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Covering the Diddy trial.
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Welcome everyone, to Amy Robot and TJ Holmes present. Aubrey o' Day covering the Diddy trial. My partner, TJ Holmes with me, and we're looking at Aubrey o' Day. And there is so much to talk about with Jane Diddy's ex girlfriend, the pseudonym Jane, on the stand for the last couple of days and now facing cross examination. But my goodness, we heard a lot from Jane, a ton.
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So her testimony has been so difficult for me. And I've been, you know, Amy, I texted you a bit this weekend, back and forth, like, I'm having a hard time with this. And this was the same feeling that I got in the very beginning when all of this started. Is there, there's this, I kind of, I think there's a generational thing that's happening. The older women understand the psychology of what's going on in this trial much better than the young generations. There's racial elements that are occurring. Certain communities understand different behaviors differently. And I have such a diverse group of everything around me that I hear conflicting ideas and understandings of what is going on so much that I sit back with myself and then I end up sending you a text in the middle of the night. Like, how do we approach this as women. But, but we're pro women and, but, but how do we say these hard things and kind of what it gets down to her. I mean, the things she's established for the prosecution, we should get out of the way. Violence, force, coercion. There are lots of moving escorts across lines. She listed a number of escorts, a number of different places that they went. Horrible stories like vomiting during the freak offs after the second guy had been with her. And then Puffy coming in and saying, oh, that's a good thing. That means you'll be nice and primed to get number three. He's waiting outside. Like things like that that are very disturbing all sit on your heart. And she kind of has the same, that same line of thinking, which is that like defaulting to sex in order to get his attention. If I Don't this, he won't. This, period, everybody said it, that's the way to get this man to pay attention to you and to want to stay with you. And if you don't do what he wants, then he goes somewhere else. And so they always end up doing that. There's always the drop of the drug. It's not that I don't believe women, but it's her. Details are hard for me to process, and I'm trying to stay open and lead with compassion even as I work through my own doubts. And my own doubts start around this area. She's with him when Cassie's lawsuit drops. This is a more recent quote, girlfriend, like I said, I don't think a girlfriend should be in a title for any of these women. You have to care about somebody with that title. So this is a girl for him. But he's there. When Cassie's case drops. She recalls seeing it and feeling like she's reading her own tell all book. Basically, she recognizes the behavior. She recognizes the feelings. She gets to see what the words are in black and white, what they're called, what the legal words are. Sex trafficking. It's a RICO organization. There's rape, there's this, there's all. And so she's realizing, I'm not even special. This wasn't something he was just doing with me. He was doing it with everybody. All these behaviors I do. I thought that was our thing. It's not. She's recognizing and seeing all of this. Then all of a sudden, he's blowing her up. For the first time, we get to hear Puff is going after somebody else, because we know he never does that, does he? It's always them trying to get his attention. But this time he needs hers. He needs her to defend him. He needs her to say, hey, it's mutual. He needs her to go out there and tell the world we did this. She also notices that she can hear him writing on a. Like a blackboard. She remembers he would always strategize his. His days out and plan things. So she feels like he's kind of strategizing. She doesn't know she's being taped, but he's taping the conversations and he's kind of basically egging her on to say, this was complicit. You wanted this. We both wanted this. And she's kind of like, I don't know. I'm overwhelmed. I don't. You know, she's just overwhelmed at this point, Right? So they're bickering back and forth it's getting into dicey territory. And then there's this conversation of, okay, then let's be clear. Let's not have any more, like, uncertain lines. What's your price? What is it that you want? And she says she wants 150 per year, 450 for the three that she served. And then two years of her house being handled, she was able to say what her house.
Aubrey O'Day
Right. So that's. That's difficult when you know that and you're hearing it in her own words. You're hearing taped recordings, as you pointed out, text messages between the two, where she seems to clearly not only be willing to do all of these things, but some court reporters described her voice as giddy in those recordings.
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Yeah. Yes. And at that point, I'm starting to realize I might not only be looking at a victim, I might be looking at someone who's learned to survive by manipulating others as well. And you can be both. You can be both. And that's the part that's hard to say as a woman that I was trying to say to you this weekend. I think you can be both. If there. If they're.
TJ Holmes
If.
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If a victim. If there's always psychological reasons as to why somebody continues to. To be a victim, and you can't ever really get down to the bottom of it. I think for me, where I would have to start as a woman holding another woman accountable is when they have been given enough information to recognize it. Because when you recognize something, you can decide potentially what happens next. And that's when you can kind of get a little bit back on your power. You can start getting a bit of your power back. And there has to be some point that we do acknowledge what our behavior is. And there has to be some point where we hold ourselves accountable. We don't get to be because we are women or because there's power imbalances or because somebody has literally got the money and of. Of all men and is a king and a God and whatever else he wants to call himself. At the end of the day, that you. There still has to be a point where everybody in this lifetime has to hold themselves accountable and acknowledge their behavior. And it doesn't mean that they're not a victim at all either. It's not stripping that away, but that has to exist.
TJ Holmes
But it sounds like you're hearing something in her testimony over the past several days that you are now in your mind. So that means maybe in jurors minds.
Host
There'S some accountability, definitely in jurors minds.
TJ Holmes
That she should have taken then where. I mean, it's the largest conversation in society we can have, but it's also an important one in that courtroom. But where are we. Where do you find accountability in her testimony to where she had opportunities that you think the jury might see as well?
