie
Matt.
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Jason
Matt, yeah.
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Dana Marie
My. My boyfriend now, right? Yeah, yeah, Matt.
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Jason
Oh, he's fantastic.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, he's awesome.
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Jason
Yeah, he is.
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Dana Marie
No, he's. He does gym content. So he's very. He's like, has his own gym app that he like, has people sign up and he posts workouts, nutrition for everybody and then he does one on ones like personal training.
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Jason
It's not that one where they've got those pictures of the guys, right. And it's like the 20 year old and he's all thin and muscular, but then the 30 year old's a little heavier and just.
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Dana Marie
No.
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Jason
And then. And then they get to the guy who's 58 like me, and he's just a fat pig.
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Dana Marie
No, I don't think. No, no.
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Jason
All right.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, I don't see it. I think it's just pictures of him, you know.
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Jason
All right, that's great news because you've got this internal moral compass that protects you and you end up doing these right. Taking these right actions without stretching in with anybody.
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Dana Marie
Right.
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Jason
Which is, you know, 100% right.
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Dana Marie
Oh, 1,000%.
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Jason
Let's get into the next thing. Okay. Thank you for sharing that. Yeah, that was really tough.
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Dana Marie
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Jason
And I loved it.
- [21:46]
Dana Marie
Thank you.
- [21:46]
Jason
And you're gonna help a lot of people with it too. All right, what's something you wish your followers knew about you but you're scared they would judge you for?
- [21:56]
Dana Marie
Oh, like it's literally telling my testimony for sure. I'm do it. I know. I'm. I'm literally scrambling at that right now. I've been talking to so many this week about it because I'm like feeling God so heavy. Telling me, like, post your testimony, like, talk about your relationship with God. Because I don't on social media yet. And that's like, like my whole life off social media, that's all that it is. But on social media it's more just like lifestyle what I'm doing throughout the day, like what me and my boyfriend are doing. You know what I'm saying? But like, I just get so scared that people are going to be like, oh, this girl, like, is a Christian girl now, you know? You know how the Internet is with stuff. Yeah.
- [22:33]
Jason
Can I tell you something?
- [22:35]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [22:35]
Jason
Don't ever worry about that.
- [22:37]
Dana Marie
True.
- [22:37]
Jason
On my life.
- [22:39]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [22:40]
Jason
God does bank shots. To show off.
- [22:43]
Dana Marie
Right.
- [22:44]
Jason
Okay. You do whatever you feel Right. Moves you. I promise if you stay true to yourself, it'll all work out, right?
- [22:53]
Dana Marie
Fully. I know.
- [22:54]
Jason
You see how. See, if you love God, it's impossible not to do this. I know, right? It's like crying in his presence, right?
- [23:06]
Dana Marie
No, fully.
- [23:07]
Jason
All day.
- [23:08]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [23:08]
Jason
Seriously, what was the one thing you've done in a mental health spiral that even shocked you?
- [23:17]
Dana Marie
I think definitely a way to, like. Which is chaotic to say, but a way to, like, feel pain. Like, what? I was, like, actively feeling pain. I know a lot of people cut themselves, but I would get tattoos and. And so you don't have. I have a full leg. Sleeve tattoo.
- [23:37]
Jason
Let me see it.
- [23:37]
Dana Marie
Okay. Oh, and it keeps going.
- [23:43]
Jason
Put it on the table.
- [23:46]
Dana Marie
It keeps going.
- [23:48]
Jason
Yeah. Your. Your man's never leaving you. Not ever? Not ever. And so, yeah, if there's any. Not 20 somethings, but late 30s, early 40s, all inked up. DM me.
- [24:03]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [24:03]
Jason
Right. Literally just got rid of my old lady.
- [24:06]
Dana Marie
No way.
- [24:07]
Jason
Yeah.
- [24:08]
Dana Marie
But yeah, that's something that I definitely did. And I look back at it now and I'm kind of like, like, why is there a Louis Vuitton tattoo? Why are there some chaotic tattoos? But that was, like, my mindset, like, very, like, just get whatever and just to like, feel that. But now I can't get a tattoo because I think they are so painful.
- [24:25]
Jason
Well, you just get a Jesus. I got you right on your boob.
