
"Somebody Somewhere" star Jeff Hiller discusses his new memoir, Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty-Year Trail to Overnight Success.
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Alison Stewart
This is all of it on wnyc. I'm Alison Stewart. Jeff Hiller is immediately recognizable as the best friend and truth broker Joel on the Peabody Award winning show Somebody Somewhere. Now, Jeff Hiller loves memoirs. He has read a ton of them and when he was offered a chance to write one, he was ready. And he knew all the traps. He didn't want to go with a woe is me. He didn't want to do the fake out moment. Instead, his book is fully laugh out loud yes, lol moments and then some really beautiful insights about his relationships coming out to his parents and his own health issues. The book is titled Actress of a certain age. My 20 years trail to Overnight Success. He writes. This is a book about what it's like to be an actor who isn't famous. An actor who clawed, scraped and fought their way to the lower middle rung of the ladder. Jeff Heller has a sold out appearance tomorrow night at Symphony Space, but you can catch him at bookends in Ridgewood, New Jersey Wednesday night at. Welcome to the studio.
Jeff Hiller
Thank you. It's good to be here.
Alison Stewart
So you love celebrity memoirs. What do you love about them?
Jeff Hiller
Oh, I just love, you know, I love people's stories just in general, but when they're famous, it's even more fun. You know, they usually know other famous people and talk about them and I love it when they knew someone famous before they were famous. But if I'm being completely honest, what I was really looking for in those memoirs was hope that somehow I would get to a place where I could also have enough success to be able to write a celebrity memoir.
Alison Stewart
Well, as you were thinking about them, you have a list of do's and don'ts that you don't want in a celebrity memoir. What didn't you want to do?
Jeff Hiller
I didn't want to talk about my grandparents. Nobody cares about your grandparents. Everybody wants to talk about how their grandparents were in some country and then came here and you know, it's a beautiful story. But I just want to hear about when you won that big gold statue. Do you know what I'm saying?
Alison Stewart
And you also didn't want the like the surprise hit, like, who would have known that I liked a car Said Oprah, who gave everybody a car. You know, it's like one of those sort of like bait and switches.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah, that's a cliche that I tried to avoid. The ones that are like, I said no to that movie, and the movie turned out to be Titanic.
Alison Stewart
So what did you have in mind for your book? You had all these ideas like, I don't want it to be like this. I want it to be. How did you want it to be?
Jeff Hiller
I wanted it to be authentic, and I wanted it to be funny, and I think I landed on that. And I wanted to tell my real story and my honest story, but I also wanted lots of jokes.
Alison Stewart
Had you written anything before like this?
Jeff Hiller
Yeah, this is sort of cobbled together from several solo shows that I've done over the years. And so I Frankensteined them into a book.
Alison Stewart
Oh, that's really smart. So you know what works for an audience.
Jeff Hiller
Yes. I already heard where the laughs are, so I think at least if you have the same ears as a lot of people at Joe's Pub, I think you'll like it.
Alison Stewart
Each chapter of the book starts with, like, a celebrity quote.
Jeff Hiller
It's the title of a celebrity memoir.
Alison Stewart
Right. And then there's a little asterisk, and you have a little piece of information at the bottom. Like Alan Cumming.
Jeff Hiller
Exactly. When they became internationally famous.
Alison Stewart
Why was that important to you?
Jeff Hiller
Because that's what I always did when I read celebrity memoir. I would find out when they got their big break, and then I'd get out my calculator and compare it to my age, and it was always a disappointment. And that's kind of a lesson of the book and of my life, too, is that everybody's story is unique and special. And if you're comparing yourself all the time, you're gonna be despairing, and you start to lose hope and become a little cynical. And I don't want to live a life like that. So I'm. I'm allowing people to say, like, whoa, this old queen didn't get a break until 45 years old.
Alison Stewart
Well, you start with a midlife crisis. Actually, I do. It happened around the worst day was 2017. It involved a lot of cookies. All right, would you.
Jeff Hiller
I did have a rock bottom in which I was numbing myself with baked goods. Yes.
Alison Stewart
So what was going on that day that you decided to just. Just eat as many cookies as you could in one? And what kind of cookies?
