Episode Overview

Title: Release, Rewire, Receive: The Neurosomatic Path to Your Next Chapter
Podcast: What Are You Made Of?
Host: Mike "C-Roc" Ciorrocco
Guest: Riana Malia
Date: February 5, 2026

This episode explores how high-achieving women (and ambitious people in general) often struggle with receiving “extraordinary love,” even when their external lives look successful. Riana Malia, a neurosomatic practitioner, shares her personal journey through adversity, the neuroscience behind healing old stories, and actionable strategies for releasing emotional baggage and inviting more fulfillment into life.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Riana’s Roots & “Mermaid Energy” (00:24–02:15)

• Riana’s answer to “What are you made of?”:
  “Love. And some mermaid energy and some glitter.” (00:24)
• Mermaid energy explanation: Her Maui birth story, family connection to the ocean, and the grounding, mystical influence of water on her and her daughter.
  • “The ocean for me has always been my grounding place... For me, it’s always the ocean.” (00:34–01:08)
• Lively exchange about mermaids, folklore, and a playful assertion that Riana’s vision is “like the Little Mermaid—super loving, not the scary kind.” (01:58–02:15)

The “Good on Paper” Problem & High-Achieving Women (02:46–05:58)

• Client focus: She works with ambitious women who “aren’t in crisis... except in one spot: they don’t have the thing they want most, which is extraordinary love that meets them and matches them.” (02:46)
• The struggle is not lack of self-love alone, but subconscious patterns, old stories, and relational habits of over-functioning and caregiving.
  • “We’re so used to doing and fixing and we problem solve and we create... it doesn’t work like that in relationships.” (03:21)
• Discussion about the tension between “badass, successful woman” and the desire for softness and being taken care of:
  “You can be successful and still be soft… the best of you is both.” (05:09)

Identity & Attachment to Roles (05:58–09:05)

• On identity attachment:
  Host Mike: “The darkest time in [high achievers’] life is when they attach their identity to what they do versus using what they do as their vehicle.” (06:16)
• Riana’s approach: The bulk of our identity (“90%”) is formed unconsciously between ages 0–7, and these old blueprints unconsciously run our lives unless we disrupt/release them.
  • “We would not give a five-year-old the ability to make life decisions for us as midlife people... but so much of the stuff that is running the show... is old identity, old decisions, old stories.” (07:18)
• She emphasizes NOT re-telling or reliving trauma as healing—instead, using techniques to release the charge without reinforcing the old story.

Neurosomatic Approach: Clarity, Release, and Rewiring (09:05–15:05)

• Clarity as first step:
  • “Before we clear anything… you have to get crystal clear. Most people think they are, but they’re not.” (09:13)
  • Analogy: Ordering specifics at a restaurant versus being general—most people go through life ordering “a salad,” not their true desires. (09:48)
• Neurology & the mind:
  • 90% of our daily thoughts are recycled; 75% are negative by default, regardless of self-improvement efforts. (10:20)
  • The “frequency” you emit (consciously and unconsciously) is what you live—hence why “the same stuff” happens repeatedly until the patterns are released and rewired.
• Technique:
  • Riana uses multidimensional methods to clear emotional residue. Each negative emotion (anger, sadness, etc.) is like a ribbon filled with “marbles” from each past experience. Clearing is like cleaning a cluttered closet—making space for what’s next. (12:20)

Quote:

“We’re not getting rid of memories… we’re getting rid of the emotional charge that’s attached to those memories.” – Mike (13:34)

• Once released, clients often experience euphoria, clarity, creativity, and “aha” moments:
  • “They’re like, oh my God, I feel so much lighter. I didn’t realize how heavy I felt… then downloads start coming, creativity starts flowing.” (14:23)

Riana’s Personal Story: Trauma, Timeline Work, and Healing (15:21–22:11)

