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What Are You Made Of?
Breaking the Cycle: Healing Trauma and Stepping Into Your True Self with Paola Rosser
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A
Welcome back to the Woody Made Up Show. It's your boy C. Rock here, and I have Paola Rosser with us. She's going to share what she's made of. I'm glad you're all here listening, and hopefully you're going to learn something today. I think we can learn a lot from people's experiences. You know, people go through things, they learn, and if they share after that, they can help a lot of people. And that's what Paola does. I know that. And we're going to find out more. Paola, welcome to the show.
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B
Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here.
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A
Yeah, no, it's my pleasure. And you, do you guest often or you mainly just host your show?
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B
No, I've done over 262 episodes on my podcast, and I've had 90% all women. I've only had one male guest, which was my husband, and that was because it was 2020, Covid, and I needed somebody to jump on. Yeah.
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A
How about you guesting on shows? You going?
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B
Yes, I do solo episodes by myself.
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A
No, but I'm talking about on other people's shows.
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B
Oh, yes. I've been on 10. You're on my 11th podcast.
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A
Oh, really? Okay.
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B
Okay.
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A
Awesome. Awesome. So you had some practice before you've come here.
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B
Yes. I love podcasting. I love it.
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A
That's awesome. All right, well, let's get into it. We ask the same question every. Every show, and that's, what are you made of?
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B
And you know what? I have been listening to some of your episodes because I like to do my research before I jump on a podcast. And I thought about this question a lot, and my first initial answer is, I am made up of what everyone else is made up of. Energy, matter, atoms. We're all made up of the same thing, except for the differences. Is our awareness of who we truly are. And for the beginning of my 33 years on this planet, my awareness was made up behind this, like, frame of trauma, pain, limitations. Because I grew up in a very volatile environment. And it wasn't until my father passed away that I started to really ask those, you know, existential questions, like, why am I here? What is my purpose? Is this really life? Because I would have these conversations with God, like, why does life have to be so hard? Why does it have to be so painful? And I got to this place where I literally wanted to end it all. I didn't want to be here anymore. I didn't want to be alive. It hurt too bad. I was in multiple Abusive relationships. And I learned abuse through my parents because saw my mom fight my dad. And then it wasn't until I had this beautiful moment where my father, who had passed away at 2006, it was now 2013, I really was contemplating unaliving myself. And my father came through my front door in a dream, a visitation dream. And I jumped off the bed and I was crying, and I held him and I said, papi, quiero y contigo, I want to go with you. And he whispered in my ear as I held him tight. And he said, it's not your time. And he said. I said, but I can't do this. It's too hard. This life is too hard. And he said, it's gonna get better. And then he just disappeared. And I remember waking up, like, gasping for air. I still had tears running down my, my eyes and my face. And I was like, what does he mean by that? And within a couple of months, my whole life completely transformed. I was on my own healing journey at the time. I was desperate for answers. I did what any good Catholic girl would do, is go to church. I tried to find my answers there. Unfortunately, I just found more pain, more shame, more guilt. And it wasn't until I started reading books that were self help. My first book was the Secret. And I remember when I first read that book, my friend gave it to me and I read it and I said, this can't. This, this doesn't work for me. I'm Mexican. That was the first thing I thought of. It might work for white people, but it doesn't work for me. Because I grew up with limiting belief that if you were of a certain race, things couldn't happen for you. But like I said in the beginning, we are all made up of the same thing. And the only difference is, is our awareness of it. So have you ever heard of the SLIT experiment where if molecules and atoms are observed, they are different? And so my observation of myself was past a lens of pain and trauma and limitations. And so when I would look at myself, I had negative self beliefs, negative self talk. I was always in this negative place, which attracted more negative things to me. And so even though when I first got that book, the Secret, I didn't believe it could happen for me. I was like, you know what? I'm at the bottom of the barrel. There's no other place. Like, I'm literally contemplating unliving myself. Let's just put this to the test. And one thing about me is I am a researcher at heart. I love to Read. I love to listen to podcasts. I love to, like, watch documentaries and YouTubes and. And so I went down the rabbit hole, and book after book after book, you know, spiritual teacher after guru, they all said the same thing. What you think about the most, what you focus on, you will create. You have the power to create your own reality. And I'm like, this can't possibly be the answer. But the more that I tested it, the more that my life started to shift. Now, when I was handed the book, I was unemployed. It was. You're. You're used to be a mortgage person. I heard that in one of your podcasts. So I was in the real estate industry. I'm still a real estate agent, still a notary. But back then, I was in 2008, and I was in commercial real estate and everything. I mean, I stood in front of 17 other people who also got laid off at the same time, and I was devastated. And when I didn't have, like, that really good foundation of who I was at my core, that I was a fragment of the creator, of the infinite intelligence that created all things, I believed I was nothing. I took it personal. I was like, oh, my God, I'm not good enough. They don't like me. I don't deserve this job. So I went into a deep, deep depression, and I was unemployed for a year and a half.
