Soups Up B#%ch

Summary

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We're Your Girls – "Soups Up B#%ch"

Date: November 28, 2025
Hosts: Taryn Delaney Smith & Tiffany Singleton
Podcast: Good Mess Media

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Episode Overview

In this chaotic and laughter-filled episode, best friends Taryn and Tiffany deep-dive into the messy realities of life, sisterhood, and adulthood. From navigating body image and Internet commentary, to planning a hilariously doomed dinner party and embracing the struggle to “do it all,” they bring authentic stories, off-the-cuff humor, and raw honesty. The episode wraps up with a candid discussion about boundaries, balancing relationships and career, and that persistent pressure to thrive in every area of life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Realities of Friendship and Sisterhood

(01:00–02:00, 07:13–07:40)

• Taryn and Tiffany riff on their deep bond, joking about being closer than just friends—“we’re moments away from getting married”—and the blurry line between twin sister, enemy, and soulmate.
• “We’re toeing the line between my greatest op and my dear friend.” (B, 01:38)
• Warm, irreverent banter they know their audience loves: “That’s true love, though. That’s synchronosity.” (A, 01:48)

2. Coffee, Poop, and Body Talk

(01:58–06:14)

• Tiffany confesses to feeling physically unwell; Taryn offers no-filter support about bathroom needs and the reality of “coffee poops.”
• “I want you to all know this whole episode, turtling, sphincter clenched.” (B, 02:16)
• They directly discuss body image pressures, especially how Black women’s bodies are policed, the “are you pregnant?” question and public scrutiny.
• “If one more of you motherfuckers ask me if I’m fucking pregnant, I gotta talk to you. I have a normal body... you will not make me feel like me having a uterus is shitty.” (B, 03:19)
• “Black women are just literally built different. Our reproductive organs sit differently.” (A, 04:00)
• Both advocate for not commenting on others’ bodies.
• “Maybe don’t comment on people’s bodies if you’re not 100% sure. I’ll tell you. How about that?” (B, 06:16)

3. Hilarious Chicken Chronicles

(08:23–12:31)

• Taryn shares stories of raising chickens, including naming them (Edward Cluckin, Princess Di, Chick Cage), and dealing with their personalities—one bullying feminist chicken included.
• Story highlight: Oscar the chicken keeps hitching rides in the Amazon truck, eventually “flying the coop.”
  • “Oscar developed a habit of jumping in the Amazon truck…Oscar said, you will never see this face again.” (B, 11:38)
• Touches on the unique joy of mundane, country-life stories among friends.

4. Imaginary Thanksgiving Dinner Party Game

(13:01–24:03)

• Tiffany introduces a surprise game: planning their fantasy Thanksgiving dinner, selecting a guest list and curating a menu from cookbooks.
• The guest list grows increasingly star-studded and random: Michelle & Barack Obama, Jennifer Lewis, Celine Dion, Michael Bublé, Beyoncé (strictly no plus-one for Jay-Z), personal friends, grandparents, and even “our two enemies.”
• “Beyonce, no plus one. None.” (A, 18:52)
• Chaos and rivalry ensue, they uninvite their “enemies,” then re-invite grandparents, riffing in real-time on group dynamics and one-liners.
• Menu is pieced together randomly (Louisiana beans and rice, creamy baked gnocchi, French mussel bisque, toad in the hole, mac and cheese with crispy onions) — revealing their lack of culinary prowess.
• “Here, have some soup. It’s your lukewarm gift. Why does it smell so bad? Why is it so salty?” (B, 24:41)
• Imaginary party devolves into chaos: drunken guests, fights with “enemies,” and Michael Bublé passed out on the piano.

5. Can Anyone Really Do It All?

(27:44–35:48)

• Honest reflection on the pressures of adulthood: juggling work, friendships, self-care, and societal expectations.
• “I feel so much pressure to do so many different things, to be a good cook, make sure I eat all my meals at decent times...be good at my job, also be present for all my friends…” (B, 27:54)
• Both admit to feeling like others are handling life better, concluding some things always have to give.
• “I still feel even when I start excelling in one area of my goals, other things that are important to me tend to slip. And I feel like I have to choose what this month or this quarter do I want to be great at.” (B, 30:57)
• Tiffany shares her experience letting a business wind down to focus on content creation: “I physically cannot do it all. So something will have to slightly give...” (A, 32:10)
• They affirm it’s okay to chunk goals and let some areas slide seasonally.

6. Boundary Setting & Learning to Say No

(35:54–41:41)

• Both discuss their evolving approaches to boundaries—especially with friendships and work.
• Tiffany describes the honesty needed with friends: “I may not be the friend that you can call...but I may not be the one who can pick up the phone...and have a heart-to-heart three days a week...but I'll call you back afterwards.” (A, 36:29)
• Taryn admits struggling to say no, often defaulting to “over-yesing” and then resenting commitments.
• “I have a really hard time saying no. Yeah. Feeling. Saying yes feels good. But then I end up over yesing, and then I’m resentful of everyone and everything I’ve said yes to...” (B, 39:24)
• She recounts declining an invite honestly, not giving excuses: “No is more than enough answer. It felt awful in the moment, though...but once I was free of that plan…it felt good to say no.” (B, 40:20, 40:53)
• Producer Trace jumps in off-mic, advises to focus energy on those who reciprocate: “It is better to put time and energy and love into the people that do the same for you.” (A [Trace], 42:39–42:47)

7. Trip Planning & More Boundaries

(43:19–46:44)

• Taryn and Tiffany plan their upcoming trip to France, humorously confronting their need for boundaries—debating separate hotel rooms.
• They joke about elaborate separateness, but it’s clear the attachment is deep (cue Wicked and The Grinch tangents).

8. End-of-Episode Recap, Book Club Woes, and Church Announcements

(46:41–51:13)

• Final, playful recap of their absurd dinner party, setting boundaries, and random inside jokes.
• Discussion of cancelling the podcast’s book club: “We just can’t bring ourselves to do this this time around…It wasn’t a good book.” (A/B, 49:10–49:22)
• “Church announcements” mimic, complete with faux-serious delivery (48:06–49:42).
• Self-aware sign off: “If you guys are still tuning in at this point, that you’re into it. So I’m glad this is your freaking flavor. You fucking check out. I’m kidding. I love you guys so much. Thanks for getting our brand of weird.” (B, 47:52)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Friendship's Complexity:
  “We're toeing the line between my greatest op and my dear friend.” (B, 01:38)

• On Body Image and Social Commentary:
  “If one more of you motherfuckers ask me if I'm fucking pregnant...I have a normal body. And you will not make me feel like me having a uterus is shitty.” (B, 03:19)
  “Black women are just literally built different. Our reproductive organs sit differently.” (A, 04:00)

• On Learning to Say No:
  “No is more than enough answer.” (B, 40:20)
  “Your best no is better than a half-hearted yes.” (A, 41:32, Trace credited as well at 42:37)

• On the Chaos of Their Imaginary Party:
  “Michael Bublé is laying on the keys…Here, have some soup. It’s your lukewarm gift. Why does it smell so bad? Why is it so salty?” (B, 24:41)

• On Adulting Fatigue:
  “I feel like I have to choose what this month or this quarter do I want to be great at. I don't think I can be great at everything.” (B, 31:02)

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Important Timestamps

• Opening and Friendship Banter: 01:02–02:27
• Body Image & Social Media Critique: 02:27–06:42
• Chicken Stories & Amazon Chicken: 08:23–12:31
• Thanksgiving Dinner Party Game: 13:01–24:41
• Struggles of Doing It All: 27:44–35:48
• Boundary Setting Discussion: 35:54–41:41
• Producer Trace's Advice: 42:07–43:16
• France Trip Planning & Boundaries: 43:19–46:44
• Absurd Recap & Book Club Issues: 46:41–49:23
• Church Announcements Parody: 48:08–49:42

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Tone & Style

Irreverent, candid, loving, and chaotically funny. The hosts seamlessly transition between riotous humor and vulnerable, real talk about adult pressures and personal growth. Listeners are treated like family—invited to laugh, vent, commiserate, and, above all, feel seen.

