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Marc Maron
Lock the gate. All right, let's do this. How are you? What the fuckers? What the fuck, buddies? What the fuck, Nicks? What's happening? I'm Marc Maron. This is my podcast. Welcome to it. I'm sitting here in my studio amongst random garbage. Detritus of my life. A life's worth of detritus. I'm sorry, I. I just. I've only been home a few days, and I've been through a lot over the last couple years, kind of burning into. Into that special that I taped on Saturday. And now right. Right away, that it just picks up like, all right, what. What are we going to do for the marketing? What are we going to do for the ads? What do you like? What? What? Let's look at some pictures. What are we doing? Still coming down, man. But, you know, I. I don't. I'm making some progress, folks, and it's progress in a mental health kind of way, I think. You know, as I've talked to you about it, I've been on that busporin for a bit, and I can't really tell if it works. I can kind of tell because something's happening. Like, I can. I can see the zone of my anxiety and Is somewhere in between who I am and the things I do to make myself crazy. Okay. Some of those things are, you know, legit. There's no reason not to feel anxiety about certain things if they should cause anxiety. But there's. There is reason to. To perhaps not make it your life's work, which my life, it kind of is, on some level, part of it. But I. I'm. I think the beast born is giving me a little space within who I really am now. And what you. You know, what I've become and whatever journey I've been on and the things I've overcome to make me who I am and the part of my brain that's just sort of like, nope, you're not him. And, hey, how come we haven't done anything today to feel shitty about ourselves? We don't have to. I can still beat the shit out of you for no reason. You want to get hypercritical about? How about your special? You remember that one line that you don't think went that well, even though they got two shows of it from nine different cameras? And maybe if you have to do adr, you can do it, but that doesn't matter because you fucked it up. You fucked it up. You fuck. All right, let's move through. Let's move through that one. Let's let that go. But, you know, it's always right there for you. There are some things that I shouldn't feel anxious about that I do. Food, my looks. It's just there is. What I'm realizing is that there's a whole world of my brain that is constructed a certain way because of things that happened when I was younger that just wants to, you know, generate detritus. Just garbage, you know, just kind of psychic detritus that just stacks up. And then I'm like, how do I even clean this? How do we get rid of this? I've got a neural pathway full of psychic detritus in all types of forms and shapes, memories, moments, patterns. So I guess what I'm saying is it's kind of working. I went to the shrink, made him get out of his house. Not going to do zoom for things that don't that, you know, where human interaction is possible. And I made him sit across from me, and he gave me this sort of anxiety test, you know, and compared it to, I guess, the first time I was there. And he said I'm about 30% better. He'd like 50. So I don't know. And I also think that I'm getting some side effects, but I'm not obsessed with them because I don't know if there are side effects from. From the medicine or just side effects for the fact that my life has been fucking stressful for the last year or so. Every day, three jobs, always thinking, never a free moment, you know, but. But I just. I wanted to explore with you that zone between, like, you gotta be grateful, give yourself credit for what you've overcome and who you are today. Like, there's a lot of things like that I'm not anxious about. I wasn't anxious about the special. I wasn't anxious about the material. I was a little, you know, you know, on the fence about my shirt, and I was hoping my hair would work out all right. But in terms of feeling fear going into it, zero. Zero anxiety. But then I realized that that is who I am now, that I no longer have those fears. But my brain was sort of like, yeah, but we're pretty used to, you know, kind of making it difficult for you and. And having fears, you know, in general. So I'm glad that you're not fearing the thing you've worked on for two years and that you're ready to go, but let's do. Let's do these other ones. There's all kinds of dread we can muster up. And I know I've talked about this before, but I think that if anything is working, it's that the medicine is giving me a little more space between who I am, where my brain's at now in terms of I'm okay, you know, I'm doing good work. I'm, you know, I've learned a lot of just all the stuff that represents, you know, the whole person, but I still got this fucking garbage factory in my head. A goddamn detritus generator. You. Yeah, psychic detritus generator. Right. Huh. Today on the show, I'm talking to Carol Leifer. She's been on the show a while back, and I like her a lot. She was on like back in 2011, so it's been a long time. That was episode 203. But she's a stand up of the generation of Seinfeld and Larry David and, you know, little, you know, younger than Richard Lewis, but from that crew. She just recently won an Emmy for her writing on the show Hacks. And she's got a new book out called how to Write a Funny Speech. How to Write a funny speech. That's helpful for you people, I guess. You know, I don't know if it's still number one, but it used to be the biggest fear people have is public speaking, but now it seems like not enough people are afraid of it. I guess public speaking, when you do it alone in a room with your phone and you're speaking into it, is different than actually getting out there amongst the people. Putting it on the fucking line, man, where you can't fucking do another take. Delete it. Do another take. Delete it. Do another take, man. You got one shot at this fucker. Maybe two. Yeah, I'm talking about my special which should be out in July. I think the date is July 26th. Also that show I did with Owen Wilson. Stick that. That trailer's getting around. I guess that's premiering on June 4th. I think I should be more on top of these things. I should promote myself more. At least the things I'm involved with. Right. The bad guys is coming. But anyways, fear of public speaking, not enough of that going around. I think some, maybe some people should just turn it off, shut it down. All right. You know, I know you're charismatically engaging and whatever it is you do for 30 seconds at a time, but are you adding anything or are you just some. Some content detritus? Yeah. Is that it? So, look, it's time to take home security seriously, okay? I. 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So now that I'm opening up this space in between who I am currently and all the things that have made me who I am, that I've worked hard cognitively to manifest and the detritus mill in my mind and in that zone where I have this space, you know, it's time to figure out what do I enjoy that isn't immediate gratification? What do I enjoy? What things would you like to be doing, Mark? Would you like to sit down and read more books? I don't think so. Would you like to maybe take in more films and art? Only if it's good and it's well referred, you know, thoroughly vetted by people I respect who can, you know, tell me that it's great. Would you like to travel more? I don't know. I don't love it. You know, pitch me some places. This is the other part of my brain, by the way. Would you like to buy some other things, like a new car? Why? Why? Why? Just because I can. Would you like to get better at guitar? Yes, but I never seem to do it. I don't. I, you know, I practice and I play, but it's still within my comfort zone. And sometimes I add new notes from new scales I learned, but I guess that's progress. Would you like to do more music in your life, maybe with other people? Yes, yes, I would. But then you have to make plans and arrange things. Would you like to get rid of some of the books and pieces of, you know, things that you've collected over many years, either on purpose or not, and get rid of them. God damn it. Yes, I would. God damn it. But would that bring you joy? Maybe. Maybe some relief. But I've got to get beyond relief and into the joy thing. And I'm back home and I'm just doing stuff. I'm cooking. I'm trying to isolate. What do you like to do? I get up and I drink a lot of coffee. That guy John from Lantern Coffee, Grand Rapids, Michigan, sent me some coffee and some chocolates. Fuck, dude, that shit is so good. I don't even know if you can get it online. Lantern Coffee. Nice of them to send it because it's weird, because when you have an experience on the road and you're like, is this really the best I've had? Is this really amazing coffee? And you mention it on your podcast, and then the guy sends you some and you're like, God damn it, it is. But anyways, so I do the coffee. I do. I have several options of nicotine right now, which I could probably get off of. And then I exercise. But I like cooking. I started cooking. I like to have a full fridge of things. I cook so I can have things to eat all week. Because then. But what about. How about that? Maybe you should enjoy more food out. Why? I cook better at home. There's a lot of ways. Maybe you should spend more time with other people. But I do kind of well. And do what? I got to figure it out, because I, like, I just made some Indian food yesterday from scratch, and I just. I'm going to make some more. I look forward to it. But is that immediate gratification? Because, like, I take time making things and I eat it, like, really fast. Look, if I can widen that zone between who I am and the psychic garbage manufacturing plant in my head, maybe I can, you know, kind of stop, slow the plant down, you know, go through the garbage a little bit and then figure out some things I like to do. The problem is, it's just like, is this it? Is this it? And you know what? It kind of is. Even if you say, like, is this it? And I'm like, I'm not going to do it this way. I'm going to do it another way. Eventually you're going to hit, is this it? You know, when. When does that sentence. When does it. When is that question answered? Is this it? Yes. And it's amazing. Is this it? I hope so. Wow. So good. Because as soon as, like, you know, you do that. So good. And Then like a couple days later you're like, ah, it's okay. And you're just. Then you're back to. Is this it? God damn it. Just standing on a pile of fucking psychic detritus. Psychic detritus dump. I'm all right, though, the good part. I think that the part of me that, you know, feels proud of himself, feels like he's doing good work, enjoys things. He's going to win, man. He's. I'm rooting for him. I'm rooting for him. Ooh, I found this. This coconut yogurt. Look, I'm a plant based motherfucker right now who no longer says vegan because of annoying vegans, but Coco June coconut yogurt. Holy fuck. I was doing Coco yo for a while because, like, I like yogurt, but you want to get that probiotic stuff because, you know it's supposed to be the answer to everything. Is this. It is a probiotic. It is. Then, yes, it is. But this Cocoa June stuff is fucking great. Isn't it exciting when you find something you love to fucking just stick in your fucking mouth and eat it? Isn't it the best thing when you're like, man, I'm just gonna keep eating this until I don't like it anymore? It's great. See, I know joy. It's finding something that you just want to fucking shove into your mouth and keep eating until you're just like, you're beyond full, you're beyond happy, and you're just sort of in a world of fuck. How's that for an ad for a coconut yogurt? Eat until you're in a world of fucking Cocoa June yogurt. It's very good, though. It's hard to do the non dairy stuff and they just fucking nail it. Okay, look, Carol Leifer is here. Her new book that she co authored with Rick Mitchell is called how to Write a Funny Speech for a Wedding, Bar Mitzvah graduation and every other event you didn't want to go to in the first place. It's available now wherever you get books. And this is me and Carol talking. So Kathy Ladman is opening for me.
