Podcast Summary: Who Is She
Episode 21: Our Q's About Men with Dice (Part 1)
Release Date: May 14, 2024
Host: Danielle Walter
Guest: Daisuke Suzuki ("Dice")
Duration: 1 hour, 18 minutes (partial transcript provided)

Introduction

Danielle Walter welcomes listeners to episode 21 of her podcast "Who Is She", a show dedicated to navigating your 20s and thriving in your 30s. In this episode, Danielle brings back her friend Dice, Daisuke Suzuki, to delve into listener-submitted questions about men from a male perspective. Due to the extensive content, this episode is split into two parts. Danielle emphasizes the episode’s focus on authentic conversations, moving away from scripted dialogues or superficial discussions.

Guest Introduction

[02:05] Danielle reintroduces Dice, highlighting their long-standing friendship since kindergarten and Dice’s journey as a barber and business owner in San Jose’s Bay Area. Dice shares his passion for fitness, tattoos, and his aspiration to use his platform to positively impact his community.

Dice (A): “My main focus right now is building my business. I've gone through multiple different shops until finally now owning my own. And I feel like over my experiences now, I've kind of figured out how to use my platform and barbering as a vehicle to serve my true purpose, which is helping people.”

[02:43] Danielle adds that Dice received positive feedback from his previous podcast appearance, receiving compliments on his appearance and demeanor, which he attributes to his supportive personality.

Personal Updates

[07:50] Dice shares a personal milestone, turning 32 and celebrating it by running a marathon in San Diego on his birthday.

Dice (A): “I'm running a marathon. So I leave to San Diego on my birthday, and then the race is on Sunday... I get to do something I enjoy, working hard, and just see what I'm made of.”

Dice discusses the interplay between physical and mental growth, emphasizing the importance of pushing oneself beyond comfort zones to foster personal development.

Dice (A): “Pushing myself physically has created so much mental growth for me, too... you get stronger, you grow from it.”

Discussion on "The Way of the Superior Man"

Dice brings his copy of "The Way of the Superior Man" to the podcast, providing insights from the book that explores men's lives, relationships, and personal growth.

[18:25] Danielle summarizes the book’s essence: a guide for men to live authentically and purposefully, emphasizing the balance between masculine and feminine energies.

Dice (A): “Philosophies and values... how they feel like a superior man should conduct himself and how he should be with his woman.”

They discuss key passages, focusing on the interaction between masculine and feminine energies in relationships.

[19:46] Dice reads a passage about the feminine essence, likening it to the ocean's power and unpredictability, highlighting the need for men to support and uplift their partners emotionally.

Dice (A): “The ocean. The native state of the feminine is to flow with great power and no single direction... ever changing, beautiful, destructive, and the source of life.”

[21:05] Danielle reflects on the poetic nature of the book, appreciating its spiritual approach to relationship dynamics and the importance of deep, meaningful connections.

Danielle (B): “That's why I feel for this. These type of passages, because then it's not so direct... it's explaining it in a more spiritual way.”

Listener Questions and Discussions

1. Feminine vs. Masculine Traits in Women

[42:42] The first listener question explores what men notice as feminine or masculine traits in women.

• Danielle's Perspective:
  • Appreciates women who take care of themselves, evident through their lifestyle choices (e.g., diet, fitness).
  • Values natural beauty and self-expression through makeup or tattoos as forms of art.
  • Dislikes aggressive demeanor and poor treatment of others, finding it unattractive.

Danielle (A): “I love when women take care of themselves... how you nurture yourself is super attractive to me.”

• Dice's Perspective:
  • Emphasizes the importance of demeanor and how women communicate, valuing kindness and approachability.
  • Finds over-aggressiveness and domination in conversations unattractive, associating them with self-consciousness or unhappiness.

Danielle (A): “Aggressive, Yeah, I hear you're aggressive... that's a very self-conscious or unhappy.”

[44:25] They discuss societal stereotypes versus genuine traits, agreeing that true femininity lies in nurturing and self-care rather than superficial appearances.