- [24:28]
Dana Marie
Oh, I got a Jesus tattoo right here three days ago.
- [24:31]
Jason
Did you really?
- [24:32]
Dana Marie
A whole face.
- [24:32]
Jason
Show it to me.
- [24:33]
Dana Marie
Okay, let me see if I could get it. It's.
- [24:36]
Jason
She's got a Jesus tattoo literally three.
- [24:38]
Dana Marie
Days ago, which is crazy. It's still healing, so I don't know. Can you see it?
- [24:42]
Jason
Let me see. Oh, yeah, show the camera.
- [24:49]
Dana Marie
This. This one.
- [24:50]
Jason
It's this one right here.
- [24:51]
Dana Marie
Oh, okay. Okay, okay. Can you see it? We can. We can see it.
- [24:54]
Jason
Oh, that's awesome. That's a gorgeous Jesus too, right?
- [24:58]
Dana Marie
Yeah, I know. So good.
- [25:00]
Jason
He's got the thorns on the head too.
- [25:02]
Dana Marie
Oh, yeah. No, and that was like. I was not even fool around.
- [25:05]
Jason
Yeah, you got the whole torture Jesus that.
- [25:08]
Dana Marie
No, for real. And after that, I was like, I'm not getting a tattoo again because it hurts so bad. But all my other tattoos never hurt. I never felt anything from them at all. But that one hurts so bad.
- [25:20]
Jason
Isn't that funny? God's a little painful sometimes, isn't he?
- [25:24]
Dana Marie
Right? Yeah.
- [25:26]
Jason
Right. None of the other tattoos, but yet you have A Jesus tattoo. And that hurts.
- [25:31]
Dana Marie
That hurt. Yeah.
- [25:32]
Jason
What's that about?
- [25:33]
Dana Marie
I know. Seriously, I was actually thinking about that.
- [25:35]
Jason
Yeah, we don't judge.
- [25:39]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [25:41]
Jason
I got a lot of questions, but I want to get back to the other part because this is called we're out of time. And the reason it's called that is because we actually are.
- [25:53]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [25:54]
Jason
Okay. You know, kids, when I was a kid, we could experiment with drugs. Kids can't do that today because you take half a pill. I just heard a story the other day where someone's daughter took half a pill. Straight A student slumped over her car and dead in two minutes. Half a pill. Now, you saw, you've had a bunch of trauma around people who have passed away. I want to know about your friend that you saw brought out in a body bag.
- [26:41]
Dana Marie
So my other first name only.
- [26:42]
Jason
What's his first name?
- [26:43]
Dana Marie
Austin.
- [26:45]
Jason
Does he have parents?
- [26:47]
Dana Marie
It's. I'm not a good relationship because basically this was my.
- [26:54]
Jason
They didn't have a good relationship. He didn't have a good relationship with his parents.
- [26:58]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [26:58]
Jason
How old was he?
- [27:00]
Dana Marie
I'm actually not too sure. Like, probably 25.
- [27:03]
Jason
Okay.
- [27:03]
Dana Marie
Yeah. And because it was my boyfriend at the time's best friend and roommate, and I got close with him because obviously going over to my boyfriend at the time's house, he was just always living there, there. And really nice guy, really smart guy, very successful guy, Was extremely successful. He had. He could have everything that he wanted, he could buy anything that he wanted, but he just didn't have happiness, you know, and living there, I always thought he was, like, really funny, outgoing, super awesome. And me and my boyfriend at the time, we were all sitting in the living room. It was about like 1am and we knew that he was. It's always Xanax. I don't know why it's always Xanax with all the people that I've lost. And we knew that he was doing that my anytime. My boyfriend at the time was like, oh, like. Like, you should stop that. He would kind of get, like, really upset and stuff. So we started, like, planning out a way of like, oh, like, let's pretend like that we want it to, like, get less pills away from him. So he would always, like, be like, oh, like, let me get some. And like, move it or whatever.
- [28:13]
Jason
You guys ever try to get him treatment?
- [28:15]
Dana Marie
Yeah, they tried multiple times, but he just didn't. He didn't want it at all. And it was like, very hard.
- [28:21]
Jason
And he do for a living.