Carol Leifer
That is so great for the special. Fantastic.
Marc Maron
And, you know, I knew her when I was a door guy at the Comedy Store when I was 22. I used to see her.
Carol Leifer
I didn't know you were a door guy at the Comedy Store.
Marc Maron
Yeah, it was a. It was a brief period. It was almost a year. I got very up on drugs and I had to leave. But I was a Door guy in. I guess it would be 86, 87.
Carol Leifer
Okay.
Marc Maron
So I used to see Kathy, like, you know, when she was, like, young.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And I always liked her. I never thought she liked me, but I. I think she has one of those personalities where, like, anyone could assume that about her. I don't think she. I don't think she likes me. She just very. You know. But I decided, like, I'm going to have her open for me because, for one, as we were talking about before we turned the mics on, there's this, like, this Jewish thing that doesn't, you know, Jews sort of dictated what comedy was for decades.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And it's just gone.
Carol Leifer
I know.
Marc Maron
And, you know, it was the sort of through line of American standup, American comedy writing, everything. It was all that rhythm. It was all from that.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And it's gone. The people that do it are gone. But she's still here.
Carol Leifer
She is.
Marc Maron
And you're still here. And she's got a very specific kind of delivery that is very nostalgic for me, but also very true to what I grew up with.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And I just thought, like, well, that would be nice to have that.
Carol Leifer
Oh, she's a great opener for you. And I've been working with her a lot. Me, her and Wendy Liebman.
Marc Maron
Oh, really?
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Mother's Day. We're gonna be at Flappers and Burbank.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
Do you tour with it out in the world?
Carol Leifer
I do.
Marc Maron
And what do you call it? Is there a name for the tour? Is it like three Jewish ladies or something like that?
Carol Leifer
Hilarious.
Marc Maron
Of course.
Carol Leifer
How about it has to be that name.
Marc Maron
Why didn't I figure that out? Why didn't I guess that her larious. And what do you guys do, like, 20 each? Half hour each.
Carol Leifer
We do a half hour each. We just headlined the Comedy and Magic Club. We have a great, great time.
Marc Maron
Yeah. Yeah, I bet. And this is not an insult. Have you thought about, like, playing Jewish things?
Carol Leifer
Of course we have. Yes. Yeah. We did Tarzana. We did a country club in Tarzana that was about 99% Jewish. And it's fantastic. But I do a lot of speaking at temples, at jccs. You do Federation? Oh, yeah. That's very big on my docket.
Marc Maron
What do you mean? Like, this is a speaking engagement. So you're like writer, comedian, producer, whatever. We'll discuss her life and show business.
Carol Leifer
Exactly.
Marc Maron
Okay.
Carol Leifer
Judaism is in my DNA.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Okay. So that means what?
Carol Leifer
So I talk a lot about Mark, my Jewish upbringing. You know, how it's Impacted me through my life. And then people love my story of in show business because I've been around for so long.
Marc Maron
Right. And like, I know we covered probably a lot of it way back, but it's been a long time. But I mean, like, you were a standup. Like I remember you from being around when I was younger. And then you were a writer forever. Yes, but what was the first writing gig again?
Carol Leifer
My first writing job was on SNL. Oh, yeah, in 85.
Marc Maron
Was that the weird year when Lauren was gone?
Carol Leifer
Yes, yes, the weird year.
Marc Maron
Uh huh. And who brought you in?
Carol Leifer
What happened was I auditioned, there was a showcase at the Comic Strip, and Al Franken saw me with Jim Downey, who was the head writer for many years. And right after they approached me and said, we'd really, you know, love for you to be on the writing staff if you're into it. Am I into it? You just have to meet Lauren. So, you know, I was ready to move from LA back to New York to do this and got ready for my meeting with Lauren and had everything planned and my outfit and the whole thing. And I went to this rehearsal hall to meet him where he was auditioning cast members for that season. And he came out and he said, hello. And then he said, I don't do a good Lauren. He said, jim and Alf said, you're. You'd be great for a writing job. You know that it's a lot of late nights. And I said, yeah. And he said, okay. And he went back to the room and that was my meeting with Lorne Michaels.
Marc Maron
And then he was gone, though. Like, did he leave? Was he. Was that the year he wasn't around?
Carol Leifer
No, no, that was the year he was around. It's just a story of, you know, my 32nd meeting with Lorne Michaels to get a writing job on snl.
Marc Maron
Oh, you'd met him many times before? No, never.
Carol Leifer
That was it.
Marc Maron
And how long were you there?
Carol Leifer
I was there that season.
Marc Maron
That was it.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
What happened?
Carol Leifer
They, you know, they got rid of most of the cast and most of the writers after that season. But I was, you know, part of a murderer's row of writers that year.
Marc Maron
Who was there?
Carol Leifer
Smigel, Don Novello, John Swartzlander, George Meyer, Jack Handy. Yeah, yeah, it was a pretty great crew.
Marc Maron
It's so wild, man. Like, because I'm just starting to feel this sort of. I'm 61, so I'm just starting to feel like, holy shit. And because of COVID I theoretically should be 58, you know, like it happened to. All of a sudden I'm like, what happened? It's like, well, we lost three years.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
But now I'm looking around and I imagine it happened for you. Like, it just happens where all your peers were, like, older people.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And it's bizarre, I know, because you hold them in your memory as so. Like you're young people. And now all of a sudden, I'm looking at my contemporaries, like David Cross or, you know, Todd Berry or some of the guys I started out with at tell, and I'm like, we're the old guys now.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
The fuck happened?
Carol Leifer
It's crazy, right? It is crazy. Absolutely. Yeah.
Marc Maron
And the other thing we were talking about before, which, like, I realized, you know, after Richard, you know, passed away, like, I don't know what exactly happened. Why, you know, like everything else, comedy became non Jewish.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
It frightens me. But I also understand it. I used to have a theory that, you know, once antidepressants were introduced, you know, the tolerance for Jewish complaining was enough already. Was diminished. Right. Like, you know, you'd see Richard Lewis. I'm like, you know, they have medicines. Listen, you know, we can solve this problem.
Carol Leifer
Well, screw your act.
Marc Maron
Yeah, yeah, we solved this problem.
Carol Leifer
There's meds.
Marc Maron
Exactly.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
But I don't. I don't really know what happened, but I guess, like, lately I've been, you know, kind of nostalgic for it. Cause I don't see. Anytime I see somebody who is fundamentally Jewish, like, have you seen Robbie Hoffman? She's on Hacks this season.
Carol Leifer
Yes, yes, yes.
Marc Maron
That is crazy. Like, she grew up.
Carol Leifer
She's so funny.
Marc Maron
She's so funny. But she grew up Orthodox in this, where they still speak Yiddish. So she's actually like predates, you know, modern comedy Jews. And she has this delivery that's genuine, but it's like, just post Yiddish. It's crazy.
Carol Leifer
Wow.