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Conclusion

“Soups Up B#%ch” beautifully captures the magic of messy, real-life female friendship. Taryn and Tiffany air their insecurities, joys, and flaws with generosity and a wink, offering listeners both hearty laughter and authentic solidarity. Whether you’re here for the “coffee poop” confessions, the wildest dinner party you’ll never attend, or honest wisdom about boundaries and self-care, this episode delivers full “sisterhood” vibes—plus a little soup on the side.

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Final Word:
“Soup’s up, bitch!” (B, 47:10)
— The perfect battle cry for anyone learning to say no and serve your own kind of comfort.

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Transcript

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[B]

Cause we're your girl, hey.

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Cause I like how you do. I was telling T. Well, first of all. Hey, girl. Hey.

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Hi.

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How you doing?

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I'm unwell.

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What's wrong?

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I am unwell.

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What's wrong?

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You're wearing your bracelet. I got you for your birthday. I always do. That's so cute on you. I love her.

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Little Elsa Peretti double, double dash moment.

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We're moments away from getting married. It's crazy.

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Our nuptials are.

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We are this close. We're this close to crossing the line.

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So close.

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What is the line?

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So close.

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What's the line between? It's incestuous. Are you twin sister, My lover, my soulmate?

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If there is a line, we're towing My enemy, My enemy.

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My cellmate, my foe, my foe. We're toeing the line between my greatest op and my dear friend.

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That's true love, though. That's synchronosity.

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Greatest lovable. It's happening anyway.

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How you doing, girl? What's wrong?

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My heart's pounding. I've had a bunch of coffee. I haven't eaten. I was late to this. I walked in apologizing to the whole team and the whole set. Cause I hate to do that. I don't think it's appropriate to be late. But yet everywhere I go, there I am, late as hell. I'm about to shit my pants.

[A]

You should go poo poo. What you gotta do do.

[B]

I'm gonna sit through this whole. I want you to all know this whole episode. Turtling, sphincter clenched. I don't care. I don't care. We're all gonna die. I don't care.

[A]

Everybody poops.

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I don't care.

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My coffee poop this morning was banana.

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It was crazy. Was It.

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Oh, nasty.

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Freeing.

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It was very freeing, though. I don't drink too much coffee in the morning. Cause it does empty me. Completely depletes me totally.

[B]

You're like, I'm dehydrated.

[A]

Literally. And then I drink coffee and then dehydrate myself more. But I did it this morning. I drunk more than half of my usual dirty chai latte. Shit my brains out. So now I'm feeling particularly light.

[B]

I love that for you.

[A]

You're so skin velt, if you will.

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I can barely see you. What are you, a size triple zero?

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I wish. Just kidding. I love being a little four, six combo.

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I love. I lo. Yeah. I mean, yeah.

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I'm getting a little tired of this.

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Yeah. This heroin cheek coming back.

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It's a lot.

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Because we don't body shame anyone. Everybody has different bodies and that's fine.

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But.

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But if I get one more person. If I'm looking at the camera now for people listening. If one more of you motherfuckers ask me if I'm fucking pregnant, I gotta talk to you. I have a normal body. And you will not make me feel like me having a uterus. Like, speak on it.

[A]

Shitty. Speak on it.

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I turn, I have one photo taken with an angle where I have a little pooch out a little bit.

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Yeah.

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Which is normal.

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Here's the thing. Black women are predisposed to have just rounder midsections. Really? Yes, That's a thing. So when you see a black woman, that's like, Beyonce's a good example. Has always been in shape. Always. Abs out the wazoo.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But never had like a significantly flat stomach. Black women are just literally built different. Our reproductive organs sit differently.

[B]

And what's crazy is I have a six pack. Not the flex. I. Now I'm flexed. I have a six pack. I'm strong as hell. Probably stronger than your man, but let's not talk about that.

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Yeah.

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So anyway, I'm just a fit, fit little thing.

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Yeah.

[B]

I'm just a fit little thing. Come out. Come over here. You're gonna get over here. You come out of a bar and there's a man bothering you. You see me come out of a sewer grate on all fours. Dirty, dirty, dirty. Covered in shit. I arise and then a man goes, my God, she's stocky. That's me.

[A]

You are stocky, but you're spelt at the same time.

[B]

All right, so I'm healthy. I have a healthy, normal body. Which means sometimes it's soft and it changes and I turn to the side.

[A]

Put some speck on my girl's name.

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Sometimes I turn and sometimes I eat a burrito and drink a glass of water and go to a red carpet. What do you want me to say?

[A]

You want her to fucking.

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What do you want me to say? Yeah, that's right. Yeah, that's right. I didn't take a poo before I got that Getty image locked forever on the Internet.

[A]

And Getty will do you dirty. Hey, it's like they choose the worst photo out of the bunch.

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Yeah, we're calling you out. Getty, Getty, Getty, Getty. Except for I got some friends at Getty. Hey, Brent.

[A]

Anyway, nice to Brent.

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We love Brent.

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That was my favorite thing as a pr like familiarizing yourself with your favorite photographers. The Getty and the. What's the other one?

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Bfa.

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Bfa. The Getty and the bfa.

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We got a lot of those. I guess I'm approaching it with humor now cause I don't really care. But it used to read. Really bothered me like a year ago to really the comments. People feel very free and easy on the Internet to comment on your body.

[A]

Also really weird. She just got married too. So I'm sure women around the world are just clocking your womb in a way that you're not even clocking get out her womb.

[B]

You're gonna have to keep waiting. Come and get me. Come and get.

[A]

To the well meaning woman of the Internet.

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Come and get me. Leave me alone.

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They just love you. That's all I know.

[B]

And I love you guys too. And I. And if anyone's listening to this thinking, oh my God, I messaged her thinking she was pregnant. I got two things for you. One, I know you're well intention. That's okay. And I'm glad to know that one day when I do become a mom, I'm glad to know I'll have your support. And two, maybe don't comment on people's bodies if you're not 100% sure. I'll tell you. How about that? How about we all agree, I'll tell you.

[A]

When the time comes, she will let you know.

[B]

Yeah, I probably won't be able to shut up about it.

[A]

It'll be so exciting. I was actually. This is crazy thinking about this on the way in, like how are we gonna time our pregnancies?

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Ah.

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Which sounds really crazy if you don't know us. But I feel like serendipitously we will accidentally at one point likely have children.

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I'll have your baby, you have mine.

