ReThinking: Ken Burns on love and grief (Part 2)

Summary

WorkLife with Adam Grant

Episode: ReThinking: Ken Burns on Love and Grief (Part 2)
Release Date: January 13, 2026
Host: Adam Grant
Guest: Ken Burns

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Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and deeply personal episode, Adam Grant continues his conversation with legendary documentary filmmaker Ken Burns. Shifting from career reflections to more intimate territory, the discussion explores themes of love, loss, and grief—the forces that have shaped Burns' outlook and creative work. The episode weaves together lightning-round questions, candid stories from Ken's personal life, and profound insights on how grief endures and transforms over time. Listeners are offered not just a look at Burns’ philosophy but a meditation on meaning, memory, and optimism in the face of adversity.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Parenthood and Work-Life Balance

Ken Burns on the Impact of Divorce and Single Parenthood (01:57 – 02:31)

• Ken opens up about being divorced and a single dad twice. He sees the challenges of relationship breakdowns as a "godsend" for parenting—forcing him to be deeply engaged in his daughters’ lives despite demanding work.
• Quote:
  • "The failure of the relationships were in fact a godsend with regard to parenting because it didn't permit the distractions of my work, which are enormous, to take away from the fundamental stuff..." —Ken Burns (01:57)

2. Best and Worst Career Advice

On Rejecting Careerism and Embracing Professional Life (03:29 – 05:05)

• Ken recounts career advice that didn't fit (“Why would you move to New Hampshire...?”), and the resistance he received early on in his filmmaking.
• His best advice, taken to heart, came from poet Robert Penn Warren: "Careerism is death."
• Burns distinguishes between a ‘career’ (a rigid, externally-defined trajectory) and a ‘professional life’ (an open course guided by personal fulfillment).
• Quotes:
  • “Careerism does presuppose that somebody else has already determined the rut you're in...if it doesn't inly rejoice, which is the greatest adverb inly in self reliance.” —Ken Burns (04:20)

3. Dream Dinner Guests & Underrated Historical Figures

Exploring Underappreciated Women in History (05:05 – 06:53)

• Ken picks Louis Armstrong, Abraham Lincoln, Franklin, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Abigail Adams for a dream dinner—emphasizing their overlooked contributions.
• The value of historical figures like Lucy Stone and the ongoing relevance of the suffrage movement are discussed.

4. Unmade Documentaries and History Pitches

Ken’s Process and Ambitions (06:53 – 09:46)

• Adam and the host pitch topics (Lucy Stone, Supreme Court, CIA/OSS). Ken reflects on his slate of projects and his endless curiosity about American history.
• He emphasizes the abundance of subjects, sharing ongoing work on LBJ, Dr. King, the Great Society, and Barack Obama.
• Regarding the OSS, Ken tells a vivid story about September 2, 1945, linking Vietnam’s history with American intervention.
• Quote:
  • "If I were given a thousand years to live, which I won't, I wouldn't run out of topics in American history." —Ken Burns (08:54)

5. Presidential Legacies and Rethinking Perspectives

Best Post-Presidency (13:18 – 13:59)

• Best post-presidency: Torn between Jimmy Carter and John Quincy Adams. Worst: John Tyler.
• Notes the virtue of ongoing citizenship after office, reflecting on George Washington’s and Adams’ examples.

6. Letting Go of Rigidity in Views

Reconsidering the Need to Be Right (14:03 – 15:09)

• Shares a personal shift: trying not to make others (or situations) “wrong” and embracing more flexibility and empathy.
• Quote:
  • “There is this knee jerk necessity to sort of make this thing or this moment or that action or this person particularly wrong. And...the actual act of trying to check that...is what we're supposed to be doing.” —Ken Burns (14:08)

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Deep Dive: Grief, Loss, and Transformation

1. The Nature of Grief

Half-Life of Grief is Endless (18:08 – 18:55)

• Ken shares with Adam a core conviction: grief never truly fades, referencing the death of his mother when he was 11. He posits that the “half-life of grief is endless.”
• Quote:
  • “I wouldn't do what I do if she hadn't died...Do you agree that the half-life of grief is endless? It pays dividends...but at the same time it’s loss.” —Ken Burns (18:08)

2. Debunking the Myth of Closure

Grief as Ongoing Process (19:02 – 20:23)

