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AboutCONSENT™
Hosted by AboutCONSENT™, Rosalia Rivera · EN
Weekly informational, inspirational & motivational episodes about:
Consent education, sex positivity, body safety for kids, healing, sexual autonomy, orgasm equality, survivor support and advocacy, and current events.
Join me in having an open, transparent and inspirational dialogue about all of these important topics that will move the sexual empowerment movement forward!
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Episode 57: Breaking The Frame- Exposing Family Secrets While Healing Generational Trauma
Jul 300:56:27Tap to summarizeEpisode 57Duration: 56:28Host: Rosalia Rivera Guest: Amanda MustardContent Warning: This episode contains frank discussions about sexual abuse, incest, and family trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening.Key Topics DiscussedThe complexity of family abuse: Moving beyond black-and-white narratives to understand the messy reality of being abused by someone you loveNormalization within families: How abuse becomes normalized when no one knows how to address itBreaking generational cycles: The courage required to be the first person in a family to speak upThe role of religion: How spiritual bypassing can both harm and help survivorsComplicity vs. survivorship: Understanding the difference between enabling and survivingThe power of acknowledgment: Why being seen and heard can be more healing than criminal justicePrevention perspectives: How speaking up earlier could protect more childrenTherapeutic journey: The importance of professional mental health support throughout the healing processKey Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00-02:00] Introduction and film trailer audioAmanda's background as a photojournalist turned filmmakerThe personal nature of exposing family trauma[02:00-08:20] Film Overview and PurposeWhat "Great Photo, Lovely Life" is aboutWho the film was made for: survivors and those impacted by child sexual abuseMoving beyond simplified narratives of abuse[08:20-13:15] The Decision to DocumentWhy Amanda chose to film such personal family traumaUsing journalism tools to investigate her own familyThe power of having the perpetrator acknowledge his actions[13:15-21:11] The Normalization ProcessHow abuse became normalized in Amanda's familyLeaving home and gaining perspective on her childhoodUsing photojournalism skills to seek truth within her family[21:11-28:37] Family Dynamics and RelationshipsThe impact on Amanda's relationship with her motherNavigating co-dependency and the desire to "fix" family membersThe role of survival mode in preventing healing[28:37-35:53] Religion and Spiritual BypassingHow evangelical faith both helped and hindered healingThe problematic nature of forced forgivenessUnderstanding religion as both toxic and helpful for coping[35:53-42:19] The Complexity of PerpetratorsWhy people who abuse can still be charming and lovedHow this complexity makes prevention more difficultThe importance of understanding grooming behaviors[42:19-47:19] Justice and Healing OptionsWhy criminal justice isn't always what survivors wantThe power of acknowledgment over prosecutionIntroduction to restorative justice alternatives[47:19-52:34] Resources and Next StepsDiscussion guide created with Johns Hopkins Moore CenterUpcoming projects addressing cultural reactions to the filmThe importance of professional therapeutic support[52:34-End] Closing ThoughtsPracticing compassion while maintaining boundariesUnderstanding that everyone is carrying unseen traumaThe ongoing work of breaking generational cyclesAbout AmandaAmanda Mustard is an award-winning photojournalist turned filmmaker, born and raised on a Christmas tree farm in rural Pennsylvania. She spent over a decade as a photojournalist based between Cairo and Bangkok, working for prestigious outlets including The New York Times, National Geographic, and the Associated Press. Her HBO documentary "Great Photo, Lovely Life" represents an eight-year journey examining decades of sexual abuse within her own family.Connect with Amanda:Website: amandamustard.comFilm Website: greatphotolovelylife.comResources Mentioned Film and Discussion Guide"Great Photo, Lovely Life" - Available on HBO MaxExtended Discussion Guide - Available through Johns Hopkins Moore CenterCrisis and Support ResourcesNational Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.orgCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 or crisistextline.orgNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or suicidepreventionlifeline.orgSAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357 or samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineAdult Survivor ResourcesRAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): rainn.org - comprehensive resources for adult survivors1in6: 1in6.org - support specifically for men who experienced sexual abuse as childrenNational Center for Victims: victimsofcrime.org - trauma recovery resourcesSurvivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP): snapnetwork.org - support for institutional abuse survivorsAdult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA): ascasupport.org - peer support and healing