Jeff Hiller
That's important. Oh, Tate's cookies from Bodegas. There were three different bags, unfortunately, so there was Multiple options. I do like a white chocolate macadamia nut and the chipless wonders. Have you ever had those? They're really good. It's just like a chocolate chip cookie without any chocolate chips. Anyway, I'm digressing here. The point is, I had turned 40, my mom was. Had just died and I was feeling like, oh my gosh, I live in a city that I can't afford. I am teaching improv and temping and I want to be an actor and I'm not. And I'm going to not feel that and instead taste this delicious sugar, butter, flour.
Alison Stewart
And when did you realize upon eating that last cookie, like, this isn't gonna do it. This isn't gonna do it for me.
Jeff Hiller
Oh, I felt it on the first cookie. But yeah, but that was sort of a. It was a bit of a wake up call. Of course. Like my reaction to it was to be unhealthy and be like, instead, I'll just get thin and that'll make me happy. Which is sort of ridiculous. But what are you gonna do? It was just how I was and eventually did lead to. To realizing I need to be grateful for life, just whatever life is.
Alison Stewart
You read some self help books that were helpful to you?
Jeff Hiller
Oh yeah.
Alison Stewart
Which ones were good? And then which ones were sort of.
Jeff Hiller
Like, meh, oh, we're gonna get going for the diss. I love my Pema children. I love my Brene Brown. I love my Eckhart Tolle or Tolle. There have been some that didn't do it for me, but they didn't register in my brain enough for me to call them out here on the radio.
Alison Stewart
What did you like about Brene Brown that's interesting?
Jeff Hiller
Well, I love what she says, which is you need to be vulnerable and you need to be honest about what's going on in your life. And that's sort of how I've lived my whole life. I mean, for instance, there is a typo on the COVID of my book.
Alison Stewart
I was gonna ask ya.
Jeff Hiller
And rather than deny it or pretend it's not there or get out a Sharpie and write an R on the side of every spine of my book. I'm just owning it. It says actress of a satane age on the COVID of my book.
Alison Stewart
It does. I'm showing them a satane age.
Jeff Hiller
It's a cetane age, which I have learned. Cetane is a product that keeps nitrogen in your fertilizer. So I think that. I don't know, there's a metaphor there somewhere.
Alison Stewart
It's so great that you pointed out on your Instagram. I mean, and it's funny because the responses, people are one, they love you for doing that. They respond like, I had a typo in my resume that went to wherever. My book's got a ton of typos. I had a bad pie. Oh, it's terrible. And it made me feel so good, like, that somebody else had a same situation and you have to just kind of own it.
Jeff Hiller
You just have to own it. And, you know, what are you gonna do? I can't change it at this point. Literally, if you order it, this is the book you will get. And so rather than, you know, having an environmental disaster where we repulp books, we're just gonna somehow be okay with it. That's what life is like, right? You just gotta shrug and keep going.
Alison Stewart
My guest is Jeff Hiller. The name of his book is Actress of a Certain Age. Can you describe where you grew up?
Jeff Hiller
Yes, I grew up in Texas in the 1980s, a wonderful place for a profoundly homosexual child to develop. And, yeah, and, you know, it was a little difficult, but I also had a really great mom, and she really helped me through what I would call sort of traumatic bullying as a child.
Alison Stewart
It was interesting because when you came out to your mom, you know, she'd already done a bunch of research, which was so sweet. Like, she just wanted to know more just in case this issue ever came up.
Jeff Hiller
She is a classic type a person, but also one who leads with compassion. And yes, she had talked to pastors at her church and read books and was really ready for me to say it. I just needed to say it. And finally I did. And she said, I know.
Alison Stewart
Your dad was a little quieter about it, but he wanted to just make sure. I think you write like he just wanted to make sure you had what you needed.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah.
Alison Stewart
What did that mean to you?
Jeff Hiller
You know, he's a man of very few words, always in life, not just around that subject. And he didn't have the language to say it's okay, but he showed it with his actions and just really made me feel welcomed and loved, even after coming out to him.
Alison Stewart
And then you mention to somebody, you get it, get all your energy up to say, I am also gay. And you write, he looked me in the eye and he said, yeah, girl, no duh.
Jeff Hiller
He was a waiter. I really thought. I thought I'd come out and all the gay people everywhere would embrace me and we would all, I don't know, join a utopian society. And, you know, it's not that way. It's more complicated than that.
