We're Your Girls – "Soups Up B#%ch"
Date: November 28, 2025
Hosts: Taryn Delaney Smith & Tiffany Singleton
Podcast: Good Mess Media
Episode Overview
In this chaotic and laughter-filled episode, best friends Taryn and Tiffany deep-dive into the messy realities of life, sisterhood, and adulthood. From navigating body image and Internet commentary, to planning a hilariously doomed dinner party and embracing the struggle to “do it all,” they bring authentic stories, off-the-cuff humor, and raw honesty. The episode wraps up with a candid discussion about boundaries, balancing relationships and career, and that persistent pressure to thrive in every area of life.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. The Realities of Friendship and Sisterhood
(01:00–02:00, 07:13–07:40)
- Taryn and Tiffany riff on their deep bond, joking about being closer than just friends—“we’re moments away from getting married”—and the blurry line between twin sister, enemy, and soulmate.
- “We’re toeing the line between my greatest op and my dear friend.” (B, 01:38)
- Warm, irreverent banter they know their audience loves: “That’s true love, though. That’s synchronosity.” (A, 01:48)
2. Coffee, Poop, and Body Talk
(01:58–06:14)
- Tiffany confesses to feeling physically unwell; Taryn offers no-filter support about bathroom needs and the reality of “coffee poops.”
- “I want you to all know this whole episode, turtling, sphincter clenched.” (B, 02:16)
- They directly discuss body image pressures, especially how Black women’s bodies are policed, the “are you pregnant?” question and public scrutiny.
- “If one more of you motherfuckers ask me if I’m fucking pregnant, I gotta talk to you. I have a normal body... you will not make me feel like me having a uterus is shitty.” (B, 03:19)
- “Black women are just literally built different. Our reproductive organs sit differently.” (A, 04:00)
- Both advocate for not commenting on others’ bodies.
- “Maybe don’t comment on people’s bodies if you’re not 100% sure. I’ll tell you. How about that?” (B, 06:16)
3. Hilarious Chicken Chronicles
(08:23–12:31)
- Taryn shares stories of raising chickens, including naming them (Edward Cluckin, Princess Di, Chick Cage), and dealing with their personalities—one bullying feminist chicken included.
- Story highlight: Oscar the chicken keeps hitching rides in the Amazon truck, eventually “flying the coop.”
- “Oscar developed a habit of jumping in the Amazon truck…Oscar said, you will never see this face again.” (B, 11:38)
- Touches on the unique joy of mundane, country-life stories among friends.
4. Imaginary Thanksgiving Dinner Party Game
(13:01–24:03)
- Tiffany introduces a surprise game: planning their fantasy Thanksgiving dinner, selecting a guest list and curating a menu from cookbooks.
- The guest list grows increasingly star-studded and random: Michelle & Barack Obama, Jennifer Lewis, Celine Dion, Michael Bublé, Beyoncé (strictly no plus-one for Jay-Z), personal friends, grandparents, and even “our two enemies.”
- “Beyonce, no plus one. None.” (A, 18:52)
- Chaos and rivalry ensue, they uninvite their “enemies,” then re-invite grandparents, riffing in real-time on group dynamics and one-liners.
- Menu is pieced together randomly (Louisiana beans and rice, creamy baked gnocchi, French mussel bisque, toad in the hole, mac and cheese with crispy onions) — revealing their lack of culinary prowess.
- “Here, have some soup. It’s your lukewarm gift. Why does it smell so bad? Why is it so salty?” (B, 24:41)
- Imaginary party devolves into chaos: drunken guests, fights with “enemies,” and Michael Bublé passed out on the piano.
5. Can Anyone Really Do It All?
(27:44–35:48)
- Honest reflection on the pressures of adulthood: juggling work, friendships, self-care, and societal expectations.
- “I feel so much pressure to do so many different things, to be a good cook, make sure I eat all my meals at decent times...be good at my job, also be present for all my friends…” (B, 27:54)
- Both admit to feeling like others are handling life better, concluding some things always have to give.
- “I still feel even when I start excelling in one area of my goals, other things that are important to me tend to slip. And I feel like I have to choose what this month or this quarter do I want to be great at.” (B, 30:57)
- Tiffany shares her experience letting a business wind down to focus on content creation: “I physically cannot do it all. So something will have to slightly give...” (A, 32:10)
- They affirm it’s okay to chunk goals and let some areas slide seasonally.
