444 | The Pain We Carry Quietly: Breaking the Silence on Pelvic & Reproductive Health. Why Reproductive Pain Gets Ignored & How Black Women Take Back Their Health with Dr. Janelle Fredrick

Summary

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Affirmations for Black Girls

Episode 444 | The Pain We Carry Quietly: Breaking the Silence on Pelvic & Reproductive Health
Host: Tyra The Creative
Guest: Dr. Janelle Frederick, Pelvic Floor Therapist
Release Date: December 3, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this powerful episode—the first of a three-part series—Tyra The Creative sits down with Dr. Janelle Frederick to explore pelvic and reproductive health, focusing on why reproductive and pelvic pain is commonly ignored, especially by Black women. The conversation breaks taboos surrounding “what’s going on down there” and shines a light on the ways medical care and societal conditioning have led many Black women to suffer in silence. The episode is a call to action: listen to your body, ask questions without fear, and reclaim your health.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Why We Ignore Pain: Social & Cultural Layers

[03:02, Tyra]

• Tyra notes the generational and cultural weight of being taught to be “strong,” avoid “making a fuss,” and keep personal health struggles quiet.
• She frames the episode as a safe space to break these habits, acknowledging both the trauma and the dismissal Black women face about reproductive pain, even from medical professionals.

Quote:

"We are uncomfortable with talking about what's going on down there. There's trauma. There's dismissive comments like 'you'll be fine' from people around us. And far too often, even doctors do not take our concerns seriously." — Tyra [03:02]

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2. Demystifying the Pelvic Floor: What Is It, Really?

[09:43]

• Dr. Janelle explains that everyone has pelvic floor muscles, but one in three women experience pelvic floor dysfunction.
• The pelvic floor supports the bladder, rectum, and uterus, stretching from the pubic bone to the tailbone.
• Symptoms of dysfunction include:
  • Bladder leakage or urgency (e.g., needing to pee often or pushing out urine)
  • Bowel dysfunction (e.g., frequent straining, pain, or bleeding during bowel movements)
  • Pain with vaginal exams, tampon insertion, intimacy, or even sitting
  • Lower back pain, which is often actually pelvic in origin

Quote:

"Our pelvic floor muscles is something that everyone has, all genders. But as women, one in three women have pelvic floor muscle dysfunction." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [09:43]

Memorable Analogy:

"Imagine your muscles contracting or tightening when they should be opening. And so that can lead to constipation as well." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [11:26]

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3. Recognizing & Reframing Symptoms

[18:55]

• Many women dismiss symptoms as “normal” or inevitable after childbirth or with aging.
• Dr. Janelle urges listeners not to write off:
  • Bladder control issues (especially post-partum)
  • Pain during urination, intimacy, or Pap smears
  • Pain that’s repetitive, not just a rare one-off
• She provides a guide to healthy bladder function:
  • Should be able to go 2-4 hours without urinating
  • No more than once per night
  • No pushing required to urinate and no pain

Quote:

"Bladder leakage after a baby or as we get older is common, but not normal." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [19:03]

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4. Action Steps: Who to See & What to Do

[22:12]

• Pelvic floor therapists (not just OBGYNs or primary-care doctors) are the specialists for these symptoms.
• You can often go directly to a pelvic floor therapist; a referral isn’t always required.
• Initial treatment is non-invasive: no surgery, no medication.

Quote:

"The primary provider that will help you overcome it non-invasively...is us pelvic floor physical therapists...You can come straight to us. You don't actually have to wait on that referral." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [22:28–23:02]

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5. Movement & Healing: Pilates, Yoga, and Muscle Tension

[23:16]

• Pilates is popular but can increase tension in the pelvic floor if you have symptoms or underlying dysfunction.
• For those with pelvic pain, Dr. Janelle recommends starting with “down training”: yoga, stretching, meditation, breathing exercises—before ramping up to strengthening routines like Pilates.

Quote:

"Pilates could potentially just add more tension...first work on down training...then, when your body is starting to open and lengthen and decrease pain, it may be more supportive to do Pilates at a later time." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [24:14]

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6. What Does Pelvic Floor Therapy Look Like?

[24:59]

• Dr. Janelle’s practice is virtual, empowering women to use tools like dilators and wands at home.
• Therapy focuses on education, tools, guided exercise, relaxation strategies, and nervous system regulation.
• The ultimate aim: reduce “fight or flight,” release tension, and restore function.