Danielle (A): “You could go to the grocery store, you just woke up or just got out the gym... that doesn't make you less feminine.”

2. Attractive Qualities and Insecurities

[50:24] The next question addresses what men find attractive that women may feel insecure about.

• Danielle's Insights:
  • Finds passion and enthusiasm in women’s interests highly attractive.
  • Appreciates when women share their hobbies and are genuinely excited about their pursuits.

Danielle (A): “I find it super attractive when you can be super interested in something and want to teach me about it.”

• Physical Insecurities:
  • Discussed aspects like body hair, stretch marks, and natural body lines.
  • Both agree that men generally do not focus on these insecurities and are more attracted to overall self-care and confidence.

Danielle (A): “I actually like that when it glistens and sparkles in the sun.”

Danielle (A): “If he's flipping out about you having prickly legs, he's not the one.”

3. Approach to Dating

[67:15] The discussion shifts to desirable approaches to dating and modern communication dynamics.

• Danielle's Philosophy:
  • Prefers a slow, natural progression in relationships without immediate expectations.
  • Values setting personal standards and not chasing after someone perceived as uninterested.
  • Criticizes the modern immediacy of communication, advocating for mindful and intentional interactions.

Danielle (A): “I like the slow play. I don't like immediate expectation... if a guy's into you, he will make the time.”

• Dice's Experience:
  • Shares his own experiences with dating dynamics and the importance of not feeling responsible for a partner’s happiness.
  • Emphasizes the significance of awareness and acceptance in managing expectations and attachments.

Dice (A): “No, there is a pressure... communicate what you want out of a situation.”

4. Chivalry in Modern Generation

[77:03] The final pointed question briefly addresses whether chivalry is dead in today's generation.

• Consensus:
  • Both Danielle and Dice agree that chivalry is not dead in their personal experiences.
  • They both believe that respectful and considerate behavior continues to thrive in their social circles.

Dice (A): “Not in my world.”

Danielle (B): [Interrupts to highlight Dice’s response]

Notable Quotes

• Dice on Overcoming Challenges:

  “[04:55] Dice: You don't have to win all your battles, but you have to fight them.”

• Danielle on Emotional Support:

  “[20:17] Danielle: It's like… feeling safe is so immeasurable when it comes to like ultimate masculinity.”

• Dice on Relationship Dynamics:

  “[33:59] Dice: Learn to enjoy her anger, her tears, her silent hardness. The world will give you the same at times.”

• Danielle on Communication Standards:

  “[72:28] Danielle: What I don't like is that people have this expectation that we have to respond just because we have our phone with us all the time.”

Conclusion

The episode concludes with Danielle and Dice emphasizing the importance of authentic communication, setting personal standards, and understanding the evolving dynamics of masculinity and femininity in modern relationships. Danielle teases the continuation of the conversation in part two, promising more insights and listener questions.

Danielle (B): “Make sure that not only you're looking out for the episode, but if you use Spotify to listen to your podcast... come back next week. We have part two. Love you. Bye.”

Key Takeaways

1. Authenticity in Relationships: Both hosts stress the importance of being genuine and setting clear personal standards without succumbing to societal pressures.

2. Balancing Energies: The interaction between masculine and feminine energies requires understanding, support, and respectful communication to foster healthy relationships.

3. Modern Communication Challenges: The immediacy of digital communication can create unrealistic expectations; mindful interactions help maintain balance and reduce misunderstandings.

4. Personal Growth through Challenges: Embracing physical and mental challenges leads to personal development and greater resilience in relationships.

5. Chivalry and Respect: Acts of chivalry and respect remain significant and valued in contemporary relationships, countering the notion that they are obsolete.

This summary encapsulates the rich and engaging discussions between Danielle and Dice, offering valuable insights into men's perspectives on dating, relationships, and personal growth. The inclusion of notable quotes and structured sections ensures clarity and depth, making it a useful guide for those who haven’t listened to the episode.