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Are You Letting Politics Make You Bitter Or Better? A Psychological Survival Conversation With CNN’s Van Jones
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Recorded in January 2025 during the week of the Presidential inauguration, this conversation with CNN commentator Van Jones is less about politics and more about how we react to politics. You’ll hear the questions that Van always asks himself before...
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Dan Harris
Foreign. It's the 10% Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello, everybody. To state the blazingly obvious, we're in a bumpy period in American public life. This is true. True in many parts of the world, in fact. So here's a provocative question for you. You're going to hear this question posed by my guest today. And here it is. Are you going to let these times make you bitter or better? Said guest is Van Jones, the CNN political analyst who also happens to be a dedicated meditator. The format for this episode is a little bit experimental. This is an interview I did with Van Live on Substack the day after Trump's inauguration. So a couple of things to note here before we dive in. First, at the time we recorded this interview, we were talking about theoretical things that might subsequently happen. At this point, though, many of those things have actually happened. That said, Van's overall advice and the major thrust of this interview, which is about how to maintain your sanity in turbulent times, all of that is evergreen. The second thing to say here is because we recorded on Substack, which at the time was a new to US Platform, the sound quality here is not the greatest. We will improve that next time, I promise. Third and final caveat is you're going to hear me reading a couple of questions and comments from the live audience during the course of my interview with Van, which is all pretty cool and is a reminder for me to remind you that you should sign up. Over@danharris.com I do live sessions twice a month at danharris.com, which again is powered by Substack. In those sessions, I guide a meditation and then take your questions. Sometimes I have guests. It's all very cool. Again, you can sign up at. Danharris.com subscribers also get ad free versions of this podcast. All right, enough yammering for me. Here we go now with Van Jones. I have a strangely busy travel schedule coming up in the next couple of months, but the thing that I'm really looking forward to, the bright spot on my calendar is in a few weeks I'm going to Montauk, which is one of my favorite places in the world. It's on the eastern tip of Long Island. It's primarily known as a a summer spot, but it's actually beautiful year round. I'm going to Montauk with 1, 2, 3, 4, at least four families that are close friends of ours. They all have children who get along really well with my child. And we'll all be staying not at hotels but in houses. I love being in a big house with lots of other people. It is so much more personal and intimate than staying in a hotel with other families. With many of these families, we've gone to places like Florida and gotten Airbnbs together. Being able to stay together in a beautiful place is so much fun and again, so much more intimate. And here's the cool thing. If you're going to be traveling soon, you might actually be sitting on an Airbnb gold mine. You might be able to put your own residence up on Airbnb so you can actually earn money while you're taking a vacation. I'm a huge fan of Airbnb. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com host the show is sponsored by Liquid IV. Love looks different for everybody, especially when it comes to all the ways you treat and celebrate yourself. Gift yourself the everyday indulgence of extraordinary hydration from Liquid IV. Powered by Live Hydra Science. Visit LiquidIV.com and fall in love with flavors like the zesty new Hydration Multiplier Sugar free Raspberry Lemonade and use Code happier to save 20% off your first order. I've been using this stuff myself. I go to workouts on many Saturday and Sunday mornings with my friend Strauss at his house and afterwards I will open up a container of water and pour in some Liquid iv. It's nice and neat and it tastes terrific and it really does help restore my energy after I've just worked my tail off. It's super easy and convenient to tear and pour and enjoy. I personally like the lemon flavored one, but you don't even have to use it just after you're working out. You can use it during late nights or when you're traveling whenever you need just a little extra boost. Break the mold and own your own ritual. Just one stick and 16 ounces of water hydrates better than water alone. Powered by Live Hydra Science. An optimized ratio of electrolytes, essential vitamins and clinically tested nutrients that turn ordinary water into extraordinary hydration. Three times the electrolytes of the leading sports drink. Eight Essential vitamins and nutrients always non gmo, vegan, gluten free, dairy free and soy free. Treat yourself to extraordinary hydration from Liquid IV. Get 20% off your first order of Liquid IV when you go to LiquidIV.com and use the code HAPPIER at checkout. That's 20% off your first order with the code HAPPIER@liquidiv.com.
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Van Jones
So Van, I'm really Curious. I've been watching you for years, but just specifically over the last couple of days on social media and on cnn, you're right in the thick of it. I used to be there as an anchorman myself. And I'm curious on the receiving end of this fire hose of news and given how engaged you have to be, what are your techniques for keeping yourself even and calm and sane?
