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Rachel Martin
Hey, everybody, it's Rachel, here to mark a very special moment in the history of our show. Today marks our 100th episode. Woo hoo. We couldn't have done it without you. So the goal all along was to give you an intimate view of a human right that helps expand your understanding, not just of them, but maybe of yourself. And based on the messages that you've sent us, that is happening. And it makes me so happy. Many of you are connecting with the questions in a really deep way and using them to unlock new things about your own friends and family. It has been such a journey, from our very first interview with Jenny Slate to Michelle Obama and Harrison Ford, Oprah. And one of my new favorite episodes, the one we did with comedian Chris Fleming, you've been there supporting us all along, subscribing to the podcast and our YouTube channel, and sharing episodes with your friends, the Wildcard Team. And I cannot thank you enough. Just a heads up, this episode does have some strong language. Is there anything in your life that has felt predestined?
John C. Reilly
I'm the kind of person who really likes to believe in endless possibilities. You know, my wife is much more practical. She'd be like, it's going to rain tomorrow, so we should not plan on kayaking. And I'm like, what do you mean? How do you know it's gonna rain tomorrow? Cause the weather forecast says 90% rain tomorrow. I'm like, yeah, but 10%. Like, let's not get rid of the kayaks yet.
Rachel Martin
I'm Rachel Martin and this is Wildcard, the show where cards control the conversation. Each week, my guest answers questions about their life, questions pulled from a deck of cards. They're allowed to skip one question and to flip one back on me. My guest this week is John C. Reill.
John C. Reilly
Do you know the mysteries of the human brain? Do you understand the more metaphysical aspects of life? The echoes that we leave behind, I think are just undeniable.
Rachel Martin
John C. Reilly has range, whether it's going to comedic extremes with Will Ferrell in Stepbrothers or Talladega Nights or singing about unrequited love as Amos Hart in the musical Chicago. John C. Reilly can really do it all. But lots of actors have range, right? What makes him special is that he also has heart. John lays it all out for his audiences. We come for his talent, but we stay for his empathy. All of it shows up in his most personal creative venture yet, a vaudeville stage show called Mr. Romantic. I'm so very happy to welcome John C. Reilly to Wildcard. Hi.
John C. Reilly
Hi. Thanks for having me.
Rachel Martin
First round, memories. Ready? One, two or three?
John C. Reilly
Two, two.
Rachel Martin
What does your birth order say about you?
John C. Reilly
Oh, interesting. Well, I come from a family of six, so I'm the fifth of six.
Rachel Martin
Ah.
John C. Reilly
Which kind of makes me a middle kid. You know, the classic. A lot of actors are middle kids, actually, believe it or not.
Rachel Martin
Like, is that right?
John C. Reilly
Yeah. It's almost like a cliche among actors because, you know, the older one gets too much attention or the older one gets too much correction. The youngest gets too much, you know, gets spoiled. The middle one's like, hey, what about me? Like, I'm here, too, and it kind of creates extroverts, I guess, or something.
Rachel Martin
Are you very different from your siblings?
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Yeah. I'm the only person who's an actor. I'm the only person who's, like, in the arts. But I do remember being a kid. Like, my older brothers and older sisters got so much, like, attention and correction about what they were doing, who they were seeing, the clothes they were wearing. And my younger brother was just kind of swaddled all the time and, you know, like, not spoiled, but, like, kind of doted on, you know?
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
And I actually felt lucky to be, like, just sort of left alone.
Rachel Martin
Flying under the radar.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Because I would do that. Like, my older brothers would get in a lot of trouble for being juvenile delinquents, But I was a juvenile delinquent, too, but because they were getting in so much trouble, it's kind of like people didn't notice what I was doing. So as long as I didn't get brought home by the police, I could kind of operate in secret.
Rachel Martin
And I read. I mean, you started doing musicals when you were really little, like, musical theater. Right. Do you remember the first time you raised your hand and were like, I think this is something I want to do?
John C. Reilly
Yeah. I was 8 years old and started to go to the. There was this park near my house that had, like, programs for kids after school. Woodworking and ballroom dance and drama. Or we used to call it drama because I'm from the south side of Chicago, and that's how we used to talk. But I'll be like, mom, I'm going to drama class. And I would go over, and there are these people who teach kind of basically improv classes And I remember this first teacher I had named Jim Morley, who kind of ran the thing at the park. And he's like, okay, everyone, the first thing we did was, like. He was kind of like, get us into our bodies and whatever, getting expressive. And he's like, everyone, lay down on the ground. Now, I want you to imagine you're a piece of bacon in a pan, right? And the pan is cold right now. Now I'm gonna turn up the heat. And what happens when the bacon starts? And everyone's like. And I'm looking out of the room like, oh, my God, I found my people. This is it. These are the people I understand who want to pretend to be pieces of bacon.
Rachel Martin
They're pulsing like bacon. Yes.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Y. Like. Or just, like, complete flights of imagination, you know? Like, that's what I was into as a kid. I was like, already that way, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Musicals taught me how to be an actor. That. Cause, you know, where I grew up on the south side of Chicago, there, like, no one was doing Shakespeare or Ibsen or, you know, like, people weren't. No one wanted to see, like, just straight dramatic plays. Everything had to have some music in it, you know, So I did, you know, everything from Brigadoon to the Bells Are Ringing to, you know, just the King and I, Fiddler on the Roof, you know?
