Marriage Real Talk: Dumb Fights, Big Laughs | Sadie, Christian, 2Mama & 2Papa

Summary

WHOA That's Good Podcast — Marriage Real Talk: Dumb Fights, Big Laughs

Host: Sadie Robertson Huff
Guests: Christian Huff (co-host), Two Mama, Tupava (Sadie’s grandparents)
Date: December 8, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this lively, laughter-filled episode, Sadie Robertson Huff sits down with her husband Christian and her grandparents, affectionately known as Two Mama and Tupava, to talk about the dumbest arguments and fights they've experienced in marriage. Drawing from stories within their own relationships and reliving reactions to clips submitted by this year’s podcast guests, the episode turns the spotlight on the lighter—and relatable—side of marriage. Their motto: it's all about learning to not take things too seriously, letting little annoyances go, and building a strong team for the long haul.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Infamous Car Ride “Argument” & External Processing

• [03:48] The group reminisces about a memorable family car ride where Tupava’s non-stop external processing (talking through everything he thinks) mildly annoyed Christian, leading to covert texting among family members from the front to the back seat. The confusion ends in laughter when texts are accidentally read aloud, revealing everyone’s shared feelings.
  • Sadie: “I get a text from Christian... then Two Mama sends him a text saying ‘You’re driving him crazy,’ and Tupava reads it out loud—‘Who am I driving crazy?’”
• Takeaway: Even the "dumb" moments (navigational nagging, texting in secret) create cherished family memories.

2. Longevity in Marriage & Letting Go of Silly Fights

• [07:14] Two Mama reflects on 54 years of marriage: you reach a point where silly arguments (“fashion dilemmas,” such as Tupava not wearing socks) are shrugged off instead of fought over.
  • Two Mama: “Eventually you just give up, you know. There’s no use in fighting the little things.”
• [10:22] Tupava jokes, “I have the most wonderful, best marriage on earth. I just wish she did.”
• Big message: Disagreements are inevitable, and most truly are forgettable as your history together grows.

3. Embracing Each Other’s Quirks & Staying Humble

• Two Mama observes that Tupava’s humility—being able to laugh at himself and admit he’s not perfect—helps keep peace.
  • [12:08] “In any marriage, you can be humble about your mistakes... He is good about that.”
• Sadie notes that Christian’s quirks actually remind her of Tupava, which feels grounding and loving.

4. Letting Go and Not Keeping Score — Practical Growth

• [15:26] Sadie shares her “hat and closet” saga with Christian: “I’ve asked you like at least 10 times to clean this closet and the hats...but I haven’t been annoyed by it. It hasn’t caused a fight.”
• Recognizing growth: What used to feel like a big deal in year one becomes easier to laugh about as the marriage matures.

5. COVID-Era Arguments — When Little Things Felt Big

• [18:13] Christian retells the story of being stopped at the Florida border during COVID, the pressure not to “lie” about their Louisiana residency, and the stress-induced disagreement about how to respond.
  • Sadie: “I'm like, you cannot lie... Then Christian just says ‘Nope’ to the police!”
  • [22:32] “I would have been at the Holiday Inn for two weeks if he had asked me the questions.”
• Reflection: The little things that seemed huge under stress fade with time.

6. Becoming a Team Through Parenthood

• As children and family grow, couples become allies and sounding boards for handling new frustrations—often trading squabbles about each other for managing kid chaos together.
  • [23:59] Two Mama: “You kind of then form this camaraderie...we’re a team.”

7. Learning to Be “Unoffendable”

• [14:22] Sadie references the book "Unoffendable" and praises letting small things go as the ultimate secret to not letting dumb fights derail the relationship.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Quote | Speaker | |-----------|-------|---------| | 01:40 | “You’re the secret sauce.” | Sadie to Two Mama | | 10:22 | “I have the most wonderful, best marriage on earth. I just wish she did.” | Tupava | | 13:47 | “He is good about that...to be humble about your mistakes...” | Two Mama about Tupava | | 15:26 | “I’ve asked you like at least 10 times to clean this closet and the hats, but I haven’t been annoyed by it.” | Sadie | | 22:44 | “I would have been at the Holiday Inn for two weeks if he had asked me the questions.” | Sadie (on the COVID border crossing) | | 36:54 | “For us, it’s never been a jealousy thing like that...he’s free to say, ‘She is so pretty.’” | Two Mama | | 46:29 | “That is really the key to a successful marriage: not taking really very few things personally...” | Two Mama | | 61:14 | “Pick your battles. Don’t take things too personally. Don’t be too sensitive...” | Sadie |

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [03:48] Family car ride “argument” & external vs. internal processors
• [07:14] Reflecting on 54 years of marriage — perspective on dumb fights
• [15:26] Sadie and Christian’s “hat and closet” saga
• [18:13] COVID-19 border crossing disagreement
• [23:59] Shifting from fighting each other to being a team
• [28:12]–[35:38] Reaction and commentary to guest-submitted “dumbest arguments,” including:
  • Oil changes as “husband duties”
  • Spice cabinet “retaliation” in a misunderstanding
  • “Dad gum” reactions and jealousy
• [47:08] DawnCheré & Rich’s beard trimmings in the sink fight
• [49:39] Jess Connolly’s “hangry bride” wedding night meltdown
• [53:32] The Perry’s—buying basketball hoops and shoes leads to pride and resentment
• [55:52] Drive-thru disasters over seasoning and fast food orders
• [59:07] Ms. Tara (marriage counselor) shares toothbrush and “the Squirrel” stories; picks her battles

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Highlights from Listener & Guest Stories

• Minor household habits create major drama: From closet clutter, Pyrex lids, beard trimmings, and the proper angle for dishwasher tongs, to whether to put old or new pans in the oven.
• Food fights: Being hangry on your wedding night, or getting into it over who gets up for midnight pregnancy cravings.
• Misunderstandings becoming slapstick: A particularly wild moment involves a bride tossing cayenne pepper on her husband in the shower, believing he complimented another woman (he actually said, “pretty dog”).
• Drive-thru breakdowns: Minor fast food errors morph into heated exchanges after a rough day, only to feel silly—and end in humility and laughter—later.
• “Jealousy” triggers & trust: Generational insights on confidence and letting your spouse notice other people’s looks (and not taking it personally).

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Takeaways & Tone

• Authentic, playful, deeply practical: The episode’s warmth comes from the willingness of several generations to laugh at themselves and reveal the harmless, ridiculous nature of minor spats alongside heartfelt lessons.
• Marriage advice, summed up:
  • Pick your battles and don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • Communicate your expectations—don’t rely on unspoken “rules.”
  • Let little things roll off your back and choose not to be offended.
  • You’ll barely remember the pile of hats, the closet you nagged about, or the time you debated Pyrex lids—what lasts is the fact that you navigated it all together.
• Best practical wisdom: “Not taking things personal is really the key to a successful marriage..." – Two Mama [46:29]
• Teamwork develops over the years—not just tackling the world together but becoming each other's support when the rest of the family (kids, siblings, grandkids) bring their own challenges.

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Episode in a Nutshell

Whether it’s old Pyrex, car ride commentaries, beard trimmings, midnight snacks, or the right way to stack the trash, marriage is full of dumb little fights. But as the episode joyously demonstrates, with humility, teamwork, and just a little bit of humor, those spats don’t become landmines—they become stories. And eventually, most of them fade into laughter shared over decades.

Final wisdom:
“Pick your battles. Don’t take things too personally. Don’t be too sensitive. And later in life, you’ll look back and laugh.” — Sadie [61:14]

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For More:
Sadie invites listeners to share their own funny marriage arguments in the comments—because everyone’s got a “dumb fight” story worth remembering!