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Well, part of it is I'm a 12 year veteran at CNN, so I've been in that chair when my party won, when my party lost, when my candidate had good nights, bad nights. And so, you know, it is familiar. So the first thing I always remember is if somebody were to cut off my hand, my hand is not me. If they were to cut off my arm, my arm is not me. I'm a soul. I've incarnated. I am here to have an experience where hopefully I can learn and be of good use and then I'll go on to some other thing. And I think part of why people get so anxious, especially when they're on live television, they think something bad's going to happen to them. They're going to say something bad, they're going to do something wrong, they're going to get a fact wrong and they're going to get beat up and they're going to get canceled. So I've had to reprogram my mind. I can't be canceled. I can be criticized, and that's okay. If I say something wrong, I should be criticized. If I say something that someone disagrees with, they should be able to disagree. That's called having a democracy, okay? Everybody gets to disagree with each other. If you can't disagree, it's called dictatorship. So disagreement is fine, criticism is fine. This whole culture around cancellation, cancellation, all that just adds to anxiety. And so there's a lot of spiritual beliefs that I hold that I kind of dial up. And then I have a little exercise. I take myself through that I learned from a teacher of mine. And I asked myself the question, how does this situation occur for me? I'm going to be talking to millions of people. It occurs to me that they gave me another uncomfortable chair. They cursed me as I like sitting next to Anderson Cooper. But they put me three streets away from the night, which makes me feel like they don't love me as much as they used to love me. So then after I get through saying all that stuff to myself, I then just imagine putting all those thoughts in a box and moving the box to one side. Then I ask myself the Question. How do I occur for myself? Geez, I curve for myself as I didn't eat the right food today, too much caffeine, too much sugar. I curve for myself as not really as well prepared as I thought I was going to be. I didn't read everything I was supposed to read. And I just get all of those thoughts out and I imagine myself putting that in a box and I put that to one side. And then I ask myself the question. This is the key. What is my mission? What is my mission in life? And my mission in life is to help create a human civilization that works. That's my mission. I want to create and cause a human civilization more at peace with itself, more at peace with the earth. That is my mission. Now, knowing that's my mission, how do I choose to be? Notice not, what am I going to do, what am I going to say, what am I going to achieve? Just how do I choose to be tonight? And so sometimes I just choose to be curious and I'm like, choose to be clear. So I choose some way of being to anchor me. And by the time I remember that, I'm just a soul, I can't be harmed. I'm at least at a being level, a good platform for any of the thinking or any of the talking. I have an amazing mentor named Randy, who was one of the main trainers for the Landmark Forum. And he has taken me under his wing and giving me a lot of these mental techniques so that I can show up clear and I can show up helpful and useful and not just ego involved and crazy, which, as you know, in television is the default setting.
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I mean, I had my head in my hands when you talked about the seating chart. Having spent 21 years in network news, that shit, like, drove me crazy. Like I would really. To the viewer, this must seem insane. And yet this is the type of shit that we are trained to obsess about. Where am I seating? What does that say about me? How much airtime did I get? And if you let that override your mission, you're fucked. You're not helping anybody. And what I just heard from you makes a lot of sense. And it reminds me of one of the phrases I go back to all the time, which is my understanding of the Tibetan phrase for enlightenment, that it roughly translates into this, a clearing away and a bringing forth. And so what I heard you describe there is clearing away all of the ego crap.
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Yes.
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And bringing forth, like, how can I be helpful? What's my job here on the planet?
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Yeah, look, it took Me a while. I used to over prepare at the mental level. If I were going to be on air for four minutes, I prepare for four hours. And I would stammer, I would stutter, I would be so frustrated. And ultimately what I learned is television is a conversational medium. I'll watch television, just try to get my brain in the right space, number one. Number two, I recognize that it's not all about me. I'm not usually in the host chair, I'm in the contributor chair. There are other people on that set. Some are conservative, some are liberal, some are older, some are younger. They all have something to contribute. If I can focus on what is my note that I want to sound, what is the thing that I can contribute, then you know, when it's my turn, even if, as you say, they didn't put me next to Anderson, I'm like, what are they trying to do? Jimmy Anderson doesn't love me, I'm going to get fired. I mean, you just go through all this crazy stuff, but when you get rid of all that stuff, then you could be more useful also. You know, the last thing I'll say about it is I really deeply believe that we need each other. I'm a left winger, proud of it. But I need my right wing friends. I've never seen a bird fly with only a left wing. I've never seen a bird fly with only a right wing. We need each other. So when I'm there, after I've said what I have to say, I really try to listen, to really be present to what my conservative counterparts are saying. I don't want to listen with an already knowing mind, just listening to try to bat them down. I feel capable of doing that. Sometimes I have to do that. But I'm really trying to listen. Like what are they saying? What are they feeling, what are they not saying? So then when I respond, I'm responding, I'm not reacting to try to stop them from spreading their lies, stop them from attacking our party, stop them. It's like, look, the viewer is very intelligent. The viewer is going to have lots of opportunities to get a lot of information. But in this exchange, if I can show some humanity and if I can show some vulnerability and if I can actually learn something, if I can be caught in the act of learning, I think that is the healthiest way for me to use my platform to demonstrate that you don't shrink by learning, you grow by learning.
