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You guys know I am obsessed with understanding why we do the things we do, especially the things that get us hurt. And today’s guest is the perfect guide. Dr. Gad Saad is an evolutionary behavioral scientist, professor, bestselling author, and one of the world’s boldest truth-tellers when it comes to the hard science behind jealousy, abuse, attraction, and the dark side of human relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why the “bad boy” draws you in, why jealousy can be so dangerous, or why some relationships escalate into control and even violence, this is the episode you need. Dr. Saad pulls no punches, and you’ll be SHOCKED by how much of your love life can be explained by ancient evolutionary pressures. In Part 1, we dig deep into the evolutionary truths behind why women are repeatedly drawn to the same red-flag men, why men get so possessive and jealous, and the biological reasons behind dangerous behavior in relationships. Get ready to have your mind blown (and maybe cringe a little) as we unpack child abuse, infidelity, the real meaning of jealousy, red flags to watch for, and why “dangerous” is sometimes so damn attractive. SHOWNOTES Why Your Husband Is Statistically the Most Dangerous Person In Your Life Child Abuse, Step-parents & the Cinderella Effect The Lion Analogy: Brutal Nature, Brutal Lessons Different Types of Abuse: Stepmother vs. Stepfather Why Men Evolved Jealousy & Rage Over Infidelity Evolutionary Explanations Aren’t Excuses Lisa’s Story: Taking Ownership After Staying Silent How to Vet for Jealousy: Traits & Red Flags Controlling Partners: When Jealousy Becomes Dangerous Situational vs. Dispositional Jealousy & Fundamental Attribution Error Opposites Attract? Or “Birds of a Feather”? (What Actually Works) The Height Rule: Why Almost No Women Pick Shorter Men What Makes “Alpha” Men So Risky? (From Lions to Epstein) Ostrich Parasitic Syndrome: Why We Ignore Red Flags Why Some Women Fall for Predators: Ambition, Gut Instinct, and Dangerous Men Parental Investment Theory & Women’s “Calibration” The Fantasy vs. The Reality of Taming Bad Boys “Mate Value” and Why High-Value Women Don’t Settle for Red Flags Why High-Status Men Cheat (and What Unlocks Male Power) What Women Really Want: Social Dominance, Empathy, and the Right Amount of Power When Power Spills into Abuse Why Certain Famous Men are Sex Symbols for Some, Not All The Real-Life “Fifty Shades” and the Power of Arrogance Sneaky F*cker Strategies: How “Soft Boys” Manipulate Empathy Serial Killer Tactics: The Wounded Bird Routine Lisa’s Real-Life Crime Story: Trusting Your Gut, Not Your Empathy Thank you to our sponsors: HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 OneSkin: 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co/lisa Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Follow Dr. Gad Saad X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/GadSaad YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GadSaad Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorgadsaad/ Book: “The Parasitic Mind” (and pre-order “Suicidal Empathy”) FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve ever blamed yourself for someone else’s chaos, or worried that “genius” gives people a hall pass for bad behavior, Part 2 is your game-changer. In the second half, ex CIA spy Andrew Bustamante and I dive even deeper into the psychological maze of Kanye West. From his infamous Sway interview to his viral Piers Morgan clashes, we dissect the moments that had everyone screaming “Narcissist!”, and reveal why the truth is far more complicated, painful, and urgent for every woman dealing with emotional instability in her world. We dig into the impact of brain injury, bipolar disorder, and why some people never develop the filters that keep their emotions (and outbursts) in check. Most importantly, we talk about what to do when love collides with someone’s untreated (or undiagnosed) mental health struggles, and how to protect yourself when patterns are clear but solutions aren’t. Here’s how you spot the difference between manipulation and genuine developmental challenge, and why YOU are always your own hero. SHOWNOTES “I am the most impactful artist of our generation”—how to decode self-aggrandizement The Sway interview: repetition, rage, and spectrum behaviors No eye contact, mic awareness—signs of autistic spectrum Creative talent meets developmental challenge: Where the myths fall apart Emotional escalation and de-escalation: The validation pattern Body language: manufactured confidence, defensive posture, and what’s different (Piers Morgan) Answering like a child: What the “look at my view” moment really tells us Cognitive struggle, stalling, and stunted adaptation Male competition, showmanship, and abrasive deflection Shifted tone, no aggression, and dissociative energy—possible signs of medication The letter: Car accident, frontal lobe injury, and newly diagnosed bipolar I Excuses vs. explanations: What medical trauma DOES and DOESN’T excuse Shared responsibility: How to protect yourself, love wisely, and make the safest next decision Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com Follow Andrew Bustamante: Website: https://everydayspy.