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
So that was my training ground. And then, you know, you meant. I think you mentioned the musical Chicago that I did on the movie musical, and that. That. So I went to acting school in Chicago, the Goodman School of Drama, it was called then. It's called the theater School at DePaul University now. And when I got there, I was like, okay, no more musicals. You're a serious actor now. You know, I want to be like Robert De Niro and Al Pacino and Gene Hackman. You know, those guys don't do musicals, you know, like, I want to be a serious actor. And then I got. And then, you know, I started acting in movies and stuff and still very interested in music and playing the guitar and singing privately, you know? And then that movie Chicago came along, and I realized, like, oh, my God, like, not only is this worth doing, and not only do serious actors do this, but you have to be very talented to pull this off, to be someone that can do dramatic work and to do musicals, it takes a certain skill set that not everyone has, you know? And I realized, like, the American musical theater is one of the few original art forms America has. You know, we have jazz, blues, and musical theater. You Know everything else. Opera, ballet, you know, all that stuff. Music hall stuff that all came from England and Europe, you know, but we created this crazy thing called the musical, the stage musical. And yeah, so it made me really proud. And it made me realize, like, no, no, this is right in your wheelhouse and you should do this and you shouldn't be embarrassed about it. Like, this is a beautiful way to express yourself as an actor.
Rachel Martin
Next. 3. 1, 2 or 3, 3. What's an early experience of appreciating beauty?
John C. Reilly
An early experience of appreciating beauty? Well, when I was in seventh grade in Chicago public school, I went to a boys Catholic high school. But for grammar school, as we called it, I went to a Chicago public school. And it was. There wasn't a lot of art or arts in the school. You know, we didn't do plays and we didn't really, you know, we'd kind of have art period or where we could just, you know, people, Momma. I remember all my friends thinking like, oh, John's creative. Have him draw the picture of the card for the teacher. You know, like, I was like, okay, I just like the attention, you know, yeah, sure, I can do it. And I. I was actually a terrible artist. I was not good at drawing. I still have about a fourth grade skill level for drawing.
Rachel Martin
Nailing those stick figures. Yeah.
John C. Reilly
But they had this incredible program in Chicago. They brought this woman once a week to my class in seventh grade from the Art Institute of Chicago.
Rachel Martin
Wow.
John C. Reilly
And she was this beautiful, tall blonde woman, was really elegant and well dressed and really kind hearted. And she taught us about Mondrian and Picasso and all of the thinking that went behind the art, you know, like, why did they start doing. What is this impressionistic paint? Why did someone decide to paint like this? Is it because they were squinting when they were looking at, you know, like. Or whatever. And then we discuss it and then we'd each do. Now each of you are gonna do your own Mondrian, you know, and we'd sort of copy in our own way what the painting was like. But it was the first time I realized, like, you know, art is important. And that woman was like a messenger from another universe, really. Like living in a working class neighborhood on the south side of Chicago. Someone like that just drifting in from the Art Institute to tell you that art is important and this is why it's important and this is what it means. Like, it was really the first moment where I was like, whoa, oh my God. Like, this. This is what I care about. I don't Care about geometry. I care about this. Or actually, you know, you could learn a lot about geometry through art. And my teacher of that class, actually was a really great guy, too, named Mr. Branstetter. And Mr. Branstetter wore a tie every day. He wore a shirt with cuffs every day with beautiful cufflinks. And he was very kind of, like, courtly and like. Anyway, he was this incredible, incredible guy. The best teacher I had from kindergarten to eighth grade by far, you know, because all the rest of them, kind of like, they were just trying to figure out what to do with me, what are we gonna do with this kid? And I ended up being sent out in the hall a lot or sent to the principal or, like, I was just considered, like, a discipline problem, you know, like. But Mr. Brandstetter just saw me like, no, this is someone who has potential, you know, Like, I just have to find the right way to talk about things to get him interested.
Rachel Martin
Okay, three more. One two or three One, one. What period of your life do you often daydream about?
John C. Reilly
I daydream a lot. Do you?
Rachel Martin
I am, too.
John C. Reilly
And I have a very good memory, so I remember. I think about my childhood a lot. I tell stories about my childhood a lot. And I lived in a very. That neighborhood I'm describing was a really crazy neighborhood. First of all, it's one of the most racially intense places in the whole world in the late 1970s, you know, black and white. Like, the neo Nazi thing started in Chicago in my neighborhood. So it was this intense place, and then every family had five, six, seven, eight kids. And so there was just. The streets were just full of these wild hooligans, you know, like, I was one of them, but I was a little more sensitive than most people, so it was kind of a jungle out there. But as a result, you have all these incredible stories, you know, these capers that happened or these things that my brothers did or, like. So, you know, when it came time. I remember when it came time to write Stepbrothers with Will Ferrell and Adam McKay, almost all the things that happened to my character in that movie happened to me when I was, like, a kid. And so I would just. Our writing process for that movie was just mining stories, and there's just so many from my childhood that I remember. Like, it wasn't the kindest place to grow up, I don't think, but I had a lot of freedom. A lot of freedom and a lot, you know, Like, I could just kind of. I remember where I grew up in my neighborhood in Chicago. I had 35 first cousins within a 10 block area of where I lived. So I would leave the house at like in the summertime anyway, I would leave the house at like 9 in the morning and go find my cousin Mike. And then we would just wander around the neighborhood all day long until 10 o' clock at night and come home. And my mom would be like, where have you been? I was like, I don't know. I went to Grandma's and then I was at Aunt Lillian's. And then like, and if I got hungry, I would stop in and have some toast with Grandma. And you know, like, that was my day every day. So I had a very independent life, you know. Yeah, we would get. I remember getting on the bus with my friends. We would get on a bus and buy like a transfer. It was called this piece of paper, which you could get one bus and get on another bus and they'd punch it or whatever and we'd go. We'd take the bus from my neighborhood on the south side all the way to downtown Chicago. When I was like 11, 12 years old, we'd just wander around downtown Chicago by ourselves.