Transcript

[Tupava]

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[Sadie]

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[Christian]

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[Sadie]

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What's up everybody? Happy Monday. I hope you're having a great week. It is going to get so much better after this because it's gonna be quite the episode. I actually have Christian co hosting with me and we have my grandparents on the podcast, two Mama and two Papa. Yeah, give it up. Give it up for.

[Tupava]

It's not a button. Those are actual clapping.

[Sadie]

You know, actually, two Mama, this is the big flex on the what's Good podcast this year. Out of our top ten episodes, I think you were in three of them.

[Two Mama]

Really?

[Sadie]

I think you're the secret sauce.

[Two Mama]

Okay, that may be. We'll see. We'll see. After today.

[Sadie]

You're. You're in the hall of fame.

[Tupava]

I'll be the whipped cream.

[Sadie]

What?

[Tupava]

Secret Sauce.

[Sadie]

Gotta have whipped cream with sauce.

[Tupava]

Secret sauce.

[Two Mama]

And the sauce is whipped cream.

[Tupava]

I like it like a.

[Sadie]

You've never seen someone use more sauce on things than Tupava. True. That is something about youtubeava that you could have a whole Instagram account called Secret Sauce and just post about the sauces you put on food and one.

[Christian]

Of them would be whipped cream.

[Two Mama]

It would be the same thing. Cause like he just puts everything that's out there.

[Sadie]

It's so weird. It's so sweet.

[Tupava]

I'm picturing like whipped cream on cane sauce or something like that. That would not be good.

[Sadie]

I don't know where this conversation is going, but what we're going to talk about today is actually the dumb fights that we've had in our marriage. And actually this whole year I've been interviewing all these amazing people. And after we, you know, stop recording our episode, I've been able to ask them this question. What's the dumbest fight you got into? And we have some hilarious arguments people have gotten into from some of your favorite guests on the podcast this year that we cannot wait to show y', all that we're going to be reacting to for the first time. I've. I've seen them, y' all haven't seen them, and some of them are pretty epic. But first, I thought it would be great to talk about with the four of us some of the dumb arguments we've gotten into. But before I get into our individual marriages, one argument, awkward, dumb argument we all got into with the four of us was actually one of my favorite moments ever. So each year after Ella sister conference, we've tried to make it a point to take a trip with just our family. And this past year, we were like.

[Two Mama]

Your family plus us.

[Sadie]

Yes.

[Two Mama]

To help.

[Sadie]

So we did just us the year before. And then we went just us for the first couple of days. Days. But then I was speaking at Pepperdine at the end of that trip, and you guys have friends in Malibu. And so we were like, oh, that would be so fun. Y' all should come and come to Disney World with us. Disneyland. And it was so fun. It was so fun that we pretty much did it again just last week. We wanted jota con with us to California, but there was one moment where I guess, let's just say for all of our listeners.

[Tupava]

Are you clarifying this as an argument?

[Sadie]

Well, it's just funny. It's just funny. Riding the car with Tupaba is an experience of a life.

[Two Mama]

I really think I should preface.

[Sadie]

You should.

[Two Mama]

Okay. Because Chupapa is what I call an external processor.

[Sadie]

True.

[Two Mama]

Like, everything he thinks and sees must be spoken where I am an internal processor. Like, I see things and I think things, but I just don't say anything about it. So sometimes.

[Tupava]

And you look very nice today.

[Two Mama]

Thank you, sweetie. Sometimes that can be a problem. So in this particular incident, Christian was on the receiving end of the external processing. Now you can start.

[Sadie]

So 2baba was sitting. He was driving, which I don't know how.

[Two Mama]

Like, he was driving. No, Christian was driving.

[Sadie]

You were driving. You were in the front seat. We were in the back. And okay, this is what happened. I remember now. We were trying to get gas. But you were not. Christian, were you not getting over in the time Chiuba thought you should get over?

[Tupava]

Yeah. It was like a thousand feet to merge over. So I'm like, there's a thousand feet to get over.

[Sadie]

So Tupava kept commenting on the fact that Krishna needs to get over, but you were saying it.

[Tupava]

My blinker's on.

[Sadie]

The whole time I got my blinker's on. He's doing all he can do, freaking me out. So I get a text from Christian saying from the front seat to the back seat, like, no one else knows this. I get a text from Christian basically saying, like, he's driving me crazy. At the same time as I get a text, two Mama sends Tupa texts. We don't know we're texting each other. None of us know. Saying, you're driving him crazy. And two Mama looks down on his phone and says, who, Chris? Who? Who am I driving crazy?

[Two Mama]

Just, like, blurts that out loud.

[Sadie]

And at that point, sitting in the back seat.

[Two Mama]

So, like a good wife, I'm trying to make. Manage him and. And help him out. So I'm just like, you know, gently send him a text. You're. You're. You're. Yeah, leave him alone.

[Tupava]

Yeah, we're in, like, standstill LA traffic.

[Sadie]

The text out loud.

[Two Mama]

Out loud.

[Sadie]

And then he's like, who? But who is. Who am I bothering?

[Two Mama]

Back to the external processing.

[Sadie]

I was like, christian, Johnny. And I was like, I was dying. If you have answers. I was like, I'm going to be honest with you. I also just got a text from.

Saying the same thing. We were done.

[Two Mama]

We were all done.

[Tupava]

That ended up being the best memory of the trip.

[Sadie]

It actually. It actually did. And we're still talking about.

[Two Mama]

Well, that and the earthquake.

[Sadie]

Oh, yeah. That trip was an external processor in an earthquake is really funny.

I just remember being.

[Tupava]

What did he say?

[Two Mama]

Something he yelled down the hall.

That.

[Tupava]

Was like, it's over.

Don't worry about it. It's over.

[Sadie]

Don't worry about it. It's over. Okay, so now that we got, you know, our wheels spinning, two mom and Tuoba, can y' all think of some dumb arguments you've gotten into over the past 50 years of marriage?

[Two Mama]

Well.

[Tupava]

Well, I mean, there's just so many.

[Christian]

We can never think of.

[Tupava]

Just one.

[Two Mama]

Yeah, here's what happened. Here's the good news about 54 years. You kind of check y' all remembered. How many. How many years?

[Sadie]

How long have we been married? Six years.

[Two Mama]

Okay, you take. You got six years. So your memory is six years. Maybe add that engagement year, you know, maybe seven years. So when you've been married 54 years, you're looking at, like, one filing cabinet of a marriage and, like, 10 stuffed with memories and things and good times and bad times and disagreements and all that. So it get. It does get harder to remember one specific argument. So. But all of them, mostly that I would not save an argument because I don't know that we even fight over things like that anymore. Because eventually you just give up, you know, like the clothes he wears. I mean, I just give up. There's no. You know, it's a fashion dilemma every day. But I'm just like, it's okay. You're. You're fine. Don't wear socks. Just wear a black shirt and a white T shirt under it. You know, I was like, okay, just go ahead.

[Sadie]

Are you really not wearing socks?

[Two Mama]

Never.

[Sadie]

What? That's weird.

[Two Mama]

He used to tell Mama when we were dating, they match his gloves, and he'd hold his hands up like that.

[Christian]

So.

[Two Mama]

Yeah. So, you know, after a while, there's things you just. You just give up on. That's all you do. You just, like, shrug and move on. So that's the good news. Your future will hold a time when you just won't even remember the little silly arguments because your memory bank really is full of great memories and great things and that kind of thing. Now, does that mean we don't have disagreements on the Daily, weekly, monthly. Okay, that still exists. And most of them involve this external thinking process that happens.

[Tupava]

Often involve the car and often involve.

[Two Mama]

In the car. Yeah.

[Sadie]

Trips to Huntsville with y'. All.

[Two Mama]

Yeah.

