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How To Perform Under Pressure—With Both Peace and Confidence | Jim Murphy

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Episode: How To Perform Under Pressure—With Both Peace and Confidence | Jim Murphy
Date: October 22, 2025
Host: Dan Harris
Guest: Jim Murphy (performance coach, author of Inner Excellence and The Best Possible Life)

Episode Overview

This episode centers on performing with both peace and confidence under pressure. Dan Harris interviews Jim Murphy, a performance coach whose book Inner Excellence gained newfound fame after NFL star A.J. Brown was spotted reading it on the sidelines, triggering a dramatic turn in Murphy’s personal and professional life. The conversation explores Murphy’s methods for cultivating inner excellence, letting go of attachment to results, reframing self-narratives, and living a purposeful, connected life—drawing on both spiritual and practical traditions.

Key Segments and Discussion Points

Jim Murphy’s Breakout Moment & Spiritual Backdrop

[06:48 – 13:54]

A.J. Brown Story: Murphy was at a low point—his business had stalled, he had just lost his mother, and he felt financially stretched—when his earlier book, Inner Excellence, went viral after being seen in the hands of A.J. Brown during a high-profile NFL game.
Murphy reflects on experiencing this turn of fortune as a kind of spiritual test, asking, “Are you in it for the money? Where’s your heart?” (Murphy, [11:27])
Role of Faith: Murphy is open about his Christianity as driving his perspective on love, purpose, and service, but he stresses that his advice is accessible to people of all faiths (or none). “You do not have to believe in God in order to adopt his brilliant advice.” (Harris, [05:17])
Inclusivity of Teachings: Murphy’s approach aligns with universal principles found in Buddhism and Hinduism, embracing ancient wisdom about the laws of the universe, regardless of specific belief systems ([15:16]).

Identity, the Death of Ego, and Coaching Journey

[16:58 – 22:29]

Murphy narrates how is own identity was deeply wrapped up in being a pro baseball player until vision problems ended his career and he felt lost.
- “Whenever you have a dream, right next to it is the fear of losing it.” (Murphy, [17:09])
- He defines ego as “a part of your mind that’s always comparing, always threatened, never satisfied.” ([16:58])
Unexpectedly succeeding as a high school baseball coach led him to pursue coaching at elite levels—until a mismatch with major league team culture led him to walk away, again feeling a crisis of identity.
A transformative trip coaching the South African Olympic baseball team—experiencing poverty, connection, and purpose—redirected his life’s ambition.
Retreat into solitude and research in Arizona led to his focus on teaching peace and confidence under pressure, eventually writing Inner Excellence ([22:29]).

The Core Question: Performing Under Pressure

[22:29 – 25:10]

Murphy’s driving inquiry became, “How can a pro athlete have peace and confidence under massive pressure?” when results and circumstances seem largely out of one’s control.
The realization: “The path to the most peace and confidence under pressure is the same as the path to living the best possible life for anybody”—a life grounded in wholeheartedness, spirit, and a “heart transformation” from self-centeredness to love and service ([24:18]).

Ego, Non-Attachment, and Purpose

[25:10 – 29:22]

Murphy illustrates the “non-attachment to results” principle using a lollipop analogy for golf pros: Give up attachment to temporary outcomes for a bigger purpose, a long-term, deeper sense of meaning.
- Notable quote: “We need to focus on pursuing the life that you want to live, which means becoming the person that you want to become ... having a bigger purpose for your life than just these temporary things.” (Murphy, [26:03])
This transformation allows people under pressure—athletes, presenters, parents—to “respond rather than react.”

Heart Transformation and Responding vs. Reacting

[27:40 – 29:22]

Murphy argues the keys to high performance are found in the subconscious, not just the rational mind.
“When we’re squeezed, when we’re under pressure, what comes out is our heart, our spirit. That’s why we need to train it.” (Murphy, [28:03])
The aim is to align oneself with the “energy in the universe”—whether viewed as divine or simply natural law.

