Podcast Summary: Andy Elliott's Elite Mindset Motivation and Sales Training
Episode: Overcoming Shame to Unlock Your True Potential
Release Date: March 20, 2025
Host: Andy Elliott
Guest: John Elliott
Introduction
In the episode titled "Overcoming Shame to Unlock Your True Potential," Andy Elliott sits down with his brother John Elliott to delve into John's profound journey from a troubled past to becoming a successful entrepreneur and a beacon of transformation for others. This episode is a testament to resilience, faith, and the power of overcoming deep-seated shame.
John's Early Life and Struggles
[00:04 - 03:04]
John Elliott, the youngest of ten siblings, shares his challenging childhood marked by a lack of meaningful attention from his parents. Despite growing up in a Catholic household, John never fostered a personal relationship with God, which set the stage for future struggles.
John Elliott [03:14]:
"Growing up, I was the youngest of 10. So I got four brothers, five sisters. Grew up Catholic, so I knew about the Lord, but I never had a relationship with him."
The Incident That Sparked Long-Term Shame
[03:04 - 09:19]
At the age of nine, John experienced a pivotal moment that would haunt him for years. Attempting to bond with his father through pheasant hunting, he accidentally discharged a shotgun, destroying part of the house and intensifying his feelings of shame and embarrassment.
John Elliott [07:00]:
"I looked at the gun. I was like, huh, I wonder if the safety's on... I pulled the trigger instead. Boom. And I blow a hole through the ceiling in the house."
Descent into Addiction
[09:20 - 15:30]
John's unresolved shame led him down a destructive path. By his early teens, he was battling multiple addictions, including pornography, cigarettes, weed, cocaine, and methamphetamines. Despite numerous attempts by his parents to seek help through therapy and treatment programs, the underlying issues remained unaddressed.
John Elliott [12:45]:
"I was nine years old. By the time I was 12 years old, I was drinking and smoking all the time. By the time I was 14, I was a full-blown alcoholic."
A Turning Point in Jail and Embracing Faith
[14:48 - 21:00]
After a life of turmoil, John faced a life-threatening situation in Galveston County Jail. His moment of crisis led him to seek solace in faith. Through the support of fellow inmates and spiritual guidance, John began to rebuild his relationship with God, finding hope and purpose.
John Elliott [15:30]:
"I was so desperate to learn what it was going to be like to become a functioning member of society because I had never been that ever. I'd always been just an addict my entire life."
Overcoming Shame and Personal Transformation
[21:00 - 35:23]
John's transformation deepened as he engaged with faith-based ministries while incarcerated. He not only overcame his addictions but also found the strength to forgive past abusers, breaking free from the cycle of shame that had controlled his life for decades. Meeting his future wife through ministry activities further solidified his commitment to a better life.
John Elliott [34:08]:
"She conceived a son. I mean, she hadn't had a period of nine years. And now she's pregnant. It was through the pregnancy... the Lord is bringing this baby into the world."
Building a Successful Business and Leadership
[35:23 - 56:42]
Post-release, John leveraged his experiences to build Priority Roofing, a thriving roofing company. His leadership style is deeply rooted in empathy, understanding, and genuine care for his team members. John emphasizes creating a supportive and driven culture, where each member feels valued and motivated to reach their full potential.
John Elliott [51:00]:
"It's being driven. It's like what drives you and what's driving me, you know. The very thing that's driving me, that's what I'm looking for and people, you know."
Advice and Insights on Overcoming Shame
[56:38 - 59:06]
John offers heartfelt advice to those struggling with shame and addiction. He encourages individuals to reach out, seek support, and embrace their vulnerabilities as a path to healing. Sharing personal stories can be a powerful tool in overcoming internal battles and connecting with others who have faced similar challenges.
John Elliott [45:12]:
"You can change your life right now. That's called a testimony. Secondly, if you're like, man, you know, I need to surround myself with people who care."
Conclusion
John Elliott's story is a compelling narrative of redemption and empowerment. From a childhood marred by neglect and trauma to overcoming severe addiction and building a successful business, John's journey underscores the importance of faith, perseverance, and community. His experiences serve as an inspiration for listeners seeking to overcome their own struggles and unlock their true potential.
Notable Quotes:
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Andy Elliott [00:13]:
"The devil always wants you to believe that it's over, that you can't come back... perseverance is something you should never quit." -
John Elliott [09:19]:
"I was living with a gay guy down in Galveston... I determined I'm just going to drink myself to death. Literally, I made that decision." -
John Elliott [25:03]:
"It's so awesome. But it's through that, just because of the area that it was mainly, mainly taken over. It gave her so much pain. We weren't able to come together, you know." -
John Elliott [34:26]:
"The enemy had me so close to just being... just wanting to die. And so here I am. I'm in jail. Thank God. Jail saved my life." -
John Elliott [41:26]:
"The enemy tries to bury you in shame and convince you that you're the only one."
Key Takeaways:
- The Power of Vulnerability: Sharing personal struggles can lead to healing and connection with others.
- Faith as a Transformative Force: A strong relationship with God provided John with the strength to overcome his past.
- Building a Supportive Community: Creating a work environment that fosters mutual support and care can drive success and personal growth.
- Overcoming Shame: Addressing and confronting shame is crucial in breaking free from destructive behaviors and moving towards a fulfilling life.
- Leadership with Empathy: Effective leadership involves understanding and supporting team members through their personal challenges.
John's journey exemplifies how overcoming profound personal adversities can lead to significant personal and professional achievements. His story serves as a powerful motivation for listeners to confront their own challenges and strive for a better future.