resourcesTherapy and Healing ResourcesPsychology Today Therapist Directory: psychologytoday.com/us/therapists - find trauma-specialized therapistsEMDR International Association: emdria.org - find EMDR therapists for trauma treatmentThe Body Keeps the Score Resources: besselvanderkolk.com - trauma-informed healing approachesTrauma Recovery Network: traumarecoverynetwork.org - comprehensive trauma treatment resourcesFamily and Relationship SupportNational Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org - for family violence situationsAl-Anon Family Groups: al-anon.org - support for families affected by trauma and dysfunctionAdult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: adultchildren.org - healing from family traumaPrevention and Education OrganizationsJohns Hopkins Moore Center for Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse: publichealth.jhu.edu/moore-centerMoore Center Response to Great Photo, Lovely LifeDarkness to Light: d2l.org - prevention education and trainingStop It Now: stopitnow.org - prevention resources for families and communitiesHost InformationRosalia Rivera hosts AboutCONSENT™ Podcast, which sparks conversations about prevention, healing, and justice to end child sexual abuse while creating consent culture for current and future generations. The podcast provides a safe, shame-free, and judgment-free space for both survivors and those who support them.Connect with the Show:Instagram: @consentparentingPodcast: @aboutconsentpodcastNext Steps for ListenersWatch "Great Photo, Lovely Life" on HBO MaxAccess the discussion guide through the Moore CenterShare responsibly - Consider content warnings when sharingSeek support if the content brings up personal traumaConsider professional help for your own healing journeyPractice compassion in your own family dynamicsIf you found this episode valuable, please share it with others who might benefit. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and tag @consentparenting and @aboutconsentpodcast on social media with your biggest takeaways. Let's keep building safer spaces—one conversation at a time.
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Ep 56 Gambiling With Kids Lives
Apr 23, 202500:30:52Tap to summarizeIn this eye-opening episode, I discuss Meta's platforms and their impact on young users' safety and wellbeing. Despite public messaging about prioritizing safety, internal research and whistleblower testimonies reveal alarming gaps in protection that expose children to sexual predators, harmful content, and dangerous interactions. I examine Meta's business decisions when faced with implementing life-saving safety features, how their algorithms can create harmful content "bubbles," and most importantly, what parents and advocates can do to demand accountability and change!Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] IntroductionThe reality behind Meta's safety promisesThe personal impact on families and young users[04:15] The Statistics vs. Public MessagingInternal research findings Meta tried to hideDisturbing statistics about unwanted sexual advances and discrimination[10:30] Real-World ConsequencesStories of suicide following online harassmentImpact on mental health, eating disorders, and substance abuse[17:45] The Algorithmic ProblemHow engagement-focused algorithms promote harmful contentMeta's research on content "bubbles" and escalating harm[23:30] Predator PlaygroundInternal acknowledgments of safety gapsResults of investigations and test accounts[32:15] Profit Over ProtectionBusiness decisions that prioritized engagement over safetyRejected safety features that could save lives[40:00] Taking Action as Parents and CitizensThe multi-organization petition to Mark ZuckerbergThree key demands for platform safety[48:30] What Parents Can Do NowImmediate steps to protect your children onlineResources for families affected by online harm[54:45] Final Thoughts & Call to ActionHow to support the Design It For Us campaignResources for those affected by online harassmentInstagram is Full of Openly Available AI Generated Child Abuse Content: Pulitzer Center ArticleSIGN THE PETITION HERE!!!Online Safety Resources:Child Online Protection Resources:https://www.commonsensemedia.org/privacy-and-online-safetyhttps://www.connectsafely.org/resources-for-parents/Mental Health Support:Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/sg-youth-mental-health-social-media-advisory.pdfReport Online Exploitation:National Center for Missing & Exploited Children CyberTipline: https://report.cybertip.org/FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center: https://www.ic3.govParent Education:https://www.waituntil8th.org/https://digitalwellnesslab.org/
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Ep 55 [Part 2] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case with guest Mié Kohiyama