- [28:23]
Dana Marie
He did trading, like, trading like, you Know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's how he was like super successful and everything. And my boyfriend at that time, he tried like everything with him. Like tried to like take him like away from the house, like just be like in his room all the time. But then one night when we were over there, he, we were having the best conversation and he was like, he said that he was like sober for a while. We, he was drinking coffee like late at night. Like it was just like kind of like what he liked. And we were just talking. We had the best conversation. We were planning plans for the next day and me and my boyfriend went to go sleep in his room. He went to his room and then my boyfriend found him like out like after so many hours. Like we thought he was sleeping in, but then my boyfriend found him just like, like just out cold. And then what we found was just all of the Xanax, like half of the thing dumped in the toilet. So I don't know if he relapsed and then of course he relapsed. Yeah. And then, but dumped the half in the toilet.
- [29:33]
Jason
Sure. Because he started getting scared.
- [29:35]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [29:36]
Jason
Okay. Or maybe the healthiest part of him came out and said, you, I don't want this.
- [29:40]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [29:41]
Jason
Okay. But he was gone right after that, wasn't he? Yeah, that was the. You don't know what the cause of death was by the coroner, do you?
- [29:50]
Dana Marie
It was Xanax, right? Yeah.
- [29:53]
Jason
It was fentanyl poisoning is what it was.
- [29:55]
Dana Marie
Got it.
- [29:56]
Jason
Xanax. It was fentanyl poisoning in the Xanax. Yeah. His parents must be destroyed.
- [30:09]
Dana Marie
Yeah, I, I, I didn't get too in detailed with everything afterwards just because it was like my boyfriend's time. Best friend. And so I just remember him saying that like he didn't have a good relationship with parents because the parents always wanted his money and not him as a human. So I know that there was a lot of issues with the financial aspects and.
- [30:37]
Jason
Okay, then they're, then they're upset for the wrong reasons.
- [30:40]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [30:42]
Jason
Tell me about somebody else who passed from fentanyl.
- [30:46]
Dana Marie
Yeah. So one of my other friends, this happened recently. He was somebody that I basically like grew up with one of my most viral tiktoks. Like my first viral TikTok to ever hit a million likes was with him in it. Like he was like always there and then he had a drinking issue and he was friends with me and I would always help him. I let him stay at my house all the time and just watch over him. I remember one time he had an issue with drinking and running away. And I remember he drank and, like, ran away, like, when we were all, like, sleeping. And then one of my other friends found him on the side of the road, brought him back to my house, and then he was sober and fine, and every time he was sober, he was fine, but there was, like, always this constant drinking pattern. Then finally, when I moved to la, he kind of came and stayed at my first continent house with me. And, like, he kind of chilled out with the drinking. Everything seemed kind of normal because he started, like, focusing on social media more and not just, like, the chaos. And because he just got out of high school. Like, that was. Both of us just got out of.
- [31:44]
Jason
High school, which is exactly what social media is.
- [31:47]
Dana Marie
It's exactly, like, exactly the same thing.
- [31:49]
Jason
I've never seen anything like it.
- [31:51]
Dana Marie
Right. No, it's crazy. But then basically, he was just like, oh, I think I'm gonna go hang out with these guys, because keep mine. This whole house was a group of girls, and he was, like, the only guy.
- [32:02]
Jason
And, like, like, I'm sorry, tell me that again. Where do I get some of that?
- [32:08]
Dana Marie
Content houses. Tick tock era. Just only.
- [32:11]
Jason
Can you work that out? Just work that out. I just don't know what to say. I mean, I hear of all this. Good. I get none of it. Seriously. I sit in my office all day long. Okay. I do. I work and I come in here, like, three times a week.
- [32:32]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [32:32]
Jason
I shoot a podcast and I hang out, you know, with my kids. Other than that, I got nothing.
- [32:40]
Dana Marie
Somebody.
- [32:41]
Jason
Oh, there's nobody.
- [32:42]
Dana Marie
What?
- [32:43]
Jason
I swear to God. I swear to God. I only look good on paper.
- [32:47]
Dana Marie
What?
- [32:47]
Jason
No, no, trust me, okay? I. Look, I am the. I'm a huge catch, okay? On paper. Okay?