Alison Stewart
It is more complicated than that. Here's a question. Did you feel that you've been playing straight the whole time?
Jeff Hiller
Oh, did I feel I had been? Yes. In retrospect, was I. No, no, no, no. The reviews were bad on my acting job of acting straight. Yeah.
Unknown
It was interesting, though, because. And you remind in the book you were a little bit of an undercover agent with straight guys and the way they talked about certain women.
Jeff Hiller
Oh, yeah.
Unknown
Would you like to give any advice to women who are dealing with a certain kind of straight man? And you got questions about them, you sort of think like, is this guy a good guy?
Jeff Hiller
He isn't. If you have that question, he isn't. Go, run away, find a nice guy that you think is a little bit boring and marry him.
Unknown
Based on what Jeff has heard, which you have to read about in the book, which we can't talk about, church was a big part of your life growing up.
Jeff Hiller
It was.
Unknown
And you say it was theatrical.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah. There was a lot of razzle dazzle in the Holy Spirit. Sure. I mean, you know, people wear robes and they go from speaking into singing. It's a thin line between that and a Liberace concert.
Unknown
Wait, tell me more about that.
Jeff Hiller
Well, I just loved all the smells and the bells. I loved lighting the candles, and I loved, you know, there is a performance of a pastor up in front of this congregation, which is just an audience. And, you know, my church had a big enough, you know, congregation that there were two services. So, you know, two show day, a matinee, and an evening. You know, I knew how to. I knew how to get to a church. I didn't know how to get to be an actor on stage. And so I sort of gravitated to that performance element of the church. I also was, like, in love with God and felt, you know, the spirit and things like that.
Alison Stewart
Yeah. You majored in theology? Yes.
Jeff Hiller
Yes. Huh.
Alison Stewart
How did you decide to major in theology and when did acting take over for you?
Jeff Hiller
Well, I majored in theater and theology, and in fact, in the end, I only got a minor in theology because I didn't finish Hebrew. But I just want to be honest with you all, but I. I thought I wanted to be a pastor, and I really felt called. That's the language that the church uses. And I wanted to, you know, help people. And I also wanted to be spiritual. But, you know, they wouldn't, at the time allow openly gay pastors to marry, whereas they would allow openly straight pastors to marry. And so I thought that was a little rude.
Alison Stewart
You also mentioned that you thought you really wanted to be able to help young people, but you were bad at it.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah, I was a social worker or, you know, I worked indirect care. I worked at a shelter for homeless youth. And I wanted to help. And I realized, you know, first of all, the system is kind of set up against people to be helped. But I also, I am bad with conflict. And, you know, just a teenage with a wonderful home life has a lot of conflict coursing through their system. So imagine if you'd been kicked out of your house by your parents or if you had to run away or if you had a drug or alcohol addiction. And so I wasn't really great at holding a case plan firm. And yeah, it's best that I left.
Alison Stewart
But you still have your belief in God.
Jeff Hiller
I do, yeah. Oh, I do. And I definitely believe in spirituality and connection and community and compassion. And all of those are the things that I learned from my church community growing up. I'm not sure that I necessarily believe in the institutionalized church.
Alison Stewart
My guest is Jeff Hiller. The name of his book is Actress of a certain age. My 20 year trail to Overnight Success. All right, you decide you're gonna be an actor, you're gonna move to New York. You have to find an apartment. After all of the apartment searching you do, what did you learn about New York? What did searching for an apartment teach you about New York?
Jeff Hiller
Well, practically pay for the broker. Impractically, you really gotta want to live here. And that's why New Yorkers are cool people, because they want to live here and they do all the work to make it happen, which is impressive. And I like you. Even if you live in New Jersey. And listen to this. Please come out to Ridgewood.
Alison Stewart
Come to Ridgewood, New Jersey to see him on Wednesday night at 6pm it's interesting because you describe, like, you think you've got this nailed. You've got like, I think it's $3,000 in your sock. Like you're gonna go to an open house.
Jeff Hiller
I had $1,500 in each shoe in.
Alison Stewart
Case they got one of them.
Jeff Hiller
Exactly.
Alison Stewart
Wouldn't look at the other one. But when you got there, you literally found out there wasn't enough money.
Jeff Hiller
No. And everyone else was there offering even more money. And I went to an open house in the west village that over 200 people showed up for a 250 square foot studio apartment with no closet.