Host
Okay. And then keep. Remember that very end, because you know how I wander and I want to talk about the jury at the end of this for a second because we're getting a lot more information about the jury now. And it's a. We'll save it for a podcast. But let's dive into it a tiny bit. You asked me where I see the opportunities if I'm in the jury. After she says what her price is, he says, you. They go back and forth. He threatens to show her baby daddy the tapes of her in these videos, in the. In the freak offs or the. They were calling it hotel parties or hotel nights. That's key. Grab a hold of that piece. And then they end the call with her saying she wants to kill herself. Nobody will ever love her. Then he says, call kk. She handles everything. Good old co conspirator, having asked kk, allegedly. So KK responds with, hey, babe, period. And then it goes on to tell her, you guys always have your issues. Things always end up working out. We always find ourselves back here. You just need to take a break. So she finds herself at a point where there's a break. She gets her only fans popping off. She gets invited to be sent out to Vegas. She gets invited to go out, date or go be seen, whatever. There's money, there's opportunity, there's. There's things happening there. She gets brought back to a room where there's a famous rapper, famous people, famous girlfriends. They were holding back from the names being displayed. But basically she realizes, oh, wow, there's a freak off happening in this room right now with Anton. He's one of my regulars over with Puff. I just think that part's important because this is happening with a whole lot of rappers apparently. And they may be all using the same people because she recognized Anton. Then she goes through that whole phase and then Diddy hits her up one day, missing that smile. There's opportunities through all of this now, right, because she's. And still he's paying for her place and all of that. But she's getting her income on by doing only fans. She's getting paid by doing other potential escorting or whatever we want to call it gig. And then her and Diddy start talking. She starts fighting back. They have conversations and she ends up back in freak offs again. So she's now seeing Cassie Suit. She understands the piece that she didn't ever experience was the fighting. She even asked him about it. He says, Cassie threw hands a lot, she was a fighter. So she comes back, freak off start occurring. She's back up in them. March hits. Homeland Security comes knocking. Diddy pays for her to have attorneys. All of these are the open areas. You're asking me about tj, shit. Homeland Security sitting in front of you at this point? You're safe, girl. When I sat with Homeland Security, I was like, am I safe? And they told me the level of protection that I'm at, at this game, at this stage, in this time of at this point, and, and how visible I make myself. They're like, you make yourself pretty visible. It'd be hard to get rid of you. People would be wondering where the you're at. You know, you can ask them these types of questions. These are all moments, opportunities. Okay? So then even after Homeland Security comes, he pays for her attorney. Anton comes back. Good old Anton that runs around with all the rappers and the freak offs. Apparently many of them are doing it. Good old Anton comes back and extorts her with one of the videos that was taken on his phone. A media company ends up buying that video and it never gets seen again. I'd like to know what media company that was. Hmm. Let's put the Internet to work. Then June comes and that's when the knockdown fight happens. That's when the abuse comes her way. We heard a lot of horrific abuse. So much abuse that it goes through the night to the next morning. When someone's arriving for a freak off, she has to go get herself cute comes out. He gives her the pill and he looks her dead in her eyes and says, now this is now you're being coerced. Is this coercion to you? And then she goes into the freak off and starts performing for the freak off, you know.
TJ Holmes
Can I ask you, what did you make of you? You remember Diddy's apology video?
Host
Yeah, that's coming. So my next part, these little moments where you're saying, where's her opportunities? So that whole freak off ends in a really bad way. He sends 12 to 15,000 to pay for the fucked up Airbnb, pay for Anton and whatever else. Then July comes, another freak off. Huff gets bored. He this time has a black bottle of Liquid Molly that he sprays in her mouth. Let's all just remember that in case it ever gets Brought up in a rainy day in the future. A black bottle spray in your mouth. It's the new it drug that everyone's doing. You've never had anything like it. She said she had the best sex of her life. She's never performed better than when she got that spray out of the black bottle. Okay, so then she, she's going off puffs, looking bored. At one point, during a freak off she wants to bring, she says she misses Paul. They call Paul. Paul can be there in a couple days. Paul comes, they get involved in these freak offs. August is the last time she sees him. But she gets ready to go see him again. And by the way, the Cassie tape during this time has dropped. She's there when they're plotting, how do we respond to this? She's even shown a video of one of the versions of his apology and thinks her responses. And they tried to stop her at every angle. The defense did. Her response is it doesn't feel sincere. Which was what we all got from the version we saw. She saw a different version, not even the one that we saw. But there were takes, tj, There were multiple takes. And not that like, you know, if you're a smart guy and you got a lot of rich lawyers around you, you probably should do a few takes. But truly, if you're honestly, sincerely sorry, do you do a few takes? And then she was asked which one is the. Which is the best one? Does this look good to you? That's a choice to stay there. And then the last time she sees him is in August. And then she gets the drugs ready and all the products ready. And she's about to get on the plane to get to New York because they're gonna have another fun time in New York. And he accidentally goes and walks into the hotel and gets indicted. The feds grab him. That's the video we all saw. She was snatched up. And then she then says even after that point, she's. Her house is still being paid by him. Her lawyers, two different lawyers are being paid by him. And she was working with the defense in the very beginning and meeting with them willingly until through some therapy, she decided that she was going to reclaim herself and reclaim herself as a woman and stand up for herself. And now she is testifying.