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EverydaySpyPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everydayspy Twitter: https://twitter.com/everydayspy FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know those moments when you’re transfixed by someone’s words, but what’s lurking underneath is screaming for your attention? Or when you wonder, is this person unpredictable out of passion, pain… or something darker? Today’s episode is the breakdown you didn’t know you needed. I’m joined by Andrew Bustamante, a former CIA spy, elite operations officer, and real-life human lie detector. Together, we analyze the one and only Kanye West (Ye): his outbursts, emotional swings, the public meltdowns. Is Kanye simply a misunderstood creative genius? Dealing with undiagnosed mental health struggles? Or is he, as many headlines have suggested, a classic narcissist? We use real clips, direct transcripts, and Andrew’s expertise in body language and behavioral analysis to pull back the curtain on one of pop culture’s most polarizing figures. This is your crash course in influence literacy, learning to spot red flags and decode the truth: Whether you’re dealing with a superstar, a partner, or your own inner circle. And trust me, by the end, you will never look at these behaviors the same way. SHOWNOTES Outbursts, danger, and childish tantrums—what’s really going on? Andrew analyzes emotional outbursts vs. creative personality Is this mental health, narcissism, or something else? Clues from Kim Kardashian: When personalities change Chemical imbalance, neurodivergence, and non-physical aggression Autism spectrum, developmental issues, and family reactions Validation, childlike reactions, and the power of emotional response Breakdown: Manipulation vs. intimidation: Narcissist or something deeper? Medication, hospital visits, and the suppressed self Kris Jenner’s calm: Recognizing long-term family patterns Why validation works and how patterns help partners cope Storming off: The sensory overload escape Why not all coping mechanisms are intentional Hollywood, interviews, and new layers of Kanye behavior Body language breakdown: aggression, openness, confusion Structured thinking, repetition, and spectrum tells The man-child trap: Obligation vs. manipulation in relationships Repetition, grandiose demands, and the difference between narcissistic and developmental thinking Mimicry, mental stunting, and what disrupted Kanye’s growth Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com Follow Andrew Bustamante: Website: https://everydayspy.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EverydaySpyPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everydayspy Twitter: https://twitter.com/everydayspy FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You ever get hit with that gut-wrenching moment when your bestie ghosts you for zero reason, or you’re stuck in a toxic group chat that makes Mean Girls look like a Disney movie? Or maybe you’re STILL overanalyzing that friendship you let go of a decade ago and wondering… did I really do the right thing? Homie, grab your coffee and let’s talk. Because today, it’s just YOU and ME! And we’re getting real about all the juicy, complicated, and heartbreaking friendship dilemmas you sent in for our very first Q&A episode! I’m peeling back all the layers on friendship breakups, boundaries, frenemy betrayal, toxic family, ghosting, and why trusting yourself is the first step to never abandoning who you really are. If you’ve ever felt alone, confused, stuck, or alone in a room full of “friends”… This is YOUR episode. And if you love this, smash that follow button, slide into my DMs with your burning questions, and let’s make this the most supportive, unfiltered space on the internet. SHOWNOTES When to Let Go Of a Friendship (And How to Know It Was the Right Call) Setting Boundaries with Toxic In-Laws (or Anyone!) Getting Ghosted By Your Friend: Surviving Without Blaming (or Losing) Yourself How to Set Boundaries Without Drowning in Guilt The Phone-Off Weekend: My Bravest Boundary Move Ever Dealing With Pushback & Teaching Others to Support Your Needs Why True Friends Show Up Even When Plans Change Ending the Cycle of Confusion, Guilt & Second-Guessing Understanding you can’t “fix” other people—only YOUR response How to show up strong after betrayal… and still let in the good ones Thank you, EVERY single one of you, for sending in your most vulnerable questions and stories. You are NOT alone in this! Want more? Make sure to follow, share your story, and DM me on Instagram! This Q&A series is just getting started. FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve ever stared at your phone, rereading a text from a so-called friend and thinking, “Am I crazy, or is she actually sabotaging me?”