Memorable Analogy:

"Pelvic floor tension is like your hand being in a fist all day long...It actually weakens the muscles too." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [25:24]

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7. Healing Is Power: Final Reflections

[26:39]

• Tyra reiterates the need for these conversations, especially for Black women conditioned to “push through everything.”
• Empowerment lies in listening, learning, and questioning: “That is how we take our power back.”
• Dr. Janelle’s contact info and part two’s upcoming date are shared.

Quote:

"These topics aren't always easy to talk about. We've been taught to just push through everything, to dismiss our discomfort and sometimes even ignore our own bodies. But listening, learning and asking questions—that is how we take our power back." — Tyra [26:39]

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Notable Quotes & Moments by Timestamp

• On breaking silence:

  “We're taught to be strong, not to make a fuss or just to keep it pushing…Far too often, even doctors do not take our concerns seriously." — Tyra [03:02]

• On muscle confusion:

  "Imagine your muscles contracting or tightening when they should be opening…that can lead to constipation as well." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [11:26]

• On pelvic floor therapy accessibility:

  "You can come straight to us. You don't actually have to wait on that referral." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [23:02]

• On Pilates and tension:

  “Pilates could potentially just add more tension…first work on down training.” — Dr. Janelle Frederick [24:14]

• On muscle tension:

  "Pelvic floor tension is like your hand being in a fist all day long." — Dr. Janelle Frederick [25:24]

• On reclaiming health:

  “Listening, learning and asking questions—that is how we take our power back.” — Tyra [26:39]

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Key Timestamps

• [03:02]—Tyra’s framing of the episode’s purpose, addressing silence and dismissal
• [09:43]—Dr. Janelle explains pelvic floor muscles and dysfunction in detail
• [19:03]—Debunking “normalization” of bladder issues and other symptoms
• [22:12]—When and how to seek out pelvic floor therapy
• [23:16]—Discussion on the pros and cons of Pilates for pelvic health
• [24:59]—Breakdown of what virtual pelvic floor therapy looks like
• [26:39]—Closing empowerment message and preview of part two

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Tone & Takeaways

• The conversation is warm, authentic, empathetic, and rooted in Black women’s lived experiences.
• Both host and guest emphasize self-advocacy, de-stigmatizing conversation, and the belief that wellness is not only possible but a right.
• This is a vital listen for anyone ready to break the cycle of silence around reproductive and pelvic pain—especially Black women conditioned to downplay their symptoms.

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Coming Up

Stay tuned for part two (December 17, 2025), where Tyra and Dr. Janelle dive even deeper—how to interpret pain signals, the right questions to ask, and actionable steps to reclaim reproductive health.

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Transcript

[A]

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[B]

All.

[A]

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[B]

Thanks for having me. I'm so good. I can't believe I'm here.

[A]

I'm so glad that you're here.

[B]

I've been listening to your podcast on and off for years. Oh, my God. When I found out I was going to be in Los Angeles, something told me, ask to be on this podcast because you have nothing to lose. And so I'm super excited to talk about women's health, especially as black women and our pelvises and just all the things that we don't typically discuss. So thank you for allowing me to join you and get into the convo today.

[A]

Of course, of course. I'm so excited. And it just happened so perfectly because when you DM me, I was like, oh my gosh, my daddy gonna be in town. I want to be able to do this because we don't talk enough about health on my show. And I have thought about that because I don't really have a lot of guests, as you know, like, I don't have a lot of guests on the show. So I don't want to talk about things that I'm not an expert in, especially when it comes to our health. So I'm super excited that, well, I'm.

[B]

Definitely ready to talk about it. So I'm excited. And I'm sure that I hope that your audience and your community will found, will find value from this, especially because we can just carry so much in our bodies and not really have the words for it or not feel comfortable talking about it. So we're gonna get into it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I can't wait.

[A]

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[B]

Right?

[A]

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[B]

Yeah, That's a great question. So before we talk about pain, I think it's important to talk about what the pelvic floor is and also what pelvic floor muscle dysfunction is. So our pelvic floor muscles is something that everyone has, all genders, but as women, one in three women have pelvic floor muscle dysfunction.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[B]

And so what dysfunction of those pelvic floor muscles mean is that the muscles that support your pelvic organs, so your bladder, your rectum, and your uterus, it attaches from the front of your pubic bone and then attaches to the back at your tailbone. And so these are the muscles that control your bladder control or give you bladder control. So if you feel like you have a little bladder leakage, if you sneeze, cough, laugh or jump, or if you feel like you have to push your pee out, or if you have pain with urination, even just the frequent urination, because I have a lot of friends, when we go out every 30 minutes, they run into the bathroom.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And in my head, I'm like, girl, you need to see a pelvic floor therapist.