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This is a delight. And I'm reading the comments and you're getting nothing but love. In the comments. One question that K. McDevitt asked in the comments that I think is really interesting, I'm getting this too because I've been talking a lot publicly about the fact that it's good and thrilling and needed for us to keep an open mind. The Buddha, who's been a big influence on me, talked about being an analyst, not a dogmatist.
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Dan Harris
People do push back on that.
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Van Jones
And K. McDevitt wrote in the comments here, are they though, meaning like whatever side you're on is the other side listening? And if you are open minded, are you somehow weaker because the other side isn't?
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Okay, I appreciate you so much because this is a key question and depending on where you come down on this question, it takes your whole life in a different direction. So I want to be very, very clear. I'm not empathetic because I'm trying to change anyone else. I'm not kind or open hearted or open minded. I'm not doing that because I think I can therefore get the other person to change. I can somehow fix the other person. No, that is not it at all. I'm not being kind and good when I am to change someone else. I'm trying to make sure that other people don't change me. I don't want this acrimony and hatred in society to change me. I don't know if I can change it or not. That's not my business. I'm not God. I can't control other people. I can't make them do things. But I don't want to become what I'm fighting. I am fighting intolerance. I don't therefore want to be intolerant. I'm fighting a sense of I'm better than you. I therefore don't want to be condescending. Right. And so now you say, well, fan, what good is that? Here you are trying to be all good and other people try to be all bad. Well, in their mind, nobody's trying to be all bad. That's not what they're doing. Nobody is a villain in their own movie, okay? In their mind they have something they're trying to protect, something they're trying to preserve or some demon that they're running from or something they're projecting on me. So grace and gratitude are always the practice. Absolutely.
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We're getting a lot of questions about projecting into the future. Fretfully and thinking about, you know, on the left is all this talk about the end of democracy. On the right, there's all of this talk about really the same Kind of fear that the left is restricting freedom of speech and all sorts of freedom. So everybody has their projections into the future that can get quite dark. And Sharon McMahon, who's going to come on this live stream tomorrow, has said this, too. You know, just do the next right thing. And I've gotten some pushback to that because people are like, well, you're a privileged guy and you don't have to worry. You know, maybe this administration isn't an acute threat to your home and safety in the way it is to mine. And so, like, how do you balance looking forward into the future with not getting so swamped with anxiety that you can't do anything?
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Well, I have two responses that don't go together. So, on the one hand, I do think we should actually think more about the future than we do, because I do think that there's a lot of fixation with the past. Certainly the black community. You know, there's a lot of talk about the past, black history. Don't forget our ancestors. Don't forget our struggle. Don't forget all the bad things that happened. Don't forget civil rights. Don't forget slavery. Don't forget the middle passage. And I think that's very important. Never deny the pain of the past, but don't let the pain have the last word either, because tomorrow's more important than yesterday. And our ancestors didn't suffer the way that they did so that we could be miserable about their situation. They suffered so that we could be free of it. And so I think that the future is something we should think about more. But how do you think about it? See, the future has not been created yet, and you'll never live in the future anyway. You only live in the now. And so to me, the way we think about the future is to get very clear about the future we want to create. When some outside external force says it's going to give you a bad future that you don't want, as a mammal, you get very focused on that. You read that as a threat. And then your brain starts functioning very, very differently. In fact, your brain stops being creative. It stops being as elastic. You start thinking in fight, flight, freeze, appease all the lower level forms. You're no different at that point than a scared rabbit. You do not want to think about the future from that place because then you'll be anxious and you'll come up with bad decisions and it'll be worse and worse and worse. You have to give yourself the permission to imagine, Dr. King. Imagine Fanny Lou Hamer. Imagine Ella, Joe Baker. Imagine the young John Lewis. Think about the threats they were facing. It wasn't some abstract threat that maybe Donald Trump was signing executive order that then somebody in the FBI might then, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It was that sheriff might shoot me right now, that dog might bite me right now, that fire hose might blow my child down the street right now. It was a real and present danger. And how did they face that real and present danger with a future? Dr. King didn't say, I have a complaint. He didn't say, I have a critique. He didn't say, I have somebody to criticize or cancel. He said, I have a dream. I have a dream. I have a positive future state that, frankly, is better for me and my children and that sheriff and his children. I have a dream worth fighting for. But much more