Alison Stewart
So where was your first apartment?
Jeff Hiller
It was in Harlem on 142nd street and St. Nicholas.
Alison Stewart
And what was living up there like?
Jeff Hiller
It was great. It was. I think it's significantly more gentrified now. Yes. Yeah. And there was at one point a man who said, it wasn't this hot till you came up here. And I was like, oh, yeah, this summer. And of course, he was actually talking about law enforcement. But I was young. I was young and naive. I had to have someone explain that to me.
Alison Stewart
Well, in describing the book, you're living up in Harlem and you and your friend decide to have sort of a quintessential New York experience. You're gonna wait in line for Shakespeare in the Park. This starts at like, three in the morning.
Jeff Hiller
Yes.
Alison Stewart
You decide you're gonna wait in line.
Jeff Hiller
That was the aim. Yeah.
Alison Stewart
You encounter everything possible that can happen to somebody in New York.
Jeff Hiller
I surely did. I saw a group of wild dogs. I know that doesn't make sense, but there was a group of wild dogs. People are like, that's not true. I swear to you, my friend Meredith will back me up. Two men being held up by gunpoint. And I very stupidly walked between the two men and the gun just hodey do do. We told a police officer downstairs and he went, okay. Then we got to the line at 3 in the morning, and we were 180th in line. And we found out there was another line on the east side of the park that was also waiting. And we just barely got in to see Meryl Streep and Kevin Kline in the Seagull in Shakespeare in the Park. Even though that was Chekhov.
Alison Stewart
That whole experience. Did that ever make you wanna leave New York? Or did it make you wanna stay even more?
Jeff Hiller
Maybe, like, mid experience, I was a little like, maybe I should get out of here. But once it happened, it was like, I did that. I did that, and I'm doing this, and it made me want to stay all the more. I mean, I'm still here 25 years later.
Alison Stewart
You describe what it was like to.
Unknown
Audition as an actor in New York.
Alison Stewart
And you describe this one room, this.
Unknown
Sort of this evil audition room.
Alison Stewart
And you said that most people. We have a lot of actors who listen, they might actually recognize it. Describe this audition room for us.
Jeff Hiller
I don't. I haven't been to it post pandemic, so maybe it's changed. But there was. At the Roundabout Theater Company, they have this audition room that's also a rehearsal studio where the waiting room is outside, but the bathrooms are inside. And so you have to go into Audition and you can't go to the bathroom first. And I was having a moment of, you know, human distress and I had to ask Oscar winning director Sam Mendes if I could go to the bathroom in the middle of my audition. And after I did, I could hear him very clearly talking and realized, oh my God, he heard everything I did in here. Happy Pride. Wnyc.
Unknown
I'm going to read a piece of advice from your book, which is really, again, that part where it's very funny and then like really heartfelt, it says, so if you wanted an advice on how to get an agent, mine would be this. Don't worry about the agent. The agent will come. Worry about the performing. Find places to act. Make a web series with your friends, take acting classes and perfect, perfect your craft. Try standup or improv. And most of all, do not compare yourself with anyone else. Even people who you've written memoirs, Especially those people. There isn't one way to get an agent or become a full time performer. There are 1 million ways. A career is built on longevity, not on making the top 30 comics under 30 lists. We aren't models, dancers, or professional athletes. There isn't an expiration date on performance.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah.
Unknown
How long did it take you to reach that point? Cause I know there are people who haven't reached that point yet.
Jeff Hiller
Oh, yeah. I mean, you know, do as I say, not as I do. I think there was a time when I was so focused on results instead of on process, and I'm still sometimes that way. But I also really take moments to think like, oh my gosh, okay, I auditioned today and I didn't book it, but I really loved what I did in the audition, so I'm gonna just enjoy that. And I, and I do, I enjoy auditioning, unlike most actors.
Alison Stewart
Oh, that's interesting.
Jeff Hiller
Yeah. And I think that that's true for other people too. People who are artists, who aren't professional artists. You get to, if you want to paint, you can paint. If you want to perform, all you need is, you know, the mirror. And I think a lot of times we think, oh, we're not allowed to do that because I don't have an agent or I don't have a gallery, I don't have a, whatever, a radio show at 1 in New York City. But you can talk to anybody and be a great interviewer.
Alison Stewart
What do you consider?