[A]

Me.

[B]

So that's one of the symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction. Another thing that's really common is, like, bowel dysfunction. So if you are frequently straining to poop, if you have pain, bleeding. When you have bowel movements, especially if you have a decent diet and you're not severely dehydrated, there are muscles that surround your anus. And so if those muscles don't know how to relax or if they're holding too much tension or if they're uncoordinated, meaning because I'm uncoordinated with.

[A]

I'm, like, uncoordinated. What?

[B]

Listen, I don't have the. I know I'm black, but I don't have the coordination for dancing, which means lack of coordination means you're moving when you shouldn't be moving, or you're clapping on the offbeat.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And so imagine your muscles contracting or tightening when they should be opening. And so that can lead to constipation as well.

[A]

What?

[B]

Yeah. So then. And lastly, you have the dysfunction around the vaginal opening. So dysfunction there could be you have pain with tampons, or when you go to your OB gyn, they're trying to do that Pap smear and they can't get it in, or you're flying off the table. You know, just a lot of pain and tension with those exams. Huge sign of pelvic floor muscle dysfunction. And then lastly, we have pain conditions. So pain with intimacy, pain with sitting, tailbone pain, even low back pain, a lot of times is driven from pelvic floor dysfunction.

[A]

So have lower back pain.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And the doctor doesn't know what it is. Well, I've been going to a physical therapist.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

About it.

[B]

Exactly. It could be pelvic floor. So. And here's the thing. I've worked with so many women that have low back pain, but as a pelvic floor therapist, they also have pelvic floor dysfunction. And I can't tell you how many times it's happened where I'm releasing their pelvic floor muscles and their back pain goes away. I haven't even looked at their back. Their back pain goes away because the bottom of the spine is essentially the pelvis.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So those are the muscles that help control the pelvis. And so with vagina rehab doctor, we focus a little bit more on, like, pain conditions and painful intimacy, but it's really the whole pelvic floor that supports so many of the things we do on a daily basis. And this podcast is important because if you have anxiety, unmanaged stress, history of trauma, those things can contribute to more tension in your body and pain. So we truly are one system, you know, so the healthier our minds are, our relationships are, the easier it is for us to remain relaxed, you know, around the pelvis and not have the pain. So that's pelvic floor dysfunction. It's all treatable. These are not conditions you have to live with forever. And so I'm sure we'll get into that later on. But that's essentially what pelvic floor dysfunction is. It may not always be painful, but it can turn into pain if it's not addressed.

[A]

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[B]

Great questions. I think three major things. One is any type of bladder abnormality. I think a lot of times, and especially after having a baby, okay, if you've had a baby, the likelihood of you having pelvic floor muscle dysfunction is pretty high. So instead of being like, oh well, I just gave birth, this is just, you know, how it's going to be. Or I'm getting older. That's. That's. That's not good. So if you have been. You're in the postpartum period and you feel like you can't control your bladder anymore, or you feel like you're always running to the bathroom, and this is for whether you've had a baby or not. Normal bladder function is this. You can go at least two to four hours without needing to pee. You can go throughout the whole night, no more than one time, getting up during the night to urinate.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

There should be no need to push urine out, and there should be no pain with urination. So if you're outside of those parameters, then usually there's something going on with the pelvic floor that's contributing to that bladder dysfunction.

[A]

What do you mean by push the.

[B]

Urine out the way you push poop out? There are people that have so much tension around their urethra because their pelvic floor muscles are holding on so tight even when they should be relaxing. And so if your muscles are too tight, then a lot of people feel like they need to push to get it all out, to get all the urine out.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[B]