importantly, I can, in the present, present moment, be a stand for that future state. And by so doing, I can summon resources in myself that were not available to me a second ago when I was afraid. I can change the chemistry in my brain. I can change the length of my breath, I can change the posture of my shoulders. And in so doing, I can inspire other people to do the same. And suddenly there's resources flooding into this space. And it's in that unlikely moment where the resources flood in that miracles happen. Now. Not always, not all circumstances, but it's a possibility. And that's what I think we have to get back to. We have abstract threats from abstract people we've never met over abstract devices driving us nuts. And we are more afraid and less effective than people who were facing fire hoses half a century ago to let the fear and let the pain make you bitter or better. That's the question. I'm a Democrat. We lost an election, badly, lost the House lost. The Senate lost. The White House lost. The Supreme Court lost. Silicon Valley lost a bunch of the media. It's easy to be afraid, but the question is, in the face of that breakdown, how do you get to a breakthrough? How do you take something that could make you bitter and make you better? No pressure, no diamonds. No pressure, no diamonds. This is a very long answer to a very short question. I hope I'm not talking too long.
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That's great.
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But it's never the external condition that gives you your internal state. The same hot water that makes a potato soft makes an egg hard. It's the same hot water. It's the internal condition that gives you the outcome. And so we have tremendous power because we have the power to choose how long Our breath is how far do we drop our diaphragm down when we take our next breath, we have the power to choose our own posture. When you put your shoulders back and stand up straight, it sends signals to your mind that I'm strong and that begins to change your perception. And so I don't mind the bad times now, the way I used to. I used to hate the bad times. I don't mind them as much because for me I know that no matter how much it hurts now, I'm going to look back on this moment and if I am better, it will be because of how I dealt with the pain.
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Yeah, and I really appreciate you grounding in the historical analysis of the civil rights movement and the phrase that came to mind when you were speaking, which comes out of that era. And there's a great documentary by this name too. Eyes on the Prize and based in love, you know, broadly understood, not as weak sentimentality but as a fierce, gritty, steely persistence that's also calm and fed by giving a shit about yourself and your community and the country. Rather than fear and anger. That's what can pull you forward, I think, more effectively. Even if the fear is truly real, which in many cases it absolutely is.
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Especially when it is.
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Especially when it is.
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What I'm saying is that if you're going to go out the way that Dr. King did and face dogs and fire hoses and sheriffs or the equivalent thereof, there's an interstate that is more correlated with success. There's an interstate that's more correlated with failure. The opposite of fear is love. It can sound very high minded and that type of stuff. And by the way, a lot of days I don't live up to these values. A lot of days I'm miserable, I'm depressed, I'm sad, I'm mad. A lot of days I'm having personal problems. A lot of days things don't go well for me. But at least I know what the values are that I'm falling short of. You know, if you don't know what the values are, it's harder.
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Well said. Really appreciate you and so do so many people. In the comments, one person, Elle, asked if you would marry her. So there's a lot of positive responses. And so, Van, just in closing here, I really want to thank you. It's such a pleasure to talk to you.
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Dan Harris
Really appreciate it.
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Van Jones
Well, it's a big honor, It's a dream come true to get a chance to talk with you. Hope you can see some of your influence on how I'm, you know, living and talking and that type of stuff. And I hope we can talk again soon.
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Dan Harris
Thank you very much.
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Van Jones
Really appreciate it. Have a great day.
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All right, Peace.
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Dan Harris
Thanks again to Van Jones. It was great to meet him. Don't forget to sign up over@danharris.com so you can be part of future conversations like the one you just heard with Van. Again, twice monthly at least, I do sessions where I guide a meditation and take your questions. You also, if you're a subscriber, get ad free versions of this podcast. You get a cheat sheet with every episode that includes a transcript and a summary of the key learnings. You also get to comment on my posts. And most importantly, you get to join a really cool community filled with people who take this stuff seriously. Before I go, I just want to thank everybody who worked so hard to make this show. Our producers are Tara Anderson, Caroline Keenan and Eleanor Vasily. Our recording and engineering is handled by the great folks over at Pod People. Lauren Smith is our production manager, Marissa Schneiderman is our senior producer, DJ Cashmere is our Executive producer, and Nick Thorburn of the band Islands wrote our theme.
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