- [32:55]
Dana Marie
No way.
- [32:56]
Jason
In reality, it's a completely different story.
- [32:58]
Dana Marie
What?
- [32:59]
Jason
Oh, my God. I get a bad idea in the middle of a bad idea. Okay. I'm like, first thought wrong. In fact, my buddy Sarge calls me first thought wrong.
- [33:11]
Dana Marie
Well, if you're, like, aware, can you fix that in, like, the next relationship, potentially?
- [33:16]
Jason
I don't think so.
- [33:18]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [33:20]
Jason
I don't think so. I think there's probably two women that I know of.
- [33:25]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [33:26]
Jason
And they're both taken.
- [33:28]
Dana Marie
Oh.
- [33:29]
Jason
Like, I could, like, I could make it work with these two.
- [33:32]
Dana Marie
I was like, oh, permission. I know.
- [33:34]
Jason
No, no, no, no, no. Well, he's like, dude, that ain't your lot right now. You're working for me.
- [33:43]
Dana Marie
Yeah. 100.
- [33:45]
Jason
Like, a break, though. Break. Especially in California.
- [33:49]
Dana Marie
Yeah, true, right? Oh, my gosh.
- [33:51]
Jason
All Right, let's move on. Do you think social media is slowly killing the mental?
- [33:56]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [33:59]
Jason
I think it's a. An attention span issue.
- [34:04]
Dana Marie
Right. Yeah. Well, because there's also. It's crazy, but there's also some videos that'll be, like, 10 minutes long and they'll go viral, so it's really. Yeah, it's just, like, random. Yeah. I post a lot of rants that are, like, over five minutes, and a lot of them do, like, way better than that one.
- [34:19]
Jason
But you do a lot of rants?
- [34:21]
Dana Marie
Yeah. Yeah.
- [34:22]
Jason
Do you know, I'm gonna be. I seriously. I love the rants. Really? I'm like, seriously, I, like, don't have the time.
- [34:29]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [34:29]
Jason
To stalk your Instagram, watch all the rants. Yeah, yeah, but I'm gonna do it.
- [34:34]
Dana Marie
Okay. But, yeah.
- [34:35]
Jason
Whether I need to or not.
- [34:37]
Dana Marie
Yeah. No, I post, like, a lot of, like, story times. Like, that's, like, a lot of, like, stuff that I do is, like, just story time.
- [34:43]
Jason
What's the darkest DMS you've ever received and how did it affect you mentally?
- [34:49]
Dana Marie
Darkest DM was definitely somebody saying that they were gonna, like, kill me and kill my friends and. Yeah.
- [34:57]
Jason
What'd you do with that?
- [35:01]
Dana Marie
Not really anything, but. Because I. I had a stalker before, and I did something with the stalker, but not with just the dm. It's like, I get those all the time. So it's kind of like when you.
- [35:12]
Jason
Get dms where people threaten you, threaten to kill you.
- [35:16]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [35:16]
Jason
You have to give that to the police.
- [35:18]
Dana Marie
All of them.
- [35:19]
Jason
What?
- [35:20]
Dana Marie
I said all of them.
- [35:22]
Jason
How many you got?
- [35:23]
Dana Marie
It's like. It's usually like, a once every six months kind of thing.
- [35:27]
Jason
Yes, all of them.
- [35:28]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [35:29]
Jason
Yeah, all of them. Because you want to have that as a record, and if I were you, I would send it both to the local authorities and to the local FBI.
- [35:39]
Dana Marie
True. Yeah.
- [35:40]
Jason
Okay.
- [35:41]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [35:41]
Jason
You don't have to tolerate that, people.
- [35:44]
Dana Marie
Right.
- [35:44]
Jason
Okay, come on now. I have the same. They. They want to kill me, too.
- [35:49]
Dana Marie
Really?
- [35:50]
Jason
Yeah. Dylan won't let me give them my address.
- [35:55]
Dana Marie
He's like, pull up.
- [35:56]
Jason
I'm like. I'm like, please, God. Please, God. I get no fun at all. None. Zero. Okay. I want to go back. Did that guy. When you. Bro. When you. The guy where you woke up with blood all over you. Okay. Did that guy ever hit you?