Jeff Hiller
Did that get personal?
Alison Stewart
That got a little personal. What do you think? What do you consider your big break? When you think, sit back and you think, yeah, this was my big break.
Jeff Hiller
Oh, somebody somewhere. Without a doubt. Yeah. Because even though I had done a lot before then, it's the first time I've been able to not have to temp or teach improv or do anything else. And also it's the first time that I've really felt people in the audience in great numbers connected to it and love it. I mean, I can walk down the street just fine, but every once in a while, somebody will stop me and say, your show meant so much to me. And that feels like a real accomplishment that I'm proud of.
Alison Stewart
In your book, there's a moment where you get to meet Tony nominee Jon Groff.
Jeff Hiller
Tony winner. I mean, not last night, but he has won.
Alison Stewart
Yeah. Tony winner John Groff. What did it mean to you to meet somebody like that at that point in your life?
Jeff Hiller
Well, I should. The story is a little deeper than that, unfortunately. I did drool mustard down my shirt while I was meeting him. So it was very exciting to meet him, but it was also mildly or profoundly humiliating.
Alison Stewart
The name of the book is Actress of a certain age. My 20 something year trail to overnight success. Actors of a Certain Age. You're reading it from the side.
Jeff Hiller
Exactly.
Alison Stewart
Jeff, thank you for being with us and thanks for writing this book. It comes out tomorrow. We really appreciate you being here.
Jeff Hiller
Thank you for having me.
Alison Stewart
And that is all of it for today. I'm Alison Stewart. I appreciate you listening and I appreciate you. I will meet you back here tomorrow.
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All Of It Podcast Summary: Jeff Hiller's New Memoir 'Actress of a Certain Age'
Podcast Information
[00:31] Alison Stewart:
Alison Stewart welcomes Jeff Hiller, known as the best friend and truth broker Joel from the Peabody Award-winning show Somebody Somewhere. She introduces his memoir, titled Actress of a Certain Age: My 20-Year Trail to Overnight Success. Jeff emphasizes that his memoir diverges from typical celebrity narratives by focusing on humor and authentic insights rather than melodrama or clichés.
Jeff Hiller:
Jeff shares his passion for memoirs, particularly those of famous individuals, highlighting his desire to write a memoir that is both laugh-out-loud funny and deeply honest about his personal experiences, including coming out to his parents and facing health issues.
[02:02] Alison Stewart:
Alison probes into Jeff's approach to writing his memoir, specifically what he chose to exclude to maintain authenticity.
Jeff Hiller:
Jeff explains his deliberate avoidance of common memoir tropes, such as overemphasizing grandparents' histories or using gimmicky anecdotes like rejecting a movie that becomes a blockbuster hit (e.g., Titanic). Instead, he aimed to keep the focus on his personal journey and achievements, stating, “I just want to hear about when you won that big gold statue” ([02:09]).
[02:53] Jeff Hiller:
He further elaborates on his intention to create a memoir that is genuine and humorous, ensuring that each chapter starts with the title of a celebrity memoir and includes a relevant tidbit about the celebrity’s rise to fame. This practice underscores the uniqueness of individual journeys and discourages detrimental comparisons.
Jeff Hiller:
“It’s kind of a lesson of the book and of my life, too, that everybody's story is unique and special. And if you're comparing yourself all the time, you're gonna be despairing, and you start to lose hope and become a little cynical” ([03:51]).
[04:31] Alison Stewart:
Alison brings up a pivotal moment in Jeff's life involving a midlife crisis triggered by personal and professional struggles.
Jeff Hiller:
Jeff recounts a low point in 2017, marked by emotional distress and unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as overeating cookies. He describes this moment as a wake-up call that ultimately led him to develop a sense of gratitude and resilience.
[06:22] Jeff Hiller:
He discusses how self-help books played a crucial role in his recovery, citing authors like Pema Chödrön, Brené Brown, and Eckhart Tolle as instrumental in fostering vulnerability and honesty in his life.
[07:10] Jeff Hiller:
“When I realized I needed to be grateful for life, just whatever life is” ([06:17]), encapsulating his journey towards embracing gratitude and moving forward.
[08:22] Alison Stewart:
Alison transitions to Jeff's upbringing in Texas, exploring his experiences as a profoundly homosexual child in the 1980s.
