Elizabeth Molina: [00:00:00] Hello, my beautiful people, I'm Elizabeth Molina and I am your beauty guru in this podcast, I will share with you all you need to know about beauty from the inside out. You will gain access to the latest beauty trends from head to toe mind. And so you will hear from experts themselves. The trendy influencers, celebrities, athletes and of course, myself on all things beauty. This is definitely the place to be biohacking, beauty, hacking, life hacking into the why for your beauty routine. Are you ready for your global obsession? Welcome, guys. You know what day it is. I'm going to keep it short and sweet, because today is going to be a hot episode. We have an amazing guest. It is Susan Bratton. She is an intimacy expert to a million. She is a champion and advocate for all of those who desire intimacy and passion. She is the co-founder and CEO of Two Corporation's Personal Life Media Inc, a publisher of a heart connected love making techniques in the Bedrooms, Communication Skills and 20-20, LLC, a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. You heard that right, guys? We are going to have a spicy episode today. She's a bestselling author and publisher of 34 books and programs, including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him Steamy Sex Ed, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing and Hot to Trot. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and The Today Show, as well as frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC. Hi, Susan. How are you, Elizabeth?

Susan Bratton: [00:01:48] I am radiant and glowing, as we all should be.

Elizabeth Molina: [00:01:52] You truly are for you guys. We are also recording this video, so you have to see her. She is truly radiant and glowing and looking as hot as ever. And so I'm excited to have her on. But let's let's talk a little bit about what you do. Let's talk about sex, baby. Let's get into the conversation. You are the expert. You have really helped millions of people. You are the expert in this case. So I'm I'm intrigued. What does that mean that you've helped you become the intimacy expert for millions of people?

Susan Bratton: [00:02:24] Well, about 15 years ago, my husband and I was closer to 20 years ago. Now my husband and I had a really rocky point in our marriage, and I didn't really want to make love with him anymore. You know, I had been doing it for over a decade, and it wasn't that satisfying for me. And I really pulled away. And then that made him emotionally disconnect. And then we were on the verge of divorce and we decided to do something about it. So we sought therapy, which was a part of the solution. But really what helped us was going to sex workshops. It was our sex life. You know, they say that either couples have trouble with their sex life or with money and money wasn't the problem for us, nor was it for all our friends who we saw getting divorced. It was really our sexuality. And what had happened was, you know, in hindsight, 20, 20 vision, we had been having sex. And what I would call today, the patriarchal way, the way that men want to have sex because they don't know any different. And there are there are masculine sexual leaders. And so they're doing the best they can, but they don't live in our bodies or understand our arousal and our libido and how different it is than theirs. And when we did sex workshops, we began to understand orgasm skills and have sexual communication skills that were much, much stronger.

Susan Bratton: [00:03:39] And we really went through a renaissance in our sex life to the point where we decided to start a company together, essentially taking these incredible transformational sex workshop experiences and putting them online so that people could do them in the privacy of their own home. And what I like to say is that my job is to transform having sex into making love. It's also translating the masculine and feminine for each other so that you that you can get into your partner's world. Because though I support full gender spectrum expression, most people are in a heterosexual monogamous relationship. So that's where my sweet spot is. My sweet spot is, hey, this is what she needs from you. Hey, this is what he needs from you. And here's how you can get into a more of a balance that satisfying for both people, because so much of the media and pretty much all of porn is both degrading to women and doesn't follow at all what I would consider to be the matriarchal needs of our sexuality. So I've published over 45 books and programs. You can find them all, by the way, at Susan Bratten dot com. If you look under my products link, there are all of the published programs that I've created, all of my supplement company products. But also there's about 30 free gifts because. And you could just help yourself, you can have as many as you want, because

Elizabeth Molina: [00:05:03] I love that. Thank you.

Susan Bratton: [00:05:04] Different places in their sexual evolution, and you could be stuck in an entirely different place than the next person, than the next person, than the next person. So what I really did was I created a constellation of things that help remove the obstacles to your intimacy and satisfaction wherever you are. Because one of the things I can tell you is that good sex can be can get better and better your whole life long because you can get better in bed your whole life long. And sex is really a learned skill. Procreation, we kind of can figure out. But passionate lovemaking. We're not getting taught. And not only that, but the media and pornography is making it worse for us women then and not making it better. So I really feel like I like to break through all of the wrongdoings, the misunderstandings, the myths, everything from our orgasmic potential to being afraid to talk to your partner or to not knowing what you want. You do know what you want. I tell her that. Yeah. And and I think those things are all of the ways that I can really help and support people and meet them wherever they are. And I've worked with people from 19 to 90 around the world, from all different cultures. So I really have a big heart for actually how sexually emancipated we are here in America compared to the rest of the world. They're still in a very backward paradigm. So that's kind of who I am and what I do.

Elizabeth Molina: [00:06:34] I have a ton of questions. I'm like, what can you just quickly like tell us, because I know we're going to get into this, but like the pandemic has been huge for couples with this sexual arousal. Being with your partner all day, being in the same small space, how do you find them attractive no longer getting dressed, you know, waiting. There's so much we're talking about beauty here, which we will get into. But give us a short OK, you're showing us something. What are you showing us?

Susan Bratton: [00:07:01] So I'm going to show you. And remember, you can go to YouTube and see these images as well. And it's worth going to YouTube and seeing these images, because what I'm actually showing you is the internal mechanisms of a penis. Yes. And really what I want to do is I want to tell you two things that will make a big shift for you. The first is that our men, if we're in a relationship with a penis owner, he has this. The benefit of something called hemodynamics and hemodynamics means that he has these big spongy chambers of erectile tissue in his penis and they fill in very quickly with blood. The blood just runs straight into them. But if you look at what our vulva looks like and I want to show you two images here. The first image is the inside the X, the outside of our vulva. So we're pretty familiar as women with the the the outer labia, the inner labia, the vestibule, the opening, the the clitoral tip, the shaft, the hood, the urethral exit, where our PRP comes out, the vaginal opening, the G spot inside. We're pretty familiar with what the rover looks like, though. I bet we don't look at our own enough. Probably if I peel away the skin and I just take the layer right off the top here group, this is what it looks like underneath our skin and all.

Susan Bratton: [00:08:30] All of this meaty tissue is our erectile systems, and we have as much erectile tissue in our vulva as our male body partners have in our in their penis. But we don't have it. I always say that if a man's like a banana, a woman's like an English muffin. She's got all these nooks and crannies that have to be filled in with blood and it seeps in more slowly. And we have the clitoral glands, the clitoral shaft, the clitoral arms or Kaura, the clitoral legs or vestibular bulbs. We have the urethral sponge, which people call a G spot. It's not a spot. It's a long tube that both comes out on the face of the vestibule of the vagina, as well as going deep into the vagina. And then we have a perineal sponge on the bottom. That's also erectile tissue. And our vaginas are literally wrapped, embraced with erectile tissue. But we women put our attention. We've been told your orgasm starts in your clitoris. And we think our clitoris is this little tip that shows under the hood when actually this entire structure that wraps around our vagina is our clitoral structure. And we have a urethral structure and a perineal structure, and we have sex too fast. And the reason that we do and this is the matriarchal versus patriarchal view, is that he is, number one, testosterone dominant where we are estrogen dominant.

Susan Bratton: [00:09:59] And so he has not only the benefit of hemodynamics, he has the benefit of test, more testosterone, which makes him ready to go and ready to penetrate us. And so the thing is that he gets an erection. He wants to stick it in, but he sticks it in wa...

Ep.21 - Let's Talk About The Beauty in S-E-X! w/ Susan Bratton