[Sadie]

Are never boring. It's actually really encouraging, though, because I think so many couples, probably especially a lot of people listening to this podcast, have not been married 54 years. Remembered. Six years, five years, two years, one year. Maybe they're not married yet. They're engaged. They're dreaming about marriage one day. And so it's nice to know, okay, it's okay to have disagreements. It's okay to have arguments even every single day and still have a great marriage. And 54 years later, we can say, we're still married. We have an amazing family, and yet we argued a lot, and we got on each other's nerves, and we got past it, and we're still each other's best friend. You guys have literally gone across the country, like, four times over the last month. You went to New York, you went to L. A, you went to Tampa, you went to Miami, and not even like. Like, you went to New York, then you went to Miami, then you came back home, then you went to la, then you went to Tampa. Like, y' all travel the world together. And y' all are going to see, like, comedians that you love, and you're going to be with grandkids and you're going on dates. And, like, seeing y' all's relationship is so insp. So it's actually really cool to hear you say sometimes you drive each other crazy, but you can still have a great marriage.

[Two Mama]

Wait, wait. Have you told them what your favorite saying is?

[Tupava]

It's a crazy kind of love.

[Two Mama]

No, not that.

What's the other thing that you say about your marriage?

[Tupava]

Oh, yeah, let's see. I say that I have the most wonderful, best marriage on earth. I just wish she did.

[Sadie]

Yeah. Have you heard me say that?

[Two Mama]

Which is not true. I have a great marriage. But again, and part of his, like, external processing, he thinks that I am not having a good time because of him driving people crazy. Like Christian or, you know, he's notorious for. While we're all having a great conversation about family, deciding to give us a quote about what's happening over in China with something we're not even talking about, that it's true. Is that true?

[Sadie]

But we love you for it. I told you, the pastor at church is reminded me of you.

[Tupava]

I, I, I do get called Tupava junior Sometimes. But my favorite one with you is your inopportune, like, mail delivery times. Oh, yes.

[Two Mama]

Oh, yeah.

[Sadie]

Oh, yeah. He always has mail for us. But actually, that's sweet because a lot of people say, like, people marry their dad like someone like their dad. And I feel like Bella married someone like our dad. Like, Jacob's not like dad. But you are such a, like, father figure to me my whole life. Like, you would take me on dates all the time and show up at all my games, all my sports. Like, you are such a dad to me. And I feel like I married someone like you because Christian is a lot like you in a lot of ways. And you're one of Christian's favorite people. So even though you did low key drive him crazy, that one car ride, he's the one that wanted you back.

[Tupava]

You weren't even driving dirge to meet the people. You weren't even. Well, it was also probably a combination of the kids screaming in the back.

[Sadie]

There is a lot happening.

[Tupava]

We've been at Disneyland all day, so.

[Sadie]

There was a lot happening.

[Two Mama]

But I also have to say about Tupaca, though, he is the most, like, not sensitive or most humble about himself. Like, you can say that. You can say you are driving Christian crazy and he doesn't care. So I don't know if that's not good or bad, but I really think it is good in the long run. It's really good because he's open to conversations about improving. He's not necessarily going to do that, but he's open to it because he'll forget it. But he's. He. He is good about that. Like, I think that's what's great in any marriage is that you can be humble about your mistakes, what you've done wrong.

[Sadie]

And yes, you know.

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There is a book, but I didn't read the book, but I did the bible study version of it on the Bible app and it was called Unoffendable, like being unoffendable. And it was really, really good. And I think that you're like that and that's actually really good in marriage, especially when it comes to, like, little arguments, because that's how they don't become big ones, is if. Just let them roll off, not even, like, laugh it off. Like, just know who you are. Be unoffendable. Christian. I were trying to think of the dumbest arguments we've had. And what's actually cool is even just six years, which is not a lot amount of time, we couldn't even hardly think of one, because even though we know we do have dumb arguments a lot. Like, we couldn't pinpoint, like, oh, when that happened or that happened, because when you look back, even like this past month, I'm like, you start to not remember those little things, you know, because they're just not that big of a deal. And you. I feel like in just six years, we're not as bothered by things as we used to. Like, for instance, there was this part of the closet that Christian had all of his clothes and that he had not unboxed these clothes that this company.

[Tupava]

Said, you told me this last night.

[Sadie]

I know, but I was like, you know what? I was like, you know what, though? I didn't let it really bother me. And this is good, because Christian got this company, sent him all these clothes, and they've been sitting in our closet forever in the same spot. And I'm like, hey, it would be great if you kind of, like, go through those clothes. Well, he hadn't gone through the clothes. Hadn't gone through the clothes. And then he also has, like, a million hats. And I'm like, hey, like, you should go through those hats, because they're taking up our entire counter space. And also, he continues to buy new hats. So I'm like, you gotta go through the hats. These hats get sent in the meantime. No, you do buy a lot of hats in the meantime. I cleaned out all side of the closet. I'm also cleaning out all the girls closet. So I'm like, okay, you can do this one portion.

[Two Mama]

You are good at that, Sadie. You're like, I do try.

[Tupava]

She was doing all that. She was doing all that in spite of me not cleaning the closet.

[Two Mama]

Oh, she's.

[Sadie]

No, I really wasn't. Yeah, I was gonna say. No, I wasn't. I just wanted myself to be clear.

[Two Mama]

Yeah, you're good about that.

[Sadie]

And so it was just funny because last night we thinking of dumb arguments, and I was like, you know what's funny is I was like, I actually have asked you, like, at least 10 times to clean this closet and the hats, but I haven't been annoyed by it. Like, I'm not frustrated by. It hasn't caused a fight. It's just something that I continue not fighting with him.

[Two Mama]

You're not throwing hats at him.

[Sadie]

You're not like, just, yeah, a huge deal. It's just like, hey, I'd love for you to do that at some point. And I was like, I think that that that's just a small thing of growth in our marriage in just six years by not being like, you know, in your first year. You're so sensitive to things where it's like, you don't listen to me. I've asked you so many times, like, none of that. It's just like, hey, for real, boy, get your hats out of the way.

[Tupava]

I'm really not a messy person. It just. When it gets to the point of.

[Sadie]

Like, being, you get overwhelmed. It's like, it's like a big task.

[Tupava]

I don't know where I would start with my hundred hats.

[Two Mama]

Well, we're like that with Chupapa's table that sits beside his chair in our bedroom. Like, our bedroom is like the biggest mess ever, all the time. Because his pile is just piled an entire.

[Tupava]

That's like me.

[Sadie]

An entire area. But if you cleared that spot, the whole room would feel different.

[Two Mama]

Yes. He just keeps stacking things on these, like saying, I'm going to read that. I'm going to read that. I'm like, when are you going to read 50 things that are stacked up there? And he says when he, like, totally. He says, eventually, yeah, like, when he totally retires. Which I don't ever see that happen.

[Sadie]

You're ever going to tell me.

[Two Mama]

I don't think you will either.

[Sadie]

The other arguments that we could think of, though, all were in Covid days, which is funny, I think, because we.

[Tupava]

Were like, quarantined.

Long distance and dating and engagement to quarantine marriage.

[Sadie]

Yeah, that will cause some dumb arguments. What were the ones that we thought.

[Tupava]

Of the COVID The driving to Florida.

[Sadie]

Oh, this is funny. Yeah, we did get in a.

[Tupava]

This was you being sensitive.

[Sadie]

Yeah, this was bad.

[Tupava]

This would not have happened now.

[Sadie]

So during COVID crazy days. Do you want to tell the story?

[Tupava]

Yeah.

[Christian]

So it's.

[Tupava]

It's like height of COVID crazy times. So we're driving to Florida because you can't. This was at the point, you know, where air, like the airport was still shut down and everything. So we were driving to go visit my family for something. It was over the summer. We had no kids yet. It was just the two of us, and we were driving To Florida. We get to, like, the. The state line of Alabama and Florida. So to kind of go into Florida, kind of near Pensacola, that area right there, and you come up to this checkpoint. It's like the interstate's, like, shut down.