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A
And in that first, you were spiraling. Like, your thoughts created spiraling or a spiral staircase.
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B
Mike just went to become a stripper. That's how much I was spiraling. But thank God that the Holy Spirit. When I was in the parking lot, I was like, oh, do I really have to take my clothes off? Yes, because I was unemployed. I was unemployed, broke. I was making 800 on unemployment. My rent was 950. I lived in Newport Beach. It was. And even now, that's a great price for a small studio apartment. But I was, like, drowning in debt. I had student loans that needed to be paid. When they fired me, I had a hundred dollars in my savings. I was like. Like eating top ramen and not leaving my house so that I wouldn't waste gas or eat food. Like, I was down to the bare minimum. That's why. And I just got out of an abusive relationship. He choked me outside of a restaurant because I caught him cheating on me. So I was at the bottom of the barrel. And I was like, this has to work. It can't be that easy. But I'm just gonna test this out. And I started doing vision boards and gratitude journals and Writing everything down that I ever Dr. Stuff with like, no boundaries, no limitations. I started small with like a new shower curtain or, or new, you know, new shoes. And then eventually things started to just completely like, my whole life has revolutionized. I got married to the love of my life. We've been now married for 10 years. I've owned multiple homes. I've flown private. My honeymoon was in Bora Bora. All the things that I ever posted on my vision board. I remember I had a white Range Rover and one of my friends who came to visit me when I was unemployed, he looked at me and he goes, paola, you're never going to drive a white Range Rover.
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Get that person out of your life. Get that person out of your life.
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B
Yeah. He's like, do you know how much those cost? And I was like, that's a person. I was like, no, I really didn't know how much Range Rovers cost. I got that as a birth. My husband gave it to me as a wedding gift. Perf. Every single thing I ever wanted in that Range Rover, he got it for me. And I did. I had to eliminate the people with limiting beliefs, the people that were still vibrating at that low frequency that things couldn't happen to them. I also had a friend where I was like, I had just read Dave Ramsey's book, the Total Money Makeover, and I was like, I'm going to pay off all my debt. And he goes, you're never going to do that. You're. You're one hundred and something thousand dollars in debt and you have making $42,000 a year. And I was like, I can do it, I can do it. And I remembered on the weekends.
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Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. I gotta stop you for a second. Because sure, that was based on their perception of what you had right now, but that's not the final picture.
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B
No, right.
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Like that where you are doesn't mean that's where you stay, you know, Exactly. And, and you know, I gotta touch on something else too, because this is like this, this gets to me sometimes, the abuse situation. Right. I've said this before and I got a bunch of slack about it, but I like, there's a difference between victim mentality and Victor mentality and being a puppet and being a puppet master, the victim mentality, people will stay in that situation and say it was all that abuser's fault. And I don't believe that's the case because at the end of the day, you have to put yourself in that relationship to be Abused. Have you taken up like that, that, you know, taken a step. Time to assess that whole situation?
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B
Absolutely, yeah. Because I am actually writing my book. Yeah, yeah, I'm actually writing my book. It's going to be published in November. And I'm actually in that chapter where I'm revising it and I talk about in the book that you have to take 100% responsibility for your portion in it. And there were so many red flags. I mean, he called me the. He called me a. He called. Sorry if I could cuss. He called me a cunt. He called me a bitch. He called me a wetback. Like, he was a white guy and he was racially, physically, emotionally cheated on me. And yet I just ignored the red flags because back then I didn't know my value.