• Adam and Ken critique cultural narratives about closure, calling them a "myth."
• Grief isn't to be “gotten over”—it ebbs and flows, much like “phases of the moon.”
• Ken shares a moving anecdote about his uncle’s loss (“I want Sarah”)—underscoring the raw, unending yearning of loss.
• Quote:
  • “If you love someone, you never let them go...grief seems to ebb and flow over time...but I don't think it ever fully fades, do you?” —Host (19:10)
  • “No.” —Ken Burns (19:20)

3. Perspective and the Work of History

Zooming In and Out on Human Experience (20:44 – 21:37)

• Adam observes that Ken’s films offer perspective on grief by zooming in and out on history, just as we should do with our personal narratives.
• Ken draws a parallel between the micro/macro scales of the atom and the solar system, suggesting the value of existing “in the tension between the cosmic and the microscopic.”
• Quote:
  • “It is possible to spend time...with George Washington, but you’re also with Betsy Ambler, who’s 10 years old in 1775...It’s really good to exist in the tension between the cosmic and the microscopic, the atomic.” —Ken Burns (20:58)

4. Enthusiasm, Optimism, and Keeping Memory Alive

On ‘Waking the Dead’ and Defending Optimism (21:37 – 25:25)

• Ken reflects on being described as “enthusiastic” pejoratively, only to embrace it after discovering “enthusiasm” means “God in us.”
• Shares that his grief for his mother animates his creative work (“You wake the dead…who do you think you’re really waking up?”—attributed to his father-in-law).
• He passionately rejects cynicism as a luxury and underscores the need for optimism in facing the human condition.
• Quotes:
  • “Am I enthusiastic? I will plead guilty to that because somehow the Holy Spirit has just spoken in whatever story it might be…” —Ken Burns (22:23)
  • “Cynicism, that's a luxury that you may possess. I do not have that ability to be cynical...I have to remain optimistic about the human condition because I'm delving into it...” —Ken Burns (24:00)
  • “You wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you're really waking up?” —Ken Burns’ father-in-law, recounted by Ken (24:50)

5. Grief, Memory, and Generational Continuity

Transformation and the Gifts of Grief (25:28 – 26:10)

• Grief transforms when we learn to respond to its cycles. Personal memories become part of living legacy—Ken’s granddaughter bears the name of his late mother.
• Quote:
  • “The name that was draped in black grape of mourning, we now say all the time...these are the gifts.” —Ken Burns (26:10)

6. Living in the Present While Engaged in History

Community, Collaboration, and Purpose (26:19 – 27:33)

• Reflects on the joy and meaning found in close collaboration—staff described as “family members.”
• Quotes from Revolutionary war figures used as analogies for overcoming the odds, linking them to the process of finding meaning from adversity.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Careerism is death.” —Ken Burns quoting Robert Penn Warren (04:18)
• “If I were given a thousand years to live, which I won't, I wouldn't run out of topics in American history.” —Ken Burns (08:54)
• “I've had a series of acquired political...opinions that I’ve now rejoiced in letting go...I try not to make the other wrong.” —Ken Burns (14:03)
• “The half-life of grief is endless.” —Ken Burns (18:08)
• “Closure is a myth.” —Host (19:05)
• “I want Sarah.” (Ken’s uncle’s direct statement about grief) (19:14)
• “You wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you’re really waking up?” —Gerald Steckler, as recounted by Ken Burns (24:50)
• “I have to remain optimistic about the human condition.” —Ken Burns (24:06)
• “Grief reminds us to cherish life, and no one reinforces that message more powerfully than you.” —Host (26:10)

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Important Segment Timestamps

• 01:57 – Ken on single parenthood and fatherhood
• 03:29 – 05:05 – Best/worst career advice; “careerism is death”
• 05:05 – 06:53 – Dream dinner party; stories about women in history
• 06:53 – 09:46 – Documentary topics and the abundance of history
• 13:18 – 13:59 – Best and worst post-presidency
• 14:03 – 15:09 – Letting go of the need to be right
• 18:08 – 18:55 – The "half-life" of grief
• 19:02 – 20:23 – The myth of closure; waxing and waning of grief
• 20:44 – 21:37 – On history, perspective, and the micro/macro
• 21:37 – 25:25 – Enthusiasm, optimism, carrying the departed forward
• 25:28 – 26:10 – Transmuting grief and the legacy of names
• 26:19 – 27:33 – Living in the present, collaboration, and gratitude

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Tone & Takeaway

The conversation is candid, warm, and philosophical, blending Burns’ trademark narrative richness with Adam Grant’s sensitive, probing curiosity. Ken’s tone moves fluidly from humorous self-deprecation (on his inability to give short answers) to emotive vulnerability on grief and love. The central thread is not just storytelling, but the search for meaning and connection through history, memory, and ongoing transformation.