- [36:19]
Dana Marie
Like, prior to that?
- [36:20]
Jason
Yeah.
- [36:21]
Dana Marie
Yes. No.
- [36:22]
Jason
After that?
- [36:23]
Dana Marie
No.
- [36:24]
Jason
Sweet. Only.
- [36:27]
Dana Marie
But we were also like this. Like, we. I wouldn't even say we were, like, dating for all that time because he had two other Girlfriends during that time that he was like, he know that. No, 100%. But it was like we didn't see each other as much after those six months because he moved back to Michigan for those six months.
- [36:44]
Jason
Do you know how exhausting it is to have three girls in a row?
- [36:48]
Dana Marie
Yeah, I don't know. It's crazy.
- [36:51]
Jason
That's so hard.
- [36:52]
Dana Marie
Yeah, I. I don't. And how I found out was like, I was on his laptop one day, like, when he. Because he moved to Michigan for six, like, months, and we were like, in his house pretty much. And I was like, can I use your laptop for a zoom meeting? And on the zoom meeting, there was a text being all like, you know, I would you last night. And like. And then I click into it and it's like, him. And like, I'm like, bro, here we go.
- [37:12]
Jason
That's horrible. Do you have nav. That girl's phone number?
- [37:15]
Dana Marie
No, but I had the girl that he was. That he dated the whole time he dated me. Like, our relationship was like a year long and theirs was like eight months long. And I brought her on my podcast to tell the whole story.
- [37:26]
Jason
You really?
- [37:27]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [37:28]
Jason
That is so dope.
- [37:30]
Dana Marie
I did, yeah.
- [37:30]
Jason
It's gangster, literally.
- [37:32]
Dana Marie
Because I was like, don't tell me the whole story. Just call my podcast and we'll talk it out. Like, yeah, my God. And I found out through a tick tock comment. Because how I found out that they were even dating was we already broke up because he had the other girlfriend. And I found out and I was like, face him or right now and say, oh, like, you're not gonna tell anybody we hooked up, right? And he's like, no, no. And I'm like, well, why wouldn't you? If you said that, then the girl would be like, what do you mean? Like, we definitely didn't. And then so he facetimer, he's like. And she answers, and he's like, you're not gonna tell me you hooked up, right? And then she's like, I wouldn't. And then he hangs up the phone. I'm like, get out of my house. That's how he, like, originally, like, ended. But then when I posted a video or when he posts video being like, yeah, we broke up. And then I posted. I made a comment basically being like, yeah, because another girlfriend. And then she was just like, she was like, so proud of you, yada yada. And I was like, I was like, thank you. And she's just like. She's like, I'm just proud that you Knew that me and her were, like, dating him. I go, you and her? Like, what do you mean, you and her? I thought you were just hyping me up, like, you know what I'm saying? Because she was, like, an old friend, too. So I'm like. Like, I knew her. And so I was like, huh? And then. So that was another band aid. Because how I, like, even found out that this is, like, beyond me. But he would do, like, only fans.
- [38:51]
Jason
Shut up.
- [38:51]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [38:52]
Jason
What does he do on only fans?
- [38:53]
Dana Marie
So.
- [38:53]
Jason
No, no, I got it.
- [38:55]
Dana Marie
Okay.
- [38:55]
Jason
No, you're gonna break this thing.
- [38:56]
Dana Marie
No, you're gonna die. So how I found out about the girl when I was like, we've never hooked up. Right. I couldn't tell him how I found out.
- [39:05]
Jason
Why?
- [39:05]
Dana Marie
Because I made a fake Only because I don't have an only fans. I made a fake a fan's account and had a feeling that he was having sex with a girl on his only fans. Because why would I check his only fans account? Like, I don't care. Like, he's my boyfriend. I just assume that he's. I don't know what's going on there. But he was like, oh, I'm just doing boxer stuff. Yeah.
- [39:23]
Jason
This was before you became born again.
- [39:25]
Dana Marie
Yeah, for sure, for sure. Okay. Yeah.
- [39:29]
Jason
The onlyfans thing gave it away.