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I'm curious though, with all of that, Aubrey, and she's fully admitted this, we're hearing the audio recordings, we're seeing the text in real time where she does say she's just wanting to be with him and she doesn't wanna go through all of these freak offs and the pain and all of these things she's feeling. So we're seeing all of that. But then knowing the story I just laid out and her being very upfront and transparent about it, doesn't that make the atrocities she does testify to all the more credible?
Host
Well, let's see how much more she didn't say today when she gets cross examined. Because with all of the details on the table, listen, it started to get so messy for me in my head as I was really watching and mind you, I wasn't just watching the breakdowns from really established journalists. I was going all the way to the streets and listening to what people were just saying after observing it in court for themselves. When I went across the board and started really assessing it from every angle, everybody was so divided on her, so divided. And so for me, I really had to sit back and think like I feel there were moments that she, she had outs and I don't know how to say that and still be pro woman and, and not even, and not still. I think the way to do it is to say I am looking at a victim 100%. I'm also looking at a victim that potentially learned how to manipulate people to get things that she wanted as well. Diddy was manipulating, she was manipulating. Is there a power imbalance and is there all kinds of things psychologically that are out of her favor? Absolutely. But she, she, by her own admission, at the very end, she says, you know, that she wishes him well and she hopes that he's happy.
Aubrey O'Day
I mean, she says she still loves.
Host
Him and, and I mean it felt like she'll give him a call if he gets off is what it was giving me. I don't know.
Aubrey O'Day
Yeah, Yeah. I mean, I think we felt the same way. And that was a hard thing to get our heads around. To know that she could speak to these unthinkable atrocities. That would be a horror show for, I think, most people. And yet at the same time, after having detailed and relived them as she's up on the stand right there and actually had the videos being played for the courtroom, I mean, how humiliating is that? Even if at the time you were doing what you were wanting to do, still to see such intimate, private moments displayed, I mean, just what she went through, and then to be able to still say, I love him and I wish nothing but peace for him. I was struggling with how you could think both things.
Host
It's giving performance.
Aubrey O'Day
You think it's performance in which one is the performance.
Host
It's giving. It's giving an awareness of manipulation a tiny bit. Diddy was finicky. They said he was the most finicky they've ever seen. Of every witness that's taken the stand, she had a stress ball in her hand that she was using during the entire time. There's something there that's stressing both of them out. Now, whether she stressed over the cross and he stressed at her, her taking the first stab at the story, I don't know whether there's other people involved, whether this gets much bigger, whether I don't. For me, I looked at it and I'm like, I don't see an upside for her. Like, she doesn't get to retire into some settlement. Now a lot of people are saying she. They were suggesting prosecution kept trying to steal this away from the defense. Like, let's bring it up. So when the defense does, it doesn't hit that hard. That Eminem type. I'll say everything bad about myself first. So when you come for me, it doesn't look that bad. They did say you went back to his house after he. They went through their whole beat down and you had a black eye. And you took a lot of pictures that day with him. A whole lot. There was a lot of voice memos. There was a lot of saving things. Were you. Were you doing that on purpose? Were you building a case? She kept saying no. She just wanted to show that she lives the lifestyle. She wanted proof to be able to, like, floss to her friends and whatever else. But you have a black eye. I don't know. I don't take selfies. With myself or my lover. That gave me a black eye. When I have a black eye. I don't know why Diddy was even behaving like that, because his ass was already being investigated openly in front of the world, and he was still in the freak offs. All the way up to that hotel that he got busted up in with his kids, with him. He was still doing the freak offs. He was still on the drugs. He still had a girl coming. There was a girl willing to come. Every woman in this entire world and every man that's decent for the most part, has a really big fucking problem with that Cassie video. Disgusted. Visceral. Men were having visceral responses. And yet there was somebody there assessing how the apology should look and willing to still come and do a freak off. It's not giving me the same thing that other people were giving. It's giving me something different. Is it establishing some things for the prosecution, like deeper in the sex trafficking pocket? Yeah, we've gone deeper in that pocket. But with all the confusion of. Of their relationship and the. And the desires and the manipulating on both sides, it almost feels like I'm overwhelmed. And I don't know if I can. I can get back to the legal part. And I'm hearing that a lot, that there's. There's a lot of connection with Diddy and the jurors. A few in particular. The judge has even made a statement about no more contacting, no more facial communic with the jury bud. But how do you rewind that? How do you rewind that? And so to me, I'm like, I don't know. This one is feeling. It's so dv. So, you know, she's getting things. He's. She's aware she had a price and she named it. Now, did she get it? No, it seemed like she was still going back. Now, he also was paying for her home. But I see a lot of women being like, listen, if someone were paying for my home and, and having me completely come outside myself and my only other option was to get a job, I'd get a job. Now, that's hard because that's what I wrote you, Amy. Like, I've had many times in my life where I have seen girls that decide to go down a different route than having to get. Figure out the 9 to 5 or whatever a job looks like to anyone's dreams. Okay? And how I've always had a bit of judgment for those girls because they just have it so easy. And I never do, even when I have to make it look easy. It's so hard. But then I see what they're having to do on the stand, and I'm realizing that's worse than my worst day. So then I. What I wrote. Ended up writing you, I think, this week and was just like, I asked TJ if he feels these things, because I don't know that women have the same options as men. I don't even know that we're socialized or understand ourselves to be of the same value as men, even if we were raised in a healthy situation. I just. I don't. It sounds