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Genius. Genius. IVF Egg dress. Swords at birth. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. Womb sisters.

[B]

Womb sisters create a. Yeah. Cacophony of issues for our lawyers.

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Cacophony. Cacophony.

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What do you use? Cacophony. Cacophony. Cacophony. Oh, I am wrong. Wait, I like cacophony. I like yours. Yours is the right one. Cacophony. Cacophony. But cacophony is real. Giaponi of issues. I don't know.

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I feel like I woke up.

[B]

I just got here. I don't know what's going on.

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She just got here. She's fresh out the wound.

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Oh, fuck. Anyway, so how are you?

[A]

Oh, I'm good.

[B]

Girl, you look cute. And you're in a sweatsuit.

[A]

Thanks. I wanted to be comfy, casual today. And I keep bringing this up. Taryn and I often show up to the same events, places, things, wearing similar outfits. This would have been crazy. I had this exact top, entire outfit on. Black belt, lacy fiasco. The same top, but with dark wash jeans. And I was walking out of the door and I said, you know, I'm gonna change. I would have fallen out of my chair.

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Yeah. No.

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And I'm sad that we missed.

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I would have fully shit myself. I would have come out.

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Your sphincter would have released. You shit yourself. I hate missing a joke.

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I hate it.

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Damn it. All right?

[B]

Yeah, I'm fine. Are you. How are you doing? I'm saying, look at my nail popped off. Ah, I'm one. I'm nailing. How's that happen? This nails. I work on a farm and I work in the entertainment industry, so I have acrylic nails. And I was cleaning the chicken coop yesterday, popped my nail off, fell back into the head. This one chip, chill. Druck.

[A]

The top teeth all scrumped up.

[B]

Scrumped up. I don't scrumped up like that.

[A]

We never talked about the chicken. Edward Cluckin, which was that your igm idea, Taylor? I called my sister. I was like, if anybody knows a good chicken pun, it'll be Taylor. And she was out at some random Georgian market, literally in the middle of fucking nowhere. And I was like, I need your attention for three minutes. I have to come up with a name for Taryn's chicken that she has allowed me to name that I have not named in weeks. And she's like, I got you. And I was like, all right, what you got off the dome? The first thing she said was Edward Cluckin.

[B]

And I'm telling you, it stuck.

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It's brilliant.

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I come out every morning. Hi, Princess Di. Now make some room for Eguard.

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Eguard.

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She comes over and she's a real hearty bitch.

[A]

Yeah. Who's the mean chicken of the bunch?

[B]

The black one.

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Her name, that's Diana.

[B]

No, Right. Diana's the white one, obviously.

[A]

Oh, that makes sense.

[B]

The black. Just kidding. That doesn't make sense. Oh, it makes sense. The black one, who is now Nicholas or Chick Cage. Chicolas. Chicas is mean as fuck. She's the smaller chicken, but she bullies all the other chickens. But I. I read in a book that you should try to, like, check that by, like, being like, hey, you know, don't do that. Don't do it. I kind of let her.

[A]

You let her bully the other chickens?

[B]

Because she's a feminist. She comes in, if she finds out, like, if I come out, hey, girls. And I give them little treats, and all the chickens come out of their coop to eat it. If she's late, she's mad as hell. She comes down the stairs, everybody gets out of her way.

[A]

Oh, shit. Here come chicklish.

[B]

I'm so hooked. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's how she comes out of that coon. She's a menace.

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Chickless.

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Funniest story. So now I'm exchanging more and more chicken stories with people because more people than I realized have chickens.

[A]

Have chickens, I'm sure. In your neck of the woods, too.

[B]

Well, yeah. I'm driving with a friend. And she was like, oh, yeah, my family's had chickens forever. I said, I didn't know this about you. And she was like, yeah. And then she was like, but now we're down to chicken because Oscar left. I said, what do you mean?

[A]

It literally flew the coop.

[B]

Listen, Oscar has a chicken that has a habit. She told me this with a straight face. I'm gonna tell you, this was not a comedic story.

[A]

Oh, I'm locking in.

[B]

I know. This is. She's. Her parents live on a farm. They got chickens, okay? And one of her chickens, Oscar, very, very friendly. And every time the Amazon guy pulls up, he had a habit of going out to see the Amazon guy. One day, they saw Oscar jump in the Amazon truck. Amazon truck drives off, comes back a couple hours later and is like, take your chicken back. They throw Oscar out. Oscar developed a habit of jumping in the Amazon truck. And she said, one day, they must have had a new driver. And he just drove off with Oscar. I'm saying. You're telling me. Oscar said, you will never see this face again.

[A]

Have you ever seen the movie Chicken Run? This is his chicken run plan.

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He's been doing it for months.

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He was waiting for the new guy.

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To make his face drive. You know, he went, drive, drive, drive. He's free. Where is he now?

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I don't know. Oh, God. He's made it to Saskatchewan now, probably.

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Saskatchewan.

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I can't even.

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That's where my stepmom's from. Anyways, Oscar now is doing really well. He works at Amazon headquarters in California.

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He's got his first promotion.

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Yeah. Oh, he's actually. He's actually. Yeah, he's. He's doing great.

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He works in hr, God bless him, helping other chickens. He's like the Harriet Tubman of chickens. He's helping free all the chicken.

[B]

Oscar. And what's additionally funny is Oscar. She was very clear that Oscar was a chicken. Not a, like, not a rooster. It was one of the hens. So Oscar was a girl.

[A]

So are all your chickens girl? I was thinking about this.

[B]

All laying chickens are hens. They're all females, but I just like to name them Diversity. I love that they don't, you know, they don't confound their gender identity. We're having a good time. We're.

[A]

Dean. Having a good time. Having a good time.

[B]

Wait, you gotta do it. Ready? Like Lady Godiva.

[A]

Well, listen to this.

[B]

Yeah, go ahead.

[A]

I've got a game for us to play.

[B]

What do you mean?

[A]

I planned a secret game and didn't tell you about it. I've got a little game. Trace, bring in those books. What's going on?

[B]

I do feel like this was your. Oh, I see.

[A]

Ina, don't look too hard. I've got to explain what's going on.

[B]

Okay, well, it's going on.

[A]

So Taryn and I don't cook. We know how to cook, but it's not our favorite activity in the world.

[B]

Yep.

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I'm trying to get in my cooking era, though.

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Okay.

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You know, if we're going to be living large in large houses with big kitchens, at the very least we got to know something.

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Tiffany and I are going to get houses next to each other. Working on that.

[A]

Inevitable. So I've been buying cookbooks. Really? I've been buying cookbooks and I'm learning how to cook. But as I was going through these books, I was like, you know, it'd be so fun if one day Taryn and I had a fun little, like, dinner where we cooked for people.

[B]

Okay.

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Which someone would end up poisoned. So, I mean, we could kill everyone we know in one Fell swoop.

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We all go back to eating. Anyway. Anyway, don't eat the tatoes.

[A]

That was our plan, so. But I thought it'd be a fun exercise with Thanksgiving on the horizon and all that. If we had a fun little challenge. We took like a couple min going through the cookbooks and we put together the perfect Thanksgiving menu that we would never make. But it could be fun right now.

[B]

I see you've already marked a couple pages.