- [39:30]
Dana Marie
Yeah, right? Yeah. His only fans. I had to make an only fans count. Me and my best friend where, like I said, I have a huge gut feeling to buy his only fans. And she's like, bro, he's probably doing shirtless stuff key mine. I don't know how only fans worked. I had to make an account. I put it under fake names. I don't want him, see, buying, like, under my name. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And so. But I just had a gut feeling. I swear, it's God being like, this is weird, but you got to do this. You know what I'm saying? And so I legit bought because the videos were, like, $200, and there was two videos in a photo, so it was like, 500. I'm like, bro, I'm gonna have to spend 500 on this right now to just check on. Yeah, so I did. Sure enough. It's literally like a porno. I legit. Yeah. My friend got her phone and, like, took pictures and videos just in case he ever, like, brought it up. But I can't be like, hey, I bought your only fans. Yeah, I know you cheated. Like, you know what I'm saying? So that's why I did that whole video Thing to make sure before I had to get into, like, the n. Pretty stuff. But because I did, it's kind of embarrassing to say.
- [40:37]
Jason
You should have put that within the podcast. Like, are you on YouTube? Because I like these.
- [40:42]
Dana Marie
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- [40:43]
Jason
Okay. So. So what you're. It's okay. I like Apple and Spotify, too. Don't be upset. Okay. What would have been really great when you had that woman on that he was cheating on you with? It would have been great had you played that video.
- [40:59]
Dana Marie
I would have get taken down on YouTube.
- [41:01]
Jason
Oh, it would have.
- [41:02]
Dana Marie
Yeah. Like, I just feel like that to the viewers. Like, they. Like, I think. I think they can take my word for it. You know, I have the screenshots on my phone, literally. But, like.
- [41:11]
Jason
Yeah, well, you do have a different crowd.
- [41:13]
Dana Marie
Yeah. Yeah.
- [41:14]
Jason
On this one, we would definitely put it up. We would definitely put it up. Look at this scumbag.
- [41:20]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [41:21]
Jason
Literally this cheating piece of.
- [41:23]
Dana Marie
For real. And it was.
- [41:24]
Jason
Sure.
- [41:24]
Dana Marie
And it was a different girl than the one that was on the podcast.
- [41:28]
Jason
You're kidding.
- [41:29]
Dana Marie
No, it was a complete.
- [41:30]
Jason
Oh, but you got the.
- [41:31]
Dana Marie
Yeah, but it was the third girl.
- [41:32]
Jason
You gotta have the third girl on the podcast.
- [41:34]
Dana Marie
No, she's insane.
- [41:36]
Jason
She's all the more reason.
- [41:37]
Dana Marie
But, like, that girl, like, felt like, okay, yeah, he hurt both of us. Like, that's insane because she knew about me. But the other girl was all like, yeah, I'm better than you type energy. Like, she was telling me videos being all like, yeah, I got him in. And I'll be like, you're insane. You're mental. Like, I didn't know about you, but you know about me and you think he likes you. Okay, go off like, no, crazy. So that one would never worked out.
- [42:05]
Jason
That's so good. So good.
- [42:08]
Dana Marie
Okay, so I dated a guy, right? He. We. We had an amazing relationship. Met on the beach in Hawaii. Then we. Then he ended up living in. Because I was living in Hawaii at the time. We. And I ended up moving back to San Diego with my parents, and he actually ended up living there. So then we had this whole thing.
- [42:28]
Jason
He followed your ass to San Diego.
- [42:31]
Dana Marie
Like, well, he actually ended up already living there because he was just a tourist in Hawaii and I was living there. So I saw, like, he saw me on the beach and I was like, I actually live here. And he's like, oh, well, can you show me around? I was like, sure. But then. Yeah. So then we started dating and we had a long relationship. It was like. It was my relationship. Now is my longest relationship. This is my second longest relationship. He. We had a perfect relationship. And then he pretty much proposed. And when I went to go kind of like mention that on like social media anywhere to anybody, he was like, don't say anything. Why are you saying stuff? Don't post anything like that. And I'm like, I feel like that's normal thing.
- [43:09]
Jason
Anything like what?
- [43:09]
Dana Marie
Like that we were like engaged Pretty much. Yeah. And so then I was just like, that's shady. Yes. And I was like, now I'm a little questioning my entire relationship. Because that was just like, why wouldn't. And he's like, I just haven't told my parents yet. I don't want your parents to find out. And I was just like, okay, keep on. Perfect relationship. All relationship.