[Sadie]

This is important. And this is so crazy to think about, but at the time, no one from the state of Louisiana or the state of New York could enter Florida. Because Louisiana and New York were such big Covid hubs. No, we did know that, but we were like.

[Two Mama]

Yeah, I remember that because they were saying it was because of Mardi Gras.

[Sadie]

Yeah, because Mardi Gras, it was at the beginning of all.

[Tupava]

We're on driving an interstate. Like, how do you.

[Sadie]

Yeah, so we were like, they're not going to know. Like, your family's there. We're just going to go. You know, it's fine.

[Tupava]

Yeah, well, so the interstate, it's, like, block. It's, like, blockaded. It's like. You can't. It's, like, barricaded. You can't keep the. They, like, you get merged over to, like, one of the. You know, one of those roadside. One of those roadside checkpoint things. Yeah. And there's, like, 30 cop cars, so you have to, like. But they have these, like, individual, like, stations interrogated. They have these, like, individual, like, station tents set up, and you don't have to get out or anything. You just kind of pull through and this person. You, like, roll into it or this person's, like, super. And it's super. This person's, like, super intense.

[Sadie]

Thankfully, we were in your car, which still had your Florida license plate.

[Tupava]

Yes.

[Sadie]

But the whole time we're leading up to it. I'm saying to Christian, you cannot lie. You cannot lie. If they ask us, like, if we've been in Louisiana, like. Like, we just have to tell.

[Tupava]

But this was still time when people were, like, crazy. It was like, you get locked up in a hotel for two weeks.

[Sadie]

For two weeks. And we were seeing that. Remember, we just saw Craig had been locked in that hotel for two weeks.

[Tupava]

Like, crazy stuff.

[Sadie]

Yes. This is so crazy.

[Tupava]

We pull through this thing, and I'm in my truck. I still have my Florida license plate. And the cop. So Sadie has this whole mantra.

[Sadie]

We're gonna say. We're. Say your family's from here. We've driven seven hours. We can't turn around. I gave the sign, but in my.

[Tupava]

Mind, I'm thinking, what if we pull in and they're like. Like, come to the Holiday Inn with us for two weeks. You know, I'm like, we're not. Like, we're not doing this. So I pull in, and they're.

[Sadie]

But what's funny is, the whole time, Christian was just telling me. Okay. Like, he never told me.

[Tupava]

Oh, yeah.

[Sadie]

He was just like, yeah. I'm like, okay, you're just gonna tell him where they're feeling. He's, like, listening to me. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. So I pull in, and the officer's like, no.

[Tupava]

It's. This person's, like, intense. Have you been to. Have you been in Louisiana, New York, or some other random last two weeks?

[Sadie]

Have you been to New York, somewhere else in Louisiana? And Christian goes, nope. And I was like, all right. Thank you. Christian's like, save yourself.

And he sends us on. And I was like, you lied? And he was like, I had to.

[Tupava]

Either we're driving seven hours back to Louisiana, or we're at the Hampton Inn.

[Sadie]

I'm like, for 30 minutes? He goes, did you want to turn around? Drive? Do you want to be in the Hampton? I told you not to lie. And I was like, yeah, who would we be? Because we were like, you know, well, if we were in a war, you would sometimes have to lie to save yourself. And I was like, I don't know if I could do it.

[Two Mama]

That was okay. That's a funny part.

[Tupava]

I don't condone lying, because it is a sin.

[Sadie]

But the funniest part, though, which is, like, the buildup, and I just was like. And you were just going along with it, like, yes, that's exactly what I'm gonna do. And he's like, have you been to the show? New York, Louisiana, the past two weeks? And you're like, no.

[Tupava]

I'm like, the Lord forgave you.

[Sadie]

He did forgive us, and we got to go be in Florida.

[Tupava]

We had a good time with my family.

[Sadie]

We did have a good time. That's, like, a very memorable trip because I rem. Just the beginning stages of COVID Like, any door we open, we could, like.

[Two Mama]

So where did they think y' all were coming from?

[Sadie]

Well, thankfully, he had that Florida license. Okay, so maybe he could have been Alabama. Okay. Yeah, that makes sense. But. Oh, man. I would have been at the Holiday Inn for two weeks if he asked me the questions.

[Two Mama]

That's.

[Tupava]

Or you would have been seven hours back to the 15 hours.

[Sadie]

Oh, my gosh.

[Two Mama]

I think Christian said something, though, that kind of speaks to remembering things. As you said, it was just YouTube, so that. Of course, you're gonna remember that now you have three kids that layer everything else. So, like, Your brain can't. Like, now we have three kids, three in law kids, 14 grandkids, 10 great grandkids. Like, we've got a lot of other people who can annoy us. It doesn't have to just be healed. You know what I mean? And we can, can also use each other as like, okay, you're my sounding board for if I'm annoyed at a sister or at a brother or at a, you know, or somebody else in the family, you know, so you kind of then form this camaraderie of like, you know, we're a team. So I think that's. I'm giving y' all some more advice for 54 years of marriage.

[Sadie]

That's actually so true. Because all of our memories of annoying each other was when we were. Before we had kids, y'.

[Tupava]

All.

[Two Mama]

Yeah.

[Sadie]

And then actually we've been saying, like, we feel like more like a team than ever because you are our team. And because we're dealing with the frustrations we have with a two year old or with like, you know, all the parenting of all the things.

[Two Mama]

Which is way harder actually than saying no to a, you know, when you're dealing with a sick child or a disobedient child or something. That just is so hard. That's so hard. And then the other things just take a back seat in your memory banks because it's just not really that important.

[Sadie]

No, because that's the thing. Like the big arguments standing out because they were a big deal. You know, it was like, oh, we were arguing over how we're going to parent this situation or what we're going to do or all of those things. But like the funny ones and just throughout the day, like the dumb little ones, you didn't put your hats up or you didn't. It doesn't really matter. So you can hardly even remember it. But then thinking back to our marriage, those were, like, silly. But at the time, that was our big deal, you know, so it's just funny.

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[Tupava]

Yeah, most of our arguments are usually pretty, pretty, pretty good ones.

[Sadie]

They're not that dumb.

[Tupava]

They're not like, oh, that's kind of stupid.

[Two Mama]

It's like, for real.

[Tupava]

Some validity there.

[Sadie]

That's true. We're in the deep end now.

[Tupava]

Because I was thinking about this one. I was like, that was probably a dumb argument, but I was like, actually, no, that was actually broke. Like, that was probably a big one.

[Sadie]

Yeah.

[Tupava]

Or I was thinking of the communion one. Remember, we were doing communion together.

[Sadie]

That's just like the funniest thing ever. Like, it's. It was so not funny at the time, but it is funny to think back on. We were. That was like, the hardest thing we have been through.

[Tupava]

Yeah. We walked through a really difficult time, and then we both came together. We're like, hey, let's do.

[Sadie]

Let's take communion.

[Tupava]

Let's take communion. So we're taking communion.

[Sadie]

We tried to take communion.

[Tupava]

Well, we were in the process of taking communion, and then I think I said. I was like, let me just. I just. I need to. I need to flesh out one. One more thought, you know? And then that blew up. Remember then you slammed the door. You said, I'm going on a walk. And it was like. But it was like, there.

[Two Mama]

The. Meanwhile, the communion cups are just sitting there.

[Sadie]

Grape juice.

[Tupava]

This was. Yeah, I was just sitting at the table, just looking at the. Just the grape juice and the bread and.

The little moonlight walk.

[Sadie]

I know. It's just. Actually just. I. I have given people that advice for take communion because, hey, it'll bring you to Jesus. It'll bring you together. It might. You might have to confess or repent throughout the process, but that is a funny memory to think back then. So we have a lot of different ones that I would love to show from this year. The first one is from Alina Franklin. They had just gotten married. I don't even know that they've been married for a year. And so let's see what her dumb argument is like. I assumed that he would take care.

[Christian]

Of all the car things.