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Yeah, exactly.
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B
I didn't know how. I didn't know that I was worth more than that and that there were actually good men out there. And that's another thing, is that society makes women believe that all men are cheaters, all men are pigs, all men are jerks. But I had to change my mindset on that because again, what you think about, what you speak about creates your reality. But my reality was always like, men are cheaters. Men are. The good ones are gay or married. And I. I had to change my language around that so that I can bring in the right man. And once I did that, I mean, my husband is the most incredible husband ever. I still think I won the lottery when it comes to husbands. And it's because I changed my. React like my. My thinking. I changed my awareness that there really are good men out there.
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Yeah, yeah, for sure. You know, and it's not. Doesn't go for like a relationships. It goes for business. Your financial condition, your health, every. Every part of your life is. Is either you're controlling it or you're allowing someone else to control it. And then. Yeah, and then those that allow someone else to control it, they always want to blame the other people. And human beings in general are flawed. That's why we have religion in the first place, because we need redemption. We need to be able to atone. We need to be able to turn. Turn the other direction 180 degrees. And, you know, I always tell the story, you know, and I'm gonna keep saying it because I think it's powerful. There's an intelligence officer that met an extraterrestrial apparently, and he tells the story that he met this e. T. And the E.T. said to him, you human beings have no idea what you're capable of. And that was like. I. I listen. I'm like, wow, that's like. That's like when you're talking to a friend or you run into someone and they give you a. A view. Like a 30, 000 foot view of your life that you can't see because you're in it.
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B
Yeah.
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That ET had an alien. Whatever it was, had in a 30,000, maybe even lightyear view of human beings and said, you have no idea what you're capable of.
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Yeah.
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And that's.
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Well, it reminds me of that story. Have you heard of the cricket story where it's two crickets? So they put a cricket in a jar and the cricket tries to jump out, but he soon realized there's a cap. Then they put another cricket in and the cricket tells. That cricket don't jump too high.
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Yeah.
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You never get out. And then those two crickets have a baby and then they tell the baby, you can't jump this high because you'll never get out. And the baby just continues. Continues and then jumps out. That's the thing. It's like your environment, who you grew up with, your friends, your aunts, your uncles, all the people that you're around are creating your reality just as much as you're creating your reality. And I learned that the people that I was living around in my family and still, even then, when I wanted to be an entrepreneur, my sister was like, oh, my God, you're going to fail. You're. You're going to do this. You're. No one's ever going to listen to this. And it was just all these negative because. And you have to think about it from this perspective. It's only their fear talking. Yeah, it's only their fear talking. They don't want you to leave the cave just in case there's a lion that's going to get you. And that's just our subconscious mind always trying to protect us. But then you actually leave the cave and you're like, wait, I didn't die. I'm still alive. And I do love that you said that. If we were to see just how wondrous, how magical, how expansive our souls are, we would. I mean, I heard somewhere that we would worship ourselves, but we don't know that. We don't know how powerful we truly are because we have been covered through the lens of fear, pain, trauma, limitations. And we're taught this by society, by our family, by our culture. I mean, saying that I'm Mexican, this isn't going to work out for Me is something that I learned from my brother. He always used to teach me, like, mexicans work for white people. We will always be the people that work for white people. And I was like, what? What is that? You know? But now that I'm older, I'm like, what? He's ridiculous. The thinkings that he had, the ideologies that he had, the belief systems that he had. But you have to be fearless in order to start questioning these things, because you're gonna receive a lot of backlash, you're gonna receive a lot of hate. You're even gonna be excommunicated from your. Either religion, your family, your friends. People are gonna think you're crazy. But the crazy people are the people that actually accomplish things. I. About history, the person that said, I'm going to fly from one country to another country in a tube, they're going to be like, you're crazy. Right? Electricity was crazy. The computer was crazy. The Internet was crazy. Now they're calling AI crazy, but it's going to revolutionize our lives. But people sit back in fear and don't want to take a step forward because their comfort zone is too comfortable. Comfortable. I can't even say that word, comfortable.
