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Steve Fury (2:07)
Lock the gate.
Marc Maron (2:17)
All right, let's do this. How are you? What the fuckers? What the fuck, buddies? What the fucking ears? What's happening? What is happening? Happy Thanksgiving. Are you listening on Thanksgiving Day? Is this your Thanksgiving pep talk? Is this your way out? Have you pulled yourself away from the chaos in the kitchen or the chaos of the family drama, whatever that may Be. Are you looking for respite? Well, maybe I can help you. I don't know. You know, I'm not doing my regular Thanksgiving thing because the situation is different, but I just didn't get it together. I'm going to be home for Thanksgiving, and I think it seems that I will be watching several different screens because Kit wants to watch the dog show, the parade, and a game of some kind. Thinking about making some chili, laying low. I've been busy, and I just didn't get it together to go to Florida because my mom's not at her house anymore and, well, there's no reason for it. I just. I just didn't get it together. They're all going to be eating at my cousin's, but I'm not. I'm not going to be there. But that doesn't mean I'm not there in spirit or I can't empathize for your particular situation, but I have some thoughts. I don't know if you. If you want my thoughts or maybe you do. Maybe that's why you're listening. I'll get to them. Let me just say this. If you want to get your holiday shopping started with a Brian Jones cap mug, there's a new batch on sale tomorrow, Black Friday at noon Eastern. These are the mugs that I give my guests. They're handmade by Brian Jones. He's made some more of the black and gold ones, so get yours starting tomorrow at wtfmugs.co. they're nice things, and they're nice gifts. And if somebody, you know, likes this show or you like it for yourself, go ahead. They're unique. They're all. Every one of them is unique, like a cat. Steve Fury is on the show. He's a regular at the Comedy Store, and he's toured with Burt Kreischer. But he's one of these guys that, you know, I used to see all the time. I've appeared on his shows sometimes, and it was one of these things where, like, you know, I finally at some point sat down and watched him, and I'm like, holy shit, this guy's a funny fuck. He's the real deal. I wonder what his story is. So I asked him to be on the show. Turns out his mom's a big fan. I get that a lot. I get that a lot now. Yeah, my mom loves you. I'm like, oh, how old are you? But I just wanted to get to know him. So I had him on because I think he's a funny fucker. So look you guys, I've been thinking. I've spent a few days here in New Mexico, my hometown. I spent a lot of time with my dad this time. And I don't know, you know, it's difficult, man. It's difficult when they're old and they're kind of losing it. But I found some interesting things about me and my father at this stage of where he's at is that I feel like I have the same approach to him that he had to me in my life. Like, you know, there were times where I was hobbled or I thought I was sick or I broke my bones. He was the orthopedic surgeon. He set my leg twice, and it's still. I don't walk right. And that's an indicator of the type of attention that one might get from a father as opposed to a doctor. I have no memory of doing physical therapy when I had a spiral fracture of my tibia because he set my ski bindings too tight and I fell and twisted it up. I have no recollection of physical therapy after he ran over my foot while I was trying to get out of a car. But I was fortunate in those moments that he did know how to set a legacy and set an ankle. But there wasn't much follow through. And it was always sort of a. Not necessarily tough love, slightly detached. And I found myself today when I was helping him out of the car because he's not totally disoriented. But walking seems to be a challenge and memories are fading. And I don't know, I have a certain amount of humor about it, but I do find myself going, come on. You good? You out? Can you get out? You need help? What do you want? It's not that I don't care, but it's like, it's a very practical approach. It's not very emotionally loaded. I'm not necessarily being caring. I'm just sort of like, what do you need? Are we getting out of the car? Are we walking? Are we going? Are you good? And I realized today that that's exactly sort of the way he handled me. But he was responsible for both times I broke my fucking leg. I'm not responsible. His fucking, you know, his dementia or whatever the fuck is going on, but it doesn't matter. I was both amazed that I was sort of approaching him with the same kind of caring, aggravated detachment that he did me, but also, you know, happy to be there, happy to help out, happy to spend time with him. And, I don't know, I've had some Sort of weird shift about this thing, about the predicament of being a reasonable person in the face of an unreasonable election outcome and the sort of divisiveness that exists all the way down to the familial playing field or the familial relationships that are strained by this thing, you know, and I know we're in it again, and you're in it again, and I don't know, maybe I could share a story that happened that. I don't know if it's enlightening or what. You know, my father and I don't think we're on different sides politically, but he's not a very political person. He just. And he's also, like, he's not all there. So, you know, he just reacts emotionally and he's like, you know, yeah, I think that Trump's a good guy. And I'm like, all right, you know, what am I going to do? Yell at my dad with dementia? I know his wife doesn't think the same way I do politically for religious reasons and other reasons. But it was funny because I was driving over there and was like, all right, just, you know, nothing has changed other than everything on some level, but these are people, they're your family. You go in. So I walk into their house and, you know, my dad's wife is listening to. Rosie's listening to something on her computer. And it sounded like talk radio to me. It was just that broadcasting voice sound of people going at it or engaged in that patter that is talk radio. And I'm just walking down the hallway, my dad's, I don't know, polishing his shoes or something, and she's walking around with a computer listening to this, and I'm like, here we go. What the fuck is she listening to? And I couldn't really make out the voices. It just sounded like radio to me. But eventually, you know, I just. Within 40 seconds, 30 seconds, I said, what are you listening to? With a slight, you know, there was, you know, I was ready to kind of get into this judgmental zone of like, oh, yeah, Hewitt, whatever, Hannity. What do you. What is it? What do you. Which. Which one of those idiots are we listening to today? And I go, what