Todd Friel (30:45)
Yeah, I would want to know more details, so I don't want to say something that might hurt more than help. So let me just talk about overthinking, if you will. As a general concept, there's no rules about overthinking. Probably the best rule of overthinking is that you tell yourself, I've just been spending too much time on this. That's probably a pretty good judge that you're overthinking something or your family tells you, settle the issue, let's move on. Or you've made a decision and then you go back and revisit it. You make a decision and you go back and revisit it. At some point, you are crossing a line into what could be sinful territory. Let me explain that. Typically when somebody overthinks something, it is a version of scrupulosity where you just have to run the play over and over and over again. At some point, it could demonstrate a lack of trust in God or a lack of trust in God's granting facilities to you, meaning he's given you a brain. He's given you a body, meaning the body of Christ. He's given you a Bible use that. Make a decision having followed biblical precepts for godly decision making, trusting that you are being faithful to him, and then you pull the trigger. And you do move on. Because if you keep going back to revisit it, then you're not trusting the faculties that God has given to you, or you're not trusting God himself, or you're not trusting people who actually are wise in the situation and have given you every valid reason to make a particular decision. So you want to make sure that this overthinking, you got to have some sort of measurement for it. I think the aforementioned, you're kind of making yourself a little bit agitated. Your family, or you're just. You're just singing the same song, repeating it over and over and over again. Yeah, you're probably overthinking something. Make sure it's not a lack of trust and make sure there's another sin territory. The second biggie that's typically connected with scrupulosity is you think that you have to be in control of everything and everything has to work out. Now, there's a ton of tentacles to that. For instance, it could be pride, it could be control, it could be not wanting to look bad. If you make a bad decision. So make sure that whatever is causing the repeat thinking isn't in the territory of I'm playing the divine because I've got to figure this out. So it's resting and trusting in God, his word, the people he's put in your life, the faculties that he's provided to you. And then you stop thinking about it. Now, you didn't maybe want all of that and you just wanted, well, how do I stop thinking about it? Well, if it's a sin, that's a great place to start. Because now what you need to do is repent. If you are sinning in your scrupulosity, then you need to repent of that. Now, here's the great news. The Lord loves to hear those prayers of repentance, and he loves to provide the power for you to overcome those sin patterns. So you ask him for his help. You ask God's people to hold you accountable. You figure out when it is that you cross that line into scrupulosity and you have a conversation with yourself self. You're overthinking, you're not trusting the Lord. You've got pride in this situation. Whatever it is, Lord, I repent of that. Help me to stop this. I'm going to stop this thinking now. And then you're going to probably have to at least initially work on some tactics for literally changing the tune. You'll have to make some definite, just some really earnest efforts to just change what you're thinking about. Might I suggest you memorize particular Bible verses so the next time you find yourself running the play over and over and over again? Stop. All right. Titus, chapter three, one four. Okay, that's. I'm just going to recite that to take your mind off of the repeating of the same information over and over and over again, should it become something that is more debilitating for you, really encourage you. You can do two things. First of all, scrupulosity, the OCD is probably the DSM term for it. We used to call it scrupulosity. There are biblical counseling resources for that very subject. And you should know, you ain't weird. Let me tell you, this is super common. So this ain't like flaky land. This is a very common human malady. Biblical counseling resources or find yourself a biblical counselor@biblicalcounseling.com to help you walk through it. If it's really tripping you up on a regular basis, call in the supports, start with materials, call in a biblical counselor, talk to your elders and Let the church do for you what the church is designed to do, and that is to help one another. Oh, you got something.