Jeff Hiller:
He shares insights into his supportive relationship with his mother, who was proactive and compassionate during his coming out process, and his more reserved father, who expressed his acceptance through actions rather than words.
[09:07] Jeff Hiller:
He reflects on the complexities of acceptance within the LGBTQ+ community and society at large, illustrating that relationships and personal acceptance are multifaceted.
[14:22] Alison Stewart:
The conversation shifts to Jeff’s decision to pursue acting in New York City, highlighting the challenges of apartment hunting.
Jeff Hiller:
He humorously describes the competitive and financially demanding nature of securing an apartment in NYC, emphasizing the persistence and passion required to thrive in the city. “And I like you. Even if you live in New Jersey” ([14:47]).
[15:24] Jeff Hiller:
Jeff shares anecdotes about his early struggles, including attending an overcrowded open house and eventually finding his first apartment in Harlem. He nostalgically recalls the vibrant and now more gentrified Harlem neighborhood, illustrating his deep connection to the city.
[17:55] Alison Stewart:
Alison asks Jeff to describe a particularly memorable audition experience.
Jeff Hiller:
He narrates a humorous and slightly embarrassing encounter during an audition at the Roundabout Theater Company, where he had to ask director Sam Mendes for bathroom access mid-audition. This story underscores the unpredictability and personal nature of acting careers.
[18:56] Alison Stewart:
Alison references a piece of advice from Jeff’s book about focusing on performance rather than chasing agents.
Jeff Hiller:
Jeff advises aspiring actors to prioritize honing their craft through various avenues like acting classes, web series, and improvisation, rather than fixating solely on securing representation. He emphasizes the importance of longevity and personal fulfillment over transient success: “A career is built on longevity, not on making the top 30 comics under 30 lists” ([19:11]).
[20:54] Alison Stewart:
Alison inquires about Jeff's perspective on his own success and milestones.
Jeff Hiller:
Jeff identifies his role in Somebody Somewhere as his true breakthrough, highlighting the moment he realized his work was making a meaningful impact on audiences. He cherishes the connections he forms with listeners who express how his performances have influenced their lives.
[21:42] Alison Stewart:
Alison mentions an encounter Jeff describes in his book with Tony nominee Jon Groff.
Jeff Hiller:
He shares the humorous and humbling experience of meeting Jon Groff, which, despite the embarrassment, signifies an important moment in his journey and the realities of public interactions.
[22:24] Alison Stewart:
Alison wraps up the conversation by reiterating the book’s title and release details, expressing gratitude for Jeff’s participation.
Jeff Hiller:
He thanks Alison for having him on the show, emphasizing his excitement about the book's release.
Authenticity Over Clichés: Jeff Hiller’s memoir stands out by avoiding typical celebrity memoir tropes, focusing instead on genuine, humorous, and heartfelt storytelling.
Personal Struggles Foster Resilience: Jeff’s candid discussion about his midlife crisis and coping mechanisms highlights the importance of vulnerability and self-acceptance in personal growth.
Embracing Unique Journeys: The memoir underscores that each individual's path to success is unique, discouraging harmful comparisons and promoting self-compassion.
Focus on Craft: Jeff advocates for dedicating energy to developing one’s skills and passion projects rather than solely pursuing external validation or traditional markers of success.
Community and Connection: Throughout his journey, Jeff emphasizes the significance of community, whether through supportive family relationships or meaningful interactions with his audience.
Notable Quotes
Jeff Hiller on Authenticity:
“Everybody's story is unique and special. And if you're comparing yourself all the time, you're gonna be despairing, and you start to lose hope and become a little cynical.” ([03:51])
Jeff Hiller on Success:
“A career is built on longevity, not on making the top 30 comics under 30 lists.” ([19:47])
Jeff Hiller on Embracing Flaws:
“You just have to own it. And, you know, what are you gonna do? I can't change it at this point.” ([07:22])
Conclusion
Jeff Hiller's Actress of a Certain Age: My 20-Year Trail to Overnight Success offers a refreshing and honest exploration of an actor’s journey through the competitive landscape of New York City. By blending humor with poignant reflections, Jeff provides valuable insights into personal resilience, the importance of authenticity, and the unique paths individuals navigate toward their definitions of success. This episode of All Of It serves as an inspiring conversation for anyone interested in the intersections of culture, personal growth, and the arts.