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Oh, yeah. It's like my new activity to go through and like dog ear, whatever, cook. So ignore those if they don't speak to you. But we've got a couple options. You called out Ina, our diva.

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I love Ina.

[A]

So I figured you want to do Ina Barefoot Contessa. How easy is that? How easy is that? One of her classes.

[B]

This is exactly what I need, correct?

[A]

Oh, yeah. I should also note all of these are like super easy recipe books. A one pot portion. This is not in any way an endorsement for any of these individuals. We just organically are doing this. But one pot portions for those who can only cook for themselves. The New York Times. No recipe. Recipe book. This one was super interesting. There are zero recipes in here. Everything is basically like a dash of this, a pinch of that. And they're teaching you how to make fun and exciting things with what's in your refrigerator.

[B]

Interesting. Without overthinking the measuring, which for my.

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Neurodivergent ass, I use 5 cups of.

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Salt on a single piece of chicken. Oh, my God. Careful of the salt in this recipe.

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And it's you.

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This one's made up spaghetti algae aglio e olio.

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Agliolio.

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You try it. Spaghetti.

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Spaghetti aglio e olio.

[B]

Yeah, that's made up.

[A]

But I said it right. But that's okay. Olio is oil. And I don't know what aglio is.

[B]

Oh, like that restaurant we love Olio Olio.

[A]

Pew. But wait. Let's give ourselves parameters. Who's coming to our party? Let's plan the perfect Thanksgiving party.

[B]

Oh, can we invite anyone? Like anyone in the world?

[A]

We can invite anyone and then we choose our menu based off of those people.

[B]

Will you go first and set the tone and I'll follow your lead?

[A]

They should be alive. I guess we'll start there. Okay. I'm gonna choose the Obamas. Shelly and Barry. I'm gonna choose Shelly.

[B]

It's a lot of pressure to cook for him.

[A]

Well, Michelle don't cook.

[B]

Fair enough.

[A]

I don't think so.

[B]

I'm sure they haven't cooked in decades.

[A]

That's what I'm thinking. So I'm like, it can't be hard to impress. They're good for conversation at the very least.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

And. And then how many people should we do?

[B]

Let's do a party of 20. Everybody loves a good 20 personer.

[A]

So 10 apiece. Okay. Shelly and Barry. Well, that includes you and I, so eight a piece. Oh, crap.

[B]

That whole party's thrown off.

[A]

Eight a piece. Shelly and Berry. I'm gonna invite my nana because I want her to see my exciting flourish. WD 40. Jennifer Lewis.

[B]

I feel like we always talk about Jennifer. 40.

[A]

We always talk about Jennifer Lewis. Who would make for fun dinner conversation. Who? Yeah, can we do our group together? This is hard.

[B]

Keep them unnamed.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

My enemy and yours.

[A]

Oh, that's two.

[B]

We won't name them on the show though.

[A]

The way I'm like, I know you.

[B]

Know who your enemy is. Ah, yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And my enemy as well.

[A]

Not the same enemy as mine.

[B]

Although generally it's understood. Your enemy is my enemy. My enemy is yours.

[A]

That's true.

[B]

Biden by association. We will not poison them because that's weird. We just want them to see how well we're doing having the Obamas at our table.

[A]

Absolutely. So Michelle and Barack. Two enemies. Jennifer Lewis. We need two more people.

[B]

Oh, God.

[A]

Oh, Nana.

[B]

Oh, Nana's in there. What about Paul? Celine? What about Pop?

[A]

Well, Nana, there. Papa gotta come.

[B]

Papa's gotta come. We only got to be paid. So Mo was there.

[A]

Mo was there. That's crazy.

[B]

Okay, get the enemies off the list because they're taking up two very important spots.

[A]

You're right. So now we're down.

[B]

They've been uninvited. And now I take delicious satisfaction uninviting them from my party.

[A]

That was our plan all along the day before. We're despicable. Celine Dion.

[B]

Trey said that I love Celine to come on Dion. I love Celine Dion. I think we'd have a lot of fun with her. So Celine Dion would be on my list. Oh, oh, oh.

[A]

Who's Michael?

[B]

Michael Buble. It's a nice thing. Ah, we got him on the piano. He didn't think he had a tear. So we get an extra spurs in because we could feed him at the piano.

[A]

So he's our accompaniment for this.

[B]

Michael. See you soon. And then.

[A]

Oh, Nan and Pat.

[B]

Olivia.

[A]

Olivia.

[B]

Tati.

[A]

Tati. Duh.

[B]

Now we're up to.

[A]

We might as well round it out to 10. So a 12 person table, which is fair.

[B]

We've got one seat left, one seat at Our fiction.

[A]

Your husband.

[B]

That's a precious spot. He'll be a waiter. Like, he'll serve.

[A]

Okay, so we've got wait staff. We've got.

[B]

Yeah, he'll serve it. My husband's working perfect, obviously. And Alec, my husband, he loves Michael Buble, so he'll be glad to serve the table.

[A]

He'll have a great time.

[B]

Yeah, I. You know, who do we know? There's so many people. That's the problem.

[A]

I know.

[B]

There's so many people that we know and love and admire.

[A]

Well, let's think about where the table is at.

[B]

Beyonce.

[A]

But Jay's gotta come.

[B]

No, he doesn't.

[A]

You're right. Beyonce, no plus one. None.

[B]

Which is crazy.

[A]

We sent an invite to Beyonce. Non transferable. No. Plus, there's the list. So to recap. Hold on. Michelle and Brock.

[B]

Barack Obama.

[A]

Michael Buble, Jennifer Lewis.

[B]

Celine Dion.

[A]

Celine Dion. Beyonce, Tati, Olivia.

[B]

We have more people. I uninvited our enemies.

[A]

Oh, Nanny and papa.

[B]

Oh, good, good. This is a crazy ass dinner.

[A]

Oh, I don't think that helped in narrowing what their palates would be. All right, two minutes on the clock.

[B]

Oh, Eddie Murphy would have been such a good invite.

[A]

We can take Nan and Pap off.

[B]

How dare you. How about we increase our number to 11?

[A]

Nanny and Papa. I swear I love you, Eddie Murphy. Got it. Chopping them from the list. It'll be a 13 person table and that's it.

[B]

And I already have what I'm getting, so you better get working because I.

[A]

So you need an entree and appetizer and a dessert.

[B]

Oh, are we gonna actually come together and cook this?

[A]

No thanks, Trace. No, you can dog ear if you need.

[B]

Thank you. What's most important to you if you're hosting a dinner party?

[A]

I would say I think consistency from the moment they walk in the door is most important. Like, if it's supposed to be a comfy, cozy dinner party, we're gonna be comfy, cozy the whole time. You won't have to lift a finger. You'll think it'll be great. If it's supposed to be an elevated affair, from the moment you walk in the door, there's someone there with champagne on a tray. I think vibe is most important to me because if you get the right people in the room, you'll have a good time. And that's honestly, I would say that's my favorite thing about hosting is curating a group. Like, that's just in me. I love putting together the perfect tablescape for the perfect group of people. I love finding out who's going to sit next to each other and I love like looking up during the dinner and hearing their conversations and I'm like, ah, yes, that was the perfect pairing because now they know each other and then this could benefit them in this way. And like, I just love, love, love vibe, curation, I don't know. So food, I would say, is secondary, which I.