Final Note:
Listeners come away with a deepened appreciation for the persistence of grief as a creative force, the necessity of optimism, and the value of embracing one’s own (and others’) complexity. As Burns says, “It’s good to live and to live fully”—a credo for both history and the present.

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End of summary.

Transcript

[Adam Grant]

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[Ken Burns]

I've been divorced. I've been a single dad twice. The failure of the relationships were in fact a godsend with regard to parenting because it didn't permit the distractions of my work, which are enormous, to take away from the fundamental stuff that for half the time I had to be there and cooking dinner and doing laundry and, you know, homework.

[Interviewer/Host]

Wow.

[Ken Burns]

I have four daughters and they're 43 to 15. I'm nowhere near as good a filmmaker, I think, as I am a father.

[Adam Grant]

Hey everyone, it's Adam Grant. Welcome Back to rethinking my podcast with Ted on the science of what makes us tick. I'm an organizational psychologist and I'm taking you inside the minds of fascinating people to explore new thoughts and new ways of thinking.

[Interviewer/Host]

This week we're back with the king.

[Adam Grant]

Of historical documentaries, Ken Burns. In this second half of our conversation, things turned a little personal. We talked about the role of loss and grief in his work and about how he hates careerism. And I put him in the hot seat with the biggest challenge I could think of for someone like Ken Burns.

[Interviewer/Host]

All right, I want to ask if you're up for a lightning round.

[Ken Burns]

Sure. Well, you know, if I can have 6 part 12 hour answers.

[Interviewer/Host]

I know this is a very constraining forum for you.

[Ken Burns]

Yeah, no, no, no. I'm just warning you in apology for the tendency to get excited and then go on.

[Interviewer/Host]

It's part of the magic of your work, not something you should apologize for. Okay, so first lightning question. What is the worst career advice you've received?

[Ken Burns]

Why would you move to New Hampshire when you've been offered a job in New York City and you don't have a paying job because you're working on a film about the Brooklyn Bridge? My first one. And conversely, or not conversely as a parallel to that, I was told by someone in an animation studio where we animate the movements on the photographs, said, no one will ever look at a Zoom that's 35 minutes on a single face. And I said, please do it anyway, you know. But the best advice was from Robert Penn Warren, who looked at me once and fixed me with these. They called George Mead the General at Gettysburg, the Union General, a damned old goggled eyed snapping turtle. And red Warren was like that too. And he looked at me and he said, careerism is death. And I've actually never used the word career except in the way we're speaking out it now. I refer entirely to my professional life because careerism does presuppose that somebody else has already determined the rut you're in, the course you're going to take, and has limited all a priori, therefore the options and the ability to escape the specific gravity of that particular course if it turns out not to be, as Emerson said, if it doesn't inly rejoice, which is the greatest adverb inly in self reliance.

[Interviewer/Host]

All right, you get to host a.

[Ken Burns]

Dinner party with Louis Armstrong, Abraham Lincoln. I want people that would talk Franklin and Elizabeth Cady Stanton. She's married and she has kids. And so Susan B. Anthony gets all the stuff, but she's the writer. She's the one who's just phenomenal stylist. I really love her. And in the revolutionary period, Abigail Adams may be the best writer of them all. And so gutsy and so fantastic. She has a great relationship with her prickly, obnoxious, as he called himself, husband John. But she's great. You can't even say a proto feminist. She's a feminist and she's anti slavery. Back then, like episode one, she's like, you know, this is wrong, everybody. You know, cut the crap.

[Interviewer/Host]

Well, that actually anticipates my next question, which is I wanted to get you to react to a few pitches from me on who might be the subject of your next film.

[Ken Burns]

Even though I know what I'm doing for the next, of course, seven years. And I now have to say, God and funding willing right now that I'm.

[Interviewer/Host]

Yes, of course. So the first one is maybe this is a sequel to not for Ourselves Alone, but I think Lucy Stone is the unsung hero of the suffrage movement.

