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Alcohol is one of the most common explanations given after betrayal. But does alcohol actually cause infidelity, or does it simply remove the inhibition that normally prevents certain behaviours?

In this episode, Luke explores the role alcohol can play in betrayal, why the explanation often feels incomplete to betrayed partners, and what conversations actually rebuild safety and trust.

Key Takeaways

Why alcohol lowers inhibition but doesn’t create values
The difference between explanation and responsibility
Why the alcohol explanation can leave betrayal feeling unresolved
The deeper questions couples need to explore after infidelity
How understanding and growth rebuild trust

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181. I Was Drunk… It Would Never Have Happened Sober. The Truth About Alcohol and Betrayal