Mar 17, 202500:58:43Tap to summarizeThe Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case [Part 2]Host:Rosalia RiveraGuest:Mié KohiyamaDuration:58:44Release Date:March 16, 2025Episode SummaryIn this powerful continuation of The Cost of Silence, we dive deeper into the horrifying case of Joël Le Scouarnec, one of France’s most prolific child sex abusers. Joining us is Mié Kohiyama, a French journalist, survivor, and leading activist in the fight against child sexual violence.Mié shares her groundbreaking legal battle that challenged France’s statute of limitations laws, revealing how institutional silence allows abuse to persist for decades. We also explore the shocking judicial failures that enabled Le Scouarnec’s crimes, the devastating impact of repressed memory on survivors, and the urgent need for systemic change.This episode is a call to action—for justice, reform, and survivor advocacy.Trigger Warning: This discussion contains references to child sexual abuse, repressed memory, and institutional failures. Please prioritize your well-being and use the provided resources if needed.Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] IntroductionRecap of Part 1 and why this case mattersIntroducing guest Mié Kohiyama[03:15] Mié Kohiyama’s StoryHer personal experience with abuse and repressed memoryLegal battle against France’s statute of limitations[08:42] Statute of Limitations & Justice DelayedWhy survivors struggle to seek justiceThe need for legal reform in cases of child sexual abuse[15:30] Judicial & Institutional FailuresHow France’s legal system failed to protect victimsThe role of hospitals, law enforcement, and courts in enabling abuse[21:10] CSAM & Digital ExploitationWhy child sexual abuse material (CSAM) isn’t taken seriously enoughHow law enforcement overlooked Le Scouarnec’s early offenses[27:45] The Trauma of DiscoveryThe impact of repressed memories on survivorsHow victims were retraumatized by law enforcement’s handling of the case[33:20] Family & Institutional SilenceWhy families protect perpetrators over victimsThe role of cultural attitudes and systemic cover-ups[40:00] The Urgent Need for ReformAbolishing statutes of limitations for child sex crimesEducating institutions on trauma-informed approaches[46:55] Call to ActionHow listeners can support survivors and advocate for changeResources for survivors and alliesAbout Mié Kohiyama:Mié Kohiyama is a French-trained journalist and a dedicated child rights activist with over a decade of advocacy experience. As a survivor of child sexual violence (CSV), she made history as the first survivor in France to appeal to the Supreme Court on the issue of the statute of limitations and repressed memory.Since then, she has been a key figure in the collective movement to end CSV in France. Her activism contributed to major legal victories, including the establishment of a legal age of consent in France and the extension of the statute of limitations for sexual crimes against minors to 48 years. However, the fight to abolish these limitations entirely is still ongoing.Mié is also the author of Le Petit Vélo Blanc, written under the pseudonym Cécile B, in which she shares her journey as a survivor and activist. In 2022, she joined the Brave Movement and now serves as an executive member.Instagram: www.instagram.com/miekohiyamaX: x.com/MiKohiyamaLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mie-kohiyamaSurvivor Resources:Global Help Lines:https://www.bravemovement.org/get-helpU.S. Healing Resources + Survivor Support:https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/https://metoomvmt.org/how-can-we-help-you/U.S. Victims Advocacyhttps://trynova.org/About Child Traumahttps://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/about-child-trauma
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Ep 54 [Part 1] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case
Mar 16, 202500:18:22Tap to summarizeThe Cost of Silence – The Le Scouarnec Case (Part 1)Host: Rosalia RiveraDuration: 18:22Release Date: March 16, 2025Episode SummaryIn this gripping episode, we dive into the harrowing case of surgeon Joël Le Scouarnec, one of France’s most notorious serial child sex abusers. His decades-long history of abuse was shrouded in silence, concealed by institutions that failed to act. We examine the systemic failures that enabled his crimes, the courageous survivors who broke their silence, and the larger implications for child protection laws and medical accountability.Through expert insights and survivor testimonies, this episode sheds light on how abuse thrives in secrecy—and what must change to prevent future tragedies.Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] IntroductionOverview of the case and its significanceWhy this story needs to be told[03:15] Who Was Joël Le Scouarnec?Background on the surgeonHis career and how he gained access to victims[08:42] The First Red Flags: Early Complaints IgnoredAccounts of early warning signsHow institutions protected him instead of victims[15:30] The Victims Speak OutThe first survivor to break the silenceHow others came forward and the impact of their testimonies[21:10] The Investigation UnfoldsHow police uncovered the shocking extent of his crimesThe discovery of his private journals and what they revealed[27:45] The Trial and VerdictWhat happened in courtThe justice survivors received—and what was left unanswered[33:20] Institutional Silence: How Systems Enable AbuseWhy hospitals and institutions failed to actThe larger implications for medical and legal accountability[40:00] What Needs to Change?Policy changes that could prevent similar casesThe role of public awareness and survivor advocacy[46:55] Final Thoughts & Call to ActionHow listeners can support survivorsResources for those affected by abuseSurvivor Resources:Global Help Lines:https://www.bravemovement.org/get-helpU.S. Healing Resources + Survivor Support:https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/https://metoomvmt.org/how-can-we-help-you/U.S. Victims Advocacyhttps://trynova.org/About Child Traumahttps://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/about-child-trauma