so easy to me. Go get a job. It's got to be better than this other stuff. But it. But she didn't. She. She stayed in that lane, and it was good for her and fine with her. But then it wasn't fine with her because she's on the stand and it's not fine with her. And one more thing I wanted to point out. They're going to really push. You want your own lawsuit. You set it up to kind of be your own version of what you read throughout Cassie's thing. And then kind of, they. They're going to suggest that she likely was manifesting it through her behavior. How I look at it is she hasn't filed a lawsuit and she wishes him well. But she's also nowhere near the statute of limitation either. My statute of limitation and for my era of anyone that was abused ended the day it ended. I remember I went to dinner with my friends and we all had a drink because I knew that was the last and final day that I could ever have justice. If something really horrible happened to me and I wasn't going to be able to get them by that day. That was a hard night for me. She's not anywhere near her statute. She could file at any point after this trial up until her statute of limitations. And she was just with him when he got indicted. 2024. She's got a while. So just because she doesn't have a lawsuit now doesn't mean she won't have a lawsuit. And also, if I were a smart person. And Diddy's paying for her lawyer. Let me just stop at that. Diddy's paying for her lawyer, y' all. That's like y' all getting taken off that show on some bs, which is what happened to you guys. And them paying for Yalls lawyer. How much justice are you actually going to get? What you're going to do is you're going to get a payoff at some point. To have done, to have not opened your mouth and lift up too much against the system. That's what happens when you have the system paying for your lawyer. I don't know if it's this. I'm taking back ownership of myself and I'm a woman. Hear me roar. Not meeting with the defense anymore. I'm going to come up here and tell my story. Then I'd take my only fans dollars and get my own lawyer to help me do that.
TJ Holmes
You said she's a survivor. She did. What has. She's doing what she has to do to survive. Her testimony is not going to make or break.
Host
Is that all you have to do to survive? Is my question, and I don't know how to ask that. As a woman who's pro female, have you ever felt tj, like at your lowest day, you need to go out there like Anton and start swinging the D around?
TJ Holmes
I mean, it's kind of what I'm currently doing. Okay, we needed that. We needed that. We needed a little, we needed a little laugh because this stuff is heavy. But the debate and the question you're talking about is how should we handle, how should we view, how should we teach in a moment like this where there is a woman who's doing what she had to do to survive, to. I'm not gonna judge her, I guess.
Host
Is that how we're gonna say?
TJ Holmes
But I don't know, I get I don't know. And I'm told, I'm told she's a victim and I'm told she's an abuse victim of a certain type that I, I, I will never begin to understand what that does to somebody. And I'll never understand to your point, because I'm a man and because I'm from a home and educated and middle class and all this, I will never understand what it feels like to be so desperate and think I have no other option in life but to, like you said, do something untoward or illegal even.
Host
Amy, have you seen women, though, that do it? That that isn't their only thing that they have left. They actually, I, when I look at this woman, Jane, I see a ton of potentials for her. She's gorgeous. She could start her own lines, hairlines, brow lines, makeup lines, clothing lines. She could use a little bit of the only fans money to front a business. She has. So options in my eyes, she.
TJ Holmes
How many options does she have for a multimillionaire rap mogul, influencer guy like he, like that's the option.
Aubrey O'Day
That's what I was just gonna say this isn't about putting food on the table for her children or putting food on the table for herself or even as she said, keeping a roof over her head. That was not what this was about because as you point out, she was blessed with a lot of amazing qualities that she could have used to make a decent living, but that was never gonna give her private planes and fancy.
Host
Cars and I don't even think she was getting private planes, girls, star studded.
Aubrey O'Day
Parties and access to a whole world that she could never get on her own. And so she was, I mean you could argue she wasn't in a place where she was fighting for survival, she was fighting for uber success that she didn't think she could get on her own. And so she traded, many people would say her self worth and things she stood for to get that moment, that pie in the sky moment where she got to be one of the it girls, one of the, you know, living a life that I don't think any of us really know.
TJ Holmes
Aubrey, you told us that world is intoxicating.
Host
I mean I've lived it. Can I tell you one thing? All the people that I know that are living it are miserable AF I if I could tell any, anything to any young person that is watching this and listening to us, that is not a place where all the happiness in the world resides. It just isn't. More Money, More Problems was a real song and it hit home for everybody for a reason. More money, more problems. It just gets harder, harder, heavier. The decisions are steeper, the moral compass, choices that get put in front of you are much the line becomes thinner and thinner and you have to walk very carefully not to fall. I hate that people look up to it the way they do. That's not anything we're going to be able to change with this podcast. But obviously I think this trial, if nothing else, is a testimony to how miserable the person who's on trial truly is inside and how miserable everyone that comes within his path ends up.
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Aubrey O'Day
To your point, it's. It's. I Mean, we've seen a little bit of this. Just when you're in any sort of career and you reach the top and you start to see the people who are at the pinnacle. Most of them don't seem happy and they have everything in the world at their fingertips. And that was always a shocking thing. And this is on a much smaller scale than anything that you've experienced or seen in that entertainment world. But I do think it's. You see, Diddy, it's. Once you get to a certain level, you're trying to get to the next one and the next one. Once you reach a certain high, you need a bigger high, a better high. And each time it's not good enough. And to that point, when we heard, when we heard Jane say that she was excited about going somewhere with him, just the two of them, and he was bored. So everything's on such a hyper scale, nothing's ever good enough. And therefore there's just incredible sadness because you can never. You're looking for that high from outside sources, right?