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Yeah, it's true. And there's another thing here you said. You mentioned, like, if we really knew what we were capable of, we would worship ourselves or, you know, whatever. But, like, I think that's dangerous in a way, too, because I think when you start to worship yourself, you set yourself up for a big disappointment. Because at the end of the day, you know, I'm a firm believer in God. I've seen too much not to. And I think it's more. We need to focus on what's possible with God. And, you know, for me, the Catholic Church didn't work because it does. There was like a guilt thing, and it was like, wait a minute, I'm coming here for redemption. I'm coming here for redemption, not. And to wipe all my sins clean. And I don't like the way this is going here because I'm not going to feel guilty because I'm giving myself grace, because God gives me grace, and it says so in the Bible. And I have the opportunity to wipe my sight clean and become new. And when we make mistakes and we sin and do different things, it's because we at that time didn't have better information, because there's no way. Now we may know better, we still do things, but there's no way that if we knew the repercussions of. Of doing Bad things, making these mistakes, how it could destroy things, cause chaos, affect other. You know, most people don't realize how it affects other people around them. We wouldn't do those things.
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Yeah.
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You know, and so here's the thing.
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I have gone down the rabbit hole of near death experiences. I don't know if you've ever had anyone on your podcast who've talked about
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a near death experience.
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People have actually crossed over and come back. I've listened to thousands because when my father passed away as a Catholic person, he was an alcoholic, he died of alcoholism. I would go to bed for months picturing him being tortured in hell for the rest of eternity because in the Catholic sense, he's a sinner, he should be in hell. And so I just couldn't wrap my head around that. And so I went down this rabbit hole of reading books of people who've had near death experiences and actually have crossed over, met the divine, the spirit, you know, God sour and came back to tell about it. And they all say that we are this wondrous, expansive, we are a fragment of God. So like I said, if we knew how powerful we were, we would worship ourselves just like we worship God, because we are a fragment piece. I love the Buddhists that say we are a drop and when we die, we return back to the ocean. We can't even fathom God's love. We can't. We say, oh, God loves us, but we actually cannot even fathom his unconditional love because we as humans have conditional love. We want justice, we want good and bad. We want everything to have its place. But when we cross over, we will all be met with the same unconditional love that everything that has ever been created meets. And to me, that's the most beautiful thing to know that we are these expansive beings on earth. But the bad thing is, is that, you know, we are, we are. We have trauma, we have pain, and sometimes it's generational, sometimes it's brought down from one generation to another generation. Religion often, like, masks us and makes us believe that we are sinners, that we're bad people, that we need redemption, when in reality we. We just need to remember who we are at our core, which is we are a fragment of the unconditional source called love, God, the divine. So if we can come back to learning who we are, which is love, we are love if we could love ourselves. And this is my favorite thing that Jesus told us right before he left. He gave us one commandment, Love yourself, love your neighbor, and love your enemy, as I have loved you, that was the only thing we were supposed to do. And as I've become a spiritual mentor and life coach, you know, people have an easy way of loving the people that love them, right? And they can find forgiveness for those who have wronged them. But loving yourself has been one of the hardest things that I find my clients can do. They can't love themselves. They're always blaming themselves. There's always this victim mentality. There's always this shame, this guilt from something that they did in the past when in reality God doesn't see you in those lens because God has unconditional love. And again, as humans, we cannot fathom that unconditional love. I loved this one lady who passed and she came back and she was a drug addict, a prostitute, and she died. She overdosed in her bathroom room. And when she met the divine, the divine said, you are loved with all the star, beyond the stars of the universe, you are loved. And she just couldn't fathom that because if you think about the universe and the galaxies, we're just one galaxy upon. And she's like, you are, you are loved with all the stars in the universe. How? She's like, I'm this, I'm that, I'm that. Because we can't fathom it. We believe we need punishment, we believe we need redemption. It's all part of like, this, the human experience to like try to have justice. And I get it, some people do deserve justice. But in the reality of things is we can't fathom God's love. We can't. And everyone who comes back, they say, there's this knowledge that I can't even, they can't even describe the colors on the other side because there's no words to describe the colors, the wisdom, the love. And it's not till we cross over that we really, truly will see. Like you said from like an eye, from all the way about, oh, wait, I could have done so much more.