[Ken Burns]

I agree. Terrific project. I agree. She wonderful story. And in fact, when I worked with my longtime editor, Paul Barnes, who was a co creator producer on this and the Roosevelts, and while we were editing Civil War, every day we'd go out to lunch in New York City with whoever kind of collected and he'd just be talking about this biography of Stanton and Anthony. And I just. I listened to it and it sounded so great. I said, we'll do it. So we did do it. And they die well before. But it's their language that becomes the amendment. Yeah. And the work is ongoing. You know, it's ongoing.

[Interviewer/Host]

All right. So you may not take it on, but you think someone should do the. Lucy.

[Adam Grant]

Oh, my God.

[Ken Burns]

Yes. Oh, and I'm sure they have, I mean, American experience. You're sure there's not something that hasn't taken the post Stanton Anthony suffragists and done something with those folks? I mean, we mentioned her and we take it right up to Harry Byrne in Tennessee, who cast the deciding vote in the last state that will ratify that amendment. And he'd been against the amendment, but he'd come with a letter from his mom who told her him to do the right thing. And he did.

[Interviewer/Host]

There we go. All right. Second idea was history of the Supreme Court.

[Ken Burns]

Oh, fantastic. Fantastic. And you know, I think after, I guess you'd have to say all the President's Men, that Bob Woodward's best book is about the Supreme Court and a Lot of other people have added some pretty good scholarship about it. I, I think it'd be a terrific thing. I mean, it's just filled with just spectacularly good and spectacularly bad decisions. You know, you can just do it on the bad decisions. Right. Yuval Levin, the conservative scholar that I was speaking with a few weeks ago, said that the founders would not be surprised by finding somebody wanting monarchical powers. They'd be surprised that Article 1, the legislative branch had given up and ceded so much of their powers. That's the thing. They'd be just what we designed this with you guys at the center of it. And Levin said, you got to think of it in tenses. Legislative is future tense. You shall do this. The executive is present tense. I will execute this. And the Supreme Court is past tense. Trying to make sense of what the tension between the future and the present is. It's sort of an interesting kind of elemental and yet completely seductive way of thinking about something that we tend to just burden with too much thinking and too much binary thinking when it needs something with more finesse.

[Interviewer/Host]

You're just going to greenlight all of my pitches. Is that what's happening here?

[Ken Burns]

Well, you know, because I really love, as I said, if I were given a thousand years to live, which I won't, I wouldn't run out of topics in American history. We're working on LBJ and the Great Society. We've been working on it for years. We're working on Emancipation to Exodus, which is the story essentially of Reconstruction both before and after the most misunderstood period in American history. I've conducted eight two hour interviews with Barack Obama, no rush, because I want to escape the specific gravity of journalism to be able to do a big series on him. I think I've got at least two to go. He'd probably say one, or maybe none. I'm done talking to you. We've been filming people who knew Dr. King. I want to do a series for years. It was going to be on the Cold War. Now I want to do it on the CIA because I figured you get the Cold War, but you also get all that intimate stuff of the CIA. Right?

[Interviewer/Host]

Well, that was going to be my third pitch, actually was the precursor to the CIA. The OSS I thought would be a great.

[Ken Burns]

My favorite moment is that on September 2, 1945, that's the day the Japanese are surrendering on the USS of Missouri and Tokyo Bay unconditionally in Baden Square, in Hanoi, Ho Chi Minh, this Nationalist leader, that the Russians and the Chinese are suspicious of because he's purportedly a communist, but they don't think he is. His life has been saved by OSS officers who've parachuted into northern Vietnam and save the life of a guerrilla leader in order to lead this thing. And he's saying, we hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal, and standing next to him are OSS guys. Within five weeks they have been told unequivocally by the State Department, get away from this guy. He's a commie and we don't like commies anymore.

[Adam Grant]

Wow.

[Ken Burns]

Yeah.

[Adam Grant]

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[Interviewer/Host]

Okay, next lightning question. This is inspired by one of our past guests, Jared Cohen. The question is, who do you think had the best post presidency?

[Ken Burns]

It's obviously between Jimmy Carter and John Quincy Adams and I can't decide. John Tyler had the worst. Yeah, I don't want to decide between those two guys. And everybody, I assume, knows enough within the sound of our voices. Adam, about Jimmy Carter, which is a remarkable, spectacular post presidency and not even hospice could kill him. You know, he's in hospice for a year and a half or something. But John Quincy Adams does what George Washington kind of suggests, that being a citizen is this ongoing project.

[Interviewer/Host]

You know, what's something you've rethought or changed your mind about lately?