Rachel Martin
Like, laughable now.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. We'd go into the John Hancock center, which was this huge building, the tallest building in the world at the time, I think. And we didn't have money to take the tour to go up to the observation deck, but you could get on the elevator and we'd go to this elevator to the like hundred floor of this building. And then I remembered just riding that. They'd get to the top, they'd be like, where are your tickets? Like, oh, my mom forgot them. Like, and then we'd go back down, like. But then when the elevator was going down, we'd leap into the air. So you'd be like, free fall for a second, like on this super high, fast, super high speed elevator. Anyway, yeah. So that was a good time. Yeah. Yeah. I had a pretty wild childhood compared to the way. I don't know if the world is more dangerous or we're just more careful, but it's a different world for kids now.
Rachel Martin
Both. Yeah.
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Rachel Martin
Before we start round two, let's pull back from the game and talk about your creative life, which is a very full creative life. But I want to start with Mr. Romantic because this is such a lovely thing you made. This is a throwback stage show, vaudeville. Very personal to you. How did it come to be? You've been doing it for a few years now. We should say that.
John C. Reilly
Yeah, we're doing it for about four years now. We've grown it really slowly. We started doing it really only in one place in Los Angeles. Now we've done it all over the world, but almost all out of the world, out of the country anyway. So I did that movie Chicago, which we talked about a little bit earlier, and I played this character, Mr. Cellophane. I got so much attention for that role. I was nominated for an Oscar. I rediscovered my love of the American musical. I realized, like, I'm really. I think I'm really good at this kind of performing, and I should do this more like,
Rachel Martin
like, stage, on a
John C. Reilly
stage with an audience reaching out to the audience, like, trying to connect directly with the audience, you know, like, as opposed to, you know, acting, dramatic acting can be a little bit, like, you hold back a little bit and you make them come to you. You know, like when you're Mr. Cellophane, your heart is on your sleeve. You know, you're like, you're out there. And music has this incredible way of connecting with audiences where you kind of skip people's brains. You just go straight into their heart. You know, if you can move someone. And there's something about the alchemy of music. It's not just the words that you sing in a song, but the arrangement of the notes themselves. You go from an A to a C to an F, back to the A. It Means something to human beings. When they hear that, it affects them in this other way that we don't even really understand. You know, maybe it has to do with our memories of music we've heard in the past. Or maybe it's just some kind of vibrational thing that human beings react to. Why do we still remember Amazing Grace? You know, there's just something about the arrangement of those notes. You know, what is it that keeps the song alive over all this time? So, anyway, I'm digressing a bit.
Rachel Martin
I feel that. I have to tell you, I do feel that with that song, Mr. Cellophane, we should just say for people who haven't seen Chicago, Amos Hart is this character. He's just unrequited love. He loves Roxy, she doesn't love him back. And he feels like he's not sad by the world. So this song, Mr. Cellophane, it is just. It is heartbreaking. It's one of the most heart rending, heartbreaking performances I've ever seen. I love that.
John C. Reilly
Oh, thank you. I was in the hands of some great songwriters, the guys who wrote that show. Incredible.
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
Anyway, it's a song about being seen or not being seen.
Rachel Martin
There is such vulnerability.
John C. Reilly
And I thought, wouldn't it be great to go on tour, Mr. Cellophane, you know, like. And I thought, well, he has like one and a half songs. That's gonna be a short show. So I should start collecting songs that would fit in that character's voice. And I remember one of the first ones I heard was the Irving Berlin song what'll I Do? And that's on our. On the album. I came out with an album from the song from Mr. Romantic last year in June. Yeah. And I collected that one. Oh, that's a good one. All right, now I've got two. Even though we don't do Mr. Cellophane in the Mr. Romantic show. And it took me something like 25 years of collecting songs. And thinking back, I gotta do that Mr. Romantic thing. I've gotta do it. I've gotta do it. And then one day I had finished this big job that I was stuck on for a long time, much longer than I ever thought it would be because of COVID I was on this TV show for like four years or something. And it was supposed to be two years anyway. I was really anxious to, like, number one, feel free on stage again and just feel like I can say whatever I want. I can sing the songs I want to sing. I can connect to the audience in the way that I Want to. I can improvise, but also, what can I do about the way things are right now? And I became increasingly alarmed over the years that, like, the lack of empathy in our culture and this kind of snarky attitude that developed. Like, been there, done that. Like, so the Internet has really done a number on us all in that way. And I thought, like, we're really losing our way. Like, why don't people understand? Like, other people have value just for being a human being, you know, like, we're really losing our humanity here. And what can I do about that? Like, I've never been great at, like, picket signs. And, you know, I know how to be an actor. Like, that's the one thing that I committed to in my whole life. And I thought, well, I'll put together a show that's about loving. That's about being loved or wishing you were in love or trying to find someone to love. I'm gonna sing all these love songs. And that's the kind of message of the show. He's this kind of mythical character, comes out of a steamer trunk at the beginning of the show and says, I don't know what happened before. All I know is that I have to stay in that box. And when I come out of the box, I have to put on a show. And I don't have to go back into the box if I can find one person who will love me forever. And so in between the songs, I go out and I meet people. Yeah, I meet men and women and whatever. And I say, I'm not gay or straight. I'm desperate. You know, I'm trying to. I have to find someone, you know, and what it does, what the show does. And I gotta tell you, I'm not bragging when I say this, because it's just a fact. The show works 100% of the time. It's incredible, the need out there for people to feel like, oh, we're just gonna talk about love for 90 minutes. We're just gonna see. Assume the best of each other, and we're gonna, you know, try to help this guy find love. Like, and the show.