Service, Connection, and Rewiring Self-Narratives

[29:22 – 38:08]

Harris and Murphy agree that the best performance and life satisfaction flows from moving beyond self-preoccupation to connection, relationships, and service.
- “The view is better when you pull your head out of your ass,” Harris jokes ([30:35]).
The human heart’s deepest need is for love and connection—loneliness and isolation being the greatest punishments.
Murphy teaches clients to speak about negative patterns or diagnoses (“my anxiety,” “my panic attacks”) in non-possessive, past-tense terms to avoid reinforcing limiting identities.
- “We want to make sure that we don’t put labels on ourselves that we don’t want to be in the future.” (Murphy, [35:00])
Harris shares a parallel teaching from meditation: using language like “There is anger,” rather than “I am angry,” makes difficult mind states more workable ([37:06]).

The Power of Language and Belief

[38:08 – 50:42]

Language shapes unconscious beliefs, which drive behavior and experience.
Tools like grading oneself daily on intentions/values, and carefully choosing present-tense, empowering self-talk, help rewire limiting patterns.
Murphy recommends provisional language—staying tentative, using “maybe” or “possibly,” to align with reality and soothe the nervous system.

The Four Daily Goals – Murphy’s Playbook

[66:37 – 70:38]

Give the best of what you’ve got each day.
Understand that “your best” fluctuates. Show up fully with what you have available.
Be present.
Murphy defines this as being “fully engaged heart, mind, and body, unattached to what you’re trying to do. There’s a real sense of freedom and joy.”
Be grateful.
Gratitude is directly linked to inner peace and resilience.
Focus on routines and what you can control.
Limiting one’s concern to controllable factors increases freedom and peace.

Murphy encourages writing these goals down, reviewing them daily, and assigning oneself 1-5 scores on each at the end of the day ([69:20]).

The “Expect Nothing” Tool & Holding Goals Lightly

[84:46 – 85:28]

Referencing the code of the samurai: Before a challenge, breathe deeply and say, “I expect ... nothing.”
- “I have no needs. I can handle anything.” (Murphy, [84:46])
Holding ambitions (such as having the world’s best podcast) loosely, recognizing that what we fear most or desire most may not truly serve our highest good.

Joy, Sacrificial Love, and Service

[56:06 – 57:04]

Murphy distinguishes between happiness (temporary, dependent on circumstances) and joy (a deep sense of well-being, “independent of circumstances ... an inner buoyancy ... that comes from love”).
True joy is rooted in “sacrificial love,” but he emphasizes that this is not “idiot compassion” or people pleasing. Real love has boundaries and puts the group’s well-being first ([57:31]).

Embracing Fear and Growth

[60:08 – 61:59]

The third of his daily goals—courage—means: Face whatever you feel. Be willing to experience uncomfortable feelings; this is the edge of growth.
- “If you’re willing to face any feeling, then you got possibilities.” (Murphy, [61:35])
Exposure therapy and NLP can help rewire unconscious fear responses.

Reshaping Purpose and Motivation

[77:03 – 84:25]

The ultimate purpose: “Selfless is fearless.”
- Success and ambition are welcomed, but motivation should be grounded in a desire to serve and connect—not simply personal aggrandizement.
Reframes selfishness as “wise selfishness” (a Dalai Lama term), acknowledging the necessity of self-care but warning against its dominance.

Notable Quotes

On the real test of purpose:
“It was almost like this little test, like, are you in it for the money? Like, where’s your heart, Jim?”
—Jim Murphy ([11:27])
On heart transformation:
“The path to having the most peace and confidence under the most pressure is the same path as living the best possible life for anybody.”
—Jim Murphy ([24:18])
On non-attachment:
“We need to focus on pursuing the life that you want to live, which means becoming the person that you want to become ... having a bigger purpose for your life.”
—Jim Murphy ([26:03])
On service and self-preoccupation:
“The view is better when you pull your head out of your ass.”
—Dan Harris ([30:35])
On language and belief:
“We want to make sure that we don’t put labels on ourselves that we don’t want to be in the future.”
—Jim Murphy ([35:00])
On fear and possibility:
“If you’re willing to face any feeling, then you got possibilities.”
—Jim Murphy ([61:35])
On joy vs. happiness:
“Happiness is a positive, temporary feeling based on what’s happening. Joy is a deep sense of well-being, freedom, and gratitude independent of circumstances ... and that comes from love.”
—Jim Murphy ([56:06])
On holding expectations loosely:
“I expect nothing. I can handle anything.”
—Jim Murphy ([84:46])

Timestamps of Key Segments

A.J. Brown story and spiritual inflection: [06:48 – 13:54]
Transition from athlete to coach and ego death: [16:58 – 22:29]
Counterintuitive secret to performing under pressure: [22:29 – 25:10]
The non-attachment principle explained: [25:10 – 29:22]
Beyond self: service, connection, and love: [29:22 – 38:08]
On language, beliefs, and rewiring identity: [38:08 – 50:42]
The four daily goals for inner excellence: [66:37 – 70:38]
Navigating ambition, service, and expectation: [77:03 – 85:28]
The expect nothing tool: [84:46 – 85:28]

Practical Takeaways & Tools

Ask yourself: “How do I want to feel in the life that remains to me?” Begin right now to design for more of those feelings ([55:07]).
Four Daily Goals:
1. Give your best (with what you have each day)
2. Be present
3. Be grateful
4. Focus only on your routines and what you can control
  Write down and reflect daily.
Use empowering language about yourself and your experiences (past-tense for unwanted patterns, “there is” rather than “I am” for emotions).
Hold ambitions and expectations loosely. Try the “Expect nothing, I can handle anything” breath before challenges.
Reframe purpose toward service and connection. Let go of “ego” as your driver, use ambition as a tool for growth and outreach.
Cultivate joy through love and connection—not through temporary external validations.
Face feelings head-on: Growth lies on the edge of discomfort.

This episode provides a grounded, practical guide for anyone seeking to perform—on the field, in the boardroom, or in daily life—with more peace, confidence, and genuine fulfillment. Jim Murphy’s tools and stories offer a pathway for transforming both your performance and your sense of purpose, whatever your spiritual bearings.

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A (0:00)

Few things feel better than knowing someone's looking out for you. That is the spirit behind the ATT guarantee. Staying connected matters. That's why AT and T has connectivity you can depend on, or they will proactively make it right. That's the AT and T guarantee, because connection should be dependable, especially in the moments that matter most. Terms and conditions apply. Visit att.comguarantee for details. @ and T connecting changes everything this is the 10% Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody. How we doing? As somebody who once, famously or infamously had a panic attack while delivering the news in front of 5 million people, I am deeply intrigued by the question of whether it is possible to perform with both peace and confidence while under massive pressure. That is the driving question behind the work of my guest today, Jim Murphy, who is perhaps best known for his book Inner Excellence. There's a really cool backstory here. Before January of this year, very few people had heard of Jim Murphy or the concept of inner excellence. But then the star football player A.J. brown went viral when he was caught on camera reading Jim's book on the sidelines of a nationally televised Philadelphia Eagles game, which immediately propelled the book to bestseller status. And as you will hear, it also radically changed Jim Murphy's life, which at that moment was a little dicey. It's an amazing story and you'll hear Jim tell it a little bit more about Jim before we dive in here. He is a performance coach to some of the best athletes and leaders in the world. He began his career as a professional baseball player for the Chicago Cubs. Then he had some vision issues that ended his career. He went on to become a coach. He's worked with the Texas Rangers, the South African Olympic baseball team, and now with individual clients all over the world. In this conversation we talk about counterintuitive secret to performing under pressure how to relanguage the story that you tell about yourself. A crucial life question that everybody should be asking A set of practical tools for inner excellence Jim's four daily goals Cultivating non attachment to results Harder than it sounds how to be less afraid of fear the expect nothing rule, which landed particularly hard with me and we talk about the role of faith in Jim's life. We don't talk a lot about Christianity and God on this show because neither a practicing Christian nor a believer per se in God. But I do value ideological diversity and that's why I have guests, for example, like Father Gregory Boyle on the show. And as you will hear, Jim explained his advice can easily be followed by people who do not share his faith. You can think of it a little bit like when I interview Gregory Boyle, the famous Jesuit priest. You do not have to believe in God in order to adopt his brilliant advice. Just a few things to say before we dive in here. Given that rewiring your inner dialogue is a key part of peak performance, we've got a guided meditation today that comes with this podcast. Tailored to this podcast and it comes from our Teacher of the Month, Seben A. Selassie. It's called how to rewire your inner critic. It's only for paying subscribers over on danharris.com if you sign up, you'll also get weekly live meditation and Q and A sessions every Tuesday at 4 Eastern. The next one is with Seb. She'll be going live on October 28th next month. By the way, our Teacher of the month will be Dr. Christiana Wolf, who's incredible. One more thing to say before we dive in. If you want to meditate with me in person, I've got two events coming up. There are a few tickets left for the meditation party retreat I'll be doing with Seb and Jeff Warren and Afosu Jones Corte the weekend of October 24th at the Omega Institute in upstate New York. We do a mix of meditation, Q and A socializing. There's also plenty of free time for yoga, massage, tennis, hiking, pickleball. You name it, it's a good time. If you can't make it to that, I'll be doing an event, an evening event in New York City on November 18th. It's a live taping of this podcast with the comedian Pete Holmes. It's a benefit for the New York Insight Meditation Center. If you want to come to either or both, there are links in the show notes. All right, we'll get started with Jim Murphy right after this. Few things feel better than knowing someone's looking out for you. That is the spirit behind the ATT Guarantee. Staying connected matters. That's why AT and T has connectivity you can depend on or they will proactively make it right. That's the AT and T guarantee, because connection should be dependable, especially in the moments that matter most. Terms and conditions apply. Visit att.comguarantee for details. @ and T Connecting changes everything. You know what's important to me and I think this is actually a non trivial part of happiness. This is going to sound crazy, but just bear with me. Socks. If your feet are uncomfortable, it's hard to be super happy. You might be mindful, you might be A quantumist. But if your feet are scratchy, itchy, too warm, too cold, it's hard to be happy. It really is. You know what socks I really enjoy? Bombas. I just got a bunch of them. I exercise a lot, as you may know and so I got some workout socks. I also work from home, as you may know and so I wear athleisure a lot. So I wear the same cozy exercise socks during the day. And my sock game is tight. Now. These bamba socks are awesome, super comfortable. They happen to look good. So they've got some of those low cut socks that you can wear with like sneakers and doesn't look like you're wearing socks, although you are wearing socks so that your feet don't stink anyway. That's probably tmi. I like Bombas. That's the bottom line. And by the way, Bombas makes more than just socks. They make slippers, tees and underwear. If you're shopping for back to school, check out bombas. And the best part, for every item you buy, Bombas donates one to somebody experiencing homelessness. Over 150 million items have been donated thanks to customers and with their happiness guarantee, if you're not 100% into what you bought, they'll make it right. No risk. All reward. Head over to bombas.com happier and use code happier for 20% off your first purchase. That's B O M B A S.com happier code happier at checkout. Jim Murphy, welcome to the show.