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Yeah, that's one of my biggest things I always focus on too is like I don't ever want to face my creator. And he said, I gave you all this and this is the only thing you did. You know, like, that's unacceptable to me. So that's why I wake up every morning pretending nobody's ever heard of me. I don't care what level I get to, nobody's ever heard of me because I need people. It doesn't matter how well intentioned you are, your mission, how smart or expert you are in any area, nobody knows who you are, then it's worthless.
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Yeah.
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You know, so, and, and speaking of not being able to wrap our heads around something, we just had people going to the moon and circling around the moon and coming back. And the moon is 238, 000 some miles away. And you know, that's like going around the earth. I think it is 11 times. I think it was. Can you like. I can't even like wrap my head around the fact that there's somebody that went in a little tiny thing and went around the 238,000 miles away. And then in order to come back to, to complete the mission, they've gone almost a million miles. Yeah, like, and that's just the moon. That's not even like the farthest planet a star. I know, the sun.
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And just think about like, I think about like us as our, as a human being. Like, you know, before we came into this world, we were a sperm, billions of sperm billion. And then you were the one out of all the billions of sperm that made it to the egg. You know, it's just you're already born a winner because you beat all these billions of other sperm to get there and then to have the life that you have. I always think like, I'm blessed. I was born a woman in Southern California. I could have been born a woman in a different country. But no, I was born a woman here in Southern California. Even though my parents were born in Mexico, I was born here. And I was granted all these beautiful things that most women in other countries don't get. So we have to stop and pull the lens back and remember all of our blessings, all the miracles of life. Even just sitting here, I'm not telling my heart to pump blood to the rest of my organs. It's automatically doing that. That's a miracle within itself. When I was contemplating unaliving myself, I forgot about all those miracles. I forgot about all my blessings. I forgot about how magical it is to be a human being on this earth. And I wanted to end it all. And now I think back. I mean, I was 32. That was the first time. 26. I wanted to do it again. Like there's so many times in my life where I would just wanted to give up. And then now I think, man, if I would have done it at 26 or at 32, all the things that I would have missed out on, all the sunsets, all the wonderful pancakes I've eaten, you know, all the trips that it's the smallest little things from seeing Beautiful butterfly flap its wings. To seeing my little niece laugh because I gave her the funniest little gift for Christmas. All those moments are what make life. And we forget about those moments because we're so busy and caught up in. We've got to make enough money. We have to have the biggest boat, we have to have the nicest house. And we forget about the littlest moments. And only do we remember those little moments when we're at the very end and then we're like, wait, I want to go back.
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No.
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The biggest present that you can give your creator is to be present and to literally get it all in. I love. One of my favorite authors is Michael Singer. Have you ever read the book the Untethered Soul?
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Yeah. And the other one I love.
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I love this part in the book where he says, imagine God comes down and he says, I gave you this beautiful present and, you know, called Earth. And you're complaining, oh, the sun is. It burns my skin. I hate these flies. You know, the wind is blowing and my hair is all messed up. And all you're doing is complaining about this beautiful gift he gave you, this magical life on this magical Earth. And then he goes to the next person, he's like, how are you liking it? And that person is like, oh, my God, I love it here. I love the waves. I love the sand in between my toes. I love kissing my husband. I love the giggles. That my little. You know, that's a different perspective. And when I think about it, it's like, well, God doesn't give you more than you can handle, right? Well, this person's over here complaining and hating life and everything about it. So God's like, oh, I don't want to give them too much because I don't want to hurt them even more. Let me give this person who's already enjoying the things that I've given them, let me give them more. That's how I. When I read that part, I was like, dang. I have been complaining. I have been miserable. I have missed all the little blessings and miracles in my life. And all I've been doing has been sitting through the lens of pain, fear, and trauma. And once I just removed that and I focused on the little things, the little things became bigger things. And now my life is completely amazing. And even when it's not, when times go bad, because that's a part of life. Life has both snakes and rainbows. And when the snakes appear, I do everything I can to focus on the rainbows because there's always a Rainbow.