Marc Maron
Yeah. So what, this public speaking thing. Cause I know you wrote this book.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And when I looked at it, I was sort of like, I'm not even sure I know how to do public speaking really well. I mean, I'm like, anytime I've done it, it's always off. I'm kind of. I'll write things down, but I don't think in terms of the structure or who I'm talking to. Like, there was a brief period where I would go out and make myself available for keynote type of things, but eventually I just get too personal and I do. It's not that I'm doing my act.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
I just get Too honest. And they're sort of like, what is it? Doesn't fall within the expectation of what public speaking is.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. But I would think, because Rick Mitchell, who I wrote this book with, who is a comedian and wrote on Ellen's talk show for three seasons, usually comedians, I love speaking at events, and he does, too. I would think that you would love, you know, not specifically keynotes for corporations or groups, but that I would think people go to you right away for a wedding or a memorial.
Marc Maron
No, never done either of those.
Carol Leifer
Wow. I'm very surprised.
Marc Maron
But. So do you have a chapter for memorials?
Carol Leifer
Yes, yes, absolutely. Because you know what I've found, and especially at our age, going to more memorials.
Marc Maron
I know.
Carol Leifer
I really enjoy speaking at them because I find it to be very cathartic for me personally. But also in the book, we talk about, you know, people are afraid to be funny at celebrations.
Marc Maron
I've seen people kill.
Carol Leifer
Right.
Marc Maron
Kevin Nguyen at Gary Shandling Memorial was the funniest thing I've ever seen in my life.
Carol Leifer
I saw that. I was there. Oh, my God, you had that, too.
Marc Maron
It was crazy.
Carol Leifer
Yes, yes.
Marc Maron
So funny.
Carol Leifer
But to bring up certain stories about someone, people love it. Like, I just spoke at my cousin's memorial. He passed away of cancer at 55.
Marc Maron
Oh, God, that's too young.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And the thing that everybody loved about him, he was a great people person, social butterfly, just, you know, so much fun. So I told this story about how we had gone to see the Beach Boys together, him and his wife and me and my wife at the Greek. And I said, afterwards, we were invited to the little after party. And I said, I really want to go over to my glove of the Beach Boys and say hello because I opened for them in 1982 at Harrah's in Lake Tahoe. I want to see if he remembers me.
Marc Maron
He's out of his mind, though, right?
Carol Leifer
Mike Love?
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
I don't know if he's out of his. Yeah, I just know him as a Beach Boy.
Marc Maron
He's just a Beach Boy.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. But anyway, so we're at the little after party, and I'm trying to work my way over to Mike. I can't do it. I don't see my opportunity to get a drink at the bar. I turn around, my cousin Jay is talking to Mike Love like he's known him for 40 years. So much so that when I walk over, Jay is like, oh, hey, Carol, come here. Hey, Mike, do you remember my cousin Carol? She opened for you a million years ago at Harry you Know, and people loved. I loved telling that story, and people loved it because it really encapsulated who my cousin was. So, yeah, we do talk about.
Marc Maron
Did he remember you?
Carol Leifer
No. No, not for a second.
Marc Maron
Did he even politely say that? He did.
Carol Leifer
He just kind of nodded. You know, the vague nod.
Marc Maron
Yeah. Because they don't pay attention. Who's the opener?
Carol Leifer
No. And it turned out to be the worst gig of my life.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
It's that memorable. But you still wanted to see if he remembered you.
Carol Leifer
I just wanted to see what if.
Marc Maron
He had said, like, oh, you had a tough night that night.
Carol Leifer
I would have appreciated that because they used to tune up while I was still on stage and I had to go backstage. I had no manager or agent with me and you know, go like, Beach Boys, can you please not tune up while I'm out there? So I thought maybe, you know, he'd even maybe apologize this many years later.
Marc Maron
But none of that's important to the piece for the memorial. See, I would bring that stuff up. That's my instinct. It's like, you do the funny thing about the guy and then he goes, yeah, but I'm a little pissed off. That would make it about me somehow.
Carol Leifer
But that's fine. I mean, people would. If I had added that into the story, they would have still enjoyed it, I think.
Marc Maron
Well, that's the one thing about that audience. You know, the worst that can happen is they walk out going, it's a little weird part with the.
Carol Leifer
No, but I love giving speeches.
Marc Maron
And that's why, like, when you break it down, though, like, let's say, for a memorial, what are the points?
Carol Leifer
The points are to reminisce about qualities about the person that you remember, that people remember. Stories. Stories, in any speech are the gold of a speech. And also, you know, being heartfelt, it's always important. You know, I feel at the end of a speech to not be, you know, Joe, comedian and wrap it up with something heartfelt.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
And certainly with my cousin Jay, it was easy because his death was really hard. And such a great person. And to lose his life at such an early age as, you know, is difficult.
Marc Maron
Yeah. For everybody.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Yeah. And acknowledge that. Acknowledge your own feelings about the loss. Don't be afraid to have to emote. You don't have to, you know, be funny necessarily. Though I would imagine as a comic and writing this with a comic, you know, you have to sort of try to give advice, how to balance that out.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
Like. Like. Like I just said, it's like you can make it about yourself, if it's appropriate for the event and include, you know, and it's part of the story.
Carol Leifer
Yes, but to veer away from yourself and focus on the person.
Marc Maron
So, like, what other. So there's weddings. So that would be some more thing you focus on.
Carol Leifer
Well, look, there are basics that people don't know that we could not believe. Like keep it five minutes and under.
Marc Maron
Your speech, do a type five.
Carol Leifer
Oh, my God. How many times have you gone to a wedding, an event, there's booze involved.
Marc Maron
So you don't know what you're gonna get.
Carol Leifer
Exactly.
Marc Maron
Do you say, don't drink too much before you talk?
Carol Leifer
We say, have a drink. Have on one drink, right?
Marc Maron
Yeah. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
But then people have seven more, and then they're hammered up there. And how uncomfortable is that?
Marc Maron
It's memorable, but uncomfortable.
Carol Leifer
And people are recording it.
Marc Maron
Yeah, of course.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. So this is important now more than ever.
Marc Maron
Sure.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And what are the other chapters for? Like, a business or, like, what? I mean, I guess I could look in the table of contents.
Carol Leifer
Well, there are a lot of basics, Mark, because as I mentioned, a lot of people are not aware of them. Were you at Richard Lewis's memorial?
Marc Maron
No, I was out of town.
Carol Leifer
Well, it was a really nice memorial.
Marc Maron
Oh, this just happened a couple weeks ago. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. But, you know, people get up and they start talking about the person, and they don't say who they are to the person.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
So you're up there, they're up there, and you're sitting there thinking, is this a relative?
Marc Maron
Yeah, I don't know.
Carol Leifer
This guy went to camp with it. You know, it becomes like, you know.
Marc Maron
And that's distracting your brain.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Ncis. Who? What? So for people to go up and say who they are to the person, you know, that's important, too. But we do go into how to make something funny with steps. But even if you're not, you don't feel like doing the work. We have a whole section at the end of we call jokes to steal for any occasion. Take the jokes, put them in your speech. No one will know.
Marc Maron
That's good. That's helpful.
Carol Leifer
And templates, Mark. We have templates where you just kind of fill in the blanks.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Like Mad Libs.
Marc Maron
Oh, yeah.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Wanted to make it easy.
Marc Maron
Oh, that's good.
Carol Leifer
Easy for people.
Marc Maron
It's very helpful because, like, it is, like, it's one of those things I would think this book would sell because it is the most, like, the scariest thing. It's the top of the list. Most of the time.
Carol Leifer
Right. Most people's greatest fear is talking in front of large groups of people. But comedians greatest fear is not talking.
Marc Maron
In front of large groups or bombing in front of large groups of people. That's the greatest fear. It's like, I can talk in front of people, but there's that moment where you're like, I don't know if this is going to go too well because we know what we're there to do.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And you see the challenge of it and you're like, oh, it's odd that no matter how long you do this, like, there's that sixth sense that happens when you're backstage and you just like, like listening or assessing an audience. You're like, that table. That's. That's gonna be a problem.
Carol Leifer
You could tell.
Marc Maron
You can.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
It's crazy.
Carol Leifer
It is really.
Marc Maron
Like, there's an energy in the room. You're like, there's something wrong over stage, Right?
Carol Leifer
Yep.
Marc Maron
What is it? And then you're like, it's that guy.