[Sadie]

I didn't say that to his face. I just was like, you're stepping into this. Yes. And I needed an oil change. And I just was like, I need an oil change. And like, a few days went by, and I still hadn't gotten an oil change. And I was such a brat.

[Christian]

I don't even remember how it happened.

[Sadie]

But eventually, like, I just was like, you have not gotten me an oil change. And I just started crying. He's like, what in the world? I storm out. This is probably, like, two months into marriage. It was probably our.

[Christian]

Our worst and also dumbest fight ever.

[Sadie]

Because it was like, y' all are doing great, but PSA to every guy out there. It is, in a sense, it's your job. I mean, sorry, it's not your job if you don't want. If your wife doesn't need you. But I feel, like, expectation. Most women are going into marriage, so you might just want to get the oil change. I was the same way. I'd be like, yeah, like, my oil. Like, he's going off. Like, he. He like, hey, you're gonna do that. And then even, like, whenever we have, like, the inspection stickers here, and I'm like, oh, that's like, get expired. You know, like, just kind of noting it, and it's so funny. And Christian also, like, I. He gets annoyed when he gets in my car, and, like, I'm on low gas. And what he doesn't know is, like, no, that's actually intentional. Like, because I was waiting to be with you so that you come on the gas. And he's always like, how are you always on low gas? I'm like, that's intentional.

[Tupava]

It's not low gas. You're like, you're on three miles.

[Sadie]

What you Don't.

[Tupava]

Also, I love. I love the beginning of that. When she was talking about that, you were like, yes, yes. As if I don't do everything for you.

[Sadie]

No, no, no. Listen, listen. That this is going to spark a dumb argument about all my commentary in these videos, because I was going with the people. I was like, yes, but listen. Expectation without communication results in frustration. And a lot of girls go into marriage expecting their husband to do all these things, but they never communicate it. And then people are getting frustrated out there. You just gotta express your desire.

[Two Mama]

And I think, again, it's that. But what your dad did. And my dad and I do remember doing this in our first six months of marriage with him saying something about, I'm not your dad, you know, because Daddy was the. Get the gas for mom, do all the things. You know, he came home from work, he went right in the kitchen, helped her. We had six kids. He'd get the vacuum out. He did all the things. This was not this man.

[Tupava]

Well, that's my question. 53 years. Years. I can't remember when did. It just seems like you always took care of your own stuff. You always changed your own oil. You always got your own gas.

[Two Mama]

Yeah.

[Tupava]

How did that come about?

[Two Mama]

I don't know.

[Sadie]

Which is funny, because I feel like you did a lot of stuff for.

[Two Mama]

Me at the big things, like the license.

[Sadie]

The license. You always help me.

[Two Mama]

All that kind of stuff. He's always taking. And now I've got a low tire at this very moment, and I'm like, keep saying I've got a low tire.

[Tupava]

I take care of the low tire.

[Two Mama]

And he takes care of the low tires.

[Sadie]

That is so funny. You actually do always take care of all my car stuff. And you do pump my gas, and I'm so appreciative.

[Tupava]

Well, the sweet thing about you is I usually notice. I usually notice what's wrong with your car before you do.

[Sadie]

Yeah, you do.

[Tupava]

So I'll get in the car and be like, hey, you have a low engine oil. You'll be like, oh, didn't know that.

[Sadie]

Yep, that's true.

[Tupava]

It's like the lights, like, for some.

[Sadie]

Reason and no one decided to tell me. The other night when you and Honey and Haven drove my car the next day, I got in it, and I was, like, gagging and, like, rolling on the windows as fast as I can. I called Christian. Did y' all notice a smell in here last night? And Christian's like, oh, yeah, honey. Said it smelled like Cheetos. And I'm like, and no, One looked for where that was coming from. We just let that be one more night, one more day's worth. It's horrible here.

[Two Mama]

That would be like, Johnny's would notice the gas low, but not notice to take out the McDonald's snack. That smell so bad. Yeah.

[Sadie]

Yes. Oh, that's bad. Okay, this one is from Brandon Nicks. I'm just gonna tell y', all, this is the craziest one I've ever heard. So without further ado, and if I agreed with this, I was just being a good sister.

So we were freshly married, and we drove. We were living in an apartment. We were. We're still in apartments, but we were driving into our apartment complex, and.

He got out of the car first, and I was sitting in the passenger seat. And there's this girl that walked by, And I thought he said, wow, you have a really pretty dog. I thought he said, wow, you're really pretty, or something like that, like, to her. But come to find out, like, later, after all the chaos I'm about to tell you happened, he was saying you had a really pretty dog, you know? Oh, my God. I didn't see the dog. It was a tiny little teacup something.

[Two Mama]

And I.

[Sadie]

That is hilarious. I remember, like, I got in the car and I just sat there. I gave him a silent dream. Like, whatever. I'm not coming inside. So he went upstairs, and I'm still sitting in the car, and I'm pouting, and I'm like, I cannot believe he said that. Is he kidding me right now? Do you think he can just go out and compliment, you know, a girl when I'm sitting, right? Like, what is he doing? So I, like. I came upstairs, I gave him a silent treatment. He jumped in the shower, and this is gonna sound like I'm crazy. I mean, I kind of am crazy. But, like, I thought I grabbed, like, paprika or something. I don't know. Like, I don't remember what seasoning I thought it was, but I ran into the shower and, like, put cold water on his head and then poured paprika. But it was actually chili pow or cake. It was cayenne pepper is what it actually was. And he's like, this is burning my eyes. And he's, what is wrong with you?

[Christian]

Are you crazy?

[Sadie]

And it's like, such a horror story. He literally, like, wrapped up in the shower and fell to the ground. I'm like, you called that girl pretty. Like, what is wrong with you? He's like, what are you talking about? I'm like, there's a girl that you called pretty. And he's like, no, the dog was pretty. And so I'm so embarrassed even sharing that.

[Christian]

But that's like one of our.

[Sadie]

Go grab the. I don't know, like, why was it? What was I thinking? Right? Like, I wanted to turn him orange. You know, like, whatever. Because we're very joking in our family. Hilarious. But, like, every time we tell that story, I get immediately so embarrassed because I'm like, what was wrong with me? But that is so funny. And then come to find out, the lady. This is even more embarrassing. The lady that he was talking to is actually our downstairs neighbor.

[Two Mama]

No.

[Sadie]

And I have to see her all the time. That is. It was so embarrassing. So every time you lift, be like, you're really pretty.

And your dog is too. Yeah. My pregnant laugh.

[Two Mama]

They're still married.

[Tupava]

I miss you pregnant.

[Sadie]

Me too. My pregnant laugh is so much funnier.

[Christian]

Yes.

[Sadie]

They're still married. They're still married. They're still married. Yes. I was like, how did you even think to go to the spice cabinet? Like, I would never even thought of that. She was like, I wanted to turn him orange. That was an intrusive thought. Unlocked. She just said, full send. That.

[Two Mama]

That is hilarious.

[Tupava]

That is. That's next level.

[Sadie]

I never done something like that to you.

[Tupava]

You have not.

[Sadie]

Thank God.

[Two Mama]

No, we never did. No, I didn't think of that one. No.

[Sadie]

But that was pretty funny.

[Tupava]

That is one of those things that it would be a huge argument if he actually did color pretty. But it ends up being a dumb argument because it was the dog.

[Sadie]

Yeah, but it's just funny. That is just hilarious. The other day, Christian was making a joke. Someone, like, our friend showed us this picture of this girl, and Christian said, dad gum. And I said, christian, you can't be saying dad gum to another woman. He was quoting something that we had both seen. And then after I said that, his parents.

[Tupava]

But it wasn't even a 10 minute.

[Sadie]

Speech on, like, how we can't be jealous of other people. We can't appreciate the dad gum people. I was like, I was kidding. I was not really mad about the dad gum. I thought it was funny.