Rachel Martin
But when you say it works, what does that mean?
John C. Reilly
It works real. It works. And it's not like you don't see people sitting back and like, all right, whatever. Cause I talk to people. I'm out there. And what it does when I say, this, this is my mission to see you, and to try to fall in love with one of you, it suddenly brings everyone into the same place together. Like, we have these 90 minutes together.
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
And it really, really works. The audience really, really loves it. And. And it's. I hope it moves the needle, like, whatever, 500, 600 people at a time. But it's given my life meaning, you know, I don't need to. I don't need to make any more money or get more famous or, you know, like, I just decided, like, what can I do with my time that I think gives back to the world, which has given me so much. You know, audiences have given me so much. They've given me a life, you know, so what can I give back? And, like, how can I make this all mean something to me, you know, like. Cause you play characters as an actor, and, like, sometimes it's really meaningful, and sometimes you're just kind of imagining yourself to be another person. But, like, there's a depth to the connection that happens in this show that is. That is undeniably meaningful. Yeah.
Rachel Martin
So can I ask something selfish, then? If we were at the show and you identified me as a person that you were going to sing to, what would you sing to me? Can you sing?
John C. Reilly
It will depend on our interaction, because all that's improvised. The whole show is almost. Other than the songs, the whole show is improvised. So I go out, I'm like, hi. What's your name? You say your name, and. Oh, I'm Rachel. Hi, Rachel. That's a beautiful sweater. Thanks. You know, like. And I see you, right? And you'd think, like, you know, at first, the first couple of people I talked to, they're like, okay, what is this guy gonna do? Is this, like, Don Rickles? Is he gonna make fun of me? Is he gonna, you know, am I safe here? You know? But over time, they start to realize, like, no, he just wants to see the best in me. He's trying to, like, get closer to me, you know, so. And they just open up. I swear to God, it's like, open sesame. When you do that to someone, when you say, like, you know, I'm not even a person. I'm Mr. Romantic. I'm this mythical character. And I'm trying to see you, you know, like, what happens is people just go, ah. You see me, and I talk to old ladies, and I talk to big, burly men, and I talk to, like, effeminate young men, and I talk to, you know, the beautiful women, like, all these different people, like, but each of them really feels like you're really seeing
Rachel Martin
me, you know, like, it's a universal longing.
John C. Reilly
Yeah, sincerity went out of fashion there for a While. But people really still love it. They love it. Oh no, man, this is all the
Rachel Martin
currency with this show. This is the whole ball of wax. Earnest, sincerity, love. I'm here for all of it. I'm here for all of it. We're back in the game. Round two, Insights. Cards are blue. One, two or three?
John C. Reilly
Two. Insights. Insights.
Rachel Martin
This is insights. Yeah, your insights about yourself. When has envy been a problem for you?
John C. Reilly
You know, I wish I could say it's never been a problem because I really don't find it to be a very noble attribute, envy. But if I'm honest, there were periods of my life as an actor where I thought, you know, I made the mistake of comparing myself to another person's path and we're all on a unique path and I suddenly, you know, after it was a few years of this, you know, someone I knew very well and someone I loved a lot, you know, and someone whose work I really respected. But it was driving me crazy that I wasn't on the same path as him. Like, why did he get that I didn't, you know, like, it makes me cringe to even admit this to you, but it's true, you know, like it's true. There were these small minded moments, you know, and then finally, like I kind of emancipated myself from this thing by realizing like, he will never be me and I will never be him. And the only person I'm racing with is myself. Racing with my own optimism or my own belief in myself. Even if I had that guy's path, I wouldn't have done it the way he did it.
Rachel Martin
You wouldn't. It would all be different.
John C. Reilly
You know what else really kind of absolved me of some of this too was, was being on the other side of the casting table, you know, getting larger roles in movies and being part of the casting of the movie. Where you trying to find, oh, now we're trying to find someone.
Rachel Martin
You have the power, right, to play
John C. Reilly
your wife or trying to find someone to play this part or whatever. Like, and so you see them come in, you think like, oh my God, I know how it feels to be that person where you think they're judging you.