Carol Leifer
You can't. It's like a radar that we have. It's crazy. That's very strange. You know what's so funny? I just did Pete Holmes podcast and he said something that I've never heard before, but it's so true. He said, you ever find you have a bad set and the next set after that is good? Kind of almost guaranteed.
Marc Maron
Oh, yeah? Yeah.
Carol Leifer
You find that too?
Marc Maron
Well, yeah. Because, you know, whatever you put out, like, it happens. Like, if you do a spot at the Comedy Store in the main room and then you got an original room spot, the main room can kind of go either way because it's a big room, and no matter how many people in there, it can be less than satisfying. And you might have a hard time connecting, but when you do two in a night and you've already put yourself out like that.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And you have to put that, like, little bit of armor on that you used to do all the time.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
You know, the next set, you're going to be like, you.
Carol Leifer
Exactly.
Marc Maron
You can't hurt me.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
I just was pummeled down the hall.
Carol Leifer
And it's like. It is like a self preservation thing. Like, I'm not going to go home tonight upset over my dead body.
Marc Maron
You don't want to. Yeah. You know, I've said that on stage at the Comedy Store before. Like, you know, whatever happens here, I'm not gonna drive home thinking I made the wrong decision with my life. So you're not gonna do that to me. Or I'm not gonna do that to myself. Yeah. But there is that idea where you're excited to do it and you know you're good at it and then you just. It's just part of the job. You go out there and it wasn't good and then you're like, oh fuck. And then you gotta go at the next one a little harder.
Carol Leifer
Absolutely.
Marc Maron
You know, until you find the zone where you can let it down a little bit.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, yeah.
Marc Maron
I mean our life is crazy and I've gotten very. You get spoiled too when you have an audience. Like I make sure I go do the store just so I can perform for people that don't know me. You know, like if I go out.
Carol Leifer
To the theater, I'm surprised. I would think when you go out on stage, people know you.
Marc Maron
No, no, I'm not. I'm not like that. My profile is not that big. Like they're not. I'm not every household name or anything. So like it's going to be people that kind of know me or don't know me. But people do know me. Me. But if I go do my audience, they all know me.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
It's almost like cheating. So I.
Carol Leifer
Right. But it's good for you.
Marc Maron
Yeah, it's nice, you know, to, to. But like that spoils you in a couple ways because like then like sometimes I'll do clubs where, you know, I know that they, they didn't necessarily all come for me because I'm working it out at a comedy club, not a theater. No. There's a walk ups at theaters. Like I wonder what's going on tonight.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
But like sometimes if, like if I get to. I talked about last night on stage. I had a bridal party, you know, a bachelorette party at the Comedy Works. Uh, oh yeah. But like I knew most of them were my audience and I gotta babysit these fucking idiots.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And I was like, how can. It was a long story. But I mean the point is, is like I forced myself to go do the regular work just to stay tough.
Carol Leifer
That's good, right?
Marc Maron
You know what I mean? Just to, you know, see if this shit works. With an unsympathetic bunch.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
In a 15 minute slot. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
And also following, I'm sure some.
Marc Maron
That's still heavy hitters. I still like get mad about that. I have not been able. Because I know like, you know when you have 15 minutes and you're after somebody, that's a killer.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
You're like, well now the first five is exactly.
Carol Leifer
You gotta Work your way out of the hole.
Marc Maron
I've got tricks that I can do with certain. Because you end up following some of the same people.
Carol Leifer
Can you tell me one of your tricks?
Marc Maron
Oh, well, Paulie doesn't kill necessarily, but he's Paulie, and he's one of these guys. There's a couple of. There's a tradition at the Comedy Store. Some performers bring the lights in. Like, they'll have the spotlight as opposed to the full stage lighting. And he's one of those guys. Him and Argus, they do this thing. Alan Stevens used to do it, but where they have a choice, so they get the spotlight as a. Opposed to full stageway. So, like, he does his thing and people are excited. He was a big star and, you know, and then the lights come back out, and then they. He brings me up. And generally, just to clear the slate, I'll say, paulie Shore, ladies and gentlemen. I'll go, yep, that's what he looks like now. I use the same line for Spade, too.
Carol Leifer
Well, there you go. Now you're off to a good start.
Marc Maron
You're in. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Carol Leifer
Exactly.
Marc Maron
Or if I have to follow Whitney Cummings or Eliza Schlesinger, I always get up and go, like, okay, let's just take it down a notch. Or I'll say, let's shift from, you know, whatever, whatever, to Cranky Jew. Like, anything that'll get me.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Oh, that's really smart.
Marc Maron
Yeah. Cause you only got 15 minutes.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, see, I can't. I don't work at the store. I can't get on there.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Yeah, I know.
Marc Maron
They just changed bookers. I don't know what's going on there. Where do you work? Improv.
Carol Leifer
I work a lot at Comedy and Magic Club.
Marc Maron
Do you live over there?
Carol Leifer
No. Well, I live on the west side.
Marc Maron
Well, that's good.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
For me, I'm like, I don't. That's like a different state to me. I'm like, do you ever work there? I'm like, I don't even know how to get there.
Carol Leifer
Well, it's in Hermosa Beach.
Marc Maron
I know.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
It's like an hour from here.
Carol Leifer
And I do the Laugh Factory a lot. You know what I love to do is Kevin Nealon's new material Night. Have you done that?
Marc Maron
Oh, really? Where's that? At Laugh Factory.
Carol Leifer
At the Laugh Factory. But you have to go up and it has to be all new material. How great is that for us comics?
Marc Maron
And how's the crowd?
Carol Leifer
They're great. They're great. And just you know, normally where we have to go up and shoehorn in a new bid here, shoe, you know, between two.
Marc Maron
So you can bring your notebook if you want.
Carol Leifer
Absolutely, yeah.
Marc Maron
Someone does that in the belly room, the store. Sometimes I think Fahim does it where you just. You can just work out shit.
Carol Leifer
It's fantastic.
Marc Maron
It's a great world we live in now because the podcast and everything else is that people like to be part of the process. That was unheard of before.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
You know, like, I used to bring notebooks up and people were like, no, what the fuck? Is he.
Carol Leifer
Is he going to school?
Marc Maron
Yeah, he doesn't have this shit worked out already. We paid for a pro show. Does he do that every week?
Carol Leifer
He does it once a month. Yeah.
Marc Maron
He never asked me. He asked me to go on his hiking show, but he doesn't ask me to do his new material.
Carol Leifer
Well, you know what? But that's the thing. I reach out to him and say, can I.
Marc Maron
Come on, can you do it and work it out? Yeah, yeah. And you got a bunch of new jokes and you do it.
Carol Leifer
And I love it because, as you know, with 10 new bits, maybe two or three will work, but they're there to hear, even the clunker ones. And you know, when you have a new bit that works, there is a no better feeling.
Marc Maron
Oh, yeah. But I imagine, like, I think we probably work differently structurally. Like, I go up with an idea and hope that the punchline comes, I imagine. And then I'm sort of like, oh, it happened again. The gift. But I think that you're probably more structured and you write the joke. Yes, it's good. Like, I always regret whenever I write, whenever I come up with a well structured joke off the cuff, I'm like, well, I know how to do that. Why don't I do it more often? That's. Why do I gotta.
Carol Leifer
But you have a new hour that you're doing.
Marc Maron
It's like an hour and a half.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, hour and a half. So that takes a lot of working out.
Marc Maron
Yeah, it works out. But it's all sort of oral tradition with me. Like, you know, I have premises and I have bits and pieces, and they all kind of become fluid over repetition, and it just naturally kind of forms itself, you know, for. It's all in my head, though, which is, you know, that can go either way. You lose a lot of stuff.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Like, if you work with solid jokes, you have them, you're like, what was that one? Oh, I have it written down with me. I just have, like, cats you know, and then, what the fuck? Which one? You know, so it's not the most efficient way, but it all keeps me on my toes, which I think is part of it. But you never. You never went through a period where you stopped doing standup?
Carol Leifer
I did a little bit during writing for Seinfeld. I stopped, but I learned my lesson the hard way. Then I went back up on stage after a couple of years of not going on stage, and then it was like, oh, holy shit, I'm losing all the experience that I had before.
Marc Maron
It's interesting, right?
Carol Leifer
You know, it's like a muscle.
Marc Maron
It's like the gym. That's why you gotta use it or lose it. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
So since then, I always.