[Tupava]

I'm saying that to the listeners.

[Sadie]

Yeah, yeah. You weren't actually saying.

[Tupava]

No, I'm saying to the listeners. They're not thinking I actually said daddy.

[Sadie]

No, but it was just funny because it was followed by us getting this speech on not being jealous in marriage and being confident that we want each other. But I was like, I do want you. I know you want Me. That was just joking. I was.

[Two Mama]

And he can appreciate somebody else being attracted.

[Sadie]

That's okay. You can acknowledge that. That's a generational thing, though. That is interesting. Because I don't know if it's generational or if it's just 30 years in marriage for his parents. 50 years in marriage for y' all in six years. Like, okay, y' all will say, oh, it doesn't matter. You can say someone's attractive and it's fine. But, like, it seems like such a big deal for young people to hear their, you know, spouse say someone's attractive even if they just are attractive. Like, I feel like it automatically causes arguments. In that case, I actually was kidding. But I'm interested to hear your thought on that because I think that's actually pretty, like, universal.

[Tupava]

This is off the cusp. You were not planning on talking about that?

[Sadie]

No, I just want to know what you think. No, no.

[Tupava]

I'm just saying.

[Sadie]

Okay.

[Tupava]

Yeah.

[Two Mama]

Well, I mean, I think for us, it's never been a jealousy thing like that. I mean, he's. He's free to say, she is so pretty. And.

Like yesterday, in fact, we were at the Hub and. Was it the Hub?

[Sadie]

No.

[Two Mama]

Where were we?

[Tupava]

This.

[Two Mama]

No, we weren't at the Hub. I don't know where we were. But some guy. Oh, we were at the ball game at Justice. Ball game. Some guy walked by with really great hair and he said. He said, I really would like that. Would love to have that hair. I want that hair, he said. And I said, you had. You. You had that hair. But it was 50 years ago. I would rather you have that stomach he has.

And he just laughed about it because, you know, that's.

[Sadie]

Well, that's it.

[Two Mama]

Like, not a big deal.

[Sadie]

Chandler and Shree were saying. Because, like, we know we want each other. And it was. It was a funny thing because Chandler had just spilled queso on his shirt. And she was like, I want the gu. Guy with queso and a shirt. Even if that guy's attractive. Which, like, I guess young people, you know that. But you're so sensitive to, like. I don't know, but you're young and you just got married. And I don't. I don't even feel like now. I really was not bothered by that. And even if you did say she was pretty that's so different than, like, when we were dating. I would. I would have been sensitive to that. And that was something I had to work on. Was jealous.

[Two Mama]

You're still gaining. You're still gaining confidence. You're gaining confidence in your relationship. And you know, totally.

[Sadie]

So that's an interesting topic of conversation.

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Okay, next we have Chitima and Mel which was actually one of yalls favorite top 10 podcasts of the year as well. We had a little girl chat and talked about meeting husbands and it was really cute. So here's their arguments.

[Christian]

This is actually so crazy of me. Like this, this reflects poorly on me.

[Sadie]

Normally falls on our craziness.

[Christian]

I'm super particular just in general, but I'm very particular about the dishes. Like that's. If we're gonna get into a fight, it's probably going to be about the dishes. And when we were getting married we got a new set of like Pyrex, just Pyrexes, you know, Tupperware. That's what it was. And so we. So the old ones that I had, I was like okay Michael, basically the old ones are yours. Like if you want to take them to work, take them to work. Because he'll take it to work and then not bring it back. So I, I'm like, just to avoid any argument, any fight, you take the old ones. The new ones from our registry are just for, like, at home, like for food prep or meal prep, things like that. And so that was. That's always been our agreement. And I was out of town once, and these things tend to happen when I'm out of town. But I'm out of town and I notice because I count them. How many again?

[Tupava]

Crazy.

[Christian]

Super crazy. But I count how many are there, the new ones. And one of of them was missing. And so I was like, hey, did you take one of the Pyrexes to work? And he was like, oh, yeah, I did. I. Like, I wasn't thinking about it. Da, da, da.

[Sadie]

Whatever.

[Christian]

I was like, okay, where is it? He was like, oh, it's in the car. I'll go grab it. Right? He goes to grab it. There was food.

I can't even, because I'm getting mad again. But there was food all in it. But it was like spaghetti. Like meat sauce, like red meat sauce. So you know how, like, that gets.

[Sadie]

Stuffed and it's great.

[Christian]

I crashed out. I literally was like, we've talked about this. I'm not a yeller. So I didn't yell. But just like, very calmly, I was like, we talked about this, and now the red sauce is stuck in the lid. And so that's super dumb. Like, I'm talking about it now. Super dumb does not matter.

[Sadie]

We can.

[Christian]

We can buy more, but at the time, it's like a really big deal. Oh, my gosh. I did not talk to him for the rest of the night.

[Sadie]

Oh, my gosh. Isn't it so funny when you're saying something? It's silly, but in the tone, it's like the red sauce is stuck to the stuck. And it's like you're literally talking about red sauce being stuck to it. But it. But it matters. But it matters. Gets personal because you're like. And I told you.

[Christian]

I asked you. That was my whole thing. I was like, I asked you basically specifically not to do this, and you did. And he was like, and. And then it turned into a bigger fight because he was like, well, it's not a big deal. Like, why. Why can't. Like, why can't you see something now? Now we're getting deep. But he was like, why can't you see something? And just like, give me grace. I.

Specifically asked you. It feels like you're disrespecting me and not doing what I'm asking. And so then it became this bigger fight.

[Sadie]

Dumb arguments. There's a root.

[Christian]

There's always a.

[Sadie]

Always a root to it and why it bothered you so much. Right. You know? Right.

[Christian]

And it's not necessarily the other person's fault.

[Sadie]

No. Yeah. You know it's not. That's so true. And you know what? It's so funny how many people have brought the dishes. That is a thing. It's crazy.

[Christian]

I know.

[Sadie]

I think me and Christian are the opposite. Like Christian is you and I'm the. Really? Because I. I don't. Yeah, he's more particular. And so he always does the dishes because he knows if I did it, it would annoy him.

[Christian]

Right. He wants him done a specific way.

[Sadie]

No dishes for you. Yeah. So we're doing the dishes. I'm fine with that. And then if I do it like it'll be like the way he says stuff to me though sometimes where it's like. And I'm like, I know how to do the dishes. Right. You think I'm not capable.

[Christian]

He says that all the time. Michael says that all the time.

[Sadie]

That is so real. We are opposite. There's always someone who does the dishes. Right. And that is the. And who just piles.

That's the me. It'll get washed. It'll be fine.

Have you thought of yalls dumb argument? I don't know. Like we have not any like blow up arguments, but all of mine, all of ours are about my particularities like too. Like in that kind of thing.

[Two Mama]

Like there was one time where he.

[Sadie]

Wanted to bake something and it was like a roast, like in something in a pan. And we had some. I had some brand new pans versus.

[Two Mama]

Like the old ones and he pulled out a brand new.

[Sadie]

I was like, hey, why don't we use an old one for that?

[Christian]

And he was like, why can't I use that?

[Sadie]

You know, like that. But I think like the trash is honestly the like thing. And he accused me like so I have this thing with trash that I don't want it to smell like. So if we have food trash, I'm.

[Two Mama]

Like, hey, can we like put like.

[Sadie]

A smaller trash bag in like and.

[Two Mama]

Hang it here and put all food.

[Sadie]

Trash in there so that we can take the smaller trash bag out immediately? Yeah, immediately.

[Christian]

I'm like, no, we can like take.

[Sadie]

A smaller trash bag out immediately. And then we, we don't like waste large trash bags cuz you know, like.

[Christian]

All, you know, like all that.

[Sadie]

That kind of thing.

[Two Mama]

And like it's just the hardest thing for him to like remember.