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Ep 53 Grooming Uncovered: What Every Parent Needs to Know
Feb 13, 202500:50:03Tap to summarizeHost: Rosalia RiveraGuest: Anna Sonoda, licensed clinical social worker and author of Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a TargetDuration: 50:04Release Date: February 12, 2025Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] Welcome & IntroductionI introduce my guest, Anna Sonoda, and share why her book, Duck Duck Groom, is an essential read for parents.[02:22] Anna’s Background & How She Started This WorkAnna talks about her journey as a clinical social worker and what led her to work with sex offenders. She explains how sitting face-to-face with offenders gave her insights into their thought processes and behaviors.[04:34] What Grooming Really Looks LikeAnna breaks down the four stages of grooming—flattery, favoritism, forbidden fruits, and fear—and explains why most predators don’t fit the "creepy stranger" stereotype.[07:11] The Limitations of the Sex Offender RegistryWe discuss why relying on the sex offender registry isn’t enough and why most predators never end up on it.[12:31] How Groomers Target Parents FirstPredators don’t just groom children—they groom adults too. Anna explains the tactics offenders use to build trust with caregivers to gain access to kids.[20:13] How Offenders Groom Entire CommunitiesWe talk about the ways predators manipulate entire social circles, making it difficult for people to believe allegations when they arise.[26:55] Red Flags & Early Warning SignsAnna shares key behaviors to watch for, both in adults and children, that could indicate grooming.[32:46] The Power of Showing UpWe discuss why parental presence is one of the strongest protective factors against abuse and why being the “unpredictable parent” can deter predators.[36:08] Peer-on-Peer Abuse is Rising—Here’s What You Need to KnowAnna highlights the alarming rise in peer-on-peer abuse and how easy access to pornography is shaping harmful behaviors among kids.[41:44] How to Talk to Kids About Grooming & Body SafetyWe go over practical ways to start age-appropriate conversations with kids about staying safe, recognizing red flags, and setting boundaries.[46:34] Where to Find Anna’s Book & Final ThoughtsAnna shares where listeners can find Duck Duck Groom and her additional resources for parents and survivors.Anna Sonoda's Book:Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target is available on Amazon.Anna Sonoda's Website:For more resources and information, visit Anna Sonoda's official website.Additional Resources:Anna has been featured in various interviews and podcasts discussing child safety and grooming prevention. You can find these appearances on her "Listen and Watch Here" page.annasonoda.comannasonoda.comamazon.com
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Ep 52 Online Safety For ALL Ages in 2024
Jul 18, 202400:46:31Tap to summarizeLinks mentioned in this episode:BARK TechnologiesTitania Jordan on InstagramAbout Titania Jordan:Titania Jordan is the Chief Marketing Officer and Chief Parent Officer of Bark Technologies, an online safety company that helps keep kids safe online and in real life.A renowned thought leader on digital parenting, Titania has contributed to pieces in the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Huffington Post, Fox Business, Daily Mail, USA Today, Vogue, and more. Her first book, Parenting in a Tech World, was published in 2020 and quickly became a bestseller on Amazon. Titania was also featured in the 2020 documentary Childhood 2.0. She also frequently appears as a subject matter expert on nationally broadcasted programs such as the TODAY Show, Steve Harvey, The Doctors, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, Fox News, Sirius XM Radio, and CNBC.In 2017, Titania founded a Facebook group where parents could come together and get advice on raising kids in the digital age, share stories, and learn the latest news about social media. It now has more than 300,000 members and is growing rapidly.One of her favorite childhood memories is her dad asking her to “figure out this new computer thing” (i.e., read the Microsoft Windows 3.0 user manual) in the early ‘90s and later teaching him to navigate the wild west of the early internet that would eventually turn into the online world we know today.When she’s not busy trying to make the world a safer place for kids, Titania enjoys painting with her son.For the latest news regarding parenting in a tech world, you can follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and yes, TikTok as well. For a link to Titania’s recent media appearances, visit Bark in the News.
