Podcast
What I Meant to Say
Hosted by Wendy Jones · EN
I’m your host Wendy Jones, Founder of Be Better Media, mom of four, storyteller, and lifelong athlete passionate about human connection. I believe that the greatest gift we can give to the next generation is our own self-awareness. The goal of this podcast is to connect us through the visions, stories, and life lessons of people rising in sports, business & life and uncover the optimism that is sometimes front and center, and other times under the surface. Throughout my journey, I have experienced many ‘What I Meant to Say’ moments, but since life doesn’t give us do-overs, I’ve created a space to reflect and tell our stories again, with a little more grace for ourselves and the hope that we can help others, and all get a little better for having listened.
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From Peril to Purpose | Hakeem McFarlane’s Redemption Story & the Power of Choosing Yourself
Jul 1700:38:07Tap to summarize🎧 In this episode, we cover:* Athlete redemption stories that inspire* Mental health, mindset, and personal growth insights* The truth about prison, purpose, and rising again* The mission behind the 'Choose Yourself Community' 🔗 Connect with Hakeem Bourne McFarlane:🌐 Website: https://chooseyourself.info📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigdreamhakeem/▶️ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChooseYourselfChannel🌴 Upcoming Costa Rica Retreat (Oct 2025): https://trovatrip.com/trip//central-america/costa-rica/costa-rica-with-alysia-hakeem-oct-2025✨ Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more real conversations that spark healing, truth, and transformation.#HakeemMcFarlane #ChooseYourself #RedemptionStory #AthleteMindset #Resilience #OvercomingAdversity #GenerationalHealing #WhatIMeantToSay #MotivationalPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness
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From Fear to Flow: Dr. Eva Selhub on Conscious Healing, Nervous System Intelligence, and the Future of Medicine
Jun 1100:50:49Tap to summarizeKey Points & Memorable Quotes - “Am I living my life in fear of dying or am I living my life because I want to live?” 4:49“The goal is to change our culture and how we view ourselves, how we view life, how we view our reality, essentially consciousness.” 8:46“You feel it. The consciousness of the planet is rising.” - Wendy @ 9:03“There needs to be a way for us to have some type of signaling system to know when to adapt and when to rest.” 11:02“The first thing is changing the narrative of not looking outside of ourselves at all.” 19:57“Could is compassion. Should is shame.” 30:48“That’s why mindfulness is so key, non-judgemental, observation, moment to moment awareness with love, compassion, and appreciation.” 38:44“The key to longevity, resilience is curiosity, love, being present, joy, and creativity.” 41:47“Doctors are doing the best they can given what they know. They just don’t know.” 46:47“Given what is, what am I to do?” 49:09 Guest Bio - Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Eva Selhub0:23 - My First Book ‘Love Response’ & Exposure to HIV5:09 - Volunteering at the Mind Body Medical Institute at Harvard9:47 - How Does the Nervous System Intersect with Spirituality?14:58 - Self-Awareness & Nervous System Safety22:23 - Youth Mentorship & Media Influence on Mental Health 25:14 - Building Discernment, Trusting Your Intuition and Changing Your Language31:47 - The Process of Self-Inquiry34:17 - How to Use Mindfulness to Calm A Traumatized Chaotic Brain42:45 - Mind Body Connection in Athletics46:04 - The Biggest Issue in Medicine is Divisiveness49:55 - How to Connect with Dr. Eva Links & Where to Find Eva - www.drselhub.com
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Scalar Light: Unlocking the Hidden Potential of Energy Waves with Tom Paladino
Aug 14, 202400:40:17Tap to summarizeKey Points & Memorable Quotes - “It is the primal force. Scalar energy, scalar light is the light of the sun, the light of the stars.” 1:36“Some people just can't grasp that there’s something beyond and above that physical domain.” 5:08“The light influences the chemical level.” - Wendy @ 10:37“I have God on my side, and that’s all I need.” 15:25“This is a new branch of science where we work with information, intelligence.” 23:17“We create our environment. The way we think, the way we feel, that’s what we create, and ultimately in life you’re going to inherit that” 25:48“If people sign up for the 15-day session, everyday you’ll have your chakras balanced, you’ll have, if you will, microbe eradication, and vitamin antioxidant nutrient program.” 35:30“Trust in God, trust in yourself.” 