[Sadie]

And so I kind of like, I may have, like, you know, said something.

[Two Mama]

That might have, like, thought him think.

[Sadie]

Like, I was like, this is just common sense, babe. Like, I'm always on the receiving.

[Two Mama]

Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

[Sadie]

So evidently, you know, that wasn't the most kind thing to say, which I.

[Christian]

I do agree, but it is like, I totally get you.

[Sadie]

Yes. So Christian would be like, yes, that is so true. That is so real. That is hilarious. See, I really. I really was honest that whole podcast.

[Tupava]

You were. That is true.

[Two Mama]

Those were good. Those were good. Because it's. I think if you're going to be really particular about something and hang on to it, you're going to have some arguments. You know, you have to figure out how far you can take that particular thing that you love. You know, like, if you like, she loves those Pyrex dishes, like, how far are you willing to take that? Because you will have an argument about that particular thing.

[Sadie]

It's true.

[Two Mama]

So there's things that both sides just have to give up.

[Sadie]

And that's the thing. What I was saying with the closet scenario is that it didn't turn into that. Like, it didn't turn into. Into. You don't listen to me. I've asked you so many times. Like, I wasn't offended because I knew it wasn't personal. Like, it didn't have to do with him, like, not trying to value what I say or respect what I've asked. I know Christian, and I know that's overwhelming. It's like so many hats is at the point where he's really going to have to sit down and think about which has he wants, which has he doesn't, what he's going to give away, what does he keep. And because I had just done it with the closet, it does take a lot of time. So it's like just not taking things personal.

[Two Mama]

That is really the key to a successful marriage is not taking really very few things personal in the going down that line of thinking that they don't love me, they do this because they don't love me, or they do this because they're not attracted to me, or they don't do this because. And really, most of the time, they don't have a reason for why they're doing whatever they're doing.

[Tupava]

It's not thinking.

[Two Mama]

And it's not the thing that we. We're us ladies, women are thinking that they're thinking. It's not that at all. They just aren't thinking or vice versa the other way or I'm just not thinking. You Know.

[Sadie]

True. I love that. That's so true. All right, next we have Dawn. Cherie.

[Two Mama]

Okay.

[Sadie]

So I think probably our first year of marriage, one of the dumbest fights we've ever had. I can say it's dumb now. It was not dumb to me. Always. Yeah. It never feels that way in the moment. And it's normally the first year. It was Rich continually leaving, leaving his beard trimmings in the sink. Oh, that is annoying. It created quite the fight. And Rich probably thought it was dumb from day one, but it wasn't done for me that first year. We've gotten past it. Your toothbrush is there.

[Christian]

Oh.

[Sadie]

So thank you. We're on the same team. No, we still have this conversation. Because my toothbrush is there. Exactly.

[Tupava]

You have your own sink.

[Sadie]

No. When we're on vacation. When we're traveling anywhere. We're still working on it. We're still working on it. The grace of God. That is so funny. That is pleasant.

[Two Mama]

Perfect.

[Sadie]

No, for real, when we're traveling and you shave your beard and my toothbrush is right there about all the little hairs. That is.

[Tupava]

Actually I'm growing it out now, so you don't. You don't have to worry about it.

[Sadie]

I'm so thankful.

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Again, moving along, we had Jess Connelly. Well, the dumbest argument that I ever got and was the night I got married. No, the night of our wedding. And it was because I made the mistake that most brides make and that I did not eat at my my wedding. And I was hangry and I was starving and we went back to our hotel and we had a wonderful night. And then it was one o' clock in the morning and I was so hungry and I remember just begging my husband to go get me food. And he was like, well, it's, it's the middle of the night, like I don't know where to get you food. And I just cried and, and I was, I was a, I was a very hungry 20 year old who needed her mommy, literally. And I remember I just yelled and screamed and I went to bed crying my little eyes out. Oh my gosh, that's so real though, because I can relate. But it's like during pregnancy because one time my great grandpa, so my great grandma was telling me a story about my great grandpa, how she craved tacos during her pregnancy. And like at midnight he went to fast food, like got her like tacos, brought it back to her because he knew she wanted them. Wow. And so, yeah, so I threw out one time like, hey babe, like, you know what sounds really good right now? Like a breakfast toaster from Sonic. And guess what he didn't do. Yeah. Get out of bed and go get me the breakfast. This toaster for the last 20 years. Now my husband will go get the food because he is like, never again. I'm not doing that again. First night was the worst. First night was the worst. November. I actually did say that. I was like, oh, you know, it sounds so good. It's like a breakfast toaster from Sonnet.

[Tupava]

I thought you were being.

[Sadie]

And then you were like, yeah, I know. And then I said it a couple more times and then what did I do? I got my own butt up and I went in the kitchen and I got myself, myself out. Tortillas, cheese, eggs and bacon. And I made a homemade one. And you came in and you Said, are you really doing this right now?

[Tupava]

I don't even remember this.

[Sadie]

Is that what, a breakfast toaster?

[Two Mama]

Well, that would never happen with us. Because if I mention food.

[Sadie]

That'S never gonna be Yalls argument.

[Two Mama]

That's never a problem. That is so obviously with us. I won't. I won't ever be hungry. And he's just, like, over there ready for something.

[Tupava]

We did skip lunch today.

[Two Mama]

We did. Yes.

[Christian]

We'll be.

[Sadie]

You're going to get lobster rolls at Captain D's afternoon.

[Tupava]

That's true. Not to. I did that last night. Two in a row wouldn't be bad, though.

[Sadie]

Oh, my gosh. But that is a source of, like, arguments, is whenever you, like, see someone else's spouse do it, and then you try to, like, see if your spouse do it. Like, don't play that game. Like, if. That was so sweet. That pebble shack did that for Mama Joe. But that doesn't mean you have to go do that for me and that you're. You know what I mean? But that's like a sweet scenario because it's my great grandpa, but like a lot of people, it's like social media. It's like, oh, well, her husband did this for her and you won't do this for me or whatever. And that's a sticky slope to get him. All right, next we have Lindsay Gerg, which is such a fun podcast this year. I do remember it was early on in our relationship, it was a big fight over the dishwasher and how things should go. And he thought that the tongs should go down. I thought that they should go up because the food, it was a whole thing, even down to the cups. And we were arguing. We were very upset about this. And I think I was like, well, then you can do the dishes all the time then if you love it so perfectly.

[Christian]

And come to find out, now he.

[Sadie]

Does do the dishes.

I do the laundry. He does the dishes, and he's particular. And sometimes we learn, like, sometimes they're just. We're particular about certain things, and I'm.

[Christian]

Not gonna argue if he's gonna do the dishes.

[Sadie]

So where are the tongs? Down. Now they are. I did win that one.

[Two Mama]

They are up.

[Sadie]

So he's doing the dishes and they're up. Girl, you came out on top for that double win.

[Two Mama]

That's so funny.

[Sadie]

The dishes. All right, moving on along, we have the Perry's, and this one made me laugh.

[Christian]

I think one of. Because we've been married 11 years now, so I'm sure it's A lot of.

[Sadie]

There's many.

[Christian]

But the one I can remember that would be the dumbest is probably. We were married maybe two years. We had moved into a new apartment, like, three. Preston. Preston had. He was no longer working because he was working at Radio Shack. And when them Livestrong bracelets went out, you know, it was like, bro, the business is going down. And so he wasn't working. He was traveling here and there. But my book was about to come out, and so I was making a certain amount of money that I think gave me a sense of pride and entitlement, but also anxiety. And so I came home, and it's two things. You bought some shoes, and he bought a basketball hoop to put on the back of the door. And in my mind, she was so mad. I'm like, you. Whose money was that? You know what I'm saying? And so I'm like, yeah, why would you buy that? So we had this whole argument because I was. The energy I was given was not humble, respectful, loving. But it was from this place of. Now I got a book to pay for them shoes that you decided to buy. Cause Preston's shoes are never $75.