Rachel Martin
Yeah, right.
John C. Reilly
Like you're, there's something bad about what you're doing.
Rachel Martin
There's so many other things going into the decisions that don't have anything to
John C. Reilly
do with your fact. Almost like they're mining for gold. It's not that, you know, they're just looking for something. It's got nothing to do with you. In A way. It's just like they have an idea what they're looking for, and if you match that idea, then you get the part. And if you don't match the idea, it doesn't mean that you're bad. It doesn't mean that you did something wrong. It doesn't mean that your intrinsic qualities are wrong or not good for acting. They're just different than what these people were hoping to find.
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
I want to say to anyone watching this, if you're feeling envious, figure out a way out of it, because it will eat you alive and it will actually slow you down. If you're worried about the race and you think someone else is ahead of you in the race, having envy for that person will only make you go slower because it makes you less creative and it makes you more angry and it makes you more internal. Free yourself. Love that person.
Rachel Martin
You're trying to mimic them. Does that you've seized on what you think is. Is one version of success that you're fixated on, and then you're not paying attention to what you creatively have to offer.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Yeah. And when you look like me, you know what I mean? I don't look like a movie star, you know what I mean? I don't look like a matinee idol, you know? You know, and the temptation, you could say, like, well, who the hell am I? You know, Like, I'm this kind of homely looking whatever or this whatever you want to call me. I don't feel like I'm homely, but I don't look like Brad Pitt, you know, I don't look like Tom Cruise, like. But what the challenge is to understand your value. Like, your uniqueness is your value, you know, the fact that I don't look like Brad Pitt actually is a good thing. It gives me value, you know, it gives me something to set my. It sets me apart, you know?
Rachel Martin
Yeah. Differentiation.
John C. Reilly
And that's true not just for actors, but for everyone.
Rachel Martin
Yeah. Yeah. Next Three. One, two or three?
John C. Reilly
Three. Three.
Rachel Martin
What emotion do you understand better than the others?
John C. Reilly
I think I understand empathy more than the others.
Rachel Martin
Yeah.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. I'm a Gemini. I'm an actor. I'm someone who's. My whole life is spent trying to imagine what it's like to be in someone else's shoes, you know?
Rachel Martin
Yeah. To be someone else.
John C. Reilly
So I understand. Like, I can sit in a room and, like, and I can feel it's a little bit of a burden sometimes, honestly, because you feel like, I almost wish, like, sometimes I could be More conceited and more oblivious to whatever. Because I've seen very successful people sometimes who are just like eyeing the prize, you know, like, right.
Rachel Martin
Or just be able to compartmentalize.
John C. Reilly
But I look around a room and I'm like, oh, she's feeling like that. He's feeling like that. Oh, he thinks no one's noticing him, you know, like, I can feel it. So I don't know, maybe that's true. I suppose it's a question for other people really who know me well to answer, but I think I understand empathy more than other emotions. But your job as an actor is also to understand all the emotions. You gotta get yourself angry. You gotta find a place to tap into anger. You know, if you've got to feel like lustful or whatever, you got to find your way to it.
Rachel Martin
You know, I heard you once say in like an interview situation that when Will Ferrell, when Will Ferrell swears, like, says curse words, it's like always funny. And when you try to do it, it always seems angry right away.
John C. Reilly
It sounds violent, like, that guy's gonna hit me. Like.
Rachel Martin
Yeah, I don't know if I buy that. Do you, you feel, you feel like you, you. You also must understand anger because it's projecting in some theatrical way.
John C. Reilly
Oh, yeah. You know, like. Yeah. And language is power. Like, I don't know how it is Will does that. Will is just inherently such a really, really kind hearted, nice person that it's almost like it doesn't make any sense when Will swears a blue streak, you know, and it just, I'm telling you, it gets funnier and funnier and funnier. The more foul his language is, the funnier it gets. But me, I say fuck one time and it sounds like, you know, I'm gonna get in a fight or something. Anyway, Will is one of the all time great artists I've ever worked with. He's someone who can, he can make things funny. Just. I don't even know. I'm not sure he knows, to tell you the truth. You know, he can just say a simple phrase and, and, and make it funny. Like, I know how to be sincere. Like, I don't really consider myself a comedian. Even though I do funny work and people laugh at things that I do. I consider myself like an actor first and I understand how to be sincere and connect with people. Like, but just to make anything funny, that's like a really special skill that I think you're born with.
Rachel Martin
Yeah. Last one in this round. 1, 2 or 3?
John C. Reilly
3.
Rachel Martin
3. What's a quality you're drawn to, that you don't possess.
John C. Reilly
I'm gonna. You know, I haven't done this yet. I'm gonna turn this one back on you, Rachel.
Rachel Martin
Flip. I have. I think I've said this before. It's just so clear an answer for me. Like, I am attracted to people who. Who like to host, who like more people in their house. You know, like, my door's always open, come over anytime, drop by. And like, I'm bringing six kids. Great. I love it. Bring them all. And we'll. We just all of a sudden, like, the fishes and the loaves turns into, like 45. Like, Jesus has done a miracle. There's food for everyone.
John C. Reilly
Yeah.