Marc Maron
It's like going to the gym just like, to stay in that relationship completely. Yeah. And that's great. But. And also, you're doing, like, real show. You're doing. Working.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And you're still. And you wrote. I mean, I can't. You wrote that. You were on the staff of that last Oscars.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
With Conan. So funny. And you've written.
Carol Leifer
Wasn't he amazing?
Marc Maron
Well, you know, I've known him forever. Like, I was a recurring guest on a show. I used to do panel. I always wanted to be.
Carol Leifer
Oh, on the NBC show.
Marc Maron
Yeah. I always wanted to be the Richard Lewis to him. Like, I wanted to. Like, I did two standup sets early on 96 probably. And then from there on out, I'm like, can I just do panel? I want to be the panel guy. I want to be the guy that comes, sits down, and you're like, oh, what's going on with Mark? You know, so we built that relationship. So I've known him a long time, and I know how he works. And it was a very funny thing watching it, because I saw him at Largo, like, two nights before, you know, kind of working shit out.
Carol Leifer
I'm so surprised that nobody taped it and leaked it.
Marc Maron
Yeah. I don't know. There's only certain people that do that, you know, and at Largo, that's not really the audience that would do that.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, that's true.
Marc Maron
You know, no one ever does that to me, ever. And if they did, it's like, it's not going to be like, a viral thing, you know, they'll achieve the disappointment I do when I post a reel on Instagram. They think they got some hot item with my bit that I haven't done on especially yet. And it's got 200 views. I'm like, you really got me. I guess I can't do that on the special, but so I'm watching Conan, and, like. And I turn on the Oscars because I love the Oscars. I always have. I like it. I felt over the last few years, there was a sense of what I grew up with in terms of the community of Hollywood showing up. It's not that it's no longer there. They're just. Or they're gone. So, you know, you're not gonna see Jack sitting up front anymore because he's 100, and I'm not sure how well he is, but I miss him, you know, so. So there's this changing of the dynamic.
Carol Leifer
Exactly. It's still the greatest show on earth.
Marc Maron
I love it. I love the spectacle of it. But I didn't know how Conan would do. And I know Conan, and, like, I'm watching it, and I watch him come out, and he does the first joke, and then he started to do that thing he does where he. You know, he has a moment of insecurity, and he buries the joke, you know, like, he'll like, I know. I got whatever. Like, it's an insecure thing. And I'm like, don't do it. And then, like, after the first two jokes, he was like, yeah, all like. He just killed so hard, and the confidence was so. It was like. It was beyond anything I've seen from him.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. But you know what? I knew he was gonna do great because right before the show, I went backstage to wish him luck.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
And he was. You could see it in somebody's just the way they are. He was cool as a cucumber. And he was like, thanks, Carol. You know, I just want to go out there, and I want to have fun. And that's what he did. Yeah, but I've seen that look of panic before a hoax goes out.
Marc Maron
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Carol Leifer
And he just was in the zone.
Marc Maron
And he brought it back to what I thought the set was tasteful. Like, you know, the way it looked, you know, And I thought the way they handled the audience was good. And I just thought it came because I asked him the night I saw him. I said, you're going to do musical number. He's like, I don't know. And then they fucking did one. And it was just like. It was totally his own thing, a Conan musical number. But he brought back the sort of weird celebration of the structure of the show. Yeah, he did, and it was great. So what were the conversations about that in the writers room?
Carol Leifer
Well, Conan had his own team of writers, and I'M part of the team that handles the show.
Marc Maron
Okay. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
So we talk with the presenters and go over the things that were not Conan related.
Marc Maron
Oh, so you're writing the bits for the people that present.
Carol Leifer
Yes. Yeah. And I'm usually on the show team. You know, I've worked on it. This is my 11th time.
Marc Maron
In a row.
Carol Leifer
No, not in a row. Over a number of years. But, you know, I've written for some of the great hosts like Billy Crystal and Steve Martin and Alec Baldwin and.
Marc Maron
Whoopi and Alec Baldwin hosted.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, yeah. With Steve Martin.
Marc Maron
Okay. Yeah, I don't remember that one. Maybe I missed a couple.
Carol Leifer
I remember it because Steve Martin wanted to have a writer session up at his house. And, you know, from when I came up, Steve Martin was like everything to me. I'm such a fan. And it was totally one of those moments of like, oh, my God, I'm in Steve Martin's living room writing jokes with him. And, like, it was really like, yeah, if I go now. I had that moment. Yeah, completely.
Marc Maron
Oh, wow.
Carol Leifer
Completely.
Marc Maron
I feel like I've lost some of those moments, having done this show for so long and, you know, kind of talking to people for long periods of time.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Like, I just see people as people, but there are certain people that I'm like, oh, my God, you know, what am I. What am I going to do with this guy? You. How am I going to keep it together?
Carol Leifer
Yeah, yeah. Like who?
Marc Maron
Albert Brooks? Like, it took me years for him to finally do it. And of course he's like, he didn't want to do it at his house. He didn't want to come here.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
So he got a room at that. That. What's. That little. Little beautiful hotel on the Santa Monica. It's like kind of old school, kind of deco. It's very kind of boutique Y. I can't remember the name of it, but he gets a room there. And it was hilarious. It was just hilarious to talk to him. He was like, we were at Shandling's memorial, and I'd been trying to get him for years on the show. I remember we were at Shandling's memorial. Everyone's waving. He comes up to me, puts his hands on my back. He goes, let's do it now.
Carol Leifer
Oh, my God.
Marc Maron
And Larry's. Larry was another one who would never come on the show. He never came on and.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, but eventually, well, he.
Marc Maron
He was doing those, you know, he was gonna do those conversation. Moderated conversations with him, you know, that he did a few of them.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And he wanted me. He wanted me to do the first one, so I did the first one. I didn't know it was gonna be a thing. And I. And he didn't either, but, like, oh, my God. I. And you worked with him a lot.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
Seinfeld and Curb, I have to assume, and I love him, that, you know, you don't know what's going to happen, like, leading up to it. Like, you know, the agreement we had was I could use it as a podcast, and we do it. It was live in dc, a few thousand people, and I was going to structure it, you know, like. Like I do here, to have a. Like, kind of a life arc conversation. And, you know, and his assistant had sent me all these, you know, this screen, this montage of him through different years.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And I'm putting together this whole interview, and he goes, what are we talking about? You know, he's telling me, like. Well, I'm like, well, I got the thing from your assistant. I thought we'd go through the whole life. He's like, what. What are you talking. What are you talking about? What are you talking about? Well, yeah, you know, I don't know what you're talking about. I'm like, this, you know, your bar mitzvah and everything. So, like, by the time, you know, a few days before, he's like, I don't want to talk about any of that. I'm like, all right, so what are we going to do?
Carol Leifer
Okay?
Marc Maron
He's like, I don't want to talk about politics. I want to just be entertaining, and I don't want to talk about my life. And I'm like, oh, fuck. And it was driving me crazy, you know? And then, like, you know, like the night before, you know, he calls me up, he's like, do whatever you want. And then, like, the day of, I'm in D.C. for the show, and he calls me earlier in the day, and I literally thought, like, he doesn't want to do it anymore. That'd be great. Maybe he won't want to do it.
Carol Leifer
That phone call, right?
Marc Maron
Relief.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
But he's like, okay, you good? You ready? And it went great. You know, I just real. I learned a big lesson, though, to just be gracious. It wasn't about me, and just, you know, throw to him the things that he's gonna get laughs with. That I know. And that, you know, he. You know, that I know he wants to talk about, and then just shut up. And then, like, wait till he peters out and then do another one.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And that's it.
Carol Leifer
See. Yeah, yeah.
Marc Maron
But when you go to Steve Martin's house. So did you. Were you able to kind of keep it together to pitch jokes and stuff?
Carol Leifer
Yeah, I mean, after the initial shock of zooming out and oh my God, I'm sitting here writing jokes with my idol, Steve Martin, then, you know, you get back into it and you know, Larry David, I know literally since my first date in show business, Mark, because you know, he was the emcee at Catch Catch Rising Star when I did my open mic night, who put me through. So I do, you know, I know him forever.
Marc Maron
So you know how he works.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, especially. Cause working at Seinfeld and knowing how to pitch to him and Jerry, you know, was a great training ground also because, you know, Larry's very cut and dried and I think that's really one of his greatest qualities. Cause you can pitch something to him and you're like, no. You know, the biggest put down at Seinfeld was like, no, I could see that on another show.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
But if he was excited about an idea, he would get genuinely excited.