[Ken Burns]

So I think I've had a series of acquired political or maybe even at times philosophical, but certainly just societal opinions that I've now rejoiced in letting go my best friend. Someone asked him what was the secret to his long marriage. And he said, we try not to make the other wrong. And I always have tried to apply that because I find that there is this knee jerk necessity to sort of make this thing or this moment or that action or this person particularly wrong. And that the actual act of trying to check that you fail, but trying to check that is actually what we're supposed to be doing. You know, when you're asking about the moral relativism, it's just a process, Right. And none of us get out of here alive. None of us get out of here alive. So what? What? You know what. What is it that tends a garden, raises a child, cures a disease, does a symphony? You know, this is the project.

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[Interviewer/Host]

Okay, one more question for you. What is the question you have for me? As an organizational psychologist, I had a.

[Ken Burns]

Conversation with Anderson Cooper on his grief podcast. And I said to him that I thought that the half life of grief was endless. I lost my mom after an eight year illness, nine year illness when I was 11 years old, and that was 60 and a half years ago. And I wouldn't do what I do if she hadn't died. And it's really way longer than anyone should be without a mother. So. Do you agree that the half life of grief is endless? It pays dividends, it has its positive aspects to it, but at the same time it's loss and loss is loss.

[Adam Grant]

I do.

[Interviewer/Host]

I'm struck by the fact that our cultural narratives are about grief are broken.

[Ken Burns]

Right?

[Interviewer/Host]

We, we expect it to be acute and then to fade. And we talk all the time about closure. And I think closure is a myth.

[Ken Burns]

I do too.

[Interviewer/Host]

I think if you love someone, you never let them go. I think grief seems to ebb and flow over time and we get better at processing it. But I don't think it ever fully fades, do you?

[Ken Burns]

No. My aunt Sarah just died, 92, lived a great life devoted to, to her husband and her husband to her. And I was talking to my uncle Johnny on the phone and I was saying, I'm so sorry and you know, let us know if there's anything you can do, if there's anything you want. And he goes, I want Sarah. You know, I just, I just burst into tears because of course it's like the little girl, you know, who's blowing out the cake at age 3 or 4. What did you wish for? I wish for cake. Right. Come on, get over it. You know, it's not world peace. It's not this or this I want cake. And there's something really direct about that. And there's something really direct about what my uncle said. And it just reminded me the extent to which I am, as I think most people are in some ways defined much more by loss than by the good times, the gated community, seeming security and that. It's really about these moments and the decisions that you make in them.

[Interviewer/Host]

I think this is such a widespread misunderstanding of grief, and I blame it in part on the stage models that were popular for so long that said, you have to progress through one to get to the next. And the reality is they're much more like phases of the moon where they wax and wane. And what that says to me is that moving forward after loss is not about erasing our sorrow.

[Adam Grant]

It's more about gaining perspective.

[Interviewer/Host]

And in a way, Ken, that's what all of your work has done for us. You zoom in and zoom out in ways that, that give us perspective that we never could have had otherwise. And I think that's a beautiful thing.

[Ken Burns]

Well, that is a very nice thing to say. I do recognize that there is a profound similarity between the architecture of the atom and the architecture of the solar system. And I think that too often we focus either on the macro or the micro to the exclusion of the other. And it is possible to spend time, say in this American Revolution project where you are certainly with George Washington, but you're also with Betsy Ambler, who's 10 years old in 1775, and that there's, there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it's really good to collect, to exist in the tension between the cosmic and the microscopic, the atomic.

[Interviewer/Host]

I love that. And maybe at the risk of mixing metaphors, you know, in, in talking to you, I have such a strong sense that you're more than a filmmaker. You are a conductor of history. As you talk about it, I can see you right, sort of orchestrating the different notes and melodies and instruments in a way that brings it together.