Rachel Martin
And I'm not that person. I'm like the opposite of that person. I get very nervous about hosting people. I don't think I'm very good at it. It just makes me anxious. And I'm not relaxed. I'm not relaxed in it. And I've always liked to control certain things. I like to be the person who goes to the party, have a good time, and then I can leave. But if you're hosting, and what if people just keep staying at your house?
John C. Reilly
Could be worse. Could be worse
Rachel Martin
if they left early because they thought I was boring. But I like an early bedtime and I like to leave a party. And I love people who have an expansive social life. And you love it enough.
John C. Reilly
You love it, but you don't love it enough to want to actually be like it.
Rachel Martin
Yeah, but I try and it just doesn't. I don't think it's a good time for anyone. Like, I don't think. I don't think me trying to host is enjoyable because, I don't know, you
John C. Reilly
gotta just let go. Let go of the responsibility. You know, you just provide the opportunity, and then what happens is. What happens? You know, what does everyone want to happen now? That's what happens. You know, like, right. It's not on you just because you're hosting. You know, you're just providing the platform for it. Yeah, but I think maybe most people are uncomfortable being hosts. But you push through because it's important to bring people together. That's important. So you push past the uncomfortable part because it's important enough to do so.
Rachel Martin
I hear you saying that your answer to that question is somewhat similar.
John C. Reilly
God, I thought I got. I forgot the rules. I thought I got away with it. Just, like, make her say that. What am I?
Rachel Martin
That's a quality you don't possess, but you appreciate it. In other people.
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John C. Reilly
you know, paperwork, you know, that kind of organized lists, calendars, and that kind of thing. Like, I just keep everything in my head all the time. Like, you know, and I just go. I'm very instinctual with, like, how I order. Order things in my head. Like, but my wife is an incredible organizer, producer, you know, like, who can, like, make a bullet list. And like, now we do that. And we. That took that off. Took that off the thing. I just, like. In fact, the one time I realized that my wife really loved me, it was long after we were married. I got audited by the IRS once, and I was like, I had no receipts. I had no. I had to create this whole fake, like, whatever. I had to go back and try to fake, John. Not fake. No, not fake. But, like, I had to remember why I rented that movie.
Rachel Martin
Yes.
John C. Reilly
Like, literally every movie that I ever rented. Why did I rent that movie? And what. What were the tax purposes of renting that movie for the research on that project, you know, Like, I was just like, in hell, in hell, in hell with papers and all this stuff around, trying to, like, form a timeline for when I did this or that. And my wife sat down with me and she's like, all right, let's do this. Here we go. This is what we're going to do. This, this. And she's making decisions, she's making piles, she's making lists. And I looked and I was like, you really love me. You really do love me. Like, this is after, like, 12 years of marriage or something, by the way.
Rachel Martin
Like, yeah, man, that is love.
John C. Reilly
We've been married for 34 years now.
Rachel Martin
Wow. Congratulations. I hope you haven't had to go through another audit.
John C. Reilly
So. Not so far. And, yeah, and it turns out that audit was. It was a no change. They're like, okay, fair enough. Got the wrong guy.
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Rachel Martin
Okay, last round. Beliefs. 1, 2 or 3?
John C. Reilly
1.
Rachel Martin
1. Is there anything in your life that has felt predestined?
John C. Reilly
You know, it'd be very romantic to say that when I met my wife, it was predestined, but honestly, I think things happen and then we react to them and we create our destiny. I think I'm not some. I'm the kind of person who really likes to believe in endless possibilities. You know, my wife is much more practical. She'd be like, it's going to rain tomorrow, so we should not plan on kayaking. And I'm like, what do you mean? How do you know it's going to rain tomorrow? Because the weather forecast says 90% rain tomorrow. I'm like, yeah, but 10%. Like, let's not get rid of the kayaks yet. We could like. And so that's the place I live in just like constantly. And she lives in a much more realistic place. But yeah, So I don't like to believe that anything is predetermined. I like to think like, you know, life is a series of choices, and then all of a sudden it looks like, oh, that was meant to be. But it usually doesn't feel like that until after it's already happened. In my experience.
Rachel Martin
Three new cards. One, two or three.
John C. Reilly
It's like uno for adults. Two.
Rachel Martin
Do you think there's any part of us that lives on after we die?
John C. Reilly
Yes.
Rachel Martin
You do?
John C. Reilly
For sure. Yeah. Because, you know, I think I'm not. So I'm not so confident that I know. Do you know the mysteries of the human brain? Do you know?
Rachel Martin
I thousand percent do not.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. So do you understand the more metaphysical aspects of life? Do you understand?
Rachel Martin
I have to think about it, but I don't know. I don't have certainty about any of it.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. So.
