What does it mean to stand in total darkness and become a beacon for others? On September 11, 2001, former U.S. Secret Service agent Darin Kinder was inside the World Trade Center complex when the towers fell. He ran from collapsing buildings, guided desperate people toward light in pitch-black debris clouds, and survived one of history’s darkest days.

But this episode isn’t just a 9/11 survival story.

Twenty-four years later, Darin shares how that trauma became the backdrop for discovering true purpose, healing through obedience, and a lifelong vow: to live (and one day be buried) in a “dirty suit”—sleeves rolled up, getting into the mess of life for God’s glory instead of staying clean and comfortable.

In this powerful conversation, Darin opens up about:

The moment he stood in an alley amid screams and dust, calling strangers to safety—and the spiritual metaphor he only saw 10 years later
Why stuffing down pain doesn’t work, and how sharing his story brought unexpected healing
The three core traits he’s instilling in his four sons (and every man listening): integrity, courage, and compassion
Protecting marriage and family during high-stakes seasons (including post-9/11 chaos)
His promise to God after seeing “clean suits” vs. “dirty suits” on 9/11—and why he wants every man to reject a passive, shiny life

If you’re a leader, father, husband, or man feeling the pull toward deeper purpose, this episode is your rallying cry.

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144 | Bury Me in a Dirty Suit: 9/11 Survivor | Author and Speaker Darin Kinder on Faith, Grit, and Living with Valiant Purpose