Host
And you can almost even bring that back to Cassie. Like she felt proud of herself when he was happy with her. And it sounds like Jane had that same line of thinking. Like, I couldn't make him happy. He was bored. So then I suggested, let's call this guy. He can come here in two days. Let's do an all star party. Let me give you this, let me give you that. It is, there is a lot of. I mean, listen, it's still coercion. Even I thought to myself when he gave her the pill and she was about to go do the freak off and he looked in her face and said, is this coercion? I had to stop and think, like, was, was that an out or was that more coercion? Like, it's complicated. Because I guess if you're really, if you're really groomed, then you just put your head down and you do your job. But if you have anything where you've gained some self esteem, I'd be like, I'm not gonna be coerced in this moment later, bro.
TJ Holmes
Can you tell me? I think you said it right off the top. The difference. You said a younger generation versus an older generation of women are viewing things differently. What'd you mean by that?
Host
And racially too, I'm noticing the difference. I mean, I think it's important that we just say what it is. So generationally, women that are older that I speak to now, I'm old. And some people don't think I'm Old, then I think I'm a grandparent, so I'll say I'm 41, so my age, a little bit younger, like 35 up. Kind of have this understanding of DV. A lot of us have an understanding of DV and the psychology behind it, which means a lot of us have probably ventured into it a bit. Have you been. Ventured into it at all, Amy?
Aubrey O'Day
No, no, no, no. I mean, I think, you know, everyone. No. Nothing.
Host
Ver.
Aubrey O'Day
Verbally violent, Yes, I have had that. Abusive, yes, but. And it does.
Host
It does knock you down.
Aubrey O'Day
You know what I have ended up doing in moments where I didn't know how I felt? I actually made video diaries. I still have them. I try to look back at them and just in real time remember where I was and how I never want to be there again. But no, it is something that happens gradually sometimes and you don't even realize it's happening.
Host
So then I think our. There's this generational that in that age range of us, and I think the men, too, who are likely more. So dads more calm down, the libido isn't driving them every which way. They've had to create a stable life around these ages. Potentially all of us kind of have this understanding that, like, we don't want to be in toxic relationships. We've done them. We know how they look, we know how they feel, and we're not interested. Guys. They've hooked up with the hoes. There's no. They understand that they want a wife instead. You know what I'm saying? And then this younger generation is not looking at it with the same eyes, then the younger generation is so different. Even when I talk to my goddaughter, the. Because everything is so. There's just no delayed gratification. Absolutely none. It is the here and now. And if you can't give me within 15 seconds in this TikTok video. TikTok is so difficult for me. Y' all hear how much I run on. You think I could ever do a TikTok? 15 seconds. The fuck am I going to do in 15 seconds? I can't even get five words out in 15 seconds. That's not enough time for me. That. That platform is. That platform was made by the devil for a person like me. So. So I don't. The younger generation is like, we need. We need this in sound bites. This girl was getting this, that, and the other. The. And then culturally, a lot of white women that I know in the courtroom or white men have come out and said, like, this is horrific. She, she. It was horrible. She was sobbing. It broke my heart. It established sex trafficking. What she had to go through then. Then there's academics sitting there like geeked out at. I think his literal phrase was man, what a bitch will do for a sectional. Yeah. He. He was just reading the court transcripts and he said damn, what a bitch will do for a sectional. And he said that because she, because she offered him an all star three of her favorite. Three of Diddy's favorite escorts all on her as a big blowout all star party and app was like damn. Like these bitches will just do anything for this. That and the. And they. And then it. The bitch word just flew out of his mouth and. And a lot of guys that you know behind closed doors, a lot of the younger generation. I don't know how old academic AK is but like I. I suppose more in the hip hop culture for sure. Even according to Jane's testimony she walked into a party and there was good old Anton. Anton whatever her favesies from the freak offs. And Anton was doing a. A little number with somebody else for another rapper and his girl. And you know we're not here to out the entire hip hop industry but we could, I could definitely if I had the time. I've sat next to people that had just literally openly at a bar after a drink, told me about whole ass situations with people. LA is very vocal. It's shocking. It's shocking. My. The thing that shocked me the most, I remember going to a gay club right after we made the band that were out in like Times Square. We did our last interview and all of the girls, we all went to a gay club with some of our like, like somebody's best friends. We all went out, we're having a good time and this guy comes over and he's like you guys are so cute. And he comes around and he's like girl you're the. And you'll learn soon enough. I your boss allegedly. Because I don't know if he my boss but he said that to me. I remember within days of me making the band some guy at a gay bar told me I your boss. And I didn't realize. I didn't realize until I. I went to a gay bar that was like like I went with some of my like long established friends in New York when I was living there. I think yeah. When I was like officially living in New York and they are more straight. They. They have more straight qualities as gay men. You wouldn't. They. They would know you wouldn't know if they were gay or not in a room. There's nothing like, there's nothing like outwardly exposing their sexuality. We went into this club, everybody was hood as hell, gangster hip hop music playing like street fashion to the tens. Like everybody looked fine. And I was like, there are so many guys in here. I could literally have my pick. This is bomb. And the guy with me was like, oh baby, we're in it. We're in a gay club. And I was like, I've never I gay club, to me it's like rainbows and fucking glitter and, and pride and. No, it was just, it looked like a hood bar. Now listen, if it's all done willingly and everybody is is agreeing to everything, then fine. But, but like if it's not and there's coercion, force or any of these other things involved, it, it doesn't just look any, it looks all types of ways and all types of people are doing it.