Rachel Martin
And I'm wary of people who do.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Well, so my father died. My father died when I was 28 years old. You know, relatively young, but I think about my father every single day. I'm 60 years old now. I think about my father every single day. Now there's something the echoes that we leave behind I think are just undeniable. You Know, and there's all kinds of near death and people that have witnessed deaths, that. There's all kinds of stuff people say that points to the mystery, you know, Like, I think like the night that my father died, I was off doing a film. I was on the other side of the country. I was laying in bed and I had a dream. In the dream, I was laying in, like a rooming house. I was with my wife in a bed. And we'd come in late into this rooming house, and it was dark, and they were like, yes, there's a bed, but it's in the common room upstairs. Be quiet because everyone else is sleeping. So we went up there, we got into this bed, and there's always other beds in this room, this big wooden room. And we lay there and like, ah, man, it's so late. We're so tired. I just try to have to. Just have to fall asleep. And all of a sudden I hear rustling in the room. People are getting up. I'm like, oh, my God. We got in here so late that now all these other people are waking up and I'm trying to go to sleep. And I was kind of annoyed and I was like, just keep your eyes closed. Don't open your eyes. Just keep your eyes closed. And eventually I could feel people right next to our bed, like, going by. And I was like, what is going on? And I opened my eyes and right in front of me was my father. And he was standing in this line of people, and the line was slowly moving like this. They were going out a door and I was looking, and I remember like, oh, my God, that's my dad. And I was staring at his face and somehow I knew. This is my last glimpse of him. Look at him. Look at him now. Remember what his face looks like, you know, like. And then he kept moving. He kept moving. And then the phone rang and woke me up from my sleep. And my wife came into the room and said, it's your sister, and hand me the phone. She said, dad just went, you know, like, what are the odds? My dad was very ill, but there was no. It wasn't like death watch, you know, it wasn't like, you know, he was not doing well, but it was nobody, no one was saying, get back to Chicago. He's gonna go. You know, it was just. And then the same night, my sister had a dream about my dad packing up his boat in Florida and going to get ready to go. And she was laying, same thing. She saw him outside the house getting ready to go on this voyage. And my aunt had another dream of departing somehow, like all three of us in different places in the world, you know, like, that's metaphysical. That's not just. I wasn't having dreams like that every night. I had that dream one time that night. So who are we to say with certainty there is nothing left of us afterwards, you know? I don't know. Like, human beings are electrical beings, right? We're powered by electricity. A heart, the impulse of a heart is an electrical organ. Right. That electricity is a field of energy, you know, it doesn't go away, I don't think. It just disappears. Like, that's my guess anyway.
Rachel Martin
That's an incredible story, John.
John C. Reilly
Yeah, Yeah. I mean, you could talk to anyone. I'm sure I could bring five people in here just randomly, and they would all tell you something like that.
Rachel Martin
I know. I mean, I had dreams of my mom that were very. But it was after she died and my father. They've both passed now. And there was a period of time right after they died when they felt very present in my consciousness. But I didn't have dreams that really. I mean, you were portending your dad's death. I mean, you saw it before exiting
John C. Reilly
you saying goodbye or whatever.
Rachel Martin
Yeah, yeah. That's incredible. So, yeah, you are open. You are open to the possibility of things.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. Endless possibility. Even though if it says 90% rain tomorrow, you never know. Weather's like that.
Rachel Martin
Last question. 1, 2 or 3?
John C. Reilly
2.
Rachel Martin
What's your best defense against despair?
John C. Reilly
You know, I really wish I knew because I struggle with depression. Like, actual depression, not just feeling sad, but, like, why do I feel this way? Why do I feel like I'm about to cry, but I'm not crying? Why can't I think of anything to do today? Why do I just want to sit here and, you know, like. So the antidote to despair. Well, actually, you know, on a personal level, I'm not sure I have the antidote to despair other than connection with other people. That seems to, like, turn the tide eventually, even if you don't feel like it connecting somehow with someone outside of your brain. But, you know, to go back to Mr. Romantic, the show. That show was born of both joy and despair, you know, Like, I was despairing for what was happening in the world, you know, like. And that was my answer. Like, that was. The antidote was connection, you know, like. And so when I do that show, like, people ask me, like, oh, does anyone ever, like, not cooperate when you talk to them? I'm like, no, they don't you know, like, don't you get thrown off sometimes when someone says this or says that? It's like, no, because everything that happens, even if it's an uncomfortable interaction, even if it's not what you expected, even if it's awkward for a second, it's a chance to connect, you know, to come together for some reason. Yeah. So I think that might be the antidote to despair, is connection. Because when I think of despair, I think of isolation and being alone and feeling hopeless and feeling like I'll never escape. But when you reach out. I talked about my wife a little bit earlier, but she's also someone who's just indefatigably optimistic. You know, she just, she's kind of person who gets up like, well, I might be not be feeling so great either today, but let's go. We got to do this. We're going to do that. You know, like, and that's someone who's like, on a regular basis, brings me out of despair just by example, you know, like, well, I should just start doing something, you know, Like, I should try to connect. Yeah. So connection, I think, is the antidote for despair.
Rachel Martin
JOHN C. Reilly we end our show the same way every time with a trip in our memory time machine.
John C. Reilly
All right.
Rachel Martin
Okay. In the memory time machine, you revisit one moment from your past. It's not a moment you want to change anything about. It's just a moment you'd like to linger in a little longer. Which moment do you choose?
John C. Reilly
Well, I don't know if this is going to be a specific moment. It's not a specific moment. I'll just say that it's time with my parents. You know, if I could have, if I could extend that, I would extend that because my father died when he was 59, and my mother died in her early 70s. And I think, like, I'm older than my father. When was, when he passed away now. And the other day, I was looking in the mirror and I was thinking, like, wow, this guy that you think about every day that you've looked up to for so long, that was the voice of wisdom and seniority in your life. That guy in the mirror is older than that guy.