- [43:30]
Jason
How long?
- [43:31]
Dana Marie
Like a year. A year.
- [43:32]
Jason
And at this point.
- [43:33]
Dana Marie
But we knew each other a whole year before that and was like, like dating, not official on. And like, just because we were long distance, you know.
- [43:43]
Jason
Right.
- [43:44]
Dana Marie
So, yeah, then once that happened, I then like posted something a little like, mad. And then somebody thought that we broke up. And because they thought we broke up, this girl reached out to me and was like, I think your man is going on a date with my best friend. And I go, no, he's not. No, he's not. I remember I was in the car, I was like freaking out. I was like, no, he's not. And she sends a screenshot, and it's literally her spam, like Instagram saying, like, going on a date with this famous tick tocker. And I was like, this is not real. And then so I asked him about it because I was freaking out because I already, like, I had a feeling, I got a gut feeling because he already did that whole shenanigan. And he was just like, oh, she's just a crazy fan. Like, you know how they are. Da, da, da. And I was like, okay. Because you, like, even now you get DMs basically trying people trying to ruin your relationship. Like, anybody that I know, there's been crazy people that are like, oh, your man's cheating on you. Here's some weird proof. And then it's like, not true at all. It just always is. So I didn't know what to believe, and so I just decided to believe him. And then to find out that that girl still on that date took screenshots of it, took videos of it, and then posted it. And I was like, oh, heck no. Like, it turned out to be. And he actually felt followed through with it. So I was pissed. And I was like, obviously Upset. We broke up. Everything was done as I thought. And then those two girls became my best friends, like, during that time, because I was like, thank you for telling me. Oh, my gosh. And then we became like three best friends, and I was like crying on my Snapchat, basically saying, like, this happened. And then I mentioned on my Instagram story, like, we're not together anymore. Not even. The next day, I get a group chat that was made with like 13 people in it, all random numbers, and it was every single girl that he cheated on me with during our relationship. And it was like screenshots after screenshots. Sex tapes. Three psalms. And it like. And I was blown. I was jaw dropped. That.
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Jason
Hold on. They sent you sex tapes of your man?
- [46:00]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [46:01]
Jason
Another woman?
- [46:01]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [46:02]
Jason
How did that feel?
- [46:04]
Dana Marie
Awful. Like, I was. No, I just. Wait, you're gonna die.
- [46:08]
Jason
I'm already dying.
- [46:11]
Dana Marie
I got a screenshot in this batch that was.
- [46:15]
Jason
You can't say batch when we're talking about this.
- [46:17]
Dana Marie
Oh, okay, sure. I got a screenshot in this selection of screenshots that it was. It was a screenshot of, like their DMs, and it was a girl being all like. It was him sliding up with like, you're hot. On, like her story. And then she's like, thank you, but I'm 13. And he goes, oh, God. And he goes, you're the hottest 13 year old. Oh, that is disgusting. And then I found out that two of those sex tapes, the girls were 50. You mind? He's 19. At this time. They were.
- [46:44]
Jason
Girls were 15.
- [46:45]
Dana Marie
Yes. And then this whole thing happened where I.
- [46:49]
Jason
Where they stopped. No, this 19 year old was sleeping with a 15 year old.
- [46:55]
Dana Marie
Right.
- [46:56]
Jason
Is he in jail?
- [46:58]
Dana Marie
He should be, but no, it keeps going. And then I went on social media.
- [47:04]
Jason
How long ago is this?
- [47:05]
Dana Marie
This was in 2019.
- [47:07]
Jason
I hate parents. No, I hate parents. There's no way the parents don't know about this.
- [47:13]
Dana Marie
You're gonna die though. The social media, it. The like. I went on social media was like, he did this. He did that. Like, told everything in the world. Because I'm like, by. By, like, y' all should. Y' all should know who. You're like your fan. The fans should know who he is at the time. He was like one of the most popping tick tockers at that in that time period, basically. I said all this stuff. His parents came after me for, like, defamation. And then.