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Yeah, yeah, for sure. You know, and stomp the snakes. All right. As we wind down here, I want to touch on one more thing. How do. When you're working with people, like, how can people identify limiting beliefs? When there's a lot of limiting beliefs that are subconscious, you don't even know they're there. So how can people, like, figure out, like, that they have limiting beliefs or the. Like, the ones that are really holding them back? Like, how do they find.
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So actually, I've been a practitioner of this healing modality called emotion code, body code, and belief code. It was created by this chiropractor called. His name is Dr. Bradley Nelson. And he got this download that you can use magnets to and muscle testing to figure this out. So what I do is I tap into the subconscious mind with your permission, and then I just ask the subconscious mind yes or no questions, and I go through a chart and these. These charts that they've created. Somehow, almost all humans have either felt that or created that. Like, for example, I am not good enough or I'm a bad person. I just had one woman do a session. I don't know her. I've never met her. I just met her that day, and we went through her subconscious mind, and she had the limiting belief of I am a bad person. And so it was at the age of 18, she's now in her 60s, and she was like, oh, my gosh. And even my stomach hurt. And I was like, something came up. And she was like, oh, I don't know what happened. And then later on, she calls me and she tells me what she did at 18 that made her believe that she was a bad person. Now I describe the emotion, body code and belief code. Like, have you ever watched that movie, the Pixar movie? What was it? Why can't I think of it? Right now? I'm having a brain fart.
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What was it about? The emotions?
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It's a. Yeah, it's a little girl who. She plays hockey and she does something bad and they have. Oh, it's with all the little people in the brain.
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Yeah, yeah, I know which one you're talking about.
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Which one I'm talking about.
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Yeah, it's on the tip of my tongue. Go ahead.
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Yeah, it's on the tip of my tongue. So in that movie, you know, the girl goes into this huge room with all the little balls of different color, and they're all little memories. And that's exactly how the subconscious mind works. Every memory, every experience, every action that's ever happened in Your life has a negative or a positive emotion attached to it. And someone who's grown up with trauma, pain, like myself, has a lot of negative emotions attached to it. So just by, yeah, inside out, just by using magnets, we can remove these things. And. And I have been trying to debunk this healing modality because I'm like, this is just. Again, I'm a researcher at heart. I'm like, this can't be that easy. It can't work that way. But I've had over a hundred clients doing this because I just got my belief code practitioner license in December, and now I've had over a hundred people and still every single time I do someone, they're always like, how did you know that? Or how did you. And I'm like, I don'. Know this. I'm just asking your subconscious mind.
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You hypnotize them.
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Is that how you know?
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How do you get to the subconscious?
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You just ask permission and then you are muscle testing with your own body. And so what with my hands, I do this. So this is no. And this. Or this is a yeah, this is a yes. When it's locked. And this is a no. So you're basically. And you can do this with yourself. You can ask yourself questions. So if you did this and you said, my name is Paola, you're obviously going to break because you know that your name is not Paola. Your subconscious mind knows, knows that. So you can use this for, like, supplements or food or anything that you're doing. Like, is this good or healthy for my body? Yes, this tea is good for my body, you know, but if you're drinking alcohol, it's probably going to break because it's like, it's not good for your body. Right.
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You just kind of relax and let it do its thing.
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Yeah, you're just kind of relaxing and letting it do its thing.
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Because if you really wanted to, I
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could say, my name is Question.
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My name is Paola and I can hold it.