are you listening to? She goes, you. I'm like, what? I'm like, which one? She's like, the one that came out yesterday. And I'm like, oh. She's like, we always listen. And I'm like, oh, my God. Just, you know, is a humbling moment that I couldn't even identify My own voice, because I don't ever listen to the playback. It just sounded like, you know, talk radio to me, which is sort of what this is. But it just kind of diffused something in my brain. And I don't know what is my point as we enter this zone and as I deal with my aging and fragile father, is that I think there was a time where these political sides and division wasn't as defined and horrible and toxic, and everybody is sort of informed with their own version of what they think justifies their ideology or their. Or their anger or whatever. You know, it was obviously different. You know, there was, I believe, a time where, you know, people just voted. And you may know that they are different politically than you are, but, you know, they. They are still, you know, your family. And I think in the past, you know, I've had this idea that, like, you know, it's going to be tough and, you know, I mean, I hope you get through your meal. You know, I hope it doesn't get too heated, but on the side of where I come from, and I can get heated or whatever, and I don't like it. I don't like engaging in those arguments, because all of a sudden you enter this tenor, this tone. Even if you think you're being rational and reasonable and you just want to talk this out, you can actually get beside yourself into this tone that. That has no real empathy to it. It's just sort of anger. Anger and disbelief and this desire to speak your mind, even though you know it's not going to go anywhere. And I guess the moment I had with my dad, and just in general is that, you know, political affiliation or thought, it's just, you know, it's one component of a person. Even if they're all caught up, I mean, even if they're frothing at the mouth, even if they are gloating and families are fraught with other issues. And oddly, I think the discourse politically, especially if you're on a different side than certain family members that you have to spend time with, a lot of the posturing and anger and kind of arrogance to it, it may be masking a lot of other stuff. I think that seems to be what we do sometimes, you know, in relationship and families, is that if you can lock into something that, you know is decisive and you believe it in a moment, but has nothing to do with the general disposition or your emotional experience with your family, you know, you lean into it. And I guess what I would say, only because I just experienced it for myself, is Try to see what the other components are. I mean, if you have love for these people, you know, try and get to that place because, you know, they're not going to be around forever and you might go to your grave disagreeing with them, and they might not ever see your way of thinking. But, you know, if there is love there and there is history there, find that place and try to sit in that a little bit and rise above it. These people aren't around forever, and some of the stuff that lies beneath whatever political views they may have may be traumatizing or difficult as well. But. But I don't know, just to save your own sanity, I would try to engage with what you come from and the good parts of that and perhaps the times which you were connected to these people in a way that defines you. And some of the good things about yourself and the good things about them, I think that you should try to do that. It doesn't mean you can't take a break. But, you know, try not to lose your shit. And, you know, it's not your job to stop other people from losing their shit. But again, this kind of goes along with the theme of, you know, keep hold of yourself, you know, stay in. You, you know, kind of hold on to who you are in the face of all this stuff. But. And that I think is important on a family level, you know, because, like, the one thing I did notice about me and my father is that I'm not like him. There are things I have of him that, you know, are, you know, somewhat liabilities. And I'm not thrilled about it, but for the most part, some of the stuff that, you know, you know, he's one of these guys where everything's bullshit, you know, what's the point? Who gives a shit? But. But even that's posturing. You know, these are all. Everybody's fragile. They can't hide their humanness. I'm not even going to say humanity, because I'm not disregarding the idea that there are monsters out there. But I don't know, for your own sanity and maybe for something that could be somewhat cathartic and maybe enriching on some level in terms of where you are with your family in these holidays, you know, I would try to. I would try to find that. Because whatever happens at your dinner table is not going to change the world. And whatever's happening in the world, you know, is out of our control on some level, at least on this day and in that room that you're in or you're going to be in and, you know, whatever goes on there, it's not going to make anything necessarily better in the world or provide you with solace or, you know, it could make you more angry. But the bottom line is, is that if you're with family and it's strained, you do have a little bit of control over that. And you do have an ability to act differently or think differently or take contrary actions to what your emotions are telling you to do. You know, find the love, folks. Find the love. Because everyone's going to die and we're all in this shit show together. Some people are more responsible for it than others. Look at how you're different. Look at how you saved your own fucking life in the midst of growing up in a certain way. Kind of fortify yourself with that and then try to see the good things. Because if you're showing up for dinner, you don't have to do that, but you're doing it. Why? There's got to be something in that bag that defines who you are and who you are emotionally. And those might come from the good parts of whatever shit show you might have found yourself growing up in. If you've been listening to me for a while, you know, I'm fairly preoccupied with my health. I exercise, I try to eat right, and I've a regular vitamin routine, which is why AG1 seemed like a great sponsor for this show. And right now, AG1 is running a special Black Friday offer for all of November. AG1 is a Daily health drink packed with nutrients to help alleviate bloating, support sustained energy and whole body health. But another great thing about AG1, especially at this time of year, is you can give it as a gift and start someone in your life on the path to a healthier routine every day. I gave some AG1 to Kit and then Brendan got in on it too. 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