And so that's a clear sign that the muscles are not functioning in a way that's supportive of your pelvic health. Okay. The other thing is just pain. Any type of pain down there that's regular. It's not just, oh, it happens once every two years. But it's something that is a pattern. So maybe every single time you sit for more than 20 minutes, you have shooting pains in your vagina or your tailbone always hurts when you're in church, or maybe you're being intimate and you have pain with insertion or thrusting. That one of the first things we need to clear is pelvic floor dysfunction. So a lot of people will assume, like, oh, maybe I'm in pain because let's say for tampons, I haven't been sexually active, so it's hurting because I'm just tight down there. But really, that should not be hurting, regardless of whether you're sexually active or not. So I would say those are some of the bigger signs that we typically ignore is the pain and the bladder dysfunction. Same for bowel. Bowels a little tricky because if you're not eating right, that could be the cause of dysfunction, even if your pelvic floor is normal. So I would say knock out the water first. Make sure you're hydrated. You're getting at least half of your body weight. In ounces. That's how many ounces of water you should be getting daily. And if you're not eating, you know, flaming hot Cheetos and fried chicken at every meal.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You don't have to be like a health nut, but just fairly mindful. Then bowel movement should not require a lot of straining. It shouldn't feel like it's painful, and you should feel like you're getting all of your. Your poop out. So those are some big signs that I think are ignored mainly because either we don't know that there is a solution for it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And we don't know who to talk to about it. A lot of people haven't even heard of the pelvic floor or heard of a pelvic floor physical therapist.

[A]

And that's what I was about to ask you. So they should go to a pelvic floor therapist. They shouldn't go to. Or not shouldn't. But try to find a specialist in this versus your. What is it called?

[B]

Your obgyn.

[A]

Yeah. Your primary care doctor versus going to your primary care doctor.

[B]

Yeah. So when. When the symptoms are specific and localized to the pelvis, the primary provider that will help you overcome it non invasively, meaning not needing a surgery, not needing a medication, is us pelvic floor physical therapists. Okay. And so you can either ask your primary care doctor for a referral or you can even go straight to a pelvic floor therapist. So now you can come straight to us. You don't actually have to wait on that referral.

[A]

Okay, cool.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay. Now what about. So there's a lot of people now. You just, you just brought up yoga. What about Pilates? Because Pilates is like so popular now. Everybody's doing it. I was thinking about doing Pilates. I was like, you know what? I need to get nimble.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I need to be nimble. So what about Pilates for. Does that help with pelvic floor dysfunction? Especially if people don't know that they have it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Or what?

[B]

So this is a great. The rave is crazy right now with Pilates. Like, it's all over.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

I even consider going myself, but I actually need to be doing more stretching. So, like, if you know that you have symptoms of pelvic pain, whether it's period pain, endo sexual pain, even low back pain, Pilates is okay. If you are looking to mainly strengthen. But those movements can tighten the pelvic floor even more. So if someone already has pelvic floor muscle tension, or let's just say that you're always under a lot of incentives, anxiety. You can go ahead and assume that your muscles are probably holding more tension. And so Pilates could potentially just add more tension because whenever your core contracts, your pelvic floor contracts as well. Okay. So if you're doing a lot of abdominal work, your pelvic floor is just squeezing even more, which could then just make it harder for you to feel less pain with the activities you want to enjoy, you know, So I would say be mindful. And it's not that you can never do Pilates. You. But I would first work on down training, so yoga, breathing, stretching, meditation. And then when you feel like your body is starting to open and lengthen and decrease pain, it may be more supportive to do Pilates at a later time when your body has let go of some of that unnecessary tension.

[A]

Okay, I have one more question. So earlier you mentioned when you have your patients come to you, you help release. What. What do you do?

[B]

Okay, that's a great question. So everything that we do is completely virtual.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So I worked in Chicago at Northwestern for two years.

[A]

Oh, wow.

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Before that, I was actually here in California doing traveling physical therapy. But currently what we do is we actually teach our patients how to use tools that help them to relax tight pelvic floor muscles. So one of the primary things that they want to do, we work with a lot of wives that are not able to have pain free intimacy with their husbands. Also just women, even if they're not married, let's say they want to get a pap smear or a vaginal ultrasound without pain and fear. So releasing can be done with tools called dilators, pelvic wands. We also guide on exercises, pelvic floor relaxation exercises, hip mobility stretches, spinal movements that open the spine, and a lot of breathing and nervous system work because a lot of us are in fight or flight, like all the time. And so helping them figure out how to calm their body and also get those muscles to open up, it's like pelvic floor tension is like your. Your hand being in a fist all day long. Imagine how that would, like, not just tighten everything, cause pain. It actually weakens the muscles too. So we don't do Pilates. We want you to unkiggle and, and not do Pilates for a little bit.

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For a little while. All right? Right.

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Yeah.

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