• Backstory: Early marriage/divorce, family upheavals, and trauma (DEA raid due to her father’s secret criminal activity, resulting in loss of business, financial hardship, and instability).
  • “In literally an instant... everything’s good and then all of a sudden... it was all like a sham.” (21:54)
• Surviving an abusive relationship after moving and losing everything, she hit a pivotal moment:
  • “There has to be another way... all I’m doing is talking about it, which keeps me stuck.” (19:11)
• Introduction to timeline work: She highlights modern neurosomatic approaches—specifically, timeline techniques that access and release root-cause emotions without reliving old pain.
  • “That’s what made it so great. I wasn’t actually… revisiting different experiences. You don’t have conscious memory of the root cause… You get the learnings, bring you back to the truth of who you are.” (22:20)

Why Traditional Therapy Has Limits (25:14–27:13)

• Riana’s stance: Therapy is valuable for initial processing, but staying in therapy for years keeps people reinforcing old stories and patterns.
  • “If you stay in therapy, you go, you talk about it… you’re constantly in the negative. For the most part, you’re telling the story… And the more that you tell that story, that’s all that you’ll continue to get.” (25:18)
• Rewiring is fast compared to years of talk therapy.

Relationships: The Transformation & Frequency Analogy (27:13–29:51)

• “You don’t get what you want. You get who you are.” (27:26)
• Riana married the “greatest love of my life” after doing her internal work, illustrating that changing yourself brings different results.
• Music analogy:
  • “Imagine everything you want is on Sirius XM53… but unconsciously, you might be stuck on a ‘God awful’ 1940s station… You can’t hear Morgan Wallen on that station… You have to change the channel, change the frequency.” (28:42–29:16)
• The universe reflects you; it doesn’t direct you—so internal state determines external results.

Final Thoughts, Vision, and Takeaways (29:51–32:03)

• Riana’s forward vision: Expand impact, help more people access “love, generosity, impact, the belief in what’s possible, and being a magnet for miracles.”
  • Her work is bespoke, not a course or group program—she offers personalized, one-on-one guidance.
• She offers a gift: The ELI (“Extraordinary Love Index”) Assessment:
  • “Every human should take the ELI... It’s 40 questions... looking at nine key areas of who you are. You get a 28-page report breaking all of that down—with insight to you in a way you might never have had.” (31:14)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “We’re not getting rid of memories… we’re getting rid of the emotional charge that’s attached to those memories.” – Mike (13:34)
• “We don’t get what we want. We get who we are.” – Riana (27:26)
• “You have to change the channel, you have to change the frequency.” – Riana (29:16)
• “The universe isn’t going to direct you, but it will reflect you.” – Riana (29:34)
• “If you stay in therapy… the more that you tell that story, that’s all that you’ll continue to get.” – Riana (25:21)
• “We’re multifaceted, multi-hyphenated people. The best of you is both [strong and soft].” – Riana (05:09)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:24–02:15: Riana’s mermaid energy and family roots
• 02:46–05:58: The “good on paper” dilemma for high-achieving women
• 05:58–09:05: Identity attachment and how early experiences form our unconscious blueprints
• 09:05–14:23: Neurosomatic principles, neural pathways, and releasing emotional patterns
• 15:21–22:11: Riana’s personal journey: from crisis to transformation via timeline work
• 25:14–27:13: Therapy vs. neurosomatic methods—breaking the loop of old stories
• 27:26–29:51: Relationship transformation and “frequency” analogy
• 30:38–31:56: Vision, values, and the free ELI assessment

Further Resources

• Riana’s Website & ELI Assessment:
  rhiannamalia.com
• Social Media:
  Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube: @rhiannamalia

To get your personalized Extraordinary Love Index, go to the website, take the assessment, and receive a 28-page report with insights and actionable next steps.

This episode is a deep yet upbeat conversation on how to clear emotional clutter, reclaim your true self, and make room for the next, better chapter of your life—whether you’re seeking extraordinary love or just deeper fulfillment. Riana’s neuroscience-based methods, and her own story, illustrate that lasting transformation is possible—if you’re willing to clear the old and invite in the new.