38:10Guest Bio - Tom Paladino is a Scalar Light Researcher & humanitarian with over 50 years experience in Scalar Light research and development. Tom has developed Scalar Light instruments capable of administering beneficial Scalar Light intelligence to photographs of people, animals, plants and objects. In so doing, people express an improvement in their general well-being.Scalar Light is the fundamental life force that originates from the Sun and stars that brings order and harmony to the universe. Tom theorized that all energy in the universe initiates as Scalar light and that the Sun and the stars are the points of origin, or “the storehouses,” for Scalar Light. Divine Intelligence, chi, prana, OM, plasma energy, life force, the Creative Strength and zero-point energy are synonymous terms for Scalar Light. Scalar Light is instructive energy, as the entire universe is instructed by this Divine Light. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional and physical action in the universe is initiated and maintained by Scalar Light instructions. Scalar Light is a new and emerging branch of physics. The acceptance of Scalar Light will benefit humanity and improve the social order on a global scale.Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Tom Paladino1:27 - What is Scalar Energy & How Does it Heal?5:30 - Divine Intelligence9:23 - How Can Scalar Energy Improve Mental Health?11:53 - The Work of Nikola Tesla15:15 - Maintaining A Resilient Mindset Against the Odds16:15 - How Are People Coming to You and Being Changed?24:55 - A Discussion on the Subconscious 26:48 - Why Isn’t This Information More Widely Known?33:55 - How Do People Find You?37:48 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self39:29 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Tom - Website - https://www.scalarlight.com/Free 15 Day Scalar Light Trial - https://www.scalarlight.com/free-trialsYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/TomPaladinoScalarFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/experiencescalar/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scalarlight/PCR Test Results
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Commencement. Closing a Chapter with Spencer Wickens
Jul 3, 202400:40:25Tap to summarizeEpisode Summary: What a gift to be able to bookend the joy of taking in boys and men’s volleyball through Luke’s career with Pace Bootlegger Volleyball Club and Pepperdine Alum and Stanford Assistant Men’s Volleyball Coach Spencer Wickens, one of the great up and coming coaches in the Collegiate game. Grateful to capture his joy of coaching and wisdom on how to rise through the challenges of when your game isn’t going exactly how you planned. If you are an up and coming player, you won’t want to miss his insight about becoming a leader on and off the court. Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “Be ready to jump on any opportunity you can to help out or impact your team in a positive way.” 4:07“Team leadership is such a component to winning.” -Wendy @ 6:25“If you’re a parent out there, the ability to really read your kid’s desire and let them lead that charge, rather than having it be a goal that you have.” -Wendy @ 19:50“What does the athlete want out of their journey, and how can you support that?” -Wendy @ 20:55“You have to try to find a way to remove yourself from the issue.” 23:33“Persistency gets people a lot of places.” 24:38“Don’t let the experiences of others shape the way you make your own decisions.” 33:40“Understanding that failure is an opportunity for growth and learning.” 34:59Guest Bio - Al Roderigues Assistant Men's Volleyball Coach USA Volleyball National Training Development Program (NTDP) Coach Graduate Assistant - University of Nebraska Lincoln Student Athlete - Pepperdine Men's VolleyballRochester Pacebootlegger Volleyball Club - McQuaid Jesuit High School Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Spencer Wickens1:14 - The Joy of Coaching3:42 - Libero to Outside Hitter at Pepperdine6:30 - Building Team Leadership in the New NIL Driven Era12:57 - Do You See A Regional Difference in Athletes?16:16 - Pain Point Between Parents & Coaches23:02 - Advice to Players Struggling with Playing Time26:43 - Balancing Competition with Authenticity33:06 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self36:14 - What Are Your Coaching Goals?37:34 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Spencer - IG - @swickens7
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How to Befriend Your Nervous System with Emily Hightower