Marc Maron
Yeah. You know, well, the funny thing that involved like with me engaging with him was I could make him laugh, you know, so that is good. Yeah, you know. Cause it's a rare thing sometimes, especially with funny people, but like he's got a great laugh and you can get him.
Carol Leifer
Yes, you can. Yeah, I know that from Curb. Cause he would break up all the time.
Marc Maron
Yeah, yeah. So that, that was easy. But like, did you have, have you had trouble with like hosts to live like with non comedic hosts. And I imagine presenters that's gotta. You write these jokes and everyone's on board, but you don't know if they're gonna dump them or not or like if they're gonna get. Pull them off.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, you don't. But the beauty of working with people is they really do wanna be good. Yeah, they don't wanna go. You know, it's really tough for them because they're mostly actors, so they don't know how to go out and be.
Marc Maron
Themselves or be funny necessarily.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. But we really work with them to make sure that they're 100% down with what they want to do. And they give a lot of feedback and of course we take it and you know, come up with something. I think people also know that as a standup also they know that when they work with me that I'm gonna give. I know the feeling of going out there and being unsure or not knowing what you're gonna do. So I Think they have a sense of confidence that I'm going to give them something that they. Cause, you know, most of it is confidence going out.
Marc Maron
And also, like, the only time the reason it doesn't work sometimes is that, you know, when you're a comic or you're used to being funny in front of people, you know, your instinct is to get the audience, you know, without even saying it. Like there's. You know what I mean? You're. All you're thinking about is if the thing's gonna land and. But you know how to do it. So, like, I think if you don't know how to do that, you're just kind of flying blind a little bit. Yeah, right. And you've got the thing on paper and you don't know how to maybe put the twist on it. Yeah, to make it funny.
Carol Leifer
Exactly.
Marc Maron
But it worked. I remember there's some funny stuff in this last one and I just like that it came back to a host driven thing as opposed to like, who's the host? You know, it worked out better.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And the times. I think there have been a couple of times there's no host. I don't like that kind of show and I don't think the audience does. Cause it feels rudderless.
Marc Maron
Totally.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
You want someone and when someone does it, great. Like Conan did, you know who you look to as. As the host? It's his party and he's running the ship. And people like that.
Marc Maron
Totally. So now you've been on Hacks all four seasons.
Carol Leifer
No, no, I was just on the last season.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
Huh. Cause I've been watching it and I like it because I think it gets something right about Stand up that you don't. That they don't usually get right.
Carol Leifer
And especially with Jean Smart, because that's what I mean. Yeah, yeah. I've never seen an actor play a standup comic and do it convincingly. And she does. I mean, you totally buy, don't you, 100% that she's a comic.
Marc Maron
Well, yeah, but I buy the life more. Like, you know, like I talked to Paul Downs about it. That's his name, right?
Carol Leifer
Yes. And I listened to that.
Marc Maron
Yeah. That. That they're, you know, having known, you know, people that from the 80s who were relatively big get shots, end up in Vegas. Like, I know that is an arc.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
That is a trajectory of a type of comic that came up in that time and they were very specific about that backstory. So that gave it all this kind of realness, you know, like it was Authentic.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And, you know, whether or not when they shoot her doing standup, I completely buy it. It didn't matter, you know? Cause there is some element of it that it's almost impossible to capture what it is that a standup is able to do, but if you get all the trappings right, it works.
Carol Leifer
Yes, that's so true. And I think a big reason why they brought me on was having come up in the 80s. I know a lot about that world and what it was like.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
So I hope that I added to her authenticity as being a comic and also as someone, you know, and that she's still around.
Marc Maron
Exactly.
Carol Leifer
And, like, me. Yeah, yeah.
Marc Maron
But, like, what was the pitch? Why this season? Like, was there specific stuff that they wanted for you that they. Well, we need Carol to do this because we're gonna be doing this.
Carol Leifer
No, it wasn't that specific. As much as they have a thing called the Blue Sky Room that they do before each season where they get people together and they just spitball ideas. And I think I had pitched a lot of ideas that seemed interesting to them also, being of Deborah Vance's generation, that I think that they found that they could find that helpful.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
So of last season, the episode that I wrote was, you know, it was called One Day, and the theme of.
Marc Maron
It was the season we're in now.
Carol Leifer
No, in season three was last season.
Marc Maron
Oh, One Day. Which one was that?
Carol Leifer
That was when they. She and Ava go hiking and they get lost.
Marc Maron
Right, right.
Carol Leifer
And I had been talking in the room about how when you get to be Deborah's age, my age, and you think about things that you want to do. Like, I still think about, oh, I'd love to have a little part in a Broadway show, and I'd love to do this. And you think One Day. Well, you know, One Day is now.
Marc Maron
Right? Yeah.
Carol Leifer
If it doesn't happen soon, maybe it's never gonna happen. So that also became something that, you know, she talked about in that episode. And I think that is something that only an older person, someone of our generation thinks about. So not necessarily someone who's 30 years younger than me on the staff is going to think about. I was happy to contribute.
Marc Maron
That's great.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Well, I mean, that whole world, like, it's not like, I don't know that world, you know, the Vegas. The Vegas residency world, but I know it's a real thing. And that you're afforded this lifestyle because, you know, you're overpaid and you're given a place to live, and they Treat, you know, they'll give you all the money in the world if you can bring people into the casino.
Carol Leifer
Absolutely.
Marc Maron
And there's, like, so many acts, certainly people from your generation that have done those, you know, but. And I know that. Like, who do I think about when I think there's just people, like, every time I go to the Burbank Airport and I see the signs, I'm like, oh, my God, they're gonna be there for two months. Have you ever done those?
Carol Leifer
I haven't, but, you know, I have played Vegas a lot throughout my I never do it career. No.
Marc Maron
It's not my thing, but I don't think I'm right for it.
Carol Leifer
Well, it depends on the act that you're opening for. But I certainly know, you know, from doing those gigs, the clock in the stage, and if they tell you to do 20 minutes, do 20 minutes. Because if you go over a minute, that's a million dollars they're losing in the casino. So they're strict about that. And, you know, all these little things. I mean, you know that I opened for Frank Sinatra in Las Vegas, so you and Dreesen. That's right. And Larry Miller, who I had called beforehand to get some advice about the gig. I think he's doing okay.
Marc Maron
Okay.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
He was so funny.
Carol Leifer
The funniest. The funniest. But, you know, each of these gigs has their own roadmap that you have to kind of figure out.
Marc Maron
Yeah. I just don't.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. You in Vegas doesn't really seem like it doesn't.
Marc Maron
And I'm okay with that. You know what I mean? Like, the idea of just thinking about doing it, because there's part of me that thinks, like, well, you know, I can do a casino, but it would not be good for me, you know, necessarily.
Carol Leifer
Right. But, like, when I've done it opening for Seinfeld, that's a certain crowd. Yes.
Marc Maron
You know? Cause, like. Yeah. I mean. And I never really opened for anybody, but I remember seeing Alan King in Vegas when I was there in high school or something.
Carol Leifer
Oh, how great.
Marc Maron
When I met my grandparents out there. But it was. It was weird because it was a, you know, it was like a smaller showroom. It looked like it could have been a banquet hall on another day, you know.
Carol Leifer
Oh, so it wasn't one of the big showrooms?
Marc Maron
It didn't. Not in my recollection. And he come out and, you know, he kind of, you know, kind of autopiloted through 45 minutes, no opener, and left. And I was like, wow, that's that's the job. It's kind of weird when you see certain, like, you know, comics, like, where they just get to a point where they're just filling a time slot.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
You know, they're not going out there to kill. And, I mean, he was already an older guy, so I don't know.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And I think that's also the trap, too, of doing your act for so long, where you don't add any new material because it becomes like, you know, being in Oklahoma every night, you just kind of feel like doing your lines scripted. So that's why I think it's always important to do new material, because it keeps you vibrant and into it.
Marc Maron
Yeah. So what happens now? What are you doing now? Just a comedy. How's the family? Your kids must be older now.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, My son is 18. He's a senior in high school. How crazy.
Marc Maron
It's crazy.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Yeah, it happens. Yeah. The cliche is completely true. Yeah, it flies by.
Marc Maron
Really?
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
But you have two or just.
Carol Leifer
Just the one.
Marc Maron
Oh, just him.
Carol Leifer
The one son.
Marc Maron
Oh, yeah.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
He's doing all right.