... Homie, THIS is the brutal-but-liberating episode you need. Part 2 dives HEAD FIRST into the most insidious, covert tactics that female narcissists and manipulators use to keep you confused, isolated, and doubting your own self-worth. Licensed psychotherapist Dr. Peter Salerno seriously takes us to school on how reputation poisonings, smear campaigns, and performative loyalty can destroy your confidence in ways a bad boyfriend never could. We go deep into survival strategies, how to rebuild your self-trust, spot toxic patterns (even with family. Yes, we go FULL IN on mother-daughter dynamics), and the concrete steps that can get you OUT for good. This part is ALL about healing, reclaiming your reality, and setting unbreakable boundaries. SHOWNOTES: How Smear Campaigns Start Before You Even Meet Golden Child, Scapegoat, and Narcissistic Mothers Reputation Poisoning—Being Judged Before You Even Walk In How to Rebuild Your Reality Confidence, Step by Step Name the Behavior: Why Language Changes EVERYTHING Spotting the Pattern: Liking or Not, It’s Still There Accept It Was Intentional: The Truth About Manipulation How to Validate Your Perceptions & Stop Gaslighting Yourself Setting Boundaries: Contracting with Yourself for Integrity First Steps Out: Education, Community & Freedom Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com Follow Dr. Peter Salerno: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpetersalerno Website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drpetersalerno Books: Amazon search “Dr Peter Salerno” FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know those friendships where you keep giving and giving but somehow end up feeling drained and confused every single time? Or the “bestie” who makes sly comments that just don’t sit right, but you talk yourself out of it because… girl code? I have BEEN there, and today is the day we’re finally breaking it all DOWN. For this very special deep dive I called in Dr. Peter Salerno licensed psychotherapist, author, and a true expert on narcissism, manipulation, and what happens when toxic “friendships” start eroding your confidence and warping your reality. You guys have seriously flooded my inbox about female narcissists, toxic girl groups, and why it’s so damn hard to spot the sabotage when it’s coming from another woman. So buckle up: Part 1 is THE must-listen guide to understanding the dark tactics that thrive in female friendships, from weaponized secrets all the way to emotional blackmail. SHOWNOTES What Makes a Female Narcissist Different? Why Do We Trust Women More? Cultural Blind Spots Exposed The Engine of Narcissism in Friend Groups Weaponizing Secrets & False Confiding How Narcissists Use “Girl Code” as a Weapon Healthy Skepticism - How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Manipulation Passive Aggressive Jokes vs. Covert Aggression Triangulation: Pitting Friends Against Each Other The Power of Loyalty & How It Gets Exploited Self Doubt, Gaslighting and the Shame Spiral When Things Turn DARK: Borderline, Psychopathy, and Group Retaliation Friendship Betrayal, Cognitive Dissonance, and Second Guessing Yourself Performative Friendships vs. the Real Thing How Friendship “Cult Leaders” Make You Doubt Your Own Reality Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com Follow Dr. Peter Salerno: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpetersalerno Website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drpetersalerno Books: Amazon search “Dr Peter Salerno” FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to part 2 of this absolutely FIRE episode of Women of Impact with the ultra-inspiring marketer, entrepreneur, and frikin’ resilient confident badass, Coach Stormy!! And she is sharing with us allllll her secrets to unbelievable resilience. Even as she faced the death of her mother, divorce and postpartum depression, and went from her highest highs to her lowest lows, she embraced her SPICE, got vulnerable, and rebuilt herself better than before! We also talk about: - Strategies to take ownership of your life and your dreams (instead of stuffing them in the closet!!) - Her tactics for killing your ego so you can finally become unstoppable - And sooooo many more gems of wisdom! So my homie, don't miss out on the final part with my girl, Coach Stormy. And if you're loving Women of Impact, please take a moment to leave us a review or rate the show. Your feedback is incredibly valuable! Follow Coach Stormy: Website: https://stormywellington.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachstormy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachstormy?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@coachstormy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever looked at someone who’s crazy successful and thought, “Wow, they must be one in a BILLION, and there's NOOOO way I can be or do that”??? Well, my homie, get ready because today's episode of Women of Impact is all about showing you that YOU absolutely can be that anomaly too, no matter wherever you're starting from. It’s totally possible homie, IF, and that’s a BIG IF, you have the right mindset, the right strategies, and the right approach. And that’s why today I’ve brought on the amaaaaaazing frikin’ badass Coach Stormy. She is known for her massive success in marketing and direct sales, but few know she grew up with a lot of adversity (including drugs, stripping, food stamps, and more). Get ready to learn what it takes to be the anomaly, because Coach Stormy is breaking down: - Exact steps she took to rebuild herself AND her confidence to go from being a teen mom stripping and on food stamps, to a multi-million dollar entrepreneur and inspiration to women around the world - Her R-I-C-H strategy that you can use to stay grounded, authentic, and focused on your journey to transform your life and become a more confident badass - Tactics you can use to stand up for yourself in a respectful way when someone disrespects you - Actual steps you need to take to go from your lowest low, to developing amazing, resilient, badass confidence!!! Once you’re done absorbing the FIRE wisdom from Coach Stormy, you’ll be ready to start rebuilding your life IMMEDIATELY and believe for a frikin’ fact that no matter where you are right now, you can change your life if you take responsibility and make it happen! Follow Coach Stormy: Website: https://stormywellington.