[B]

For me, for me. And I'm going to, I'm going to get on Spotify, guys. Cuz for me it's the playlist.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

I like spend so much time like creating playlists, but I'm on Apple Music so nobody ever sees them because I'm, I'm an ancient woman.

[A]

You got to get on.

[B]

I, I curate them by Homing pigeon and then I send them out. All right, I'm going to do the Louis Louisiana Beans and Rice. Because that just looks lovely. And you.

[A]

Is this an entree?

[B]

This is in the book Everything Good. And this is an entree, Louisiana Beans and Rice. And I actually also make sure we have a Peruvian aji verde sauce.

[A]

Yummy.

[B]

Which is also on page 242.

[A]

Yummy.

[B]

Do you like turkey? I'm not a turkey person.

[A]

I like turkey. I like it when it's well done. I think really not like cooked well done, but like a well done turkey. Creamy baked gnocchi with squash and sausage.

[B]

Oh, yeah. Ooh, French muscle bisque. I'm in.

[A]

Yes. Lord. Is that Ina?

[B]

Mmm, it is, yes. Ina French. Toad in the hole. Put it on, put it on. Toad in a hole is toad in a hole.

[A]

Toad in a hole.

[B]

Is it really made out of toads?

[A]

What the fuck is it? Hold on, let's see. Ingredients, Cubed vegetables. Sausage, potato. No, what's the toad?

[B]

I think it's just called that.

[A]

Interesting. Oh, it's British. You know, they do shit like that.

[B]

I was literally about to say when I was in London.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

I had something they call soldiers in a biscuit. What was it? It was called soldiers in a biscuit.

[A]

It was called beans on toast.

[B]

No, it was when you get a hard boiled egg in a cup and it comes with a bunch of sides of bread and then you have to break the.

[A]

Oh, it's on a little pedestal and.

[B]

It'S called Two soldiers in a.

[A]

In a cup.

[B]

It's called.

[A]

In a cup Mac and cheese with crispy onions. Lord Jesus.

[B]

That sounds really good.

[A]

And the cool thing about this cookbook is that it's made for one portion. So she's a diva that's teaching how to cook for themselves. One portion meals.

[B]

I love that.

[A]

Let me start that.

[B]

Hey, baby. Hey, baby. What's up? Remember when we were in London and we got that breakfast called Two Soldiers in a. What was it called? Two eggs and eggs and Two soldiers or some dumb. God, y' all are so. God damn it. Two Eggs and a soldier. No, man, it was something else. No, man. You want a bat? I do. Want to bet? No one can figure it out.

[A]

I'm in on this bet.

[B]

Soldiers. It was.

[A]

Hold up, wait. Before you. You got to say what you guys think it is, respectively.

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

So we can know who wins the bet.

[B]

I'm telling you, it's eggs and soldiers.

[A]

I'm with Alec.

[B]

Yeah, I think it's Eggs and soldiers is what you think it's called. And now Tracy's joining. Call Zoe. Call Zoe.

[A]

It will make sense. The soldiers are the little breads.

[B]

That doesn't make sense. But it's called Two Eggs and assault and soldiers. Okay. The little breadsticks that you dip in. All right. All right. I love you, honey. I love you, too.

[A]

Talk to you later. Bye. Bye. Goodbye.

[B]

I love you, too. Bye. By the way, I love this game. I would want.

[A]

I feel like I'm done, though.

[B]

I want to lock in, though. I'm making the French. Here's how our dinner party turned out. All right. Here's how the party turned out. We all showed up 20 minutes later. There's no food. I made. I made a very watery bisque.

[A]

I made cocktails that are really strong.

[B]

Everybody is drunk. No one's eating a thing. Michael Buble is laying on the keys. Ella Pierce. Boy, the way you all. How the fuck it go? Gang, gang, gang, gang. Our two enemies show up. Anyway. I get in the fight in the yard. Barack stands up and Michelle's like, sit down, Barack.

[A]

Don't nobody want to hear a speech right now, please.

[B]

I'm trying to get my groove off.

[A]

Nanny and Papa still talking to Beyonce. Which she's loving.

[B]

Which she's loving. She's like, oh.

[A]

She hasn't said a word this entire time.

[B]

There's some fight going on over there. I don't know what's going on. Like, who? It's me squaring up. Come on, bitch. I take the soup. Here, have some soup. It's your lukewarm gift. Why does it smell so bad? Why is it so salty? Oh, shit. Michael wakes back up. Ellen, appeal to me. Appeal to me. I get it. Ladies.

[A]

Oh, shit. Jennifer Lewis.

[B]

She left.

[A]

I was gonna say she didn't pay long.

[B]

The food was bad. She left Barack still trying to get his words done. Making a speech. You know I love Barack Obama. So just know that impersonation is meant in love.

[A]

We love Barry.

[B]

Well, the dinner party went well. It was great.

[A]

Same time next year. We're known to host the worst dinner party.

[B]

But everyone wants to be invited. There was lentils, beans and rice. Cone con carto, cone con carto. Cone, rice and a toad in a hole. A bunch of hard boiled eggs and salted and bread. The worst vignette Here, bitch. Have some soup.

[A]

The enemy's in the yard.

[B]

The enemies are here. Quick, get the appetizer. No, not the breadsticks. Tiffany, get me the bisque. The bisque. No one's eating it anyway.

[A]

Oh, Jesus.

[B]

Get me here. I'm screaming. Oh, careful, I left that out in the sun too long. Don't touch that, Brock.

[A]

Oh my God.

[B]

Anyway.

[A]

Well, that was good.

[B]

So good. So good. So good.

[A]

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[A]

That's a big One.

[B]

And I got to call my mom. All this stuff. I know. How is everyone? Is everyone else doing it all or is no one doing it all?

[A]

Take solace in the fact that I'm not doing it all well. So at least you and I are in this together. I don't know. Though I do see my friends, they seem to be balancing it better than we. Sorry.

[B]

Everyone else does seem to be doing better than us.

[A]

Seems to be better than us. No, I think they do strike the balance a little better. I don't know how though.

[B]

I know.

[A]

Maybe there's normalcy in the scheduling that helps.

[B]

Oh yeah.

[A]

Our lives are just a little topsy turvy. But in a good way. Well, yeah, but it doesn't lend itself to routine check ins to.

[B]

I see what you mean. Cause we don't have like we are self employed. So we don't have something consistent. We're scheduling ourselves around Monday through Friday.

[A]

Correct. Like we know we can call our moms 9am every morning on the way to work.

[B]

Exactly.

[A]

We don't have. We don't have to be home by 7pm to cook meals.

[B]

So it's not our fault.

[A]

I don't think so.

[B]

That's great.

[A]

I don't think that's the end of the.

[B]

Oh, good. All right.

[A]

I don't think so.

[B]

Yeah. This is everything else.

[A]

A therapist somewhere is like, what the hell? Good, good.

[B]

Good to know. Good talk.

[A]

Good talk. No, I hear you.

[B]

I agree with you. I mean like I get the stuff. Like I get the stuff done. Like I have the goals. It's just that I don't feel that I. So for example. So now I thought once I started waking up earlier, which for me I'm. Many people listening are like, girl, that's not a. For me, that was a big deal. Okay? It was really. It's not something I naturally do. So I've had to really consciously reschedule my whole life so that I start going to bed earlier. This is very difficult for me. Only made easy by the fact that I live in the middle of nowhere.

[A]

So I ain't got shit.

[B]

Don't worry about it. I don't think it's that. Here's what I found though. Tell me. I started waking up every day at 6am I'm thinking, all right, we're gonna see what this is all about. You guys have been holding this over my head for decades now. I get up every day at 6am Guess what?

[A]

What?

[B]

I'm the same dirty old bitch I was when I woke up at Nine.

[A]

Wait, what is. Okay, tell me.

[B]

Here's a couple things. One, it is nice that I have 6am to 8am no one sleep emailing you. No one's calling you. So you do have. I do have hours now to myself. To. To myself. To like be to myself. But now 8am rolls around and thank goodness I've now had my morning to do the things I want to do. I feed my chickens. I take her the dog. I feed the dog. So yes, it did help have some. Like, some of my chores are done and stuff. But it's not this. I feel that people make being an early riser sound like this one fix all.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, how many times have I been told throughout my life, well, if you'd wake up earlier, newsflash, back out. I'm just as disorganized as I was a year ago. I'm still disorganized.

[A]

Well, maybe. Do you think it'll just take time?

[B]

Well, that's fair. I've been doing it for like two months.

[A]

I don't know. I'm just asking, girl.

[B]

You're probably right. So there's that. And then I was like, I want to be working out more consistently. I'm working out more consistently, which is great. I feel really good about myself. But then other things slip where it's like I feel like I'm not as good of a friend. I feel like I'm not checking in on my friends as much. I guess what I'm trying to say is I still feel even when I start excelling in one area of my goals, other things that are important to me tend to slip. And I feel like I have to choose what this month or this quarter do I want to be great at. I don't think I can be great at everything. And that is really frustrating for me as somebody who to be great at everything. I want to be great at everything. I want to be really good at stuff.

[A]

Yeah. But I think you just hit the knee on the head by giving this chunkable time goals too. I think it's very unrealistic for us to expect at all times we're going to be on for the rest of our lives and good and managing and we can balance everything evenly across our lives for forever. I think the quarter and the monthly goals is actually really healthy.

[B]

Fair enough.

[A]

So you're like, goals helped me at.

[B]

Least and you just accept it. Do you feel like you just accept each quarter?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

This is the thing that's gonna be important and I'm gonna let this other thing Slide.

[A]

Yeah. As you know, when I was juggling being new to content creation full time and then Poise, it was very challenging for me to be a full time publicist and be a full time content creator and be a good friend and check on my family and take care of my child. Dog.

[B]

I remember you talking about that.

[A]

And I realistically sat with myself and was like, you can't do it all. Poise will have to go. Poise is the PR agency. And so for an entire quarter, I didn't to the PR agency. I let all my client relationships organically come to an end. I didn't just drop out of nowhere, but I planned so that I could fully lean into content, which then resulted in something beautiful and exciting. And then now I'm in the position where I'm readjusting and changing things and looking at the new year and seeing where my priorities will lie. And I do think there will come a time where personal priorities will start to take precedent over the various different work avenues that I'm in right now. But I don't know, I just found a lot of peace and healing and knowing I physically cannot do it all. So something will have to slightly give. It doesn't mean it has to give completely in the way that I did. Like, I fully shuttered a business for six months or four months so that I could focus on something else. But maybe that's just realistically where we are. Yeah.

[B]

I mean, maybe it's because you can't.

[A]

Give 100% to three things. No, but you can still be, I think. But give yourself some credit too. You are a great friend. Still. I know that we're not where we want to be in terms of. But what is the goal even realistic where you want to be? Being a great friend? Like, what are we even asking of ourselves? Is what we're asking of ourselves realistic?

[B]

Yeah, I don't know. I just. And then I think, is there anyone I can name that I think really does it all? And I do, I think I could name a couple people that I know of that are really seem to do it all. And the only reason I won't say their names is I wonder if I were to say their names, if they'd be like completely taken aback, like, well, that's not me. Like, whoa, whoa. Yeah, I have a feeling that might be the case. So grass ain't always greener.

[A]

The grass ain't always something they feel.

[B]

Slacking on But I just want it known I can't do it all and I have tried. I Am trying. I can't. I. I can't do it all. And it's how dis. Like, disheartening. But if I have an event at 2, I'm booked for the day. I'm like, I can't do anything else.

[A]

That's the day.

[B]

And. And then if I do, like, I'm like, I'm gonna try to, you know, schedule block and do all this stuff.

[A]

I end up, you know, no, I'm locked in. Do you feel like when you're schedule blocking. Okay, wait, riddle me this.

[B]

Go ahead.

[A]

Do you have the really good days where you're like, ah, yes, like, I figured it out. I have an event at 2. I can get to the city at this time, then that means I'll go to coffee here, I'll take care of this. I'll be ready, then I'll head home, and da, da, da, da. You know, your day and those days feel really euphoric, and you're like, great, I nailed it. Like, I mastered my schedule today. I did everything that I needed to do. And then the next day is such a downer because you couldn't keep up with how awesome you were the day before.

[B]

Momentum.

[A]

Yeah. Like, keeping up with the momentum, I'm realizing probably would also kill me. Like, it's too much to do that every single day.

[B]

That's a good point. So, like, what does it look like for it to. For you to be great at everything forever?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's just not sustainable. And is that sounds exhausting?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

No, not really. No, not really. I hate the feeling of letting people down. I hate it. I hate the feeling of seeing that I've let someone down, that I have not met someone's expectations, or finding out months later that I wasn't meeting someone's expectations. And I didn't know that, especially in my relationships. I hate letting my business relationships, personal relationships, I hate letting them down.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So some of this, I think, is coming from that. That I'm like, oh, I want to be a great wife and a great friend, but I also want to run a really great business. And. And I want to do really well in my career because I love what I do. So I think that's where I'm starting to feel myself slip, where I'm like, the. The more momentum my career gains and the more busy I get in my career, which is really exciting, the less I feel like I have left over for everyone else. But I. I don't want to choose between my career and my relationships and my touchy feely emotional stuff, the gooey. I don't want to choose.

[A]

I don't think you have to. Boundaries will help. What are those exactly? What are those?

[B]

What is one boundary that's really helped you? Like, what is one boundary you set with yourself that has helped you?

[A]

You actively know that I'm working on this boundary. And I won't say how, but you know this friendship boundaries are important to me. Like letting my friends know me not knowing.

[B]

Don't know the boundaries. What do you mean?

[A]

What do we mean?

[B]

Do you have any boundaries?

[A]

You got those? No, but you know this like being open and honest with my friends and telling them, look, I may not be the friend that you can call.

[B]

Oh, okay, yeah.

