I just returned from an unforgettable month in Queenstown, New Zealand, which was top of my bucket list as a lifelong Tolkien fan, and my wife and I even did a vow renewal at Hobbiton. Beyond the scenery, the trip highlighted some powerful contrasts with life and business in the US, especially around community, culture, and personal well-being.

After years of building a "dream career"—hosting 22 international retreats, running multiple ventures, and chasing “success”—I’ve learned some hard lessons about burnout, intentionality, and redefining what matters.

3 Key Takeaways:

Intentionality over Hustle: Success fueled by constant accomplishment and productivity isn’t sustainable or healthy. Prioritize what brings real meaning, not just external validation.
Nervous System Matters: The environment and pace of life in New Zealand helped me realize what a regulated, safe nervous system actually feels like. Find spaces where you can unmask and genuinely recharge.
Redefine Success: Stepping back can be the bravest move. Protect your capacity and focus on what truly aligns with your values—even if that means fewer events, more rest, and more saying no.

It's a myth that we have to grind ourselves down to be worthy. Life is short.

*I mentioned in this episode that during this trip, I got devastating news that one of my best friends has stage 4 brain cancer. I started a GoFundMe to help support him and his wife. If you would like to know how to contribute, you can use this link: gofundme.com/f/hes-the-guy-who-never-asks-for-help-im-asking-for-him

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