Carol Leifer
He's doing great. He's doing great. Yeah, he's a good kid. He's, you know. My wife, of course, got him into golf.
Marc Maron
Oh, really?
Carol Leifer
Lesbian requirement, is it? Yes.
Marc Maron
Do you play?
Carol Leifer
I gotta get back into it, but yeah.
Marc Maron
Is he good at it?
Carol Leifer
He is good. Yeah.
Marc Maron
I've got this whole set of clubs I've never taken out. Like, I did a show for Apple. There's a golf show, but I just played a caddy, an old caddy, so I didn't have to golf. But, like, it's Owen Wilson. It's all about golf, and I don't know anything about golf.
Carol Leifer
Oh, oh, you're doing that?
Marc Maron
I was in it.
Carol Leifer
Oh, you're in it?
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
Oh, I thought there was. I didn't know they had done it already.
Marc Maron
Yeah, yeah, no, it's gonna be on in June. But I play his old caddy, so it's not on me to golf, but, like, they sent me, you know, one of the companies, TaylorMade, sent me all this stuff, and I'm like, I don't know if I have the patience, man.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, it does take a lot of.
Marc Maron
Patience to suck forever.
Carol Leifer
No, it's a lot like standup. You gotta really suck to get good.
Marc Maron
Yeah, but does not sound appealing to me.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, I got over the stand up. Yeah. No, thank you. No, but he's into it. He's good. But, you know, he's a sports fan. He's into, like, the Bills and Josh Allen. It's just very cool when you have a kid and they develop their own.
Marc Maron
World, they become their own people.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And he loves soccer and he drives downtown and see these games.
Marc Maron
Oh, wow. That's great.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Very cool.
Marc Maron
There's. I'm hearing this sort of like, I don't know how he just became this person.
Carol Leifer
He became his own person. How did that happen? Oh, and he's funny.
Marc Maron
Oh, good.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Which is. But I. I knew that kind of early on.
Marc Maron
Yeah. That he was funny and like. But having a teenager around, that means you're kind of privy to this other world and other language of whatever is happening on their phones and on their platform and on everything. Like, I can't keep up with stuff, and I don't have a kid. But you have to deal with it all the time. Like, I mean, I have somebody doing my TikTok, but I don't ever go on it.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And. Right. He's on it all the time, and all his friends are on it.
Marc Maron
Are you on it?
Carol Leifer
No, no.
Marc Maron
No one's putting your clips up.
Carol Leifer
But I should, because to. You know, I'm focusing now on selling my book, so it's a.
Marc Maron
And also standup.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Like, I got a guy doing it. He's just like, there's an entire history of me in standup spots, and he just clips things.
Carol Leifer
Oh, how great.
Marc Maron
And he says, what about this one? I'm like, all right. And then they just go up there. And I don't have a tremendous amount of followers, but I do know to speak to, like, you know, whether people know me or not, that there's definitely more people don't know me who Than do. And when these clips come up, they're like, who's that guy? You know, it's still discoverable.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. I'm so surprised. Well, maybe I should get his name.
Marc Maron
Yeah. The guy.
Carol Leifer
Yeah, there's a few guys get my stuff up there.
Marc Maron
Why not?
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
We're a show business now. For you. Is there still a world where you pitch shows and stuff?
Carol Leifer
Oh, absolutely.
Marc Maron
Oh, really?
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
So you're doing that?
Carol Leifer
I am. In fact, I'm creating a comedy for Valerie Bertinelli.
Marc Maron
Oh, that's so good.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Yeah. She's so funny.
Marc Maron
She. She is. Well, I mean, I haven't seen her in a long time, but I interviewed her son, and he was great.
Carol Leifer
Oh, right.
Marc Maron
Wolfgang.
Carol Leifer
I love that one.
Marc Maron
Yes, it's great. Their relationship is great.
Carol Leifer
I know.
Marc Maron
Like, I would interview Valerie in a minute. I don't Know why I haven't?
Carol Leifer
Oh, you should.
Marc Maron
Because she was like. I mean, when I was a kid, like, she was like, great.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
What was it? One day at a time.
Carol Leifer
Yep. And she's fantastic. You know, I totally had her in mind for this idea. And then you never know when you meet the person. Fingers crossed.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
She's incredible. She's so sweet.
Marc Maron
And they're gonna do it.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Yeah.
Marc Maron
And it's. What is it about? Can you tell me?
Carol Leifer
It's an older romantic comedy. It's a romantic comedy about people in their 50s, which I've never seen before, and I thought would be interesting when you've kind of established yourself, your personality.
Marc Maron
Been through some shit.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Brought up a couple kids and falling in love with someone at that age and the challenges that go along, but still wanting. Finding love.
Marc Maron
Yeah. And I don't know if there is a show like that. Is there?
Carol Leifer
There isn't. So that it's kind of interesting. Yes. Thank you. It gave me a leg up in pitching because now whatever you pitch is like, it has to be something nobody's ever seen before because they're so ready to suit.
Marc Maron
Is it a network?
Carol Leifer
Oh, that's like this. That's like this. Yeah, it's with CBS Studios.
Marc Maron
See, that's what's interesting is that there are these shows that are basically Boomer shows, and I think that generation still watches network driven stuff.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Like, the kids don't. They're just watching YouTube or clips or whatever. But there's still a whole generation of people that are like, I don't even know where to watch it.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
You know, and like, you have stuff like the Kaminsky Method or any of the Laurie shows. Like, those are all for a generation of people that grew up watching television.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And they're still there.
Carol Leifer
Exactly. But look, the Kominsky Method was on Netflix, so there's.
Marc Maron
Well, Netflix is an exception. People know about Netflix. Yeah, I guess people. Maybe I'm not giving them enough credit. They can figure out where to watch something, but it is sort of challenging.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And she also has such a big fan base. You know, she is very open on social media.
Marc Maron
About who? Fowery. Okay. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
She's very out of her.
Marc Maron
And people know her.
Carol Leifer
People know her and they love her.
Marc Maron
So what'd you write? You got a pilot or you got a whole season written?
Carol Leifer
No, we just have the pitch. Yeah. Yeah, the pitch that we sold. But, you know, she's great. A lot of celebs that you write for don't want to come to the pitch. They're like, oh, you do it. And whenever we sell it, I'll show up. She came to every pitch, participates, you.
Marc Maron
Know, but it feels to me that she, you know, with the, you know, with the death of her ex husband and bringing up the kid, like, it feels like she had other priorities for a while. And now she must be ready to go.
Carol Leifer
She is. And I don't know if you saw or watched Hot in Cleveland and one day at a time. She's a pro. She knows how to get her laughs. And that's another great thing when you develop for someone who knows comedy, it just makes it that much easier.
Marc Maron
Yeah. Like TV pros.
Carol Leifer
Yes.
Marc Maron
And there's not a ton of them of that generation anymore that know how to do, like, situation comedy.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
It's a very specific thing.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Especially in front of a live audience.
Marc Maron
Well, it's an interesting thing because, you know, you can't, like, you know, on some level, it's a conceit. Right. That the situation comedy, half hour situation comedy is a joke delivery that has to have this story, but the characters have to be so defined that they seem natural. And it's tricky to pull that off. It's a real balance.
Carol Leifer
Absolutely. But, you know, they're looking for. I wanted to write a multicam because coming up from Seinfeld and, you know, that era, I am a big lover of that format still. So they're looking for that. But, you know, it's great because I don't know if you've seen Mid Century Modern.
Marc Maron
Oh, no, I hear people love it.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. Yeah. It's so funny. And it's in front of a live audience. And I mean, Nathan Lane, you know, getting his laughs the best.
Marc Maron
Yeah. He's just the king of hams. Yeah.
Carol Leifer
The whole ensemble is great. So to work with someone like that is such a joy.
Marc Maron
That's great.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
I don't know that I've watched one in a while. You know what? I just watched that. I was like, I just. I don't even know why I avoided it for so long. But someone somewhere.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
With Bridget Everett. Oh, my God.
Carol Leifer
Great show.
Marc Maron
It's crazy good.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And she's so good.
Marc Maron
It's unreal. That character is like. And she's so fucking funny.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
And it's not a three camera thing. It's like, you know, I don't know what you call that. Single cat, single cam. But it is so full of, like, deep humor and just so funny.
Carol Leifer
So good. I really want to see her live.
Marc Maron
Show because I knew nothing about her. I hear she's just like a powerhouse.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. I have so many friends that have gone to see her and blown away.
Marc Maron
It's like a cabaret show.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Oh, my God.
Carol Leifer
So, you know, did you ever write.
Marc Maron
For anybody for that stuff, like for Bette Midler or anybody?
Carol Leifer
No, I haven't, I haven't because that.
Marc Maron
Was sort of a thing for a while.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
That kind of performing and they're kind of funny.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. You know, I know that Bette Midler would use Bruce the Lant a lot.
Marc Maron
To write her stuff.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. So people always have their favorite people.
Marc Maron
Now, what's the next step for this Valerie Martinelli? Are you going to hammer out a pilot and then see what happens and then hire writers or are you gonna work with people?
Carol Leifer
You know, I think what we're gonna do, the next step is selling it to one of the. Through the studio.
Marc Maron
Selling it to one of the outlets as a pitch. Get the money, the development money to write a script.
Carol Leifer
Yes, I get it. Yeah. So we'll see where we land.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
I hope somebody listening.
Marc Maron
Yeah, maybe.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. You know, to find the best outlet for this kind of multicam comedy.
Marc Maron
Yeah.
Carol Leifer
But certainly there is a lot of interest.
Marc Maron
You're finding people want to do them again because they're price effective, they're cost effective.
Carol Leifer
Yeah. And not only that, you know, it's multicams, but also I wouldn't go in to pitch something now without a piece of real talent because they want that too.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
If you just go in to pitch something and here's the multi game idea and you know, we'll get somebody to get it. Yeah. It's too hard. So to go in with a multicam and a proven talent like a Valerie Bertinelli.
Marc Maron
Right.
Carol Leifer
That made it very, very saleable.
Marc Maron
That's great.
Carol Leifer
Yeah.
Marc Maron
Congratulations.
Carol Leifer
Thank you.
Marc Maron
It's great talking to you again.
Carol Leifer
Love talking to you, Mark.
Marc Maron
All right, well, I hope you do well with the book and the comedy and everything.
Carol Leifer
Thanks.
Marc Maron
There you go. That was nice. I like seeing Carol. She's great. Her book, how to Write a Funny Speech is available now. Hang out for a minute, folks. Hang out, people. We love la, and I'm saying we because I already love it. And I know that when you visit here, you'll love it too. Whether you're looking for the best taco trucks or a standout Michelin star restaurant, LA's got you covered. I just went down to Joy on York in my old neighborhood of Highland park, which I love, for the authentic Taiwanese food. You can go to Bodmash up on Fairfax across from Cantor's, kind of hot rotted Indian food. Or go to Cantor's. I actually go now for a vegan Reuben. And of course LA is known for entertainment, but this place is also a world class hub of art, music, museums and live theater. Check out the European art collection at the Getty Center. Go to hear the LA Philharmonic at the Walt Disney Concert Hall. And you can also come here and do all those LA things you've heard about. Go to Universal Studios, check out the Griffith Park Observatory, see the view from Mulholland Drive, check out the Hollywood sign. You can't pass up all the classic LA stuff. Find more ways to love Los Angeles at discoverla.com hey. This week for full Marin listeners, I went even further into the behind the scenes details of my HBO special taping. And heading into it, I had no stress about the material. I knew I was loaded up. I knew the shit worked, you know, like, there was nothing that I was like, this might not land, you know, but I found from you in the past, you've been stressed out at cutting it down. Like that was definitely the case for the last two specials at least. Yeah. But oddly, when it, when it comes down to the Wire, I fucking land on the fucking mark. Yeah. And you didn't, you didn't fret about it at all. Like, I didn't hear you once say, like, I don't know how I'm gonna do this. I don't know how I'm gonna get this in, in 70 minutes. And you said that a lot. Like during, especially the last one, From Bleak to Dark. I remember you saying that a lot, that you were concerned, you just had too much and you weren't gonna get it down right. But you know, oddly, you know, I, Maybe it's from radio experience, maybe it's just from me, you know, because I choose, you know, to do a full hour that's loaded up. You know, it's, you know, there's. The last three have been, you know, very full, you know, almost too full. Like, you know, I could cut 20 minutes off of this thing and do an hour. I knew from the last week or so of shows like the ones I did in Toronto and then the three at the club in Vermont, which is a smaller room. Like, I definitely was like, just do the shit. Just do what you're going to do with the special. Don't, you know, don't go off so you can say to yourself afterwards, well, I don't know. Because I decided to riff or whatever. I was like, just do it. Even if the response is stilted because you're locked in, just fucking do the work and take the hit. So you know going in that you're within the time frame. So I wasn't worried about that. You can hear that bonus episode along with other bonus episodes we post twice a week as part of the full Marin. To sign up, go to the link in the episode description or go to wtfpod.com and click on WTF Plus. And a reminder before we go. This podcast is hosted by Acast and I slowed down a classic kind of. I rethunk a classic. For me, it's a classic. I took the edge off it. Boomer Lives Monkey and La Fonda Cat Angels Everywhere.
Release Date: May 15, 2025
Guest: Carol Leifer, Emmy-Winning Writer, Stand-Up Comedian, Author
Marc Maron reconnects with Carol Leifer, a seasoned stand-up comedian and writer renowned for her work with iconic shows like Seinfeld and Hacks. They reminisce about their early days in the comedy scene:
The conversation delves into the significant impact of Jewish comedians on American comedy and the noticeable shift away from this influence in recent times.
They discuss how antidepressants might have played a role in diminishing the traditional Jewish comedic voice, referencing legendary figures like Richard Lewis and recent talents like Robbie Hoffman from Hacks.
Carol shares her journey into writing for Saturday Night Live (SNL), highlighting the challenges and experiences she faced:
She recounts how after a tumultuous season, many writers and cast members were let go, marking a significant turning point in her career.
Both Marc and Carol reflect on aging in the comedy industry, the loss of peers, and the changing dynamics post-COVID.
Carol emphasizes the importance of adapting to new formats and staying relevant, especially as the industry evolves.
The discussion shifts to Carol's latest work, How to Write a Funny Speech, co-authored with Rick Mitchell. They explore the nuances of public speaking, especially in sensitive occasions like weddings and memorials.
Carol provides insights into crafting humor for various events, offering templates and joke ideas to assist speakers in delivering memorable and heartfelt speeches.
Marc and Carol delve into the mechanics of stand-up comedy, sharing personal experiences and strategies to handle challenging sets and maintain audience engagement.
They discuss the importance of continual material development and the rigorous demands of network writing, especially within multicam sitcoms.
Carol highlights her ongoing projects, including writing a comedy pilot for Valerie Bertinelli with CBS Studios. They discuss the challenges of pitching shows in the current media landscape and the significance of bringing authentic, seasoned talent to new projects.
They also touch upon the enduring appeal of traditional sitcom formats and the strategic steps required to bring such projects to fruition.
The episode concludes with personal updates, where Carol shares insights into her family, particularly her son's interests in sports and social media, contrasting it with Marc's approach to digital platforms.
They reflect on balancing personal life with professional commitments, emphasizing the fleeting nature of time and the importance of staying connected with one's passions.
Marc wraps up the episode by highlighting Carol's new book and her contributions to the comedy and writing world, expressing his appreciation for her insights and experiences.
Notable Quotes:
Episode Highlights:
Early Careers: Both Marc and Carol share their beginnings in the comedy scene, highlighting the camaraderie and challenges faced.
Jewish Influence: A deep dive into the historical impact of Jewish comedians on American humor and the current shift away from this tradition.
Writing for SNL: Carol provides an insider's perspective on writing for one of the most influential comedy shows, including interactions with Lorne Michaels and fellow writers.
Public Speaking Tips: Insights from Carol's new book on crafting humorous speeches for various occasions, emphasizing structure and emotional balance.
Stand-Up Strategies: Techniques to handle tough sets, maintain audience connection, and the importance of constant material evolution.
Industry Trends: Discussion on the viability of multicam sitcoms in today's digital age and the process of pitching new comedy projects to major studios.
Personal Reflections: Balancing family life with a demanding career, and the generational shifts in interests and digital engagement.
Conclusion:
Episode 1643 offers a rich tapestry of experiences and insights from Carol Leifer, intertwining her extensive career in comedy and writing with personal anecdotes and professional advice. Marc Maron's engaging interview style brings forth candid conversations about the evolution of comedy, the challenges of public speaking, and the intricacies of the entertainment industry, providing listeners with both inspiration and practical knowledge.