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TJ Holmes
I'm not familiar with this term online robes. I don't know if you are but a cuckold. Okay. But yeah, it's now they've been using it for short. This has come up and I'm bringing this up to you now because this happened just as testimony was going on as we're doing this recording. And oh, Jane, yes, Jane is is testifying about some of the things that Diddy is into and she said he, she described him as a cuckoo, which is a guy who has pleasure seeing his woman get pleasure from the other man. She went on to say this though Aubrey Cucks could also have a bi curiosity that they are too ashamed to experience themselves. So they use the woman to venture out in this curiosity without actually doing the act themselves.
Host
And there is where all of the magic is really in. Now we can't assume what's in anyone's mind nor would we be wise to. But in that last little bit that you just said is where I've always felt the magic is in regards to hurt people. Hurt people. When you become famous for a certain thing, you got to be that thing. And if that thing is a hip hop artist in the 90s, you can't be gay, period. There's no, we're not having a think piece. There's no think piece on that. I mean, when I came home from Bali and tick tock arrived and there were two white men talking about wearing, wearing dreads and talking about what are the island boys? I was like, what in the cultural appropriation is going on? And then they went on only fans and hooked up with each other and their brothers. And I was like, this would never have happened back in my day of music, 90s for sure. That, that, that would never have occurred. But when you grow up in a time and a place, in an era where you're entire like we're talking about what will these women do? What will men do? What would did he do? You know, to stay on top. Somebody's doing something that could cross you, that could fuck up your business. People were getting murdered back then. And then we get all the way to these, these, you know, maybe if you feel a certain way, like you said, sometimes with cuckolding and that's in that setting, it can be someone who desires. It seems like in all of the sexual situations that we continuously hear, there is a lot of discussion about the men looking a certain way, the dicks looking a certain way. And the dicks being a certain color is very specific about how he wants the dicks to be. A lot of conversations about the dicks, a lot of non excitement until a dick comes out. So to me, I think to myself, if you had to suppress who you really were because fame was calling, shit, I had to. I got fired for being raunchy and promiscuous. I have no ability to have a career in any other lane. Everybody's playing me, humiliating me when I try to go in and music and real deals, things I should be doing. I'm an intellect. I went to college. I have a degree like. And then Hugh Hefner comes and says, cover Playboy. You don't even have to show anything but your tits. Let's go. And here's over half a million dollars. I had never even been paid. It was a no brainer for me. But then because I chose to jump into the lane that was handed to me, I've had to do a delicate dance in that lane my entire career. That's difficult because I mean, like I said, I haven't had sex in years. I'm, I'm not, I don't. I would never have sex with somebody for money. I would never take a. Have sex for a job. I lost My job. I was willing to lose my job. You feel me? So, so, so I'm actually like nowhere near that lane in that respect. But I've had to dance within that lane. And then when you have to dance in that lane and it doesn't feel authentic to you. Drugs are a really great escape. They really are the ones that the doctors give you or the ones that the street people give you. Usually it starts with doctors, and then you're, you're. You run out. And then you get a little street dealer that's got some new jams, like a black bottle of some liquid spray. It becomes inventive depending on who you're around and the access that you have, the money that you have. But either way, I could kind of see this pattern of maybe how did he lost the plot and how he could have lost the plot and how he could have had to suppress maybe something that he was. And maybe the suppression got so intense that there was a lot of amount of drugs around that kept it numb. There were things that I experienced that I can't talk about here that speak to this. And I think that there's potentially like. That's what I was trying to say to you guys when I said, I think the only option when he comes back around on this is to go into what has hurt him. Because if he came up as a hip hop guy and he's the guy running the bad boy, I mean, you know what you think of when you hear Bad boy records. I felt like honored to be a white girl that could go home to my hometown and be like, I'm signed a bad boy, baby. Like, that was a stat that's still a status play. Everywhere I go, it's bad boy. Well, imagine how much of a bad boy Diddy had to be. And I'm not saying let's have sympathy for the man, but if he had to suppress something that was very deep, and then he. He got a dependent on drugs, which helps numb your real feelings and maybe allows you to stay in your character. It kind of means maybe he's had to be this character his whole life. I don't know if he's ever stepped out of it.
TJ Holmes
Oh, you think he's gay?
Host
I don't even like thinking that way because there's so many variations of everything anymore that I don't even know that anything's as simple as gay or straight. Those are the, Those are the terms we used back in my day. But nowadays there's 800 options. He's one of those to Me, what I do know is that he did love dicks. He did love the way they looked. He loved their shape. He loved seeing them in action. That's been alleged in everybody's testimony says.
TJ Holmes
That about a straight man.
