Host AM Davies welcomes Mari de Luna (she/they/ella), a sex worker, to discuss how stigma, criminalization, and deplatforming compound external and internal stressors for people in the industry and why community is vital for safety, mental health, and resource access—especially for those with intersecting identities such as immigrants and neurodivergent people. Mari shares her experience of family estrangement, lessons about mutual aid, and the importance of vetting support networks, including tools like pod mapping and safety planning. She describes her background with autism, CPTSD, ADHD, burnout, addiction, and four years of sober-ish living, and explains her work through Stilettos for Survival and neurosomatic intelligence, offering body-based practices for nervous system regulation. Mari previews collaborations on sober-ish eroticism and an upcoming workshop integrating somatics with anti-oppressive financial tools.

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00:00 Stress And Vitality

00:43 Show Intro And Mission

01:36 Meet Mari De Luna

02:49 Finding Community

04:20 Mutual Aid Necessity

06:38 Intersectionality And Safety

09:06 Power With Not Over

11:07 Deconstructing Hierarchy

14:05 Synchronicity And Intuition

15:53 Sex Work Emotional Intelligence

18:11 Ancestors And Legacy

19:38 Isolation And Pod Mapping

23:27 Mari Work And Training

23:58 Neurodivergence to Sobriety

26:31 Somatic Practices Explained

27:49 Lavender Grounding Demo

29:40 Workshops and Collaborations

33:19 Regulation for Modern Stress

36:44 Community Survival Framework

40:23 Spanish Message to Comrades

42:28 Why Community Matters

44:44 Stilettos for Survival Mission

46:06 Closing and Credits