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachstormy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachstormy?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@coachstormy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are SO many pressures that are put on us women – like to get married, to have kids, to have an amazing career – ALL at the same time and before it’s “too late”. So it’s sadly no surprise at all how many women end up succumbing to the MASSIVE pressures and just give up on finding Mr. Right, or the job that they’re actually passionate about, and settle in the hopes that it will make everyone else (even the mailman) happy. And we all know how that goes, right?? You end up living everyone else's life and you are left feeling like an empty shell of that amazing woman that you either used to be or the woman that you know that you can be! So on this episode of Women of Impact, I wanted to bring on someone who stood her ground despite the INSANE pressures, broke the mold of what everyone expected of her, and got back up, even when life kept knocking her down! This inspiring woman has it ALL - the career, the marriage, and the family - without giving in or settling. BUT (and of course there’s a catch), she didn’t do it until she was frikin’ 48 years old and most people said it was too late for her. Today’s guest is journalist, talk show host, and author Tamron Hall!! Now homies, you KNOW I believe in my core that age is just a number and you should NEVER let it stop you from making your dreams come true, and Tamron couldn’t be a better frikin’ role model to learn from! In this episode, we dig into: - How to maintain your confidence and get back up, even when you’ve been fired, left ANOTHER bad relationship, or feel like you’re “past your prime” - Why you need to bet on yourself if you want to actually make changes in your life - Tamron’s genius way of thinking about everything in your life as preparation - How to handle people calling you difficult - How to stay open to a man coming into your life, even when you think it’s “too late” for you - And so much more!! Let me tell you guys, by the end of this episode, you will know exactly what you need to do to, no matter what age you are, to take your power back in your life, not let challenges knock your confidence down, and do what you need to frikin’ do to make your dreams a reality WITHOUT settling or succumbing to anyone else's pressures in life!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So you want to know if your partner, or your boss, or literally ANYONE, is lying to your face? Welcome to the masterclass. In Part 2 with Lena Sisco, we go even deeper into the art of lie detection, breaking down the infamous Bill Gates interviews, and teaching you the “triangle of truth” every woman needs. You’ll learn exactly how to decode red flags in body language, rate of speech, and verbal dodging in real-time… no lie detector needed. We get fiercely practical too: you’ll uncover the invisible biases that trap smart women into trusting the wrong people, plus the 4 reasons why people lie (and what each motive reveals about the person across from you). Want to know the key question to crack ANY liar? Or the one body movement that exposes deception 100% of the time? It’s all here: With scripts, breakdowns, and pop culture case studies so you’ll never be blindsided by a manipulator again. SHOWNOTES How reading body language reveals your own hidden insecurities NBC Interview: Gates’ admission, omission, and the smirk that says everything The “cat ate the canary” grin: What every liar leaks Frozen faces, head turns, and why body orientation screams avoidance The 6 subconscious biases that get women hurt: Stereotype, similar-to-me, halo effect, “if they’re doing it,” bond, and confirmation The cult playbook: How charisma + credibility can fool anyone Groupthink, the bond bias, and losing your intuition Why knowing your own bias matters as much as reading the other person The four reasons people lie—and how to recognize each motive Can people believe their own lies? Why not even psychopaths are exempt Why polygraphs fail (and how to spot a liar without one) How to use lie type to shape your questions and crack the truth The biggest mistake women make: Minimization, and why never to use it The script & strategy: How to actually confront your partner about cheating The step-by-step checklist for confronting lies (and when to run) Thank you to our sponsors: Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa K18: 10% off with code LISA at https://k18hair.com FOLLOW LENA SISCO: Website:https://lenasisco.com LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/lenacsisco/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lenasisco11/ FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices