It's easy to notice when your marriage feels disconnected, but it's much harder to know what to actually do about it. And it's even harder to look at your own part in the dynamic instead of just wishing your partner would change.

This Valentine's Week, I'm bringing back one of my favorite conversations with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality coach whose work has profoundly impacted my own marriage. In this encore episode, she shares three concrete, actionable things we can do right now to become better partners and strengthen our marriages.

In this episode, you'll learn:

💜 The one quality Dr. Jennifer looks for in a great partner (most of us avoid it, but it's what makes marriages actually work)

💜 Why how you handle disappointment matters more than compatibility

💜 What's really behind sexual disconnection—and it's not lack of desire

Dr. Jennifer has a gift for helping us see our blind spots without shame, and this conversation gave me concrete things I could actually do instead of just wishing things were different. While this episode won't hand you a perfect marriage, it will show you how to stop waiting for your spouse to change and start working on what you can actually control.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Announcements:

Dr. Jennifer's book That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity and Intimate Love is now available. I listened to it on audio and then immediately ordered the paperback so I could mark it up. Grab it here.

I've created an entire playlist of relationship-focused episodes. Access it here.

Related Episodes:

342: Communicating to your Partner that Things Need to Change // Eli Harwood

222: How to Repair after a Fight with your Partner // Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman

223: Sex and Motherhood // Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

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