B (6:52)

Yeah, it was a really interesting, unique time in my life. My mom was dying. She's 91, had an amazing life and I prayed that she would stop suffering. And so she died four days later. So January 12th was the wild card game, Eagles playing the Packers. January 16th is when she died. And that week my life was just kind of somber and slow and business was slow and first time in years. Didn't pay off my credit cards that month. So it was the most incredible change of scenery for me. And one thing that was really amazing was Sunday, January 12th is when the wild card game was. So that afternoon I'm walking around downtown Dallas. I'm there to lead a retreat. I look up the skyscraper and I feel like now it was God asking me. The question was, would you rather, and we'll get into your thoughts about that. Would you rather own this building straight out for whatever hundreds of millions of dollars it's worth, or would you rather have written the book that you just wrote called the Best Possible Life. This book on the spiritual life. And I thought, nah, I wouldn't trade it for hundreds of millions of dollars. That book I wrote, I'm really grateful to have written it. And so I thought, well, at least you got that, Jim. That's pretty cool. So walking around lonely downtown Dallas and then a couple hours later, sitting on my bed watching my laptop, I was watching a bowl game, Notre Dame played Penn State. And then I look at my phone and I see all these texts. And so I thought, my mom died. The text obviously said, you need to check out the wild card game. Turn it on. And I looked at it and I was like, huh? I think this is going to be significant. It was very significant. My life completely changed on that day. But to finish the story about the skyscraper, a couple days later, I'm in Philadelphia. I'm going to go to the next game, the snow game against the Rams, and this guy in the street asked me for some money and I didn't have any money, so I said, hold on right here. I'm going to run to the ATM and get some money. So I run to the ATM and try and get $300 out. It says insufficient funds, 200, insufficient funds, 100. I get the money, I find the guy, give him some money. The next day my mortgage payment bounces. My checking account is negative. And it's not like I was at my last penny. I had money in savings or investments, whatever, but I just, I don't check it very often and I didn't know where I was at. And that was the week we sell 100,000 copies.

B (16:58)

So my whole life, I've obsessed about being a professional athlete. Since I was 7, 8 years old, I told everyone I'm going to be a pro athlete, whether it's in the NFL or NBA or Major League Baseball. And so I got drafted by the Cubs, and it was a dream come true. But, you know, whenever you have a dream, right next to it is the fear of losing it. And it was Totally my identity. And I got injured and had to retire. And when I lost that career, I felt like I lost everything. My identity, like Jim Murphy PRO BASEBALL PLAYER my ego. And I define ego as a part of your mind that's always comparing, always threatened, never satisfied that we all have. I was just felt so lost. I'm nobody. I felt like I was nobody now. And I want to talk to you about the five remembrances because the fifth one is about action. You are what you do. Kind of, I'm kind of new to it because this is a big point in inner excellence. And so I'm just kind of feeling so lost. And then I get asked to coach a high school baseball team in inner city Seattle o' Day High School and we go undefeated. I had no interest in coaching, just never thought about it and didn't know if I could help anyone or if I would enjoy it at all. And it was amazing. We went undefeated and just was like, oh, I love coaching. So then maybe kind of similar to you, I have this kind of obsessive personality. And I was like, okay, so I just coached these 15 year olds. How do I go to coach the New York Yankees and win the World Series? How do I get there now? So I went through this kind of a longer term plan, like 10 year plan in my mind to get a master's in phys Ed so I can get a job teaching PE and coach the baseball team at a high school in Winnett championship, get a job in, in university, do the same thing and then get a job in the pros. And I ended up going to the University of British Columbia, playing football there, hadn't played for eight years. It was an amazing experience. Started a baseball team there as well, got a job with the Texas Rangers two weeks after graduation. I was a personal trainer in grad school and this kind of life coach said let's go for a job right out of grad school in pro baseball. Skip the first two levels by getting to know the people that can hire you. So I send a snail mail letter to every major league team, every manager and GM saying I'm studying how to build this championship team. I'd like to speak to you, interview you in person. So I did that. That actually became my first book. Dug out wisdom 10 principles of championship Teams. And then I got a job with the Texas Rangers two weeks after graduation. And then I quit six months later mid season in tears.