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But if you do your whole, you gotta relax. I know my husband tries to debunk it too, because I. And I've tried to debunk it myself. But I'm also like, I believe that God gave us all these special gifts, all of us. And I don't believe that I'm a healer at all. I believe that I'm a healing guide and that every human being has the ability to heal themselves and to, like, figure out what is really holding them back. And so as I'm asking the subconscious questions, I'm Showing them the charts. And the subconscious is leading me to where it needs to go. And I've had the most amazing, amazing sessions. And even I sometimes am super surprised at how it happens. But again, I say a prayer before I say the prayer out loud before I start the session. And I end every session with a prayer. And I always ask God, source, the divine. I also ask for their spirit guides, their highest self to be with me as I'm doing a session. Because I'm not the. I'm not. I'm just a vessel, and I'm just a guide. And I'm asking her highest self or your highest self to guide me into letting go, whatever it is that you need to let go. And the subconscious mind is like, okay, I'm ready. I'm ready to let go of things. And it all depends on whether that person is really open to energy healing or if they're closed off. And even the people that are closed off, I do end up hitting at least one or two things. And again, they're also like, how did you do that? I'm like, I don't know. I had one guy, his wife sent them to me, and he was grinding his teeth all through the night. And so we did a couple sessions. The first session, nothing was coming up because he was very like, I don't believe in this. The second session, there was a lot of negative, trapped emotions of, like, humiliation and anger and sadness in his jaw. And so that's the reason why he's grinding his teeth. Once we release that after the session, he's like, because a lot of things were coming up for within a certain age. That's another thing I'm testing. When did you trap this? At what age? And within a certain age. And he's like, you know, I didn't want to say anything, but all the things that were coming up during that age was because my father had committed suicide. And when my father committed suicide, I was told not to speak of it. And so all that anger, all that pain, all that trauma was stuck in his jaw, which is why at night, he was, you know, grinding his teeth. I've also helped this other woman who came to me. She's like, I just want to learn to be able to speak up during conferences. Like, when I'm at work and we're inside, you know, the conference room, I feel like I can't speak up and say something. And so I said, okay, let's go through your subconscious mind. At the age of 15, she trapped the negative emotion of humiliation, and she's like 15. She was a 60 year old woman. She's like, I don't remember 15. I don't remember what I had the day before. And I said, okay, well, right now I'm having tingling sensations in my legs. Does that mean anything to you? And she said, oh, now I remember. When I was 15, I was in a swim team and I had fat legs and every single time I would take off my towel, the girls on the swim team would make fun of me. So she trapped that negative. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah. That negative emotion of humiliation. And so now because she's. She knows humiliation, the subconscious knows that it's something that she doesn't want to feel. It's the reason why she doesn't speak up in conferences. And so she was like, after you released that, I felt so much clarity. I had another woman who had a lot of negative trapped emotions in her uterus. And afterwards she told me it was because her uncle had sexually abused her. And when she was. So she said after the session she felt really calm. And then the next day she called me and she had. I had the most vivid dream. I was sitting on a bench and every single person that I had told that my uncle had molested me and didn't believe me or accused me of being a liar or said, you're dragging our family's name. They all. Because they're almost all dead. She's in her late 50s or 60s. She said all of them came to apologize to me. And she's like. And there was something about me that I couldn't rebuttal. I couldn't get angry. I just was only there to accept their apology and their love. And she's like, I woke up in a cold sweat. I don't know what you did, but that was exactly what I needed. And it. I mean, these are the. I have a lot. I have a playlist on TikTok where it's. If you look at my plays, it's emotion, body and belief. I have story after story and again, I've been trying to debunk this and it. I have not been able to. It's just. And I again.
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So, Paola, we're up against the clock, but I want to know where, where can people find you and go deeper with you?
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Fearless Female dot com. I'm also on YouTube at Fearless Female. I'm also on TikTok at Paola Rosser and on Instagram, Fearless Female underscore coach.
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A
Amazing. Paola, thank you so much for sharing today. And also the vulnerability that you shared today, too, means, you know, a lot, lot. So.
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B
Well, thank you for having me on. I really appreciate it.
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Yeah, my pleasure. And I, you know, I feel like I could talk for hours about. About this stuff with you. But listen, hang tight while I wrap this up, folks.
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This.
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This episode of the what do you Made of Show. This is Paola Rosser. You can go check her out on all the links she just provided. Make sure you hit the subscribe Follow button at the top of your favorite podcast platform and keep coming back. Until next time, be that one.