All Of It: 'Patrice' Documentary Follows One Jersey Couple's Fight for Nuptial Rights

Host: Alison Stewart
Episode Release Date: December 26, 2024
Streaming Platform: Hulu
Nomination: Independent Spirit Award for Best Documentary Director

Introduction to 'Patrice'

In this heartfelt episode of All Of It, Alison Stewart delves into the compelling world of independent cinema by spotlighting the documentary 'Patrice'. The film chronicles the lives of Patrice Jeter and her longtime partner Gary, both in their 50s and navigating the complexities of relationships and disability rights in New Jersey.

Meet Patrice Jeter and Gary

Patrice Jeter is introduced as a multifaceted individual—a dedicated school crossing guard, a stylish dresser, a train enthusiast, figure skater, girlfriend, and a passionate advocate for disability rights (00:16). Her partner, Gary, who has cerebral palsy, is affectionately described by Patrice as "a big magnet for people" and "hands down the most famous cross guard in Hamilton Township," likening her popularity to that of Madonna (01:08).

The film portrays their daily lives, highlighting their deep bond as they share meals, go swimming, and bring joy to each other despite living in separate towns approximately 20 minutes apart. Their profound love leads them to dream of marriage, a decision fraught with the risk of losing essential disability benefits like Social Security and Medicaid.

Behind the Scenes: Conversation with the Creators

Alison Stewart sits down with Ted Passin, the writer and producer, and Patrice Jeter, who also co-wrote the film, to explore the origins and development of 'Patrice'.

Ted Passin shares, "The first time I met Patrice, I realized that she was awesome immediately... We discovered that Patrisse is extremely comfortable on camera, which made the collaboration enjoyable and natural" (02:53). The catalyst for the film was Gary's proposal to Patrice, unaware of the implications it would have on their benefits.

Patrice Jeter reflects on her desire to encapsulate her life's stories, stating, "I wanted to put something with all aspects of my life from growing up... I wanted to incorporate those stories in the movie because one day, I'm not going to be here to tell them to people" (04:10). Her intention was to create a comprehensive narrative that includes her mother's perspective, showcasing the events shaping her identity.

Creative Storytelling and Visuals

The documentary employs a unique storytelling technique, featuring recreations of Patrice's life with young actors portraying various roles, including Patrice herself at different ages. Gary explains, "Sometimes they're playing her mom, sometimes they're playing a teacher... Patrice plays herself at various ages as well" (05:25).

Ted Passin elaborates on the creative choices: "We wanted to include Patrice's backstory and her artwork... Patrisse should probably draw the world. It should just be her design" (05:44). By integrating Patrice's artistic vision and utilizing children to portray other characters, the film balances light-heartedness with poignant commentary on systemic challenges.

Themes of Love and Systemic Barriers

A central theme of 'Patrice' is the struggle against a system that hinders personal relationships. Ted Passin emphasizes, "This is people trying to overcome a system that was not built with them in mind... how do they, as a team, do the best they can given the unfair circumstances" (10:30). The documentary challenges traditional narratives in disability cinema by focusing not on overcoming disability but on battling systemic injustices.

Personal Anecdotes and Emotional Depth

Clips from the film reveal intimate moments, such as Gary expressing his frustration about potentially losing benefits if they marry:

Gary (12:15): "For me, personally, I have several palsy. I was born with the Medicare and Medicaid thing. I have to have it Right. I mean, we'd never be able to pay for the bills."

Patrice (12:30): "Well, they don't care. It's just simple as that."

These candid exchanges highlight the emotional toll of navigating love within restrictive legal frameworks.

Misconceptions About Disability

Patrice Jeter addresses common misunderstandings, stating, "One of the major misconceptions is it's not as easy as folks think it is... I'm constantly on this hamster wheel that you can't seem to get off of or get ahead" (13:21). The film sheds light on the daily struggles faced by individuals with disabilities, emphasizing the continuous effort required to maintain financial stability.

Impact and Advocacy

Ted Passin hopes that 'Patrice' will contribute to legislative changes, noting, "I think Patrice and Gary have what everybody wants to find... The idea that these two people who love each other so much would be prevented from getting married... is just maddening" (09:47).

Patrice echoes this sentiment, expressing her aspiration for the film to "help bring change... so that all of my friends will be able to get married and go to everybody's wedding and have a good time" (15:06).

Conclusion

Alison Stewart concludes the episode by emphasizing the significance of 'Patrice' in the landscape of independent film and disability advocacy. She hints at upcoming discussions on other independent films, promising listeners a continued exploration of diverse cultural narratives.

'Patrice' is now available for streaming on Hulu, offering audiences a profound look into the lives of two individuals striving for love and recognition within a system that often overlooks their humanity.

Key Quotes and Timestamps

• Patrice Jeter (00:42): "I am a totally cool person with a disability who could do most anything with the exception of bungee jumping, pyro technics and uber dangerous stunts..."

• Gary (01:11): "She is hands down the most famous cross guard in Hamilton Township. She might as well be Madonna."

• Patrice Jeter (04:10): "I wanted to put something with all aspects of my life from growing up... I wanted to incorporate those stories in the movie..."

• Ted Passin (10:30): "This is people trying to overcome a system that was not built with them in mind... how do they, as a team, do the best they can given the unfair circumstances..."

• Gary (12:15): "For me, personally, I have several palsy. I was born with the Medicare and Medicaid thing..."

• Patrice Jeter (13:21): "One of the major misconceptions is it's not as easy as folks think it is... I'm constantly on this hamster wheel..."

• Patrice Jeter (15:06): "I'm hoping that this movie will help bring change... so that all of my friends will be able to get married and go to everybody's wedding and have a good time."

About 'All Of It'

All Of It is a WNYC show dedicated to exploring culture in all its facets. Hosted by Alison Stewart, the show engages creators, thinkers, and community members to discuss the "what and why" behind their work, fostering a diverse and passionate community centered around cultural conversations.

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