B (19:13)

It just wasn't a good fit. One time I was assistant coach for the Savannah Sand Nets. Now the Bananas, Savannah, bananas. Yeah. After one of the games, he's saying his spiel to the team, and he's like, murph, what do you got? And I said something. And then afterwards, just like, Jim, when I say, what do you got? Don't say anything. And so, in other words, they really just wanted me to put in my time and not really say anything. So that was hard for me. And there was just a lot of egos in pro baseball that was two coaches almost got in a fist fight from our organization when I was there. And that's just kind of the culture that was I was in. And I felt like a total failure when I left, the realization came for me. We had a rare off day, and I was making probably 35,000 a year. I mean, it's like, you're 550 an hour. Your first job. I was making my first job as a pro baseball player. I think I was making 550amonth. 550amonth. So on a rare off day with the Rangers, I'm golfing by myself, and I see this gal with a lineup of her cart for lattes. And I was like, what would I give to trade my life with hers, have a little apartment here in Savannah? And I was like, okay, Jim, if that's what you. Where you're at right now, you need to quit. So I quit. And so devastated again. Lost my identity. My identity completely wrapped up in my role and my actions. And then I get a call from Major League Baseball saying, would you like to coach South Africa, Be their hitting coach for their Olympic trials? And so I fly down to South Africa. Extraordinary experience. Completely opposite the head coach says. I was the heading coach who said, they're your team. Coach them however you want. And so that was amazing. I'm still friends 25 years later. I'm still. We're still on a WhatsApp group with this team. It was the most incredible experience. I'd never seen poverty like that before. Our bat boy is living in the shed of our baseball field with his mother and little brother. Gift and Goupe went on to play in the big leagues. Pittsburgh Pirates. I got to meet Nelson Mandela. March in opening ceremonies. We had one of the biggest upset victories in Olympic baseball history in the Sydney 2000 Olympics. It was an amazing experience. But then after that, what do I do now with my life? This guy who has this obsessive personality. I want to do something extraordinary with my life. And I went back to personal training for a couple years. And then one day, I was just Getting really restless. And then my girlfriend just kind of said, jim, what are you doing? I know you're restless. And that same time, my teammate in pro ball, Ricky Scruggs, my former teammate, he calls me and says, I'm starting a baseball academy in Tucson, Arizona. Can you come help me launch it? And then I just, this idea said, why don't you move down there, give away your possessions, move there, live a life of solitude and figure out what to do with your life. So that's what I did.

B (52:55)

I like it. Okay. So you want to feel connected. So this is the first thing that I do want to work with somebody is I want to know how they want to feel in their life. Because we're going to start to design habits of thought and action around getting that feeling more and more often and. Because essentially, I have a good idea, even though I've. You know, we met before, we're friends, but what you want. Even before I met you, but you can tell me if I'm wrong or how far off am I? You'd like to live a life with Amazing experiences and deep enriching relationships where you're learning and growing and making a difference in the world. Because I already know that that's kind of like the human inter excellence is about human optimization. I already know that most people, like, we're all going to want to walk in love, not fear, for example. And so I help them learn. Okay, what do I really want? I think I want to have this. This podcast that's number one in the world and just getting more and more viewers and more and more money and just happily ever after. That's what I think I want. What I try to do is help you understand what you really want is not that circumstance or outcome. What you really want is to live a certain life, this meaningful life that has these amazing experiences and deep enriching relationships. And so we do that by starting off with how you want to feel connected. And one of the big challenges that people run into is, is when they're not really clear on how they want to feel in their life, and then they let trivial things take them out of that feeling and so get cut off in traffic or any sort of circumstance that they didn't have time for, then, you know, they lose that connection. And so I want to know how you want to feel and how you want to live, like how you want to face adversity, like we talked about earlier, and the type of person you want to become. So then we're going to design your life around that, and that's really what inner excellence is. And then there's tools. A tool is something that you do in the moment. I'm frustrated, I'm afraid, nervous. What do I do right now? I'm just not present. What do I do in the moment? So we would use a tool, but this is all under the overarching theme of I want to learn and grow and become someone that lives this meaningful, fulfilling life.