[Sadie]

You got some nice shoes.

[Christian]

He don't got, you know, TJ Maxx Marshalls price shoes. And so. And so. And for me, I was just irritated. Cause I'm like, you know, I think that same month, I had came up with this idea to, like, you know, start my clothing line, which actually does really well for us right now. And she kind of. That gave me her blessing. And I'm like, this basket, Basketball rim, actually helps me think in this place. And so shoot it or whatever. I wasn't. I wasn't just at home, like, you know, playing, like, I. I'm actually thinking about ideas and you know what I mean? And so, yeah, like, did you ever come home, work from work? And he just chilling. So it just. It just plays this part like, so you ain't been doing nothing. Yeah, but. But I actually was thinking. I know you were. You were ideated.

[Sadie]

We've been there. You were ideated. The basketball goal helps me think. That's a good one.

[Christian]

It did. So that was stupid.

[Sadie]

So that was stupid.

[Two Mama]

I love his justification, though, of that basketball.

[Sadie]

I know he's like, hold on now. That was useful. All right, now we got Sophia Watts, and then we got Ms. Tara Tucker one. I mean, it was obviously probably like, I don't know if it's time of the month. I was obviously. It always plays a factor.

[Two Mama]

It does.

[Sadie]

It really does bad day. And I very serious with when we go order food at restaurants. I don't like sauce. I don't like ketchup. I like no sauce. So I'm very serious about my salts and my seasonings because it's gonna taste gross. Because I don't eat sauce if it doesn't have seasoning. So every time we go somewhere, I'm like, can you get, like, an extra cup of the french fry seasoning? And this. Dad was really hungry, and I was like, don't forget. And Taylor, I like to check my food before I leave the drive through window. And he won't. And I'm like, you know, it's easier if you just check it now. We won't have to get back through the line Line. If it's, like, wrong.

[Two Mama]

He left.

[Sadie]

And I was like, wait, did you check to make sure the seasoning was in there? It's stupid. You asked. This is so real. This is so real. Oh, I was so did not check. It was such a bad argument. And it wasn't even about the seasoning at that point. It got to the point where I was like, why did you just get so mad? Why are we arguing.

About the fact that you're arguing? Arguing. That's always what the bigger argument. Isn't that so weird? I can totally relate to that. Oh, me and Christian have had very similar. In the drive thru line of places. I can't remember what happened. Oh, we had a. This. This was similar. We had a wreck, actually. Like, it was our first time to, like, experience a reg together, and we were just dating. Yeah, we were just. We were engaged, and we had this reg and we both were scared out of our minds because it was, like, a really scary thing. Well, then we wanted to go to chick Fil A because we were both hungry. And we, like, called ahead because we knew they were gonna close. And they ended up. So they took our order, they said we got it, and we got there, and we were like, hey, we had an online order. Or we called ahead and we told y' all we were coming, and they're like, we're closed. And we were like, no, no, no, no. Like, we. We called y' all and you told us that you had it. And they were like, well, we don't have it. And they're like, and we're close. I can't. We then turn on each other. And it was like, arguing with each other. And we get mad at each other. Like, you should have called sooner. You should have made sure I'm Like, I did make sure I'm scared. Like, we decided, right? And then, like, the only place open was, like, Sonic. I was like, I don't even like, Sonic. I don't want to eat anymore. And then we both, like. Then he was being so rude to me. I was being so rude to him. And finally I got out of the car. Now I'm just walking in the parking lot. And I'm like, And then it's so embarrassing because you're like, now what do I do?

[Tupava]

Right?

[Sadie]

You gotta get back in the car. I have to get back in the car. Cause we're still, like, an hour away from where we're going. And then, like, just the. The like, humility that it takes to get back in the car. And then it's like you're fighting pride because you want to laugh because you know you're being ridiculous, but you're like, it's not funny yet. One day we can laugh at this, but not today. We're not ready to ride. Yeah. No. It's so real. It's so real. Hey, but if you don't have sauce, you need. You need the seasoning. I. You know how people get upset about their sauce. I hear you. Yes. That is hilarious. So embarrassing. Like, Taylor seemed like a kid. I cannot believe you said that. That is so funny. I actually forgot about that one. But that was a good one.

[Tupava]

That was an epic one.

[Sadie]

All right, turning on the last one, Ms. Tara, who is our marriage counselor. So let's see what her and her.

[Tupava]

You guys heard all of our dumb arguments?

[Sadie]

Yep. Coming from a, you know, therapist. I'm very interested to hear you and Mr. David's arguments. And I'm like, let's pick one.

[Christian]

Everybody who knows Mr. Well, he is, like, he is such a good man.

[Sadie]

But he's a character.

[Christian]

Like, he smokes his cigars, and I wish he wouldn't.

[Sadie]

He drives this big gray squirrel of a truck that sounds like a helicop. It's, like, the only one.

[Christian]

Like, where we live, there's all kinds.

[Sadie]

Of fancy cars, but there is this.

[Christian]

We call it the Squirrel.

[Sadie]

There's just one of them. It is the Squirrel. It is something. I've seen it. Yeah. And he loves to drive it. And he has to wear his just khaki pants. Like, it's almost like he has a uniform.

[Christian]

And so I learned a long time.

[Sadie]

Ago to choose my battles. But we've argued over him stealing my toothbrush. We have argued over him trying to make me drive the Squirrel on a rainy day.

[Christian]

I mean, like, it's just the silly things.

[Sadie]

But I can argue just like anybody.

[Christian]

Else and go completely silly and get.

[Sadie]

Strapped to the point, if you only loved me.

[Christian]

And I'm like, oh, that's manipulative and.

[Sadie]

Passive aggressive at the same time. You're, like, hearing your counseling in your ear. That is so funny. You know, in every marriage, there's someone who cares about sharing a toothbrush, and there's someone who doesn't. I care. I don't care. I'm the. I don't care. You and Gracie. Okay, Gracie. Gracie has also recently stole my toothbrush.

[Christian]

People didn't need to know that. Cause she's living with us for a little bit. And so, Mr. David, like, two weeks ago.

[Sadie]

And then Gracie.

[Christian]

I'm like, have it, y'.

[Sadie]

All. That's disgusting. It's good to know you don't. Oh, I know. We were just in Canada, and I was like, oh, I forgot my toothbrush. And Christian's like, you are not using mine. I was like, yes, I'm using yours. Yes. I was like, you kiss me. I can brush my teeth with your toothbrush. That is so sweet.

[Christian]

That's been a recent one with the.

[Sadie]

I'm like, look if you want to. And for years, we would argue about it, and I finally went, choose your battles, woman. If that's the worst thing he's doing.

[Christian]

And he smells like a cigar as.

[Sadie]

He drives the squirrel in his khaki pants and listens to, like, his strange ish kind of music.

[Christian]

Not bad music, but I'm just like.

[Sadie]

What are you doing? Then let him be the character. Now that's good.

[Tupava]

Now that is good.

[Sadie]

Oh, that's good.

[Tupava]

Pick your baddest.

[Sadie]

That reminds me of y'.

[Two Mama]

All.

[Sadie]

Well, friends, I honestly, I love this. We talked about laughing a lot in this podcast, but you also learn a lot. And I think it ultimately comes down to pick your battles. Don't take things too personally. Don't be too sensitive. And later in life, 54 years down the road, you're going to look back at memories, and those are the things you're going to remember in a bad sense. Those are going to be things you laugh at or can hardly even recall. And I love what y' all said. You've become such a team throughout it, because then other people start to annoy you, and you. You become each other's soundboard. I love that. Well, I hope y' all enjoyed this episode and leave a comment. If. If you have a funny story with you and your marriage, we'd love to see it.

[Tupava]

Isn't it great when you can talk about dumb arguments and not get in one after.

Sa?