[Ken Burns]

The day to day process is so much about stepping back from it and permitting the stuff, not imposing. People are always saying, so 10 years, what sort of theory of it did you do? Essentially, what historiography? What lens did you see? You go, no, we got, we have all these different varieties of perspectives. Any one lens is the blind man describing one part of the elephant. And you don't want that. You want a whole worldview of that elephant. So a lot of it is just stepping back. But what happens when we finish? People go, you work 10 years, didn't you get bored? You go, no, you have no idea. I don't want to leave this thing, this evangelical period where we're out for nine months talking and doing endless conversations and interviews and screenings and 40 cities and all of that, you know, it's wearing. But I love it because what happens is that then you're beginning to conduct your own set of emotions that you've developed over the last 10 years and, and, and to try to share them. Because it's infectious, right? If you. I remember once, right after the Civil War series, somebody, some journalist, wanted to take me down a peg, you could tell, and, and, and describe me as enthusiastic. And I knew it was in a pejorative context that it had been used. And a friend of mine said, look it up. And I knew he didn't mean the definition, so I went to the etymology and it means God. In US And I just looked at him and I said, thank you, you know, meaning, am I enthusiastic? I will plead guilty to that because somehow the Holy Spirit has just spoken in whatever story it might be, and I can get as excited about Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony or Benjamin Franklin or the Brooklyn Bridge, the Central Park Five, as I can about the American Revolution or Vietnam or the Civil War.

[Interviewer/Host]

Gosh, if the worst critique that somebody can make of your work is that you're enthusiastic, you've made it.

[Ken Burns]

Well, there was an article in a newspaper not to be named, the paper of record, some people call it, in which the word optimism was used as a pejorative, as a naive and pejorative condition. And I go f you, no, no, cynicism, that's a luxury that you may possess. I do not have that ability to be cynical. I, I have to remain optimistic about the human condition because I'm delving into it and I'm meeting unbelievably interesting people that sustain me and also, I think, mitigate the grief. My, my late father in law was a well known psychologist in the Boston area named Gerald Steckler. And when I told him I seemed to be keeping my mother alive, he told me, you know, I bet you blow out your birthday candles wishing she'd come back. I go, how do you know? And he said, well, look what you do for a living. I said, what? He said, you wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you're really waking up? So Lila Tupper Burns, my mother, deceased since April 28, 1965, is here, right? She's part of the animating engine. The fuel of this project, of my trying to tell stories comes from her and her absence, right? All of it is confounding and exhilarating at the same time.

[Interviewer/Host]

And isn't that the ultimate purpose of grief?

[Ken Burns]

That's exactly right, is to transform. You don't wear the widow's black for a year and then that's it, get over it. As you're saying, it's cycles. It's just you figure out how to respond to each cycle. So, I mean, a couple weeks ago I just broke down and cried. I missed her, you know, and I just missed her. It's sixty and a half years. And yet my oldest daughter, who had never met her grandmother, obviously named her first child Lila. And so the name that was draped in black grape of mourning, we now say it all the time. I saw Lila yesterday. I said, lila, granddaddy gives me a big hug, and you just go, these are the gifts.

[Interviewer/Host]

Wow. Grief reminds us to cherish life, and no one reinforces that message more powerfully than you.

[Ken Burns]

Well, it's good to live and to live fully and to live, you know, Strange for someone who spends all his time in the past to live in the present. I mean, this is the process that we work on with just incredibly talented people in the case of the revolution, Sarah Botstein and David Schmidt, who make it happen that my longtime collaborator, Jeffrey Ward, cinematographer Buddy Squires. I've been working with Buddy for more than 50 years. I mean, it's their family members, it feels like. And it's important to acknowledge that if I've said we a couple times, it's not royal. You know, there's a great. I will tell you, there's a great guy in our film that we follow throughout. A German mercenary named Johann Evel. Captain Johan Evel. And he is openly contemptuous of what he calls the rebels, just as the British. They don't call us patriots, they call us rebels. But he's in the surrendering army. Johann Ewald is at Yorktown, and he says, who would have thought 100 years ago that out of this multitude of rabble would arise a people who could defy kings. Yeah. Another one bites the dust.

[Interviewer/Host]

I will use the royal we and say, we are so grateful to have you in the present with us, and I will take your infectious enthusiasm any day.

[Ken Burns]

It's been my pleasure. Thank you. This has been an oasis of conversation. Adam. Thank you.

[Interviewer/Host]

Thank you.

[Adam Grant]

Rethinking is hosted by me, Adam Grant. The show is produced by Ted with Cosmic Standard. Our producer is Jessica Glaser. Our editor is Alejandra Salazar. Our engineer is Asia Pilar Simpson. Our technical director is Jacob Winick, and our fact checker is Paul Durbin. Our team includes Eliza Smith, Roxanne Hylash, Ban Chang, Julia Dickerson, Tansika Sung Manivong and Whitney Pennington Rogers. Original music by Hans Dale Su and Alison Layton Brown.

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