- [47:37]
Jason
Yeah, whose parents came after years? And the guy who's banging the 19 year old is banging the 15 year old. His Parents came after you for what?
- [47:46]
Dana Marie
For defamation.
- [47:47]
Jason
Oh, yeah.
- [47:48]
Dana Marie
And then. No. And then we still going on? No, no, no. But we sent his parents all of the screenshots in that moment. Silence, silence from that point on. So they know. They know. They've seen all of this stuff like fully sent over. So they know. I don't know what happened then, but then I find out that he. After a relationship ended and after all this, he started doing gay porn. He started doing gay porn, like full leaks. Like it was leaked out. Like it was. It was. Like it wasn't people just starting a rumor. Like there was proof, like full blown proof to back it. Like it was. And it was at the time my guy best friend that I introduced him. It was them too. Both very straight.
- [48:33]
Jason
I'm sorry, I hate to break the news. Yeah, but that's the definition of not straight.
- [48:38]
Dana Marie
Exactly. Right. And then after I found out that two months go by, we get back.
- [48:44]
Jason
On the two straight guys each other first. I. I want to get my head around that.
- [48:50]
Dana Marie
Right.
- [48:51]
Jason
Okay, so you, your boyfriend and one of your best guy friends.
- [48:57]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [48:57]
Jason
Are each other.
- [48:59]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [49:00]
Jason
Did you get a video of that?
- [49:02]
Dana Marie
It's on my phone.
- [49:05]
Jason
On that phone?
- [49:06]
Dana Marie
Yes.
- [49:06]
Jason
You have a picture?
- [49:08]
Dana Marie
Do you want to see?
- [49:09]
Jason
Yeah, I want to see.
- [49:10]
Dana Marie
Okay, so you're.
- [49:12]
Jason
Oh, my God. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
- [49:14]
Dana Marie
Here's one screenshot.
- [49:16]
Jason
Hold on. Let me see this. Let me see it.
- [49:17]
Dana Marie
This is just a screenshot of. But you're gonna die. It gets worse every swipe.
- [49:21]
Jason
Okay, but these guys are in. This guy's got hair on his. That's gross. Did you see that? That's disgusting.
- [49:31]
Dana Marie
It gets worse.
- [49:32]
Jason
Oh, my God, they're touching. Oh, this is. This is nuts. Hold on. Well, the guy on the left is feeling less than. Was that your boyfriend?
- [49:50]
Dana Marie
Which one?
- [49:51]
Jason
Yeah, that was him.
- [49:52]
Dana Marie
Yeah.
- [49:53]
Jason
Ew, God, is that tiny. Is this one of them shoving his. Oh, my gosh, bro, I just. This is the most. Did you. Did you ever find out why two straight guys were doing that? Were they doing it on only fans to make money?
- [50:19]
Dana Marie
Yes. And I found this out. How I found this was way later down the line. And it was like from one of my gay best friends who bought his stuff. So now he has a kid just gay porn with his best friend. But then I guess they got into a huge argument because he started dating a girl and he thought it was just for content, apparently. And then the. My guy best friend who my ex was getting with, he like left and now he just got engaged. To a girl. And then my ex is now dating this other tick tock person. And now they started this whole tick tock house. And now tick tock house, like, we're like, you get a house like this and move in, like six creators and you all make content creator or content together. And then, hey, I want to tell.
- [51:14]
Jason
You how much fun this was.
- [51:16]
Dana Marie
Yes. So good.
- [51:17]
Jason
I kept you hostage for longer.
- [51:20]
Dana Marie
No, it's so good.
- [51:21]
Jason
It was. Right.
- [51:22]
Dana Marie
Because when I saw that email come through about, like, mental health podcasts, immediately I was like, yes.
- [51:26]
Jason
Well, it's a, it's also, it's, you know, it's, it's, it's for, it's for what you talked about earlier with. No, you know what I mean?
- [51:36]
Dana Marie
A hundred percent.
- [51:36]
Jason
I just. There's nothing worse than a parent burying their child. You'll know. You'll be a mother in five, seven years. Whatever it is, you'll know. Talking about. All right. Best time ever.
- [51:51]
Dana Marie
Yeah. See you next Tuesday.
- [51:55]
Jason
There it is.
- [51:57]
Richard Tate
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