[A]

Well, no, I'm the friend that you can call, but I may not be the one who can pick up the phone in the middle of the day and have a heart to heart three days a week. Because I have a short attention span. And if I'm locked into work, finally, when I've been taking dragging my feet for a week and a half to get this one task done and you call in the middle of me getting this task done, I cannot pick up the phone because now I will lose the focus and who knows when I'll get it back, but I'll call you back afterwards. Like letting my. I don't like to use the word training, but like training myself to better communicate with people and let them know, like, I won't be able to be on all the time. And that helps give me some peace in my friendship sector. Because I was the same way that you were. Like, felt really bad about not being able to be the always on girly pop friend that you could contact whenever you needed to and feeling extreme guilt that I was prioritizing myself over everybody else in my life. And I'm like, you don't have to feel bad about that, but I do think it's important to let people know when you're in season, communicate it of being the priority.

[B]

Because I also think you're in the wrong. Not you, but someone. I think people do. Where people go wrong with the boundary setting in our generation is that they'll like ghost people. And then when people are disappointed in that or hurt by it, they're like, I was putting me first.

[A]

Which is healthy and happy and great. But no, you should tell people problems.

[B]

Tell people. And I think you are really, you are very good at that. You'll be like, you're very, very, very good at communicating. Like, sorry, I'm just not in A headspace for that right now.

[A]

Like, which feels like shit in the moment. Please don't get me wrong. Like, I hate doing that.

[B]

I don't think it's mean or anything. You don't say it in a cruel way. I think it's really fair.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Me. Sounds like I call you every week.

[A]

No, I always pick up the phone for you, and if I don't, I'll be like, call you back. You do Forget to call you back. But then I will.

[B]

You do call me back. I do. I do get the. Except for. I saw I was tracking your location.

[A]

And I sent you a quick tangent. I was on set working, and Taryn saw that I wasn't home. She tracked my location and called me, texted me, but my phone was a do not disturb because I couldn't pick up. And then she saw that I saw.

[B]

She was at Washington Square Park. Tiffany never goes to Washington Square Park. That's not her park.

[A]

It's not my park.

[B]

And I knew that. Now, mind you, I have generalized anxiety disorder. Never forget, lest you forget.

[A]

Never forget.

[B]

And I immediately was like, she's probably fine. She's probably fine. But then I thought. Or she was lured there.

[A]

Yep. Yep.

[B]

And her phone is on a bench.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

And she's halfway to Brooklyn.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

In the back of a van.

[A]

You never know.

[B]

I was actively freaking out. But then I was like, no, parent yourself. That's very unlikely. But it's still possible. Gong, gong. The chances are unlikely, but never zero.

[A]

Gong.

[B]

Gong. So I called Shoshana, and I was like, where is Tiffany, our man manager? I was like, where's Tiffany? And she's like, she's at a job. And then I wasn't worried anymore, and I wasn't hurt or upset that she didn't text me back because of. You were working.

[A]

But then I called you.

[B]

You did?

[A]

I said, hey, how you doing?

[B]

So anyway, your boundaries are important. I'm in a new era of boundary setting.

[A]

Maybe you got to set some boundaries for yourself, pal.

[B]

I tried one last week.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

And I did it. And it felt good.

[A]

What was it? Oh, do you want to change? Yeah.

[B]

Okay. Okay. My new thing is this is the time to sound like I'm gonna sound dumb, but I don't care. This is. Again, anyone listening might think, duh. But I. I'm. I have a really hard time saying no. Yeah. Feeling. Saying yes feels good. But then I end up over yesing, and then I'm resentful of everyone and everything I've said yes to because I didn't even want to do it in the first place. And that is not their fault.

[A]

Nope.

[B]

I could have said no. And then I think, you know, I couldn't have said no. At my 29th year, I've been sorry to say no. You can't always say no. You always have a choice. So recently I was asked to do something, won't say what it was, and I started to make up a lie why I couldn't go, which is not an attractive thing about me. I started to say I have a job, knowing damn well I didn't have a job. I was gonna be at home. And then I realized no is. I don't know. I. I'm not interested in doing that. I don't really want to do that.

[A]

Nope.

[B]

Is more than enough answer. It felt awful in the moment, though, to say no, I'm not available, but I'll, you know. You know, definitely thanks for thinking of me. That's what I said.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And then they didn't respond for a while because I didn't give a reason why. And then they said, okay, great, Sounds good. But during the 35 minutes, they didn't respond. I was like, they're never gonna want to invite me to anything again.

[A]

Insides clawed.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Terrible.

[B]

And then I was a little embarrassed that it was that hard for me to do something so mundane and so adult as that.

[A]

But there's no need to be embarrassed about that. You said it yourself, you're not used to doing it.

[B]

Yeah, but it just. I feel like I sound like a doormat. And I guess maybe I have been for a long time, but it felt good to say no. And then once I was free of that plan and I was free of having to remember a lot.

[A]

Heavy on that.

[B]

So if you're watching this, just know I was exactly where I said I was gonna be.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

At my house and not at your event.

[A]

Yeah. They're watching. Like, that's fair.

[B]

It was great. Your event looked fun, though.

[A]

Oh, see, it all works out. It all works out. Your best no is your best no.

[B]

Is that the same.

[A]

I'm sure there's something else at the end that I didn't catch, but your.

[B]

Best no is a say your best no.

[A]

Your best no is better than any half hearted yes. There you go. I don't think that was it either.

[B]

But that was great. That was a Tiffany's name. It was tm.

[A]

A TM Gong Gong Bom Bong. I'm proud of you, pal.

[B]

Thanks. I'm proud of you too.

[A]

That's a great Boundary to have set with one song. Preserve your time. It's important.

[B]

Anyway, once these boundaries are in place, you will never see this face again.

[A]

Where are we, Trace?

[B]

Another option. Call the friendship list.

[A]

Heavy on the. Call the list. I love a culling.

[B]

Wait, Chase, jump in. What do you mean?

[A]

What you gotta say. Well, I think if your career is really important to you.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And you're putting time and energy and making people laugh and there's a lot of acquaintances taking energy from the people that you really want to spend time with.

[B]

C. Isn't that mean to the acquaintances though? No. She was.

[A]

Period.

[B]

No, your best.

[A]

No.

[B]

No is better than a happy yes. Trace.

[A]

That was it.

[B]

Trace said. Literally just said no. No explanation.

[A]

No, I think it is better to put time and energy and love and into the people that do the same for you.

[B]

Yeah, every way.

[A]

So it's deeper, it's more meaningful, it's more connected. And then when you are with people.

[B]

Outside that group, you could still be.

[A]

Kind and loving and beautiful.

[B]

Yeah, it's just a different. It's. They're not in the inner circle.

[A]

That's a toughie.

[B]

Make this a clip for the socials Trace and then put a graphic on it. Talk with Trace Advice hour. Oh, I love that. And then she gives us advice here in the chair.

[A]

From beyond the camera.

[B]

From beyond the camera.

[A]

Trace. That's good. Shit.

[B]

That was good.

[A]

You are absolutely right.

[B]

You were superstar. And you're so smart. Really good. Speaking of which. We're going to France.

[A]

We're going to France.

[B]

We leave.

[A]

We leaving in two, three.

[B]

When we going?

[A]

We don't even know. We leave in two and a half, three weeks. We have not booked a single detailed visa.

[B]

We don't even have flights.

[A]

One, two weeks.

[B]

Jesus. Two weeks away.

[A]

I was wrong.

[B]

Oh. Oh, I gotta find my passport. Oh, I gotta find my passport.

[A]

Yeah, me too.

[B]

Yeah, find your passport.

[A]

That's important.

[B]

We have got to go.