B (57:31)

Sure. So personally, I love high fives and hugs, but if I spend my whole time high fiving and hugging everybody, I'm not going to get anywhere. I want to make a difference in the world. I told you how I want to live and feel like everyone else. Unconditional love has strict boundaries. And so in the Bible talks about give to all who ask, which is what I try to do. However, it doesn't say give what they ask to everybody. And so what I try and do is give to all who ask is give them what I think is the most loving thing and thinking of the group first. And so sacrificial you can think about as a five year old. My nephew Boaz, he's six now. Like, if he asked me, can I go play out on the highway? It doesn't matter. If you ask me 10 times or 100 times, it's going to be no, every single time. Because sacrificial love has strict boundaries. So to me, love is the most powerful force in the universe. It's completely fearless. That's where I think this Buddhist ideal can really come into play here is selfless is fearless. The problem that we have as humans is that we're naturally self centered, which leads to fear. We need to think about ourselves to get through life. But the problem is when we're constantly thinking about ourselves. Now, our subconscious, which is designed to protect us, which is always on the lookout, it reminds us of our failures and our weaknesses and we don't like to feel like a failure or weak. So then we look around to compare. Then the ego says, oh yeah, look at that person, look at that person. But there's always someone that has more better things than you. So then it goes down to this road of anxiety and frustration because our deepest need, the ego knows your deepest need is for love and connection. And so if I'm lining up a putt or if I have a podcast that I really want to be successful, if I do it well, if I make the putt, if it's successful, I'm going to get the love that I want. Theoretically, if I don't, I'm not going to get the love that I want, which is the worst possible thing.

B (72:44)

So, yeah, I'll give you. So I was doing more meditations in my life. I do this meditation, which is like a tool or a habit or routine. You can think of it as a tool. I have this 10 to 20 minutes with. I think of it as time with God. And so in that time, the way I do it is I put on my timer. Say, like this morning, it was 10 minutes. Put my countdown timer on 10 minutes. As soon as I see it hit 9:59, then I'm putting it away so I don't have to think about how much time's left. And then I'm putting on this music that's connecting me to my purpose and to God, that I feel really connected. And again, it's the same music. This is different than my morning playlist. Different playlist. It's the same music every single time in the same order. And this is important. So a lot of people, they wake up and they're like, okay, how am I feeling? What do I want to listen to? And they start scrolling. So I think this is a mistake. So I think it's way more powerful to think about these things that we've talked about, like, what's my purpose? How do I want to live? How do I want to feel? Who do I want to become? And start to arrange your life around that, like, with your music. Because the music is not just, I'm bored, I want to not be bored. It's doing two things. It's aligning you with your purpose, and it's programming your mind. We're getting the words of the person that you want to Become into your mind. And so every day. And so I have this turn on the timer for 10 minutes. I put on the music, and then I sit there and it's this prayerful meditation. And I have this thing that I got from friend of mine, Ken Shigematsu in Vancouver, bc, and he says, and this is God talking to Jim. Jim, you are the beloved, like someone that I love in whom I delight. And so I repeat that over and over for 10 minutes. It's just like meditation, right? Your mind starts to wander. And so like today, I don't know, I probably said it maybe 10 times. Like, our greatest need is for love. If you don't feel that love when you start your day, what are you going to do when you go out? You're going to try and get it how? Generally from the, what I call the palms. Possessions, achievements, looks, money, status. You know, you're going to try and be someone who deserves love. But then the problem is you could do everything right and they may reject you, do everything right and your boss may not like it, and, you know, it's way too much out of your control. And so then it leads to this obsession, frustration, et cetera, this cycle. Whereas, let's say, if you don't believe in God, it's really connecting with having a purpose beyond yourself, where understanding that love is the most powerful force in the universe. And because you do the loving kindness meditation, yes, this is very similar. To have this purpose, I want to walk in love and share that with the world. This is really powerful.