May 15, 202400:43:36Tap to summarizeFor more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes “So much of that relates with my mom is because I had watched her grow with me as I was growing up doing everything. I didn’t know there were options of asking for help, you know, asking other people to, it just didn’t occur to me because I had never seen that. My mom was like, ‘you figure it out, you do it yourself, whatever you need to do, you figure out how to do it.’” 6:17Guest BioDr. Natacha Nelson is known for her work as a Life Doctor; Speaker, Author, Entrepreneur & creator of The Untamed Heart System and events. Her journey into entrepreneurship began at the young age of 16 and she has been building businesses ever since.A 22 year South Bay resident, Dr. Natacha has been a consistent leader delivering Health and Wellness services to all ages in the community. She has a long list of client success stories ranging from Corporate Executives, Professional Athletes, Medical Professionals, coaches to stay-at-mom homes. She has defied all the odds both personally and professionally and has mastered the ability to turn adversities into advantages. She has coached Businessmen & women nationwide.Show Notes 0:00 - What I Meant to Say Podcast Intro0:18 - Introducing Natacha Nelson0:43 - Introducing Natacha Nelson Connection2:29 - Journaling and Inspiration for the Book Links & Where to Find NatachaBook - Finding Courage to Let You Out by Natacha NelsonWebsite - www.theuntamedheart.comFacebook - @NatachaNelsonIG - @natacha_lifedoctor
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How to Connect Instead of Control with Marcus Aurelius Higgs
May 1, 202400:51:11Tap to summarizeShow Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Marcus Aurelius Higgs1:10 - The Love for Conversation2:26 - Is There An Anti-Resilience Message Out There to Kids?6:56 - Journey from English Teacher to Preteen Presence Coach12:02 - The Road to Independence and Interdependence 16:32 - Kids Need A Community of Parents22:06 - ‘SHOW UP’ Framework35:30 - The Relationship Between Consequences and Parenting39:08 - How to Create Calm in Parenting48:15 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self50:03 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Marcus - www.marcushiggs.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/marcushiggs/
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An Athlete’s Guide to Thriving - Mind, Body & Spirit with Audrey Baldwin
Apr 10, 202400:56:25Tap to summarizeFor more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tvKey Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes “I just wanted to keep playing and get better for me.” 12:46“It’s more than a game, it’s beyond the game and what you’re learning in sport applies to everything in your life.” 16:51“How you do one thing is how you do everything.” 17:04“Sports exposes who you are and allows you the chance to change it.” 21:00“I think to get to an elite status you have to have this sort of obsession with it.” 33:22“What is success for you?” 39:54Guest Bio Audrey Baldwin is a recently retired professional goalkeeper, with 10 years of experience, in 9 different countries. Besides her playing career, she has a bachelors in Kinesiology and Masters in Sport and Exercise Psychology. She is currently using her experience and education to mentor youth athletes of all ages and sports in mental skills and mental performance. It is her goal to spread proper education at the correct time. Show Notes 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Audrey Baldwin1:00 - Soccer Background4:52 - Climbing that Ladder7:06 - A Conversation on Perfection & Pressure12:46 - Intrinsic Motivation15:50 - How to Manage Stress in Sports & Life22:22 - A Go with the Flow & Hormone Cycle Discussion for Athletes32:52 - Feeling Over Thinking Using A Mindfulness Practice39:13 - A Story with Advice for Younger Girls on Perfectionism43:57 - The Injury Reserve: A Group for Injured Athletes53:17 - How Do Athletes Find You?55:27 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self56:08 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Audrey Website: www.beyond-the-game.netIG - @audball_00 & @quamludum The Power of Injury Journal
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How to Understand Emotions Better for Parenting with Purpose with Dr. Mala
Mar 13, 202400:54:50Tap to summarizeKey Points & Memorable Quotes - “How much can we teach them and how much do they have to learn through experience?” - Wendy @ 0:48“None of this journey we’re on is linear.” 3:25“When we feel good, are we recognizing what we are doing to feel good? 7:39“You are going to feel every feeling and that’s a good thing because that means you are alive.” 13:04“Your intuition, arguably, builds off of experience that you’ve had both good and bad.” 21:10“You will be more ‘perfect’ if you let yourself breathe.” 26:02“I’m going to stop wearing my shoulders as earrings.” 26:48“Everybody is recovering from something.” 50:05“We are all allowed to be. We’re all allowed to feel.” 51:48“In those differences, we can still enhance each other.” 