6. Boundary Setting & Learning to Say No
(35:54–41:41)
- Both discuss their evolving approaches to boundaries—especially with friendships and work.
- Tiffany describes the honesty needed with friends: “I may not be the friend that you can call...but I may not be the one who can pick up the phone...and have a heart-to-heart three days a week...but I'll call you back afterwards.” (A, 36:29)
- Taryn admits struggling to say no, often defaulting to “over-yesing” and then resenting commitments.
- “I have a really hard time saying no. Yeah. Feeling. Saying yes feels good. But then I end up over yesing, and then I’m resentful of everyone and everything I’ve said yes to...” (B, 39:24)
- She recounts declining an invite honestly, not giving excuses: “No is more than enough answer. It felt awful in the moment, though...but once I was free of that plan…it felt good to say no.” (B, 40:20, 40:53)
- Producer Trace jumps in off-mic, advises to focus energy on those who reciprocate: “It is better to put time and energy and love into the people that do the same for you.” (A [Trace], 42:39–42:47)
7. Trip Planning & More Boundaries
(43:19–46:44)
- Taryn and Tiffany plan their upcoming trip to France, humorously confronting their need for boundaries—debating separate hotel rooms.
- They joke about elaborate separateness, but it’s clear the attachment is deep (cue Wicked and The Grinch tangents).
8. End-of-Episode Recap, Book Club Woes, and Church Announcements
(46:41–51:13)
- Final, playful recap of their absurd dinner party, setting boundaries, and random inside jokes.
- Discussion of cancelling the podcast’s book club: “We just can’t bring ourselves to do this this time around…It wasn’t a good book.” (A/B, 49:10–49:22)
- “Church announcements” mimic, complete with faux-serious delivery (48:06–49:42).
- Self-aware sign off: “If you guys are still tuning in at this point, that you’re into it. So I’m glad this is your freaking flavor. You fucking check out. I’m kidding. I love you guys so much. Thanks for getting our brand of weird.” (B, 47:52)
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On Friendship's Complexity:
“We're toeing the line between my greatest op and my dear friend.” (B, 01:38) -
On Body Image and Social Commentary:
“If one more of you motherfuckers ask me if I'm fucking pregnant...I have a normal body. And you will not make me feel like me having a uterus is shitty.” (B, 03:19)
“Black women are just literally built different. Our reproductive organs sit differently.” (A, 04:00) -
On Learning to Say No:
“No is more than enough answer.” (B, 40:20)
“Your best no is better than a half-hearted yes.” (A, 41:32, Trace credited as well at 42:37) -
On the Chaos of Their Imaginary Party:
“Michael Bublé is laying on the keys…Here, have some soup. It’s your lukewarm gift. Why does it smell so bad? Why is it so salty?” (B, 24:41) -
On Adulting Fatigue:
“I feel like I have to choose what this month or this quarter do I want to be great at. I don't think I can be great at everything.” (B, 31:02)
Important Timestamps
- Opening and Friendship Banter: 01:02–02:27
- Body Image & Social Media Critique: 02:27–06:42
- Chicken Stories & Amazon Chicken: 08:23–12:31
- Thanksgiving Dinner Party Game: 13:01–24:41
- Struggles of Doing It All: 27:44–35:48
- Boundary Setting Discussion: 35:54–41:41
- Producer Trace's Advice: 42:07–43:16
- France Trip Planning & Boundaries: 43:19–46:44
- Absurd Recap & Book Club Issues: 46:41–49:23
- Church Announcements Parody: 48:08–49:42
Tone & Style
Irreverent, candid, loving, and chaotically funny. The hosts seamlessly transition between riotous humor and vulnerable, real talk about adult pressures and personal growth. Listeners are treated like family—invited to laugh, vent, commiserate, and, above all, feel seen.
Conclusion
“Soups Up B#%ch” beautifully captures the magic of messy, real-life female friendship. Taryn and Tiffany air their insecurities, joys, and flaws with generosity and a wink, offering listeners both hearty laughter and authentic solidarity. Whether you’re here for the “coffee poop” confessions, the wildest dinner party you’ll never attend, or honest wisdom about boundaries and self-care, this episode delivers full “sisterhood” vibes—plus a little soup on the side.
Final Word:
“Soup’s up, bitch!” (B, 47:10)
— The perfect battle cry for anyone learning to say no and serve your own kind of comfort.