[A]

We've got to go.

[B]

And we've got to book hotels, planes, excursions. The experiences are booked. We don't have anything else booked.

[A]

Motorcycle cycle will be.

[B]

Motorcycle sidequarters.

[A]

We'll get matching scarves and goggles and we'll be ready to go. We've got so much to do.

[B]

We've gotta set some boundaries.

[A]

Oh, my God. Here's a boundary. How do you feel about separate rooms? Sure. Okay.

[B]

Yeah. Okay.

[A]

What's going on? God, I was scared.

[B]

Why were you scared?

[A]

Cause we always share.

[B]

What's changed?

[A]

Nothing. I just thought it'd be fun to do A little something separate.

[B]

Okay, sure. That's fine.

[A]

I don't like how this feels.

[B]

We went through that whole exercise.

[A]

It was really bad at it.

[B]

That's fine.

[A]

Oh, I didn't like that at all.

[B]

That's all right.

[A]

Okay. I mean, I'm sure we could share.

[B]

No, you can just get a room.

[A]

No, I'll share. Scratch it from the record. We'll share. The room goes back on the.

[B]

That's all right. You can get a room. I'll get a room.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I take it too far and I go and I request separate suites on opposite side of the hotel.

[A]

Fine.

[B]

She wants to be away from me.

[A]

Or you're in the hotel across the street from mine.

[B]

I open my window and it's you. It's me across the corridor. Yeah, we can have separate rooms. That's fine. That's good. That's good.

[A]

I think it'll be great.

[B]

It'll be fine. It's cause I'm green, isn't it?

[A]

My favorite. Have you seen it?

[B]

The Grinch?

[A]

Why was I thinking Wicked?

[B]

It's cause I'm green, isn't it?

[A]

That's what he says. Yeah, but I was thinking Wicked.

[B]

Have you seen the new Wicked?

[A]

No.

[B]

I can't wait to see it. I want to see it, but I just haven't seen it.

[A]

You should go with Olivia and Gabby again.

[B]

So you want to talk about mothers? When we first saw Wicked, we were supposed to see it together. But then Tiffany up and went out of town and at the same time, my best friend from back home, Gabby.

[A]

Came into town, which I love. Gabby, please leave me down.

[B]

And she really wanted to see Wicked. And unbeknownst to me, at a house party at my place, Tiffany was invited to, didn't go to because she was out of town, which is fine. Olivia and Gabby got in a corner and started conspiring to go and see Wicked that night, spontaneously, because I lived next to a movie theater. I come out and it was announced to me, we're going to Wicked. And I thought, oh, it's not good. Because I said I'd go with Tiffany. And then they were like, oh. And they were so disappointed that I was like, well, I'm sure Tiffany might understand. Plot twist.

[A]

She never understood.

[B]

Two years later, she never let it go. But I saw Wicked without her. Did you ever see that?

[A]

That could be why I have never seen it. This whole time I'm like, you know, she's not into the movies, but I've seen the musical ten times over. I love, love the Musical.

[B]

Oh, yeah. I love the musical. All right, so we've covered a lot of ground. We're gonna start setting boundaries. You started today by setting a boundary with me that you don't wanna share a room with me. That was fun and exciting and unexpected. Your body is a wonderland 3. I love that song. We started a dinner party. Didn't finish it? No, I'm sure it will be great.

[A]

Come with full stomachs.

[B]

Come. But you made drinks.

[A]

Really strong ones. That's why you need to be full.

[B]

And I made soup grenades. Oh, God, the visual of you fighting in the Lord. How's the soup, bitch? Soup's up, bitch. That was better. That was a good one. Soup's up, bitch.

[A]

Why is this so funny? Oh, my God.

[B]

This is your mid dinner party. Where's Taryn? Church announcements. Shall we?

[A]

I'm trying to think.

[B]

Guys, sorry about. I want to say I'm sorry for how crazy this episode is, but I'm gonna assume if you guys are still tuning in at this point, that you're into it. So I'm glad that this is.

[A]

That you're into it.

[B]

I'm glad this is your freaking flavor. You fucking check out. I'm kidding. I love you guys so much. Thanks for getting our brand of weird. All right, I'm gonna start church now. I'll do the music. Hold on, let me find it.

[A]

It'll be a short week because it's Thanksgiving.

[B]

It's Thanksgiving. It's a holiday.

[A]

Sister Shirley will be in the sanctuary this week taking up payment for your Thanksgiving plates. Now, some of y' all have put in requests for collard greens with and without turkey necks. We can't do both. So there will be turkey necks in the collard greens. And we are sorry to all those who prefer the ham hock. It just is what it is. We can't do both this year. I'm sorry. Please make sure you make your way over to Shirley so that she can take your order for Thanksgiving. It is a short week today with the congregation. As you all know, everybody will be off doing Thanksgiving. There will be no service. So with that being said, we have decided to cancel book club. Now, I know this is crazy that it's been about four months since we've started the book club. And we know a lot of y' all have already read the book.

[B]

Yes, God.

[A]

Yes, God.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

But we just can't bring ourselves to do this this time around. And so. We love y'. All.

[B]

I lost a lot of them. Said they didn't finish it. They didn't like it.

[A]

You're right.

[B]

It wasn't a good book.

[A]

So it seems to be no love lost between us in the game plan. So we'll. We'll get all back together after the holidays and we'll see what we can cook up with another book club read. We may never do it again. We'll figure it out as we go. Happy holidays and Thanksgiving and bye.

[B]

Bye.

[A]

This is the longest game of edging for these poor book club readers.

[B]

Oh, I'm so sorry.

[A]

God, but y' all scared us. Honestly, I was scared away.

[B]

You guys in the comments said it was a horrible, horrible. What did you want us to do, read it when you told us how bad it was?

[A]

Yeah. Anyway, even though we picked it.

[B]

What do you want me to say? What, you think she's. You think she has clairvoyance even though she picks the book every time and read this one and has already read it?

[A]

What do you want me to think?

[B]

You think she's supposed to know that it was bad?

[A]

No. So that's where we're at.

[B]

I don't think it's our fault.

[A]

I don't think it's that.

[B]

And again, I say, you say, we say not our fault.

[A]

Not our fault. Not our fault.

[B]

Well, for the road, I don't have a cup, but I do have this empty jingamabob.

[A]

What is it? A French press?

[B]

That's a French press. Try diva.

[A]

Oh, Drowning.

[B]

Jesus Christ. Are you okay? Did you forget it was sparkling? Is that what it was?

[A]

It bubbled?

[B]

Do you forget it was sparkling?

[A]

You know how it goes back in. It'll shrink.

[B]

Yeah. All right, you say it. You say it.

[A]

And remember, wear your girls.

[B]

I didn't want to say it.

[A]

Well, you didn't say it.

[B]

I didn't want to say because you don't want to have a room with me.

[A]

Don't set boundaries.

[B]

We're your girls. Cause we're your girls. Hey.

[A]

Cause I like how you do.

[B]

Wear your girls is hosted and executive produced by Darren Delaney Smith and her friend Tiffany Singleton. Management by Social Media produced Good Best Media.

[A]

Tiffany, do the next part. Do I do it in a tiny voice?

[B]

Nah, just do it in a normal voice.

[A]

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[B]

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