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John C. Reilly
And that was an intense moment for me, you know, because some part of you, like, I don't know if you feel this way, but, like, when my dad died at that age, I thought, like, well, that's the example. And now I'm like, I'm kind of in the gravy period. You know, I got past that Moment, like, wow, aren't I lucky? You know? But yeah, if I could extend it, I would love to see my dad. I would love to. I was still somewhat of a boy, I would say, when my dad died. And that was one of the gifts of my dad dying was that, you know, the king is dead, long live the king. I realized, like, I can really be the man I want to be. Like, I'm not comparing myself to him. I'm not asking for his approval. He's not here, you know, like, whoever
Rachel Martin
you want in your mind.
John C. Reilly
I find myself thinking like, I really wish, you know, I had a really beautiful, loving relationship with my mom. My relationship with my dad was more formal. He was just a more kind of patriarchal character. Yeah, but. And so I would love more time with both of them, but especially my dad, because I would, I would love to have gotten past. Because I know what, it's what I'm like now, this age, you know, Like, I'm not admitting weakness. I'm not admitting the decay of my body. I'm still the, you know, the bad motherfucker ever was, you know, like, and my dad was that when he died, you know, And I would have loved to see my dad mellow into the humility of old age with me and see him, you know, because what happens is my mother in law is 88 and her partner is 84. And so I do have people of those ages in my life. And like, wow, what a humbling thing. What a beautiful thing to watch someone in a way kind of return to a childlike state, you know, that is what happens when we get that old, you know, and it would have been a beautiful thing to see my dad become, Become someone that, that I was in charge of caring for.
Rachel Martin
May I ask, is there a specific, like, where are you? What is the scene? You don't have to give me a specific moment, but where do you place him in your mind's eye when you remember him? What's he doing?
John C. Reilly
He was on a boat. Yeah.
Rachel Martin
On a boat.
John C. Reilly
Yeah. My dad loved boats. He loved to fish on the Great Lakes in the Midwest and down in Florida, where he eventually went when he was older. But yeah, that was where my dad felt most free. And I sail now, you know, so that is, I have that similar feeling. I don't like to fish. I don't. If I need fish, I go to the store, you know, But I love to be on water and feel that separation from Earth, you know, it just feels like you're kind of untethered for a moment and you're part of some larger thing when you're out there on the water. And I know that my dad felt that freedom. So, yeah, when I imagine him, that's that that was his happy place, you know.
Rachel Martin
Yeah. John C. Reilly, it has been such a pleasure. Thank you for doing this.
John C. Reilly
Yeah, likewise.
Rachel Martin
You can see John in his stage show, Mr. Romantic, and you can hear him on his album, what's not to Love. Thank you. It has been so fun to talk with you. If you like this episode, go back and check out my conversation with Tim Blake Nelson. Tim has also had a wide ranging career as a character actor. He's always searching for creative truth and that shows up in his ability to embody characters with humor and empathy. This episode was produced by Mitra Arthur and Summer Tomad. It was edited by Dave Blanchard and mastered by Josephine Nianai. Wildcard's executive producer is Yolanda Sangweni and our theme music is by Ramtin Arablouei. You can reach out to us@wildcardpr.org we will shuffle the deck and be back with more next week. Week talk to you then.
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NPR | May 28, 2026 | Ep. 100
To mark the 100th episode of Wild Card, Rachel Martin sits down with acclaimed actor John C. Reilly for an intimate conversation that covers childhood, art, self-doubt, creativity, spirituality, and the healing power of connection. In Wild Card’s signature format, Reilly answers probing, unexpected questions pulled from a deck of cards, with each card sparking reflections on memories, insights, and beliefs. The result is a warm, revealing portrait of an artist whose vulnerability, empathy, and humor have won over generations of fans.
“When I say, this, this is my mission — to see you, and to try to fall in love with one of you — it suddenly brings everyone into the same place together. Like, we have these 90 minutes together.” — John C. Reilly
“I opened my eyes and right in front of me was my father. ... I knew this is my last glimpse of him... Then the phone rang and woke me up... My dad just went.” ([40:41]-[44:13])
“I realized, like, the American musical theater is one of the few original art forms America has... Jazz, blues, and musical theater. Everything else... came from England and Europe; we created this crazy thing called the musical.” ([08:02])
“Sincerity went out of fashion there for a while. But people really still love it.” ([24:55])
“Your uniqueness is your value... the fact that I don’t look like Brad Pitt actually is a good thing. It gives me value.” ([28:32])
“My whole life is spent trying to imagine what it's like to be in someone else's shoes...” ([29:32])
“Connection... that might be the antidote to despair.” ([47:05])
As always, Wild Card maintains a gentle, curious, and candid approach. Rachel Martin’s questions invite honesty and self-examination, while Reilly responds with warmth, wry humor, and considerable vulnerability. The tone is intimate—sometimes wistful, often playful, and always grounded in the shared longing for meaning and connection.
This episode exemplifies why Wild Card has been recognized among the best interview podcasts: it’s not about celebrity, but about the core of what it means to be human—childhood wounds, creative doubts, the desire to be seen, and the healing power of empathy and love.
Listen for stories that may inspire you to reflect on your own journey, embrace your uniqueness, and reach out for connection in the face of despair—just as John C. Reilly does, on and off stage.