Host
And that's what I know to be true. As in my generation, younger kids might think differently. I know younger kids that are just more free with it and don't put labels on things. Our generation labeled things more, and there were, like, categories, and they were simple. There wasn't like 700 of them. It's why people have gotten frustrated with. I mean, this is a whole different topic, but it's why people get frustrated with liberals nowadays. They just opened the door for too many things. And the people. Older people are a little bit tighter in the crotch. We don't want to have to learn all the letters and the names and the fucking titles and all the. When I had. I did a sex pod with a sex therapist, I really had to look things up. I am. I am not as. Like, I thought I was really killing it when I was sexually active. I was really not killing it that much. Like, there are so many terms. I mean, I didn't know velvet was something until I learned that velvet has more meanings than just fabric. I did not know. You know, there's a lot going on.
TJ Holmes
Not the sex podcast.
Host
You guys are over there doing missionary. Think you got something going on. Good God, let me tell you.
TJ Holmes
Boring. They don't ever get a good show out this window behind us. Ever.
Host
I was gonna say, you guys have the opportunity to do a whole lot.
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Please.
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You guys would make a killing on only.
TJ Holmes
Stop, stop, stop. But no, this is all. I don't know. You were. You were on fire. You were worked up, and I think a lot of people like you and Robot are out there who are struggling.
Host
It's just hard. Amy, did you come to an answer when I wrote that? What was your thought when I sent that to you?
Aubrey O'Day
You know, I. I'm with you in the sense that I think both can be true. I think that she can be a victim, and at the same time, she.
Host
Is a victim for sure.
Aubrey O'Day
Yes. And at the same time, be complicit and at the same time, want it. I don't know how important it would be for a juror to know what your motives are. Yes, it sounded like money was a motive, but I actually think from what I saw or read. And she loved him. It was for love. And as a woman, I can totally understand that to a point. But I was conflicted as well.
Host
I saw the love thing when she said, when she ended that I'm gonna kill myself, she said, no one's ever gonna love me. No one's ever loved me. That's not something you say in a transaction. The price payment points that she listed out, those were transactional. But the last line isn't transactional. And that told me she's both. She knows she's transactional. I didn't get transactional from Cassie maybe as she got like years down the line. But this one is too new and this one is very much in an era, you know, Covid changed a lot of things and, and when TikTok and podcasts are deciding the music industry now, followers are deciding your paychecks, comments and views are deciding your status in the celebrity world. It's ass backwards. Talent is nowhere in, in a sentence. Nowhere in any sentences. I haven't heard anything about town. We can't even watch music award shows anymore. They're a joke. AMAs flopped bets this past weekend. Horrible. Like it's not, I don't know what's even going on in music anymore. And everybody feels it. But this younger generation and these new ideas are kind of taking over. And that's why I think to myself this is going to be so split. I don't know how a jury, I don't know how you could get someone like us to understand all the broad open thinking that's happening in a younger generation. I don't know how you get a white person to fully understand a black man's experience or a black person to understand a white man's experience. I don't know. There's got to be so many like levels of emotions that they're going to have to be able to pull on and reason and all of these things that I, I just don't, I don't know that we're going to get a jury that can all fully do that. And it already sounds like there's a lot of facial communications going on that are toxic for this type of environment. I think, I think at the very least I think they think they're going to be hung on on. Unless they have KK and a bodyguard, they're going to be hung on rico. Sex trafficking might be there and transporting people. I've said early on is there those each have a 10 year on them. So that's 20 then sex trafficking I believe is a fifth is a 20 year sentence per. So there's two sex tracking sets. 40, 40, 20. He's how old is he, do you.
Aubrey O'Day
Guys know he's like mid-50s.
Host
Mid-50s. So you add, you add 60 to that. They, I think I heard if the sentence gets too big, they just call it life. I, someone told me that you couldn't talk down. You couldn't lower federal charges in your sentence. I don't know that that's true. I think you can get good behavior and things like that that will lower your sentence. But, you know, the idea that the confusion, the confusing parts of this could confuse enough or even one person enough to not understand the criminal aspects of all of this is pretty scary for a whole lot of people.
Aubrey O'Day
We've been saying it just takes one juror. So, Aubrey, thank you for going through so much of what I think a lot of folks are feeling, especially women watching and reading and hearing about this testimony. It is conflicting, but it was really cool to get your perspective, especially with everything, you know, in the industry and certainly in that world. And we're gonna continue to talk to Aubrey, continue to cover this trial and talk about the impact not only just on the people who are in that courtroom, but I, I, as you were pointing out, Aubry, hopefully the whole music industry and perhaps other industries, other entertainment.
Host
Industries and, and women too, to women's worth understanding themselves sexually, their value, men getting to see how damaging it could be if you're stringing a woman on for sexual reasons. There are so many topics that are right up in front of us. Like, you could learn a whole lot about the people around you if you just asked to have one little discussion over dinner about Diddy. You could learn who your friends are quickly and you can learn who the cuckolds are real quickly if you bring up the terms velvet. Where are the other ones I learned? I mean, there's a whole dictionary.
Aubrey O'Day
I think we could save that for the after dinner drink, but yes, that sounds good. Thank you, Aubrey. Thank you all for listening to us. Please check out this feed. We will have more content for you shortly, but have a wonderful day everybody.
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Podcast Summary: Amy Robach & T.J. Holmes Present: Aubrey O’Day, Covering the Diddy Trial
Episode: The Jane Doe Dilemma
Release Date: June 11, 2025
Duration: Approximately 66 minutes
In this compelling episode of Amy Robach & T.J. Holmes Present: Aubrey O’Day, Covering the Diddy Trial, hosts Amy Robach and TJ Holmes engage in an in-depth discussion with Aubrey O’Day, a seasoned television personality and former member of Danity Kane, regarding the high-profile trial involving Sean "Diddy" Combs. The focus of this episode, titled "The Jane Doe Dilemma," delves into the complexities surrounding Jane Doe's testimony and her role in the proceedings against Diddy.
A significant portion of the discussion centers around Jane Doe's courtroom appearances and the intricate details of her testimony. Aubrey O’Day and the hosts examine the nuances of Jane's statements, questioning her credibility and the duality of her position as both a potential victim and someone who may have manipulated her circumstances for personal gain.
Aubrey O'Day ([08:13]): "That's difficult when you know that and you're hearing it in her own words... it's transactional."
Host ([09:01]): "She's with him when Cassie's lawsuit drops... She recognizes and sees all of this. Then all of a sudden, he's blowing her up."
Aubrey highlights the conflicting elements in Jane's narrative, emphasizing how her admissions and behaviors present a perplexing image:
Aubrey O'Day ([22:22]): "Even at the end, she says she still loves him and hopes that he's happy. It's hard to reconcile saying awful things while holding onto love."
The trio debates whether Jane Doe should be viewed solely as a victim of Diddy's alleged coercion and manipulation or if her actions indicate complicity in her circumstances. This duality raises questions about the nature of victimhood and accountability within abusive relationships.
Host ([10:28]): "There has to be a point where we hold ourselves accountable and acknowledge our behavior."
Aubrey O'Day ([58:15]): "I think that she can be a victim, and at the same time, be complicit and at the same time, want it."
This section explores the psychological underpinnings that might drive Jane to both suffer and manipulate, suggesting that victims can embody both roles simultaneously.
Aubrey O’Day introduces the idea that generational and racial factors significantly influence how Jane Doe's testimony is perceived and understood. Older women may have a different grasp of domestic violence dynamics compared to younger generations, and racial contexts further complicate societal interpretations.
Host ([03:46]): "There's a generational thing that's happening. The older women understand the psychology of what's going on much better than the young generations."
Host ([40:46]): "Racially too, I'm noticing the difference... a lot of white women in the courtroom have different takes compared to others."
The discussion underscores the importance of diverse perspectives in assessing testimonies and the broader societal implications of such high-stakes trials.
The conversation shifts to the impact of fame and the specific pressures within the hip-hop industry that may contribute to the behaviors and dynamics observed in the trial. The hosts and Aubrey discuss how the pursuit of success and maintaining a "bad boy" persona can lead to destructive patterns.
Aubrey O'Day ([38:48]): "Once you reach a certain level, you're trying to get to the next one... nothing's ever good enough."
Host ([34:30]): "I think that's why people look up to it the way they do... More Money, More Problems was a real song."
This segment highlights the often-overlooked emotional toll and moral compromises that come with navigating fame, especially in industries known for their intense competitiveness and image-centric demands.
Aubrey provides a breakdown of the possible legal repercussions Diddy could face if convicted, emphasizing the severity of charges related to sex trafficking and racketeering.
Host ([61:05]): "Sex trafficking I believe is a fifth is a 20-year sentence per. So that's 40, 20... he's in his mid-50s."
The hosts discuss the complexities of federal sentencing, highlighting how multiple charges can compound, leading to substantial prison terms that reflect the gravity of the offenses alleged.
The emotional weight of the trial is a recurring theme, with the hosts and Aubrey exploring the psychological strain on all parties involved, including Jane Doe, jurors, and the broader community observing the proceedings.
Host ([58:07]): "She says she still loves him... That's not transactional. It told me she's both."
Host ([34:30]): "It's just hard. All the people that I know that are living it are miserable AF..."
These reflections reveal the deep personal conflicts and mental health challenges that arise in high-stakes legal battles, especially those intertwined with public perception and personal relationships.
As the episode wraps up, the hosts and Aubrey O’Day ponder the broader implications of the trial on the music industry, societal attitudes towards abuse and manipulation, and the evolving dynamics of gender and power in relationships.
Host ([62:26]): "There's so many topics that are right up in front of us... identifying cuckolds, velvet terms... there's a whole dictionary."
Aubrey O'Day ([63:00]): "I think we could save that for the after-dinner drink, but yes, that sounds good."
The episode closes with a commitment to continue covering the trial, emphasizing the ongoing relevance of its themes in understanding and addressing complex interpersonal and societal issues.
Aubrey O'Day ([08:13]): "You're hearing taped recordings, as you pointed out, text messages... she seems to clearly not only be willing to do all of these things, but some court reporters described her voice as giddy in those recordings."
Host ([10:16]): "There has to be a point where we hold ourselves accountable and acknowledge our behavior."
Aubrey O'Day ([58:15]): "I think that she can be a victim, and at the same time, be complicit and at the same time, want it."
Host ([34:30]): "More Money, More Problems was a real song and it hit home for everybody for a reason."
Aubrey O'Day ([38:48]): "Once you reach a certain level, you're trying to get to the next one... nothing's ever good enough."
This episode provides a multifaceted exploration of the Diddy trial, particularly focusing on Jane Doe's role and the intricate interplay of victimhood and agency. Through thoughtful dialogue and expert insights from Aubrey O’Day, hosts Amy Robach and TJ Holmes illuminate the broader societal and psychological dimensions of high-profile legal cases, offering listeners a profound understanding of the complexities involved.
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