53:24Guest Bio - Dr. Malasri Chaudhery-Malgeri (Dr. Mala) is an expert in TBI, PTSD, Military Psychology, Marriage & Family Psychology, Rehabilitative Therapy, Integrative & Collaborative Program Development, Industrial/Organizational Psychology, and more. She has helped individuals of diverse age ranges and backgrounds, including the military, executives and business professionals, political figures, rural communities, native populations, LGBTQ+ populations, athletes, and couples and families. She is also a motivational speaker and presenter.Show Notes - 0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Mala0:55 - How Did You Get into Psychology?6:32 - Understanding the Integration of Physical & Mental Health12:29 - How to Help Your Kids Navigate Human Feelings15:37 - How to Parent from a Grounded & Calm Place19:53 - What’s the Difference Between Intuition & Anxiety?22:24 - Learning to Have the Tough Conversations with Your Kids25:05 - A Discussion on Perfectionism33:24 - Teaching Kids About the Collective Nervous System38:10 - Advice to Empaths & HSPs for Setting Boundaries40:51 - Bridging the Gap Between Mental & Physical Wellness45:59 - Taking the First Step Towards Healing50:48 - The Meaning of ‘Kindness is Inclusive’53:56 - Where Can People Find You?54:22 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Dr. Mala - www.drmala.netSocial Media Handles - @TheOfficialDrMala
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Parenting During Divorce for Generational Healing
Mar 7, 202400:58:55Tap to summarizeKey Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - “I think journaling is an incredibly healing thing that we can undertake.” 4:57“Deal with things as they are, not as we’d like them to be.” -Ann @ 7:54“Addiction is really just a disconnection with ourself.” 8:57“People are doing the best they can with what they know, but it’s our responsibility to know more so you have to keep learning.” 10:51“The financial part is scary no matter what.” 20:10“Parenting them through the hard stuff is actually what makes parenting great.” 25:58“Two houses, they can be different and it can be okay.” 37:26“You don’t have to be so worried about controlling or losing power in these situations with your children. They are going to go where the love is.” -Ann @ 40:19“Don’t make it about yourself.” 41:48“Let your kids be who they are.” 44:11Guest Bio - Wendy Jones is the founder of Be Better Media and host of herown podcast, What I Meant to Say. As a mother of four, she ispassionate about generational healing--so that we can connectwith each other and create families and communities from a placeof strength. The stories told through her work at Be Better Mediaencourage each of us to listen more and judge less on our path toself-awareness. In her spare time, you will find her at the beachplaying volleyball and enjoying her yoga practice.Show Notes - 0:00 - This Week on What I Meant to Say0:50 - Ann Grant, the Divorce Hacker, Introduces Wendy Jones1:32 - What is Generational Healing?3:06 - Tools to Implement During Divorce8:50 - How Addiction Can Impact Generational Healing13:42 - Support Systems & Therapy18:20 - Single Motherhood with Four Children26:06 - How Are Your Kids Now?31:17 - People Pleasing Discussion37:59 - The Art of Letting Go of Control 44:19 - Social Media & Battling Outside Opinions50:54 - Helping Your Kids Find & Connect to Their Passions56:58 - Three Questions58:48 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find The Divorce Hacker:FULL episodes - https://www.youtube.com/@divorcehacker Youtube ShortsFor more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/
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Having the Courage to Question Your Belief Systems with Torin Jefferys
Feb 28, 202400:58:21Tap to summarizeKey Points & Memorable Quotes - “Unlearning everything that you think you know about how you function and what society’s told you because the mind isn’t the dominant operating system, the heart is.” “Your body is not gonna lie to you.”“We’re so afraid of feeling.”“Don’t tell a man how he’s feeling.” “I think that we don’t take enough time to just contemplate at the end of the day or maybe we haven’t taken enough time to just pause throughout your day.” “You can’t escape duality.” Guest Bio - Torin Jefferys calls himself a divine being and is a 30 year old beach volleyball athlete. He works as a wellness and spiritual practitioner in Southern California.Show Notes - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Torin JefferysWhat Makes You Open to the Healing Journey?Let’s Talk Music We Are Made of LightA Discussion on Human DesignYour Path to A Simple Life is Your ResponsibilityTraditional MasculineOpening A Healing Space Called ‘A Fix’Break Ups, Animal Totems & Dream SpaceThe Concept of Control Embrace the Duality of Life & the Healing CollectiveHow to Encourage People to Start Asking the Questions1:03:19 - Thank You & ClosingLinks & Where to Find Torin - IG - @beachy_t888
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