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Ep 51 How HEAT is Pushing Apple to Prioritize Child Protection
May 30, 202400:43:03Tap to summarizeHere are the links from the show:Take Action link (emails to Apple and the petition): https://protectchildrennotabuse.org/take-action/ Follow and Engage with the HEAT Initiative (and sign up for their newsletter)Heat WebsiteTwitterInstagramLinkedinTHORN blog explaining KOSA (Kids Online Safety Act)
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Ep 50 Season 3 REBOOT Launch
May 26, 202400:13:38Tap to summarizeRosalia Rivera discussed the reboot of the podcast for season 3 and what the season will bring. That includes talking about the Brave Movement's online safety campaign, Safer Internet, through an exciting new series. She's also releasing episodes about the growing influence of the pedophile movement in society. She emphasized the importance of prioritizing mental health, exposing red flags, and creating a consent culture to prevent child sexual abuse and promote healing and justice. Rivera highlighted the need for collective action to address this complex issue and ensure a safer world for all children and adolescents. She'll also be addressing issues around Indigenous abuse and school safety.
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Ep 49 Category A Child Sexual Abuse Material Is Rising
May 26, 202300:27:42Tap to summarizeThe Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) is an organization based in the United Kingdom that works to combat the distribution of online child sexual abuse material (CSAM) and other illegal content. Established in 1996, the IWF operates as an independent, self-regulatory body supported by the internet industry, law enforcement agencies, and the government.The main objective of the IWF is to minimize the availability of CSAM on the internet and protect children from online exploitation. They achieve this by actively searching for and removing illegal content hosted on websites worldwide. When the IWF identifies explicit or abusive material, they work closely with internet service providers (ISPs) to have the content blocked or taken down.The IWF also operates a hotline that allows members of the public to report suspected instances of CSAM found online. These reports are assessed by the IWF's analysts, who then take appropriate action to have the illegal content removed and ensure that the relevant authorities are notified.Additionally, the IWF plays a vital role in providing support and guidance to internet industry partners, helping them establish policies and practices to prevent the distribution of illegal content on their platforms. They collaborate with law enforcement agencies both nationally and internationally, sharing information and intelligence to aid in investigations and prosecution of offenders.Learn more about the foundation here.Read the blog post I review in the episode here.This episode was brought to you by CONSENTparenting. Learn more about CONSENTparenting here.TIME STAMPS:Introduction of the episode. (0:00)The Internet Watch Foundation’s report. (2:02)What are the categories of indecent images? (3:44)Explaining the definition of child sexual abuse. (6:08)The results of the investigation. (10:44)What objects were being used for penetration? (12:03)A global crisis of our era. (14:06)Is child sexual abuse on the rise? (18:02)The rise of online abuse. (19:57)What is online safety? (22:15)
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Ep 48 Sibling Sexual Abuse and 5Waves.org
May 4, 202301:02:17Tap to summarizeJane, Hope and Maria, along with Brandy Black and Fiona Ward joined forces to create the non profit organization 5waves.org to help other families affected by SSA.In this episode, we talked about:The prevalence of child sexual abuse in the homeWhy this type of abuse is so often NOT discoveredAcknowledging those who have been harmedThe stigma of disclosing a child’s abuseThe importance of communicationHope’s story of discovering the abuse between her childrenThe challenges of finding help and informationHow children determine what’s inappropriate/unsafeThe importance of teaching body safety and specificsVigilance and conversations in the homeWhat are the next steps if abuse is discoveredThe emotional toll on all family membersThe need for therapy and treatment for children & parentsHow to get support as a parent when people judge youLearn more about 5 Waves and other organizations working together to fight this issue.www.siblingsexualtrauma.comwww.5waves.orgwww.siblingstoo.comwww.ssarc.co.uk/Parents Coping With Sibling Sexual Abuse and Trauma https://www.facebook.com/groups/siblingtraumaPeer Support Group For Survivors of Childhood Sibling Sexual Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/646423866554980Social Media Links:5WAVES IG: https://www.instagram.com/5wavesorg/Maria IG: https://www.instagram.com/mariasocolofauthor/Hope IG: https://www.instagram.com/hopesittler/Jane IG:https://www.instagram.com/jane_complicatedcourage/ This episode was brought to you by CONSENTparenting™Learn more at consentparenting.com
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